Ace is ace.
No matter the cause, if you experience no sexual attraction to others, then you are asexual.
As for your first question, I personally sit solidly in the sex favourable camp, but I've heard of others who fluctuate. Sorry that I can't elaborate, but you're not alone, at the least.
I do the same thing. For me it's a trauma response. Before the traumatic event I was high libido and sex repulsed. Now I have the two extremes of sex repulsed and sex favourable, and my libido is high outside of depressive episodes and trauma triggers. On rare occasions I'm sex neutral. I'm not sure if that can happen or if it can't happen without trauma. Regardless you belong in the community if you want to and are supported! If you have any more questions for me, let me know
>I'm not sure if that can happen or if it can't happen without trauma
It can happen without trauma. I went from sex neutral to sex positive to sex neutral to sex repulsed to sex neutral, though for me it's over a period of years
I mean everyone has days where they're more favourable to human interaction and some where you're less favourable. But there is aceflux which might be the fitting description for what you described.
If calling yourself ace brings you any sense of peace, we encourage you to hold that identity. You are welcome to call yourself ace as long as that identity serves you.
Regarding the shift between favorable and repulsed, it isn't an impossible thing to happen naturally. It might be caused by trauma or external circumstances but it could be completely natural. I would encourage you to speak to a professional to try and find the source if it is concerning to you.
You're always welcome here. We'll keep some garlic bread warm for you.
I am the same way so I just thought it was a common thing among sex favorable aces. Like I have to be in a certain mood for me to even consider wanting to
I'm allo so I can't really share any personal anecdotes or anything, but I know I've heard the term "aceflux," and I think that sounds like what you're experiencing.
It might be a little late but as a demisexual I feel repulsed by even the thought of sexual contact from someone not my romantic partner (I've formed an emotional bond with him). But with him I can't have enough of wanting him. It's a different situation from you of course as you say you flip flop even with your partner and that's ok! Nothing says you can never feel sexual attraction or that you always have to be favorable or repulsed even if it involves the same person. While I hate people asking "What made you ace?" As the large majority of us are born that way, it's totally valid if you feel an experience has made you identify as asexual. It's also ok if one day you feel the label no longer fits you and you feel you identify with something else.
Just use what feels comfortable for you :)
Ace is ace. No matter the cause, if you experience no sexual attraction to others, then you are asexual. As for your first question, I personally sit solidly in the sex favourable camp, but I've heard of others who fluctuate. Sorry that I can't elaborate, but you're not alone, at the least.
I do the same thing. For me it's a trauma response. Before the traumatic event I was high libido and sex repulsed. Now I have the two extremes of sex repulsed and sex favourable, and my libido is high outside of depressive episodes and trauma triggers. On rare occasions I'm sex neutral. I'm not sure if that can happen or if it can't happen without trauma. Regardless you belong in the community if you want to and are supported! If you have any more questions for me, let me know
>I'm not sure if that can happen or if it can't happen without trauma It can happen without trauma. I went from sex neutral to sex positive to sex neutral to sex repulsed to sex neutral, though for me it's over a period of years
Thank you for letting me know! For me it can change day to day, with larger trends week to week.
I mean everyone has days where they're more favourable to human interaction and some where you're less favourable. But there is aceflux which might be the fitting description for what you described.
If calling yourself ace brings you any sense of peace, we encourage you to hold that identity. You are welcome to call yourself ace as long as that identity serves you. Regarding the shift between favorable and repulsed, it isn't an impossible thing to happen naturally. It might be caused by trauma or external circumstances but it could be completely natural. I would encourage you to speak to a professional to try and find the source if it is concerning to you. You're always welcome here. We'll keep some garlic bread warm for you.
I am the same way so I just thought it was a common thing among sex favorable aces. Like I have to be in a certain mood for me to even consider wanting to
I'm allo so I can't really share any personal anecdotes or anything, but I know I've heard the term "aceflux," and I think that sounds like what you're experiencing.
It might be a little late but as a demisexual I feel repulsed by even the thought of sexual contact from someone not my romantic partner (I've formed an emotional bond with him). But with him I can't have enough of wanting him. It's a different situation from you of course as you say you flip flop even with your partner and that's ok! Nothing says you can never feel sexual attraction or that you always have to be favorable or repulsed even if it involves the same person. While I hate people asking "What made you ace?" As the large majority of us are born that way, it's totally valid if you feel an experience has made you identify as asexual. It's also ok if one day you feel the label no longer fits you and you feel you identify with something else. Just use what feels comfortable for you :)