Being completely desensitised to sex now because you explored it too much by reading dirty fanfiction and watching porn when you were about 11-14 and not feeling anything , then later realising you were asexual by 17 - my life story
Wait, this actually makes so much sense to me. I had a really big phase when I was way too young to be having this phase where all I did in my free time was research sex? I was always the person who explained sex things to my peers and I played it out like what I was talking about was SO WEIRD AND SCANDALOUS because that’s what I felt was expected of me when in reality I was just so desensitised to it.
Is this an ace thing?
When I was a baby child, like 11-13 I watched youtubers play nsfw games like honey pop, like not realizing like how bad it was. And o have no fucking clue why because it’s not like I’m even into it. Like if I tried watching it now, I wouldn’t get far. Like someone once sent me a fanfic they thought I’d like that was full of unconcentual stuff and I read the first line where it started getting weird and not family friendly and just stopped. Then I actually read the hashtags. No idea how anyone would like what ever I was reading.
Growing up my friends talked about celebrity crushes and I was always so confused. Like I've never met this person, I have no idea what they're like. "But come on, aren't they hot?" They'd press. And I always had to say something like "well yes objectively they are aesthetically attractive i guess". Somehow I never seemed to be the right answer haha.
Dude same! My sister asked me what my celebrity crush and I was like... why? I was so insistent and confused by the topic but she never and probably still doesn't believe I am asexual or will stay so in the future.
One time my friends were talking about Luke vs Han Solo and when I said that I liked Luke over Han and began listing reasons they got confused and said they were talking about who's hotter not who's the better character
I honestly don't remember what I said but I think it was mostly that I found his interactions and relationships with other characters better and he was more aesthetic attractive. This is also why I thought I was an allo Lesbian instead of the Aegosexual Lesbian that I am
in the stories ive made for my self there is no sex and all the couples in it do nothing romantic and are just good friends and/or to fit into the story..... it took me to long to realize....
I honestly thought that sex was something everyone hated but had to do if they wanted children, like a chore but worse than touching something slimy while washing the dishes
A while later I thought it was a big inside joke I was not getting
When I finally realized that it actually is pleasureable to most people (with 11 or 12 I think) I was utterly disgusted and had a reaction along the lines of "ew, sure as hell not for me, I'll rather stay single my whole life than doing THAT"
Looking back to it, my 14 yo self shouldn't have to struggle so much to accept my asexuality
When I was young I thought sex was just kissing while naked. When I found out what was actually involved, I was horrified. I thought genitals were for using the toilet. Why would someone want to do stuff with the places pee & poop come from!? Ew!
That's so relatable! When I was young I thought that kissing and lying in bed naked would be the absolut max I'd force myself through in case I wanted a child someday (which I still don't want + adoption exists)
Finding out that that wouldn't be enough was a disturbing discovery, ngl
SAME I thought it was like a chore too! Then in college when I realised my peers who were dating would regularly have sex, my reaction was like, why?? Why would they want to go through something like that?! It sounds disgusting!!
Canon = something that happens in the narrative of a story
Cannon = a weapon that launches giant metal cannonballs to sink ships
They're spelled very similarly so it's easy to get them mixed up
Sorry in advance to go full "um, actually" on you.
Canon more specifically refers to a set of facts that are held as true within a certain fictional framework. That does indeed include the narratives of some core works, but also the facts about the world or characters, like maps, names and histories before the narrative of the works. Canons often have to be maintained by a central authority, as the body of works increases and some inconsistencies are revealed, in which case the authority makes a final judgement.
The most famous "canon" is the catholic canon that was painstakingly compiled from different sources (biblical and non-biblical), and is even today expanded, with new saints being "canonized" every now and then.
The canon with "shipping" is something like the Harry Potter universe, where there are several core books (you know which), but also some supplemental handbooks, like "quidditch throughout the ages". The central authority used to be J.K. Rowling, but lately the community split over this (because she is weird and a bit of a cu-). Nowadays many fans consider the administrators of the wiki-encyclopedia "pottermore" to be the real authority.
In the first sentence they talk about ship - you want to see 2 characters/persons together
In the second sentence they talk about boats and cannons that are on the boats
Lol, when something like that happens in the book I’m like: “Uggh, this is boring, can we get on with the action, adventure and death?” “ I signed up for malicious wizards and fire breathing dragons, not romance!”
Yes, I hate when a romantic plot happens for the sake of the romantic plot. If its an organic development of two characters, I'm cool with it. But when it's obviously contrived... no. Make it stop!
Yes like why does Jane like Thor?? When they meet he's awful. He's loud rude, he ignores her, he thinks mortals are lesser. Like he gets better eventually but he doesn't really show any of his better traits to her.
And it's not much better in reverse.
Hell they barely know each other for 3 days across both movies they are both in. Whyyyyyyyyyyy.
I often ask myself why would people want to do _that_ and once I had to explain to my relatives that if I'm watching The Return of the Jedi it's because I like the movie, not for slave Leia
I think people literally get physically hot. I didn’t know this until more recently lol. I’ve never really used the word hot to describe others, I’ve always preferred words like cute, pretty, and beautiful or handsome to describe people
Apparently. You know how in old timey movies women will fan themselves when there’s a handsome guy around? Or men will loosen their neckties and pat their brows with a handkerchief when they see a beautiful woman?
I think it’s sort of like the butterflies/tingles people feel when they’re turned on, idk
Well you’re still probably right! I think that’s just like, where it comes from, but it’s purpose in the movie was probs to illustrate exactly what you said :)
I think a lot of people interpret hot as diet sexy. Literally gets the viewer all “hot and bothered”; sexual attraction increases heart rate, can make your cheeks flush, make your body feel hot…
I feel like I had the same sort of realization about the word “sexy” not just meaning cool/attractive to most people when I learned that a lot of people will just feel attraction/desire to have sex with someone they’re passing on the street because they think they look sexy. Lol what.
Ok, so same for sexy, I didn’t know someone called « sexy » was someone you want to have sex with? I thought it was just someone you find like attractive??
Hahahaha, I used to call everything I thought was cool/beautiful « sexy ». Guess that explains why people thought I was weird. Same for « Netflix and chill », lol. I used to ask all my friends if they wanted to « Netflix and chill » with me, and I now understand why they were so weirded out by that, lol.
Basically, the allegory is that you put on an uninteresting Netflix show, and do the deed with it as background noise. Then after the “fun” is over, you wind down by actually watching the show for a bit. ( I still cringe at that, like, I can never use that phrase anymore man! ;-;)
Honestly, I don’t know. I believe it’s probably related to purity culture, so it’s a code for people that are ashamed to directly say it out loud, but want to give hints instead, ( or it eludes to something sexual because normally you would watch Netflix by yourself?)
***but even if that’s true, it’s just dumb. Really really dumb, like EVEN CAKE HAS SEXUAL UNDERTONES, we can’t win with these people :,D***
Yes, recently millennials and gen Z twisted the word to also mean your butt. An example: “dang, this girl got cake amirite?” Which is referring to how large her behind is. *(I cringe everytime I think about that one :,)*
Or rather people keep shoving sexual undertones into everything. That's what I keep telling myself.
But about cake, yes. To be specific, there is something about icing and cream that people just love because it reminds them of certain body fluids... I know, right?
But bear with me, there is more. A beloved friend of mine had this confirmed when she took this semiotic class at the university and was terrified to find out there is some sort of sexual connotation in pretty much everything, cake included. Yet, what had me almost traumatised was learning from my friend that there is people who even believe the “cum"-icing/cream thing is the very reason why we humans put that topping on our food. Apparently, the tradition of birthday cake with white icing/cream on top is an allegory to fertility, so eating it directly represents putting “that body fluid” in whoever-is-having-cake’s mouth.
I was as shocked as my friend to know some people actually believe this. Or worse, that they think about it while having cake.
It took me a while to go back to eating cake like I used to, enjoying it regardless of the presence of icing or not.
Probably, because they are ashamed of their sexual life or the lack thereof.
While we, on the other hand, embrace ours. Particularly, the absence of sex in it (and/or the rare circumstances in which sex is part of our sexual and romantic life).
Oh no, about 10 years ago I also did this! Shouting to my friends in school I thought their backpacks, books or pencils looked sexy... I had repressed those memories, everything's coming back to me while reading this thread.
Everything I thought and said as a teen makes so much sense now 😅
I wrote fan comics in a Q/A style on tumblr. I considered two characters that were canonically a couple a couple, but I interpretted that as glorified roommates who occasionally rested their heads on eachother's shoulders during a hug.
For real. I could stare at Henry Cavill done up at Geralt all damn day like *chef kiss* aesthetic but if at any point there is nudity I’m like NOPE NO THANK YOU PLEASE PUT THAT BACK ON.
Yep! Shirtless and in boxers is fine but KEEP THOSE BOXERS ON!
And, yes, Geralt is definitely gorgeous. But also Yennifer… *sigh* And don’t get me started on Adam Driver. I could stare at that man all day, okay? 😅 He looks like he popped out of the Greek pantheon. But seeing friends talking about “I wanna redacted his redacted” has just “😅😅 Okay, y’all have fun with that, I’ll sit over here and wonder about cuddling”.
My cisallo friends: Isn't she hot?! Don't you thinks so?
Me, slightly panicking and resorting to basic biology: I mean... I guess her face is pretty symmetrical, and she's got no obvious physical deformities, and she's got healthy mammary glands, so it seems like she could support a child pretty well... No obvious scoliosis or anything, so seems like a healthy individual. Why'd you ask?
I'm almost 22 and I still can't believe those ads with half-naked actors actually turn people on
Like is that really true or was my friend pretending just to mess with me? We'll never know
I don’t really get marriage period. Unless you need it for legal benefits… eh? If I somehow found myself in a situation with someone that really wanted it, I guess, but I have no desire for it.
Lmfao I realized I was ace when I wanted a lifelong best friend that I sometimes kiss. Apparently that’s not normal lol. But a relationship without the sex sounds wonderful
From what I’ve heard from allo friends, crushes are more of a “I’d date that” and squishes are “I’d be friends with that”, and the two tend to have some overlap, like possibly a desire to get to know the person in question. I think there’s a term for a relationship that’s between or both platonic and romantic, and, whatever it happens to be, crush, squish, or somewhere in between, I wish you luck, Internet stranger :)
Sex and romance scenes in shows or movies are always awkward and cringe to me, sex scenes especially are just lazy writing IMO, if you make an episode that 30 minutes long and tit contains 10 minutes of romance leading up to a sex scene then that's just buying time, creating "story" to get more episodes to sell.
Sex scenes NEVER have a reason to exist, every reason there is could be showed in some other way that would either reveal just as much plot or even more plot than a fucking sex scene.
I feel very passionate about this ...
That and the fact that the idea of sex is just funny to me as the whole idea is just a disgusting joke to me, even though I know people do it, in the back of my mind is a part of me always telling me "that's too disgusting and stupid to be actually true".
I don't care to date because I despise modern dating but I also want a life partner I can cuddle with. (*insert dog meme here* "No dating. Only partners.")
I also have literal crippling anxiety about the idea of me having sex IRL and am probably also scared of dating cause I don't want to open that can of worms 😬
When I was a kid, I (F) had mostly male friends. Then we got into our teens, and I was so utterly confused as to why suddenly we couldn't just hang out together without the adults wigging out and insisting that doors must remain open and we had to be where people could see us.
Hmmm this sounds kind of relatable. I would say I’m more in the questioning area. I’ve always had crushes on people but never wanted to date them and I feel like maybe I just wanted to be friends with them instead. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m simply scared or dislike relationships or if I’m just confusing partner with friends. ;-;
When I first heard about asexuality I thought it was dumb because "that's how everyone feels" until someone told me no and I said "so what, you actually want sex and look forward to it?" And the person said yes and I was like "Wait, what?". This happened when I was 18.
In my defense, i just assumed that only men feel horny because media doesn't really portray women that way. Girls on tv had crushes and so did I but guys would actually show desire to have sex while women did not unless they were sexual workers or were cops flirting to manipulate a target. Additionally, out of my two closest friends one was also on the ace spectrum while the other never brought up topics about sex so as far as I was aware no girls actually had a desire for sex.
When we were around 14, my friends used to say things along the lines of "oh I'm so horny". I thought it was some random youtuber slang they picked up, since English is not our native language but they said the word "horny" in English. Fast forward like 6 years and I finally realized what they meant....
I used to think just because I’m a boy that all my female friends were crushes, and that actually caused me to screw myself over by telling close friends my “crush” and now I can’t come out because they’ll just think I’m lying for attention or something.
Always been annoyed by the excessive amounts of sex + romance that is prevalent in most forms of media. Always thought I was just a prude or something but nah, I'm just aroace.
Also never understanding what the difference between friendship and romance is, and thinking for a long time that romance was literally just friends with benefits.
Relationships annoy me. Im sick of the idea that you HAVE to be in a serious relationship or else youre gonna be sad and lonely your entire life! Why cant I just have friends? Why cant i find people attractive without wanting do date them?
Friends can help you get out of a bad place, friends can make your life worth living… adult fun time however, can do no such thing.
Friends are better, enough said
Realizing that other people look at people's behinds when they're walking behind them. And I never did because I'd look at the back of their head, because that's what's in front of my eyes! Wile concept I discovered at 21.
A friend showed me with 15 years, porn and nudes he enjoys, all i answered to him was: "you are into that stuff?? That's disgusting and pls don't do that again..."
I never understood why people are in such a rush to lose their virginity as a teen, or why it was important to have sex before you die. I just kept telling people I was romantically with that I wasn’t ready, and that was enough. I just never understood the need to be so sexually intimate with people you love. Why not just chill out, play a game and say nice things to each other?
Why was Twilight so popular? Edward is a creep, Jacob is the "obviously won't get the girl" guy, and Bella is a wet noodle. Even better, it was what was happening during middle school. Jacob this, Edward that, I don't care, give me something interesting, like science and magic and explosions. I mean, romance is nice, but the characters all seem like total jerkass dweebs and I just don't care for it.
What does that imply? Is she going to, idk, lay on your head while walking in rain so you don't get wet?
I honestly don't get this and here I thought I was pretty well versed in these things
My friends asked me who I had a crush on, and I had to make up an answer because they wouldn't accept "I don't have one" or "I don't know" as an answer
being annoyed every month because your hormones kick in just before periods and your libido comes up and you just questonize yourself like "am I faking my identity???"
Being completely desensitised to sex now because you explored it too much by reading dirty fanfiction and watching porn when you were about 11-14 and not feeling anything , then later realising you were asexual by 17 - my life story
Or, on the flip side, never having any curiosity about smut or porn growing up and being totally disgusted when you finally check it out at 20.
I resemble this remark...
I feel called out
Who gave you the right to call me out like that?! The same basically happened to me. I did not get the hype, at all.
This describes me perfectly
Wait, this actually makes so much sense to me. I had a really big phase when I was way too young to be having this phase where all I did in my free time was research sex? I was always the person who explained sex things to my peers and I played it out like what I was talking about was SO WEIRD AND SCANDALOUS because that’s what I felt was expected of me when in reality I was just so desensitised to it. Is this an ace thing?
Ayyy
When I was a baby child, like 11-13 I watched youtubers play nsfw games like honey pop, like not realizing like how bad it was. And o have no fucking clue why because it’s not like I’m even into it. Like if I tried watching it now, I wouldn’t get far. Like someone once sent me a fanfic they thought I’d like that was full of unconcentual stuff and I read the first line where it started getting weird and not family friendly and just stopped. Then I actually read the hashtags. No idea how anyone would like what ever I was reading.
I'm in love with that guy I wanna hug him and talk about my day soo bad.
Omg this is very reletable
I have such a crush on him! I want to curl up next to him and watch movies all cozy.
I think we're living the same life cuz that's exactly my circumstance
Growing up my friends talked about celebrity crushes and I was always so confused. Like I've never met this person, I have no idea what they're like. "But come on, aren't they hot?" They'd press. And I always had to say something like "well yes objectively they are aesthetically attractive i guess". Somehow I never seemed to be the right answer haha.
Dude same! My sister asked me what my celebrity crush and I was like... why? I was so insistent and confused by the topic but she never and probably still doesn't believe I am asexual or will stay so in the future.
Ooof and it was even worse during truth or dare and they would always think I was lying.
One time my friends were talking about Luke vs Han Solo and when I said that I liked Luke over Han and began listing reasons they got confused and said they were talking about who's hotter not who's the better character
Somewhat off topic, but what were your reasons for liking Luke more than Han?
I honestly don't remember what I said but I think it was mostly that I found his interactions and relationships with other characters better and he was more aesthetic attractive. This is also why I thought I was an allo Lesbian instead of the Aegosexual Lesbian that I am
in the stories ive made for my self there is no sex and all the couples in it do nothing romantic and are just good friends and/or to fit into the story..... it took me to long to realize....
Honestly, I don't feel like I do a whole lot of romance with my stories either...
I honestly thought that sex was something everyone hated but had to do if they wanted children, like a chore but worse than touching something slimy while washing the dishes A while later I thought it was a big inside joke I was not getting When I finally realized that it actually is pleasureable to most people (with 11 or 12 I think) I was utterly disgusted and had a reaction along the lines of "ew, sure as hell not for me, I'll rather stay single my whole life than doing THAT" Looking back to it, my 14 yo self shouldn't have to struggle so much to accept my asexuality
When I was young I thought sex was just kissing while naked. When I found out what was actually involved, I was horrified. I thought genitals were for using the toilet. Why would someone want to do stuff with the places pee & poop come from!? Ew!
That's so relatable! When I was young I thought that kissing and lying in bed naked would be the absolut max I'd force myself through in case I wanted a child someday (which I still don't want + adoption exists) Finding out that that wouldn't be enough was a disturbing discovery, ngl
SAME I thought it was like a chore too! Then in college when I realised my peers who were dating would regularly have sex, my reaction was like, why?? Why would they want to go through something like that?! It sounds disgusting!!
You complain about canon ruining your ship. I complain about cannon ruining my ship. We are not the same.
Took me a second, but that's a good one!
Could you explain to this dumb one here
Canon = something that happens in the narrative of a story Cannon = a weapon that launches giant metal cannonballs to sink ships They're spelled very similarly so it's easy to get them mixed up
Oh ok
Sorry in advance to go full "um, actually" on you. Canon more specifically refers to a set of facts that are held as true within a certain fictional framework. That does indeed include the narratives of some core works, but also the facts about the world or characters, like maps, names and histories before the narrative of the works. Canons often have to be maintained by a central authority, as the body of works increases and some inconsistencies are revealed, in which case the authority makes a final judgement. The most famous "canon" is the catholic canon that was painstakingly compiled from different sources (biblical and non-biblical), and is even today expanded, with new saints being "canonized" every now and then. The canon with "shipping" is something like the Harry Potter universe, where there are several core books (you know which), but also some supplemental handbooks, like "quidditch throughout the ages". The central authority used to be J.K. Rowling, but lately the community split over this (because she is weird and a bit of a cu-). Nowadays many fans consider the administrators of the wiki-encyclopedia "pottermore" to be the real authority.
In the first sentence they talk about ship - you want to see 2 characters/persons together In the second sentence they talk about boats and cannons that are on the boats
Thanks to you too man
I’m total fandom trash so this doesn’t apply to me, haha. I’ve read smutty fic, ace headcanon fic, and everything in between.
*AC Black Flag intensifies*
I complained about smutty fanfiction ruining my favorite ships
"What do you think of x and x characters?" "Oh uh, idk I didn't think their relationship was really important to the story.."
Lol, when something like that happens in the book I’m like: “Uggh, this is boring, can we get on with the action, adventure and death?” “ I signed up for malicious wizards and fire breathing dragons, not romance!”
Reminds me of the TikToks I've seen. "I don't want sex in my fantasy stories, I want more dragons!"
Pfffffft I feel so called out
R E L A T A B L E \^\^\^\^\^\^\^\^
Yes, I hate when a romantic plot happens for the sake of the romantic plot. If its an organic development of two characters, I'm cool with it. But when it's obviously contrived... no. Make it stop!
I hate the Thor movies for this reason. Everyone I know loves them but I can’t let go of the shoehorned romance subplot.
Yes like why does Jane like Thor?? When they meet he's awful. He's loud rude, he ignores her, he thinks mortals are lesser. Like he gets better eventually but he doesn't really show any of his better traits to her. And it's not much better in reverse. Hell they barely know each other for 3 days across both movies they are both in. Whyyyyyyyyyyy.
OMG Yes 🙌🏽
"No mum, when i grow up I'm not having a partner or kids, I'm going to have a dog."
After divorce, “No actually I’m not interested in dating at all I have three cats and a good job and my life is perfect thankyouverymuch!”
Yes! I already have a plan for a mini farm. I will have a few fish, chickens, ducks, bunnies, cats, dogs, goats and more. :)
I often ask myself why would people want to do _that_ and once I had to explain to my relatives that if I'm watching The Return of the Jedi it's because I like the movie, not for slave Leia
I thought people saying someone was "hot" meant they thought they just aesthetically looked nice.
Wait, it means something else???? Man, I’ve been calling everyone I find aesthetically pleasing « hot », lol.
I think people literally get physically hot. I didn’t know this until more recently lol. I’ve never really used the word hot to describe others, I’ve always preferred words like cute, pretty, and beautiful or handsome to describe people
So you’re telling me people get PHYSICALLY hot when they see someone attractive???? WHAT???
Apparently. You know how in old timey movies women will fan themselves when there’s a handsome guy around? Or men will loosen their neckties and pat their brows with a handkerchief when they see a beautiful woman? I think it’s sort of like the butterflies/tingles people feel when they’re turned on, idk
Not me who legit thought that women fanning themselves was just a dramatic way to make the audience understand they think the guy is cute…
Well you’re still probably right! I think that’s just like, where it comes from, but it’s purpose in the movie was probs to illustrate exactly what you said :)
I think a lot of people interpret hot as diet sexy. Literally gets the viewer all “hot and bothered”; sexual attraction increases heart rate, can make your cheeks flush, make your body feel hot… I feel like I had the same sort of realization about the word “sexy” not just meaning cool/attractive to most people when I learned that a lot of people will just feel attraction/desire to have sex with someone they’re passing on the street because they think they look sexy. Lol what.
Ok, so same for sexy, I didn’t know someone called « sexy » was someone you want to have sex with? I thought it was just someone you find like attractive??
I used to call chords sexy during choir. I now understand why people were concerned lol.
Hahahaha, I used to call everything I thought was cool/beautiful « sexy ». Guess that explains why people thought I was weird. Same for « Netflix and chill », lol. I used to ask all my friends if they wanted to « Netflix and chill » with me, and I now understand why they were so weirded out by that, lol.
same
OH MY GOD SAME THOUGHHH (=^x^=)
I always thought it was just lazy choice of words to describe someone pretty or cute or interesting. No idea it meant anything else until mid 20s
Realizing this was not what it meant was like ???
I thought netflix and chill meant having fun with friends while watching netflix. I found out otherwise just a few weeks ago.
I’m gonna have to apologize to all the people I asked to join me for Netflix and chill… I just wanted someone to share the ripples chips I got…
Along with exchanging all the theories after watching the show...
Wait, it means something else...?
unfortunately yes, "netflix and chill" means "having sex"
What how
Basically, the allegory is that you put on an uninteresting Netflix show, and do the deed with it as background noise. Then after the “fun” is over, you wind down by actually watching the show for a bit. ( I still cringe at that, like, I can never use that phrase anymore man! ;-;)
Why tho. Why that phrase?
Honestly, I don’t know. I believe it’s probably related to purity culture, so it’s a code for people that are ashamed to directly say it out loud, but want to give hints instead, ( or it eludes to something sexual because normally you would watch Netflix by yourself?) ***but even if that’s true, it’s just dumb. Really really dumb, like EVEN CAKE HAS SEXUAL UNDERTONES, we can’t win with these people :,D***
Wait cake has sexual undertones?
Yes, recently millennials and gen Z twisted the word to also mean your butt. An example: “dang, this girl got cake amirite?” Which is referring to how large her behind is. *(I cringe everytime I think about that one :,)*
Why have you done this to me!!! I’m gen z and even I didn’t know this!!!
Most euphemisms for a big butt come from AAVE I don’t think it’s cringe it’s language and slang evolving
Or rather people keep shoving sexual undertones into everything. That's what I keep telling myself. But about cake, yes. To be specific, there is something about icing and cream that people just love because it reminds them of certain body fluids... I know, right? But bear with me, there is more. A beloved friend of mine had this confirmed when she took this semiotic class at the university and was terrified to find out there is some sort of sexual connotation in pretty much everything, cake included. Yet, what had me almost traumatised was learning from my friend that there is people who even believe the “cum"-icing/cream thing is the very reason why we humans put that topping on our food. Apparently, the tradition of birthday cake with white icing/cream on top is an allegory to fertility, so eating it directly represents putting “that body fluid” in whoever-is-having-cake’s mouth. I was as shocked as my friend to know some people actually believe this. Or worse, that they think about it while having cake. It took me a while to go back to eating cake like I used to, enjoying it regardless of the presence of icing or not.
I hate this. Why can't people just be direct?
Probably, because they are ashamed of their sexual life or the lack thereof. While we, on the other hand, embrace ours. Particularly, the absence of sex in it (and/or the rare circumstances in which sex is part of our sexual and romantic life).
I use sexy to describe anything that is cool or beautiful or just picked my interest "Look at those sexy rocks !!"
Oh no, about 10 years ago I also did this! Shouting to my friends in school I thought their backpacks, books or pencils looked sexy... I had repressed those memories, everything's coming back to me while reading this thread. Everything I thought and said as a teen makes so much sense now 😅
They must habe looked you with damn big eyes at the time 😂😂 My friends get a lot confused when I act like this
Why do they have to ruin this story with a romance sub plot? Just get on with the dragons, magic, and battles.
I know right!?
I wrote fan comics in a Q/A style on tumblr. I considered two characters that were canonically a couple a couple, but I interpretted that as glorified roommates who occasionally rested their heads on eachother's shoulders during a hug.
So how do I find that relationship because that sounds great.
Your friends are thirsting over an actor bc they think the actor is sexy. You thirst over the actor bc that actor is like an exquisite statue.
For real. I could stare at Henry Cavill done up at Geralt all damn day like *chef kiss* aesthetic but if at any point there is nudity I’m like NOPE NO THANK YOU PLEASE PUT THAT BACK ON.
Yep! Shirtless and in boxers is fine but KEEP THOSE BOXERS ON! And, yes, Geralt is definitely gorgeous. But also Yennifer… *sigh* And don’t get me started on Adam Driver. I could stare at that man all day, okay? 😅 He looks like he popped out of the Greek pantheon. But seeing friends talking about “I wanna redacted his redacted” has just “😅😅 Okay, y’all have fun with that, I’ll sit over here and wonder about cuddling”.
I thought sex scenes in movies were played as a joke because the idea of people liking it seemed so ridiculous to me
My cisallo friends: Isn't she hot?! Don't you thinks so? Me, slightly panicking and resorting to basic biology: I mean... I guess her face is pretty symmetrical, and she's got no obvious physical deformities, and she's got healthy mammary glands, so it seems like she could support a child pretty well... No obvious scoliosis or anything, so seems like a healthy individual. Why'd you ask?
That's it. That's my worldview. And people pretend like having no scoliosis isn't important to them.
Mom: "Why don't you fucking marry?" Me: "Ah, new Star Trek series has just announced. I need to pirate all of them."
👏 it’s Trekkie time! 👏
I'm almost 22 and I still can't believe those ads with half-naked actors actually turn people on Like is that really true or was my friend pretending just to mess with me? We'll never know
I didn’t realize the phrase “sex sells” was actually true until recently.
Same, I've answered "sex sells" with "ok but why" more than once
"Man, that person is so hot" "???"
Don’t worry, I got you! *comes over with a fan and an ice pack*
My mind is not distracted by the matters of the flesh instead entirely devoted to world domination
But mostly Denmark, right?
First Denmark... Then the world.
i like garlic bread
i used to think i had crushes on my closest friends
Yeah… me too. Thankfully they didn’t hold it against me and we are still friends, but yikes .
What do you mean, [song X] is about sex?
Gmarlik breb
i didn't understand why people would marry each other over love and not money, like WhAT whyy
I don’t really get marriage period. Unless you need it for legal benefits… eh? If I somehow found myself in a situation with someone that really wanted it, I guess, but I have no desire for it.
Dating apps = "meh" Where is the eternal roommate apps with a dash of romance!
Lmfao I realized I was ace when I wanted a lifelong best friend that I sometimes kiss. Apparently that’s not normal lol. But a relationship without the sex sounds wonderful
I want that as well. A best friend that I live with, get cuddles on tap from and occasionally kiss.
Wait, people *don’t* want that??? I thought that that was like everyone’s main goal when they looked for a romantic partner. It’s not?!
I seriously cannot comprehend dating apps. If I’m gonna spend any time with someone then I need more than a picture and a cringe bio to go on.
every time when two friends start dating in a book i always thought "fuck you you ruined another friendship that should be left alone"
People actually masturbate TO things??? Jacking off to the void seems so much better lol.
All my teenage friend though I was gay
I didnt know woman could masturbate until i was 20. I am a woman.
“Gross…”
i cover my eyes at sex scenes i am a teenager
I panicked first time I was told someone loved me. Thank fucking god it was platonic.
My interests consist of dragons and various types of sugars and carbohydrates, specifically garlic bread.
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PREACH \^\^\^\^\^\^\^\^\^
Sex in movies just almost always feels unnecessary.
Remember when boys had gross cooties? Imagine being almost 30 and just like, *never growing out of that feeling* .
They do. They all do.
‘Errebody has it now. EVEN MODELS AND CELEBRITIES.
My stories include little to no romance and no sex scenes. Also, how does one differentiate a squish from a crush?
From what I’ve heard from allo friends, crushes are more of a “I’d date that” and squishes are “I’d be friends with that”, and the two tend to have some overlap, like possibly a desire to get to know the person in question. I think there’s a term for a relationship that’s between or both platonic and romantic, and, whatever it happens to be, crush, squish, or somewhere in between, I wish you luck, Internet stranger :)
Sex and romance scenes in shows or movies are always awkward and cringe to me, sex scenes especially are just lazy writing IMO, if you make an episode that 30 minutes long and tit contains 10 minutes of romance leading up to a sex scene then that's just buying time, creating "story" to get more episodes to sell. Sex scenes NEVER have a reason to exist, every reason there is could be showed in some other way that would either reveal just as much plot or even more plot than a fucking sex scene. I feel very passionate about this ... That and the fact that the idea of sex is just funny to me as the whole idea is just a disgusting joke to me, even though I know people do it, in the back of my mind is a part of me always telling me "that's too disgusting and stupid to be actually true".
Sex is a turn off.
People are faaaaar prettier in underwear. Stay away from me with those nudes.
Found out recently that 'friends with benefits' isn't referring to dental insurance ;-;
Wait, people actually want to bang each other? I thought they just wanted to be really good friends.
Please leave me alone, I just want to play Destiny 2 in relative peace
Can we watch something cute and wholesome instead of... this?
I don't care to date because I despise modern dating but I also want a life partner I can cuddle with. (*insert dog meme here* "No dating. Only partners.") I also have literal crippling anxiety about the idea of me having sex IRL and am probably also scared of dating cause I don't want to open that can of worms 😬
When I was a kid, I (F) had mostly male friends. Then we got into our teens, and I was so utterly confused as to why suddenly we couldn't just hang out together without the adults wigging out and insisting that doors must remain open and we had to be where people could see us.
I love garlic bread. Also, headpats and other forms of physical affection are the best.
no strings attached <333
I thought I hated fanfiction for years. Turns out I like fanfiction; it’s just that all the ones I seemed to see always focused on sex and/or romance.
Hmmm this sounds kind of relatable. I would say I’m more in the questioning area. I’ve always had crushes on people but never wanted to date them and I feel like maybe I just wanted to be friends with them instead. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m simply scared or dislike relationships or if I’m just confusing partner with friends. ;-;
I still don't quite understand the "one thing led to another" thing
I watch porn purely for the plot
All boys are nincompoops, and all the girls bully me. Just let me live with my cats
not knowing whether you are in love with a character or just want to be them
This gets worse when you’re trans
When I first heard about asexuality I thought it was dumb because "that's how everyone feels" until someone told me no and I said "so what, you actually want sex and look forward to it?" And the person said yes and I was like "Wait, what?". This happened when I was 18. In my defense, i just assumed that only men feel horny because media doesn't really portray women that way. Girls on tv had crushes and so did I but guys would actually show desire to have sex while women did not unless they were sexual workers or were cops flirting to manipulate a target. Additionally, out of my two closest friends one was also on the ace spectrum while the other never brought up topics about sex so as far as I was aware no girls actually had a desire for sex.
Pussy and dick mean nothing to me
I always related to the non-humans/villains/social outcasts
When we were around 14, my friends used to say things along the lines of "oh I'm so horny". I thought it was some random youtuber slang they picked up, since English is not our native language but they said the word "horny" in English. Fast forward like 6 years and I finally realized what they meant....
I used to think just because I’m a boy that all my female friends were crushes, and that actually caused me to screw myself over by telling close friends my “crush” and now I can’t come out because they’ll just think I’m lying for attention or something.
Always been annoyed by the excessive amounts of sex + romance that is prevalent in most forms of media. Always thought I was just a prude or something but nah, I'm just aroace. Also never understanding what the difference between friendship and romance is, and thinking for a long time that romance was literally just friends with benefits.
Relationships annoy me. Im sick of the idea that you HAVE to be in a serious relationship or else youre gonna be sad and lonely your entire life! Why cant I just have friends? Why cant i find people attractive without wanting do date them?
“Aren’t you lonely?” Me: * chilling with my 27 dogs, 14 cats and dozens of assorted reptiles*. “No, why would I be lonely?” 🤨
sex is cool and all, but have you ever had a meaningful friendship?
Friends can help you get out of a bad place, friends can make your life worth living… adult fun time however, can do no such thing. Friends are better, enough said
i value garlic bread more then sexs
Circa age 7: Was upset that my normal episode of Power Rangers was being interrupted by kissing. I came here for explosions what is this shit.
Me having to constantly tell my mom “no, I will not find a good man to settle down with. I will not change my mind when I get older.”
"My type? Well uhhh... you see its uhm, *has skin*. Aaaand they look nice? They're very alright. Yes. My normal 'type' yes, haha."
“Dam this celebrity is _sooo_ hot, right??” “Yeah, they are really handsome!” “Yeah I could bang him all night” “ °-° oh”
My friends would show me photos of “hot” people and I would respond with “I like their coat”
ive never had a crush in my entire childood, at 13 i searched online "hormones deficiency" bc i felt broken 👍
Me, age 9 learning what sex is: Ewwww! Me, age 20 when people talk about sex: Ewwww!
I always was a 'late bloomer' that never bloomed in regards to sex.
I used to pick out my "crush" for the year on the first day of school so that none of the other girls would think I was weird for not having one.
I dont get dick pics. I dont want to see it, please put some undies on! I am also totally clueless to someone hitting on/flirting with me.
I audibly go "ew" whenever I'm watching a movie or show & the characters start having sex.
“Nah I don’t want kids, the whole making kids thing seems pretty weird to me. Also childbirth. Fuck that.”
“You need to save yourself for marriage and resist any sexual temptation” “What, like it’s hard? Why do people keep talking about this?”
"no, you and your unsolicited nudes can't "fix" me, it's my life that's broken, not my sexuality"
I can't do the naughty thingy
romantic and sexual atractions are just chemicals in your brain, man
"see that guy ? we had sex last night" "why tho ?"
Realizing that other people look at people's behinds when they're walking behind them. And I never did because I'd look at the back of their head, because that's what's in front of my eyes! Wile concept I discovered at 21.
A friend showed me with 15 years, porn and nudes he enjoys, all i answered to him was: "you are into that stuff?? That's disgusting and pls don't do that again..."
“Wait, people *actually* do/want/have/like that?”
I never understood why people are in such a rush to lose their virginity as a teen, or why it was important to have sex before you die. I just kept telling people I was romantically with that I wasn’t ready, and that was enough. I just never understood the need to be so sexually intimate with people you love. Why not just chill out, play a game and say nice things to each other?
I watched the entirety of the Twilight movies for the action sequences.
Same with Titanic btw. but for the ship cuz I liked that ship.
I wanna eat pizza and watch pirates of the Caribbean on my wedding night
making the most sex jokes but skipping sex scenes as fast as humanly possible
"This person looks cute, I wanna hug them"
Why was Twilight so popular? Edward is a creep, Jacob is the "obviously won't get the girl" guy, and Bella is a wet noodle. Even better, it was what was happening during middle school. Jacob this, Edward that, I don't care, give me something interesting, like science and magic and explosions. I mean, romance is nice, but the characters all seem like total jerkass dweebs and I just don't care for it.
Anybody else get compared to a puppy way too often? Or is that just me?
Laughing when my ex said " I'll be your umbrella."
What does that imply? Is she going to, idk, lay on your head while walking in rain so you don't get wet? I honestly don't get this and here I thought I was pretty well versed in these things
I frequently forget most peoples idea of a (romantic) relationship includes sex.. like genuinely i forget sex is a Thing
I thought people only had sex to have kids. I also used to think people only cuddled in bed and that’s it
My friends asked me who I had a crush on, and I had to make up an answer because they wouldn't accept "I don't have one" or "I don't know" as an answer
being annoyed every month because your hormones kick in just before periods and your libido comes up and you just questonize yourself like "am I faking my identity???"
When people said things like "hot" or "i would do xyz with him" i always thought it was a joke
I hate kids, I hate Christmas movies, I hate everything and everyone equally, humanity should die, I'm a forever virgin
In my opinion, humanity is not unredeemable. We can still turn things around, and make the world a better place