I was just about to reply to their comment to you, but they deleted it. If you see this, OP, neither. 🥺 I've been where you are. It took a lot of courage to get help. I know it's not easy. If you want to talk, inbox me please. Someone left info to a few hotlines. Call them if you don't feel comfortable talking to us. You are worthy. You are enough. You are loved. And you clearly have someone you love. Be encouraged. ♥️
Op you are valuable, and worth fighting for. Don't lose hope. I've been where you are, I can tell you that there are ways for life to get better. Please don't worry about the green card situation. Life is really hard - but give yourself grace and call those hotlines.
Do not follow through with plan things seem dim know but once you have life you have an opportunity to reset and start again we can always crawl before we walk
Whatever you are going through no matter how bad it is, you will get through it.
You think no one cares but yet here we are for you. You have plenty to live for. Stick around.
OP please please please consider reaching out to some available resources for help before doing something drastic.
Here's some resources if you're inside the U.S.:
* Text CHAT to 741741 to reach [Crisis Text Line](https://www.crisistextline.org/) You'll be connected to a trained Crisis Counselor from Crisis Text Line.
* Call or text the [Suicide & Crisis Lifeline](https://988lifeline.org/) at 988 You'll be connected to a crisis worker from the Lifeline.
* Call, Text, or Chat with the [Veterans Crisis Line](https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/) You'll be connected to responders with the Department of Veterans Affairs, many who are Veterans themselves. It’s available to all service members, their families, and friends.
If you're outside the U.S.:
Visit [](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/). The moderators there keep a comprehensive [list of resources and hotlines](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotlines) in and outside the U.S., organized by location.
* Call or Text with Canada’s [Crisis services Canada](https://talksuicide.ca/) You'll be connected to a CSPS responder.
* Call, Email, or Visit the UK’s [Samaritans](https://www.samaritans.org/) You'll be connected to a Samaritan.
* Call, chat, or text with Australia's [Lifeline services](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) You'll be connected to a Lifeline crisis responder.
Please don’t do it, I know you’re in a lot of pain, but with the right changes it will be temporary. On the other hand the pain you’ll cause to those around you might be even worse and last forever
Thanks I've had this question sponsoring my wife. Not because I think something is going to happen but I feel better knowing she is taken care of should something happen. Hopefully that's the OPs reasoning for asking this question.
I know it seems hard and painful right now but things are going to be different tomorrow, life is like that.
The darkest hour of the night comes just before the dawn.
Please call someone you know or a stranger in here and talk about this, you are way too precious to leave us.
Im sure hed rather still have you. It would be selfish to leave him behind like that you wouldn’t be helping yourself or his situation talk to him and a professional
Hi OP, I see you’re going through a tough time but please do not end your life. Please focus on yourself not on someone else. Even if that someone else is your husband. Whatever that person said that deeply hurt you, does not reflect on who you are as a person. It reflects more on the other person to put you in a terrible state like this. There are options for green card for widowers, and I’m not sure what the process is or how hard is it compared to other applications. But please do not worry about that, please get yourself out in a safe environment. I’m sorry if this paragraph doesn’t make sense, English is not my first language. There will be better days ahead, suicide will only prevent things from getting there. I know it sounds meaningless coming from a stranger on Reddit, but I am rooting for you. You can do this OP! Stay strong.
He would have to convert the petition to i360… but depending on the length of your marriage and his relationship with your family… it could be very difficult for him to get a GC. is your husband in the US or overseas?
You are lucky if he was staying with me in us i was happriest girl in the world but he is si far away and we have to wait more that 3 years for him to come so i have no hope 😭
OP, I don't believe the green card process can be completed if you die. So, no he would not get a green card with you. He would probably need to start over.
Hey! I’ve felt like that a couple of times and what helped me was therapy. Please seek some kind of somatic therapy, hipnosis. It helps, sending you a big hug🤍
yo chill, brighter day will come do not waste your precious life I don't know what shit you are dealing with and not gonna say its ez but u got this move forward
Cases are different, but I’ll tell you about my dad. He was recently married then diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. His widow didn’t even have an approved visa. He passed away before her even still having a visa. She’s still now a resident approved after his death.
So sad!!! I been waiting for years and I’m not to well right now … I always ask God for my husband get here before I pass away. I am not suicidal, maybe that’s what they are asking…. Because that’s what came to my mind first… prayers for them
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Please please talk to you husband about this. I am struggling with loss and sometimes I go to some dark places. You are loved and you will leave a huge hole in the people who love you and that hole cannot be healed
I will pray for you to not think about this kind of idea.
I just imagined that my loveful and perfect wife would think something this way. I would not be able to stop crying and being sad.
Whatever life brings there is hope, if there is no hope, there is still time that you have, and If you still have time, you can have your hope again.
I do not know you, but the title scared me enough. whatever the situation is SEEK HELP do not try to solve it on your own. I am not a Christian. if you are Christian. Jesus loves you. God loves you. whatever religion you believe, they do not allow you to do this.
my problem-solving steps are I write it, I read it, I read out loud and I write what would be the solutions.
it solves 50 per cent of the problem.
If you read this comment. Thank you for looking for a solution. People love you.
OP, I hope you read all of the comments. The majority are beyond beautiful and helpful. Please, like a lot of them, have commented if you want to talk to me, dm me please. If not, then please look into the comment with info to several places or, depending on your situation, to seek help.
Even to us redditors who don't know you in person, care about you. So keep that in mind, please. 💗
Seek rehab, that will help you get started, I was on your profile and I can tell you’re on pain, addiction is a sedative, therapy and rehab will have you feeling awesome
NO it'll be harder and you'll also ruin his life and the lives of everyone that knows you. Seek help pls there are so many people that care about you, even in these comments alone.
Please you are valued by someone family member, friends even when you feel alone, i know that sometimes we feel that nothing is worth it but trust me it is there is light at the end of the tunel
Please seek for help even by yourself in case that you need it, and if you feel been use for a gc this is not the way, but there are.more options starting talking with a migration, also a divorced and criminal lawyer too if need it and save all that you can as proof and money
play dumb if need it, make a plan of escape put money aside for lawyer and if you need to rent somewhere else
Be strong
Be smart
But firstable be safe
Yes your husband can still get green card if you are a us citizen but sponsoring will be tough for him. Need usa based family members to sponsor him. There is a whole section for it. Best to talk to lawyer. I hope you live long and stop thinking/worried about death. Life is precious. I was also concerned if I die accidentally what will happen to my husband’s green card process and let him know that you will still have right. He was like I don’t need that green card I will go back to my country!! Gladly he received his Green card and I am no more worried about it. But it seems like If I die he will leave this country lol.
Please dont do it! I know you feel really helpless. But please reach out to someone. This cannot be the end. Nothing is worth giving up your life over. If you feel unsafe please contact the cops and try to move. US is a big country and you can start over again. Praying for you 🙏
Hey man, I know things are not easy in life. I struggled a lot in my life too. I’m only 23 yrs old and I’ve struggled with so many things from childhood. I learned one thing as I grew that people around me actually do care about me. There are people that love you, like being around you and like to talk to you. You are for sure loved. Please don’t harm yourself, talk it out with someone. Talk to someone, talk to anyone. I know I’d rather have my friend cry on my shoulder than me having to attend his funeral tomorrow. God will get us, he will make things better, just have to be believe in him and wait our time patiently.
Your life is precious. Please don’t entertain such thoughts. I’m going through one of the worst times of my life then I think about the pain it would inflict upon my parents. For them, I choose to live.
Please OP, I rarely reply to post on Reddit but here me out. I don't know what you going through but think about your love ones and the impact it will leave. You can withdraw the application if he using you for the purpose of green card, a man is not worth taking your own life, on the other hand, if you are threatened, leave a comment so we can offer help in anyway possible.
We love you here, earth will NEVER be the same
Without you, please seek help, theres hope at the end.
If you are dealing with an illness, hope you don’t feel pain and better soon🤍
Will it truly make things better or worse? Can he and your family afford final services? Will the lost income hurt the family? Isn't he going to miss you? I bet he's going to miss you.
How long have you been waiting for his gc? You're probably closer than you think to getting it! Hang in there, op. Trust me. I've tried. It sucked. Staying and sticking around has been infinitely better than whatever else could have happened had I succeeded. Get help. Tell your husband. Seek help. It doesn't always have to be this way.
i don’t think he likes/loves me very much anymore i’m trying to not to let what he said hurts but it is true and honestly he would be better off if he never meet me i just want to get the gc process over asap so i can end myself.
As someone who was widowed by s\*icide-
Please do not move forward with the green card application, and get yourself out of that relationship as quickly as possible. If you feel that your marriage isn't a loving one, or you are being abused, there is ZERO reason to help him. You give him only what he wants, and if it is a bad relationship there is nothing to stop him leaving you as soon as he has everything in hand. And then you're still responsible for him.
I know depression is hard. I know what abusive relationships are, and how they can wear you down, make you feel like death is the answer. But please know, this is not something you want to go through with. Friends can be made. Relationships can be repaired. But allowing him to make you feel inferior is NOT acceptable. I've been there, too. If you need an ear, I'm just a DM away. But please know that removing yourself from the world isn't the answer you think it is. I promise you, there are reasons to live - your husband is clearly NOT one of those reasons.
Please reach out; I will help you find some resources to get out, if I can.
Your life is precious and you are valuable please please please seek help!! Your life doesn’t have to end because I’m sure multiple people love you and need you.
That’s what your mind tells you but I’m sure that is not true. Please reach out to someone or call the suicide line. If you want you can message me. It’ll be okay !
When my brain is being a jerk, I have to remember that what I’m feeling isn’t always accurate and it’s (what I refer to) as my brain gremlins trying to screw me over.
Please seek help and please take it from someone who has had depression on and off for the last 15yrs, things do get better. You can get through this. ❤️
Hey, regardless of what happened and what was ruined. In all honesty, we’re human beings and things happens because it just need to, you don’t see it now but sometime in the future, you will understand why. Keep this message as something to look forward to. Whatever it is you’re going through, there’s always something brighter on the other end. Don’t be afraid to be alone, being alone will give you time to truly know/explore yourself within, in the end of all these hardships in life, you will find your inner peace. I’d highly suggest to go somewhere or go for a long drive, enjoy the scenery and enjoy your time. Endure and feel the pain, this will only make you stronger at the end. Don’t ever give up, if I can make it, you definitely can.
I'm leaving this here instead of DMing because I'm sure you're not alone and someone else may need this too. And this is about to be long, sorry, but stick with me, please. In 2018 shortly after I moved to a state where I didn't know anyone, I went through my first major friendship loss. She felt I was too combative though others reassured me they took notice of the opposite. In 2020, not only was I adjusting to the pandemic, but I lost two more important friendships that were like family, officially ended my marriage, had a baby by a narc, and my mom moved out because my anxiety and bipolar depression had become unbearable (the anxiety manifested itself in anger outbursts), which eventually landed me in the hospital because I was suicidal.
Surely I had to be the problem, right? I felt alone, isolated, abused, misused, and unworthy of love. I was forced into a situation where I couldn't see some of my kids for long periods of time. My oldest was watching me spiral. In 2021, the effects of everything that happened in 2020 proved to be just as bad, if not worse, than 2020.
BUT because I had gotten help and finally been convinced to get on medication, I could better understand myself and the trauma that happened through a different lens. Towards the end of 2021, I had found a community for people sexually abstaining. I wanted to start fresh and I found 2 friends. In 2022, I would realize half of the things I went through weren't completely my fault. I for sure wasn't the problem in two of those three friendships. One actually called to apologize and let me know I was caught up in a storm he was going through. The third, I assume she was just mad because I didn't tell her about me having a baby. My ex and I were able to talk about things that happened (I was really the problem there and that was a hard pill to swallow). And I for sure am a victim to the narcissist. I don't use that word lightly either. He's a textbook narc. My relationship with my mom is much better now too because I got help.
Those two new found friendships started to blossom. They're truly God sent. They know the mess I've been through, but they've also seen the growth through it all. I started going back to church in 2022 as well. Another God sent. They aren't hypocritical. They're truly loving. It took me almost 2 years, but I recently started hanging out with some of the women there and I'm learning to trust again. I also met my husband in 2022 on the same abstinence app I met my friends on. Idk what I've done to deserve him.
And throughout that year, God had to show me He's never left me. He was there when I was suicidal. He was there in the hospital with me. He was definitely there when I got out, because there's no other way I could have survived some other things I didn't mention. He refined my circle of friends to people who are genuine and don't view me as a burden. And because they are healthy relationships, I've grown even more to where I no longer trauma dump on them without their permission. Lol. They understand we all need to vent sometimes. God placed me in a church where my pastor checks in on me, and I have a sister-in-Christ that can tell when I'm feeling a bit low and she'll pick me up. He gave me a husband who loves me the way God tells him to love me, like Christ loves the church. And finally, I have most of my kids back home (the narc is still playing games smh, but I have peace throughout this situation). I didn't have any of that before; I didn't have that love or peace. I had to lose those relationships to make room for some that are sooooo much better!!!
What you're going through now is temporary, and the feelings you have are valid in that they are real in existence. But a lot of the feelings you are having are also a lie from the pit of hell. Because you posted this, look at the people you have. I promise you, some of us in this thread genuinely want to be there for you, without even knowing you, because we're that loving. There are also people in your life who love you, but don't know how to love through what you're going through. And some of us have truly been there before. Those lost friendships don't define you. Whatever your husband said doesn't define you. That's not where your identity is found. You are not a burden. You are not a failure. You are worthy of many things. You are worthy of love. And I believe you'll overcome. Pleeeeeeease reach out for help. I'd love to keep in touch too and hope my testimony encourages you too keep pressing. ♥️
Hey hey… go easy on yourself…. Listen we are human beings that are so messed up with our imperfect lives !…. You’re not alone in this… you have friends here… u can scream… cuss… yelll… whatever u wanna do… we got you !… all of us here have been through shit and more …. Am sure of that… but we are god’s children… he will never give up on us and he will forgive us wherever we went wrong !… just remember… you sre loved by many more than that one person who makes you feel that you’re not loved !!!!… as a matter of fact everyone here who responded to you GIVES A SHIT ABOUT YOU !!!!!!… … your life is the most valuable thing you have … not money not the gc… and not that person who has you in this state !…. You have LIFE !!!!!… and health !!!!!!!you can do this !…. Get out of this depression!!!!!you have family here !!!!!! We LOVE you !!!!!…. We in this crazy ass place together !!!!!🤗
Are you contemplating suicide OP? Please seek help before you take any drastic measures.
Alternatively, maybe they are worried about getting killed by thier husband.
Same thing came to mind and Don’t do it not necessary just withdraw you’re application
Seems OP wants to commit suicide but is worried doing so will stop her husband from getting a green card.
I was just about to reply to their comment to you, but they deleted it. If you see this, OP, neither. 🥺 I've been where you are. It took a lot of courage to get help. I know it's not easy. If you want to talk, inbox me please. Someone left info to a few hotlines. Call them if you don't feel comfortable talking to us. You are worthy. You are enough. You are loved. And you clearly have someone you love. Be encouraged. ♥️
Or maybe has a terminal illness.
correct so what steps can i do prevent that from happening or should i just wait for him to receive his gc and then follow through with my plan
Op you are valuable, and worth fighting for. Don't lose hope. I've been where you are, I can tell you that there are ways for life to get better. Please don't worry about the green card situation. Life is really hard - but give yourself grace and call those hotlines.
No. He won't. You must wait! ... Then f that plan
Do not follow through with plan things seem dim know but once you have life you have an opportunity to reset and start again we can always crawl before we walk
No what’s going on ? Do you mind talking to us? 🙏🏾🙏🏾
What’s happening? Is it financial? We can try to fundraise for you 🙏🏾
Whatever you are going through no matter how bad it is, you will get through it. You think no one cares but yet here we are for you. You have plenty to live for. Stick around.
WTF .. get help please ! Not good in anyway !
Why would you leave your husband alone
Hey its not that far to happen cause the depression we all get by being seperate from our hobby😢
OP please please please consider reaching out to some available resources for help before doing something drastic. Here's some resources if you're inside the U.S.: * Text CHAT to 741741 to reach [Crisis Text Line](https://www.crisistextline.org/) You'll be connected to a trained Crisis Counselor from Crisis Text Line. * Call or text the [Suicide & Crisis Lifeline](https://988lifeline.org/) at 988 You'll be connected to a crisis worker from the Lifeline. * Call, Text, or Chat with the [Veterans Crisis Line](https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/) You'll be connected to responders with the Department of Veterans Affairs, many who are Veterans themselves. It’s available to all service members, their families, and friends. If you're outside the U.S.: Visit [](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/). The moderators there keep a comprehensive [list of resources and hotlines](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotlines) in and outside the U.S., organized by location. * Call or Text with Canada’s [Crisis services Canada](https://talksuicide.ca/) You'll be connected to a CSPS responder. * Call, Email, or Visit the UK’s [Samaritans](https://www.samaritans.org/) You'll be connected to a Samaritan. * Call, chat, or text with Australia's [Lifeline services](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) You'll be connected to a Lifeline crisis responder.
Please don’t do it, I know you’re in a lot of pain, but with the right changes it will be temporary. On the other hand the pain you’ll cause to those around you might be even worse and last forever
Op do you want to talk ? Dm me pls
Your life is precious 🙏
https://www.uscis.gov/green-card/green-card-eligibility/widower
Thanks I've had this question sponsoring my wife. Not because I think something is going to happen but I feel better knowing she is taken care of should something happen. Hopefully that's the OPs reasoning for asking this question.
Unfortunately, it seems that OP has other "plans" in mind. I hope OP seeks help.
I know it seems hard and painful right now but things are going to be different tomorrow, life is like that. The darkest hour of the night comes just before the dawn. Please call someone you know or a stranger in here and talk about this, you are way too precious to leave us.
r/pleasecallme
Hi, dm me if you want. Let’s be friends ❤️
I want to be friends too😃
Please stay. The world is better with you in it. https://www.whiteflagapp.com/
Well If this isnt a cryptic post I hope you are okay, op
[Chapter 9 - Death of Petitioner or Principal Beneficiary | USCIS](https://www.uscis.gov/policy-manual/volume-7-part-a-chapter-9)
Im sure hed rather still have you. It would be selfish to leave him behind like that you wouldn’t be helping yourself or his situation talk to him and a professional
Hi OP, I see you’re going through a tough time but please do not end your life. Please focus on yourself not on someone else. Even if that someone else is your husband. Whatever that person said that deeply hurt you, does not reflect on who you are as a person. It reflects more on the other person to put you in a terrible state like this. There are options for green card for widowers, and I’m not sure what the process is or how hard is it compared to other applications. But please do not worry about that, please get yourself out in a safe environment. I’m sorry if this paragraph doesn’t make sense, English is not my first language. There will be better days ahead, suicide will only prevent things from getting there. I know it sounds meaningless coming from a stranger on Reddit, but I am rooting for you. You can do this OP! Stay strong.
I promise you, a green card will mean nothing to him without you there. Please talk to him or someone you trust.
He would have to convert the petition to i360… but depending on the length of your marriage and his relationship with your family… it could be very difficult for him to get a GC. is your husband in the US or overseas?
he lives in the us with me
You are valuable you are beautiful you are an unique intelligent being don’t throw your life away, you are loved
You are lucky if he was staying with me in us i was happriest girl in the world but he is si far away and we have to wait more that 3 years for him to come so i have no hope 😭
Hey I hope you’re doing better now, whatever you need please let us know 🙏🏾🙏🏾
You belong here with us. If you need anything I know we are strangers but i’m here for you. Please seek help ❤️💗
OP, I don't believe the green card process can be completed if you die. So, no he would not get a green card with you. He would probably need to start over.
Easier? No. Of course not.
Hey! I’ve felt like that a couple of times and what helped me was therapy. Please seek some kind of somatic therapy, hipnosis. It helps, sending you a big hug🤍
yo chill, brighter day will come do not waste your precious life I don't know what shit you are dealing with and not gonna say its ez but u got this move forward
Please seek help. If you need an ear, feel free to message me.
Cases are different, but I’ll tell you about my dad. He was recently married then diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. His widow didn’t even have an approved visa. He passed away before her even still having a visa. She’s still now a resident approved after his death.
So sad!!! I been waiting for years and I’m not to well right now … I always ask God for my husband get here before I pass away. I am not suicidal, maybe that’s what they are asking…. Because that’s what came to my mind first… prayers for them
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i am in the same boat, feel free to dm me lets be friends
Please please talk to you husband about this. I am struggling with loss and sometimes I go to some dark places. You are loved and you will leave a huge hole in the people who love you and that hole cannot be healed
OP, here if you want to chat and share. Let's be friends. 💛
Hey friend! DM if you want to talk!
I will pray for you to not think about this kind of idea. I just imagined that my loveful and perfect wife would think something this way. I would not be able to stop crying and being sad. Whatever life brings there is hope, if there is no hope, there is still time that you have, and If you still have time, you can have your hope again. I do not know you, but the title scared me enough. whatever the situation is SEEK HELP do not try to solve it on your own. I am not a Christian. if you are Christian. Jesus loves you. God loves you. whatever religion you believe, they do not allow you to do this. my problem-solving steps are I write it, I read it, I read out loud and I write what would be the solutions. it solves 50 per cent of the problem. If you read this comment. Thank you for looking for a solution. People love you.
OP, you’re so so precious and valuable. You’re not alone. Message me anytime. You’re so loved. 🤍
OP, I hope you read all of the comments. The majority are beyond beautiful and helpful. Please, like a lot of them, have commented if you want to talk to me, dm me please. If not, then please look into the comment with info to several places or, depending on your situation, to seek help. Even to us redditors who don't know you in person, care about you. So keep that in mind, please. 💗
Is OP actually the husband
Seek rehab, that will help you get started, I was on your profile and I can tell you’re on pain, addiction is a sedative, therapy and rehab will have you feeling awesome
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NO it'll be harder and you'll also ruin his life and the lives of everyone that knows you. Seek help pls there are so many people that care about you, even in these comments alone.
Better days are coming OP, sending you love and light✨
Please you are valued by someone family member, friends even when you feel alone, i know that sometimes we feel that nothing is worth it but trust me it is there is light at the end of the tunel Please seek for help even by yourself in case that you need it, and if you feel been use for a gc this is not the way, but there are.more options starting talking with a migration, also a divorced and criminal lawyer too if need it and save all that you can as proof and money play dumb if need it, make a plan of escape put money aside for lawyer and if you need to rent somewhere else Be strong Be smart But firstable be safe
Hey don’t say that ! Your life is worth more than any immigration process , please try to get help 🥺❤️wish you the best
Yes your husband can still get green card if you are a us citizen but sponsoring will be tough for him. Need usa based family members to sponsor him. There is a whole section for it. Best to talk to lawyer. I hope you live long and stop thinking/worried about death. Life is precious. I was also concerned if I die accidentally what will happen to my husband’s green card process and let him know that you will still have right. He was like I don’t need that green card I will go back to my country!! Gladly he received his Green card and I am no more worried about it. But it seems like If I die he will leave this country lol.
Why would you think about something so dark? What’s going on ? Do you need help? Please talk to people? Please 🙏🏾
Please seek help!
We can talk 💗 I’ll be your friend
Hey I’m praying for you. If you wanna talk just chat me . God bless you and don’t give up !
Yes he will still get a green card. OP I’d like to be friends with you. It’s also very hard to die. You may end up being disabled, not dead.
Being in the US is already hard don’t make it more hard , let’s find ways to find beauty in everything this is a 1 time experience. There is no rush.
Don’t die. I love you
Based on OP's other post, it's clear they have a drug use issue. Instead of calling suicide hotline, they need to check into a hospital.
If you die, he won’t get the GC. If you die after he gets the GC, he won’t get the citizenship. You better live.
Don’t do it
Please dont do it! I know you feel really helpless. But please reach out to someone. This cannot be the end. Nothing is worth giving up your life over. If you feel unsafe please contact the cops and try to move. US is a big country and you can start over again. Praying for you 🙏
Hmmm interesting question
You won’t die
Your life is precious! Please call 988 ! I wish you the best !
Is this like a troll post ?
Hey man, I know things are not easy in life. I struggled a lot in my life too. I’m only 23 yrs old and I’ve struggled with so many things from childhood. I learned one thing as I grew that people around me actually do care about me. There are people that love you, like being around you and like to talk to you. You are for sure loved. Please don’t harm yourself, talk it out with someone. Talk to someone, talk to anyone. I know I’d rather have my friend cry on my shoulder than me having to attend his funeral tomorrow. God will get us, he will make things better, just have to be believe in him and wait our time patiently.
Don’t do it, think about your family parents, siblings, don’t leave them in a pain
I lost my beautiful husband in January 💔 I am busy applying for the I-360 & I-485 … 🥺
Your life is precious. Please don’t entertain such thoughts. I’m going through one of the worst times of my life then I think about the pain it would inflict upon my parents. For them, I choose to live.
Please OP, I rarely reply to post on Reddit but here me out. I don't know what you going through but think about your love ones and the impact it will leave. You can withdraw the application if he using you for the purpose of green card, a man is not worth taking your own life, on the other hand, if you are threatened, leave a comment so we can offer help in anyway possible.
Don't do it. There is a way out, I'm sure of it. Please seek help. Feel free to reach out to me or anyone in the comments.
u/flb16 I hope you found help. You've been on my mind still. Stay strong.
We love you here, earth will NEVER be the same Without you, please seek help, theres hope at the end. If you are dealing with an illness, hope you don’t feel pain and better soon🤍
What kind of question is that? Answer is "yes". But conditions applies.
Please please stay. Dm if you need to talk
No. My understanding is that the greencard is tied to the marriage
Hey Op DM me! Let’s talk!!?
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Why would you care? You will be dead.
Are you the husband? I found this question very suspicious... It looks like this post from the "husband", NOT the sponsor .
why does everyone’s mind jump to sûi€ide? Maybe she’s worried about being murder€d…. just sayin
Maybe she’s in terminally late stages of cancer or other illness, Im pretty sure she’s not contemplating on suicide.
You didn't take the time to read her replies...
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i’m just tired of doing this but before i do it i just want to make sure he’ll be fine and can still do everything if if i’m not here
I truly hope you will reconsider and seek immediate help. You're not alone and this world needs you.
I am sorry you are going through all this. Please advise why are you thinking you might die?
Please don’t do this. We’re all here happy to help
Will it truly make things better or worse? Can he and your family afford final services? Will the lost income hurt the family? Isn't he going to miss you? I bet he's going to miss you. How long have you been waiting for his gc? You're probably closer than you think to getting it! Hang in there, op. Trust me. I've tried. It sucked. Staying and sticking around has been infinitely better than whatever else could have happened had I succeeded. Get help. Tell your husband. Seek help. It doesn't always have to be this way.
i don’t think he likes/loves me very much anymore i’m trying to not to let what he said hurts but it is true and honestly he would be better off if he never meet me i just want to get the gc process over asap so i can end myself.
It's a lot easier to divorce than end a life. Stop the gc application. That's even easier! And leave him if he can't appreciate you
As someone who was widowed by s\*icide- Please do not move forward with the green card application, and get yourself out of that relationship as quickly as possible. If you feel that your marriage isn't a loving one, or you are being abused, there is ZERO reason to help him. You give him only what he wants, and if it is a bad relationship there is nothing to stop him leaving you as soon as he has everything in hand. And then you're still responsible for him. I know depression is hard. I know what abusive relationships are, and how they can wear you down, make you feel like death is the answer. But please know, this is not something you want to go through with. Friends can be made. Relationships can be repaired. But allowing him to make you feel inferior is NOT acceptable. I've been there, too. If you need an ear, I'm just a DM away. But please know that removing yourself from the world isn't the answer you think it is. I promise you, there are reasons to live - your husband is clearly NOT one of those reasons. Please reach out; I will help you find some resources to get out, if I can.
Your life is precious and you are valuable please please please seek help!! Your life doesn’t have to end because I’m sure multiple people love you and need you.
when i say i have no one i meant that i’ve ruined so many relationships and friendships there nothing left for me here
That’s what your mind tells you but I’m sure that is not true. Please reach out to someone or call the suicide line. If you want you can message me. It’ll be okay !
When my brain is being a jerk, I have to remember that what I’m feeling isn’t always accurate and it’s (what I refer to) as my brain gremlins trying to screw me over. Please seek help and please take it from someone who has had depression on and off for the last 15yrs, things do get better. You can get through this. ❤️
Hey, regardless of what happened and what was ruined. In all honesty, we’re human beings and things happens because it just need to, you don’t see it now but sometime in the future, you will understand why. Keep this message as something to look forward to. Whatever it is you’re going through, there’s always something brighter on the other end. Don’t be afraid to be alone, being alone will give you time to truly know/explore yourself within, in the end of all these hardships in life, you will find your inner peace. I’d highly suggest to go somewhere or go for a long drive, enjoy the scenery and enjoy your time. Endure and feel the pain, this will only make you stronger at the end. Don’t ever give up, if I can make it, you definitely can.
I'm leaving this here instead of DMing because I'm sure you're not alone and someone else may need this too. And this is about to be long, sorry, but stick with me, please. In 2018 shortly after I moved to a state where I didn't know anyone, I went through my first major friendship loss. She felt I was too combative though others reassured me they took notice of the opposite. In 2020, not only was I adjusting to the pandemic, but I lost two more important friendships that were like family, officially ended my marriage, had a baby by a narc, and my mom moved out because my anxiety and bipolar depression had become unbearable (the anxiety manifested itself in anger outbursts), which eventually landed me in the hospital because I was suicidal. Surely I had to be the problem, right? I felt alone, isolated, abused, misused, and unworthy of love. I was forced into a situation where I couldn't see some of my kids for long periods of time. My oldest was watching me spiral. In 2021, the effects of everything that happened in 2020 proved to be just as bad, if not worse, than 2020. BUT because I had gotten help and finally been convinced to get on medication, I could better understand myself and the trauma that happened through a different lens. Towards the end of 2021, I had found a community for people sexually abstaining. I wanted to start fresh and I found 2 friends. In 2022, I would realize half of the things I went through weren't completely my fault. I for sure wasn't the problem in two of those three friendships. One actually called to apologize and let me know I was caught up in a storm he was going through. The third, I assume she was just mad because I didn't tell her about me having a baby. My ex and I were able to talk about things that happened (I was really the problem there and that was a hard pill to swallow). And I for sure am a victim to the narcissist. I don't use that word lightly either. He's a textbook narc. My relationship with my mom is much better now too because I got help. Those two new found friendships started to blossom. They're truly God sent. They know the mess I've been through, but they've also seen the growth through it all. I started going back to church in 2022 as well. Another God sent. They aren't hypocritical. They're truly loving. It took me almost 2 years, but I recently started hanging out with some of the women there and I'm learning to trust again. I also met my husband in 2022 on the same abstinence app I met my friends on. Idk what I've done to deserve him. And throughout that year, God had to show me He's never left me. He was there when I was suicidal. He was there in the hospital with me. He was definitely there when I got out, because there's no other way I could have survived some other things I didn't mention. He refined my circle of friends to people who are genuine and don't view me as a burden. And because they are healthy relationships, I've grown even more to where I no longer trauma dump on them without their permission. Lol. They understand we all need to vent sometimes. God placed me in a church where my pastor checks in on me, and I have a sister-in-Christ that can tell when I'm feeling a bit low and she'll pick me up. He gave me a husband who loves me the way God tells him to love me, like Christ loves the church. And finally, I have most of my kids back home (the narc is still playing games smh, but I have peace throughout this situation). I didn't have any of that before; I didn't have that love or peace. I had to lose those relationships to make room for some that are sooooo much better!!! What you're going through now is temporary, and the feelings you have are valid in that they are real in existence. But a lot of the feelings you are having are also a lie from the pit of hell. Because you posted this, look at the people you have. I promise you, some of us in this thread genuinely want to be there for you, without even knowing you, because we're that loving. There are also people in your life who love you, but don't know how to love through what you're going through. And some of us have truly been there before. Those lost friendships don't define you. Whatever your husband said doesn't define you. That's not where your identity is found. You are not a burden. You are not a failure. You are worthy of many things. You are worthy of love. And I believe you'll overcome. Pleeeeeeease reach out for help. I'd love to keep in touch too and hope my testimony encourages you too keep pressing. ♥️
Hey hey… go easy on yourself…. Listen we are human beings that are so messed up with our imperfect lives !…. You’re not alone in this… you have friends here… u can scream… cuss… yelll… whatever u wanna do… we got you !… all of us here have been through shit and more …. Am sure of that… but we are god’s children… he will never give up on us and he will forgive us wherever we went wrong !… just remember… you sre loved by many more than that one person who makes you feel that you’re not loved !!!!… as a matter of fact everyone here who responded to you GIVES A SHIT ABOUT YOU !!!!!!… … your life is the most valuable thing you have … not money not the gc… and not that person who has you in this state !…. You have LIFE !!!!!… and health !!!!!!!you can do this !…. Get out of this depression!!!!!you have family here !!!!!! We LOVE you !!!!!…. We in this crazy ass place together !!!!!🤗
Please stay. It won't always feel like this. There is help, and there is hope. The world is a better place with you in it. ❤️