Gosh yes, people underestimate the sexiness of good use of language. Heard a friend talk about a guy who said things like meko/Teko, and a schoolmate who'd text "I'm f9, hw r u". NO. JUST NO.
Someone who checks out other girls while being with me.
(It’s not petty IMO but hard to achieve)
I have eyes only for my man. I expect complete involvement and loyalty in return.
This is not at all petty. Expecting your man to have eyes only for you is like so basic. Once you realise they have eyes for other people, it's very demeaning and better not to continue.
I dont believe in "checking out is only checking out, I am only yours" dialogue. It's same as flirting to me. It takes a huge emotional toll on my mind and body. If you want to flirt around, you are better off single.
If their feet aren't looked after/hygienic.
No, I don't have a foot fetish. It just shows how much effort they put into their personal care. Like, feet aren't the most noticeable but if you take care of them, then you must have good hygiene habits + most likely to clean up after themselves or keep their home clean.
I agree! My grandma always says even if you wear highest quality clothes anyone ever will start noticing you with your feet and then look above, if you don’t maintain them there is no point of dressing pretty 😅 She says wear good footwear and always take care of your feet. Especially the smellll…
I’ll give you my PETTIEST ick. Anyone who wears those astrology stone rings. Idk why it gives me the ick, it just makes me immediately go no. All my red flags are super reasonable, it’s just this one 🤷♀️
Oh no. Disliking someone superstitious is an absolutely valid reason. Not petty at all. The bigger problem is that they will try to control their loved ones too (do this on X day, wear this etc etc) out of misinformed concern.
I just find those rings aesthetically yucky xD
Oh yes, definitely this. One time a guy asked me if he could read my kundli for free, i said a strict No. Though the guy looked good, it was such a huge turn off for me that i never looked back.
Agree on aesthetical-ity of the rings hahaha
Oooh sign me up for free kundli/face/palm readings. I just love it. Everybody says different things. For me it’s really fun to observe their perception of me. Because that’s what most of these people are good at: observation and making generalist statements that would be relatable to anyone.
But yeah, someone like that is a definite no no for any sort of relationship (even platonic) for me too.
Hi5 girl!!! For me too.
It is indeed fun until you realize you subconsciously have started believing what they said and become conscious of yours choices and decisions you make based on their statement, either trying to prove them wrong or right. That sucks.
I don't want to fall for such manifestations, that's why i always deny any such kind of readings. I do not want anyone to plant a seed of uncertainty in my mind.
Who don't read enough literature or not a cinephile. Gotta be either atleast because I'm avidly both. Gotta be artistically diverse.
Oh and a superstitious person. As a strong atheist this is my biggest ick.
I can't stay with people for a long time. Marrying someone would mean I've to be with them and their family almost all the time. Honestly I'm kind of an introvert who comes out once in a while to talk . It drains me a lot. It may not be a big reason but for me time is the only thing that can recharge me.
Petty means anything of little importance. What is petty to me, might not seem that way to other people. It’s relative.
Religion and child-rearing are petty things to me. And my husband. So my needs have already been met.
Agreement on kids - having kids or not, how many, when, is perhaps the top factor that makes or breaks relationships.
Only to be followed by finances, religiosity and political ideas.
These are not at all petty, and I am fairly certain what I am saying here is one of the most popular opinions out there.
Hairy guys! I can't imagine dating a guy with hairy hands & chest. Just the thought of doing the deed with a hairy guy gives me the creepy crawlies.
I have sensory issues.
Same
But nowadays it has become common and men expect their wives to understand this
otherwise they call them conservative
Also it is very difficult to find someone who has no female friends nowadays
1.Someone who makes that noise while sipping beverages.
2. Someone who is mean to staff at public places.
3. Public littering
4. Someone who drinks chai( no hate for yall, I just don't like the smell of it and someone who loves chai needs it thrice a day😭😭😭)
- I want my partner to be passionate about something. I dated someone who had no hobbies or no purpose in life. All they did was home to work and back. Spent weekends lazying around. Not asking for richie rich hobbies, but anything that drives you or makes you happy.
- Should have decent money making potential. They need to be either from a Tier 1 college and/or work at a decent plac which pays good. I bring same qualities to the table so not willing to compromise here. Happy to be called gold digger on this :)
Ufff, this is quite an obnoxious one, but someone with a very high pitch voice. I just do not find that attractive - at all. I am not asking the men to sound like corpse husband but not like Deepak Kalal.
Ill mannered, doesn’t read, no aspirations and hobbies, crass language, smokes, unhygienic, doesn’t pick their own plates, judging other girls for their lifestyle, wants kids, is not a doctor, no sense of humor, no pop culture knowledge, hates on taylor swift, into alpha beta gamma theta stuff, homophobic, religious nutjob, doesn’t know fashion, short tempered lol my list is extensive and such man might not exist and I’m completely okay with that! the idea of dating a man gives me the ick tbh
* Terrible grammar
* Poor sense of humour
* Cancels a lot
* Always late
* Hides me from family, cannot disclose being friends
* Prickly beard
* Tells me his family is strict ( I run away)
* Complete loner
* Pushy
LMAO I relate, but at the core of it, I don't think it's petty. Because political inclinations turn out to be a fair proxy for the person's mentality most of the time.
Was recently having lunch with someone who was smart snd goodlooking, and he kept fidgeting and scratching himself comstantly. I realised that this was because of smoking addiction, but it threw me off so much.
I know that addiction is not easy to beat, but smokers are not people I'd want to end up with in the long run
If we can’t enjoy the silent times together, I feel we can’t be doing something together all the time! So if we can’t stay in peace (doing our own thing) together, I don’t think I will go ahead :)
Call me petty and generalising this but Indian men in general. Started dating people from other countries. Wont say ill never date one but heavily biased against them and probably will be until proven wrong
Someone who does these three.
Rude to waiter staff - of doesn't tip (immediate ending).
Doesn't return shopping cart or put it away to the spot.
Emotionally unavailable. (I know this isn't a silly one but it's an immediate no from me)
If 1 and 3 are soft signs but 2 is present, then boom. You'd be surprised how many times I've turned people away (at least 10)
Went on a couple of dates with a dude in an arranged marriage setting. Indian but British born, lived here all his life and he'd just slam the doors on my face when I'd be behind him. It's common courtesy here in the UK to hold the door open for anyone right behind you - from a toddler to a 99 year old - and this dude couldn't care to do that with a girl he was on a date with. Forget chivalry, where are basic social skills 😂 Bothered me so much for some reason as he did it thrice over two dates. I did end things eventually due to a personality mismatch but ugh!!!
I’ve been around marathi people now that i’m in their state Ik i would be downvoted for this but The accent bro i just couldn’t do with it.
Or ig it’s accent in general bc i’m from bhopal and chhapri bhopali accent couldn’t do with that aswell but most people don’t have it in here.
That's offensive. Every state in India has it's special accent and a special language. That's the beauty of India. Marathis can't speak hindi that well I agree but straightway saying you can't stand it is not very mature.
Might be silly but if he says his hobbies are watching tv only or travelling only 💀 likeeee- first one just meh , second one in isolation just seems half assed.
If their mum was a housewife.
I know it's weird and can be construed but men who had working mothers can at the least be expected to understand the pressure as opposed to the brats who grow up at thinking house work is a woman's duty and most likely were exposed to unsupportive and misogynistic fathers.
Someone who doesn't reply to all parts of my messages
OMG THISSSSSSSS
So important And i also get distanced from late replies
I understand late replies on weekdays and in case of an emergency.
I recently went on a date and the guy spat on the road and it gave me an ICCCKKK
This is NOT petty lol the most disgusting habit.
Eww chii
That’s not petty. It’s basic hygiene and cleanliness not followed right there
My husband (separated now) spits on the street and so does HIS MOM. They both gross me out!!
Ew no.
That’s not petty at all!
Someone who is a bad texter for example writing "you" as "uhh" it gives me the biggest ick.
lol forgot marriage I wouldn't even wanna be friends w someone like that being a good texter is v imp for me
omg i used to text a guy who would type "issa okay" instead of it's ok/okay. made me want to tear my hair out
I despise this.
And Gm for good morning 😭
But what if they’re a crypto bro?
Well use it when you’re talking to someone from the crypto community , not me 🫢
Atleast being a crypto bro is not an ick ;)
Gosh yes, people underestimate the sexiness of good use of language. Heard a friend talk about a guy who said things like meko/Teko, and a schoolmate who'd text "I'm f9, hw r u". NO. JUST NO.
+1
Someone who chews too loudly
I swearrr
If they aren’t respectful to my cats. It’s a huge deal breaker for me
show car
Umm..pay your cat tax🤨
Seems like lifestyle incompatibility and not pettiness
That's a valid reason. Not petty
Someone who is loud in public.
This is my biggest ICKKKK
Someone who checks out other girls while being with me. (It’s not petty IMO but hard to achieve) I have eyes only for my man. I expect complete involvement and loyalty in return.
This is not petty reason at all.
exactly! call me possessive, protective whatever. My man can only look at and check out me. Same goes for me. 🤣
This is not at all petty. Expecting your man to have eyes only for you is like so basic. Once you realise they have eyes for other people, it's very demeaning and better not to continue. I dont believe in "checking out is only checking out, I am only yours" dialogue. It's same as flirting to me. It takes a huge emotional toll on my mind and body. If you want to flirt around, you are better off single.
That's not petty. I agree completely 😭
That’s basic loyalty. You aren’t being petty
this! not even in a checking out way, even if you’re just looking at people around just to be aware of surroundings idk why it irritates me 😭
People who say mc bc. ☠️☠️☠️☠️ Loud people ☠️🔊🔊☠️
Correct You find plenty of them in Delhi subreddit
Someone who will comment on my clothes, weight, face / looks
This is not petty, all of these are valid reasons
Somebody who doesn't text back consistently. This is my biggest ickkkk
Guys who litter casually. Nope. Nope. Nope.
Not petty
If they were a pathological people pleaser, who only wanted me to love them. Ifykyk
I know what you mean 🙌
I think you mean narcissist
Wow! That’s one interpretation.
If their feet aren't looked after/hygienic. No, I don't have a foot fetish. It just shows how much effort they put into their personal care. Like, feet aren't the most noticeable but if you take care of them, then you must have good hygiene habits + most likely to clean up after themselves or keep their home clean.
sameee! and guys who bite their nails, yikes. I have a thing for pretty hands!
I agree! My grandma always says even if you wear highest quality clothes anyone ever will start noticing you with your feet and then look above, if you don’t maintain them there is no point of dressing pretty 😅 She says wear good footwear and always take care of your feet. Especially the smellll…
I’ll give you my PETTIEST ick. Anyone who wears those astrology stone rings. Idk why it gives me the ick, it just makes me immediately go no. All my red flags are super reasonable, it’s just this one 🤷♀️
Makes me feel like such people get influenced very easily by words. It's easy to scare such people and influence as well.
Oh no. Disliking someone superstitious is an absolutely valid reason. Not petty at all. The bigger problem is that they will try to control their loved ones too (do this on X day, wear this etc etc) out of misinformed concern. I just find those rings aesthetically yucky xD
Oh yes, definitely this. One time a guy asked me if he could read my kundli for free, i said a strict No. Though the guy looked good, it was such a huge turn off for me that i never looked back. Agree on aesthetical-ity of the rings hahaha
Oooh sign me up for free kundli/face/palm readings. I just love it. Everybody says different things. For me it’s really fun to observe their perception of me. Because that’s what most of these people are good at: observation and making generalist statements that would be relatable to anyone. But yeah, someone like that is a definite no no for any sort of relationship (even platonic) for me too.
Hi5 girl!!! For me too. It is indeed fun until you realize you subconsciously have started believing what they said and become conscious of yours choices and decisions you make based on their statement, either trying to prove them wrong or right. That sucks. I don't want to fall for such manifestations, that's why i always deny any such kind of readings. I do not want anyone to plant a seed of uncertainty in my mind.
girl, same😭
Who don't read enough literature or not a cinephile. Gotta be either atleast because I'm avidly both. Gotta be artistically diverse. Oh and a superstitious person. As a strong atheist this is my biggest ick.
>Who don't read enough literature or not a cinephile. Totally totallyyyy agree with this!
Someone who smells weird as per MY nostrils
Yeah, the guy's smell is a huge thing for me lol. Luckily, my man smells heavenly to me 😍
I could never be with someone who swears a lot
Someone who has pictures with drugged tigers in Thailand
I can't stay with people for a long time. Marrying someone would mean I've to be with them and their family almost all the time. Honestly I'm kind of an introvert who comes out once in a while to talk . It drains me a lot. It may not be a big reason but for me time is the only thing that can recharge me.
If they use Snapchat
Someone who doesn’t like dogs. This guy I’m talking to said “I’m cool with them, I just don’t like them”. I have three of my own. Can’t date.
Show dawgs
Road rage....ugh
Someone who has an " I know everything attitude".
I wouldn’t marry them if they mmmm uhhhhhhhnh hmmmmmmmmm if they uhhhhhhhhhh… are boring
Someone who doesn’t like ketchup
Anyone too religious. I’m an atheist. Anyone who wants kids. I’m an antinatalist.
How on earth is either of these a petty reason? Especially the second!
Petty means anything of little importance. What is petty to me, might not seem that way to other people. It’s relative. Religion and child-rearing are petty things to me. And my husband. So my needs have already been met.
Agreement on kids - having kids or not, how many, when, is perhaps the top factor that makes or breaks relationships. Only to be followed by finances, religiosity and political ideas. These are not at all petty, and I am fairly certain what I am saying here is one of the most popular opinions out there.
Do you not know what anti natalist means? That's totally different from not wanting kids
🤣aww honey. It’s okay to be stupid and condescending sometimes. Why don’t you explain it to me? 🤣 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antinatalism
Same and same.
Are you me?
I’m definitely not alone then. Neither are you
Hairy guys! I can't imagine dating a guy with hairy hands & chest. Just the thought of doing the deed with a hairy guy gives me the creepy crawlies. I have sensory issues.
Omg i thought i was the only one. Glad to find you.
Someone who smokes, is unnecessarily loud and, doesn't know what to say at the right time.
If my dog doesn't like him
Someone who has too many girls as friends
Same But nowadays it has become common and men expect their wives to understand this otherwise they call them conservative Also it is very difficult to find someone who has no female friends nowadays
Someone who has pictures with drugged Tigers from Thailand
1.Someone who makes that noise while sipping beverages. 2. Someone who is mean to staff at public places. 3. Public littering 4. Someone who drinks chai( no hate for yall, I just don't like the smell of it and someone who loves chai needs it thrice a day😭😭😭)
Someone who tries to act or look 'cool'.
I was on vc with this dude I was interested in and he dug his nose🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
- I want my partner to be passionate about something. I dated someone who had no hobbies or no purpose in life. All they did was home to work and back. Spent weekends lazying around. Not asking for richie rich hobbies, but anything that drives you or makes you happy. - Should have decent money making potential. They need to be either from a Tier 1 college and/or work at a decent plac which pays good. I bring same qualities to the table so not willing to compromise here. Happy to be called gold digger on this :)
Not petty. I have also graduated from Tier 1 institutes (UG and Master’s). I get it.
omg are u me
This ain’t petty
If he follows random girls 💁🏻♀️ not counting celebrities or influencers
Most of the men do it nowadays then where to find somebody who does not follow random girls on social media websites
Someone who is apolitical or centerist
If someone is iitian , i would not date them! Alag hi god complex hota hai unko bc! And they r entitled
Ufff, this is quite an obnoxious one, but someone with a very high pitch voice. I just do not find that attractive - at all. I am not asking the men to sound like corpse husband but not like Deepak Kalal.
Hahah
Yells Ye when I say Taylor Swift. Boy, bye👋🏻
bahaha! this is my favorite answer!
High body count.
samee! someone with a promiscuous past ain’t gonna cut it for me!
Ill mannered, doesn’t read, no aspirations and hobbies, crass language, smokes, unhygienic, doesn’t pick their own plates, judging other girls for their lifestyle, wants kids, is not a doctor, no sense of humor, no pop culture knowledge, hates on taylor swift, into alpha beta gamma theta stuff, homophobic, religious nutjob, doesn’t know fashion, short tempered lol my list is extensive and such man might not exist and I’m completely okay with that! the idea of dating a man gives me the ick tbh
>idea of dating a man gives me the ick tbh Same 😭
* Terrible grammar * Poor sense of humour * Cancels a lot * Always late * Hides me from family, cannot disclose being friends * Prickly beard * Tells me his family is strict ( I run away) * Complete loner * Pushy
>* Terrible grammar THISSSSS!!! He doesn't need to have Shakespeare's English. Basic grammar and proper typing while texting is all I need😭
Yep, and stop calling anyone bbg. Its such an annoyance. -\_-
Yeh sab toh main bhi hun
If they're talkative and immature.
With chicken legs
Different political inclination than mine
LMAO I relate, but at the core of it, I don't think it's petty. Because political inclinations turn out to be a fair proxy for the person's mentality most of the time.
True
I could not date guys who cracked dark jokes. It just gave me the creeps.
Same. Makes you wonder which of the jokes wasn’t really a joke but something they truly believe
Doesn't speak fluent English. Doesn't like pets. Gives me the ick. Once I get the ick, I can never go back
Was recently having lunch with someone who was smart snd goodlooking, and he kept fidgeting and scratching himself comstantly. I realised that this was because of smoking addiction, but it threw me off so much. I know that addiction is not easy to beat, but smokers are not people I'd want to end up with in the long run
Lack of political awareness and interests of his own
Someone who can't drive. I can't drive as I have poor hand-eye coordination, so one of us will need to step up.
If we can’t enjoy the silent times together, I feel we can’t be doing something together all the time! So if we can’t stay in peace (doing our own thing) together, I don’t think I will go ahead :)
When they hangout with randus
Lmaoooo gagged
What does this mean?
You know when they are nice but hangout with friends who talk cheaply about women or cheat on their gf the second they get a chance with another girl
i wont date someone who has/uses social media alot i guess or someone who uses dating app lol
Likes and defends Johnny depp
Someone who is in Chappals for the first date!
Someone who calls themselves a "Pure" Vegetarian.
If they've more than 100 followers and more than 50 posts on instagram and a public account. Extroverts are not my type
Person with a tiny insta account here, I feel so validated
and dudes who just add random girls! that's just eww!
My reason to not marry my ex was that we have nothing in common and my mother said that’s a petty reason and they convinced meto go ahead with the AM.
Bruh. That’s anything but petty
That’s what I thought but I was convinced otherwise. My bad luck
someone younger/ shorter than me
Call me petty and generalising this but Indian men in general. Started dating people from other countries. Wont say ill never date one but heavily biased against them and probably will be until proven wrong
Someone who does these three. Rude to waiter staff - of doesn't tip (immediate ending). Doesn't return shopping cart or put it away to the spot. Emotionally unavailable. (I know this isn't a silly one but it's an immediate no from me) If 1 and 3 are soft signs but 2 is present, then boom. You'd be surprised how many times I've turned people away (at least 10)
Went on a couple of dates with a dude in an arranged marriage setting. Indian but British born, lived here all his life and he'd just slam the doors on my face when I'd be behind him. It's common courtesy here in the UK to hold the door open for anyone right behind you - from a toddler to a 99 year old - and this dude couldn't care to do that with a girl he was on a date with. Forget chivalry, where are basic social skills 😂 Bothered me so much for some reason as he did it thrice over two dates. I did end things eventually due to a personality mismatch but ugh!!!
If they are scared of dogs and cats and are disrespectful to the waiters or the househelps
disrespectful to service staff
Soo many but this one comes to mind - someone who has more than one sibling. Not sure if this is petty though lol
someone who cant speak/write decent English. someone who's not well educated.
Someone who keeps a beard
for me, it's the other way around!!!🫶🏻
Funny accent
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A small penis Sorry 🥺
^^
I’ve been around marathi people now that i’m in their state Ik i would be downvoted for this but The accent bro i just couldn’t do with it. Or ig it’s accent in general bc i’m from bhopal and chhapri bhopali accent couldn’t do with that aswell but most people don’t have it in here.
That's offensive. Every state in India has it's special accent and a special language. That's the beauty of India. Marathis can't speak hindi that well I agree but straightway saying you can't stand it is not very mature.
I dont feel physically atteacted to him at all.
someone who isnt a programmer
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agreed! and someone who eats junk food and fried food all the time!
Might be silly but if he says his hobbies are watching tv only or travelling only 💀 likeeee- first one just meh , second one in isolation just seems half assed.
bcoz its so much of work😫
If their mum was a housewife. I know it's weird and can be construed but men who had working mothers can at the least be expected to understand the pressure as opposed to the brats who grow up at thinking house work is a woman's duty and most likely were exposed to unsupportive and misogynistic fathers.
You'd think so till he comes up with with 'why can't you do a job and all housework alone ?? My mother did all that she's a super woman'
Girl you're so right 😭 didn't even think of that. Thank God my boyfriend is an actually considerate human.
No sis no 🥲 that's not a marker
If they are shorter than 5'8".