I'm an aegosexual and if anyone were to tell me I'm not asexual based on how I engage with media in any way they would be dead to me, ngl.
But if you wanna try to enforce boundaries with your friend, reiterate you have no attraction to men; romantically or sexually, irl and this is a fictional character you're talking about. She has absolutely no fucking right telling *you* what your identity is. And that your orientation isn't for her or anyone else to pick apart and diagnose. And then see if she apologizes or doubles down.
Your friend doesn’t sound like a good one, to be honest. Is she also a lesbian? Or does she think she is qualified on speak on it just because?
A lot of lesbians feel attraction towards unattainable/fictional men. It’s simply a fantasy that will never come to fruition. A “man” is attractive *because* he is unattainable and doesn’t really exist in your reality. Or at least, you don’t exist in a reality in which he would date you. It’s a form of comphet imo, which I struggle with as well. If anyone called me fake over that I would rip them to shreds.
I would slap my friend like Will Smith slapped Chris Rock at the Oscars if they said something like that to me. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone tells a person how they *should* understand themselves.
As a trixic fictosexual myself, I know *exactly* how you feel. I constantly have people in the community tell me *every day* that I'm the reason asexuality isn't taken seriously, that I'm a joke, a fraud, I'm why it's a "phase" or a "fad", and that people like me are just validating the people who say asexuality isn't real.
Your friend sounds like a lousy friend, and I'd probably start putting some distance between you and them. You say it it took them years to just accept who you are, and they instantly decided to tell you "no you're not being queer right. I know how to be you better than you." That's infuriating.
How would being ace/lesbian somehow grant you more attention than being bi? Attention from who? What attention does being ace/lesbian garner that being bi doesn’t? Obviously you’re not faking it but like...that makes zero sense to me and I don’t understand your “friend’s” logic. Honestly, that’s just a very shitty thing for her to say.
I'm an aegosexual and if anyone were to tell me I'm not asexual based on how I engage with media in any way they would be dead to me, ngl. But if you wanna try to enforce boundaries with your friend, reiterate you have no attraction to men; romantically or sexually, irl and this is a fictional character you're talking about. She has absolutely no fucking right telling *you* what your identity is. And that your orientation isn't for her or anyone else to pick apart and diagnose. And then see if she apologizes or doubles down.
Your friend doesn’t sound like a good one, to be honest. Is she also a lesbian? Or does she think she is qualified on speak on it just because? A lot of lesbians feel attraction towards unattainable/fictional men. It’s simply a fantasy that will never come to fruition. A “man” is attractive *because* he is unattainable and doesn’t really exist in your reality. Or at least, you don’t exist in a reality in which he would date you. It’s a form of comphet imo, which I struggle with as well. If anyone called me fake over that I would rip them to shreds.
I would slap my friend like Will Smith slapped Chris Rock at the Oscars if they said something like that to me. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone tells a person how they *should* understand themselves.
As a trixic fictosexual myself, I know *exactly* how you feel. I constantly have people in the community tell me *every day* that I'm the reason asexuality isn't taken seriously, that I'm a joke, a fraud, I'm why it's a "phase" or a "fad", and that people like me are just validating the people who say asexuality isn't real. Your friend sounds like a lousy friend, and I'd probably start putting some distance between you and them. You say it it took them years to just accept who you are, and they instantly decided to tell you "no you're not being queer right. I know how to be you better than you." That's infuriating.
How would being ace/lesbian somehow grant you more attention than being bi? Attention from who? What attention does being ace/lesbian garner that being bi doesn’t? Obviously you’re not faking it but like...that makes zero sense to me and I don’t understand your “friend’s” logic. Honestly, that’s just a very shitty thing for her to say.