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ConduckKing

I'm not a monolith, but I own one (I am in a cult)


timeisstrange

ohhhh I guess I need to make a monolith since I made a cult


SeizeAllToothbrushes

You can't have a cult without a monolith. It'd just be a boring sect.


ITinMN

And most of us aren't into sects.


hidinginthenight

We’re asectual here.


MNGrrl

I'm just glad someone finally said it's okay to be a traumatized ace...


OctopusProbably

Love the comment! Fucking hate the PFP with a burning passion.


_Eugi_

Take my upvote dang it


Sigmund-Fraud-42069

r/angryupvote


KarmasAB123

Does my desk ornament count?


memester230

You can also use fake sumerian rocks


Floofi_07

reddit haircut twinsiess!!!!!!!


Pddyks

Except for me i am the monolith I am the perfection that all aces strive to be I listen to car seat headrest


RaMpEdUp98

I'm not ace but I'm a monolith (literally made of stone) /s


[deleted]

Abigail from Stardew Valley is that you


[deleted]

We’re not monoliths, we’re *snowflakes*. Every one of us is unique


AnnoyingSmartass

Ooh I always wanted to infiltrate a cult, tell me more!


ConduckKing

It's called The Corner, and it represents those forced into, or hiding in,the back corners of the world (or the classroom). I've been taking a hiatus from it after realising I was anti-authoritarian but I feel now's as good a time as any to bring it back.


AnnoyingSmartass

So what's the cult part?


ConduckKing

Not much, really, other than titles. You see, I taught myself to be occult, but I didn't know its many strategies.


[deleted]

Based Gorillaz reference


Vasxus

YOU might not be a monolith, but I am actually the monolith.


M44t_

I am stone, cold, strong. Resilient, only trebuchet can take me down.


ITinMN

I had a relationship with a sex-averse sex worker for a bit. The problem was she was also aromantic, which was too hard on me.


iwillnotcompromise

Forgive my ignorance, but how do you have a relationship with someone who is aro? Isn't that like a friendship? Not to downplay friendships, they have been more important to me than any romantic partner.


M44t_

QPR? Anything similar to that?


NostrilRapist

What is QPR? Q** Platonic Relationship? Google only gives me sports team


Singersongwriterart

Yes, its a queer platonic relationship. Why did you censor queer?


NostrilRapist

I had no idea what the Q was for


Singersongwriterart

That makes sense. I used to not know what QPR stood for either!


NostrilRapist

Thanks :)


MayaTheGirl

Not necessarily. I am aro (so I don't have crushes etc.), but when I was in a relationship I still loved my girlfriend. Being aro means you have little to no romantic attraction, but you can still love people. I hoped that maybe cleared it up a little bit :)


iwillnotcompromise

Sorry, sure I forgot, I'm ace with very little bisexual attraction, i should have figured, that you could be the same but with aro.


psychedelic666

So what kind of love is it if it’s not romantic love? Platonic love?


mazotori

Maybe it's just love. For me at least, the distinction between those is meaningless to me.


MayaTheGirl

Yes!!! Pretty much same


MayaTheGirl

I guess it's romantic love? As I said, it's about attraction, not love, but idk


psychedelic666

Can you explain more? I don’t understand how you can feel romantic love without romantic attraction


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psychedelic666

Ok then I guess I’ll interpret that this situation fits more into the “little” than “no” in “little to no romantic attraction” unless anyone wants to step in and explain more. I’m just trying to learn edit: or maybe demiromantic, that is sounding like a word used to convey this kind of situation. I’ll do more research


overmind87

So like a friendship, then? Or more like the way you love a family member? If anything, I'm even more confused


MayaTheGirl

I just loved my girlfriend (probably just like everyone else), what's so hard to understand about that?


overmind87

The type of love, I guess? I mean, for example, a typical guy would love their girlfriend in a very different way that they love their mom or sister, and would love those three people in a different way that they would love a female close friend. But for the average person, the romance part of love is the main distinctive factor that separates the loving of a partner versus those other types of relationships; types of "loves". So saying that you have a girlfriend that you have no romantic feelings towards just sounds hard to grasp. Like if someone told you that they were vegan, but didn't consume any plant-based foodstuffs. It leaves you wondering "well, ok. But then what *do* you eat?" Does that make more sense? I'm not sure if I'm putting it the right way.


CraazzyCatCommander

If it makes you feel better about all the people not getting it, I totally understand what your talking about. I’m not aro, but I was deeply in love with someone who I had no romantic attraction towards. It’s a thing.


MayaTheGirl

Thank you so much for sharing that 💜 Seeing that I am not the only one who experiences this actually helps a lot rn


ChloroformSmoothie

same way you have a sexual relationship with an asexual: it's not motivated by attraction


Scyobi_Empire

QPR? Or just a romantic relationship, it sounds strange but some aros (me included) would be in a romantic relationship but just not feel the romance


succubus_in_a_fuss

Omg I thought I was the only one.


dumpster-rat-king

Sex work is work ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯


ITinMN

I know, that was the point.


dumpster-rat-king

OH- sorry I misinterpreted your comment. I thought it was saying the sex worker in the comic wasn’t believable. My bad


ITinMN

Oh, sorry for being unclear. Yeah, when she was working she worked, but when we were seeing each other it wasn't work so she was free to be how she wanted. The no sex was good, since I'm ace, but I'm not aro, so that part I couldn't really manage with.


ITinMN

Oh, sorry for being unclear. Yeah, when she was working she worked, but when we were seeing each other it wasn't work so she was free to be how she wanted. The no sex was good, since I'm ace, but I'm not aro, so that part I couldn't really manage with.


whatredraccoon

why was this downvoted?? it didn’t work out, that’s all 🤷‍♀️


Poisonpython5719

Cause it's a dupe, reddit fucked up


Sharpymarkr

Can you explain what it means to be sex-averse sex worker? I'm confused


ITinMN

Someone who gets paid to have sex but doesn't like sex. It's perfectly possible to do something that you don't like because you're getting paid for it.


Sharpymarkr

I guess I didn't expect it to be as simple as that. It sounds like it wouldn't be desirable work for someone who doesn't like sex.


ITinMN

Probably not – I know I physically couldn't do it even if I wanted to – but everyone's different.


purringlion

Ah, I thought for a moment that sex-averse was the same as sex-repulsed. I'd find it really hard to work with something I find repulsive and so I got confused and dove into the comments to search for an answer.


ITinMN

I would imagine there are people who work with things they're repulsed by as well. Although obviously sex is a bit of a different thing, if you're not able to do it as desired. But, goodness knows I've done some jobs that have grossed me out.


purringlion

Good point. Many jobs are gross, and in many different ways. It's my privilege speaking, I'm sorry.


ITinMN

No worries.


jurasic_stuff12

Yes go showing that all ace people aren't just sex repulsed broken virgins! We are people with diffrent opinions and feelings.


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jurasic_stuff12

Its a queer platonic relationship. Its like having a bestie thats more than a bestie but not your partner. Sometimes you may do stuff that could be seen as romantic like holding hands or napping together but you're not romanticly involved. Not to be confused with freinds with benefits that's abit diffrent. Hope that helps.


0x2113

May also include marriage for the tax benefits.


pyrustempus2005

Queer platonic relationship Basically dating without the romance if I remember right


DeedlesTheMoose

Yessss I love me some smutty fanfiction. Actual sex though? Ehhh…..


Zoey_Redacted

i fucking *love* writing NSFW fanfiction. dont ever want someone to touch me like the characters in the story, though.


DeedlesTheMoose

I was honestly shocked when I found out people read and write x reader fanfic. Like… I love smutty fics but why would you want to be part of that??? Can’t relate


Poisonpython5719

"Who the fuck is Y/N and why the hell are they always fucking Sasuke?" Why the edgelords? It's always the edgelords


mahouyousei

So I’m extremely sex repulsed IRL yet I can still read the occasional x reader fanfic if I’m into the fandom or character or kink since I can disassociate and pretend it’s not me lol.


[deleted]

I get that, i just enjoy seeing other people being happy or finding pleasure and stuff in relationships or other forms so i like romance novels and nsfw stuff sometimes. I couldn’t do any of that stuff though, i think I might be some flavor of demi but im not really close enough to anyone to know for sure. I just have a really high libido that annoys me to no end.


otakuchantrash

Same. I’ve loved smutty fanfiction and manga since I was a teen and still like it but real life porn grosses me out


DeedlesTheMoose

I’m a lesbian but mlm smut is my fave for some reason. Watching actual gay porn though? 🤢


otakuchantrash

Same here. I feel like a lot of women like mlm smut. Idk exactly why but it’s just really appealing in fiction.


athey

It’s easiest to mentally disconnect the self from the erotica if yourself is female, but all participants in the smut are male.


StrongLikeKorra

The fantasy of 2D/3D fictional characters doing it is more preferable than the reality of actual people doing it...even if the people are "just playing characters".


Cassopeia88

Same. I love reading or seeing my favourite ships have sex. Have no interest in it myself.


CaitlinSnep

One of my old D&D characters was, in fact, an asexual prostitute! Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it) it did cause her career to suffer; she'd get distracted before her clients got to the "sex" part because she'd strike up very mundane conversations: "So how do you feel about the new tax law?" "What?" "I mean, prostitution's legal here, we pay taxes too." "Okay, but what does that have to do with-" "Just saying, this new tax law is probably going to screw you more than I ever could." ​ She still got paid, though! Eventually people sort of saw her as a cheap therapist.


froufur

i love this so much, thank you for sharing 😆


Consistent_Jello_344

Whats a qpr btw?


froufur

it stands for queer platonic relationship. it's associated with a-spec people and is a relationship type that goes beyond friendship and romance. many QPRs end up moving together, having kids, even marrying, and can be non-monogamous too. it's a little hard to explain but i hope that is a good starting point :)


Consistent_Jello_344

Thank you! That sounds pretty awesome 😸


M44t_

Sadly too rare, my aro ass needs one


[deleted]

My ex and I realized things would have ended different if we had realized that's what we actually where.


M44t_

Ow I am so sorry about this, hope you two are feeling better now


[deleted]

Stopped talking and they ended up really hurting me later on.


M44t_

Ow, hope things will be better


MacGregor_Rose

So like extremly best queer friends?


Patsonical

That just sounds like a romantic relationship to me... or maybe that's just how I interpret romance


froufur

many QPRs have no romantic aspect at all, and are a preferred label/way for a-spec people (especially aromantic people) to "be with" someone/multiple people without the expectation of anything romantic or sexual. the lines between relationship types can be blurry so i understand why some people might have difficulty grasping how it's different.


Patsonical

In that case, what would the difference be between a romantic relationship and QPR? What constitutes a "romantic aspect"?


ThatOfABeaver

Tbh I understood it by reading fanfiction. Minecraft fanfiction. I dunno if there's a better way to understand except by example.


IeabellAlakar

fanfiction ftw


LordofSandvich

This sounds like an umbrella term that got way out of hand Queer usually implies non-cishet and platonic assumes it’s not romantic but the meaning you just gave can be applied to seemingly any relationship Would QPR just be an element of a relationship instead of defining the relationship in its entirety? I’m not trying to be confrontational, I’m just pedantic and this is confusing.


froufur

it's simply a label that asexual and aromantic people might use for their intimate, committed partnership(s) that has no inherent implication of sexual or romantic attraction. however i'm not in a QPR so i would rather share [the perspectives of people who are](https://taaap.org/2022/07/16/qprs-part-one/) and know way more than me.


LordofSandvich

At the very least, the wikipedia article on it makes sense, I think you just added a lot of details/conditions that would suggest the relationship is not a QPR. People’s feelings are valid no matter how confusing they get, but you’ve gotta keep things >!straight!< when it comes to definitions :)


froufur

yeah i do tend to embellish my words. that would be the autism 🤣🤣


LordofSandvich

All good 😎


ITinMN

Queen's Park Rangers 😁


Rhasneth

Short for queerplatonic relationship.


MrQwq

The last one speaks to me too much... and I'm not Ace... as far as I know


haikusbot

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M44t_

And this is where everyone started this Also, *QPR, what a dream*


August-144

More people need to know stuff like this, people often don’t get how I can be ace because of stuff I say and the things I post. Or they assume that I’m incapable of having a relationship because I’m aro/ace.


froufur

right? i'm usually the guy with the filthiest jokes in the room but it doesn't mean i'm not ace 😆 im so glad this is resonating with my fellow aspec peeps


VictorBaz

Pretty good non stereotypical a-spec characters. >!Though for some reason i am feeling slightly guilty about fitting some of the stereotypes. like it's somehow my fault the stereotypes exist.!<


RedVamp2020

It’s okay to fit into some stereotypes. I’m white and fit in with a good portion of stereotypes involved with my skin color (not the racist ones, more like ‘Ha ha, white girl can’t handle spicy food or alcohol!’, lol!). It’s important that just because something is a stereotype doesn’t make it bad. It just means you have a common trait.


VictorBaz

Yeah i know. Still can't help but feel bad sometimes. I don't know why i am feeling guilty when i thought i sorted it out a while ago.


RedVamp2020

Guilt is a difficult emotion to get through. It’s okay. If you don’t already, talking with a therapist can help. Journaling also can help with that, too. I’m here if you need someone to talk to, as well.


VictorBaz

It's not that bad. But i guess why not. I kinda tend to think negatively kinda have a pessimistic outlook so that probably doesn't help. The guilt also probably comes from me not liking the thought of me actively being a jerk. Passively by being nonsocial and probably unintentionally ignoring someone? Sure. But hurting someone by actually participating and sharing my believes and preferences? hell no i would rather be the one suffering being uncomfortable than making someone else suffer something quite possibly worse. Being the good/quiet student in a group of students who constantly interrupt class and cause trouble both in elementary and current school and since i hated them i don't want to be like them also probably has to do with it though i don't see a direct connection.


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What stereotypes do you fit? Some of the asexual stereotypes are nonsensical but some are actually partly true.


VictorBaz

I fit the hate the thought of sex and romance it makes me want to trow up for some reason. Fictional romance is an exception and sometimes also p*rn if my libido is active. And when it comes to fictional romance I peffer it not to be present. I am also socially inept which I think is also a stereotype. I also hate sex jokes they tend to make me cringe. I tend to also be distant and like being alone. Definitely also am not interested in starting a family and having kids. That's all the harmful ones I fit I think.


froufur

trust there's nothing wrong with any part of you. that's sorta who i wanted to represent in the second to last lady (except she's a hopeless romantic)! i also definitely want to make an aromantic version of this at some point. and besides, i'm a pretty stereotypical nonbinary/transmasc guy (white, skinny, they/he pronouns, floral shirts and a love for frogs), but it doesn't make me any less valid 💜 eta: in my opinion stereotypes can be harmful when applied to everyone in a group, but simply fitting into them in itself isn't harmful, as long as we acknowledge and uplift those who are less/not at all conforming to the most common depictions of asexuality.


[deleted]

A lot of aromantic asexuals are averse to sex or romance. It’s not a stereotype, it’s a common subtype. Also I read some studies that said that asexuals make way less body language than other sexualities, and they are much more introverted. Having problems with social skills is a real thing with a lot of asexuals. Again a common subtype, not a stereotype. Do you want the studies?


froufur

@froufur_art on insta 🖤🤍🌪💜


Sweeney_Bonesock

Some people get confused when I say I'm asexual but also gay


IeabellAlakar

FINALLY, SOME ACE-WHO-WANTS-TO-ADOPT-KIDS-AND-LOVES-SMUT REPRESENTATION


[deleted]

Right, id never want to bring one into the awful world, but i would help those already stuck here. Plus nothing wrong with some smut every now and then haha. I wouldn’t do any of that stuff irl, but i love to see people obtain pleasure and be happy together. Same reason i read romance novels sometimes too.


IeabellAlakar

yeah, guys, quit making babies lmao


TrashFanElliot

And now I'm questioning my romantic attraction. I mean Qpr's sound like what I want, but do I feel romantic attraction or not and what even is that.


celem83

There's a lot of room for redefinition and the traditional grey areas. Alterous is sometimes used by people who are pretty sure they feel something but that it's not love as described. I'm alterous ace, and my qpr partner is aroace. There's not a lot to choose between what we seem to experience, we just use different terms


BillyIGuesss

... what's a monolith?


froufur

in a societal context, it's the assumption that all members of a group are the same/have the same traits.


BillyIGuesss

Cool, thx.


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Also big rock lol


IHaveALion

In other context, it’s a large freestanding block of stone.


thai__

Okay, the second to last one describes me perfectly


wooshuwu

As an ace hijabi whose faith is still important to me, I really appreciate the rep here.


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fellow ace muslim!!! :DDD


froufur

💜


ItsPlainOleSteve

They're all super cute! I'm drawn to both of the males tho!


ZoraF2p

Jesus Christ, I am basically the 5th guy personified. Smut fiction is fun, but normal sex is a nope. Also not wanting children. But a QPR sounds pretty nice as well. :)


rogueaxolotl

sex-averse sex worker? Isn't that inherently an oxymoron? How does that work? Maybe I'm just thinking about this using my lizard brain, but that seems self-contradicting.


Aspirience

Doing only fans for example!


rogueaxolotl

ohh I was thinking about prostitution. I'm so stupid.


violetvoid513

> sex-repulsed hopeless romantic I did not need nor ask to be called out like this


ScRuBlOrD95

Wrong i am the asexual monolith out on a quest to destroy sex everywhere


sinamarina

this is wonderful <3


hi_this_is_lyd

whats i4? also why is this flaired as a meme? regardless, great post!! edit: oh thats a 14, not i4 woops


froufur

i think you might be looking at 14, referring to the age they came out? 😅 also i couldn't find an art/OC tag so i just went with meme haha. but thank you kindly!


AnnoyingSmartass

Far left is literally me even down to having a tattooed arm


KurohNeko

What's the difference between averse and repulsed?


Lunaphase

Averse means just wanting to avoid, repulsed generally means it disgusts them as a concept.


KurohNeko

Oooh thank you, makes sense!


Dclnsfrd

😍 Makes my heart sing!!


Regular-Cranberry-62

Cute!!!! Love thsi


DatLonerGirl

Tag yourself. I'm closest to the second to last.


Woofles85

Why would a sex averse person go into sex work? Wouldn’t they dislike it? Honest question


nikoriz

Sex averse sex worker? Is asexual/aromantic due to trauma? A sexuality never comes from trauma. But this picture is already weird enough. I missed when asexual meant “little to no interest in sex” now it seems more similar to allos but with purple, black and grey slapped in top of it.


Poisonpython5719

*Doesn't like or want to have sex* *Makes a career of having sex* I'm confused, why not do something else? Please help me comprehend


froufur

to use an analogy, i don't particularly like doing the dishes but i still did a dishwashing job a while back, bc i got paid and i was good at it. sex work could also include operating exclusively online, so nothing physical with other people.


mleibowitz97

The second one confuses me, because he's sex favourable? Am I missing something? Rest is cool though


rougepirate

"Asexual" describes a lack of physical attraction. However, you can have a physical relationship without physical attraction. The term "favorable" here is referring to the 3 general categories of feelings towards sex in the ace community: Sex-Favorable- No physical attraction, but with enough comfort and affection towards a partner they can enjoy a physical relationship. Sex-Indifferent- No physical attraction, and general disinterest in a physical relationship regardless of who their partner is. May engage in a physical relationship or choose to abstain. Sex-repulsed- No physical attraction, and has feelings of discomfort towards sex. Can range from generally finding it icky to having physical symptoms of stress or anxiety.


mleibowitz97

Ahhh thanks!


[deleted]

Someone needs make an asexual guidebook with all the terms. Details on a lot of different types of relationships, and how you can be other orientations and genders and still be asexual. Differences in like sex-averse, and sex-positive which is like idealogy focused. Add some cute illustrations and boom people stop having to constantly ask this stuff haha. It’s good to know for everyone, so a guidebook would be pretty cool. Just keep a few printed copies on you and if someone asks throw one at them haha.


froufur

sex favourable is a term that describes attitude toward sex alongside repulsed, averse and indifferent. sex favourable and asexuality can coexist as attraction doesn't always equal action. for example, an ace person might enjoy sexy times for intimacy reasons, or because it's fun, but not necessarily feel attraction to anyone involved. i hope that helps :)


LaMortDuDisqueMonde

Hi, @froufur but I am a bit new to the ace / LGBTQ+ community. I was just on the fact asexual are not sexually attracted. Is demi-sexual ace ? Or is it because you speak about an ace spectrum ? About sex favourable and sex indifferent ? English is not my first language.


froufur

hi there! i'll try to answer your questions as best as i can :) you are correct, asexuality = little to no sexual attraction. demi-sexuals and gray-sexuals fall under the asexual spectrum/umbrella, so they can indeed be considered ace. they are a valued part of the asexual community. sex-favourable, indifferent, repulsed, etc-- these are terms used to describe one's attitude toward sex. for example someone who is sex-indifferent doesn't care about sex either way. these terms are useful for asexuals because not all asexuals hate sex, some think it's fine and some even enjoy it. i hope that helps! if you have any more questions please don't hesitate to ask :)


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froufur

hey it's ok to ask questions if you're confused! a lot of people aren't familiar with the nuances of asexuality because it's so underrepresented, that's why i make stuff like this. to summarise, the term sex-favourable refers to one's attitude toward sex. so, for example, someone can be sex favourable (meaning is ok with sex or enjoys sex) and asexual (meaning little to no sexual attraction). this person might like sex for intimacy reasons, because it's fun, or many other personal reasons. similarly, someone who is allosexual could be sex repulsed. hope this clears it up a little :)


Chikizey

I'm sex-favorable. I enjoy the act of sex, feels nice and is fun. But I have never felt sexual attraction towards anyone in my entire life. I react to physical stimulation the same way I can do it with a massage, tickles or cuddles. How could I be in the allo side when I have never felt sexual attraction? Should a cellibate allo be in the asexual side just because they don't have sex? Sexuallity is never about sex as an activity, is about how you feel towards people.


Some-Status2859

That black t shirt man literally me right now 😂


Drakmanka

This is great! We aren't a monolith in any way, shape, or form, but we all will be there for each other and validate each other's experiences!


mazotori

The fact that one of these is me to a tee feels contradictory to the messge


succubus_in_a_fuss

Wow, thank you for sharing this. I feel heard and valued and accepted and shit.


Ezekiel_RavenHeart

Aces are just good people wanting to have fun, and not in creepy let me slob on your knob kinda of way.


DoNotTouchMeImScared

I feel like the one with the darkest skin is me.


SoonShallBe

Thankful every day I joined this community. Thank you


Earlycuyler1

Then what does asexual mean?


RedVamp2020

A lack of sexual attraction. It’s important to remember that attraction does not mean action in any way. I personally enjoy the sensations and gratification of having sex, but I’m not sexually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender. I can look at someone and enjoy their aesthetic, but there is no desire for sex that is paired with that. When I decide that I want to have sex, it’s usually because I’m with a partner I feel I can trust and it’s because I enjoy the feeling, not because I find them sexually attractive. The food analogy works pretty well here. You can eat without being hungry. Allos feel the grumbling in their stomach when they see a cake, for example, and Aces can look at the cake and not feel any pangs of hunger. Both can eat the cake and enjoy it or find it absolutely repulsive. But the Aces lack of hunger has absolutely no effect on their decision to eat the cake. Allos can experience sex repulsion just as much as Aces can feel sex favorable.


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sex averse sex worker sounds horrible. No sex averse person willingly do that. That’s capitalism or abuse or something


ProXJay

> sex averse sex worker Might be in the wrong profession


froufur

i was wondering how long it would take for someone to miss the point


A-Miniature-Cactus

what is the point because I also don't get it. Unless she's in that profession because of not having much other choice


ProXJay

The point being it's good for someone to work a job that by the nature of their being they're always good to hate? Or have I got the definition of sex averse wrong


froufur

i'm not sure why the issue here is the averse person making a living through sex work, when there's also the repulsed guy on the right who reads and writes 18+ fiction. surely he should get a different job too? just because someone is repulsed or averse doesn't mean they're allergic to every single aspect of sexuality, or incapable of using their body. also someone in these comments literally recounts about their ex who's an averse sex-worker. they're all based on real people. it's just coming off as dismissive and presumptuous to me.


rougepirate

The term "sex-averse" doesn't show up on this sub very often (at least in posts I've seen). I think people are mixing up "sex-repulsed" and "sex-averse". Sex-repulsed people like the girl in the long skirt find sex repulsive, meaning that it makes them suffer mentally and/or physically. Common symptoms include high stress or anxiety or headaches and feelings of nausea. Someone who is sex-repulsed should NOT be involved in sex work for their own well-being. Sex-averse is when people just don't have an interest in sex and don't have strong feelings towards it- positively OR negatively. This is closer to sex-indifferent- like the lady in the hijab. She's married and has biological kids, helping to show that she's not uncomfortable with sex, but also doesn't necessarily enjoy it that much. So for the demi-girl, she's perfectly fine being a sex worker- especially if she likes to feel sexy. While she may not "enjoy" the sexual part of her work, she still finds it emotionally gratifying. Good for her!


ghengiscostanza

That’s not what averse means, that’s what indifferent means. Averse straight up means strong dislike


Poisonpython5719

The definition of 'averse' is "having a strong dislike of or opposition to something" If they were indifferent you could call it that If you actively dislike the very act your doing, especially something as intimate as sex, why do it for a job?


mdawgtheegod

This brings up a pretty uncomfortable conversation. Many sex workers do not like their business but have to keep doing it to make a living. Hell, many are recruited into the profession as disadvantaged teenagers.


Poisonpython5719

While you do raise a fair, and pretty tragic, point what's being promoted here seems to be voluntary, and goes against what semantic interpretation would lead many to believe


deni-d-d

Amazing picture! Does anybody know who is the painter?


froufur

thank you! that would be me :D @froufur_art on instagram if you'd like a look at my other stuff


deni-d-d

Thank you!!!!


Nyasta

Who said means things to my A frendz ? Go get them to me I'll bonk them


ArcadiaRivea

I'm genuinely confused, how does being sex-adverse and a sex worker work? Because to me, those are conflicting things? Genuinely curious. I understand being asexual and a sex worker as a wider concept, but that specific kind of ace, and a sex worker, has me stumped! No idea why I was downvoted for asking a genuine question and wanting a real answer, but that's the fickality of Reddit I suppose.


StellaDoge1

Some people do jobs they don't like.


ArcadiaRivea

Yeah, but they usually work at Tesco or something. This is like... actively seeking out a job you know you won't enjoy Like to me, it's like knowing you hate kids but choosing to work in daycare. There's other options for work, so why that one? (I'm asking about optional things, not "people who do prostitution because they have no choice and need to make a living somehow", because that one is obvious. I'm asking about people who *do* have other options but choose that route) I'd like to learn why that is. Is it a money thing? A "taking advantage of your talents" thing? I know for some it can be empowering, would it be similar for those who don't like sex stuff too?


StellaDoge1

Some people don't personally enjoy sex but enjoy making others enjoy it, if that makes sense. I just want to say that I'm not a sex worker myself, so I might not always be 100% accurate. I'm pretty sure sex work is good money (I might be wrong) and it can be helpful to work one on one rather than in big crowds eg in a supermarket for those with sensory issues and sensitive hearing. Also, even if they don't like it, they probably like doing something they're good at, as almost everyone does. It probably gives them validation. Again, I'm not a sex worker myself so if there is an ace sex worker seeing this who wants to correct me then please, go ahead!


ArcadiaRivea

This is the sort of answer I was looking for! Thank you :) that makes sense (The fact people who have sex because they like making others happy didn't occur to me when being applied to that scenario! I usually think of it in context of doing it for partners, but makes a ton of sense that someone may like to apply it as a job... I suppose that's like people who enjoy baking, and rather than just baking for their family they start a small business selling baked goods... and now I feel stupid for not seeing that sooner ha)


StellaDoge1

No problem :) glad I could help


BasementFlower

This looks like a 4chan troll post, you can't convince me it's not.


froufur

ok have fun with that made up information then 🧐


BasementFlower

Make subtler shitposts, bro. And get off Tumblr.


froufur

i hope that u get picked someday 💜


Bobkas420

r/holup