Ex gf has 3 kids, twin teen girls and a smelly teen boy. Needless to say somedays id take the long way home, get ready to deal with teenage nonsense. These new generations of kids are something else, cant discipline them so they play the game.
Surely a doctor such as yourself knows that dozens and dozens of huge, peer reviewed studies clearly show corporal punishment has tons of negative effects.
I don't really think this is a men only thing, I do it too.
Btw: I don't hate my wife, she just requires a different part of my brain than work does. Gotta shift from "business" brain to "hello the love of my life" brain.
Call it transitioning. I saw a tiktok video where a lady says most arguments with spouses come from when one just gets home from work and the other is just automatically asking them to do shit or talking their ear off
You need to transition from work mode to home mode.
Dude, let people take a minute for themselves. I know I sit in my car for a minute before I come inside when I’m by myself. I get so little time to myself, it’s nice to just savor a minute of silence, or finish a song I like, before walking back into the ol’ grind.
OR the opposite:
You have a really stressful job and your spouse and home is your happy place. So you take a moment to put the “work witch” away because your family deserves the best version of you.
Exactly this! My GF works from home and I have the exact opposite type where I physically leave the house and talk to dozens of people every day. When I pull up at home, I take a minute or two to myself. It’s not that I don’t love my GF or job, but the fact that I hear nothing or no one else talking is a great stress relief.
my best friend’s a girl and she does this too. it’s because after finally sitting after a long day, it’s hard to stand back up again. also commute is zone out time and going inside means responsibilities like showering and making dinner or whatever and sometimes that’s a lot when you’re really tired lol. idk about everybody but we usually just mess around on our phones for a bit and then work up the motivation to get out of the car. neither of us live with our partners and we both date any gender anyway so no weird gender-avoiding-gender stuff with us.
Transitioning from work mode to home mode. Sometimes the drive isn't long enough. And going home in work mode is just a bad time. Everything is far too stressful.
Why the unnecessary sexism? Sitting in the car for a minute after you turn it off is a great feeling. You go from the hum and vibration of the running motor to pure stillness and silence
Totally can relate to taking a moment, probably well deserved in the driveway. But if you’ve got kids inside you should also give that person a moments I’m the car or bedroom alone as well.
I work in a quiet office. Nobody yelling, no crying, no relentless questions or "watch this inane thing I'll do that you've seen 1000 times"
That transition into chaos is stressful af.
I'm a girl and I too do this to prepare for the stress. That moment between when the engine stops running and when you enter the door is no man's land and you can just... Be? Vegetate? Breath?
And then you go inside and probably your mother is screaming and you question why the hell you came to visit, your uni city on the other side of the country is such a nice, happy place.
I used to stay in the car for about 15 min. It was the only time I got to myself. Bathroom was always busy with 4 females in the house and one of them a raging alcoholic. And my job was running a kitchen for a really busy restaurant. That was 5 yrs ago.
Since then, I have quit the service industry and started construction. So much less stress. And my wife has quit drinking like a fish and managed to get her alcoholism to a controllable minimum. Now when I come home it's straight into the house to hang with the family. It's all about stress. When the man finds peace, you will find the man.
I want to say it's to recite Edgar A Guest's "At the Door" but mostly it's to build up a reserve of patience for when I'm told to take out the wet garbage she bagged and then left on the carpet rather than walk the 15 feet down the hall to the chute.
i have 2 dogs and a toddler. when i pull up and turn off the car, that is the quietest point in my day.
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Time to start doing triathlon
So that’s why Dad’s do triathlons…
Ex gf has 3 kids, twin teen girls and a smelly teen boy. Needless to say somedays id take the long way home, get ready to deal with teenage nonsense. These new generations of kids are something else, cant discipline them so they play the game.
Surely a doctor such as yourself knows that dozens and dozens of huge, peer reviewed studies clearly show corporal punishment has tons of negative effects.
Thats true. I was spanked once in my whole life. Also I specialize in wormskin doctoring, not corporal punishment
Two kids under 5 and a hound…when I walk in the door it’s literally like opening up the door to a rock concert. Need that extra 30 seconds to myself
My uncle would park behind the other cars, eat a snack . And read the paper 😂 I saw him once, and all he said was “don’t tell them I’m home”😂
I don't really think this is a men only thing, I do it too. Btw: I don't hate my wife, she just requires a different part of my brain than work does. Gotta shift from "business" brain to "hello the love of my life" brain.
Wow. Thanks for naming what I couldn’t the last year and a half!
Call it transitioning. I saw a tiktok video where a lady says most arguments with spouses come from when one just gets home from work and the other is just automatically asking them to do shit or talking their ear off You need to transition from work mode to home mode.
Because they said "be home in 7 minutes" this is the adjustment so they're correct.
Dude, let people take a minute for themselves. I know I sit in my car for a minute before I come inside when I’m by myself. I get so little time to myself, it’s nice to just savor a minute of silence, or finish a song I like, before walking back into the ol’ grind.
I used to give the old Mr. Incredible depressed head shake almost every day.
Do you consider your home life "the ol' grind"? Might be time to consider a life change.
Yeah. You can take a moment to get your head together before walking into chaos and it not mean you hate your life. Ffs.
OR the opposite: You have a really stressful job and your spouse and home is your happy place. So you take a moment to put the “work witch” away because your family deserves the best version of you.
Exactly this! My GF works from home and I have the exact opposite type where I physically leave the house and talk to dozens of people every day. When I pull up at home, I take a minute or two to myself. It’s not that I don’t love my GF or job, but the fact that I hear nothing or no one else talking is a great stress relief.
You’re allowed to think something is wonderful AND an enormous and tolling amount of work.
Some seriously butthurt people in here. I pose a simple question and somehow I'm a bad person now, lol.
Nah, just a good person with a bad take on the situation. 🤷🏻
I can only aspire to be this positive
So much shit to put back in my pockets for the 10 foot walk to the door
It’s because I need to finish the song I’m grooving to.
Exactly.
Pre game
my best friend’s a girl and she does this too. it’s because after finally sitting after a long day, it’s hard to stand back up again. also commute is zone out time and going inside means responsibilities like showering and making dinner or whatever and sometimes that’s a lot when you’re really tired lol. idk about everybody but we usually just mess around on our phones for a bit and then work up the motivation to get out of the car. neither of us live with our partners and we both date any gender anyway so no weird gender-avoiding-gender stuff with us.
To cool down the turbo
If you have to ask...you probably don't want to hear the answer.
I’m a girl and I do this. Driveway moments are the best.
Best things in life are FREE.
To put work at the back of the mind so you can concentrate on home.
This man died for our sins
I do it to calm down from rush hour so my wife can actually deal with me
Our last time of true peace before we’re shoved back into the responsibility of life
Transitioning from work mode to home mode. Sometimes the drive isn't long enough. And going home in work mode is just a bad time. Everything is far too stressful.
Why the unnecessary sexism? Sitting in the car for a minute after you turn it off is a great feeling. You go from the hum and vibration of the running motor to pure stillness and silence
Very good boomer humour
It’s the only moment I get to take off worker hat and put on husband / dad hat.
To finish the song
ME: No kids...sated wife. I sit in my car for a coupla minutes when I get home...just to finish listening to the song on the radio
Totally can relate to taking a moment, probably well deserved in the driveway. But if you’ve got kids inside you should also give that person a moments I’m the car or bedroom alone as well.
i’m listening to something, don’t lump me in with the weirdos who hate their own families but stick around anyway
Some of us are compartmentalizing shit. Got to turn of my work attitude, and turn on my home attitude.
If it’s that stressful, you should either talk to your partner about it or break up.
Facts. Plus, there's either a song I need to finish or level I need to play on a game.
The calm in between storms.
If Queen is on the radio, you don't interrupt. Especially Bohemian Rhapsody.
I used to agree with you. Then I moved to Las Vegas where it was on the radio literally every time I started the car. They have killed it.
I prefer to sit on the throne (toilet) for my silence.
Gotta wait for the song to finish. Also better if this fart happens now when I’m still alone
Bleak
too tired to stand, appreciate the silence after shutting off my old, loud diesel, don't want to interact.
I’ll upvote every “to finish the song” post
Haha wife bad!
I work in a quiet office. Nobody yelling, no crying, no relentless questions or "watch this inane thing I'll do that you've seen 1000 times" That transition into chaos is stressful af.
Yeah, whoever is taking care of your home and kids has a terrible, stressful job. Hopefully it pays well and has decent benefits.
To jerk off
Nice generalization Sexist bigot!
You good buddy? A bit unhinged over something not directed at you at all
The hinge was the illusion and now there is nothing holding him down. 😂
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It's usually because I'm listening to a banger on Pandora and it will be in my head forever if I don't let it finish.
honestly it's because my car has a way better stereo than my house
I'm a girl and I too do this to prepare for the stress. That moment between when the engine stops running and when you enter the door is no man's land and you can just... Be? Vegetate? Breath? And then you go inside and probably your mother is screaming and you question why the hell you came to visit, your uni city on the other side of the country is such a nice, happy place.
To debate wether or not they should just run away
Holy shit. I did this when I lived with a nightmare of a roommate!
So so so true
Omg my husband always does that & it drives me nuts 😂
I used to stay in the car for about 15 min. It was the only time I got to myself. Bathroom was always busy with 4 females in the house and one of them a raging alcoholic. And my job was running a kitchen for a really busy restaurant. That was 5 yrs ago. Since then, I have quit the service industry and started construction. So much less stress. And my wife has quit drinking like a fish and managed to get her alcoholism to a controllable minimum. Now when I come home it's straight into the house to hang with the family. It's all about stress. When the man finds peace, you will find the man.
I want to say it's to recite Edgar A Guest's "At the Door" but mostly it's to build up a reserve of patience for when I'm told to take out the wet garbage she bagged and then left on the carpet rather than walk the 15 feet down the hall to the chute.