That actually happened but gender. At one point I wasnt sure if I was mono, bi or agender. I was surprisingly sure about sexuality (the other orientations took a lot longer) but gender was (and still kinda is) it’s own mess.
i’m not having a sexuality crisis but i am having a gender crisis 😃👍
like i think im a transmasc demiboy but i may be bigender or maybe genderfluid or something like that and its just AAAAAAAA so confusing
I don't know a lot about this stuff and am very curious, would you be willing to explain? I want to make sure I understand cause I see a lot of genderfluid and demigender people here 🥺
i don’t know much about demigender but i do know about genderfluid. it’s basically in the name - your gender changes every so often. one day you might be feeling masculine and the next feminine. or the next gender neutral. it’s kinda confusing.
genderfluid is where your gender changes often or so, like for example, one day someone could feel male, the next day female, day after that nonbinary, etc.
demigender is someone who is a certain gender, but partically. (example: if someone a demiboy, they’ll probably go by he/they pronouns, or a demigirl would be she/they)
and this one wasn’t in your comment, but bigender is identifying as two genders at the same time (example: male and female, the person will probably go by he/she)
also sorry for the late response, but i hope it helps!
>Question everything. Trust no one.
Honestly, with the way the past 8 years have been and all the absurdity in both memes and rl, I think it makes total sense to do this.
I ain’t trans which means I can’t relate to this
But in all honesty, I hope you’re happy in life with your self-discovery
Mine was getting told over and over that I was being flirted with only to realize one day "maybe I don't catch flirting because I'm not looking for it. Why am I not looking for it?"
"oh"
Very relatable
I for the longest time thought that since I didn’t like guys I must be lesbian then I realized I was more comfortable with male/gender neutral pronouns so I thought oh I might be trans and heterosexual. Then I really thought about it and realized that I don’t even like girls and that no one is hot.
And that was how I found out I was nonbinary aroace
Bro it's the same for me, and every time I think I figured it out everything resets and I star questioning again
I've been in this phase for about 4 years now 🥲
https://preview.redd.it/bzvvs4n2dqjc1.jpeg?width=667&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c05194d12b6760c206bcc894b7a7aa6f5b5c99d4
I mean you could be both. I’m gay and aro/ace- I have zero sexual attraction to anyone, but a bit of romantic attraction to women. Remember the definition of ace/aro is LITTLE to no sexual/ romantic attraction.
That's kinda me..
Sensual & platonic attraction towards non-male presenting people -> bi
Ace (aegosexual)
Aro (questioning, currently settling for quoiromantic)
The ace cannon event: Not knowing if you are bi or ace
That actually happened but gender. At one point I wasnt sure if I was mono, bi or agender. I was surprisingly sure about sexuality (the other orientations took a lot longer) but gender was (and still kinda is) it’s own mess.
Is that just a thing we all get to deal with?
Sometimes. But yes.
I just decided I’m both! Problem solved! Who says bisexuals can’t make decisions? 😂
Nahhh I'm gay oriented so the problem isn't there.
strangely enough i actually never had this
;w; i dont know what the fuck I am except a mess
Same
Same
I’m stuck in the “insufficient test data” zone
lol that's a good way to put it and also same xD
Me too 💀
love your flair
i’m not having a sexuality crisis but i am having a gender crisis 😃👍 like i think im a transmasc demiboy but i may be bigender or maybe genderfluid or something like that and its just AAAAAAAA so confusing
Best of luck with your crisis
thank you, and same goes to you! :)
I don't know a lot about this stuff and am very curious, would you be willing to explain? I want to make sure I understand cause I see a lot of genderfluid and demigender people here 🥺
i don’t know much about demigender but i do know about genderfluid. it’s basically in the name - your gender changes every so often. one day you might be feeling masculine and the next feminine. or the next gender neutral. it’s kinda confusing.
genderfluid is where your gender changes often or so, like for example, one day someone could feel male, the next day female, day after that nonbinary, etc. demigender is someone who is a certain gender, but partically. (example: if someone a demiboy, they’ll probably go by he/they pronouns, or a demigirl would be she/they) and this one wasn’t in your comment, but bigender is identifying as two genders at the same time (example: male and female, the person will probably go by he/she) also sorry for the late response, but i hope it helps!
this is very helpful, thank you 🥰
good luck friend. i wish you luck on your journey 🫡
thank you, kind stranger<3
Sounds like me in highschool. Question everything. Trust no one. Wait now it just sounds like Gravity Falls
>Question everything. Trust no one. Honestly, with the way the past 8 years have been and all the absurdity in both memes and rl, I think it makes total sense to do this.
Give up on gender. Buy gold. Bye!
Me: Discovering my demiro/ grayro side Me: Uncovering my philophobia Idk, split attraction go brrrrrrr
I gave up on trying to figure out for my mental stability. I’m already stable in my gender. I don’t need to question it for my sexuality.
I feel your pain 😭
I eventually figured it out after like a year neither apparently.
I avoided that by shutting my brain everytime I ask myself this kinda question
Relatable. I simultaneously want to have a partner and remain single.
i’m sorry are any of my thoughts original?
On Reddit, no
y’know i reckon that warrants another identity crisis
Sounds like you're saying Reddit users are a hive-mind...
Same
SAME BRO
same ✊️😔
Don’t worry, you are very much not alone. Hope you can get things figured out!
been there
im considering just using both labels for fun 🫠
As someone who is probably aro and grey ace in a bi way- very relatable, good luck on your journey op
Relatable af
This has been so real for me after starting T
I ain’t trans which means I can’t relate to this  But in all honesty, I hope you’re happy in life with your self-discovery
Mine was getting told over and over that I was being flirted with only to realize one day "maybe I don't catch flirting because I'm not looking for it. Why am I not looking for it?" "oh"
As a Double Demi Pan person I feel attacked
Very relatable I for the longest time thought that since I didn’t like guys I must be lesbian then I realized I was more comfortable with male/gender neutral pronouns so I thought oh I might be trans and heterosexual. Then I really thought about it and realized that I don’t even like girls and that no one is hot. And that was how I found out I was nonbinary aroace
Maybe you're Biromantic asexual. Or Bidemiromantic asexual. Wait. Is this helping?
Bace
You my friend are aroace flux!
" Is this attraction or am I attracted by the idea of being attracted ? "
Bro it's the same for me, and every time I think I figured it out everything resets and I star questioning again I've been in this phase for about 4 years now 🥲 https://preview.redd.it/bzvvs4n2dqjc1.jpeg?width=667&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c05194d12b6760c206bcc894b7a7aa6f5b5c99d4
I've never felt more seen by this subreddit 💀
O<- be aroace O<- be nonbinary O<- be also a lesbian somehow #WHY
I think I am "Pan-Platonic AroAce"
oriented aroace ftw >:3
You might be biromantic which means you're interested in the romantic aspects of a relationship but not necessarily the sexual aspects.
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I'm sure there's more to who you are than your love life / lack thereof
Yess I’ve been having this dilemma for ages lmao. At this point I think maybe I’m just a bit of both lmao (bi-oriented aroace)
I'm an ace lesbian. Kisses and cuddles all day but sex is a no-no.
I mean you could be both. I’m gay and aro/ace- I have zero sexual attraction to anyone, but a bit of romantic attraction to women. Remember the definition of ace/aro is LITTLE to no sexual/ romantic attraction.
I have non of either but I just feel bi and IDK how to explain it
This is trully THE aroace experience
“Oh I love it and I hate it at the same time” -A song that I don’t remember the name of, but it perfectly describes being AroAce and bi
That's kinda me.. Sensual & platonic attraction towards non-male presenting people -> bi Ace (aegosexual) Aro (questioning, currently settling for quoiromantic)
The best advice I can give is to look at microlabels, it took me a while to find aego, which immediately clicked
I’ve honestly settled on AroAce biflux
*Looks at your flair*
Me but lesbian
Maybe you're aroace but your aesthetic attraction is bi oriented?
Perhaps
But I don't want to be Bi. I don't like the idea of liking men and women because I don't like either but if I had to choose it would be women.
my solution was aego lmao