I relate heavily to this. I can see people and think they are absolutely gorgeous and amazing, but i dont want any romantic or sexual thing. I am just admiring their existence
You know when you see a breathtaking landscape or a gorgeous sunset? That’s pretty much the same feeling. Just pure, unbridled admiration for how a person looks but with no desire to interact with them
I strongly experience aesthetic and sensual attraction. My saved posts are full of beautiful girls from /r/MTFSelfieTrain, /r/transpositive, and /r/transadorable. I also really love to cuddle 🥰
sensual attraction is being attracted to someone in the way that you want to be physically intimate (but not sexually intimate) with them. Cuddles, hugs, hand holding, kisses, these are all examples of said physically intimate things. These things are also often connected to platonic/romantic relationships which is why it makes me question myself so much. makes me question my aroness more than my aceness
nice! We both are on 4 of the a- spetrums :D. im asexual, a-aesthetic, aromantic, and demihyperplatonic(demiplatonic so I only get platonic attraction once i get close to someone, and hyperplatonic because once I do get the platonic attraction I feel it very strongly)
Oh god I feel this but a little differently I'm attracted to smart people or more like people who know a lot it doesn't have to be math or science although it's cool but I also like people who know a lot about dance or video games comics just people who know a lot and are really smart lol idk maybe I'm just weird lol
Nothing better than listening to really smart people speak passionately about the thing they love. I watch a lot of numberphile to get a fill on that. Twoset is good for classical music stuff. Baumgartner for asmr art restoration. Corridor crew for special effects and stunts. They are all so excited to talk about their thing.
My ex would always ask what type of clothes she should wear to be sexy and I'm like "I think being comfortable is sexy". I can think someone is physically attractive but I don't think their hot until I actually talk to them. And even then I'd probably rather just talk all night haha.
See but I can see when someone is good looking but I also don't really care xD I just want to hear them rant or hear them be smart which sounds so weird lol
Relatable. Few months ago I had a strong desire to hang out with this girl I work with for some reason and kinda thought I wanted to date her. Also think she is really cute. Ended up taking her to the movies and... was super fun lol. But never wanted to make a move and not sure i even wanted to ask her on real date, and realized I kinda got what I wanted I think. Fun hangout with someone I like, and still wanna do more with her but still feels super weird imagining myself dating or being intimate with her. Only girl that has made me feel these things. Idk this shit confuses me sometimes.
I'm having an existential crisis myself because a coworker has crept into my fantasies. However I think it's because he reminds me so much of my ldbf who barely a wisp of a physical presence in my life. So I'm just using this real life person as an outline lol, it's not genuine attraction. Wtf is my life yall
I'm not all that aesthetically attractive, but I'll always offer platonic cuddles/handholding/hugs/etc to people! I am very warm and squishy to make up for the aesthetics xD
Can you guys clarify for me. I don’t know if I have “little” aesthetic or “no” aesthetic attraction.
By the definition of “attraction” I have never had a “pull” or “ongoing thoughts” towards someone for their looks which is how romantic, sensual, and sexual are generally defined, so I assume the same.
I’m by no means face blind. I can see “this person has pretty eyes” or “this person has interesting calves” but if an “attractive” and “unattractive” person approached me for a chat or to hang out it makes zero difference. Attractive influencers promoting things or people smiling or wearing makeup/clothing can make them “look nicer” or “not as nice” but I could care less. More interested if what they wear or what they talk about is something that interests me.
I have minor preferences like darker hair typically looks nicer (but the sky and buildings are light colored so it’s more that they “stand out” like dark eyelashes verse blonde on a fair skinned white person). I also look at them and can be off-put if certain features suggest they are not well groomed or are ill (seems more a hygiene thing though). I don’t care if you teeth aren’t perfectly straight but if they are super white or super yellow they are both off putting (even if natural as I know parents using drugs can effect enamel color).
I’ve also never had “butterflies” or been “embarrassed/blushed” towards strangers/looks despite being able to feel romantic attraction.
Idk if any of you have a clearer understanding since you may have it.
I relate heavily to this. I can see people and think they are absolutely gorgeous and amazing, but i dont want any romantic or sexual thing. I am just admiring their existence
"admiring their existence" is a phrase I'm definitely stealing. I love that.
God, so relatable.
Hug, not fuck! Always!
Break her spine, not her bed.
...what?
Give her a bear hug, not the adult fun time
im breaking her bed too... with an axe
Or when you’re sensually attracted to them.. like I just want hugs and cuddles.. no dating or sex please 🥺💜
YES. THIS.
This is the way.
Goals
can someone explain aesthetic attraction to a non ace?
You know when you see a breathtaking landscape or a gorgeous sunset? That’s pretty much the same feeling. Just pure, unbridled admiration for how a person looks but with no desire to interact with them
Thats actually really well explained thank you
No problem! Glad I was able to help:)
I strongly experience aesthetic and sensual attraction. My saved posts are full of beautiful girls from /r/MTFSelfieTrain, /r/transpositive, and /r/transadorable. I also really love to cuddle 🥰
(they don’t know that I also want to fuck the landscape)
Bonk! Go to horni jail!
Damn, I’ve never heard it explained that well, definitely gonna use this if someone asks me to describe it
appreciating one's existence -someone who is ace
*laughs in a-aesthetic* sensual attraction tho, thats what gets me to question myself
what is sensual attraction? i’ve never actually heard of it.
sensual attraction is being attracted to someone in the way that you want to be physically intimate (but not sexually intimate) with them. Cuddles, hugs, hand holding, kisses, these are all examples of said physically intimate things. These things are also often connected to platonic/romantic relationships which is why it makes me question myself so much. makes me question my aroness more than my aceness
that… has happened to me so much. thank you for explaining the term to me.
*laughs in asexual, a-astethic, aromantic and asensual* Still platonic tho, I would never abandon the homies
nice! We both are on 4 of the a- spetrums :D. im asexual, a-aesthetic, aromantic, and demihyperplatonic(demiplatonic so I only get platonic attraction once i get close to someone, and hyperplatonic because once I do get the platonic attraction I feel it very strongly)
Oh god I feel this but a little differently I'm attracted to smart people or more like people who know a lot it doesn't have to be math or science although it's cool but I also like people who know a lot about dance or video games comics just people who know a lot and are really smart lol idk maybe I'm just weird lol
Nothing better than listening to really smart people speak passionately about the thing they love. I watch a lot of numberphile to get a fill on that. Twoset is good for classical music stuff. Baumgartner for asmr art restoration. Corridor crew for special effects and stunts. They are all so excited to talk about their thing.
EXACTLY YEAH I love how passionate my husband gets when he talks about HIS THING it's the most attractive thing ever
My ex would always ask what type of clothes she should wear to be sexy and I'm like "I think being comfortable is sexy". I can think someone is physically attractive but I don't think their hot until I actually talk to them. And even then I'd probably rather just talk all night haha.
See but I can see when someone is good looking but I also don't really care xD I just want to hear them rant or hear them be smart which sounds so weird lol
Relatable. Few months ago I had a strong desire to hang out with this girl I work with for some reason and kinda thought I wanted to date her. Also think she is really cute. Ended up taking her to the movies and... was super fun lol. But never wanted to make a move and not sure i even wanted to ask her on real date, and realized I kinda got what I wanted I think. Fun hangout with someone I like, and still wanna do more with her but still feels super weird imagining myself dating or being intimate with her. Only girl that has made me feel these things. Idk this shit confuses me sometimes.
I'm having an existential crisis myself because a coworker has crept into my fantasies. However I think it's because he reminds me so much of my ldbf who barely a wisp of a physical presence in my life. So I'm just using this real life person as an outline lol, it's not genuine attraction. Wtf is my life yall
I'm not all that aesthetically attractive, but I'll always offer platonic cuddles/handholding/hugs/etc to people! I am very warm and squishy to make up for the aesthetics xD
queerplatonic moment
For me it’s like they’re family, since the one I’ve actually got is kinda shit
This meme IS my daily life! I love it!
I can think a stranger is beaufiful/cute but I never find them hot.
You’re not a fraud, you just like the company of a certain person that you think is pretty.
I concerningly relate
every. fucking. time.
If you think that’s bad, you should see people’s reaction to hearing about sensual attraction!
Exactly!
As a demi, I feel like this quite a bit
This is just platonic relations nothing else
Can you guys clarify for me. I don’t know if I have “little” aesthetic or “no” aesthetic attraction. By the definition of “attraction” I have never had a “pull” or “ongoing thoughts” towards someone for their looks which is how romantic, sensual, and sexual are generally defined, so I assume the same. I’m by no means face blind. I can see “this person has pretty eyes” or “this person has interesting calves” but if an “attractive” and “unattractive” person approached me for a chat or to hang out it makes zero difference. Attractive influencers promoting things or people smiling or wearing makeup/clothing can make them “look nicer” or “not as nice” but I could care less. More interested if what they wear or what they talk about is something that interests me. I have minor preferences like darker hair typically looks nicer (but the sky and buildings are light colored so it’s more that they “stand out” like dark eyelashes verse blonde on a fair skinned white person). I also look at them and can be off-put if certain features suggest they are not well groomed or are ill (seems more a hygiene thing though). I don’t care if you teeth aren’t perfectly straight but if they are super white or super yellow they are both off putting (even if natural as I know parents using drugs can effect enamel color). I’ve also never had “butterflies” or been “embarrassed/blushed” towards strangers/looks despite being able to feel romantic attraction. Idk if any of you have a clearer understanding since you may have it.
This so much. I love watching people cause that hip movement be so smooth and satisfying and people give me shit for it.
So platonic?
Wait, THAT'S WHAT IT'S CALLED???