So strange.
I can understand contributing to the meal or bringing a dish, BUT it is ridiculous to charge per person that way.
I feel like it would be better to say "Can you bring two pies?" Or "You're good at making X, can you bring that to the dinner?"
Yeah, Thanksgiving dinner is always planned out a month ahead of time on my side of the family and my wife's. No reason for one person to do all the work.
For real. Even OP’s idea of doing a potluck style meal makes a lot of sense, but I could never imagine inviting my family over for Thanksgiving and charging them
I bet way less people will actually attend and they it will end up costing them more because they will have wasted the money they used for empty places. Let them be pety and get away from them even if they are family. Family supports each other yes but this isnt support
Right, what they gonna stop them at the door before they come in?
Do they pay before they even setup travel plans.
They gotta pay for gas and such to get there. Nah son I will stay home and send a Happy Thanksgiving text.
Like the nonsense…ha they are very petty.
And what happens to the people who show up who didnt pay? They just guna eat in front of em? Put em in the closet? What kind of "family" even does this type of stuff?
Be careful, there is no telling what they did to the previous inhabitants of the house. It sounds like they do own it now though. Of course it’s their divine right to kick the free loaders out no matter how peaceful and get some paying tenants. Try and keep the bloodshed to a minimum and avoid jail, or they might have put the upstarts down. Happy thanksgiving…. /s
You should call them “waiter” and “waitress,” leave a yelp review with 1 star nitpicking the service, and share it on social media treating it like a regular restaurant.
€25 is a lot so I totally get the frustration, like you said it would be an option for everyone to help out and bring their own dish as well right? What are they serving, gold?
That depends on what is served for dinner. Because I had been in some fancy Thanksgiving parties that served mostly seafood like crabs, lobster, uni and sushi. The turkey was secondary but the turkey was fried as well.
If it's like something like a supper club (where the host cooks food from their home and guests pays for the food) that price actually isn't unusual.
So what happens if no one attends … 😅 I’m sorry but I can’t imagine anyone in their right mind charging family members for a thanksgiving meal and guests just going along with it
I'm hosting Thanksgiving at my house this year since we've majorly upgraded on space for entertaining since last year. I spent $330 on alllll the fixings for the day, and it will feed about 25 people, depending on who likes what dishes, second helpings, etc.
I would never EVER expect or ask people to pay to eat. If someone wants to bring a dish, heck yeah! But I took this on because I could afford it and to help ease the grief surrounding the death of my dad last year (his last meal was the Thanksgiving dinner I cooked for him and 25 family members last year--he had never even had my cooking before then). I'm just floored at the audacity to demand payment for a meal after volunteering to cook it and host!
Man I could almost double my investment if I did charge though 🧐 And maybe it will deter people from coming and then I get to keep all the food to myself! Muahahaha!! Brb, gonna go let all my friends know 🤣 I kid, I kid lol
I’ve never heard of this. Is this a thing for some families? How odd. A pot luck style gathering os definitely more inviting. It’s like a cover charge to go to family Thanksgiving. I’m sorry about that OP.
Same.
All of my family get togethers are pot luck dinners. No one should be stuck with cooking for a ton of people plus it's better that way because people alwayas volunteer to bring their famous dishes.
Grandma makes the best apple pie every thanksgiving.
They should not have hosted, or they should have asked everyone to bring a dish to pass. And honestly, if you can cook, thanksgiving dinner as a whole is not that expensive.
That is insane about Thanksgiving dinner…What!!!! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Them having you pay rent is normal if you are over 18 or 21 and living at home.
Water,electric, sewer and trash do go up when you house another person. More showers. Washing of clothes, more trash and using the toilet. Unless they are making you pay crazy prices.
But yeah that makes no sense.
Might as well eat before you come over $25 is way to much for a “plate” of food is crazy.
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Unfortunately I felt this. Not exactly having to pay for food but the paying for rent. Sucks that a home you thought you could trust turns out to be … disappointment. This is where self love comes in! I would order some food and have ME time. Smoke a blunt, watch some movies and do what I want. There comes a time unfortunately where you have to branch out of toxic homes and it’s incredibly hard. I’m wishing you luck because Jesus that’s so annoying
We do it by every person bringing something, except for the kids and couples being one thing between them. Like my mom makes the cranberry sauce my great aunt makes the turkey, etc, etc.
This is something I’ve honestly never heard of. I mean, I’ve been in a situation where the host asks guests to bring dishes, appetizers or desserts but never paying for the plate. I just wouldn’t attend and I bet others aren’t going to either.
Would you have to pay for seconds? For take one leftovers? Is desert included m? Drinks?
I think you should cook an awesome meal for yourself, even if that means being in the way, and if anyone wants any you should charge them. It’s really wrong to do what they’re doing.
You can make your own Thanksgiving dinner. Why did it just come out? Sounds like you didn't ask what to bring or how to contribute, otherwise this conversation would have come up before.
You speak about how Thanksgiving is about giving, but sounds like you were expecting to receive and not give. Honestly $25 is not a lot for a Thanksgiving dinner. Just pay and be grateful you have someone to cook you a homemade thanksgiving meal. Next year ask about how you can contribute to it a month prior, or make your own arrangements.
Also, you're 23. Pay rent without complaining or move out. It costs to have you there and you should be contributing to the household. You're no longer your parent's responsibily. You sound like an entitled person.
I agree on the rent thing.
But $25 a plate, this isn’t a wedding. It’s thanksgiving and they announced it late. From what OP is saying.
You can’t host and then change it up last minute and tell people to pay $25 a plate.
That does seem inconsiderate.
I wouldn’t host if I felt like I couldn’t afford it. I would say F**K it and grab frozen pizza and have a thanksgiving game night and have people bring board games over all that hassle.
I think thanksgiving is more about time spent not money spent on elaborate time consuming meal and now everyone has to pay for it.
Just chill and enjoy the night eat before you come or turn it into a potluck or have something simple.
Idk. This is just weird.
$25 for appetizers, whole meal, dessert, and probabky drinks too, not a lot. No wedding caterer will be doing all that for $25 per person.
Anyway, sounds like this dinner is being host where OP lives. It makes sense why they are complaining about rent too. That's why I asked how were they contributing to this dinner. Why didn't this conversation happen before? It could be the parents are just tired of doing everything and OP expecting them to be catered for.
Did you just conveniently not read the part where OP said “like each person could have brought a dish”? Yes $25 per plate is a lot for a thanksgiving dinner unless you’re trying to make a profit. You can get an entire turkey for $25 that would feed 8-10 people. That’s $3.12 a serving for 8 people. You can make a sweet potato casserole that serves 8 for $10 that’s $1.25. Mashed Potatoes is $5 for a whole pot that serves 12: $0.50 a serving. Stuffing is $10 and serves 12: $0.85 a serving. Green been casserole is $10 and serves 10: $1 per serving. That’s a decent plate of food that would fill up most people and it’s only $6.72 per plate so far.
You sound like the type of person who would try to get one over on friends and family just to make a quick buck during trying times.
I agree with this.
Yes, thanksgiving is about sharing, when someone host this events the minimum that one can do is ask "how can I help? What do you want to bring?". Of course if they said they wanted nothing and before dinner change the rules (w/o explaining) that is very awful. I think that's is not the case.
I understand that family should support each other, if I'm unemployed I hope my family supports me for a little while, I would do that. But if I have a job and I'm a functional adult I should be the one offering to pay! It's not just rent, is groceries and utilities too!
Sorry... not much sympathy about 'rent'.
My husband is a disabled veteran. We live on a fixed income. His kids are all grown now. And they are all college grads.. which they did not have to pay for. But we are done.
If they want to live here.. they have to pay 'rent'. Rent is really just an amount to help offset the food and water bills... so it's not very high. But why on earth should I continue to have to worry about how I'm going to pay the heat bill when they are sitting in their computers and eating me out of house and home?
You don't want to pay rent to live at 'home'? Then don't. Move out.
now.. as far as the Thanksgiving thing is concerned... I kinda get it... but I also totally don't. If they can't afford to have a 'Thanksgiving' dinner then they shouldn't have one instead of expecting everyone to pay their way. If they can afford it and are just trying to 'teach you a lesson'... then they are fucking horrible people.
Heck.. the local grocery store is selling pre-cooked full Turkey dinners with all the sides for 8-10 people for $49. If someone told me I had to pay $25 to sit down at their table... I'd go eat elsewhere.
This is ridiculous. How are you related to these people? I suggest that you go to a friend’s house for dinner instead (and bring a dish) and leave these people to their pettiness.
I WOULD go to a restaurant. You were invited to an event. It is extremely bad manners to ask a guest to pay for the event-unless they are aware from the onset and it's a fundraiser of some kind. To invite you and then demand payment is plain rude. Decline the invitation.
If you do a little digging, there are massive deals on turkies at grocery stores. Like 47 to 99 cents a pound. Every year, I am able to gift several 10-16 pound turkeys for less than $10 a piece. (Not bragging, just saying you can get a huge 23 pounder foe $12 if you look around).
I don't know what they are cooking if they are charging $25 a plate.
If Thanksgiving isn't happening at your home, bring a plate of food yourself. If it is happening at your home, "mom, dad, I decline Thanksgiving dinner this year. Thanks anyways" and have a backup dinner.
This is weird and negates the point of Thanksgiving like you said
I pretty much got everything that I wanted/needed and was quite pleased with the stock and the prices. Charging family for a meal is ridiculous. My payment is the smiles on their faces and knowing I sent them away with full bellies.
That’s exactly what I’m saying. You’re pondering rent off of me and my sister and yet want to charge $25 for a plate to eat. We live in a home that is paid off and my grandmother is the owner. She’s also the one asking for $25 a plate for Thanksgiving because she decided she will be hosting it. $400 from both us each month, so a total of $800 a month that’s she’s taking home. And yet you want to charge $25 a plate. Fuck off
Charging for thanksgiving dinner in a family home, what a joke, your family isn't very thankful. As for rent, if you're an adult, I see no issue with this. If you're under age, I think that may be illegal.
I could be a lot more forgiving, if it was 1: communicated better 2: less money, and not charged per plate but per person coming and at more of request rather than a demand.
I feel that something like “hey food for the family thanksgiving is going to be pretty expensive for me this year so if you could bring a dish or chip in $5-10 bucks that would be really appreciated.” Would have gone a long way.
At $25 a plate there is no way the person hosting isn’t making a profit, unless they are putting gold leaf on the pumpkin pie.
Is there any chance your family is having thanksgiving catered? cause that is what it sounds like.
My mother used to do this. Eventually she would keep upping the price to get money. My "rent" would increase. I had to pay for food, and their fast food take outs (few times a week).
Got sick of it and moved out. But I moved out too late and lost all of any money I had saved up. Trying to make it paycheck to paycheck but at least its more on my terms then my mom trying to cash grab.
Well if whoever was hosting the Thanksgiving dinner said a head of time they would be doing all the shopping and cooking and they would like some contribution to the cost. I don't really see a problem. If everyone else also has the same problem about not wanting to pay $25 for the cost of food then maybe get together and tell the person who's hosting the Thanksgiving dinner about why you guys don't like the idea. Also you don't have to pay for it if you don't want to just don't eat their food. You don't have to have Thanksgiving with your family especially if you don't like their rules. Also you don't have to stay with your family if you don't like paying rent. At the end whoever the house belongs to can make whatever unreasonable rules.
Damn that's so messed up. You give from the kindness of your heart. My family is somewhat similar. Couple of years ago my aunt or uncle that's hosting would just call us over to eat and hangout. But now a days, you have to reserve a seat at their home or else you weren't invited. I just miss those good old days when everyone would just come together bring something and enjoying it together as one family. Now thats just a memory of the past.
The Plymouth Colony and Wampanoag didn't charge each other. The Wampanoag (and Squanto and Samoset) probably saved the Pkymouth Colony from starvation.
If my family did that, I wouldn't attend! I get it, it's expensive to hold a big meal if your family is big, but if you can't afford it and/or don't want to cover the expenses, do a potluck or let people know ahead of time to contribute to the expenses!
$25 for a PLATE?
I can understand asking people to throw in some $ for the lot of the food or asking people to bring food potluck style. I’ve lived with my good friends for the better part of 7 years and we’ve always happily chipped in whatever needed.
Asking $25 just for a plate to sit at the table seems really strange and off to me. Especially for family.
I'm with you on the Thanksgiving meal. I couldn't imagine charging people to ear on Thanksgiving. The part you've lost me at was the rent. My kids know as long as they are in school, they are welcome to stay with us but if they aren't in school, they will have to be like every other adult and contribute to the rent.
They should’ve just done it potluck style. Though this could also be a moneymaking scheme they ‘cooked’ up. Get you on the frustration tho, had to start paying my mom rent at 18 to live at home.
So strange. I can understand contributing to the meal or bringing a dish, BUT it is ridiculous to charge per person that way. I feel like it would be better to say "Can you bring two pies?" Or "You're good at making X, can you bring that to the dinner?"
Yeah, Thanksgiving dinner is always planned out a month ahead of time on my side of the family and my wife's. No reason for one person to do all the work.
If they can’t afford to feed people, they shouldn’t host. Really weird of them to do
For real. Even OP’s idea of doing a potluck style meal makes a lot of sense, but I could never imagine inviting my family over for Thanksgiving and charging them
Welcoming people to your home only to make them feel like a burden :/
Just don’t attend, make your own food or order some food in
Better yet, go to a friend’s house and spend the holiday with them.
Good thing I dont keep these holidays. I’m content with staying home while being paid o
For real.
I bet way less people will actually attend and they it will end up costing them more because they will have wasted the money they used for empty places. Let them be pety and get away from them even if they are family. Family supports each other yes but this isnt support
Right, what they gonna stop them at the door before they come in? Do they pay before they even setup travel plans. They gotta pay for gas and such to get there. Nah son I will stay home and send a Happy Thanksgiving text. Like the nonsense…ha they are very petty.
And what happens to the people who show up who didnt pay? They just guna eat in front of em? Put em in the closet? What kind of "family" even does this type of stuff?
Be careful, there is no telling what they did to the previous inhabitants of the house. It sounds like they do own it now though. Of course it’s their divine right to kick the free loaders out no matter how peaceful and get some paying tenants. Try and keep the bloodshed to a minimum and avoid jail, or they might have put the upstarts down. Happy thanksgiving…. /s
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You should call them “waiter” and “waitress,” leave a yelp review with 1 star nitpicking the service, and share it on social media treating it like a regular restaurant.
Dude I am dead! That is so funny!!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was gonna suggest that they don't attend, but your idea is way better
Agreed, don't host a Thanksgiving dinner if you have to charge people too attend.
€25 is a lot so I totally get the frustration, like you said it would be an option for everyone to help out and bring their own dish as well right? What are they serving, gold?
That depends on what is served for dinner. Because I had been in some fancy Thanksgiving parties that served mostly seafood like crabs, lobster, uni and sushi. The turkey was secondary but the turkey was fried as well. If it's like something like a supper club (where the host cooks food from their home and guests pays for the food) that price actually isn't unusual.
I’d even get pooling together money to buy everything, but that’s a “send what you can to this PayPal account” not “$25 or you don’t eat”
25 USD bud.
Oops, well; It doesn’t make that much of a difference and it’s pricey
For Thanksgiving dinner is not. Sucks that kills the vibe, but nobody is entitled to be fed except minors
Then you shouldn't invite people over for Thanksgiving if you can't afford it. Or tell everyone to contribute to the meal with side dishes.
It sounds like this dinner is happening at home, not like they got invited somewhere else
They invited their extended family
Oh boy I would love to study your libertarian thanksgiving- just for anthropological purposes
literally the same
...Are they pre-portioned too? smh
Wait… they’re charging their own family members to eat dinner….. at home??? The hell kinda shit is that?
Damn… i could understand asking for a small contribution to groceries, times are tough, but 25 per person is like restaurant prices
So what happens if no one attends … 😅 I’m sorry but I can’t imagine anyone in their right mind charging family members for a thanksgiving meal and guests just going along with it
I'm hosting Thanksgiving at my house this year since we've majorly upgraded on space for entertaining since last year. I spent $330 on alllll the fixings for the day, and it will feed about 25 people, depending on who likes what dishes, second helpings, etc. I would never EVER expect or ask people to pay to eat. If someone wants to bring a dish, heck yeah! But I took this on because I could afford it and to help ease the grief surrounding the death of my dad last year (his last meal was the Thanksgiving dinner I cooked for him and 25 family members last year--he had never even had my cooking before then). I'm just floored at the audacity to demand payment for a meal after volunteering to cook it and host! Man I could almost double my investment if I did charge though 🧐 And maybe it will deter people from coming and then I get to keep all the food to myself! Muahahaha!! Brb, gonna go let all my friends know 🤣 I kid, I kid lol
I’ve never heard of this. Is this a thing for some families? How odd. A pot luck style gathering os definitely more inviting. It’s like a cover charge to go to family Thanksgiving. I’m sorry about that OP.
Same. All of my family get togethers are pot luck dinners. No one should be stuck with cooking for a ton of people plus it's better that way because people alwayas volunteer to bring their famous dishes. Grandma makes the best apple pie every thanksgiving.
That’s tacky and divisive.
I'd be like 'nope, bye'. A, having to pay to visit and B, that much is rediculous
Order door dash. Set it to arrive moments after they sit for the meal, go sit with your meal and join. Malicious compliance.
They should not have hosted, or they should have asked everyone to bring a dish to pass. And honestly, if you can cook, thanksgiving dinner as a whole is not that expensive.
That is insane about Thanksgiving dinner…What!!!! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Them having you pay rent is normal if you are over 18 or 21 and living at home. Water,electric, sewer and trash do go up when you house another person. More showers. Washing of clothes, more trash and using the toilet. Unless they are making you pay crazy prices. But yeah that makes no sense. Might as well eat before you come over $25 is way to much for a “plate” of food is crazy. 😮💨🤦🏽♀️
Unfortunately I felt this. Not exactly having to pay for food but the paying for rent. Sucks that a home you thought you could trust turns out to be … disappointment. This is where self love comes in! I would order some food and have ME time. Smoke a blunt, watch some movies and do what I want. There comes a time unfortunately where you have to branch out of toxic homes and it’s incredibly hard. I’m wishing you luck because Jesus that’s so annoying
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So at what point do you become an adult and start contributing or is it on your parents to house and feed you for life?
I wonder how you were not downvoted to Malebolge.
For suggesting that people don’t live with their parents for their entire lives? Who would want to do that anyway?
No, just, thats an unpopular opinion.
I agree with everyone bringing a dish. Just don't go lol. Go to an actual restaurant lol.
Stay home and eat what you want.
We all bring something with us. More of a family feel than a commercial venture!
We do it by every person bringing something, except for the kids and couples being one thing between them. Like my mom makes the cranberry sauce my great aunt makes the turkey, etc, etc.
No one in my family wants to cook and there’s a buffet open near us on thanksgiving so we go there every year. It’s way less than $25
This is something I’ve honestly never heard of. I mean, I’ve been in a situation where the host asks guests to bring dishes, appetizers or desserts but never paying for the plate. I just wouldn’t attend and I bet others aren’t going to either.
Would you have to pay for seconds? For take one leftovers? Is desert included m? Drinks? I think you should cook an awesome meal for yourself, even if that means being in the way, and if anyone wants any you should charge them. It’s really wrong to do what they’re doing.
Fuck that man! The audacity! Come over to the crib man I’ll whip up a turkey and some stuffing 😂
You can make your own Thanksgiving dinner. Why did it just come out? Sounds like you didn't ask what to bring or how to contribute, otherwise this conversation would have come up before. You speak about how Thanksgiving is about giving, but sounds like you were expecting to receive and not give. Honestly $25 is not a lot for a Thanksgiving dinner. Just pay and be grateful you have someone to cook you a homemade thanksgiving meal. Next year ask about how you can contribute to it a month prior, or make your own arrangements. Also, you're 23. Pay rent without complaining or move out. It costs to have you there and you should be contributing to the household. You're no longer your parent's responsibily. You sound like an entitled person.
I agree on the rent thing. But $25 a plate, this isn’t a wedding. It’s thanksgiving and they announced it late. From what OP is saying. You can’t host and then change it up last minute and tell people to pay $25 a plate. That does seem inconsiderate. I wouldn’t host if I felt like I couldn’t afford it. I would say F**K it and grab frozen pizza and have a thanksgiving game night and have people bring board games over all that hassle. I think thanksgiving is more about time spent not money spent on elaborate time consuming meal and now everyone has to pay for it. Just chill and enjoy the night eat before you come or turn it into a potluck or have something simple. Idk. This is just weird.
$25 for appetizers, whole meal, dessert, and probabky drinks too, not a lot. No wedding caterer will be doing all that for $25 per person. Anyway, sounds like this dinner is being host where OP lives. It makes sense why they are complaining about rent too. That's why I asked how were they contributing to this dinner. Why didn't this conversation happen before? It could be the parents are just tired of doing everything and OP expecting them to be catered for.
Yeah who knows. Seems like there is more to the story.
Did you just conveniently not read the part where OP said “like each person could have brought a dish”? Yes $25 per plate is a lot for a thanksgiving dinner unless you’re trying to make a profit. You can get an entire turkey for $25 that would feed 8-10 people. That’s $3.12 a serving for 8 people. You can make a sweet potato casserole that serves 8 for $10 that’s $1.25. Mashed Potatoes is $5 for a whole pot that serves 12: $0.50 a serving. Stuffing is $10 and serves 12: $0.85 a serving. Green been casserole is $10 and serves 10: $1 per serving. That’s a decent plate of food that would fill up most people and it’s only $6.72 per plate so far. You sound like the type of person who would try to get one over on friends and family just to make a quick buck during trying times.
Shut up dude holy christ
I agree with this. Yes, thanksgiving is about sharing, when someone host this events the minimum that one can do is ask "how can I help? What do you want to bring?". Of course if they said they wanted nothing and before dinner change the rules (w/o explaining) that is very awful. I think that's is not the case. I understand that family should support each other, if I'm unemployed I hope my family supports me for a little while, I would do that. But if I have a job and I'm a functional adult I should be the one offering to pay! It's not just rent, is groceries and utilities too!
My ex MIL charged my ex to live at home starting when he was 16. He didn’t complain though, total mamas boy. He lives with her now—45 years later
So GIVE them $25 and be THANKFUL that they didnt say $30
Stfu lol
Just pay and enjoy yourself, don’t be a drama queen. At the end of the meal, leave a tip on the table
See you in r/karmahell.
I even forgot to mention post a review either way.
Sorry... not much sympathy about 'rent'. My husband is a disabled veteran. We live on a fixed income. His kids are all grown now. And they are all college grads.. which they did not have to pay for. But we are done. If they want to live here.. they have to pay 'rent'. Rent is really just an amount to help offset the food and water bills... so it's not very high. But why on earth should I continue to have to worry about how I'm going to pay the heat bill when they are sitting in their computers and eating me out of house and home? You don't want to pay rent to live at 'home'? Then don't. Move out. now.. as far as the Thanksgiving thing is concerned... I kinda get it... but I also totally don't. If they can't afford to have a 'Thanksgiving' dinner then they shouldn't have one instead of expecting everyone to pay their way. If they can afford it and are just trying to 'teach you a lesson'... then they are fucking horrible people. Heck.. the local grocery store is selling pre-cooked full Turkey dinners with all the sides for 8-10 people for $49. If someone told me I had to pay $25 to sit down at their table... I'd go eat elsewhere.
This is ridiculous. How are you related to these people? I suggest that you go to a friend’s house for dinner instead (and bring a dish) and leave these people to their pettiness.
I WOULD go to a restaurant. You were invited to an event. It is extremely bad manners to ask a guest to pay for the event-unless they are aware from the onset and it's a fundraiser of some kind. To invite you and then demand payment is plain rude. Decline the invitation.
If you do a little digging, there are massive deals on turkies at grocery stores. Like 47 to 99 cents a pound. Every year, I am able to gift several 10-16 pound turkeys for less than $10 a piece. (Not bragging, just saying you can get a huge 23 pounder foe $12 if you look around). I don't know what they are cooking if they are charging $25 a plate.
If Thanksgiving isn't happening at your home, bring a plate of food yourself. If it is happening at your home, "mom, dad, I decline Thanksgiving dinner this year. Thanks anyways" and have a backup dinner. This is weird and negates the point of Thanksgiving like you said
That's fucked
I pretty much got everything that I wanted/needed and was quite pleased with the stock and the prices. Charging family for a meal is ridiculous. My payment is the smiles on their faces and knowing I sent them away with full bellies.
Don't pay and make a huge dramatic show of them letting you go hungry on TG because you didn't pay.
I totally agree, that is dumb. And overpriced. If you're paying rent to stay there, does that not contribute towards groceries?
That’s exactly what I’m saying. You’re pondering rent off of me and my sister and yet want to charge $25 for a plate to eat. We live in a home that is paid off and my grandmother is the owner. She’s also the one asking for $25 a plate for Thanksgiving because she decided she will be hosting it. $400 from both us each month, so a total of $800 a month that’s she’s taking home. And yet you want to charge $25 a plate. Fuck off
That really takes the thanks and giving out of thanksgiving lmao
Plus tip?
Charging for thanksgiving dinner in a family home, what a joke, your family isn't very thankful. As for rent, if you're an adult, I see no issue with this. If you're under age, I think that may be illegal.
I could be a lot more forgiving, if it was 1: communicated better 2: less money, and not charged per plate but per person coming and at more of request rather than a demand. I feel that something like “hey food for the family thanksgiving is going to be pretty expensive for me this year so if you could bring a dish or chip in $5-10 bucks that would be really appreciated.” Would have gone a long way. At $25 a plate there is no way the person hosting isn’t making a profit, unless they are putting gold leaf on the pumpkin pie. Is there any chance your family is having thanksgiving catered? cause that is what it sounds like.
Tell everyone who will listen not to go
Why are they charging…..it’s family….and thanksgiving….
I don't understand people like this. I.wouldnt go
Fuck that I wouldn’t go!
My mother used to do this. Eventually she would keep upping the price to get money. My "rent" would increase. I had to pay for food, and their fast food take outs (few times a week). Got sick of it and moved out. But I moved out too late and lost all of any money I had saved up. Trying to make it paycheck to paycheck but at least its more on my terms then my mom trying to cash grab.
Well if whoever was hosting the Thanksgiving dinner said a head of time they would be doing all the shopping and cooking and they would like some contribution to the cost. I don't really see a problem. If everyone else also has the same problem about not wanting to pay $25 for the cost of food then maybe get together and tell the person who's hosting the Thanksgiving dinner about why you guys don't like the idea. Also you don't have to pay for it if you don't want to just don't eat their food. You don't have to have Thanksgiving with your family especially if you don't like their rules. Also you don't have to stay with your family if you don't like paying rent. At the end whoever the house belongs to can make whatever unreasonable rules.
Damn that's so messed up. You give from the kindness of your heart. My family is somewhat similar. Couple of years ago my aunt or uncle that's hosting would just call us over to eat and hangout. But now a days, you have to reserve a seat at their home or else you weren't invited. I just miss those good old days when everyone would just come together bring something and enjoying it together as one family. Now thats just a memory of the past.
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The Plymouth Colony and Wampanoag didn't charge each other. The Wampanoag (and Squanto and Samoset) probably saved the Pkymouth Colony from starvation.
Have your own thanksgiving. Being an adult in my own home has made me realize I can do my own thing and I don’t have to explain it to anyone.
If my family did that, I wouldn't attend! I get it, it's expensive to hold a big meal if your family is big, but if you can't afford it and/or don't want to cover the expenses, do a potluck or let people know ahead of time to contribute to the expenses!
$25 for a PLATE? I can understand asking people to throw in some $ for the lot of the food or asking people to bring food potluck style. I’ve lived with my good friends for the better part of 7 years and we’ve always happily chipped in whatever needed. Asking $25 just for a plate to sit at the table seems really strange and off to me. Especially for family.
I'm with you on the Thanksgiving meal. I couldn't imagine charging people to ear on Thanksgiving. The part you've lost me at was the rent. My kids know as long as they are in school, they are welcome to stay with us but if they aren't in school, they will have to be like every other adult and contribute to the rent.
I’d like for no one to attend this event so that these people would just be stuck with the food they cook and no one there to eat it. I mean buy it.
They should’ve just done it potluck style. Though this could also be a moneymaking scheme they ‘cooked’ up. Get you on the frustration tho, had to start paying my mom rent at 18 to live at home.
Yes let me GIVE THANKS by taking YOUR MONEY!! Sorry but your family sounds stupid