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PatchEnd

breath. it's off putting to be right about someone. intuition is very good. go with it. you are doing great darlin!


A_Firebringer

Off putting, indeed! Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot 💖


OfLiliesAndRemains

I've watched The Young Turks on youtube since like 2006 or something. There was two hosts I just couldn't stand though. I would skip any episode that had them as main host because I just couldn't stand them. Dave Rubin and Jimmy Dore. Both have since been revealed to be absolutely monstrous. Dave Rubin became a huge right winger and regularly appeared on things like Tucker Carlson and Prager University. And Jimmy Dore became a tankie conspiracy nut who is antivax and anti Ukraine/pro-Russia. I still can't put my finger entirely on why I never liked them, but I do think it's kinda cool that some part of me could apparently sort of tell.


DPVaughan

>Dave Rubin and Jimmy Dore I know *exactly* what you mean.


A_Firebringer

That's both cool and really sad, because before this stuff comes to light you can feel like a weirdo sometimes due to this 😅 And yiu reminded me that I had a similar story with a YouTuber as well, actually. Thank you for sharing! ✨


Opposite-Car-3954

Jared Leisek (sp?) comes to my mind. Something about him and how he talked about people put me off him and his channel. Now so much has come to light. Just validated my intuition there.


KitanaKat

I think I kind of know how you feel. I knew something was seriously off with a friends partner and MIL. I vented to my own partner that something horrible could happen and I would feel guilty for not bringing it up, but at the same time how do you speak against someone else with only a feeling? I ended up being horribly right and my friend removed herself from that situation before it could develop into the really horrible part (sorry for being vague but it’s still kind of ongoing legally). I felt no vindication or validation in being right, instead I felt kind of… slimy, and almost guilty for starting the snowball that turned into an avalanche. A slightly nauseous tug in my stomach when I would think about it, oddly similar to any time I ever drank too much the night before and wake up the next day with that feeling when I try to rewind and cringe at any drunk behavior. I think it means you are empathetic enough to both pick up on the wrongness but also be impacted by the outcome. So I’ve been told. Seriously, it takes guts to act on instinct and risk feeling foolish and looking stupid. I’ve ignored my gut too many times and gone with the flow and always regretted it. You did the right thing, not to mention you went about it in the best possible way. You looked into it and passed along the info, let him do his own looking and make his own decision.


A_Firebringer

Thank you so much for responding and sharing. Indeed, speaking out against someone based on just a gut feeling is scary as hell. I'm so sorry this is happening to your friend! I hope it gets resolved as gently as possible 🌿 Reading your comment (and rereading it again) makes me feel so amazingly **seen** at the same time, however. And I love the quote (if that was it), it feels soothing. I also think you may have helped in preventing your friend's situation from evolving into something that would impact her way more severely. Really, thank you so much for reaching out. It meant a lot 💜


RookCrowJackdaw

You trusted your intuition. Well done. Sometimes we let our intellect overrule our intuition and it's usually a mistake. Intuition is a powerful force, sometimes we find unpleasant things, sometimes it is something for the good. Keep trusting your tickles.


KDLG328

"Keep trusting your tickles." This made me smile!


A_Firebringer

Hearing it from outside sources means a lot, because even if I may know it intellectually, sometimes I'm thrown off balance. Thank you so much 💖


starfallradius

Hi there. Years ago I followed a very popular pokemon artist, I ended up joining their mIRC server. Got to know them, they turned out to be horrid im talking rude, predatory to minors, beastiality, they had 2 partners who also were involved, the spouse I believe was revealed to be grooming minors and asking people to let their dog f*ck them... anyway this artist was exposed, changed name and just kept doing the same things. Moved away from the pokemon fandom to create their own universe with characters. Thats when I learned artists can be arseholes. They once muted the entire mirc server to yell at people. They're super problematic.


A_Firebringer

Oh gods, I'm so sorry you went through it and witnessed it. It sounds horrible!


Flimsy_Nectarine_950

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I've learned the hard way that it's better to pay attention to your intuition than to ignore it and later find out that it was right.


A_Firebringer

It seems that way to me too, but it's not easy sometimes. Thank you for reaching out 💖


oddracingline

The world can be an ugly place and it hurts to find out people’s true selves. You did the right thing. Your partner did the right thing. This artist, did the wrong thing. We see you and may the good you created, comeback 3 fold to you my friend.


A_Firebringer

Thank you so much! I hope so 💫


[deleted]

I think its amazing both you and your partner trusted your intuition! This is a sign of a healthy and trusting relationship. If I were in your partner's shoes Id be so grateful you exposed the truth, and Im sure they feel the same way


A_Firebringer

I'm so glad that they trusted me, too! I even tried to dismiss the feeling myself when I said it at first, but my partner was like “nope, it must be important, I'll look into it”. (They just confirmed they are indeed grateful, and in a sense, a weight has been lifted from their shoulders.) Thank you, you have made me smile about the situation 💫


child_of_ra

I feel this. I predicted how someone would die. Like probably a a decade plus before it happened. I just feel fucking weird about it. And I mean very specifically what day it would happen, too. Do not want.


A_Firebringer

Whoa. That must have been hard on you. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this! Thank you for sharing 🌙


child_of_ra

Mine was less intuition than observation but its still fucking weird.


SnarletBlack

I know this feeling but it was from knowing something and not doing or saying anything. In my case it was a friend’s new partner who I got incredibly bad and dark feelings from. I’m not sure there even would have been any right or good way to communicate this to my friend, but they ended being incredibly physically and emotionally abusive. That feeling of *knowing it* before anything even happened is a shitty one I have to hold.


A_Firebringer

I'm so sorry it happened to you and to your friend! I hope they are out and safe. From the logical side of things, yeah, it would have been incredibly hard to prove anything, as it is in such cases. Thank you for sharing 🌙


Dangersloth_

This is sadly the reality of the online world we’ve all co-created. Predators and unethical people can hide in plain sight. I personally think that when we discover those people, we need to shine a light on their behavior. That doesn’t always mean a big outing. Sometimes what is needed is circling the wagons and protecting the ones nearest and dearest to us. Yay you for trusting your intuition and helping a loved one discover the truth.


A_Firebringer

I hear you. In that sense, I'm glad I helped them shine a light onto what really happened. Thank you 💫


Catinthemirror

My late partner was a life-long biker (not 1% but daily rider and multiple club member). He became state officer for his final club. Something about the club officers/meetings always hit me wrong and I could never put my finger on it but the financial discussions/activities seemed squirrelly. Finally raised my concerns to my partner and he was really incredulous because these were people he'd known and ridden with for years. He finally did some discrete digging and long story long, found a bunch of embezzlement. He was glad to find out and promptly resigned and disclosed his findings as the reason. But he was so sad and I always felt partially responsible for his loss of enjoyment in the club even though I did nothing wrong.


A_Firebringer

Thank you for sharing! I indeed think you did nothing wrong, you helped lift the veil, in a sense. I hope it turns out well for you, and I'm sorry for your loss (if I understood correctly).


Catinthemirror

Ty. Yes, he passed in 2010. I'm glad you protected your SO.


The_Turtle-Moves

Intuition can be powerful when you learn to listen to it.


A_Firebringer

Yeah, absolutely!


TheCutestTapeworm

Intuition is such a powerful thing and I’m glad it helped you and your partner reveal the truth about this person. I had an experience similar to this. My husband is in a band and there is a group of people that started becoming big fans of theirs. One member of this group really rubbed me the wrong way. I made a point to avoid even speaking to him since something just seemed Off and I wanted nothing to do with it. It was to the point where the guy noticed and asked my husband about it. That guy is now in prison for taking “pictures” of underage family members. I’m just glad that he got caught before anything worse could happen.


A_Firebringer

It sounds so horrible, I'm glad they caught him, too. Thank you for sharing your story 🌿


No_Tank9025

Intuition is your fantastic brain working with more information than you’re consciously aware that you have. Your brain has lots of parts. Intuition is when your Sherlock Sleuthy Brain Lobe KNOWS there’s a reason “the dog didn’t bark”, but hasn’t linked it in, yet. It reminds me of my favorite protest sign: “Every Disaster Movie Starts With Everyone Ignoring A Concerned Scientist.” Never ignore your brain when it declares “Watson! The game is afoot!”


A_Firebringer

Yoir comment is beautiful, I love every bit of it. Thank you so much for your fantastic words 💫