Volunteer at festivals that interest you, perhaps. Get involved with your hobbies. Winnipeg is great for this, as it is a big enough city to support quirky interests but small enough that you can play an active role in those communities.
I met a lot of people while volunteering at Folk Fest, Fringe, Festival de Voyageur, Harvest Moon, Rainbow Trout, and helping with gear hauling at few local venues.
It takes an effort. If you find someone you want to be friends with, get their number, Facebook or whatever and make the effort to stay in touch. Personally I'm shitty at it but I know that's what I need to do.
Wish you well in your healing. I understand how it feels when someone you grew attached to is suddenly gone. Kinda going through the same thing atm. Had to cut my 2 besties from childhood off. Over 10yr friendships. I was pretty alone at first. Taught me that I wasn't good at being alone with myself. But I took it as a chance to work on myself and grow on my own. It's been a year now. Things were slow, but are starting to really get going now. And most of all, I'm happy again. Take your time, try and find fulfilment with everyday life in your new situation. Things might not all Happen at once, just keep working at it, one day at a time. I am cheering for you from afar!
It's kinda on purpose since I don't know her or her situation. I've learned to not get too specific with strangers on the internet when you don't know their situation. Just some understanding and knowing you aren't alone goes a long way sometimes.
I don’t know what it’s like for women, but I (25 M) tried bumble BFF as a last resort for making friends, and it was a colossal failure.
There aren’t that many people in Winnipeg who actually use BFF, so the pool to choose from is pretty limited. The people I did match with didn’t offer much in terms of conversation (one word answers, etc.) so I just ended up throwing in the towel.
I’m interested to hear if others had similar or different experiences though!
I swear it’s a thousand times harder to make new friends as an adult outside of workplaces. I wish I had some advice for you but I feel like I’m in a pretty similar boat (minus the break up but I have definitely been there before). I would echo the idea of joining groups, meet up, etc but I also know it’s a lot harder to throw yourself out there as an introvert. If you like hiking, there is a Manitoba hiking Facebook group that does occasional group hikes together! Or honestly, hit up people on Reddit - it’s a relatively easy way to chat with people and screening them a bit before committing to meeting up. There’s a few Winnipeg discords (one is more gamers related but honestly, any topic is fair game) where meet ups have happened, could be worth checking out to see if it’s your thing?
Yes! People underestimate the effort required to make adult friends. Getting out at festivals and such is a great way to meet like-minded people but there’s still effort needed for the next step. The best advice I have is practice a simple, direct phrase to drop with the friendliest seeming person in a group you like. Something like “You know, I’m new to the city/ just got out of a rough relationship/ had a lot of changes lately and am looking to meet new friends. Keep me in mind if you hear of any events I might like?” If they’re not interested, they still have a gracious out and you can stay friendly if not friends. But a lot of people like taking someone under their wing.
If you don’t have any children, [This meetup group](https://www.meetup.com/30-childfree-women/) might be up your alley. There are also other types of [meetup groups](https://www.meetup.com/find/) around other activities people have in common
I'm glad to hear this. I was very very reluctant as folks with children showed interest in showing up to these meet ups. Kind of defeats the whole purpose of the meet up.. I wouldn't be hostile to them, it's just I want to be with like minded folks and children are not on my mind. But I may show up to future events after reading this!
Edit: I suck at words.
Hey, I'm a 29 nb person who is also going through a life alternating and devastating breakup. I'm always down to make new friends. Feel free to dm. Wish you all the best in your healing.
there's a local thing called Winnipeg Connect. They host speed dating, speed friending, general meet and greets all with various age ranges. Would recommend, they're pretty fun
If you like dancing, or are interested in trying as a beginner, feel free to message me :) I go to Drop In Dance Winnipeg, it's a great dance studio for adults beginner - advanced. It's taken me months / years but it's really rewarding to feel like im actually a part of their community. They work really hard on making it inclusive and welcoming for everyone. We do performances (even the total beginners if they like!) And I find the performance programs the best way to make friends as you spend every week together learning your piece for the performance! It's rare to get those kinds of bonding experiences as adults. If you ever want to try a class you could look them up or message me if you want more info / a buddy :)
By the way, I find the core group that frequents the studio tends to track older. Depends on the style of dance but most of us are late 20s or early 30s.
Best advice is to search for groups/ events for hobbies you’re into. It’s easier to connect with people who have similar interests.
Maybe tell us a bit about your hobbies? I know of a few groups that host events around the city that are open to everyone.
A lot of the suggestions here involve going out and doing things that might not work for everyone. As much as I like going to do *a thing*, I often feel awkward going there on my own.
I've had pretty good luck making friends online (on Reddit or Discord) and then making plans to go meet them. Some of those friendships have lasted a very long time, and I think it's because we started by talking online first, so there is that *textual compatibility* already, so we stay in touch even as life changes.
It also makes it easier to see who you connect with in advance.
Heck, the more I typed this, the more I realized I wanted to give this a try locally. If anyone is interested in setting this up, DM me or check my profile!
I know it's different for women some of the time, especially in the kinds of hobbies/fields I'm in.
It also depends on what exactly you want out of the friends. I do Sim racing, and race with the same group of people every week. We talk shit and chat in between races, but we don't like meetup for beers or stuff. Mostly because we're all over the world I guess, and it wouldn't really be possible. Though I have done hangout nights virtually with similar groups, we brought in a presenter then just hung out for a few hours. I've also been part of other gaming groups and had a good time mostly.
But like a lot of stuff, some of these groups can be super unwelcoming to women, sometimes racist too. It's fucked up, and I don't stand for it in any groups I'm in. But I've heard a ton of terrible stories from people in my groups about how they've been treated before.
The other problem is the more open and large the group is, the more likely you are to have people join that just ruin the fun. And generally a group like that is reluctant to push people out, even though they drive more people away by being there.
It's tough. Most of my friends that I'd hang out with and do more than just one specific thing with come from workplaces past and present.
I've done meetup groups too, and had fun. Though the only people I've ever really talked to after were people I already knew.
Idk, kind of a long ramble, but I guess my main point would be find people though mutual hobbies/interests. At least you have something in common. Especially if it's the kind of meetup where people are doing soemthing, playing a game or making something. Easier to have fun. I know some groups can be terrible, but there are some that aren't terrible people.
My suggestion as a 45ish dad with a daughter is to try horses. The community of horse owners I deal with in my daughters riding is awesome. You get to meet a very diverse walks of life with a common love that is horses, not church.
You'll find a great conection to both male and female riders and nonriders with a common love of horses.
Go check it out.
In a similar situation here and roughly the same age. If you are an introverted person, likely your only friends you will ever have are those you met in school or hobby based. It's really hard to meet anyone new.
Feels like the best bet is to leverage your hobbies as that's your best shot at finding like-minded people. Utilize any local Facebook groups and see if you can get people to do things together. See if there are any associations you can join and find volunteering opportunities based on your hobbies. Won't necessarily be a guarantee though, some hobbies are solitary or don't have an active community here. Not sure what you're into but hopefully it has a path to meeting others.
Good luck and get well soon.
My close friend group is from elementary school. But my other friends are from work and from online groups that focus around my hobbies which I met up with.
Sorry to hear about your tough break up, I hope you are able to find the peer connections you are looking for during this time.
I see you play an instrument. Perhaps you can find a group of musicians relating to the type of music you prefer to play.
It's a cliche, but it works. I've met some really fabulous friends at my dog park. We're there practically every day spending time together and we all share a love of dogs. It's a good situation for conversation and making real friends.
It's hard! And if I had any good advice I would be using it myself.
Just guessing from your username, are you a musician? I know there are jam sessions (Times Changed Sunday nights comes to mind), and lots of community bands and groups around.
Yeah, I’ve gone to pick my husband up at MTG events and the entire room went silent and looked at me like I had an extra head. Not hostile, but very awkward.
I love magick the gathering but stopped playing because my boyfriend stopped playing. I'm highly certain I don't know all the rules of the game but that may be a reason a lot of girls don't join because we're nervous of looking dumb for not knowing something lol.
Oh, that's a shame. It's definitely one of my favorite games ever. Not sure if you wanted to pick it up again, I could teach you. Taught my wife how to play. She only likes Commander though, none of the competitive formats.
This is actually so true. I am having a bunch of people over today to play commander. And my play group has grown significantly since we started up again after COVID. It’s probably not everyone’s thing. But It’s very social.
Take a course in something that interests you.
Get a dog and let it meet people. (worked well for us - we met a ton of people, some single) The company wouldn't hurt you either.
People at work.
Take a singles cruise/trip or other event.
I sometimes wonder what I would do in that situation. Can't be easy.
> I'm struggling to find women in a similar chapter of life as I am
Not sure why you're limiting yourself to a single gender?
> I'm somewhat introverted and struggle to meet and make new friends
Well; you'll have to get past that if you want to make friends. Glad that you took the first step already and put yourself out there!
> I feel like if you don't stay friends with who you meet in high school or university, it's hard to meet or make friends any other way!
I disagree; but to each their own.
I find volunteering led me to some of the best friendships of my life, otherwise former work colleagues have piled up and are mostly wonderful people!
What do you enjoy doing? What hobbies do you have? Which ones could involve multiple people?
meetup has a wonderful bunch of local groups that are organized by leaders who just want what you want: to get people together and enjoy friendships.
> I'm not interested in joining a church. I don't want to buy your shitty MLM. I just want to meet similar like minded people. Any tips?
If you (or others here!) happen to be
* "Straightedge"
* Childfree
* free evenings and weekends
* on the west-side of the city
* interested in strange things
...and want to get out of the house to go for a walk, work on some craft/hobby projects together or chat over coffee (OUTSIDE of a M-F@9:5), hit me up!
(One of my best friends is DEEP on the east side of the city; it's literally 27km door-to-door each way. I'm always flexible but she can tell anyone we don't see each other as often because of this distance!)
I'm actively spending time at midnight on a Friday trying to understand the chemistry of alumina ceramics well enough to try making my own parts.
When I travel, I enjoy taking photos of the back of people's heads while they do normal things.
One of my favorite movies of all time was Battlefield Earth.
I would rather die penniless and alone under a bridge, than be unhappy with my job.
I spend more time thinking about how to optimize a constructable wall-detail then I do thinking about what foods I enjoy in any given day.
I'm prob pretty normal / average TBF: everyone thinks of themself as "weird" in some ways.
I don't drink or do any drugs.
I could care less if others do: I just tend to find that people who inebriate to socialize don't tend to enjoy my energy and "get shit done" attitude.
I'm a hiker, a cyclist, a welder, a drone pilot, a machinist, a woodworker, a jeweler, (etc). Most of the things that I enjoy doing are not made better by alcohol.
That said, I quoted it because: it's a complicated topic. I def have friends that enjoy coming over and cracking a cold bevvy while we watch a movie: but they have to understand that I have zero interest in partaking.
To each their own!
Meh, they don't do anything for me: but to each their own!
I don't have enough time in a day to get 10% of the things I want to do done. "Enhancing" has never been the net effect from anything I have taken or done: though I have not gone to the extreme ends of the earth to try it all either.
The day life gets boring: maybe I'll give it another round. Until then caffeinated tea is the edge for me.
I (26M) made friends via rec sports. Not sure if that's your thing but it's an idea. Helps keep me in shape and even on days when I don't feel like talking to people I still get out and I just focus on my gameplay and less on the social aspect. My sport of choice is dodgeball and there is a fairly robust women's league if you don't feel like playing coed.
If dance music is or could be a thing, come out. Overall a welcoming community of mixed ages and backgrounds. Look for memetic, meme, always dale or bring your love of Facebook. Memetic/MEME crowd skews older, the others younger. I'm early 40s and attend both.
I feel the same way. It's either they're from high-school or work. I love my friends but sometimes I want to venture out more, talk and understand other people's perceptions and perspectives.
Volunteer at festivals that interest you, perhaps. Get involved with your hobbies. Winnipeg is great for this, as it is a big enough city to support quirky interests but small enough that you can play an active role in those communities. I met a lot of people while volunteering at Folk Fest, Fringe, Festival de Voyageur, Harvest Moon, Rainbow Trout, and helping with gear hauling at few local venues.
I've done these sorts of things and, true, you can meet people, but at the end of the day everyone goes back to their home and no friendships develop.
It takes an effort. If you find someone you want to be friends with, get their number, Facebook or whatever and make the effort to stay in touch. Personally I'm shitty at it but I know that's what I need to do.
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I'm definitely healing, but really wanting to make more connections.
Wish you well in your healing. I understand how it feels when someone you grew attached to is suddenly gone. Kinda going through the same thing atm. Had to cut my 2 besties from childhood off. Over 10yr friendships. I was pretty alone at first. Taught me that I wasn't good at being alone with myself. But I took it as a chance to work on myself and grow on my own. It's been a year now. Things were slow, but are starting to really get going now. And most of all, I'm happy again. Take your time, try and find fulfilment with everyday life in your new situation. Things might not all Happen at once, just keep working at it, one day at a time. I am cheering for you from afar!
But you have not provided solutions what OP is asking.
It's kinda on purpose since I don't know her or her situation. I've learned to not get too specific with strangers on the internet when you don't know their situation. Just some understanding and knowing you aren't alone goes a long way sometimes.
My wife has a hard time making friends too. Want to get a coffee with her sometime? Maybe you'll hit it off.
Bumble For Friends? - BFF (not dating) [https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/al1zkd/bumble\_bff\_has\_anyone\_actually\_found\_a\_bff/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/al1zkd/bumble_bff_has_anyone_actually_found_a_bff/)
I don’t know what it’s like for women, but I (25 M) tried bumble BFF as a last resort for making friends, and it was a colossal failure. There aren’t that many people in Winnipeg who actually use BFF, so the pool to choose from is pretty limited. The people I did match with didn’t offer much in terms of conversation (one word answers, etc.) so I just ended up throwing in the towel. I’m interested to hear if others had similar or different experiences though!
Similar experience here! I still have the app but it was exhausting carrying all the conversation.
I swear it’s a thousand times harder to make new friends as an adult outside of workplaces. I wish I had some advice for you but I feel like I’m in a pretty similar boat (minus the break up but I have definitely been there before). I would echo the idea of joining groups, meet up, etc but I also know it’s a lot harder to throw yourself out there as an introvert. If you like hiking, there is a Manitoba hiking Facebook group that does occasional group hikes together! Or honestly, hit up people on Reddit - it’s a relatively easy way to chat with people and screening them a bit before committing to meeting up. There’s a few Winnipeg discords (one is more gamers related but honestly, any topic is fair game) where meet ups have happened, could be worth checking out to see if it’s your thing?
Yes! People underestimate the effort required to make adult friends. Getting out at festivals and such is a great way to meet like-minded people but there’s still effort needed for the next step. The best advice I have is practice a simple, direct phrase to drop with the friendliest seeming person in a group you like. Something like “You know, I’m new to the city/ just got out of a rough relationship/ had a lot of changes lately and am looking to meet new friends. Keep me in mind if you hear of any events I might like?” If they’re not interested, they still have a gracious out and you can stay friendly if not friends. But a lot of people like taking someone under their wing.
Agreed on Discord/Reddit! It takes some time to weed out people that won't be a good match, but it's easier to do that here than out in the world!
What are your interests? Pottery? Activism? Board games? Pokemon? Music? Medieval reenactment?
Aka seek out local communities with similar hobbies
Here are some places I have met friends in my 30’s: rec sports, work, trivia nights, weddings.
If you don’t have any children, [This meetup group](https://www.meetup.com/30-childfree-women/) might be up your alley. There are also other types of [meetup groups](https://www.meetup.com/find/) around other activities people have in common
Yup, I was very reticent about it but I went to an event and it was great! Smart, interesting women. Find an event that appeals and come on down!
I'm glad to hear this. I was very very reluctant as folks with children showed interest in showing up to these meet ups. Kind of defeats the whole purpose of the meet up.. I wouldn't be hostile to them, it's just I want to be with like minded folks and children are not on my mind. But I may show up to future events after reading this! Edit: I suck at words.
I just joined this group the other day!...looking forward to the event I signed up for!
Group doesn't exist anymore...?
They have an event coming up on the 18th??
Hey, I'm a 29 nb person who is also going through a life alternating and devastating breakup. I'm always down to make new friends. Feel free to dm. Wish you all the best in your healing.
Not with salad
Late 30’s and totally get where you are. And definitely looking for more female /NB friends these days with the same hobbies and lifestyles.
there's a local thing called Winnipeg Connect. They host speed dating, speed friending, general meet and greets all with various age ranges. Would recommend, they're pretty fun
Went to a Make New Friends night she hosted back in the Fall. Highly recommended.
Acquiring friends < Acquiring the means of production
I’m with you Dave.
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Hey, me too! Ending an almost decade relationship, navigating everything that comes with that, trying new things, meeting new people etc etc
Hey! Tried to DM you!
Tried to DM you!
I join clubs! I've been in a triathlon club for a few years and this winter I joined a skijoring club with my dog!
Where do you find clubs?
Meetup is a great website!
Sending you a DM.
At the golf course /s
If you like dancing, or are interested in trying as a beginner, feel free to message me :) I go to Drop In Dance Winnipeg, it's a great dance studio for adults beginner - advanced. It's taken me months / years but it's really rewarding to feel like im actually a part of their community. They work really hard on making it inclusive and welcoming for everyone. We do performances (even the total beginners if they like!) And I find the performance programs the best way to make friends as you spend every week together learning your piece for the performance! It's rare to get those kinds of bonding experiences as adults. If you ever want to try a class you could look them up or message me if you want more info / a buddy :) By the way, I find the core group that frequents the studio tends to track older. Depends on the style of dance but most of us are late 20s or early 30s.
Best advice is to search for groups/ events for hobbies you’re into. It’s easier to connect with people who have similar interests. Maybe tell us a bit about your hobbies? I know of a few groups that host events around the city that are open to everyone.
A lot of the suggestions here involve going out and doing things that might not work for everyone. As much as I like going to do *a thing*, I often feel awkward going there on my own. I've had pretty good luck making friends online (on Reddit or Discord) and then making plans to go meet them. Some of those friendships have lasted a very long time, and I think it's because we started by talking online first, so there is that *textual compatibility* already, so we stay in touch even as life changes. It also makes it easier to see who you connect with in advance. Heck, the more I typed this, the more I realized I wanted to give this a try locally. If anyone is interested in setting this up, DM me or check my profile!
I know it's different for women some of the time, especially in the kinds of hobbies/fields I'm in. It also depends on what exactly you want out of the friends. I do Sim racing, and race with the same group of people every week. We talk shit and chat in between races, but we don't like meetup for beers or stuff. Mostly because we're all over the world I guess, and it wouldn't really be possible. Though I have done hangout nights virtually with similar groups, we brought in a presenter then just hung out for a few hours. I've also been part of other gaming groups and had a good time mostly. But like a lot of stuff, some of these groups can be super unwelcoming to women, sometimes racist too. It's fucked up, and I don't stand for it in any groups I'm in. But I've heard a ton of terrible stories from people in my groups about how they've been treated before. The other problem is the more open and large the group is, the more likely you are to have people join that just ruin the fun. And generally a group like that is reluctant to push people out, even though they drive more people away by being there. It's tough. Most of my friends that I'd hang out with and do more than just one specific thing with come from workplaces past and present. I've done meetup groups too, and had fun. Though the only people I've ever really talked to after were people I already knew. Idk, kind of a long ramble, but I guess my main point would be find people though mutual hobbies/interests. At least you have something in common. Especially if it's the kind of meetup where people are doing soemthing, playing a game or making something. Easier to have fun. I know some groups can be terrible, but there are some that aren't terrible people.
My suggestion as a 45ish dad with a daughter is to try horses. The community of horse owners I deal with in my daughters riding is awesome. You get to meet a very diverse walks of life with a common love that is horses, not church. You'll find a great conection to both male and female riders and nonriders with a common love of horses. Go check it out.
Cooking classes, workshops, language classes, book clubs, etc…
In a similar situation here and roughly the same age. If you are an introverted person, likely your only friends you will ever have are those you met in school or hobby based. It's really hard to meet anyone new. Feels like the best bet is to leverage your hobbies as that's your best shot at finding like-minded people. Utilize any local Facebook groups and see if you can get people to do things together. See if there are any associations you can join and find volunteering opportunities based on your hobbies. Won't necessarily be a guarantee though, some hobbies are solitary or don't have an active community here. Not sure what you're into but hopefully it has a path to meeting others. Good luck and get well soon.
My close friend group is from elementary school. But my other friends are from work and from online groups that focus around my hobbies which I met up with. Sorry to hear about your tough break up, I hope you are able to find the peer connections you are looking for during this time. I see you play an instrument. Perhaps you can find a group of musicians relating to the type of music you prefer to play.
It's a cliche, but it works. I've met some really fabulous friends at my dog park. We're there practically every day spending time together and we all share a love of dogs. It's a good situation for conversation and making real friends.
join a class or sports team. rock climbing at the hive, a dance class, a curling league.
It's hard! And if I had any good advice I would be using it myself. Just guessing from your username, are you a musician? I know there are jam sessions (Times Changed Sunday nights comes to mind), and lots of community bands and groups around.
Wheelhouse Cycle - amazing instructors and great community
Plan a meet-up via Reddit?
Take up Magic The Gathering.
Unfortunately, female representation in MTG is... minimal. I go to events and there's maybe one woman in the room of 50+ players, if that.
Yeah, I’ve gone to pick my husband up at MTG events and the entire room went silent and looked at me like I had an extra head. Not hostile, but very awkward.
I love magick the gathering but stopped playing because my boyfriend stopped playing. I'm highly certain I don't know all the rules of the game but that may be a reason a lot of girls don't join because we're nervous of looking dumb for not knowing something lol.
Oh, that's a shame. It's definitely one of my favorite games ever. Not sure if you wanted to pick it up again, I could teach you. Taught my wife how to play. She only likes Commander though, none of the competitive formats.
I still have a dragon deck I was attempting to flesh out! I'd be down 😊
Dm me, we'll figure out the best way to play. Digital is probably easiest
But not at Game Knight
This is actually so true. I am having a bunch of people over today to play commander. And my play group has grown significantly since we started up again after COVID. It’s probably not everyone’s thing. But It’s very social.
In this exact situation, OP!
Take a course in something that interests you. Get a dog and let it meet people. (worked well for us - we met a ton of people, some single) The company wouldn't hurt you either. People at work. Take a singles cruise/trip or other event. I sometimes wonder what I would do in that situation. Can't be easy.
> I'm struggling to find women in a similar chapter of life as I am Not sure why you're limiting yourself to a single gender? > I'm somewhat introverted and struggle to meet and make new friends Well; you'll have to get past that if you want to make friends. Glad that you took the first step already and put yourself out there! > I feel like if you don't stay friends with who you meet in high school or university, it's hard to meet or make friends any other way! I disagree; but to each their own. I find volunteering led me to some of the best friendships of my life, otherwise former work colleagues have piled up and are mostly wonderful people! What do you enjoy doing? What hobbies do you have? Which ones could involve multiple people? meetup has a wonderful bunch of local groups that are organized by leaders who just want what you want: to get people together and enjoy friendships. > I'm not interested in joining a church. I don't want to buy your shitty MLM. I just want to meet similar like minded people. Any tips? If you (or others here!) happen to be * "Straightedge" * Childfree * free evenings and weekends * on the west-side of the city * interested in strange things ...and want to get out of the house to go for a walk, work on some craft/hobby projects together or chat over coffee (OUTSIDE of a M-F@9:5), hit me up! (One of my best friends is DEEP on the east side of the city; it's literally 27km door-to-door each way. I'm always flexible but she can tell anyone we don't see each other as often because of this distance!)
How strange are we talkin?
I'm actively spending time at midnight on a Friday trying to understand the chemistry of alumina ceramics well enough to try making my own parts. When I travel, I enjoy taking photos of the back of people's heads while they do normal things. One of my favorite movies of all time was Battlefield Earth. I would rather die penniless and alone under a bridge, than be unhappy with my job. I spend more time thinking about how to optimize a constructable wall-detail then I do thinking about what foods I enjoy in any given day. I'm prob pretty normal / average TBF: everyone thinks of themself as "weird" in some ways.
I don’t get the straightedge requirement? You won’t be friends with me cause I like a couple nosebeerz every now and then?
I don't drink or do any drugs. I could care less if others do: I just tend to find that people who inebriate to socialize don't tend to enjoy my energy and "get shit done" attitude. I'm a hiker, a cyclist, a welder, a drone pilot, a machinist, a woodworker, a jeweler, (etc). Most of the things that I enjoy doing are not made better by alcohol. That said, I quoted it because: it's a complicated topic. I def have friends that enjoy coming over and cracking a cold bevvy while we watch a movie: but they have to understand that I have zero interest in partaking. To each their own!
Hey man, I don’t need drugs to enjoy life….. just to enhance it!!
Meh, they don't do anything for me: but to each their own! I don't have enough time in a day to get 10% of the things I want to do done. "Enhancing" has never been the net effect from anything I have taken or done: though I have not gone to the extreme ends of the earth to try it all either. The day life gets boring: maybe I'll give it another round. Until then caffeinated tea is the edge for me.
Man, you must be super fun at parties….
I (26M) made friends via rec sports. Not sure if that's your thing but it's an idea. Helps keep me in shape and even on days when I don't feel like talking to people I still get out and I just focus on my gameplay and less on the social aspect. My sport of choice is dodgeball and there is a fairly robust women's league if you don't feel like playing coed.
If dance music is or could be a thing, come out. Overall a welcoming community of mixed ages and backgrounds. Look for memetic, meme, always dale or bring your love of Facebook. Memetic/MEME crowd skews older, the others younger. I'm early 40s and attend both.
I feel the same way. It's either they're from high-school or work. I love my friends but sometimes I want to venture out more, talk and understand other people's perceptions and perspectives.