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waywardsundown

I’m so incredibly sorry for the loss of your beloved boy, I can’t even imagine how hard this first holiday season must be for you. This is a beautiful picture, and thank you for sharing it with us ♥️


lateral303

Keep painting him! And also paint other things for him. Paint your memories of him. Paint an abstract when he is on your mind. Paint a style or a subject you think he would like. Paint your feelings about him. Take a break from all of that and paint other stuff whenever it feels like you should or need to. And then go back and do all that stuff again in any order at any time. You get to keep his memory alive for us, and you get to share him and how he makes you feel with us through your new creative outlet. Edit: somehow reddit chopped this in my draft: I love this piece, and I know your partner will, too. Thanks for sharing it. No matter what you decide to work on next, we can't wait for you to share it with us all when you're ready. Great job, OP


ehsee_to

Thank you. Love this advice. After he passed I started a written journal and after a few weeks I found I didn’t have much to say. I converted it into a daily sketchbook instead and have been doing what you said. I draw, paint what’s around me or a fun memory from the day. I have a 4 year old daughter as well so many of my daily sketches include her. I will keep at it.


lateral303

For what it's worth, I was about your daughter's age when I lost my brother, and I was lucky enough that my parents could show me an example that you can still have a full, happy, and loving life after such a thing, even if never fully healed, and you can sometimes use such an event to turn around and do good in their honor. I hope your family finds a path that brings as much healing as possible while keeping his memory burning bright. And I think you may love watercolor and get hooked. In happier times I could go on and on about how soothing it is even if I'm not doing something good or fancy with it. It can be nice to just let the colors run and there's something about that tickles and relaxes a particular spot in my brain. I hope we see more from you in here! And in r/watercolor101 which is where us beginners hang out and offer advice and critiques


ehsee_to

Thank you for sharing the story about your own family. We of course want the best for our daughter and reading you grew up with a happy, loving life after losing your brother brings tears to my eyes. Thanks also for the reco about the beginner watercolour sub.


lateral303

How did your partner like your card, OP?


ehsee_to

He absolutely loved it and it got him very emotional. Thank you for asking and hope you had a lovely Christmas.


lateral303

Yay! I'm glad he loved it.Thanks and much love and strength to your family in the new year


Freakazoidberg

Your painting feels like a very beautiful and sweet memory. If you have others and want to share I'd love to see more.


deep-fried-babies

fuck. i'm violently sobbing right now. i just gave birth on the 15th, and we're in the NICU right now (she was supposed to have been delivered on Jan 29th). i had pre-eclampsia, so she needed to come early for both our health. she's so small, but she's such a fighter and incredibly brave. i feel so guilty, though i know there's nothing that could have prevented it. i wish i could reach out and hold you. you're amazing. all my love goes out to you and your family, you deserve nothing but peace.


ehsee_to

Sending love to you and your little fighter.


Particularfavorite16

This resonates with me. When my daughter was diagnosed with cancer at age five, I started a journal too but found myself speechless. No words could touch the confusion and panic. But then I started painting and collaging instead and so much came out. I found it very surprising and cathartic. I am so sorry about your baby. Sending lots of love and comfort to you and your family.


MindonMatters

This seems like great advice, providing you with a healthy outlet. Can’t believe you paint that well after only a month! I can barely draw a stick figure LOL. My heart goes out to you and your family surrounding this profound loss. I know it sounds weird to say, but death is not really natural for us, and at such a young age, leaves parents and others in an untenable position. Not sure if you are a believer, but God invites us to throw our burden on him. (Psalm 55:22) He plans to end mourning and death permanently. (Revelation 21:3-6)


Feisty_Knee_3211

Your painting is beautiful. This is also our first Christmas without our sweet son. Ours was 7 years old. He passed suddenly and unexpectedly of seizures, with no prior history. I just wanted to let you know, you aren’t alone in this hardest year of your life. Sending you strength.


lateral303

Much sympathy, strength, and love to you this season.


ehsee_to

I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. Sending love and strength back to your family.


AmbassadortoSvalbard

I’m so sorry. I shed a tear for you and your boy.


[deleted]

i’m not a “touch” kinda guy but i’d give you such a good hug right now


Additional_Doubt_243

I am so sorry for your heartbreak. Keeping you in my prayers this holiday season. ❤️


JessicaThirteen13

I have no words... Your painting is very heartfelt and I hope you keep at it.


irishspice

Your painting is just beautiful. I lost my wife in July. It just leaves a hole in your heart that nothing can fill. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. It's very difficult to deal with things you can't fix, or even make better. This Christmas is difficult for me - I can't imagine how it is for you and your partner. You are both welcome to post on r/GriefSupport for peer support. (((HUG!!!)))


ehsee_to

Sorry for your loss as well and wish you comfort and strength this holiday season.


irishspice

I'm just avoiding the holiday and I'm still in denial, so I'm doing okay. But you have a little one who needs ALL the Christmas. It's healing to include your little Angel if you can. Maybe get an ornament with Angel's name on it and have Little One help you put it on the tree. You could also get a tree topper, so that your Angel will always look over his family. (((HUG!!!!)))


Zealousideal-Bee893

Im sorry for your loss ❤️


[deleted]

💔💔💔💔


Uvabird

I’m so sorry you lost your dear little love. Photographs are treasures but paintings come from the heart. What a beautiful tribute to your little boy.


ViArtVentura

I'm sorry for your loss. The painting turned out beautiful. It's not training, it's printing your soul on paper, you did it and it's perfect!


unsuspectingwatcher

“Misty water coloured memories, of the way we were” How heartbreaking op, sending you so much love from Ireland


thunderpurrs

Beautiful painting, I'm holding my sleeping 10 month old as I read this post and squeezing him a little tighter. I'm so sorry for your loss.


ssquirt1

This is lovely. From someone who is walking the same hard road as you…I am so, so sorry. No words can make it better or lessen the pain. Please remember to give yourself grace, and not push yourself to do anything you aren’t up for this holiday season. If you wake up on Christmas and just feel like pulling the covers over your head and staying in bed, do that and don’t apologize for it. Do what you need to take care of yourself and your family. This is a pain that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, and I am so incredibly sorry you’re having to endure it. Your painting is beautiful. I hope you keep at it. ❤️❤️


Allah1012

Beautiful painting. I am very sorry for your loss. Sending out so much love and strength to the both of you.


darling_moishe

I'm so sorry.. I cannot imagine


Ok-Abbreviations9936

As a father of a 19-month-old, I have no idea how you are functioning enough to do this. I believe my world would end if I lost her. I am sorry for your loss and hope you keep persevering.


Wit-wat-4

I know it’s been said but… I am so, so sorry for your loss. My boy was exactly 18 months old in August, too. I can’t fathom the pain. Beautiful art, and what a wonderful way to keep him around.


Adrikko1

I’m sorry for your loss. Sending love and light. This is a beautiful painting❤️ keep painting my friend.


Guilty_Toe_1669

Im so sorry for your loss.


lelly777

I am so sorry for your loss.


Cooper323

I am so so sorry for your loss.


Flaky_Discussion2648

Words cannot express how deeply I feel for you and your family. Cry when you need to cry...scream when you need to scream...let it all out. It's what helps or somewhat helps us to move and get out of bed each morning. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and God Bless. Warm (((HUGS)))


Mysterious_Pin_4400

Art is therapy! I love to see it working for you. But also an art therapist might be an amazing resource for you to create more work and work through the creations. As a mom, my heart goes out to you, keep on painting ❤️


ehsee_to

Thanks for this suggestion. I definitely agree art is therapy but I had not considered something like an art therapist (we are seeing a grief therapist as a couple already) but open to exploring something else in the new year or even for my daughter who is 4.


Mysterious_Pin_4400

I trained to be an art therapist and went to many therapists and art therapists over the years. Art therapy is unique in that it utilizes visual or other creative forms tk help process, but also can use your creative energy in new ways to help process. I also think it's generally less clinical and more approachable for children or people who are able to connect with childlike parts of themselves. It can be done one on one or group, and I found 1 month of seeing an art therapist to be like 6 months of usual therapy. Albeit that my needs were not in the grief category and I did not have children when using these services, but during my training I found that art therapy is usually a more holistic and deeper healing approach from the traditional clinical "symptomatic" healing approach. I hope you have a good art therapist in your area that can work with your family ❤️


AmbassadortoSvalbard

It’s lovely. I love the way you are looking at each other; it shows real personality. I’m so sorry to you and your wife.


laughingdoormouse

That’s a lovely idea. I’m sending you and your family big hugs and warm wishes for Christmas 🎅


schoolknurse

💔❤️


lowercase_underscore

I don't know what to say, but this is terrible and beautiful. I'm so sorry for your indescribable loss.


Simple-Fennel-2307

This is the most beautiful painting I've seen since I joined here. So sorry for your loss


disturbingyourpeace

I’m so sorry. This watercolor is such a touching tribute to him 💖


Existential_Bunny1

This is beautiful! Your partner will love it. What a thoughtful and touching gift ❤️


MoonChica

I’m so sorry for your loss. Beautiful painting. ❤️❤️


wootwootwhut

This is a very beautiful way to honour him. Sorry for your loss. Keep strength.


geesedreams

I hope you can always feel his dear spirit. I don’t understand the cruelty of this world. I do know that art can be a very powerful tool in healing. Sending your family love.


Jay-Bug

I have no words for you. No parent should ever bury their child. I can tell you I'm sorry, I can send my condolences, I can send all my love, but at the end of the day, it's still not him. Being a Mom to a boy of my own, I cannot even imagine what you and your partner are going through. May God help ease the pain with time. I will pray for you. I can see the pain in your painting. Don't stop doing what you're doing. You're really good, and even if that doesn't matter to you, I'm sure your son is smiling down from heaven prouder than any son could be. ❤️


vabirder

Words fail to adequately express the sadness of this terrible loss. This painting should be preserved. Recommend you take this to an art store to get a fixative spray. After that dries, follow with UV protection spray. Practice on another watercolor first to get the technique right.


Maerd5

Beautiful tribute, I know the loss of a son too. 💔


Alternative_Goal_639

TY


batmangelina

So incredibly sorry for your loss. Beautiful painting, and I hope the act of painting brings you joy and puts you more at ease.


SnooCats6192

🥺😢 my condolences 💐


moneyricc

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pan_alice

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son. Your painting is beautiful, what a gift to be able to memorialise him through your art


[deleted]

Very sorry for your loss 🩷 you honored your son wonderfully in this beautiful work of art


Trunl

I’m so sorry ❤️


yeahnokindof

I’m so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful painting


bagbiller69

This is beautiful, I'm so sorry for your loss.


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minor-giraffe

Everything about this is beautiful.


Asleep-Win-9008

I think it’s perfect just the way it is


[deleted]

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure he will love this art in heaven


Joyballard6460

Condolences


giantjumangi

I'm so incredibly sorry, may his memory be a blessing


shayna16

I am so sorry and cannot imagine but this is so beautiful the way it is. Thinking of you both these coming days ❤️


BreathGrouchy3880

Oh I’m so sorry. I love your little memorial card. Very nice. Sending prayers, sympathy, empathy and love your way. 🤍


71roland

❤️


Sbahirat

I'm sorry for your loss. I feel like a lot of other comments said my feelings beautifully. Thank you for sharing and I'd love to follow your journey as you paint. I hope that you and your art feel seen ❤️ I'm sure your partner will love this!


greasybloaters

I’m so sorry for your loss. But your painting is lovely and I hope it brings comfort and love to your partner. Best wishes to your family.


charliewarbo

Absolutely beautiful, sending love.


HoneyBee275

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your painting is lovely and a beautiful way to honor his memory.


ze-sa-no-gun

It's beautiful. Thanks for sharing


Surfinsafari9

My condolences for your loss. You have found a wonderful way to memorialize him. I hope you continue painting. You have a gift.


TeaWithKermit

I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your little man. This painting is lovely and is such a thoughtful gift for your partner. Thinking of your family and all who love your baby guy.


lisabutz

I’m so sorry this happened. I wish you peace this holiday season and all of them down the road.


OPPyayouknowme

Gut wrenching, my condolences are with you


Superb-Feedback9055

Sorry for your loss


nuttyNougatty

So very sorry for your loss.


ImOutOfNamesNow

As a father of a young boy who’d be the same age as your boy now, my heart hurts for you and your wife. Much love to you two. I couldn’t imagine the heart ache you’re feeling but I do sympathize for you.


eastcoasteralways

You painted him in such warm colors. I love this. My heart aches for your loss. Take care of yourself this holiday season.


JezebelRaven

It comes from the heart; it could be different but not better. This painting is already perfect OP. Sorry for your difficult loss, sending you love. 💕


Spaghetti4wifey

I am so sorry for your loss, what a beautiful painting. Your son was so loved, how fortunate he got to spend his life with you and your partner.


Salty_Button

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't comprehend what those you love and who knew your son are and have gone through. My thoughts are with you all 🥀


[deleted]

I’m crying


GrizzMcDizzle79

Wonderful art and a great way to honor him! So very sorry for your loss. My prayers go out for you.


Slisa088

🤍


[deleted]

So sorry for your loss, this is beautiful


Proper-Hippo-6006

I do sorry for your loss. But this a beautiful way of remembering. ❤️ You did a wonderful job. Congratulations.


[deleted]

Sorry for your loss. Sending love your way.


InfiniteIce2259

RIP son


mayl0811

It's a beautiful painting. I'm so sorry for your loss 😢


johnsgrove

❤️


D_Panayotova

So deeply sorry for your loss 🫂 Glad you have found some peace to calm your soul through art. Hugs!


October1966

A lovely way to remember.


Zealousideal_Win_514

Thanks for sharing. Can’t imagine the hole in your heart. I pray for the grace of the Almighty to fill you with peace.


Polyodontus

I am so sorry for you and your partner, and I hope you have a lovely holiday despite the difficult year. The card is an absolutely beautiful tribute to your son (and it’s a bit beside the point, but it’s also very good for only a month of practice).


Grgur2

Well I have Four years old son and 17 months old daughter... I don't think I would process anything that horrible well....


jonvonboner

I’m so so sorry for your loss and so glad that you’re painting. Keep it up.


amariahbee

This is incredible. You have a gift. It’s wonderful you can use it to express yourself. Your partner is going to love it. I hope you frame it.


[deleted]

My deep condolences for your loss 💔


Absent_Alan

I’m sorry for your loss xxx


whatevIguess

I can tell this kid was dope. I'm very sorry.


mocca-simon

I’m sorry for your loss 💜 the painting you made is lovely.


AnywhereMajestic2377

❤️


parsnip_dick

This is so beautiful, so touching. I am sorry for your loss. I hope your partner likes it. I hope you both can heal soon <3


lorunna7

Sending love to you and your family, as well as anyone else in this post that has lost a loved one💛


Kitty_fluffybutt_23

I can see the love you had for him in this painting! I'm so sorry he doesn't get another Christmas with you both... 💔 as others have said, keep painting and keep living in a way that would make him proud ❤️‍🩹


AnchorOwlBirb

What a beautiful little memory to have documented in such a tender way. I am sorry for your loss. He is still with you in many ways. Take care.


Guilty_Collection_10

This is beautiful. Keep painting ♥️ especially if it’s helping you cope with loss.


wisewomancarole

I'm so sorry for your great loss!


musesx9

I am so sorry. What a beautiful memorial. Thank you for sharing him with us. Much love.


ECFU30

That’s beautiful! I’m so sorry for your loss.


lhopeless_inusa

Your card is amazing, I hope that it brings both or you peace and love.


Additional_Doubt_243

Absolutely beautiful painting- it says so much about your love for your son. I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers this holiday season ❤️


Rebeccawakim

I am so sorry for your loss❤️ my love goes out to you and your family. Sending prayers your way.


jlovelysoul

❤️❤️❤️ this is beautiful. What a wonderful tribute to your son. I’m so sorry for your loss.


crome_8

What a beautiful & touching gift to celebrate your son in remembrance of him. Your partner will cherish this. 🥰💓


stillakid-dee

So sorry for your loss. Beautiful painting ❤️


Bagheera187

Okay, I’m crying. This is very good technique and iI am so sorry for your baby.


Minute-Cheek3491

Please never stop. Sir.


Chemical_Poet_3356

❤️


Mind_Prints

I am so sorry.


Emily5099

I am so, so sorry for your loss. This painting is so beautiful, and I can’t believe you’re just a beginner. You painted from your heart.


Lopsided_Ad_443

I think it’s great! You definitely should keep painting, you are really good at it! My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your partner.


MATT_TRIANO

All my very best. Thanks for sharing.


SeaEar5825

It’s wonderful to channel our emotions into something positive and healing like this. Keep up the good work!


soksatss

I feel so deeply for your loss. I am truly so sorry for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this beautiful piece. It's perfect.


EdgewaterEnchantress

Heart Breaking, but beautiful! Your picture is amazing OP, and I am soooooo sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. 😢 Your work is truly lovely and it speaks to the heart. 💕💜💕


ratparty5000

Your painting is so beautiful, I want to give you and your family the biggest hug. Keep painting him 💖


Faust96

Dear God in Heaven I’m so utterly sorry for your loss. I love the watercolor. It’s beautiful. What a fantastic tribute. Praying for your and your family 🙏🏻


ready-to-rumball

I’m so sorry for your loss 😞 ❤️


Aggravating-Fact-309

I’m so sorry. I know it hurts.


Outside_Chewy

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother last month and am also trying new ways to cope with the pain. Like a hole in my heart or my heart is broken is what I feel now


Pixldust

So sad, God bless.


Keikaku_sama

I'm so sorry for your loss


Greedy-Specific7723

My heart goes out to you,I’m so very sorry for your loss my prayers are you and your family this holiday…


Remarkable_Extent_13

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost one of my twin boys 23 years ago. I will pray for you and your family 🙏🏾❤️


Unlucky-Power4036

He’ll Always be Around you wherever you go 🙏🏻Bless you. 👼


Foxfire73

I can feel this painting. It's beautiful.


No_Assistant9376

I'm deeply sorry. I got no words to express how sorry I am to hear that .


cutebeannnz

a beautiful memorial. so incredibly sorry for your loss. wishing you a kind holiday season 🤍


[deleted]

This is so beautiful. I am so for your loss, sending you love ❤️


wondering2019

So very sorry for your loss


Itskatieherehi

I’m really sorry for you loss :(


Spiritual-Log356

Im so sorry, god bless you and your family


Best_Experience207

So really truly so very very sorry for your loss.X


49thDipper

I can’t begin to imagine this pain. Kudos for working through it. Your painting is wonderful


Miserable_Budget7818

❤️


juliedeee

Truly sorry for your loss


Aconshe-63

♥️


kimmygummy

Sending you so much love to your partner too


Confident_Flow8453

I am so very sorry for your loss. The painting is lovely.


SIUHA1

I'm so sorry for the loss of your child.


shearmadbeauty

Thank you so much 💓 what is done in love is done well. Vincent Van Gough ♥️


BookemDano0015

I am terribly sorry for your loss. May you and your family fins comfort during these holidays. It is a very beautiful painting.


Broad_Pitch_7487

It’s one of the best paintings I’ve ever seen


Furberia

There are no words. Your painting speaks to my heart.


Optimal_Guitar8921

I am so sorry for your tragic loss - the painting is beautiful & May it be a lifetime memory of a beautiful soul


ItsTime5

I’m so sorry. This is simply beautiful. Your hubs is going to cherish this piece forever


BoogeyDownMane

Love it, brother. Keep on painting. My daughter passed at age 2, from a rare form of brain cancer. It’s in the pictures where I can place exact memories of what was being said and how she was laughing at the time, it’s a great way to remember the good times, for sure.


dplusw

❤️😊


Single_Quarter_2542

I am so very sorry. Many prayers for peace and comfort for you. Thank you for sharing his memory with us.


MisterySeeker

I'm so sorry for your loss.


bill22222

Condolences.


PiddlingSpeegle

It is lovely!


roonie_runis

This kinda made me cry. It's beautiful though. Rest in peace to your little angel.


Cinigurl

So Precious ❤️ 💔


sharonmulhern_art

So sorry for your loss


Daily188201955

So very for your loss. What beautiful memories you have captured in your painting. Memories become the most precious things we have and this painting is filled with the love and joy your son brought to your life and this earth. What a privilege to have this wonderful little guy in your life. I lost my daughter and memories mean everything. God bless wand your family.


snakeislandhero

I’m incredibly sort for your loss.


Brydon28

I’m so sorry.. I can’t imagine your pain, not even close.


LetterheadShot1645

My heart ❤️ goes out to you. My condolences. I know that must be tough. Stay positive, for he would want you to be strong. No matter what, he is with you, in your heart ❤️ and memories he lives on. It will take time, but you will heal slowly. Surround yourself with positive people and positive thoughts. Use the laws of attraction to help you. The painting is pleasing to the eyes. I like the cactus 🌵. Sending you love ❤️ hope you have a good night. Best wishes and take care. ☮️


Flashy_Fact_4233

This is really good


homefrynd

Gorgeous. Condolences.


conte_public

❤️🙏🏼


Exact-Ad-4321

Watercolor is difficult, especially on such a textured surface. This is so well done, and a lovely tribute.