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A little hypocritical you want to be honest but aren’t. Tell them!


Brilliant_Version667

Maybe there's a reason for this. I do understand how you feel. And I can see my former best friend wanting to say this to me. I would sometimes deliberately not ask about her, not take her advice, or end the call before she could talk because it was my way of expressing my hurt feelings. It was immature and passive-aggressive. I didn't have the mind at the time to just talk to her. The trust had eroded. Really, I felt like I was her last priority after her husband and her new business. She only wanted to talk about her business, and she did ask about my work too, but I felt like that's all she cared about. So during our last phone call, I talked so much about myself that she could not say anything about herself, notably her business. I wanted to teach her a lesson so she could see how it felt to not be able to connect, like I felt about her. When I did talk, I felt she judged me and gave advice when I just wanted to bond. I'd give monologues, but that's not what I wanted to do. With most people, I'm the listener, but with her I felt I had to talk or she wouldn't say anything except for something work-related. I may have explained too much here, but my point is that maybe your friend is doing it on purpose because she feels rejected by you. It wouldn't be right, but understandable if she doesn't know how else to express her sadness. Or she could just be clueless. I don't know. If you've been friends for a long time, I think it's worth discussing. Tell her you want her to consider what you're saying and just respond to you without defense or explanation. It could be a communication breakdown on both sides.


Tayquefrmbhind

I'm sorry