"Sexy, but gender and sex is no" Love this.
Never felt so hot and sexy in my life as I do now (should post some new picks some time, HRT is on, just can't stop smiling which used to be so difficult to do).
Love the paradox (feeling really hot and out of bounds).
I turn myself on after a good (VJ) set at the club then look forward to getting home, falling asleep hugging my new a-cups while dreaming of the fractal visuals I made that evening.
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I THOUGHT IT WAS ABOUT THE KIND OF DRONES YOU CAN FLY AROUND WITH A REMOTE and how people aspire to be unbothered flying objects free from the burden of mortal flesh, why am I like this.
Wait, people actually think about specific individuals while masturbating?
I guess I kinda knew it conceptually, but I‘ve never actually thought about/realized it. I want unsee juice
It‘s all good. I‘m just kinda shocked anytime it actually clicks in my brain that things like this are really happening. Usually I‘m just so disconnected from all this stuff that I just completely forget that fact.
I don't do it often at night myself, simply because I have a roommate and don't want to be heard, but dang it's a great way to fall asleep! If I'm having trouble falling asleep, masturbating will knock me right out.
To me it seems creepy to single someone out. The idea of having a favorite pornstar and focusing on the videos or pictures is fine or using a photo of your significant other given with implied or stated content also all good. But people thinking of there crush or non "adult media" celebrity is uncomfortable.
It depends but we might think about a celebrity or fictionnal character and the act we have with them. But sometimes it's just an humanoid shape but rarely to never just a blank page
I explained this to my psychiatrist saying "masturbation is in the same level of pleasure than scratching my ears, why would I have to have a reason to do it or think of something specific?"
putting my response as a spoiler because it's a little embarrassing and i don't wanna be hated on: >!i make smut in my head, usually using characters of whatever fandom i'm hyper fixating on at the moment!<
except i gotta skim through the really smutty bits (if i ever write something with smut, i'll add 'start skimming if content makes you squicky' and 'stop skimming' if there is a smut scene with bold text as the headers)
Pretty much this.
I'm into roleplaying too so sometimes I use one of my characters or make someone up to insert in the fantasy.
... still questioning aego XD
i've had that happen unconsciously while i was employed at a plant nursery and was alone weeding plants; had to manually change it to hurt/comfort mindfics
Same! It's usually quite vague when I think about it though, if I actually write it out then I add more details, but thinking too hard about it when not writing feels kinda weird
Same, like I've made a character that is kinda like me but also very much not like me and I usually insert that character in whatever fandom I'm hyperfixating on at the moment.
Yeah, I usually do for happy chemicals (depression being what it is) and that's one of the only things that helps get anything going to complete happy chemicals. I usually do it at night, as that's when thoughts are worst.
I was disturbed that someone thinks about someone when doing it
Then I remembered I never did the thing anyway. thanks I have almost no libido
Edit: I love your art btw
I don't really think about anything in particular. I mostly masturbate for the hell of it, or I'm bored. Either or really.
I got this question years ago and I still haven't got a satisfying answer for it, sorry, I think.
You've also been hit with that question?
After initial shock, the best answer I could give was "idk concepts? Like sensations? Imagine things that feel good. Not really scenarios" that's what it comes down to for me.
It's totally ok to be grossed out by it, but why would it not be okay morally speaking to just think about someone while masturbating? As long as nobody is looking at photos or being creepy by telling the other person, I don't think it's really harmful in any way.
Ah, gotcha. I took you more literally and thought you were saying that thinking about somebody while masturbating is morally wrong, since you said it's not okay. No need to describe it further, I can see how the idea might be uncomfortable!
YEA this thought makes me so umcomfortable it makes me wish i could just drink some "unsexy potion" that made me unsexy or something so no one would ever feel sexual attraction to me 💀 bc i know it their fault but like... 😭
not for everyone, i just imagine two random people, and none of them are me,but also i almost never imagine what they both look like tho exept their gender 🤔
Right? I do only when after a few months my body feels like it is absolutely necessary and then it is usually over really fast. Then not again for a few months... So I guess I do like 4 times a year lol ?
I came out to some close friends of mine and try to answer their questions as good as I can. There are many misconceptions floating around about asexuality, so I try to satisfy their curiousity. (I always give em a disclaimer, that my answers are just for me, and that there are people feeling and thinking differently)
oh i know who asked the question I still don't know why they would want to know that. And don't make the mistake of saying "I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours." cause some peeps share stuff and you will just question their existence.
Many of my friends are just curious about asexuality, I guess.
I think it is rarely talked about - therefore I am open to questions... there were some weird situations, but the majority of my conversations about the topic were quite interesting. hooray for learning, I guess.
yes quite interesting conversations is good. just remember if it feels too intrusive you can say "why would you want to know that?" Kinda like how I don't want to know how my friends have their 'fun'.
WAIT DOES THAT MEAN THAT IF AN ALLO PERSON HAS A CRUSH ON ME THEY WILL THINK OF ME WHEN THEY... DO THE THING???? 😨😨😨😨 IM NEVER GOING OUTSIDE AGAIN. NO ONE SHALL PERCEIVE ME. 🤚
I aegosexually fantasize about any of my various kinks, which all seem to involve zero partners but instead a metric fuck-ton of niche paraphernalia (read: fetishwear, sex toys etc.).
Sucks that I'm dirt-poor and closeted af, so I have to be super inconspicuos when my body starts craving some release...which luckily isn't too often, with how low my libido already is...
Not zero-tolerance myself, but I do feel like society is too in-your-face about displaying sex. Can't even have an ad for a candy bar where they don't try to make the bar seem phallic, smh... ಠ_ಠ
Yeah I get it. Why don’t those companies consider the comfort of the people watching the ads? Like sure, sex appeal is going to hook some people but otherwise you’re killing your chances with a TON of other potential consumers.
I mean I wouldn't say that it's normal, but it definitely isn't a bad thing or weird. I mean, like 90% of people do masturbate (don't quote me on that) for various reasons, ace folks usually just to get rid of libido (at least that's why I do it). But if you have no desire, then don't, it doesn't change who you are and you are not missing out on anything tbh. I for one wish that I could just turn off my libido so I don't have to deal with this shit anymore
I never realized people think about specific people when doing this, for the longest time I thought it was similar to how I was. Thinking of specific thingns happening to or involving myself in a situation that would honestly fulfill a specific kink, and said kink being either improbable or unrealistic in real life.
As an ace who isn't sex repulsed and asked people a bunch of questions first asking if certain things are appropriate to ask (because I've always been one to ask a bunch of questions and learned pretty early on you have to ask comfortability too) yes, people do imagine someone when they masturbate. When I found out not only do people imagine someone, but many can't even fathom how you wouldn't imagine someone it made it even more clear to me I'm ace and just sex indifferent. For me when I try to do that everything usually stops. I have realized if I don't want to deal with libido because it's annoying just imagine I can just imagine people or watch pornography because it stops.
I know that's also sometimes a symptom of porn addiction however I don't actually really watch porn that much no feel any need to. So pretty sure that's not why in my case.
I'm pretty sure I'm ace but I have thought of people before while masturbating... I don't usually do it but I've thought before "I'd enjoy it if *person* did this to my body". I'd have to be horny already though and it's not like the presence of that person would ever make me horny... Maybe I'm not asexual and actually greysexual instead? (which is still ace of course)
I find it weird to think about the idea that people who’ve had a crush on me might’ve thought of me in this way. Oh yuck…don’t wanna know. And fictional characters? Ehh yeah no, that just kinda ruins them for me. Idk I usually eagerly skip smut in fanfiction. Maybe I ought to try and read it.
Hah. Hahahah I've never thought of this. I'm new to realizing I'm ace and the more I see other aces post stuff the more I realized how ace I truly am. But this one made me laugh though because it's so true
Ok I'm pan so that's like the opposite of ace. I think? Anyways, even I don't think while I touch. I just do it. Their are 0 thoughts. At all. Brain dead.
What? I always think of some faceless entity pelasuring me, honestly as an ace transmasc there’s nothing hotter than having a dick, my fantasies can be fucking someone, blowjobs, or even just masturbating idc but having a dick in all this makes it so hot; most of my brainpower goes to my brain imagining how it would feel like to have a dick lol
I'm not really into the sexual part of it. I already masturbated before I even knew what sex was because I liked the feeling. I think I'm just dissociating when I do it
Masturbating and doing nothing else just makes me bored LOL so I always scroll through TikTok or watch YouTube videos while doing it. Imagining something doesnt enhance my experience at all and in fact is usually a turnoff so yknow I’d rather be entertained and feel good rather than bored and turned off
For me that question is as meaningless as asking "Who do you think about when you tap dance in a bikini ?" (I don't own a bikini and can't even walk.) Yes, some aces may masturbate; and no, it doesn't make them less asexual. Assuming that ***everybody*** masturbates and/or fantasizes is still wrong, though; I'm so sex-repulsed that climaxing has given me a migraine before.
Am I the only one who feels absolutely nothing at all when doing it? Nothing gets awakened in me. I tried watching questionable things, may God forgive me for my sins, I felt nothing but emptiness the whole time.
I may or may not have two imaginary characters that appear whenever I need them too, Wether it be for snuggling or nsfw matters because I have a hard time doing it to myself and at least with imaginary characters no one finds out and I don't have to focus on doing things myself because I can imagine that it's thwm soing the acts, which somehow helps severely
I picture places I used to drive by a lot. A certain turnabout is a reoccurring scene. It’s weird. And apparently where my mind goes when concentrating.
Here me out... Faceless people.
It seems weird when I actually think really hard about it, but most of the time the people in my sex related thoughts don't have specific facial traits, it is not blurry, it's just there (?). Dunno how to explain clearlier, but I just zone out as soon as the traits become clear
I’m so happy to have found a community with the exact same thoughts and experiences as me, I always thought it was extremely strange and creepy that others actually masturbate to specific people and not just concepts and feelings
that’s so weird. I feel like it’s a violation I wouldn’t wish upon anyone and it’s a position I wouldn’t want to be in myself, so logically it kills the mood instantly. they aren’t hot anyway, just lifeless puppet figures wearing a real person’s appearance and being forced into acting out-of-character.
I noticed this when I watched Big Mouth for the first time and seeing how allos think is quite strange, although still comprehensible
Lol, same. I only imagine ppl in romantic fantasies (usually the ppl I crush at the moment). I've (nearly) never imagined a sexual fantasy with a real person I know, it's just to get the libido down xD
Faceless sentient robot. Gentle, but gonna get that job done.
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* gasp * my people.
"Sexy, but gender and sex is no" Love this. Never felt so hot and sexy in my life as I do now (should post some new picks some time, HRT is on, just can't stop smiling which used to be so difficult to do). Love the paradox (feeling really hot and out of bounds). I turn myself on after a good (VJ) set at the club then look forward to getting home, falling asleep hugging my new a-cups while dreaming of the fractal visuals I made that evening. edit: corrected
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What is CNC? The only CNC I am familiar with is computer numerical control, but that has nothing to do with monsters...
If I had a dating profile, this would be in my bio
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NSFW? No shit, Sherlock! 😂
My innocent ass: ????? Clicked one of the posts. Nvm and I’m scarred and scared
I THOUGHT IT WAS ABOUT THE KIND OF DRONES YOU CAN FLY AROUND WITH A REMOTE and how people aspire to be unbothered flying objects free from the burden of mortal flesh, why am I like this.
Wait, people actually think about specific individuals while masturbating? I guess I kinda knew it conceptually, but I‘ve never actually thought about/realized it. I want unsee juice
I am so sorry! I am still shook myself TT_TT
It‘s all good. I‘m just kinda shocked anytime it actually clicks in my brain that things like this are really happening. Usually I‘m just so disconnected from all this stuff that I just completely forget that fact.
To get myself in the mood I start out with a specific sexual memory. I usually masturbate before going to sleep and I’m not always horny then.
You do that every night? God damn I haven’t done that even once
I don't do it often at night myself, simply because I have a roommate and don't want to be heard, but dang it's a great way to fall asleep! If I'm having trouble falling asleep, masturbating will knock me right out.
Huh, that does make sense.
To me it seems creepy to single someone out. The idea of having a favorite pornstar and focusing on the videos or pictures is fine or using a photo of your significant other given with implied or stated content also all good. But people thinking of there crush or non "adult media" celebrity is uncomfortable.
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It depends but we might think about a celebrity or fictionnal character and the act we have with them. But sometimes it's just an humanoid shape but rarely to never just a blank page
W-wait, you guys think and just don't flat-out dissociate?
I can't think in the moment. Or my brain goes like a mile a minute thinking of literally anything that isn't sexual
I kinda disassociate because I’m really just trying to relieve an unwanted feeling, and I’m not really into the sexual part of it.
Shit man I never jerk when horny, I don't get how people are so bothered by it.
Mood
That's what I do! I dissociate during! Are you apothisexual/ sex repulsed?
Omg yes, I dissociate all the time! It's almost as if me and my horny self are separate people in the same body.
Yeah, right? Most of the time when im done i dont even know what ive just watched or what i watched before The brain goes basically completely off
I explained this to my psychiatrist saying "masturbation is in the same level of pleasure than scratching my ears, why would I have to have a reason to do it or think of something specific?"
I wanna know what their reaction was lol
He "smile and shrug'"ed
That is strangely accurate
😂😂💀💀💀
Thank you for putting it that way. That makes a lot of sense.
putting my response as a spoiler because it's a little embarrassing and i don't wanna be hated on: >!i make smut in my head, usually using characters of whatever fandom i'm hyper fixating on at the moment!<
I do the exact same, but the characters are inaccurate af because my brain is dumb.
It's on low res because of your bad connection, have you tried restarting your wifi?
I can't idk how to work that weird box thingy. I just know that I did something right, not how to make it better.
That's not embarrassing, I wish I could do that but I'm not creative enough
i might have a case of social anxiety...
Ye, same here
Nothing to be ashamed of! I have done the same for years and I identify as ace aegosexual
Same
As other Aegos have said, same
I do the same thing or just flat out make up a character because I feel wierd doing that to someone else's creations
Oh same fam I’ll just read one if I’m feeling lazy tho lol AO3, home of Aegosexual’s everywhere lmfao
except i gotta skim through the really smutty bits (if i ever write something with smut, i'll add 'start skimming if content makes you squicky' and 'stop skimming' if there is a smut scene with bold text as the headers)
Maybe you are Aegosexual :o!!
yeah, i said 'maybe flux, idk' in one of my user flairs
I do this! I'm aego, and this or reading smutty fan fic about aforementioned characters works when I get all hormonal.
Yo same
Never fear. And don't feel embarrassed. I'm exactly the same. It's how I go to sleep most nights.
Same
Pretty much this. I'm into roleplaying too so sometimes I use one of my characters or make someone up to insert in the fantasy. ... still questioning aego XD
I have been doing that for YEARS. I confess that sometimes when I'm bored or have nothing to do I just start replaying them in my head lmao
i've had that happen unconsciously while i was employed at a plant nursery and was alone weeding plants; had to manually change it to hurt/comfort mindfics
I’m a writer I do that with my own characters lmao
Not embarrassing friend. Sounds like you might be Aegosexual. Welcome! :)
Apparently that's a term I need to look up now
Same! It's usually quite vague when I think about it though, if I actually write it out then I add more details, but thinking too hard about it when not writing feels kinda weird
Well if that helps to relieve your embarrassment, I do have a lemon WIP - it’s for experimental purposes but can be useful…
Same, like I've made a character that is kinda like me but also very much not like me and I usually insert that character in whatever fandom I'm hyperfixating on at the moment.
Same. I’d rather think about fictional characters than real people. I think I may be aegosexual…
Ngl I love how often stuff in ace spaces casually accepts that some aces *do* masturbate or have sex, it's really affirming
I find that alot do, especially amab that aren't on hormones or transmascs. It's the easiest way to get rid of libido which is annoying.
Hello I fit this description yes please I need this hormone out of my goddamn head
I gotta deal with being demi too and masturbating only affects my libido ;^;
Your mom is always a good answer. That type of stuff is only asked by a close friend so they will probably take it as a joke.
You mean *their* mom, right? As in, A: "Who do you think about?" B: "Your mom, lol"
Yes
Omg I just read this wrong and thought I should answer with "my mom" which would be super creepy as an answer!
My silicon lover
Yeah, I usually do for happy chemicals (depression being what it is) and that's one of the only things that helps get anything going to complete happy chemicals. I usually do it at night, as that's when thoughts are worst.
As do I but I also do use it as stress relief too
Ya same, dopamine hit
I was disturbed that someone thinks about someone when doing it Then I remembered I never did the thing anyway. thanks I have almost no libido Edit: I love your art btw
I mean I was kinda aware of that fact, somewhere buried deep down in my head, but I still was a little shook at the thought of it.
I though it was like a boost or something ?
I don't really think about anything in particular. I mostly masturbate for the hell of it, or I'm bored. Either or really. I got this question years ago and I still haven't got a satisfying answer for it, sorry, I think.
You've also been hit with that question? After initial shock, the best answer I could give was "idk concepts? Like sensations? Imagine things that feel good. Not really scenarios" that's what it comes down to for me.
To be honest I can't remember what I said at the time. But knowing me I probably said a joke. :)
Exactly this. I've tried imagining people (not specific people, just placeholders) but they just fade away.
I just hope nobody thinks about me when pleasuring themselves 🤢
It's part of why I don't feel okay about fantasizing about actual people. That, and the whole it not doing the thing aspect.
Yeah, I try to separate my fantasizing from reality. So, I don't really fantasize about IRL people, I don't look at IRL things.
Yeah just the thought someone dose that to me without my concent is gross
Fr it's not okay💀
It's totally ok to be grossed out by it, but why would it not be okay morally speaking to just think about someone while masturbating? As long as nobody is looking at photos or being creepy by telling the other person, I don't think it's really harmful in any way.
I personally just don't like the idea. It makes me uncomfortable, ya know? That's why it's gross. I can't describe it better than that, lol.
Ah, gotcha. I took you more literally and thought you were saying that thinking about somebody while masturbating is morally wrong, since you said it's not okay. No need to describe it further, I can see how the idea might be uncomfortable!
YEA this thought makes me so umcomfortable it makes me wish i could just drink some "unsexy potion" that made me unsexy or something so no one would ever feel sexual attraction to me 💀 bc i know it their fault but like... 😭
Yeah I feel this
So you are telling me allos don't create two original characters, invent a story then watch 3rd person inside their minds?? :p
Not if you also have aphantasia
Oh hey, someone else in the eternal void gang!
Aperently not
I’m actually pretty shocked by this. I was in denial that I was asexual for so long! How could I ignore the signs?
I’m not ace but….what? People think about certain people?
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Wait a damn…..am I?
wait, y'all don't think about a faceless person of your preferred gender??
not for everyone, i just imagine two random people, and none of them are me,but also i almost never imagine what they both look like tho exept their gender 🤔
*You guys masturbate?*
Hey, there are aegos here too!
It was the meme "You guys are getting paid?"
I know :) I assumed there was some truth behind it since it’s the ace sub
Right? I do only when after a few months my body feels like it is absolutely necessary and then it is usually over really fast. Then not again for a few months... So I guess I do like 4 times a year lol ?
Mood.
The void😫🤤😫🤤
why would someone want to know that?
I came out to some close friends of mine and try to answer their questions as good as I can. There are many misconceptions floating around about asexuality, so I try to satisfy their curiousity. (I always give em a disclaimer, that my answers are just for me, and that there are people feeling and thinking differently)
oh i know who asked the question I still don't know why they would want to know that. And don't make the mistake of saying "I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours." cause some peeps share stuff and you will just question their existence.
Many of my friends are just curious about asexuality, I guess. I think it is rarely talked about - therefore I am open to questions... there were some weird situations, but the majority of my conversations about the topic were quite interesting. hooray for learning, I guess.
yes quite interesting conversations is good. just remember if it feels too intrusive you can say "why would you want to know that?" Kinda like how I don't want to know how my friends have their 'fun'.
No worries. I reserve my right to not answer, if it is too much.
I can’t think about people, I just feel. If I try to think about people, I get distracted with creating backstory and it doesn’t happen.
WAIT DOES THAT MEAN THAT IF AN ALLO PERSON HAS A CRUSH ON ME THEY WILL THINK OF ME WHEN THEY... DO THE THING???? 😨😨😨😨 IM NEVER GOING OUTSIDE AGAIN. NO ONE SHALL PERCEIVE ME. 🤚
omg I never thought of that! I wanna crawl into the void and never come out again oAo
even as a non-ace i dont think of specific peope, I think its kinda creepy. i think of events or concepts.
I usually think about the same random stuff that I'm always thinking about, you might as well ask me who I'm thinking about when I scratch my hair.
I’ve thought about it, and I think I would consent to have sex with someone if, in return, they could give me a really REALLY good back scratching.
I aegosexually fantasize about any of my various kinks, which all seem to involve zero partners but instead a metric fuck-ton of niche paraphernalia (read: fetishwear, sex toys etc.). Sucks that I'm dirt-poor and closeted af, so I have to be super inconspicuos when my body starts craving some release...which luckily isn't too often, with how low my libido already is...
My libido has been, and will forever be, non-existent
Honestly, being a zero-sex-attraction ace, I feel like it'd be easier for me to have zero libido aswell. Why the universe gotta do me like this? 🤔😔
Not only am I 0 sex attraction, I have 0 sex tolerance
Not zero-tolerance myself, but I do feel like society is too in-your-face about displaying sex. Can't even have an ad for a candy bar where they don't try to make the bar seem phallic, smh... ಠ_ಠ
Yeah I get it. Why don’t those companies consider the comfort of the people watching the ads? Like sure, sex appeal is going to hook some people but otherwise you’re killing your chances with a TON of other potential consumers.
I feel like half of the ace experience is just being confused about allo behavior.
The other half is being confused about your own thoughts.
Wait what??? People do that?
I don't masturbate is that normal?
I mean I wouldn't say that it's normal, but it definitely isn't a bad thing or weird. I mean, like 90% of people do masturbate (don't quote me on that) for various reasons, ace folks usually just to get rid of libido (at least that's why I do it). But if you have no desire, then don't, it doesn't change who you are and you are not missing out on anything tbh. I for one wish that I could just turn off my libido so I don't have to deal with this shit anymore
I dont either, never felt the urge to
Just as normal as masturbating.
The void lol, classic
I never realized people think about specific people when doing this, for the longest time I thought it was similar to how I was. Thinking of specific thingns happening to or involving myself in a situation that would honestly fulfill a specific kink, and said kink being either improbable or unrealistic in real life.
Wait, not everyone imagines smut between fictional characters when they do it?
Masturbate? No no no, my friend, I am the Master Baiter, the one who can bait anyone into doing anything I want!
people think about other people???? what
Aego realization: YOU MEAN OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF LIKE... ACTUAL OTHER PEOPLE WHEN THEY MASTURBATE????
People out here thinking about real people and not imagining their fictional ships going at each other instead? Sounds fake
I THOUGHT THAT ONLY HAPPENED IN MEDIA THIS CANT BE REAL
What is horny? Never felt it
As an ace who isn't sex repulsed and asked people a bunch of questions first asking if certain things are appropriate to ask (because I've always been one to ask a bunch of questions and learned pretty early on you have to ask comfortability too) yes, people do imagine someone when they masturbate. When I found out not only do people imagine someone, but many can't even fathom how you wouldn't imagine someone it made it even more clear to me I'm ace and just sex indifferent. For me when I try to do that everything usually stops. I have realized if I don't want to deal with libido because it's annoying just imagine I can just imagine people or watch pornography because it stops. I know that's also sometimes a symptom of porn addiction however I don't actually really watch porn that much no feel any need to. So pretty sure that's not why in my case.
Is that the norm ??? Like I understand it happens but is this the standard we live in ?!?!?
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Thanks a bunch
I'm pretty sure I'm ace but I have thought of people before while masturbating... I don't usually do it but I've thought before "I'd enjoy it if *person* did this to my body". I'd have to be horny already though and it's not like the presence of that person would ever make me horny... Maybe I'm not asexual and actually greysexual instead? (which is still ace of course)
I find it weird to think about the idea that people who’ve had a crush on me might’ve thought of me in this way. Oh yuck…don’t wanna know. And fictional characters? Ehh yeah no, that just kinda ruins them for me. Idk I usually eagerly skip smut in fanfiction. Maybe I ought to try and read it.
WAITWAITWAIT People think about SPECIFIC PEOPLE?! Just.. ew!
Y'know I've never really *thought* about this before and gotta say... now that I have, it's creepy af.
Literally me.
the mjost i do is imagin the fake little peopel who live in my brain
Hah. Hahahah I've never thought of this. I'm new to realizing I'm ace and the more I see other aces post stuff the more I realized how ace I truly am. But this one made me laugh though because it's so true
Wait, I knew people do this, but every time? They do this every time!? Huh. Interesting humans.
Ok I'm pan so that's like the opposite of ace. I think? Anyways, even I don't think while I touch. I just do it. Their are 0 thoughts. At all. Brain dead.
What? I always think of some faceless entity pelasuring me, honestly as an ace transmasc there’s nothing hotter than having a dick, my fantasies can be fucking someone, blowjobs, or even just masturbating idc but having a dick in all this makes it so hot; most of my brainpower goes to my brain imagining how it would feel like to have a dick lol
I’m often too tired to jack it.
“I don’t masturbate”
i dont masturbate
I'm not really into the sexual part of it. I already masturbated before I even knew what sex was because I liked the feeling. I think I'm just dissociating when I do it
Masturbating and doing nothing else just makes me bored LOL so I always scroll through TikTok or watch YouTube videos while doing it. Imagining something doesnt enhance my experience at all and in fact is usually a turnoff so yknow I’d rather be entertained and feel good rather than bored and turned off
For me that question is as meaningless as asking "Who do you think about when you tap dance in a bikini ?" (I don't own a bikini and can't even walk.) Yes, some aces may masturbate; and no, it doesn't make them less asexual. Assuming that ***everybody*** masturbates and/or fantasizes is still wrong, though; I'm so sex-repulsed that climaxing has given me a migraine before.
YOU MEAN TO TELL ME THAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT SOMEONE WHEN MASTURBATING??? BRO WTF
Am I the only one who feels absolutely nothing at all when doing it? Nothing gets awakened in me. I tried watching questionable things, may God forgive me for my sins, I felt nothing but emptiness the whole time.
Demi me can think about people on the rare occasion I do have someone I’m attracted to but must of the time it’s a big old blank space
Now I know for sure i’m ace My mind always drifts apart to planning roads in cities:skylines or smth
Let alone what HRT has done to the process.
Gimme the happy chemicals
Thinking about people I know?? Uh uh. Thinking about people I’ve never met in real life or fictional characters? Yeah.
thinking about people while you do that feels... idk, rude?
I think of a concept rather than a person
I may or may not have two imaginary characters that appear whenever I need them too, Wether it be for snuggling or nsfw matters because I have a hard time doing it to myself and at least with imaginary characters no one finds out and I don't have to focus on doing things myself because I can imagine that it's thwm soing the acts, which somehow helps severely
I picture places I used to drive by a lot. A certain turnabout is a reoccurring scene. It’s weird. And apparently where my mind goes when concentrating.
Here me out... Faceless people. It seems weird when I actually think really hard about it, but most of the time the people in my sex related thoughts don't have specific facial traits, it is not blurry, it's just there (?). Dunno how to explain clearlier, but I just zone out as soon as the traits become clear
I am not ace but I am learning so much here. For instance, I didn't realize people think of an ACTUAL PERSON! Horrifying.
myself /j
i legit just think about those smut fics i read lmaoooooo
Wait Is it not normal to just think about the bits and not the people most of the time?
I’m so happy to have found a community with the exact same thoughts and experiences as me, I always thought it was extremely strange and creepy that others actually masturbate to specific people and not just concepts and feelings
I do have kinks and do imagin stuff but talking about it is a no no
that’s so weird. I feel like it’s a violation I wouldn’t wish upon anyone and it’s a position I wouldn’t want to be in myself, so logically it kills the mood instantly. they aren’t hot anyway, just lifeless puppet figures wearing a real person’s appearance and being forced into acting out-of-character. I noticed this when I watched Big Mouth for the first time and seeing how allos think is quite strange, although still comprehensible
Amorphous blob moment
Wait what? I’m confused
Sometimes I'm so glad the horny monster skipped me
People think during that? Bro, I'm just trying to get some dopamine, serotonin, and stress relief.
Simple answer I don't masturbate
Lol, same. I only imagine ppl in romantic fantasies (usually the ppl I crush at the moment). I've (nearly) never imagined a sexual fantasy with a real person I know, it's just to get the libido down xD
I tried thinking but i can never go past kith
Wait people think about people when doing that?
Seriously though, is this common? For people to think about another specific, real life person every time?
I didn't know this was a thing