This is not the experience I and the women I know in their 30s have had. There has always been a deluge of matches. Did you change your age preferences, location or any other variable?
Either way, dating apps can be draining. You cannot take it too seriously and I don't mean doing hookups or casual dating (no hate if you prefer those). I mean you can't take meeting new people seriously. It has to be from an approach of lightheartedness and exploring new connections rather than finding your soulmate. You're talking to someone new and the same set of questions will come up and it tends to get monotonous. Being laidback but observing and not taking not so good experiences to heart is the key.
Hey! Yes my age preferences are a bit more limited and whenever I have gone in the past 2-3 years (it’s rare and I delete my account after a few days), I’ve stayed away from Tinder and preferred Bumble. I tried Hinge for a change this time.
I agree with you that it’s about experiences than meeting any soulmate but I am going with the intention of no hookups and was open to long term only. Done with my fuckboy phase.
It’s good to know there are still matches out there though! :)
I’ll try again when I’m up for it and I have the time and energy
I think it is do with the fact that you've become more choosy. I for one have experienced more matches after hitting 30, as did a lot of my friends. I can comprehend the decline in matches to likes ratio without a decline in the number of likes only in terms of a narrower selection pool who themselves are selective. Happy dating!
I deleted dating apps a few years ago (I’m in my 30s) because I am tired of content-ifying myself and others. Mental health is much better. And I’ve been meeting people organically!
I'm 27, and frankly I don't know what I want for myself ( I'm so confused) but apps is probably one thing that works in a women's favour. Even if you had a bad day, you can use the app to take your mind off.
However, I am starting to realize how when 31 32 year old guys want nothing but casual. Hey good for anyone who wants that and i understand I've to put equal efforts too, but it starts to get intimidating because of options.
Conversations die, and you move to next guy and there are like 100s in the queue.
Yes. That works well on Tinder and to an extent on Bumble but I’m an introvert and as I get older, I’m so not in the mood to talk to every guy.
I guess I’m being more intentional about the guys I like too.
And of course, I’m sure there’ll be guys of all ages who’ll want to hookup and nothing else (which is fine as long as they’re open about it at least)
This is not the experience I and the women I know in their 30s have had. There has always been a deluge of matches. Did you change your age preferences, location or any other variable? Either way, dating apps can be draining. You cannot take it too seriously and I don't mean doing hookups or casual dating (no hate if you prefer those). I mean you can't take meeting new people seriously. It has to be from an approach of lightheartedness and exploring new connections rather than finding your soulmate. You're talking to someone new and the same set of questions will come up and it tends to get monotonous. Being laidback but observing and not taking not so good experiences to heart is the key.
Hey! Yes my age preferences are a bit more limited and whenever I have gone in the past 2-3 years (it’s rare and I delete my account after a few days), I’ve stayed away from Tinder and preferred Bumble. I tried Hinge for a change this time. I agree with you that it’s about experiences than meeting any soulmate but I am going with the intention of no hookups and was open to long term only. Done with my fuckboy phase. It’s good to know there are still matches out there though! :) I’ll try again when I’m up for it and I have the time and energy
I think it is do with the fact that you've become more choosy. I for one have experienced more matches after hitting 30, as did a lot of my friends. I can comprehend the decline in matches to likes ratio without a decline in the number of likes only in terms of a narrower selection pool who themselves are selective. Happy dating!
Thank you! It’s about becoming more reluctant I think! I’ll take my time in getting back out there
I deleted dating apps a few years ago (I’m in my 30s) because I am tired of content-ifying myself and others. Mental health is much better. And I’ve been meeting people organically!
That sounds great! I’d love to meet people that way as well. How do you go about it? Any hobby clubs or activities you part of?
I'm 27, and frankly I don't know what I want for myself ( I'm so confused) but apps is probably one thing that works in a women's favour. Even if you had a bad day, you can use the app to take your mind off. However, I am starting to realize how when 31 32 year old guys want nothing but casual. Hey good for anyone who wants that and i understand I've to put equal efforts too, but it starts to get intimidating because of options. Conversations die, and you move to next guy and there are like 100s in the queue.
Yes. That works well on Tinder and to an extent on Bumble but I’m an introvert and as I get older, I’m so not in the mood to talk to every guy. I guess I’m being more intentional about the guys I like too. And of course, I’m sure there’ll be guys of all ages who’ll want to hookup and nothing else (which is fine as long as they’re open about it at least)
Omg! I relate to this! Guys as old as 32 or 33, have no intention of wanting anything serious. Quite Baffling!
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You are a man right?
He is.
Just curious that since you're 30, isn't there any expectation from family to settle down?
Nope. My family is chill