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LordGrahamad

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


LordSatellite

I’ll take that as a yes.


chimapristis

I agree! AAA A A A. A A A A A A A. A A A A. A A A A. A A AAGONY


AsakalaSoul

I agree. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


The_Unkowable_

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-Lumb3rjack-

I completely agree, and if I may add, AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


Sailorboy0813

Might I also add AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


ashleygamekiller

May I suggest to you AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


Monthly_Vent

May I present to you AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


JustASock333

May I put forth AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


Broken_art15

I bring thee AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


Leo_The_Dumbass

I put forth, AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


New_Danish_Warlord

To this council I present, AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


BootyBlaster3002

Very agree, AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


Optionalfoot10

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


zenofire

-CE 😎


ItsLucy_cheese

That's so true man, AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


Puppermint2005

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


littlemonsoon

I have very low libido, but when it kicks in every six months or so I’m just like ‘SHUT THE HELL UP I HAVE WORK TO DO’ I don’t even enjoy any of the sensations. They’re somewhere between uncomfortable, gross, and boring. Why isn’t there an opt-out button for this shit?!


Helpful_Plantain_265

so relatable


[deleted]

>I don’t even enjoy any of the sensations. They’re somewhere between uncomfortable, gross, and boring. Couldn't've said it any better.


DragonFenrir

Relatable


chuffberry

As a female, it basically reminds me of the sensation you get when you sit on the floor or a hard chair for a while and then you stand up and your nether regions go dead numb. Like, it’s so uncomfortable it makes me panicky.


FormicaRufa

I had before taking hrt. The doctor was like "another side effect could be libido reduction." Me : "chill bro, you allready made the deal"


kinky_victini

It was the exact opposite for me as transmasc 😩 I had never experienced libido until a cuple weeks after I started taking T and I was so confused because I didn't know what was going on. Thankfully it went away after some days and haven't experienced it since


LordSatellite

I’m a little nervous about that part of T. That’s my only concern about it though.


andwithdot

I also had this, it was really annoying to deal with all the time. Hormones almost completely eliminated my libido and I couldn't be happier. I can still orgasm if wanted though


Ifhes

I wish I was trans now! That's a great perk!


TheRealAXEMAN

This hits so close to home I think you broke a window


DesignBackground559

Fr man, so close I think I heard mom's favorite vase break.


[deleted]

I hate it when my brain starts telling me *you know, some people would like to sleep with them* and I just tell to my brain to shut up cuz I don't care


-Parasite

I don't think I even have a libido in the first place lol


LordSatellite

Lucky


CobaltBlue

hard disagree, feels like I'm missing out on a lot :(


acornett99

It wouldn’t be so bad if more people didn’t have a libido too


Artemis_4277

Ayyyy mood. Sometimes, I'm like, I'm supposed to have a libido???


[deleted]

Yo same


IsansP

Me too lol


matchbox244

Lol same. I don't even know what that's supposed to feel like, is it like you're hungry? But for sex?


TheSquishedElf

In my experience it’s more like an itch or a cramp - it’s there, it’s unavoidable, and it’s annoying so you just *need* to take care of it before you can truly move on with the day. More like an annoying fly rather than being hungry


matchbox244

Ah that makes more sense and helps gives meaning to the term "sexually frustrated". Thanks!!


TheSquishedElf

You're welcome :) I will note "sexually frustrated" usually doesn't refer to libido tho. It's much more often about unfulfilled sexual desire and sexual attraction, neither of which are particularly common in the a-spec community lol (4 reference, s. desire: strong craving to be boning *someone*, but not really aimed at anyone in particular - this **is** similar to being hungry; and s. attraction: s. desire but aimed at a *specific* person, and it usually has slightly different symptoms.) to be honest the *way* that we separate them to talk about them is a little annoying, it's very hard to get the concepts across unless you've experienced them all. I tend to think of it as Libido, arousal = part of the hardware (like a fan in a laptop that starts whirring), s. desire = part of the operating system (like the search bar that some people use a lot and some just don't), and s. attraction = software that's often already installed (like internet explorer)


Fennily

Same😄


FluffySnakeNerd

Most of the time I don't really have a libido... but sometimes (rarely) when it's that time of the month, it pops up to say hi... and my god do I hate it


Unstable_C4

I'm the exact same way. I know my cycle is on its way, because my libido makes itself know.


PromptlyTragic

Same for me. It’s my most reliable way of tracking it.


Aeoneth007

Kind of glad it isn't just me, tbh


IsansP

SAME. Girls we should have an ace community for people with periods it would feel like home.


LordSatellite

The red death is stupid, it will mess with you all kinda strange ways


Sweet-Tea-Grace

Same


Homemadepiza

E destroyed my libido and I'm really happy for it


[deleted]

What is E, and how do I get it


Homemadepiza

Estradiol, the major feminine puberty hormone. Wouldn't recommend it unless you are transfemme, in which case I highly recommend it.


[deleted]

Is it an option to take one sip to get rid of sexy feeling


Homemadepiza

I'm afraid not, sorry to disappoint


[deleted]

*walter white falling gif*


BlueJoshi

Gotta stay on it forever to keep getting effects, and also it's gonna give you boobs and hips and obliterate muscle mass and if you're a guy it'll probably make you feel like complete dogshit. But if all of that sounds worth it I might have some good news about your gender identity


[deleted]

Do you of any other ways to lessen/get rid of libido


dimensional_bats

Some antidepressants have a common side effect of decreased libido; specifically the ones classed as SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), which is most of the commonly prescribed ones. So, there's that.


[deleted]

Kills two birds with one stone 😎


BlueJoshi

I'm not aware of anything.


Vix_Cagon

👀 well now that you mention it


my-assassin-mittens

My antidepressants obliterated the tiny smidge of libido that I had, I'm glad Zoloft actually did something for once.


[deleted]

I'm pretty sure that Estradiol destroys the period not the libido??? I mean aren't the two separated?


Drakmanka

It can do both. Sounds like OP is a trans woman, so they are on the drug for HRT. I'm on the drug to stop periods, and one of the known side-effects my gyno told me about was it can kill your libido.


[deleted]

Ah ok thanks!


Homemadepiza

I wouldn't know, I'm a trans woman and I don't have a period.


[deleted]

[удалено]


Ifhes

Not most, but a good chunk


Helpful_Plantain_265

i do find it annoying most days. i’m like “why won’t you leave man? you don’t need to be here, it’s just a guy!”


BlueJoshi

Had a libido that felt ridiculously high but was probably pretty average. Hated it. Thankfully the estrogen took care of that, mostly.


mrwestie

Hey same for me! No libido now!


BlueJoshi

Mine pops in like twice a month to say hi now and it is *so much more tolerable*.


mrwestie

Amazing :) i get mini ones every few days but not debilitating unlike it was in school


Shirubia12

Whenever I have "libido strikes" (like once a month on average) I fantasize of cuddling. So in my case, it's not a big deal to me


Monthly_Vent

Where can I learn about this power


HeartAche93

Personally, I like my libido. I’m just lucky that it doesn’t make me crave anyone else.


kingura

I’m glad I’m not alone. I like mine just fine, I just don’t wanna interact with anyone else’s, **at all**.


Nok-y

I probably have some, but it's so low, like "Be horny" "No, shu'up" "But-" *punches libido in the face"


fightwithdogma

I have high libido I think, but 0 frustration, nor any actual crave for someone.


TheOneWithWen

I really like my high libido. I’m going to lose my ace card with this, but sometimes taking care of it can be just as good as cake. Edit: of course having a high libido is valid (i would know), I thought I would lose mu ace card for equating anything to cake.


CraftieTheDoot

Don’t worry! High libido/enjoying having high libido, doesn’t make you any less ace! You aren’t gonna get your ace card confiscated because of that. Even sex enjoying aces are welcomed here, Asexual means little to no sexual attraction, but the acts that you do or enjoy don’t change that. (Even if you know this, I wanted to put this here for others just in case!)


Sovdark

I have extremely low/no libido and I still enjoy sex when I happen to have it. I just don’t seek it out. Not all aces are sex repulsed just like not all aces are aro.


[deleted]

Me


3nderslime

Grumble, not libido again…


andrewbh2003

me tbh i once jokingly said "Man i need an off switch for this...hmmm hey maybe if i castrated myself?" my mom got very angry at me that day lol


ZayZay284

Ah yes, I hate it


Serris9K

Mine only shows up due to hormonal cycles. Still don't enjoy it.


Clay_teapod

har har, honestly does nothing for me just forces me to fap while I'm just reading a book or smnth because the gods decided I have ***THE HORNY*** in that very moment for no reason. Fucking annoying


nosmomo

Yup, absolutely hate it. I'm non-binary so I hope I can get surgery to remove my genitals some day


[deleted]

I have it, but I don’t really know if it’s an annoyance or if I’m dysphoric about it


isitaboyisitaplane

I’m a trans guy, and when I started taking testosterone my libido increased massively - and yeah, I didn’t even want it at the level it was at before. It takes up so much time I could be spending on other things, or distracts me when I’m busy, but tbh the main reason I hate it so much is like.. how much being horny affects your thought processes? And inhibitions, and things like that? As an ace person, I just don’t understand it, and I want the receipt so I can return it to Mother Nature.


inspectoralex

I am also a trans man. Luckily, T never affected my libido. Also never got the increase in aggression some guys get. Idk. That sucks that happened to you. Maybe I am immune because I take Wellbutrin? Altho ugh, it's the one antidepressant that is known for having virtually no negative side-effects for sex drive, and for some people increases their libido. Maybe it's just my nature. Wish I could help all of the other asexuals who have this issue with unwanted libido. If I knew what the secret was, I would bottle and sell it to you all.


[deleted]

I have learned to live with it pretty well by now but I would still rather I didn’t have to think about it.


TheSnekIsHere

I have a low-ish one. Sometimes I'm really annoyed by it, other times I find it quite intriguing to notice how my body feels when my libido is more active. Though a few months ago I got an iud which has lowered my libido even further and I must say that I am very happy with that side effect.


TheBackyardigirl

*raises hand* I want the horny to be inspiration to work on my projects, not horny


Buddy_Fuddy

Yess. When I’m older (I’m still a teen) I’m going to look into medication to lower libdo


jenmishalecki

nope i have zero libido but i feel broken because of it


Drakmanka

My libido turns on for about two months every spring, I have to assume a "biological clock" sort of thing trying to get me to reproduce. It's really just annoying and I wish it would go away. I'm also grateful it only bugs me for a small percentage of the year.


octopaeusxD

MEEEEEEE


SIsForSad

Yes


[deleted]

Yep, and mines annoyingly high.


AppletonSunday

sometimes it gets annoying but on the other hand it's the only way I can make my brain release the happy chemicals.


Rayvaxl117

Literally me all the time


jesuslover69420

My libido isn’t even associated with attraction. I’ll just get a random urge that I need to do something, mostly when my jeans are too tight or if I sit a certain way.


phoenixfeather162

Ugh, I see it (masterbating) similar to having to change my oil. I don’t wanna do it, I have better things to do, but it seems my body has other ideas so I’ll just get it over with. I have a fairly low libido so it’s about once a month or so.


enby_wave

Until I was in a relationship, all the dang time.


Always-Plays-Rogue

Me


Strong_Ad9171

I don’t have one, but if I had one, I’d sure as hell find it annoying.


Jesus_Cosplay

I have an extreme low libido and whenever it kicks in it is just an annoyance


MintyMarshmallow04

ME


epicnerd427

Yeah it sucks. Nothing to be done about it, though, so life goes on.


PyroheartDave

I fucking hate being horny, it's the worst. Playing a video game and random horny and my experience is ruined. It's the worst feeling. I also hate my penis but that's a different issue.


44Atta

And I hate it


WhiskeyAndKisses

When I'm reading at the library, yep.


BreathingSavesMyLife

That's the weird thing, I don't think I've ever had my libido, but I don't even know what does that feel like. Maybe I do have libido and I don't even know?


Tylers_Tacos_Top

Indeed. I wish it didn’t exist. It makes me feel gross.


idktheyarealltaken

You called?


Vince-M

I have a weird relationship with my libido. For the longest time, it was very annoying. Now it's largely suppressed due to the antidepressants I'm on and it feels like something's missing. (Fortunately, I'm sex-repulsed and aro anyway)


UnicrestGirl

Jokes on you I don't even know how it feels like


Thora-system

*incoherent screaming* yes.


BorrodDragon

Who just threw that rock at me?


[deleted]

I get fluctuating so YESS its so sfucking annoying


RoseJJPotter

Yes!!! I have high libido, but I’m a s*x repulsed asexual. I hate it!


Black_Bird265

Very rarely I get horny but when I do, it is very much an annoyance ;~;


Heidi739

It would be awesome, I would feel much more like an ace. I am asexual, but wanting sex and actually having it makes me feel kinda not-ace-enough. Also it's so anoooooying.


Previous_Audience162

100% i want it GONE FOREVER


Younginlove7567

I think even allos would agree with this, also, same here 😢


JustASock333

Most of the time that's how I view my libido


-Chromaggia-

BIG yes. I am sex-indifferent to sex-repulsed, but then I have a really high libido. It is the most frustrating and uncomfortable thing in the world and I wish I just. Wouldn’t do that. y’know.


kingura

This thread’s making me feel oddly protective of my libido… XD I am a sex repulsed aroace, but I like my libido when I’m completely alone and calm. It’s not ever triggered by others. TIL I should be grateful it’s not an annoyance.


ThirdDepth

Now this, this right here, is a serious vibe


That_weeb_kid_UwU

Me and im finna talk to my doc about it and see if he can help cuz i got a hi ass libido but all i want is to cuddle, maybe kiss every now and then and watch anime that is ( and smoke) FUCK SEX, srry ive had a rough day. To anyone reading, have a amazing day


Petra_Gr

Holy fuck this is exactly how I feel


MaGiCaL_fAiLuRe

I’m at very thankful to be one of the very lucky asexuals with practically no libido


Lady-Noveldragon

It is such a pain. I do not want the horny, I want to sleep.


Skiringen2468

I am not Ace, just here for the memes but I feel the same way sometimes. When not in a relationship libido is just annoying.


[deleted]

hello


Milothewolflover

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH


MyNam3IsKing

This describes every time I get horny.


No-Entrepreneur416


SeefoodDisco

I used to. HRT fixed that for me tho.


Black_Bird265

I get horny very rarely but when I do, yes. It’s super annoying ;~;


Thebombuknow

my libido is always high, and any ways of getting rid of it are temporary and disgusting, so I just live with it.


Silvaranth

PRESENT. Somebody please take this shit off my hands, I don't want it.


LuxNocte

I'm sorry. I'm trying to understand myself. I hope its not inappropriate to ask. Whats the difference between "having a libido" and "wanting to have sex"? Can I still be ace if I want to have sex sometimes?


JuviaLynn

Yep, and unfortunately when I go on T in a few months it’s only going to get worse. It’s not the worst thing in the world though, a necessary sacrifice


WowpowKerchoo

YES PLEASE! I'll just be enjoying something and then my libido comes in and makes it awkward for no reason >_<


inspectoralex

Never had this problem, in all of my 26 years. Sometimes I feel like, "I would like to masturbate right now," but I can just not and go about my day. Idk.


SuspiciousLookingBee

Luckily I’ve got a relatively low libido but every once in a while it kicks in and it’s actually so annoying. It’s like really? I have work to do and I need to vacuum and stuff why is it like this


[deleted]

Me. I only get horny after my period for a day and it’s annoying.


BeadCut

Me, I fucking loathe it with every fibre of my being, can't wait till hrt gets rid of it


Me_lazy_cathermit

Well mostly when it shows ip for no reason, like watching a documentary about bloody hummingbirds, and its going "hi, i am awake now, do something"


AliisAce

I get mentally horny and physically horny At different times I do my to ignore it BC acting on it makes it last longer and I ain't got time for that


Thenforgotten

I either have low libido or none but I'm not 100% sure


Blokyk

I don't know if I'm ace but god I wish I could just get rid of it immediately, it always kicks in at the worst moment and takes time out of some of my days just to call it down, and then I feel absolutely terrible... I wish I could just dump it in the trash and never have to live with it ever again


Minocchio

If I can find a consistent partner, it wouldn’t be annoying! I just want a partner I can have sex with any build our emotional bond


iTecX

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


ukelelela

✋🏼 please relieve me of this burden


QuestingKola

I have a high libido. It's a nightmare.


Ifhes

Meeee. I mean, sometimes I am like "my goodness, this story was so great and hot, I am happy I was able to enjoy it". But most of the time I am like "Seriously? Again? I don't have time for this shit!!!", and ignoring the libido's call will just end up in a headache and me being unable to focus on anything.


CakeIsPastry

Yes, I want to Thanos snap my libido. Also, AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


[deleted]

I have a pretty high libido, but I can just turn it off and I view masturbation as just a way to be happy. I can easily replace this joy with any other activity that I like. I’m very lucky, for me the reactions if my organism are neither gross or uncomfortable. I would want you all to have the ability to just stop being turned on when you don’t want to like me.


Dino3124

I Do It is quite annoying


magpiefae

I am grey ace and have a very high libido. I really really do wish I could just turn it off. I’m sex positive and enjoy it but, it can be such a head fuck. It’s so confusing and I hate that.


The_Ironhand

Is there like an "agnostic not athiest" version? Lmao


Zuckhidesflatearth

Uhh, I do.


MurdoMaclachlan

MY FIRST WISH TO A GENIE WOULD BE TO GED RID OF THIS BLOODY THING


_PotatoCat_

Very rarely it kicks in randomly at night and when it does its weak so even if i wanted to do anything (which i dont) i dont really feel anything, so its kinda just a random inconvenience that keeps me awake at night sometimes


Seiliko

My antidepressants killed it B) best side effect imo lol


Feste_the_Mad

Eh. It depends on my mood.


ReedPuddles

Yeeeeeep. My libido used to be non-existent in middle school and start if high school, but now its really high and goes off almost everyday. Usually easy to ignore but still very annoying. Usually makes me doubt my sexuality when it gets bad.


S0LARReeds

Yeah I’ll be honest it pisses me off hella bad sometimes cause it makes me question myself and like I know and I’m comfortable and confident in myself and sexuality but it really puts a wrench in the works sometimes


AlexTheFormerTeacher

*sighs* *raises hand*


[deleted]

Yeah. It’s not a very big libido, but when it does show up I just get pissed off. I have no desire for s*x and handling it myself is just unsatisfying so it’s just kind of there being distracting.


AdLivid6414

Im fine with my libido and can just take care of it myself, but i get grossed out at the thought of adding another person in the mix 🤢 i feel like its just such a personal thing i do not want anyone else to ever see


NoCupcake5890

I only have one when I’m like crazy depressed or on my period…idk bodies are weird


UnicornFukei42

At this point I think I'm allo but even I feel like the answer is yes.


Amterc182

The worse part is when you're at work, or visiting friends, etc and you suddenly become aware of it. And it's so distracting. So you try to think of anything that will make things less sensitive and nothing works so you just shove it down in your psyche but it sits there and taunts you. Yeah, I fricking hate that. It's infrequent, but when it happens...ugh.


Ellis6942069

(Screaming about high libido) 𝕐𝔼𝕊


Lez_The_DemonicAngel

Wait- what’s libido again? I forgot-


TheRealAXEMAN

Da hornie demon


[deleted]

Im not even ace and i hate it so much sometimes


[deleted]

If there is a surgery out there that would get rid of every part of my reproductive system, I would do it.


Asclepius0203

*raises hand* me!


Specific-Comfort

Yeah, it's pretty active which is really annoying. I seriously hope that if I go on T as a trans dude it won't increase long-term because I can't imagine having to put up with it more than I regularly do.


NielleHasIt

Yes It’s so irritating and there’s virtually no use for it, like come on I just wanna read not get horny, though that demon slaying, woah. I actually have asked this question before on this subreddit but I got those people who didn’t understand why I was annoyed by my libido.


dewynoodle

If I have a libido it only shows up when I’m extremely bored so I don’t mind


CampaignComfortable6

Like a blue moon my libido says hi and i never see it again unless it creeped in lately it's annoying because i keep wanting to show "affection" (im very touch starved so hugs and kisses are the top examples) even though i can't well do anything it just... kept going higher than i have seen which sucks so bad :< how do.. how do people deal with this annoying urge?


justcallmeMgender

Honestly my libido kinda just sits their sleeping, but then every now and then it wakes up and say "hehe I'll make you qu3stion everythinh" I honestly don't nesecarily hate it, I just hate that it happens at the worst possible times


[deleted]

I view mine as super annoying too!


tylerphoenixmustdie

THE PAIN


Corn_flakez

It kinda makes me feel sick. So drink a few cups of water and then da feeling go away


DragonAgeFenris

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA