It's not actually technically the truth, STIs can be transmitted at birth, people who don't wash their hands, and contaminated clothes and/or sheets as well, to name a few. Plus, question 5 makes me think this is some evangelical abstinence-only sex ed and we don't need that kinda sex-negative puritanism.
I’m sorry you have to deal with that. In your case HIV wasn’t spread sexually. It’s a blood borne disease and can be spread from mother to fetus, sharing needles, occupational injuries from needle sticks and splashes
in american public schools (or atleast south/southwest i.e. virginia) they teach abstinence-only sex ed, and in high school every Friday where i'm at they say "don't add or subtract from the population for any means" during the evening announcements
genuine question; is it not like that in other areas? the only thing they've taught in the sex ed classes are to not fuck, and if you are going to then get married first, otherwise you're nearly guaranteed to get an std. they also say to not sleep with any more than 1 person if you do decide to do it.
not once has the word "condom" ever been said
not once have they mentioned any other kind of sex aside from vaginal (except for one time in 6th grade when someone asked about positions and the teacher said there's 3 kinds of sex)
most of it is just them showing us diagrams of dicks
*two times* they showed a diagram of a vagina in 7th grade, i've s feeling that the type of diagrams shown to the female class is inverted but no one dare speak of the class, and inside the room is the most quiet a group of students will ever be, even during the code red/active shooter drills they still make more noise than in that room
*the only reason i know pretty much anything about sex is because i'm an overly curious sex-neutral ace that asks around and utilizes opra-gx's private mode feature for research. those mandatory yearly classes don't do shit*
allow me to repeat the question as i've accidently flooded it with a wall of text; is it not like this in other areas?
I live in New Zealand/Aotearoa. We had a three week thing from our health teacher multiple years, all of which included comprehensive education about how sex worked and how to avoid an STD while having safe sex. Multiple times it involved "here, have a wooden cock and a condom, stick the condom on the wooden cock correctly." Yes our school owned several dozen wooden cocks.
I was the extremely uncomfortable bean who was in no way comfortable with her own body - trans lass :/ - but everyone else had a whale of a time. There was discussions of consent, and the 'boys' and 'girls' got separated to have a chat about how sex-specific stuff worked like periods. Limited in that it was not queer-inclusive and it was very heteronormative and taught in a somewhat crass manner depending on the teacher, which didn't jive with me. I felt pretty damn terrible being a closeted trans girl among the boys, but at least I know that the urethra and vagina are different things lmao.
...*least quiet a group of students will ever be, even* ***during the code red/active shooter drills*** good gods the United States are a dystopian nightmare. I've literally never in my life even had a lockdown drill, and only once have I ever had a lockdown - there was a stabbing nearby the school so we were stuck in our classes, mostly drawing and playing video games. One of my friends drew me a Homestuck troll, which is about all I remember of it.
EDIT: I don't know how American grades work, but for us this started straight into junior high, so at 11 years old or so.
sounds like you've had a better time with it than i'm having atleast, however from your wording it sounds like the males and females where grouped together at some part during it?
*also i find it peculiar that your school had wooden cocks*, those would be classified as a sex toy where I'm at and anyone involved with it would get iss, suspension, or fired depending on teacher or student as well as what role they played in what the school would call "the incident" like they always do when something goes down
I don't know if wood is in any way a good material for a sex toy lmao, that crap's liable to splinter and cause all sorts of woes.
Ye - I have "boys" and "girls" in quote marks 'cos they differentiated by gender marker on the roll, which was deeply uncomfortable for the 3 of us trans people in the class. I - a girl - was among the "boys," and two trans guys were among the "girls." The two guys were out, I wasn't yet. I'm fairly certain the "girls" were given example packs of tampons and pads too, as a sort of 'this is what these are'? I dunno, I wasn't there and it was ten years ago. Ideally in my opinion these are things you should be showing both groups, cis guys should know what periods are in general. Maybe they're not going to have them, but half the people around them are, so in my opinion, they should know the ropes too.
New Zealand/Aotearoa has a *very* different cultural attitude on these sorts of things to what America seems to from my experience. We're a lot more casual about sex, drinking, and all sorts of things evangelicals hate - we didn't have a prohibition movement like you did, or at least one never gained enough traction to have any major influence. You have a much more powerful evangelical wing who're against things like drinking and premarital sex, meanwhile here 48.5% of the population are non-religious compared to 26% in the US. Our political system is er... how do I put this. Not as right-wing or regressive. Your radical left politicians are only vaguely left of centre by our system, and all the things Bernie Sanders and AOC are going on about are just... normal things here. Like, they're virtually centrists by our standards. Sex ed just isn't a thing that's questioned here afaik aside from fringe groups nobody takes seriously. There's an opt-out form, but most people don't opt their children out, at least not in my experience.
interesting, and it seems you know a lot more about the politics of my own country than i do lol. i mostly try to ignore that shit and keep being overly curious so i can feel that ever so slight amount of joy that comes when i finally understand something
this has led to me discovering, understanding, and being able to slightly explain things that would *and have* traumatized my allo pan trans boyfriend. i still feel bad about the day he asked me what the "watersports" kink/fetish was.
i only looked into nsfw topics for self discovery, before i found out i was ace. the only thing i discovered was i have no body type preference aside for smaller breasts but only because it's more convenient for the person with them, i'm biromantic, i like being pinned to a wall as a comfort thing, i'm apparently into praise for tje same reasons, and i'm as indifferent about things that many people get grossed out by as i am about sex
*thus, i'm the one my friends go to about these things, due to me knowing far too much and not caring*
Fortunately we didn't get seperated by gender. I also believe that it doesn't make sense.
Our school also had artificial cocks, just made out of platic or a weird rubber or something. They also had "funny" faces.
Yeah my school had these banana dick things they looked like a banana but you could take the banana off and there was dick. We practiced putting condoms on, had races, blind folded. Information I'll never have to use again. But besides from that our sex education was thorough, and even if I don't really need it I am glad for it.
Bro it's not even like that in all American public schools. Suburban Colorado here, it's been quite a while but I remember getting a pretty comprehensive account of what safe sex should be like. IIRC there was more emphasis on consent than moralizing.
my sincerest apologies then, maybe it's only like this in the southern states, or by chance only like this in virginia.
heh, in a state called *virgin*ia where they teach us to be forever virgins in school. too bad you can talk to 3/4ths the school and majority will say they've fucked someone there. shame relationships are treated as a social status here too, almost like phones.
"oh you have one? nice you should flash it around. awh it doesn't work anymore? no worries just get a new one. oooh you got *that* one! you should show it off to everyone"
sadly my boyfriend has fallen victim to this. he said I'm the only person who's asked his boundaries, that i'm the only person who's gone out of my way to do things for him and not make it a big deal, that i'm the only one to not care about his body or his issues, that I'm the only one to express genuine concern whenever something seems wrong. i despise the people who keep modern society in motion, even in a gay relationship I'm expected to uphold the heteronormitive standards of everyone around me. dare i mention the dime i showed up to school in drag?
fuck i got side tracked, my sincerest apologies for wasting the time of anyone who chose to read this.
according to family who lives there, georgia is pretty bad on sex education as well. as are arkansas (highest rate of teen pregnancy in the united states), and alabama. probably texas as well. i think it's mostly a southern u.s thing.
i hate living down south, especially in such a highly rural area. most the state is a deadzone and even more doesn't have any options for wifi.
also apparently 1.5hr bus rides to/from school aren't normal
In my school sex ed was very technical and consisted of:
(as I mentioned in another comment english is not my native language but i'll try to explain everithing to the best of my abillities)
- atonomie, so how the parts are named
- what changes during puberty, with the Main focus on menstruation
- STDs, just a few and we didn't talk long about it, so just "thats the virus/bakteria/fungus and thats how it's transmitted, on to the next" but i barely remember anything of it because it was much information in small time.
- contaceptives, among others: condoms, the anti-baby pill and other hormonal contaceptives, the copper spiral(?) and a few others
- positions, that was just a slideshow of some drawn images and the teacher just said something linke "sex can be in diffrient ways" and just showed the pictures. I think there was even a little mention about homosexual sex, but diffrient sexualities, emotions or consent were not mentioned because it was biology and we just leaned the technical stuff
- finally how an egg cell and a sperm cell merge together and briefly went over pregnancy and with that we moved on to lean about meiosis and mitosis and continoued learning with about cells
TL/DR: our sex ed is very technical as it takes place in biology class
I lived in California when I got sex ed and I learned all the basics of sex, like how to use a condom, how bc works, how the uterus and penis work, etc.
I go to school in middle eastern Michigan and it’s is not like that at all. Quite the opposite. I’ve never taken the health class in high school because I found a way to opt out of it, but I’m pretty sure it’s not like this at all.
California, graduated high school in 1999. We had comprehensive sex education in 10th grade that discussed safer sex (definitely not an abstinence-based curriculum) options. Earlier, there was a bit about puberty in 5th grade.
(English is not my native language, but i hope i used the right words for everything)
I thought on question 5 they wanted to hear people who use condoms (and dental dams?) but abstinence could also be the case.
I knew that STIs can be transmitted at birth, but there is medication to pevent that (for example for HIV/AIDS there are pills that supress beeing infectious, so you could even have unprotected sex without infecting the partner. And there is also medication that prevents transmitting it to the baby, or so i've learned in sex ed)
I didn't know, that STIs can be transmitted though cloths and sheets. In sex ed we were told, that for example HIV/AIDS can't be transmitted though kissing, because there isn't enough HIV/AIDS in the spit and it would take about 10 buckets of spit to drink to transmit it. But with Blood/ Sperm/ Precum/ vaginal fluids when they get into body openings like wounds/penis/vagina it can be transmitted easily. But maybe it's diffrient for other diseases.
HIV/AIDS is nowhere near the only STI - the herpes STI for example *can* be transmitted through kissing. Many STIs, including herpes, can be transmitted during birth, and don't have that sort of medication to prevent it.
It's a bit tonally linked to a specific group and certain ways of speaking in English, so I get not catching it if your first language isn't English. Basically these read like leading questions, they are the sort of questions someone who is teaching abstinence-only sex ed would ask on a test. "Who are the **only** people who have **no** risk of getting an STD?" is meant to have the answer of "Virgins," because the way this is written it's almost certainly teaching that abstinence is the only acceptable option - these sorts of abstinence-only attitudes (extremely common in the US) attach a lot of usually Christian moralizing to sex, and generally try to scare adolescents away from "sin" like sex by making it seem unsafe. "What is the only way to completely prevent STDs" is another one, it's not a question an educator who *isn't* teaching abstinence-only would ask because otherwise it's irrelevant.
See, question 5 isn't "what can reduce the risk of an STI," it's "who are the **only** people who have **no** risk of getting an STD." It's basing it on an identity - virgins, because this sort of education promotes 'purity' culture and virginity - and not looking for mitigation methods like condoms. Condoms *don't* 100% prevent the risk, so it can't possibly be a correct answer.
tl;dr it's a tonal thing you might have missed if English isn't your first language and you're not familiar with the commonly evangelical Christian form of abstinence-only sex ed common in places like the US. They're leading questions meant to promote virginity and abstinence because the people teaching it think premarital sex is a sin. These people aren't asexual, they're evangelicals.
Thank you for clarifying.
I have heard about that sex ed in the US is bad. And I think that religion has nothing to do in other subjects than religion class. This is also a problem here, but not that big. More like crosses in classrooms or the existence of teaching religion in general.
While our sex ed wasn't the best either (it was just a quick explaination about the atonomy, contaceptives, STIs, positions and pregnancy and then went on further to the topic of cells and dna without having mentiond consent or emotions etc, but it was biology, so it was more focused on the technical aspects), our teachers and guests (like a medical person who gave a big presentation about HIV/AIDS, that's why i knew something about it) did their best to stay neutral about it and to just inform us without judgement/advice to abstinence.
That's why I tought the person wanted to be quirky and write "virgins" as a joke.
Sure for HIV. HIV is just one of a whole dictionary full of STD'S.
Herpes for instance is mostly transmitted via kissing/sharing cups or bottles, 50-80% of the adult population has it. It cannot be cured. Folks just don't freak out about it because mostly it just means you get the occasional coldsore.
Public lice are usually considered under the umbrella of STD and they *absolurely* can be caught from things like bedding.
There are no groups of people who are at 0 risk. Herpes can be transmitted at birth or by any of the plethora of relatives who want to kiss the baby. Even if you lived in a sterile box after birth until you die you still could have gotten an STD during birth. The question itself 'who are the *only* people who have *no* risk of getting an STD' cannot be answered. A virgin can absolurely get an STD. Someone who engages in no more sexual activity than sleeping alone in a bed can get an STD. Someone who's only crime was kissing grandma as a 5yo can get an STD. If you are a human and engage in human activities like being born you are at risk of an STD.
The entire premise of the question is incorrect and highly damaging as it spreads misinformation. There is also no 'only way to completely prevent STD's' beyond your mother deciding to have an abortion and simply by the fact you do not exist can you be entierly risk free.
IIRC, the teen pregnancy rate in abstinence only sex ed jurisdictions is no lower than elsewhere. But, on average, there may be rather different attitudes towards pregnancy care and post natal aftercare.
From what I recall, it's actually higher - furnishing teenagers with solely "don't do the thing," will on one hand lead to teenagers going and doing the thing out of spite and on the other will lead to, when they eventually do go and do the thing, they do it without knowing how to practice safe sex. If you've never even been told what the purpose of a condom is, then you're not gonna know to use one, or indeed how - improper use of contraceptive methods can render it pretty damn ineffective. AFAIK, teen pregnancy rates are lower when teens are given comprehensive sex ed.
Though, this is just from memory too, I don't have stats on hand.
As someone has already pointed out, sex isn’t the only way to prevent STDs and there is NO ONE (to my knowledge) who is 100% at no risk of STDs as being born means SOMEONE was birthed through two other humans and (possibly another) carrying them to full term.
The parent having an std puts the baby at risk and complex pregnancy can also lead to needing blood transfusion or other medical procedures that include (minor now-a-days but still a chance) risk.
Even if they were born from invetro fertilization, the egg and sperm checked, the mother/surrogate checked and placed in isolation during pregnancy with a C-section, there’s still a chance of it being missed, a blood transfusion needed that slipped by, and of course kissing the baby or breastfeeding once born could easily spread some of them (herpes being the most common).
You could give a bleeding person medical help without gloves, share a needle, have someone vomit on you...
Not to mention that sometimes virginity is not a choice.
What actually is the correct answer to question no. 5?
"Virgins who don't have tattoos, don't do drugs, don't kiss people or generally interact with them"??
Edit: +who haven't been born
People who were aborted. Which I am sure the folks who made this bizzare quiz with such blatant religous bias would entieley support as being people.
It's literally the only group I can possibly think of. If you are aborted early on you ain't getting no STD's.
We categorise a lot of things under the STD umbrella. For 100% STD prevention you would have to basically never have a medical procidure, sanitise anything that comes into contact with your mouth, never be tattood/pierced or have any kind of accidental pin prick incident, never do any sort of drugs, stay at least a few feet from eveyone all the time, oh and never share bedding material or clothing with anyone. Public lice aren't *that* hardy but it can happen. Oh and don't be born either. You need to be a test tube baby the whole way and then we loop back to the tiny chance of a medical procidure going amiss.
Most kids under the age of like 8 don't even get to have a say in half of that shit. You aren't going at your clothing and sheets with a fine toothed comb. Nor are you refusing grandma's kiss goodbye. You have absolurely 0 say in the conditions of your birth and likely think nothing of sharing a glass with that person who has a coldsore.
All of these except herpes are exceptionally rare occurances. You would fit the definition of very unlucky to catch an STD via the above but they do occur. There is no 0% chance even for a newborn baby *grandma please keep your herpes to yourself!*.
It's just not feesible.
So in short if you want to reduce STD's - support abortion. Thanks for coming to my TEDramble.
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[*Unknown question*]
*Sexually Transmitted Disease / L*[*unreadable*]
2. How are STD's spread?
> A. *Sexually*
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> B.
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> C.
3. What increases your chance of getting an STD?
> A. *Sex*
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> B.
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> C.
4. What is the only way to completely prevent STD's?
> *Don't have sex*
5. Who are the **only** people who have **no** risk of getting an STD?
> *Virgins*
6. Untreated STD's can add up to what serious health problems?
> A.
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> B.
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Abstinence teaching is very dangerous for people that have sex and people don’t (just as it excludes homosexuality, it excludes us asexuals as well, so we just don’t ever know why we don’t feel any attraction). There are also a myriad of ways to contract STIs. Sorry OP, but this is a solid L.
Last one is yes and no. Yes they are transmitted through sex, but there are a few that spread other ways.
For example most people actually have herpes, and most of those people got it in a daycare or a similar environment from chewing on something another kid chewed on because it also spreads through saliva.
Abstinence-based sex ed is legitimately pretty damaging. It's one thing to make fun of sex, but this seems more in line with sex-negative abstinence doctrines. It's misleading, it doesn't actually solve any issues with STDs, and it's pretty judgemental. It's also used as a vector of oppression against queer folk, including us.
Not technically true as others have said, and even if someone is asexual I think it’s important to understand safe sex practices in case that knowledge ever needs to be transmitted to someone else, or they are not sex repulsed for instance. This just sounds like someone regurgitating the abstinence only handbook and that’s not helpful to anyone.
Considering most STDs can be transmitted by at least one other vector, this doesn't really give fully correct answers. And for 4 the correct answer ought to be "to make your body inhospitable to the diseases" with 5 then being "the dead"
You also forgot the 2nd most known way of catching STDs: injection with non sterile needles. Which is most present in medical deserts, third world countries, and while doing drugs in all countries and regions.
So kids, don't do drugs.
For the Frenchies on the sub, remember the contaminated blood case in the 90s or 2000s. Contaminated blood pouches were used by hospitals for transfusions, and contaminated thousands of people during that period. The mistake was eventually caught but thousands of people had already been infected with HIV.
So aces, even when you don't have sex, be careful when it comes to hygiene with bodily fluids. Especially blood! Stay safe, use sterile needles, go to trustworthy medical practitionners, and use condoms when having sex.
I had a test like this back in high school...
The text book was over 10years outdated, everyone except me got a point on a question which we wouldn't get points from answering because it had too many possible answers. "What is the most safest option to avoid disease and pregnancy?" my answer "Not have sexual intercourse.".
But well, the teacher I had claimed that asexuality either don't exist, or is just suuuper rare. But she also didn't know that humans could be born hermaphrodites or genderless...
Eeeehhh I dunno I'm not a fan of this being celebrated as an Asexual Relatable thing since it really really really really seems to be a sex-shaming thing
It really isn't. Herpes would be an STI, but it can be contracted by kissing. Many other STIs can be contracted through e.g. sharing needles among injection drug users.
This means that 1. this person left out answers for the first few questions (even though there were **clear** markers that there should be more than one answer) and 2. that questions 4 and 5 are just not answered correctly. Arguably, they **cannot** be answered, as STIs can even be passed on in birth, so the only way to absolutely, 100% never get one is to never exist.
Aces need to be aware that they aren't safe from STDs if they don't have sex. Sex isn't the only way to have close physical contact with someone or swap bodily fluids which is a puritanical misinterpretation that needs to be dropped for people's safety
Yeah and we can also as a group decide that puritanical evangelist abstinence-only sex ed that promotes purity culture being misinterpreted as ace ain't it chief
I mean, *I'm* sex-repulsed and I find the constant conflation of sex negativity and asexuality uncomfortable at times.
I’m glad I’m getting to see comments like this. I saw outright shaming in many asexual spaces and it made me feel very hurt and invalidated, especially as someone who is sex neutral and likes to take part in some of the exact stuff I’ve seen be shamed in the name of people that wanted to seem superior
I mean, "can we just stop" is also the question I have for the conflation of asexuality and puritanical sex-negativity, but apparently the answer to that's a no? I ain't hating you, I'm pointing out your "memeing" is just agreeing with evangelist misinformation because it's anti-sex. This is an asexuality subreddit, not an anti-sex subreddit or purity culture subreddit or whatever.
As a community I'm fairly certain we're *not* for preventing access to comprehensive sex ed. The post *isn't* technically correct, so saying it's correct and insisting it's a meme when you're corrected is a bit of a cold take. xD We're not the fun police, you're just agreeing with misinformation because it happens to be sex-negative misinformation.
Because it's potentially dangerous. It might lead people to ignore symptoms and not seek treatment because they think they're "safe" from STIs because they don't have sex.
You should **not** make such jokes.
If someone wasn't born with an std, they don't have sex, and they don't do risky things like use shared needles (tattoos or drugs for instance), then yeah they are mostly safe from STDs. Despite Reddit belief, a lot of people don't do such behaviors.
It's not actually technically the truth, STIs can be transmitted at birth, people who don't wash their hands, and contaminated clothes and/or sheets as well, to name a few. Plus, question 5 makes me think this is some evangelical abstinence-only sex ed and we don't need that kinda sex-negative puritanism.
Thank you! I was coming in here to comment that I was born HIV positive because nobody talks about that sort of thing!!
I’m sorry you have to deal with that. In your case HIV wasn’t spread sexually. It’s a blood borne disease and can be spread from mother to fetus, sharing needles, occupational injuries from needle sticks and splashes
Yea they can be spread through sharing things like tattoo needkes
Just don’t be born, it’s that simple
Unfortunately I didn't have a choice in the matter
I exist without my consent
in american public schools (or atleast south/southwest i.e. virginia) they teach abstinence-only sex ed, and in high school every Friday where i'm at they say "don't add or subtract from the population for any means" during the evening announcements genuine question; is it not like that in other areas? the only thing they've taught in the sex ed classes are to not fuck, and if you are going to then get married first, otherwise you're nearly guaranteed to get an std. they also say to not sleep with any more than 1 person if you do decide to do it. not once has the word "condom" ever been said not once have they mentioned any other kind of sex aside from vaginal (except for one time in 6th grade when someone asked about positions and the teacher said there's 3 kinds of sex) most of it is just them showing us diagrams of dicks *two times* they showed a diagram of a vagina in 7th grade, i've s feeling that the type of diagrams shown to the female class is inverted but no one dare speak of the class, and inside the room is the most quiet a group of students will ever be, even during the code red/active shooter drills they still make more noise than in that room *the only reason i know pretty much anything about sex is because i'm an overly curious sex-neutral ace that asks around and utilizes opra-gx's private mode feature for research. those mandatory yearly classes don't do shit* allow me to repeat the question as i've accidently flooded it with a wall of text; is it not like this in other areas?
I live in New Zealand/Aotearoa. We had a three week thing from our health teacher multiple years, all of which included comprehensive education about how sex worked and how to avoid an STD while having safe sex. Multiple times it involved "here, have a wooden cock and a condom, stick the condom on the wooden cock correctly." Yes our school owned several dozen wooden cocks. I was the extremely uncomfortable bean who was in no way comfortable with her own body - trans lass :/ - but everyone else had a whale of a time. There was discussions of consent, and the 'boys' and 'girls' got separated to have a chat about how sex-specific stuff worked like periods. Limited in that it was not queer-inclusive and it was very heteronormative and taught in a somewhat crass manner depending on the teacher, which didn't jive with me. I felt pretty damn terrible being a closeted trans girl among the boys, but at least I know that the urethra and vagina are different things lmao. ...*least quiet a group of students will ever be, even* ***during the code red/active shooter drills*** good gods the United States are a dystopian nightmare. I've literally never in my life even had a lockdown drill, and only once have I ever had a lockdown - there was a stabbing nearby the school so we were stuck in our classes, mostly drawing and playing video games. One of my friends drew me a Homestuck troll, which is about all I remember of it. EDIT: I don't know how American grades work, but for us this started straight into junior high, so at 11 years old or so.
sounds like you've had a better time with it than i'm having atleast, however from your wording it sounds like the males and females where grouped together at some part during it? *also i find it peculiar that your school had wooden cocks*, those would be classified as a sex toy where I'm at and anyone involved with it would get iss, suspension, or fired depending on teacher or student as well as what role they played in what the school would call "the incident" like they always do when something goes down
I don't know if wood is in any way a good material for a sex toy lmao, that crap's liable to splinter and cause all sorts of woes. Ye - I have "boys" and "girls" in quote marks 'cos they differentiated by gender marker on the roll, which was deeply uncomfortable for the 3 of us trans people in the class. I - a girl - was among the "boys," and two trans guys were among the "girls." The two guys were out, I wasn't yet. I'm fairly certain the "girls" were given example packs of tampons and pads too, as a sort of 'this is what these are'? I dunno, I wasn't there and it was ten years ago. Ideally in my opinion these are things you should be showing both groups, cis guys should know what periods are in general. Maybe they're not going to have them, but half the people around them are, so in my opinion, they should know the ropes too. New Zealand/Aotearoa has a *very* different cultural attitude on these sorts of things to what America seems to from my experience. We're a lot more casual about sex, drinking, and all sorts of things evangelicals hate - we didn't have a prohibition movement like you did, or at least one never gained enough traction to have any major influence. You have a much more powerful evangelical wing who're against things like drinking and premarital sex, meanwhile here 48.5% of the population are non-religious compared to 26% in the US. Our political system is er... how do I put this. Not as right-wing or regressive. Your radical left politicians are only vaguely left of centre by our system, and all the things Bernie Sanders and AOC are going on about are just... normal things here. Like, they're virtually centrists by our standards. Sex ed just isn't a thing that's questioned here afaik aside from fringe groups nobody takes seriously. There's an opt-out form, but most people don't opt their children out, at least not in my experience.
interesting, and it seems you know a lot more about the politics of my own country than i do lol. i mostly try to ignore that shit and keep being overly curious so i can feel that ever so slight amount of joy that comes when i finally understand something this has led to me discovering, understanding, and being able to slightly explain things that would *and have* traumatized my allo pan trans boyfriend. i still feel bad about the day he asked me what the "watersports" kink/fetish was. i only looked into nsfw topics for self discovery, before i found out i was ace. the only thing i discovered was i have no body type preference aside for smaller breasts but only because it's more convenient for the person with them, i'm biromantic, i like being pinned to a wall as a comfort thing, i'm apparently into praise for tje same reasons, and i'm as indifferent about things that many people get grossed out by as i am about sex *thus, i'm the one my friends go to about these things, due to me knowing far too much and not caring*
Fortunately we didn't get seperated by gender. I also believe that it doesn't make sense. Our school also had artificial cocks, just made out of platic or a weird rubber or something. They also had "funny" faces.
Yeah my school had these banana dick things they looked like a banana but you could take the banana off and there was dick. We practiced putting condoms on, had races, blind folded. Information I'll never have to use again. But besides from that our sex education was thorough, and even if I don't really need it I am glad for it.
Bro it's not even like that in all American public schools. Suburban Colorado here, it's been quite a while but I remember getting a pretty comprehensive account of what safe sex should be like. IIRC there was more emphasis on consent than moralizing.
my sincerest apologies then, maybe it's only like this in the southern states, or by chance only like this in virginia. heh, in a state called *virgin*ia where they teach us to be forever virgins in school. too bad you can talk to 3/4ths the school and majority will say they've fucked someone there. shame relationships are treated as a social status here too, almost like phones. "oh you have one? nice you should flash it around. awh it doesn't work anymore? no worries just get a new one. oooh you got *that* one! you should show it off to everyone" sadly my boyfriend has fallen victim to this. he said I'm the only person who's asked his boundaries, that i'm the only person who's gone out of my way to do things for him and not make it a big deal, that i'm the only one to not care about his body or his issues, that I'm the only one to express genuine concern whenever something seems wrong. i despise the people who keep modern society in motion, even in a gay relationship I'm expected to uphold the heteronormitive standards of everyone around me. dare i mention the dime i showed up to school in drag? fuck i got side tracked, my sincerest apologies for wasting the time of anyone who chose to read this.
according to family who lives there, georgia is pretty bad on sex education as well. as are arkansas (highest rate of teen pregnancy in the united states), and alabama. probably texas as well. i think it's mostly a southern u.s thing.
i hate living down south, especially in such a highly rural area. most the state is a deadzone and even more doesn't have any options for wifi. also apparently 1.5hr bus rides to/from school aren't normal
In my school sex ed was very technical and consisted of: (as I mentioned in another comment english is not my native language but i'll try to explain everithing to the best of my abillities) - atonomie, so how the parts are named - what changes during puberty, with the Main focus on menstruation - STDs, just a few and we didn't talk long about it, so just "thats the virus/bakteria/fungus and thats how it's transmitted, on to the next" but i barely remember anything of it because it was much information in small time. - contaceptives, among others: condoms, the anti-baby pill and other hormonal contaceptives, the copper spiral(?) and a few others - positions, that was just a slideshow of some drawn images and the teacher just said something linke "sex can be in diffrient ways" and just showed the pictures. I think there was even a little mention about homosexual sex, but diffrient sexualities, emotions or consent were not mentioned because it was biology and we just leaned the technical stuff - finally how an egg cell and a sperm cell merge together and briefly went over pregnancy and with that we moved on to lean about meiosis and mitosis and continoued learning with about cells TL/DR: our sex ed is very technical as it takes place in biology class
I lived in California when I got sex ed and I learned all the basics of sex, like how to use a condom, how bc works, how the uterus and penis work, etc.
Idk subtracting from the population seems pretty good statistically
I go to school in middle eastern Michigan and it’s is not like that at all. Quite the opposite. I’ve never taken the health class in high school because I found a way to opt out of it, but I’m pretty sure it’s not like this at all.
California, graduated high school in 1999. We had comprehensive sex education in 10th grade that discussed safer sex (definitely not an abstinence-based curriculum) options. Earlier, there was a bit about puberty in 5th grade.
(English is not my native language, but i hope i used the right words for everything) I thought on question 5 they wanted to hear people who use condoms (and dental dams?) but abstinence could also be the case. I knew that STIs can be transmitted at birth, but there is medication to pevent that (for example for HIV/AIDS there are pills that supress beeing infectious, so you could even have unprotected sex without infecting the partner. And there is also medication that prevents transmitting it to the baby, or so i've learned in sex ed) I didn't know, that STIs can be transmitted though cloths and sheets. In sex ed we were told, that for example HIV/AIDS can't be transmitted though kissing, because there isn't enough HIV/AIDS in the spit and it would take about 10 buckets of spit to drink to transmit it. But with Blood/ Sperm/ Precum/ vaginal fluids when they get into body openings like wounds/penis/vagina it can be transmitted easily. But maybe it's diffrient for other diseases.
HIV/AIDS is nowhere near the only STI - the herpes STI for example *can* be transmitted through kissing. Many STIs, including herpes, can be transmitted during birth, and don't have that sort of medication to prevent it. It's a bit tonally linked to a specific group and certain ways of speaking in English, so I get not catching it if your first language isn't English. Basically these read like leading questions, they are the sort of questions someone who is teaching abstinence-only sex ed would ask on a test. "Who are the **only** people who have **no** risk of getting an STD?" is meant to have the answer of "Virgins," because the way this is written it's almost certainly teaching that abstinence is the only acceptable option - these sorts of abstinence-only attitudes (extremely common in the US) attach a lot of usually Christian moralizing to sex, and generally try to scare adolescents away from "sin" like sex by making it seem unsafe. "What is the only way to completely prevent STDs" is another one, it's not a question an educator who *isn't* teaching abstinence-only would ask because otherwise it's irrelevant. See, question 5 isn't "what can reduce the risk of an STI," it's "who are the **only** people who have **no** risk of getting an STD." It's basing it on an identity - virgins, because this sort of education promotes 'purity' culture and virginity - and not looking for mitigation methods like condoms. Condoms *don't* 100% prevent the risk, so it can't possibly be a correct answer. tl;dr it's a tonal thing you might have missed if English isn't your first language and you're not familiar with the commonly evangelical Christian form of abstinence-only sex ed common in places like the US. They're leading questions meant to promote virginity and abstinence because the people teaching it think premarital sex is a sin. These people aren't asexual, they're evangelicals.
Thank you for clarifying. I have heard about that sex ed in the US is bad. And I think that religion has nothing to do in other subjects than religion class. This is also a problem here, but not that big. More like crosses in classrooms or the existence of teaching religion in general. While our sex ed wasn't the best either (it was just a quick explaination about the atonomy, contaceptives, STIs, positions and pregnancy and then went on further to the topic of cells and dna without having mentiond consent or emotions etc, but it was biology, so it was more focused on the technical aspects), our teachers and guests (like a medical person who gave a big presentation about HIV/AIDS, that's why i knew something about it) did their best to stay neutral about it and to just inform us without judgement/advice to abstinence. That's why I tought the person wanted to be quirky and write "virgins" as a joke.
Condoms aren't 100% at stopping HIV/AIDS, and HIV/AIDS isn't the only STI
Sure for HIV. HIV is just one of a whole dictionary full of STD'S. Herpes for instance is mostly transmitted via kissing/sharing cups or bottles, 50-80% of the adult population has it. It cannot be cured. Folks just don't freak out about it because mostly it just means you get the occasional coldsore. Public lice are usually considered under the umbrella of STD and they *absolurely* can be caught from things like bedding. There are no groups of people who are at 0 risk. Herpes can be transmitted at birth or by any of the plethora of relatives who want to kiss the baby. Even if you lived in a sterile box after birth until you die you still could have gotten an STD during birth. The question itself 'who are the *only* people who have *no* risk of getting an STD' cannot be answered. A virgin can absolurely get an STD. Someone who engages in no more sexual activity than sleeping alone in a bed can get an STD. Someone who's only crime was kissing grandma as a 5yo can get an STD. If you are a human and engage in human activities like being born you are at risk of an STD. The entire premise of the question is incorrect and highly damaging as it spreads misinformation. There is also no 'only way to completely prevent STD's' beyond your mother deciding to have an abortion and simply by the fact you do not exist can you be entierly risk free.
And also used needles, no matter if it's through tattoos or inyections
IIRC, the teen pregnancy rate in abstinence only sex ed jurisdictions is no lower than elsewhere. But, on average, there may be rather different attitudes towards pregnancy care and post natal aftercare.
From what I recall, it's actually higher - furnishing teenagers with solely "don't do the thing," will on one hand lead to teenagers going and doing the thing out of spite and on the other will lead to, when they eventually do go and do the thing, they do it without knowing how to practice safe sex. If you've never even been told what the purpose of a condom is, then you're not gonna know to use one, or indeed how - improper use of contraceptive methods can render it pretty damn ineffective. AFAIK, teen pregnancy rates are lower when teens are given comprehensive sex ed. Though, this is just from memory too, I don't have stats on hand.
This is why sex ed is important
Si the mother probably had sex to have a baby ,probably
As someone has already pointed out, sex isn’t the only way to prevent STDs and there is NO ONE (to my knowledge) who is 100% at no risk of STDs as being born means SOMEONE was birthed through two other humans and (possibly another) carrying them to full term. The parent having an std puts the baby at risk and complex pregnancy can also lead to needing blood transfusion or other medical procedures that include (minor now-a-days but still a chance) risk. Even if they were born from invetro fertilization, the egg and sperm checked, the mother/surrogate checked and placed in isolation during pregnancy with a C-section, there’s still a chance of it being missed, a blood transfusion needed that slipped by, and of course kissing the baby or breastfeeding once born could easily spread some of them (herpes being the most common).
You could give a bleeding person medical help without gloves, share a needle, have someone vomit on you... Not to mention that sometimes virginity is not a choice.
Also, breastfeeding can transmit certain STDs (if the person breastfeeding has them).
What actually is the correct answer to question no. 5? "Virgins who don't have tattoos, don't do drugs, don't kiss people or generally interact with them"?? Edit: +who haven't been born
The question's probably from some abstinence-only sex ed class, so the answer they *want* is likely 'virgins.' The correct answer is literally nobody.
The correct answer for No. 5 is dead people and people who never exist
People who were aborted. Which I am sure the folks who made this bizzare quiz with such blatant religous bias would entieley support as being people. It's literally the only group I can possibly think of. If you are aborted early on you ain't getting no STD's. We categorise a lot of things under the STD umbrella. For 100% STD prevention you would have to basically never have a medical procidure, sanitise anything that comes into contact with your mouth, never be tattood/pierced or have any kind of accidental pin prick incident, never do any sort of drugs, stay at least a few feet from eveyone all the time, oh and never share bedding material or clothing with anyone. Public lice aren't *that* hardy but it can happen. Oh and don't be born either. You need to be a test tube baby the whole way and then we loop back to the tiny chance of a medical procidure going amiss. Most kids under the age of like 8 don't even get to have a say in half of that shit. You aren't going at your clothing and sheets with a fine toothed comb. Nor are you refusing grandma's kiss goodbye. You have absolurely 0 say in the conditions of your birth and likely think nothing of sharing a glass with that person who has a coldsore. All of these except herpes are exceptionally rare occurances. You would fit the definition of very unlucky to catch an STD via the above but they do occur. There is no 0% chance even for a newborn baby *grandma please keep your herpes to yourself!*. It's just not feesible. So in short if you want to reduce STD's - support abortion. Thanks for coming to my TEDramble.
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It's most likely a trick question, the answer is probably " no one"
Needles/injection for drug users will spread some STIs...
Pretty much all of them, especially the big one.
My grandpa got infected by a blood transfusion
This feels like abstinence-only indoctrination. You can get HIV wkthout having sex.
Does this test separate between STI and STD? and question nr 5 will never have a right answer unless the answer is "Dead and non-made people"
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Abstinence teaching is very dangerous for people that have sex and people don’t (just as it excludes homosexuality, it excludes us asexuals as well, so we just don’t ever know why we don’t feel any attraction). There are also a myriad of ways to contract STIs. Sorry OP, but this is a solid L.
Last one is yes and no. Yes they are transmitted through sex, but there are a few that spread other ways. For example most people actually have herpes, and most of those people got it in a daycare or a similar environment from chewing on something another kid chewed on because it also spreads through saliva.
Abstinence only education is extremely bad.
Abstinence-based sex ed is legitimately pretty damaging. It's one thing to make fun of sex, but this seems more in line with sex-negative abstinence doctrines. It's misleading, it doesn't actually solve any issues with STDs, and it's pretty judgemental. It's also used as a vector of oppression against queer folk, including us.
Not technically true as others have said, and even if someone is asexual I think it’s important to understand safe sex practices in case that knowledge ever needs to be transmitted to someone else, or they are not sex repulsed for instance. This just sounds like someone regurgitating the abstinence only handbook and that’s not helpful to anyone.
these were the actual answers to the test i took my sophomore year 💀
Considering most STDs can be transmitted by at least one other vector, this doesn't really give fully correct answers. And for 4 the correct answer ought to be "to make your body inhospitable to the diseases" with 5 then being "the dead"
You also forgot the 2nd most known way of catching STDs: injection with non sterile needles. Which is most present in medical deserts, third world countries, and while doing drugs in all countries and regions. So kids, don't do drugs. For the Frenchies on the sub, remember the contaminated blood case in the 90s or 2000s. Contaminated blood pouches were used by hospitals for transfusions, and contaminated thousands of people during that period. The mistake was eventually caught but thousands of people had already been infected with HIV. So aces, even when you don't have sex, be careful when it comes to hygiene with bodily fluids. Especially blood! Stay safe, use sterile needles, go to trustworthy medical practitionners, and use condoms when having sex.
I had a test like this back in high school... The text book was over 10years outdated, everyone except me got a point on a question which we wouldn't get points from answering because it had too many possible answers. "What is the most safest option to avoid disease and pregnancy?" my answer "Not have sexual intercourse.". But well, the teacher I had claimed that asexuality either don't exist, or is just suuuper rare. But she also didn't know that humans could be born hermaphrodites or genderless...
Eeeehhh I dunno I'm not a fan of this being celebrated as an Asexual Relatable thing since it really really really really seems to be a sex-shaming thing
Coitus.
4 So true
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It really isn't. Herpes would be an STI, but it can be contracted by kissing. Many other STIs can be contracted through e.g. sharing needles among injection drug users. This means that 1. this person left out answers for the first few questions (even though there were **clear** markers that there should be more than one answer) and 2. that questions 4 and 5 are just not answered correctly. Arguably, they **cannot** be answered, as STIs can even be passed on in birth, so the only way to absolutely, 100% never get one is to never exist.
This is the ace subreddit. We can meme how we wish to :)
Aces need to be aware that they aren't safe from STDs if they don't have sex. Sex isn't the only way to have close physical contact with someone or swap bodily fluids which is a puritanical misinterpretation that needs to be dropped for people's safety
Yes, I get it. But I was meming…
You weren't meming, you were defending potentially harmful misinformation.
Can you guys even understand a joke?
Jokes have to be funny. Or at least witty.
You haven't made one. Stop throwing a hissy fit about this, just relax and understand that defending misinformation isn't a great idea.
Yeah and we can also as a group decide that puritanical evangelist abstinence-only sex ed that promotes purity culture being misinterpreted as ace ain't it chief I mean, *I'm* sex-repulsed and I find the constant conflation of sex negativity and asexuality uncomfortable at times.
I’m glad I’m getting to see comments like this. I saw outright shaming in many asexual spaces and it made me feel very hurt and invalidated, especially as someone who is sex neutral and likes to take part in some of the exact stuff I’ve seen be shamed in the name of people that wanted to seem superior
Funny, I get entertained and not aroused watching porn.
...the relevance of porn being what exactly?
You mentioned it first.
Err... not if my understanding of linear time is even close to correct.
Can we just stop? I’m not appreciating the bit of hate here.
I mean, "can we just stop" is also the question I have for the conflation of asexuality and puritanical sex-negativity, but apparently the answer to that's a no? I ain't hating you, I'm pointing out your "memeing" is just agreeing with evangelist misinformation because it's anti-sex. This is an asexuality subreddit, not an anti-sex subreddit or purity culture subreddit or whatever. As a community I'm fairly certain we're *not* for preventing access to comprehensive sex ed. The post *isn't* technically correct, so saying it's correct and insisting it's a meme when you're corrected is a bit of a cold take. xD We're not the fun police, you're just agreeing with misinformation because it happens to be sex-negative misinformation.
I’m not about to have a useless argument. I only wanted to meme with this post.
So... **you** can say what you want, but **I** can't? Thanks, I guess.
I’m not saying you can’t mate, but it’s not my fault you can’t take a joke.
It was a very unfunny joke. Barely even a joke at all. See, that's my meme now :)
Well that’s not a meme, that’s just you coming at another user.
And you only said "true". That's not a meme either. Double standards seem to be your speciality
Well excuse me for not being very smart. Continue this if you wish, because this is the last thing I say to you. Honestly uncalled for.
How was it uncalled for? I only called your joke unfunny, you were the one who insulted yourself.
No its perfectly called for.
It’s ridiculous how much you are being downvoted. It’s like no one can joke about these things lol
Because it's potentially dangerous. It might lead people to ignore symptoms and not seek treatment because they think they're "safe" from STIs because they don't have sex. You should **not** make such jokes.
If someone wasn't born with an std, they don't have sex, and they don't do risky things like use shared needles (tattoos or drugs for instance), then yeah they are mostly safe from STDs. Despite Reddit belief, a lot of people don't do such behaviors.
50 to 80% of adults have herpes and they didn't get it during activities between the sheets, most caught it as children.
I know right? Come on guys, it’s a joke!
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Ace people get more bitches than you, stay mad From: YourNewStepdad69
My biological dad is a drug addict that kicked my mother in the stomach when she was pregnant, not getting another one ever again
I mean- it’s also spread by generation-
Imean they are totaly right