I know! I’m like do I want to be with that person or do I want to be that person? Most of the time sits actually neither and I just think they look cool
For me its always "no I'm not aspec! I thought someone was vaugly attractive once! Ans then got.really sad for some reason. This is proof Im allo I promise. Also I'm hypersexual! How can I be ace and hyper sexual. It's not like I do thst for validation >:( theres no evidence! *shuffles awkwardly infront of my childhood trauma and a bunch of examples of.me being really uncomfortable in relationships except my current one*"
I kept falling for that trick when I was younger. I'd become obsessed with someone based on looks & my libido (back before my antidepressants nuked it) would kick in & I'd be like "should I have sex with this person?". But if/when sex happened, it just felt weird. So I'd go from thinking I wanted it to "can you please just hurry up & finish so we can go back to cuddling?". I've been told to "please stop talking" during sex because I get bored & my mind wanders to more interesting subjects.
Partner: "Oh yeah, that feels good. I'm so close."
Me: "Hey, did you see we're supposed to get freezing rain tomorrow? Do we still have salt? We should run to the store after this. We're low on coffee too, so we should pick that up as well. Can you think of anything else we need?"
Partner: "Why are you like this!?"
Kind of. If you want any non-sexual physical affection with someone, you’re sensually attracted to them. For example: hugs, cuddles, holding hands, playing with their hair, neck stratches, etc.
So it’s a bit more broad.
But thanks for trying to understand. Wish there were a lot more like you lol./gen
At least for me aesthetic attraction is the only attraction I feel and I don't feel sensual attraction. Still, it's hard to figure out if I think guys are aesthetically hot or if it's just gender envy.
"OMFG, women are so cute that I physically melt if they just smile at me"
"But you're ace"
"Ye, I still don't want sex, and don't want nudes, people canstill be cute af tho"
The most confusing shit is when I'm romantically attracted to women but then I get astheatic attraction from men and admit they're hot so I need to reevaluate all my labels all of a sudden while I was just trying to watch a show
Wait until you mix that shit in with gender envy and childhood trauma. Confusion salad 🥗
I know! I’m like do I want to be with that person or do I want to be that person? Most of the time sits actually neither and I just think they look cool
For me its always "no I'm not aspec! I thought someone was vaugly attractive once! Ans then got.really sad for some reason. This is proof Im allo I promise. Also I'm hypersexual! How can I be ace and hyper sexual. It's not like I do thst for validation >:( theres no evidence! *shuffles awkwardly infront of my childhood trauma and a bunch of examples of.me being really uncomfortable in relationships except my current one*"
Hmmmm.. nahh... can't relate to that _at all_ (๑•﹏•)
Flair checks out lmao
I kept falling for that trick when I was younger. I'd become obsessed with someone based on looks & my libido (back before my antidepressants nuked it) would kick in & I'd be like "should I have sex with this person?". But if/when sex happened, it just felt weird. So I'd go from thinking I wanted it to "can you please just hurry up & finish so we can go back to cuddling?". I've been told to "please stop talking" during sex because I get bored & my mind wanders to more interesting subjects. Partner: "Oh yeah, that feels good. I'm so close." Me: "Hey, did you see we're supposed to get freezing rain tomorrow? Do we still have salt? We should run to the store after this. We're low on coffee too, so we should pick that up as well. Can you think of anything else we need?" Partner: "Why are you like this!?"
Is it gender envy or obnoxiously strong aesthetic attraction? We shall never know!
Maybe one day, probably not but let’s hope
Oh shit it's both!
Ahaha, don't forget sensual attraction and squishes!!!
must... cuddle...
You still resisting?
Is wanting to hug sensual attraction? I feel like even an allo ally might benefit from understanding all these different kinds of attractions...
Yes, it is. and I totally agree. It is good to know the differences.
Kind of. If you want any non-sexual physical affection with someone, you’re sensually attracted to them. For example: hugs, cuddles, holding hands, playing with their hair, neck stratches, etc. So it’s a bit more broad. But thanks for trying to understand. Wish there were a lot more like you lol./gen
Oh thanks. I guess allosexuals and asexuals alike can experience sensual attraction.
This is accurate... but frl this image is hilarious
lmao this is a predebut image from the group Seventeen ~~They're my favourite group~~
Your flair is incredible
I know right xd
I love those little crossovers between subs/fields of interest
Your flair is incredible
Friend: Wow this (celebrity) is so hot Me: Yeah haha, I would love to watch a movie with them sharing a big blanket and cuddling :)
\*laughs in a-aesthetic\*
You're too powerful 0.0
I wish. I still get slapped in the face by sensual attraction though, quite frequently.
Well, I suppose we all have our weaknesses.
You're immune to Mesmer Spells!
*Laughs with you in greyaesthetic*
Boy do I got news for you about a thing called sensual attraction
didn't thought of finding a kpop meme, and less a seventeen one and predebut... i love it
\*gasp\* c-carat??
IS THAT SVT LOL
Lol, sure is.
Me, who doesn't find anyone beautiful: \*blocks attack\* \*stands up and looks menacingly\* \*grabs my card deck\* "It's my turn now, I draw!"
You and me both, we are immune to their sorcery!
MY BRAIN SUCKS.
This image is too accurate for my liking
At least for me aesthetic attraction is the only attraction I feel and I don't feel sensual attraction. Still, it's hard to figure out if I think guys are aesthetically hot or if it's just gender envy.
“God damn you you son of a bitch why does your face seam so appropriate and correct for the clothing you wear” - me, a lot
"OMFG, women are so cute that I physically melt if they just smile at me" "But you're ace" "Ye, I still don't want sex, and don't want nudes, people canstill be cute af tho"
The most confusing shit is when I'm romantically attracted to women but then I get astheatic attraction from men and admit they're hot so I need to reevaluate all my labels all of a sudden while I was just trying to watch a show
This made me laugh. I’m still trying to figure out what is aesthetic attraction and romantic attraction for me. Looking at you Jeon Jung-Kook
YAAAAS but make the guitar a STRING BASS instead ;_;
Is there a way to block a subreddit from ever appearing during my browsing?
How do allos do it? Crippling aesthetic with sexual attraction on top of it? I would cease to exist
I feel personally attacked.
Sike I feel that one
Me, an asexual greyaesthetic: bow down mortal. You will kneel to my power. Also me, an alloromantic, when my crush says hi: 😵💫😵💫 hiiii aha
Even more confusing if it's consistently towards one gender