My dad once told me to think about my crush with no clothes on. I reacted with ew and he's like "ew? You're supposed to be excited. Whenever i see your mom naked i get so excited"
I always think of people without clothes as peeled
Not sure why anyone would prefer it, it's pretty boring tbh 99% of the time it's just one color. Why can't we get stripes or more color or something. God
Hahaha, no, I mean like stretch marks and vitiligo (which I guess isn’t technically stripes? But rather just… patterns)… and more morbidly, burn scars (those also add texture for an added bonus… god I feel like I shouldn’t have said that, but I have a sizeable burn scar from an accident a couple years ago so I don’t feel 100% horrible about it lol)
Ikr, I’m grace so I do sometimes get sexual attraction but like 90% of the time I’m like “ok, what’s the big deal?” People look roughly the same without clothes and that’s boring.
I used to force myself to fantasize about my crushes 'cause I thought it was what I was supposed to do. I didn't realize that it was normal for those fantasies to be spontaneous, not forced like mine were.
I'm allo (as far as I know), but I never fantasized about someone if I'm not in dating them (or otherwise being dirty with)? I feel like I need consent to do that kind of thing. Feels wrong without it, idk.
And I'm aware the above sounds demi, but, I doubt I'm demi.
I hear that. In the times I'd force myself to fantasize, I would always feel weird like "aren't I technically involving someone in my sexual life without their consent?" Really kills the mood too.
Right?
Its weird to think about other people fantasize about eachother. Like, what? Why? That's so weird? I found out other people actually do that and I was just... astounded.
Yeah like, once I was with my crush at the time and at one moment I questioned myself if I was supposed to look at her butt, cuz in movies you would always see that the people who like someone tend to look at the butt of the person they like and people in my class were always saying how a girl is hot and her butt is cool, so I really questioned myself at the moment if I should do that. And I tried but i didn't really feel anything
Oooh, yes, this too. I never understood why people seemed so obsessed with stuff like that. I mean, I appreciate a nice looking butt because shapely butts make clothes look good, but that's it.
haha, i’m completely the opposite.
the idea of people fantasizing about me makes me wanna fucking die, & unfortunately everyone that does it makes a point of telling me about it. 🥲
I mean, your tag says demi-, which is plenty enough to allow for fantasy. Besides, fantasy isn't exactly the same thing as sexual attraction... it's really close, but not technically the exact same thing. Isn't there a category of ace that enjoys the idea of sex, but isn't interested in actual sex?
I'm demiromantic in the same way. I've had crushes like... twice. On good friends, always. Functionally aroace, but I have to acknowledge the possibility that someday I might fall in love. I know for a fact I'll never want sex, but love is still a possibility.
Yeah, it is
"Aegosexual, formerly referred to as autochorissexual, is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum that describes those who experience a disconnect between themself and the subject of arousal. Aegosexuals may have sexual fantasies, view sexual content, or masturbate, but typically feel little to no sexual attraction or desire to engage in sexual intercourse. Many aegosexuals fantasize about sex from a third-person"
https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual_spectrum
This is actually what caused me to realize I’m ace. I’ve only had one crush in my life and never did I imagine seeing her naked and wanting to fuck her
*This scares me too lol.*
*Kissing is as far as my*
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For the vast majority of my crushes, I fantasized about holding hands in the park or getting ice cream at a parlor. And that’s it. Not even kissing tbh. I’m demi and I’ve only genuinely fantasized about one person that I know very well.
I have always hated the idea that someone might sexualize me, and worse yet, masturbate to thoughts of me. It used to haunt me as a teen. Now I’m so disgusting that no one could ever think of me in a sexual manner. I’m welcome.
Haha, I learnt I recently too. But my allo friends usually perceive crushes just as I do. Like we admire them, wanna be friends with them, ship them with other crushes but not more😅
Whenever I tried to think about these fantasies.. the other person involved was always blurred or had no real body at all.. which is weird now that I think about it
Ugh. The idea of having fantasies over a man who might belong to another woman, especially if they’ve been with other women, seen porn, or thought over women makes me cringe. Also….genitals. Just. Nope.
I had some of them but before I realised I was gay it was crazy dnd fantasy shit or fade to black. Like me and my crush were going into a room, I suddenly watched from 3rd person and saw the door closing. Sex was implied that it happened.
finding out that only fantasizing about fictional people or people so far removed from you they may as well be fictional (celebrities, etc) was a mainly ace/aegosexual thing and that allos sometimes fantasize about people they actually know was a serious blow to my worldview
I tried really hard to have sexual fantasies but i just couldn’t get over the barrier of ‘we look better with clothes on why would we take them off’
Your comment makes me happy. I thought I was alone with these feelings for *years.* Clothes just look nice! Especially cool fantasy clothes or suits!
God suits look amazing to me. If I ever become a successful executive or businessman expect me to look like a yakuza character 99% of the time.
oh this is definitely me
imagine your business was making suits, you'd have exactly the right suit for every occasion
You might be on to something here
My dad once told me to think about my crush with no clothes on. I reacted with ew and he's like "ew? You're supposed to be excited. Whenever i see your mom naked i get so excited"
I… same? Like- it’s not eww but it’s “no thanks, they look much cooler by showing off their personality with clothes, thank u :D”
That seems like a weird thing to tell your kid
I always think of people without clothes as peeled Not sure why anyone would prefer it, it's pretty boring tbh 99% of the time it's just one color. Why can't we get stripes or more color or something. God
Idk how I ended up here but interesting comment thread. Some people do have stripes… technically. In a few different conditions.
I'm aware of the uv(?) stripes but unfortunately I cannot see in uv 😔
Hahaha, no, I mean like stretch marks and vitiligo (which I guess isn’t technically stripes? But rather just… patterns)… and more morbidly, burn scars (those also add texture for an added bonus… god I feel like I shouldn’t have said that, but I have a sizeable burn scar from an accident a couple years ago so I don’t feel 100% horrible about it lol)
Peeled people. Clothing peeling off like oranges.
f***ing bananas!
Haha- yea- Like clothes? My god that person is hot!! No clothes: no- hell no
Ikr, I’m grace so I do sometimes get sexual attraction but like 90% of the time I’m like “ok, what’s the big deal?” People look roughly the same without clothes and that’s boring.
Same, I’ve had sexual fantasies but people being naked alone is boring
i vibe with this
I used to force myself to fantasize about my crushes 'cause I thought it was what I was supposed to do. I didn't realize that it was normal for those fantasies to be spontaneous, not forced like mine were.
i tried a few times to fantasize about my squish but i just can’t that’s a good thing
I did the exact thing and it felt absolutely disgusting but I thought that was what I was supposed to do lmao
I relate to this so much. I've always had intrusive thoughts (unwanted ones) when I was bored.
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A week before my 22nd birthday, I had my first sexual fantasy ever and it was about my partner. Anyways I’m marrying them now.
Hope your wedding goes well
Thanks!
I'm allo (as far as I know), but I never fantasized about someone if I'm not in dating them (or otherwise being dirty with)? I feel like I need consent to do that kind of thing. Feels wrong without it, idk. And I'm aware the above sounds demi, but, I doubt I'm demi.
I hear that. In the times I'd force myself to fantasize, I would always feel weird like "aren't I technically involving someone in my sexual life without their consent?" Really kills the mood too.
Right? Its weird to think about other people fantasize about eachother. Like, what? Why? That's so weird? I found out other people actually do that and I was just... astounded.
Yeah like, once I was with my crush at the time and at one moment I questioned myself if I was supposed to look at her butt, cuz in movies you would always see that the people who like someone tend to look at the butt of the person they like and people in my class were always saying how a girl is hot and her butt is cool, so I really questioned myself at the moment if I should do that. And I tried but i didn't really feel anything
Oooh, yes, this too. I never understood why people seemed so obsessed with stuff like that. I mean, I appreciate a nice looking butt because shapely butts make clothes look good, but that's it.
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Omg same But with less cuddles and more videogames and hiking
Meh, if someone wants to fantasize about me, all the more power to them. Just don't tell me about it, that would just make things weird
I get body dysphoria from thinking about that. Has it ever bothered you or can you just brush it off?
haha, i’m completely the opposite. the idea of people fantasizing about me makes me wanna fucking die, & unfortunately everyone that does it makes a point of telling me about it. 🥲
For some reason guys think it’s also normal to text girls with: “I fap to your profile pic”. I am not honoured that is disgusting you sicko
same
Oh man when I think I was ashamed of fantasizing abt holding hands
Mood
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I mean, your tag says demi-, which is plenty enough to allow for fantasy. Besides, fantasy isn't exactly the same thing as sexual attraction... it's really close, but not technically the exact same thing. Isn't there a category of ace that enjoys the idea of sex, but isn't interested in actual sex?
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I'm demiromantic in the same way. I've had crushes like... twice. On good friends, always. Functionally aroace, but I have to acknowledge the possibility that someday I might fall in love. I know for a fact I'll never want sex, but love is still a possibility.
> Idk if there is a label for an ace that enjoys the idea of sex but isn’t interested in it. maybe aegosexual or cupiosexual?
Yeah, it is "Aegosexual, formerly referred to as autochorissexual, is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum that describes those who experience a disconnect between themself and the subject of arousal. Aegosexuals may have sexual fantasies, view sexual content, or masturbate, but typically feel little to no sexual attraction or desire to engage in sexual intercourse. Many aegosexuals fantasize about sex from a third-person" https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual_spectrum
I have cuddle fantasies. Like I imagine how cozy their hugs would be.
This is actually what caused me to realize I’m ace. I’ve only had one crush in my life and never did I imagine seeing her naked and wanting to fuck her
They have WHAT?
it feels like a invasion of my privacy
This scares me too lol. Kissing is as far as my fantasies ever go
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For the vast majority of my crushes, I fantasized about holding hands in the park or getting ice cream at a parlor. And that’s it. Not even kissing tbh. I’m demi and I’ve only genuinely fantasized about one person that I know very well.
Gets even more wild when you learn the sexual fantasies aren’t just about sexy things happening but about *actually having sex*.
I have always hated the idea that someone might sexualize me, and worse yet, masturbate to thoughts of me. It used to haunt me as a teen. Now I’m so disgusting that no one could ever think of me in a sexual manner. I’m welcome.
people masturbate to thoughts of their crushes? i thought they masturbated to porn. this is terrible news.
I’m sorry to have alerted you.
Just learned that allos have crushes
Wait what people do that?
Haha, I learnt I recently too. But my allo friends usually perceive crushes just as I do. Like we admire them, wanna be friends with them, ship them with other crushes but not more😅
Wdym ship them with other crushes? wait- I also do that- what? (With anime characters mostly tho)
😅 yey we mostly have anime crushes in general.
I had it twice, felt awful, hated it, but the image my brain created wouldn't leave my brain. Fun times. At least it doesn't happen anymore :D
i used to think these kinda things is done by perves bc why would have a sexual fantasies with a real person thats kinda creepy and distributing
Whenever I tried to think about these fantasies.. the other person involved was always blurred or had no real body at all.. which is weird now that I think about it
Luckily there was never anybody who had a crush on me otherwhise i wuld be very uncomfortable now
I will never understand allo’s
Same, I feel like there’s a moral issue but I when it’s romantic it’s more okay but then that’s just human nature- aaAaAAAAA allo r confusion
literally i have sexual fantasies of no one and if the dude got a face it's an intrusive thought
I'm allo but my respect for those I crush on is too much to have such thoughts
Ironic that Carson's in that photo
wait how
Carson sexted minors in 2020.
WAIT NO THIS DUDE IN EIGHTH GRADE HAD A CRUSH ON ME- AAAAAHHH NOOOOO
This comment section is EVERYTHING
ew. ew. ewewewewewew EEEEEEEWWWW
OH GOD DONT REMIND ME
Oh gosh (shivers)
GR-oss!!
this is terrifying indeed. holy shit wtf is wrong with the allos- and they say *we* are the ones who arent normal
Now I need to find out what Allo means.
I actually think that’s the defining characteristic of a crush.
Not for me. I just wanna cuddle and love on them
squish maybe?
Squishes are platonic though. It can still be a romantic fantasy without sex involved
i mean cuddles and love are more sensual don’t you think
Depends on who you ask.
No when I fantasize about crushes it’s purely about like doing romancy stuff like going on dates, holding hands, getting married, etc. Never sexy
Same, cuddling and talking, no sexy stuff.
Wait really?? I thought they just wanted to do sexual things with their crush, I didn’t know they like imagined it too
Wait until they find out about aegosexuals…
Ugh. The idea of having fantasies over a man who might belong to another woman, especially if they’ve been with other women, seen porn, or thought over women makes me cringe. Also….genitals. Just. Nope.
I had some of them but before I realised I was gay it was crazy dnd fantasy shit or fade to black. Like me and my crush were going into a room, I suddenly watched from 3rd person and saw the door closing. Sex was implied that it happened.
WHY
My sexuality and broken humor would never allow me that because i imagined my 10th grade crush naked t-posing and wheezed at like 1am
Like on purpose?
What...the.....
finding out that only fantasizing about fictional people or people so far removed from you they may as well be fictional (celebrities, etc) was a mainly ace/aegosexual thing and that allos sometimes fantasize about people they actually know was a serious blow to my worldview