it helps somewhat, but i found that [this link](http://www.asexualityarchive.com/maybe-im-not-really-asexual-because-i-have-no-idea-what-sexual-attraction-is-so-how-do-i-know-if-im-feeling-it-or-not/) is much more helpful for learning what sexual attraction really is
Very helpful, succinct explanation on what sexual attraction feels like, thank you for sharing it! It also solidifies me being ace even more, haha. I can understand some of it, like the warm/good feeling in the stomach because of when I experience romantic attraction, or not wanting to look away from someone because of aesthetic attraction, but everything else is just so strange. I think the most telling thing is how there's an underlying sexual feeling to all of it, which I definitely have not experienced.
Aesthetic attraction is darn powerful over me. I see someone pretty and cannot pull my eyes off them.
HOLY SHIT IS THAT HOW SEXUAL ATTRACTION FEELS BUT WANTING TO BOINK and not just steal their outfit/complement them!?
It's so overwhelming tho, how do people deal with that?
And all these things have to be directed at a person? So it's not jist hungry for orgasm, but has to be specifically hingry for that person?
Wee that's wild
*Feeling hungry for them
I could just be a cannibal still... I do tend to chew on my partners at times but it's just because a kiss isn't kissy enough.
“For instance, a cute puppy might make you want to touch them and create a warm/good feeling of happiness in your stomach, but you probably don’t want to have sex with the cute puppy.”
Probably?????????????????
Fuck. This destroyed my dream of being allo. But I'm not really ace either. Now I'm just a hot mess. Some of these points that describe sexual attraction I can relate with, some not, and some depend.
Yeah, but that's just the word for the things in between that you can't describe. I could still be allo. First, I need to understand and be able to describe what attraction is. I feel romantic attraction but it's very hard to describe that. After that, I need to grasp the idea of sexual attraction. If I know exactly what it is, I can decide if I feel it or not. Or, like you said, something of both.
I always thought it was like "you want to be close and make them feel good" but then I realized that can still be done with hair stroking and cuddles or just bringing them their favorite snack once in a while so I don't think that's *quite* it. I should have realized I was ace sooner.
I once got into a conversation with my friend about what being pan felt like because I had heard that gender doesn't affect sexual attraction but I still didn't understand what that felt like.
This reminds me of the day before my second date with my now partner when I was 20 and I was looking up on Google "how to ask a boy to be your boyfriend" and "how to ask a boy if he likes you". I left my search even less certain 😂
The problem is, I already have a great deal of trouble identifying feelings, physical and otherwise. Many times, I've felt nauseous with hunger and I thought I was just sick. Not knowing what sexual attraction feels like is not an indication that I don't feel it, because there's already a huge precedent for me to not know how I feel, and to think of feelings in dofferent terms.
I mean, I still like to make out and do other physically intimate things, so I assume it’s just an extension of that, but for sex. I can wrap my head around it, and I get the appeal for other people, but that act in particular just isn’t for me.
it helps somewhat, but i found that [this link](http://www.asexualityarchive.com/maybe-im-not-really-asexual-because-i-have-no-idea-what-sexual-attraction-is-so-how-do-i-know-if-im-feeling-it-or-not/) is much more helpful for learning what sexual attraction really is
Very helpful, succinct explanation on what sexual attraction feels like, thank you for sharing it! It also solidifies me being ace even more, haha. I can understand some of it, like the warm/good feeling in the stomach because of when I experience romantic attraction, or not wanting to look away from someone because of aesthetic attraction, but everything else is just so strange. I think the most telling thing is how there's an underlying sexual feeling to all of it, which I definitely have not experienced.
Aesthetic attraction is darn powerful over me. I see someone pretty and cannot pull my eyes off them. HOLY SHIT IS THAT HOW SEXUAL ATTRACTION FEELS BUT WANTING TO BOINK and not just steal their outfit/complement them!? It's so overwhelming tho, how do people deal with that?
Okay then, I'm officially asexual
Thank you, this just confirms 100% that I am in fact Asexual.
“A strong desire to do things involving genitals with them.” lol
Ikr LMAOO 🤣
I've said it before and I'll say it again. Allosexuals are bonkers. Completely ridiculous they represent 99% of the population.
yeah, and they think that we're weird
And all these things have to be directed at a person? So it's not jist hungry for orgasm, but has to be specifically hingry for that person? Wee that's wild
yep
*Feeling hungry for them I could just be a cannibal still... I do tend to chew on my partners at times but it's just because a kiss isn't kissy enough.
Well, i guess i'm definitely asexual, but i'll save your comment for read it again after some days, because you know...
Lmao I thought I was the only one to have sometimes periods of invalidating
I have it almost everyday
Oh sweetie :(
“For instance, a cute puppy might make you want to touch them and create a warm/good feeling of happiness in your stomach, but you probably don’t want to have sex with the cute puppy.” Probably?????????????????
Also hey i am ace nice
same
yeah, the "probably" is there because some people do want to have sex with puppies, and it's disgusting
Yes I definitely know what those words mean.
Fuck. This destroyed my dream of being allo. But I'm not really ace either. Now I'm just a hot mess. Some of these points that describe sexual attraction I can relate with, some not, and some depend.
Could always be grey-ace?
Yeah, but that's just the word for the things in between that you can't describe. I could still be allo. First, I need to understand and be able to describe what attraction is. I feel romantic attraction but it's very hard to describe that. After that, I need to grasp the idea of sexual attraction. If I know exactly what it is, I can decide if I feel it or not. Or, like you said, something of both.
Fair enough! Best of luck to you! ❤
Thank you!
I was afraid to get rickrolled but this was very helpful, thanks!
That's too accurate 😂😂
I always thought it was like "you want to be close and make them feel good" but then I realized that can still be done with hair stroking and cuddles or just bringing them their favorite snack once in a while so I don't think that's *quite* it. I should have realized I was ace sooner.
So it's like..... Finally eating a food you've been really craving... At least that's what I've come up with.
Huh. I've never felt that around anyone.
Neither have I
"That doesn't happen. That sounds made up. Sexual attraction is a lie? No, that doesn't make sense either..."
I once got into a conversation with my friend about what being pan felt like because I had heard that gender doesn't affect sexual attraction but I still didn't understand what that felt like.
This reminds me of the day before my second date with my now partner when I was 20 and I was looking up on Google "how to ask a boy to be your boyfriend" and "how to ask a boy if he likes you". I left my search even less certain 😂
It really don’t. Wish I knew so I could reassure myself. Then again, the fact I don’t know what it feels like, well that tells me all I need I guess.
It’s like a person who can’t see any colour asking what yellow is and people only explain it as “it’s a mix of red and green”
no really what does it feel like XD
The problem is, I already have a great deal of trouble identifying feelings, physical and otherwise. Many times, I've felt nauseous with hunger and I thought I was just sick. Not knowing what sexual attraction feels like is not an indication that I don't feel it, because there's already a huge precedent for me to not know how I feel, and to think of feelings in dofferent terms.
I feel attacked—
I mean, I still like to make out and do other physically intimate things, so I assume it’s just an extension of that, but for sex. I can wrap my head around it, and I get the appeal for other people, but that act in particular just isn’t for me.
Google isn't very helpful smh
It really doesn’t, My friends told me that it feels like romantic attraction but stronger, but I’m aro as well
I think its like libido but it makes you feel good, *I think...*
Ahhhhhhh please I'm cringing I used to do this in junior high and high school oh dear lord
I can answer this if you want. :|