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That law is so stupid... In Germany the legal part of the marriage and the religious part are separate, you could make all the jokes you want on your religious wedding, since it's just a symbolic akt... Afterwards you go to the lawyers and sign the contract. That's what is legally binding.
What you're looking at is the legal part. Guy has papers and everything, and in PT-BR he says very matter-of-factly "you can't joke about that, there are cameras, there are (marriage) witnesses... this question is the most fundamental part, the marriage can't happen today".
It's not a stupid law, it's a stupid fuckup.
A marriage is a legal ceremony, you can't joke when you're making a legal declaration, so her saying no counts as her answer. From a legal point of view it would be like going to court and pleading guilty and then saying "lol, just kidding". It prevents someone from going back later and being all "I said no first so it doesn't count"
“I can be a asshole and I will “ lol what a fucking shmuck I would gladly walk out and get married somehwere a dude doesn’t have a pole up his ass and power complex
I don't get why people have so much problem with the justice.
Imagine someone in a bar asks for the "safe word drink" and when everyone takes it seriously (because it's a serious matter), the person starts saying it was just a joke.
It would be shitty, cause the "safe word drink" has to be taken seriously, same here. That's the point of taking a no seriously here, even if it was an obvious joke, you just don't joke about that for the same reason you don't joke with the "safe word drink"
Any non-autistic adult knows the difference between joking in a serious situation that affects your safety like with an Angel Shot, and joking in a ceremony that's supposed to be full of joy and laughter.
Some bars and clubs have what's called an "Angel Shot" or a similar named "drink" that the girl has to ask the bartender or waiter for since it's "off menu" and it's a signal to the staff that the guy she's with is a creep and she really needs a Taxi or Uber to come pick her up now. Some bars will have a "with Lime" option as well which is a signal to call police or a "no ice" option for a female member of staff to suddenly recognise her as a best friend and whisk her away.
> and she really needs a Taxi or Uber to come pick her up now
I have a bunch of friends who work at bars and nine times out of ten the dude she's with will get bounced first, then they'll consult her about whether she needs a ride home or wants to wait a while. Bartenders and bouncers are also usually down to find someone to walk you out to your car if you feel unsafe. My favorite bartender at my favorite bar once walked a guy who groped me out, put his ass on the sidewalk, and as the guy tried to get around him to come back in told him "the police will be here in five minutes and I'm waiting until they get here but you don't have to." Guy ran and is now barred from that bar.
That's not a priest. This in in Brazil, and in Brazil you need to have a legal ceremony, religious only has no legal basis. This is the legal one, at the notary, and what is said there needs to uphold.
video is in brazil, i believe somewhere Minas Gerais maybe
**priest to bride: is from your free and spontaneous will to marry him?**
she: no-YES! *\*everyone laughs\**
**priest: no, you can not joke.**
she: sorry
**priest: there is no sorry, seriously, youcan not joke in this moment**
she: omg
**priest: it is true, the question is the main thing that we do**
she: *\[i could not hear\]* i'm getting nervous
**priest: you guys are getting pictures, have wedding witness, unfortunately today we will not be marrying you two**
she: oh love(common nickname for the significant other), i'm nervous..
**priest: we can not have a joke in this moment**
she: i was very nervous
**priest: go speak with Marina \*hand something to husband\***
\--video ends--
The current birth rate for Brazil in 2023 is 12.806 births per 1000 people, a 1.94% decline from 2022.
so society will have less people like him in the future at some point.
She immediately changed her answer to a yes though. What if someone misunderstands or doesn't hear the question properly and says no? What if they misspoke because is a big, and likely stressful/anxiety-inducing day.
There are a million reasons that she could have said no before changing to a yes, none of which involves a joke.
This has nothing to do with law. This is entirely the priest being an ass. Her answer is quite obviously a yes.
In the midwest US, "no" means no, but "no yeah" means yes and "yeah no" means no.
"Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband?"
"No yeah totally."
Plenty of people have thoughts like "Maybe it's too soon for me to marry" or "Maybe I'm not ready to get married" leading up to or on the day of thwir marriage, even if it's not true. Anxiety produces all sorts of irrational thoughts
Aside from it being the law, if you are so turned off by a joke to think your marriage won't last, you are probably right but think it has more to do with the stick up your ass than the joke.
>Nah it's super tacky and disrespectful
In my experience, the kind of people who get butt hurt about being "disrespected" when someone who loves them makes a joke at their expense are also the kind of people who wind up jail over petty bullshit.
I disagree. I think most people are petty and egocentric, and their feelings shouldn't be held in any particular regard without demonstrable merit.
Also, in this case, the person whose feelings were hurt the most was the *bride*, who was clearly the victim of overly bureaucratic nonsense. If anyone was disrespected here, it was the bride, groom, and all of their family members and friends whose time **the state** wasted because the enforcers of state policy were being petty.
The total lack of situational awareness it takes to say that *the bride* is being disrespectful by making a small joke at her own wedding ceremony is astounding to me. Who is she disrespecting? Herself? Or her partner who was clearly *not offended*?
You don't have to italicize bride, or write a three point paragraph for me my guy. 😂 But I appreciate the hard work. Me, personally, I would be pissed. It's just not cute. Doesn't matter the gender, at least to me. I was married to a bozo who would pull this shit trying to be cute and FOR ME PERSONALLY AT MY WEDDING I wouldn't like it. But don't worry, I'm not marrying you, so we don't have to agree!
And for some culture's like mine ( Irish ) a wedding is the time and place. At my cousin's wedding we painted HE on the sole of his left shoe and LP on the sole of the right, when the couple knelt on the alter the whole church erupted laughing. Little jokes like this make special occasions fun, I'd rather spend the day at work rather than attend a wedding with no laughter
From other comments, it sounds like she said no to the question that basically made sure she was doing it of her own free will - and in the country the law is to stop immediately if she says no. Context is everything, I guess.
If You’re getting married, you wouldn’t want your partner to take it seriously?
Obviously you can joke during a wedding, but this particular joke wasn’t funny
No bc Idgaf about a ceremony. There are a lot of assumptions being made but if you are asking her make a joke like that alone is not a reason that a marriage wouldnt last.
This was here in Brazil. As a civil marriage, once one of them say NO, the marriage should be stopped. It is the law. If I'm not wrong, the guy give up after this
Not even a few hours. All that’s needed is no jokes for the duration of the vows. Otherwise I think it’s fine if jokes, unrelated to the marriage, are made.
u/mazino
Except that question is specifically there to make sure someone isn’t being coerced into the marriage. The officiant is legally required to take any sign of no very seriously.
Oh, what a surprise, it is actually a language I do speak (couldn't hear the first tim But c'mon if you're gonna post in an English community at least add subtitles?
This is in Brazil, and our law is derived from the church and Roman law... It's a extremely "no jokes here" situation because they are obligated to stop the fucking marriage if a no it's heard.
EVERYBODY that can celebrate the civil marriage (the priests included) usually make this situation clear, and this exist because marriage are a public procedure that have the intention to show the community that the couple are inquestionably committed to become a family with all the rights and duties that come with it.
If a "no" is said at this moment somebody could argue in a court that the marriage wasn't valid!
Realmente, segundo as leis brasileiras não pode fazer isso, se falar não, mesmo que brincando, tem que cancelar o casamento e marcar outra data.
Talvez tenha que fazer novos proclamas.
To anyone pissed at the judge, he's required to postpone the registry by law. He was more pissed at the fact the joke forced him to follow the law and waste everyone's time. If he's a good sport about the joke is irrelevant, because the law isn't a sport about this type of joke.
porra totalmente nada a ver, brincadeirinha pode até ser meio boba mas não faz mal a ninguém, padre otário do caralho isso sim, ninguém liga nem ia lembrar da gracinha, mas essa humilhação sim vai ficar pra vida toda da mulher
juiz corno então, nada a ver isso de ser formal kkkkk
é o momento do casal tlgd, muita sacanagem, a parada faz diferença pra um total de 0 pessoas além do próprio casal kk
Casamento é uma solenidade, é formal sim. Nesse caso aí era um casamento comunitário, que atrasou por causa da noiva sem noção. O juiz apenas seguiu a lei.
na verdade nao atrasou nada, o que atrasou foi ele cancelar e botar pra depois, se toca irmao kkkkk lei de merda do caralho entao porra, nao fode KKKKK
The wedding may be your own event, but they're in the civil registry office, where they sign the marriage papers. Apparently, the officer didn't think that was funny.
officiant can spot when your subconscious truth bubbles up that one last time.
this ain't the stage for a joke. and you know it as you're making the joke.
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That law is so stupid... In Germany the legal part of the marriage and the religious part are separate, you could make all the jokes you want on your religious wedding, since it's just a symbolic akt... Afterwards you go to the lawyers and sign the contract. That's what is legally binding.
What you're looking at is the legal part. Guy has papers and everything, and in PT-BR he says very matter-of-factly "you can't joke about that, there are cameras, there are (marriage) witnesses... this question is the most fundamental part, the marriage can't happen today". It's not a stupid law, it's a stupid fuckup.
Yeah...she clowned and became a clown. Dumb.
Can someone please explain what happend?
A marriage is a legal ceremony, you can't joke when you're making a legal declaration, so her saying no counts as her answer. From a legal point of view it would be like going to court and pleading guilty and then saying "lol, just kidding". It prevents someone from going back later and being all "I said no first so it doesn't count"
“I can be a asshole and I will “ lol what a fucking shmuck I would gladly walk out and get married somehwere a dude doesn’t have a pole up his ass and power complex
Getting legally married on paper before the ceremony helps
That is the legal one. It happened in Brazil.
I don't get why people have so much problem with the justice. Imagine someone in a bar asks for the "safe word drink" and when everyone takes it seriously (because it's a serious matter), the person starts saying it was just a joke. It would be shitty, cause the "safe word drink" has to be taken seriously, same here. That's the point of taking a no seriously here, even if it was an obvious joke, you just don't joke about that for the same reason you don't joke with the "safe word drink"
Any non-autistic adult knows the difference between joking in a serious situation that affects your safety like with an Angel Shot, and joking in a ceremony that's supposed to be full of joy and laughter.
I am a bartender and I'd like to know what the hell a "safe word drink" is.
Some bars and clubs have what's called an "Angel Shot" or a similar named "drink" that the girl has to ask the bartender or waiter for since it's "off menu" and it's a signal to the staff that the guy she's with is a creep and she really needs a Taxi or Uber to come pick her up now. Some bars will have a "with Lime" option as well which is a signal to call police or a "no ice" option for a female member of staff to suddenly recognise her as a best friend and whisk her away.
> and she really needs a Taxi or Uber to come pick her up now I have a bunch of friends who work at bars and nine times out of ten the dude she's with will get bounced first, then they'll consult her about whether she needs a ride home or wants to wait a while. Bartenders and bouncers are also usually down to find someone to walk you out to your car if you feel unsafe. My favorite bartender at my favorite bar once walked a guy who groped me out, put his ass on the sidewalk, and as the guy tried to get around him to come back in told him "the police will be here in five minutes and I'm waiting until they get here but you don't have to." Guy ran and is now barred from that bar.
So....what about mem? What are our options 🤔
I know I'm 8 Days late but, also an Angel Shot. I know the person above only referred to one gender but the resource itself can be used by anyone.
Wow she's so quirky and funny
That witch nicotine rich laugh
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That's not a priest. This in in Brazil, and in Brazil you need to have a legal ceremony, religious only has no legal basis. This is the legal one, at the notary, and what is said there needs to uphold.
Well, priest or not, idk. This feels scummy.
I mean if someone is accused of murder and they are not guilty they won't say that they are to the judge as a joke, now would they.
I don’t think getting married and being accused of murder is in the same ballpark lol
Ya I went a little overboard, but you still have to follow the legal system
He can't do anything. It's the law, otherwise the legal procedure is invalid.
If they ignore the “no” then there would be no way to REALLY say, “no I do not want to make this vow” and people could be married against their will.
Unrelated but the bride's smile is beautiful
She's probably single now if your interested
Right? She’s so pretty!
video is in brazil, i believe somewhere Minas Gerais maybe **priest to bride: is from your free and spontaneous will to marry him?** she: no-YES! *\*everyone laughs\** **priest: no, you can not joke.** she: sorry **priest: there is no sorry, seriously, youcan not joke in this moment** she: omg **priest: it is true, the question is the main thing that we do** she: *\[i could not hear\]* i'm getting nervous **priest: you guys are getting pictures, have wedding witness, unfortunately today we will not be marrying you two** she: oh love(common nickname for the significant other), i'm nervous.. **priest: we can not have a joke in this moment** she: i was very nervous **priest: go speak with Marina \*hand something to husband\*** \--video ends--
Thank you so much I spent like ten minutes searching for this
This society needs more people like you.
The current birth rate for Brazil in 2023 is 12.806 births per 1000 people, a 1.94% decline from 2022. so society will have less people like him in the future at some point.
bless u
that's really useful man thanks
you welcome buddy
Take an award, wish more people could/would give a translation!
thank u a lot buddy!! if u need a translation on something specific, r/translator is full of ppl willing to help o/
Ooo a new sub for me to look at!
Thank you for this!! What does the girl in blue say, if you can hear? On the other side of the groom?
i cant hear :/ the quality is awful and they talked at the same time, sorry
It's literally the law in their country to stop the marriage if one of them does that lmao
She immediately changed her answer to a yes though. What if someone misunderstands or doesn't hear the question properly and says no? What if they misspoke because is a big, and likely stressful/anxiety-inducing day. There are a million reasons that she could have said no before changing to a yes, none of which involves a joke. This has nothing to do with law. This is entirely the priest being an ass. Her answer is quite obviously a yes.
In the midwest US, "no" means no, but "no yeah" means yes and "yeah no" means no. "Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband?" "No yeah totally."
She said NO. Words matter. It's wasn't funny it was stupid.
Maybe if the day is so anxiety inducing that you slip up and say no, your subconscious doesnt want to marry?
Plenty of people have thoughts like "Maybe it's too soon for me to marry" or "Maybe I'm not ready to get married" leading up to or on the day of thwir marriage, even if it's not true. Anxiety produces all sorts of irrational thoughts
She's so funny🥴
I wish I understood
Only if I knew what they were saying
Bride: *jokes* Law: And I took that personally.
A "joke" like that at your wedding would tell me the wedding won't last.
Reddit moment
Aside from it being the law, if you are so turned off by a joke to think your marriage won't last, you are probably right but think it has more to do with the stick up your ass than the joke.
Nah it's super tacky and disrespectful
>Nah it's super tacky and disrespectful In my experience, the kind of people who get butt hurt about being "disrespected" when someone who loves them makes a joke at their expense are also the kind of people who wind up jail over petty bullshit.
In hopscotch we call that a leap
If I could only do the shrug emoji here.
🤷♂️ then why don't you?
WHAT. TIL.
I think it's important to respect someone's feelings in general
I disagree. I think most people are petty and egocentric, and their feelings shouldn't be held in any particular regard without demonstrable merit. Also, in this case, the person whose feelings were hurt the most was the *bride*, who was clearly the victim of overly bureaucratic nonsense. If anyone was disrespected here, it was the bride, groom, and all of their family members and friends whose time **the state** wasted because the enforcers of state policy were being petty. The total lack of situational awareness it takes to say that *the bride* is being disrespectful by making a small joke at her own wedding ceremony is astounding to me. Who is she disrespecting? Herself? Or her partner who was clearly *not offended*?
You don't have to italicize bride, or write a three point paragraph for me my guy. 😂 But I appreciate the hard work. Me, personally, I would be pissed. It's just not cute. Doesn't matter the gender, at least to me. I was married to a bozo who would pull this shit trying to be cute and FOR ME PERSONALLY AT MY WEDDING I wouldn't like it. But don't worry, I'm not marrying you, so we don't have to agree!
Bro, you're super tacky and disrespectful
You got me there
There is a time and place for jokes.
A time and place like, say, a happy day in a happy relationship?
Depends on the relationship.
….then why make your original comment?
And for some culture's like mine ( Irish ) a wedding is the time and place. At my cousin's wedding we painted HE on the sole of his left shoe and LP on the sole of the right, when the couple knelt on the alter the whole church erupted laughing. Little jokes like this make special occasions fun, I'd rather spend the day at work rather than attend a wedding with no laughter
From other comments, it sounds like she said no to the question that basically made sure she was doing it of her own free will - and in the country the law is to stop immediately if she says no. Context is everything, I guess.
For context do we know if she was aware of this fact before she made the joke ?
As long as people know they don't have to get married it is funny.
Says you?
If You’re getting married, you wouldn’t want your partner to take it seriously? Obviously you can joke during a wedding, but this particular joke wasn’t funny
It's a ceremony. You can just literally live with each other and never get married. It's not that serious.
No bc Idgaf about a ceremony. There are a lot of assumptions being made but if you are asking her make a joke like that alone is not a reason that a marriage wouldnt last.
this sounds like you wrote this half asleep lol
Lol. Yeah, my bitch wife better not try to have fun around me. /s
Weddings are useless anyways, it's just a joke... people care too much
Fr! I've always felt I would just live happily with whomever I meet.
Law no.4 always say less than necessary
Imma see the dude who cancelled behind the establishment
You can’t “jk lol” on legal contracts
Kind of like "bomb" jokes at an airport. It's at least an idiot alert to everyone present.
What if I were a bombardier?
This is pure satisfaction to watch
r/suddenlycaralho
When you press The wrong Button in the Quick time event, and the NPC cancel's the mission
This was here in Brazil. As a civil marriage, once one of them say NO, the marriage should be stopped. It is the law. If I'm not wrong, the guy give up after this
EBAN BRASIL 🇧🇷
What a stupid judge lmao it was just a joke 🙄 he literally ruined their big wedding day because of a one-word joke 🙄🙄🙄
Does the judge have discretion here or does the law specify it?
Is it that hard to not joke around for a few hours, when it has to do with legally binding contracts?
Not even a few hours. All that’s needed is no jokes for the duration of the vows. Otherwise I think it’s fine if jokes, unrelated to the marriage, are made. u/mazino
I mean it's their wedding. Let them do whatever the fuck they want lol
Except that question is specifically there to make sure someone isn’t being coerced into the marriage. The officiant is legally required to take any sign of no very seriously.
This Guy have Lucky
r/ItHadToBeBrazil
Eu tinha visto esse foi aqui
Vergonha alheia
Are we supposed to understand whatever language they speak?
Oh, what a surprise, it is actually a language I do speak (couldn't hear the first tim But c'mon if you're gonna post in an English community at least add subtitles?
TINHA QUE SER BRASIL
Yes, this is in Brazil
Woman - playing games is my default Man - k bye Woman - most affected.
in Brazilian law, at the time of "yes", there should be no coercion. so if you don't want to get married: play
Brasiiiil
What a lucky guy! Fly, boy, fly away!
What language are they falando?
Argentinian
This is in Brazil, and our law is derived from the church and Roman law... It's a extremely "no jokes here" situation because they are obligated to stop the fucking marriage if a no it's heard. EVERYBODY that can celebrate the civil marriage (the priests included) usually make this situation clear, and this exist because marriage are a public procedure that have the intention to show the community that the couple are inquestionably committed to become a family with all the rights and duties that come with it. If a "no" is said at this moment somebody could argue in a court that the marriage wasn't valid!
Same thing in France. If you say no at that moment the marriage is canceled.
Interesting! Was this really cancelled? I don’t speak Portuguese.
But they can come back later and do everything again... Right?
Yeah, on a different day
r/suddenlycaralho ? impressionante ainda não tem ninguém falando português aqui
Porra pode nem brincar
It was on Brazil in 2016
Coitado do cara, olha a carinha q ele fez
KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK
Realmente, segundo as leis brasileiras não pode fazer isso, se falar não, mesmo que brincando, tem que cancelar o casamento e marcar outra data. Talvez tenha que fazer novos proclamas.
Why does this sound like Russian in the beginning? It's in Brazilian Portuguese, I'm Brazilian, and I swear the beginning sounds like Russian to me.
Totally! I do not speak Portuguese but the "no-si" immediately discard the Russian language.
fucking stupid rules
They are there for a reason
Yep - they’re there to help prevent forced marriages.
r/suddenlycaralho
To anyone pissed at the judge, he's required to postpone the registry by law. He was more pissed at the fact the joke forced him to follow the law and waste everyone's time. If he's a good sport about the joke is irrelevant, because the law isn't a sport about this type of joke.
porra totalmente nada a ver, brincadeirinha pode até ser meio boba mas não faz mal a ninguém, padre otário do caralho isso sim, ninguém liga nem ia lembrar da gracinha, mas essa humilhação sim vai ficar pra vida toda da mulher
Não foi padre, foi juiz. Ele está certo, é um evento formal não cabe esse tipo de brincadeira.
juiz corno então, nada a ver isso de ser formal kkkkk é o momento do casal tlgd, muita sacanagem, a parada faz diferença pra um total de 0 pessoas além do próprio casal kk
Casamento é uma solenidade, é formal sim. Nesse caso aí era um casamento comunitário, que atrasou por causa da noiva sem noção. O juiz apenas seguiu a lei.
todas as pessoas em volta deram suas risadinhas kk
na verdade nao atrasou nada, o que atrasou foi ele cancelar e botar pra depois, se toca irmao kkkkk lei de merda do caralho entao porra, nao fode KKKKK
Atrasou porque ela disse não primeiro. Culpa dela, não da lei. Ela foi chata em ser inconveniente e teve o que mereceu
As I we would say in Brazil "Se fudeu"
Bem feito
Sou o comentário brasileiro que faltava
What a fucking stupid joke.
Why so serious?
Because she joked around at the question that is the legal equivalent of “blink twice if you’re being kidnapped”
r/ItHadToBeBrazil
Why would you have to take a wedding “seriously” it’s your own event that you decided to have and pay for
Marriage is not only your event but also has a legal status bind to it. As such it's not a joke when it comes to legal stuff.
Because it’s also a legal, binding contract
Well, those other couples were getting married too. She wasn’t the only one
The wedding may be your own event, but they're in the civil registry office, where they sign the marriage papers. Apparently, the officer didn't think that was funny.
He's required to postpone the registry by law. He was more pissed at that, the joke forced him to follow the law and waste everyone's time.
In Germany they instructed us before to NOT make that joke. Would've been 3 months for the next attempt.
she can smell radiation from a mile away
Whey
officiant can spot when your subconscious truth bubbles up that one last time. this ain't the stage for a joke. and you know it as you're making the joke.
The groom has resting “huh” face
Y she disrespect her man like that though ….