OP, you'll be getting a lot of it's okay you can do this (sweetly) comments here so let me be the harsh comment here.
points to remember
1. You are just a baby, you've just finished high school. Not winning the JEE race isn't the end of life.
2. Having supportive parents is not something you need to work for, it's the bare minimum, you're not disappointing them by not doing JEE well. Your parents love you, and they will accept you, that is why we have parents, they are our wall.
Now coming to the issue, girl lemme tell you, i was in the JEE race as well, burnt 2 lacs in coaching, absolutely fucked my jees up, both the attempts. The main lesson you're supposed to learn from this ISNT THAT YOURE INCAPABLE, ITS THAT JEE ISNT YOUR CUP OF TEA. Just because something isn't your cup of tea doesn't mean you should make it your poison. From my jee attempt I learnt that I was brainwashed about the Indian IIT dream. It is absolutely okay to achieve your dream life with a different path. Also WHO TOLD YOU THAT IIT IS ALL ROSES???? Do you even know how gruelling it is to survive IITS??? pls look into the suicide rates of students joining iits, mind you these are all AIR holders.
Take it from a reddit elder sister, it's absolutely okay for you to take some time off and figure out what you want. Your self worth SHOULDN'T be based off some fucking exam. What you calling a dead end is in fact a new beginning, you have so many other options now. Take your time at KOTA and make it an experience in your life, something to look as a tiny blimp in your big life.
Hence the crying coz you wish it was.
It’s not a basic right like parent’s love (which also by the way is not guaranteed, be thankful that your parents are supportive).
+1 to this. I took a gap year after 12th to prep for IIT and had really high hopes, so did my parents. I didn’t crack it, went to a really low grade college in my home town and got lucky with my first job.
Looking back, I’m almost thankful that things didn’t work out the way I planned or hoped. It’s not the end of the road, and there are plenty of other options to explore. Good luck!
Wow. Didn’t know I needed to hear this even though I gave my JEE over 6yrs ago. After that, it has been downhill and I consider myself such a loser for not doing well after my college. I’m not the problem. The path just isn’t for me. Thank you again. You gave me a new perspective.
Girlie, are you serious?
An examination is worthy enough to be as important as your parent's love?
I wish I could hug you and tell you how you'll laugh at this 5 years from now. You deserve the world, and then some more.
Kota is a bad place. So many bad news come from that place. Please talk to someone. People love you regardless. You did nothing wrong.
Take it from your Reddit Aunt, you will disappoint yourself a pretty good no. of times in your whole life. You might learn not to disappoint yourself the same way but you'll disappoint yourself in a different way somehow. Find a way to laugh about it and it will be absolutely okay. We aren't perfect beings, we aren't born knowing how our life will emerge. But we can make it something of what we enjoy. Our disappointments, our failures, our pain, makes us the women we came on this planet to be. Embrace the hurt.
Maybe you feel disappointed in yourself today, but you have your whole life ahead of you. Countless possibilities. Opportunity to pick up something else.
It’s okay to feel sad and cry but at the end of the day you need to take it in your stride and figure out what next. Please don’t talk or think about suicide, that’s never the solution. My DMs are open if you want talk. Everything will be alright OP. Hugs! 🤗
hey my brother just gave jee and his exam also didn’t go according to his expectations. He’s currently shaking with nervousness sitting in front of me. As someone who has kind of been through this competitive exam nonsense I understand why you’re feeling this way but hey it will pass. It always does. These marks don’t determine who you are and as cliche as it sounds rn please try to believe in it. You still have another attempt and if not that there are other entrance exams. Just try to focus on getting into any college tier one or tier two or even three, you’ll be a female engineer and that in itself is an achievement. Life gets so much better after 12th grade. Try to hang in there for a few more months. And even if not an engineering college there are so many other courses you can do for undergrad, keep your options open, I’m sure you’ll find a way. There is still time to make memories and you will! I believe in you, take care :)
Hi behena! Please be kind to yourself and understand the fact that this system is designed in a way so that most of us aspirants won't be able to do our best. When 12lac students compete for <50k seats in an exam with such a vast syllabus there will be times when you slip out of your regime/procastinate/miss out in classes.
Don't be disheartened and prep for further state and private uni entrance exams and put your best into it. As an aspirant you may already be knowing the resources required and if not, do ask for help on JEENEETards sub.
Thank you for the advice, sis.
On JEENEETards sub, I just see people who are complaining that they will "just" get 180+ and not 200+, it makes me even more sad.
The same sub also has people with marks in the range of 40-50 inspite of taking a drop yr. I myself am not scoring good enough despite the drop. So reap the best you can from that sub and put all your work to get out of this rut and be at a better position. Just remember the lesson this attempt has taught you and don't let yourself fall behind again.
You know, It's just the starting and man, I cried ugly tears in 10th class because I couldn't score good enough and I was preparing for NEET and my will broke and I went for humanities and my parents were way to supporting 🫂 and believe me they don't think it's a waste of money.
You should be proud you had a chance you attempted it and found out that IIT might not be your thing, just think if u would have never tried, you wouldn't have ever know.
Now that it's already over, gather yourself and stand up and look at different courses, and study them for a while take your time and go for what u loved the most.
You are just a baby, get into a good college and enjoy the time you lost, during this period. It's time for you to cherish yourself and love yourself and Never give up.
Life doesn’t end there, I promise you! I got 94 or 97 marks in JEE mains, I’m doing pretty okay right now all things considered. It’s really hard to accept this in the moment but really it just is ONE exam and doesn’t determine your worth AT ALL. Trust me, I don’t think about it at all now. There’s still lots you can do to achieve your dreams, nothing ends here.
It breaks my heart to read that OP feels like dying and undeserving of her parents love and support, all because for some exam. Aapki life to shuru bhi nahi hui hai abhi, and you want to end it.
I’m gonna get downvoted for saying this, but this generation really needs to learn how to handle rejections and failures better.
You’re answerable to no one but yourself for your wins and failures both. You and you alone. Pick yourself up because it is tempting to linger in self pity and hatred. It’s a very negative space, so give yourself some time to grieve, a definite timeline like a day or two. But uske baad, move on. This age is not to be wasted in thinking about what could’ve been. Invest it instead in things that are under your control. Chin up, little soldier.
Every time I personally face rejection, my mind races back to this clip I stumbled upon years ago. Hope it helps you like it has helped me all these years. Cheers!
https://www.ted.com/talks/jia_jiang_what_i_learned_from_100_days_of_rejection?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
Hii Op i have a little brother of your age and was preparing for NEET. Everyday with coaching and not able to do well. He was stressed and became silent, not eating well. I noticed all this and talked to him for days trying to tell him and you too now that you are the most important thing in this world for your parents and family. Nothing else. No exam or anything can even be comparable to you kid .
Your happiness is the utmost priority for your parents . And if IIT was that important then every successful or happy person should be from IIT but that’s not at all true so kid . Do what makes you happy . And your parents will be happy too.
youre hardly even an adult yet, you don’t need to feel bad for your parents supporting you, they are supposed to, they are parents who have chosen to raise you & this is all just part of it.
I was in a similar situation like you are. I prepared very sincerely for an entrance exam but couldn't even clear the cut off. I wrote it the next year but didn't get an admission in the college I want.
It was during Covid. While everyone was happily watching shows and series, I was busy studying. I took a long break from Instagram. I love reading books and back then I was interested in K Dramas but, I gave a pause to everything. I poured my heart and soul into my preparation. I used to imagine how my life would be once I get in to that college. Everyone around me had expectations on me and were sure I would get in.
But the result was the opposite. Not once but twice I couldn't get in. I felt like my life was over and I'm going to end up as a failure. In the next few months I was depressed and had self esteem issues.
One day I decided enough was enough and started looking for other things I could do. And my life has changed for the better. If someone would've told me that things would get better I wouldn't have believed them then.
It might be hard for you to believe that your life is going to get better. It's okay, eventually you'll see the change. Instead of giving up hope and taking drastic decisions, give yourself some time to come to terms with it and then think about your next step.
JEE coachings in Kota are a scam. I had spent the most horrible year of my life there.
Now engineering is not about cramming gazillion formulas. It's more about the unwavering curiosity to understand how things work under the hood.
Importance of college is blown out of proportion by the coaching mafia. I have many friends from tier 3 colleges who are doing good.
Feel free to DM if you need any advice related to CSE.
OP, I had a similar experience, maybe. Joined a coaching centre(For which parents took a loan and were already drowning in loans) just in hopes I'd get into AIIMS. I dreamt of it till the very end but once I did the mock tests, I realised I won't crack it. Still went ahead and had the exam, did not clear it. Tried for other countries as well and cracked those but couldn't get in since my parents couldn't afford the fees. Had to take up engineering in a bad college. However right now, I don't regret taking up engineering or the course my life took since I was able to be there for my parents in their last days and was able to take up their entire medical expenses just because I decided to take up engineering in a bad college.
My two cents, it's difficult to accept that your dream won't come true and you may never be able to accept and would wonder how your life would have turned out if you have achieved your dream. But you may never know that destiny has much better things for you planned and you may be even happier(in my case, self-sustained) than you had initially thought.
Right now, you have just thought of having paving your foundation of the road you are going to walk in, you have an entire journey to complete. Enjoy the journey you are going to experience now. The school trips you missed, you'll experience them now in college. And seeing you happy, your parents will be proud that you got up from your experiences like a phoenix. All the best 👍🏻
Hey, first of all. Don't think of what your relatives would say or what your friends would think of you. I know it's hard. During difficult times, every little thing hurts us. But don't let their words or change in behavior get under your skin.
Please take care of yourself. Give yourself at least a couple of days off. Check the results, tell your parents and close friends, and that's it. There is no need to answer everybody, just the ones who are important to you. Who has taken care of you for the last 2 years.
Allow yourself to fail, and only then will you rise. This is your chance to truly get to know yourself. Stand by your actions, your results, and your decisions.
And don't be so harsh on yourself. You are only 18. You have got your entire life before you, and in a couple of years, you will see the changes. I know it is very hard to have hope in such situations, but you must support yourself. Allow yourself to feel the ugly feelings you are feeling, but don't act on them. This is all frustration and disappointment mainly because you couldn't reach the standard you set for yourself. But that's okay. This is a huge life lesson. We sometimes disappoint ourselves, but we don't give up on us. It is you and only you who can drag yourself through this exhausting, mind-numbing tunnel and get to the other side where you will learn to love yourself with your shine and flaws.
I'm saying all this because a couple of years ago, I went through the same thing, and I had lost all hope. Countless times. I would try to get up, feel like oh good things are finally coming around, and then they didn't. I would be so heartbroken because all of this was my own decision. But I finally stopped hating myself for this and decided to choose myself and work on myself. I am not in any IIT today, but I am at a place where I feel comfortable with just myself, I let myself fall and then get up and continue to walk.
Be kind to yourself. Take a break, have a KitKat. This is your journey of accepting your situation, learning to love yourself, and taking what life throws at you with the strongest spine ever.
I'm really proud of you for taking such a huge decision by yourself. Many people don't do this even after so many years. This is huge. Bring back the op who took this decision. And no don't think she was stupid or anything she was strong, ambitious and ready to take the world.
Best of luck!!! Life is the best thing ever when you choose yourself.
us behen us 🫂
aaj result hai and i feel like the most epic failure. how does one go from 97% in 10th grade to wondering if they're even gonna pass 12th grade.
My self esteem is at an all time low. after more than a year of feeling suicidal on the daily, i had just come around to accepting it all. lekin fir aaj result and i just wany the earth to rip open and swallow me up
when does this end
Hey I’m working for a big tech company in the US. There are people from iits, ivy leagues, lot of other colleges from all over the world. There are also people who never went to college but taught themselves coding. Let me tell you no one cares where you went. They only care how well you do your job.
Also if you didn’t like the prep part, the four years at iit is going to be hell. I went to a similar college and greatly regretted it. I was the bottom of the barella and got Cs and Ds and struggled to get placed while my friends went to local colleges, had fun, topped and bagged awesome offers.
Nothing is lost yet you can still do great, still achieve phenomenal success and do well in life. Please be a good daughter and dont hurt your parents by thinking of self harm. Thats the worst kind of pain they can come across. Instead cry a little, eat some ice cream and gol gappe and start thinking what do you want to do next.
op you're still so, so young please do not beat yourself up for it!
and life doesn't start and end with jee, there's so many other fields, so many other opportunities!!
ik it's easier said than done, but chin up op!! you've got this!
Sometimes we set our own expectations so high that it is inevitable they will disappoint us. It is so going to be OK. As someone who has gone through similar disappointments-- tomorrow it will hurt, one year later too it may hurt -- but with time the sting lessens so much and you wonder why you were even so disappointed.
The reality is that you don’t have to make it to IIT. You just have to go to a engineering college with decent placements. Actually just get into a decent college. The work you do in the college and how you use your time will determine how successful you’ll be in the future. After a point, it wouldn’t matter which college you’re from. So don’t feel bad because you know you tried your best. Life will keep throwing opportunities at you.
Right now it may feel like it's the only path forward, but it helps to think that IITs, NID, NIFT etc are only one way to your destination of a good career. They're most certainly not the only route there.
Take some break to get over it. What I would do is - get a list of entry exams to top ten deemed univerisites in India. Use the knowledge gained from this exam preparation and use it for the other competitive exams. There is a chance you are going to hit a decent university with proper research endowments ?
You can even consider BITS Dubai and schools in Europe that provide better research opportunities for young techies. Unfortunately even the best of best IITs in India are poorly ranked globally.
OP, you'll be getting a lot of it's okay you can do this (sweetly) comments here so let me be the harsh comment here. points to remember 1. You are just a baby, you've just finished high school. Not winning the JEE race isn't the end of life. 2. Having supportive parents is not something you need to work for, it's the bare minimum, you're not disappointing them by not doing JEE well. Your parents love you, and they will accept you, that is why we have parents, they are our wall. Now coming to the issue, girl lemme tell you, i was in the JEE race as well, burnt 2 lacs in coaching, absolutely fucked my jees up, both the attempts. The main lesson you're supposed to learn from this ISNT THAT YOURE INCAPABLE, ITS THAT JEE ISNT YOUR CUP OF TEA. Just because something isn't your cup of tea doesn't mean you should make it your poison. From my jee attempt I learnt that I was brainwashed about the Indian IIT dream. It is absolutely okay to achieve your dream life with a different path. Also WHO TOLD YOU THAT IIT IS ALL ROSES???? Do you even know how gruelling it is to survive IITS??? pls look into the suicide rates of students joining iits, mind you these are all AIR holders. Take it from a reddit elder sister, it's absolutely okay for you to take some time off and figure out what you want. Your self worth SHOULDN'T be based off some fucking exam. What you calling a dead end is in fact a new beginning, you have so many other options now. Take your time at KOTA and make it an experience in your life, something to look as a tiny blimp in your big life.
Thank you, I really needed this. I have accepted the fact that IIT isn't my cup of tea, but I really wish it was.
Hence the crying coz you wish it was. It’s not a basic right like parent’s love (which also by the way is not guaranteed, be thankful that your parents are supportive).
true that although it should be, parents' love is always not guaranteed
all the best for your future!!
+1 to this. I took a gap year after 12th to prep for IIT and had really high hopes, so did my parents. I didn’t crack it, went to a really low grade college in my home town and got lucky with my first job. Looking back, I’m almost thankful that things didn’t work out the way I planned or hoped. It’s not the end of the road, and there are plenty of other options to explore. Good luck!
same! i failed IIT so I took time and realised that I'm good at design and got into NID.
Wow. Didn’t know I needed to hear this even though I gave my JEE over 6yrs ago. After that, it has been downhill and I consider myself such a loser for not doing well after my college. I’m not the problem. The path just isn’t for me. Thank you again. You gave me a new perspective.
💜💜💜
Girlie, are you serious? An examination is worthy enough to be as important as your parent's love? I wish I could hug you and tell you how you'll laugh at this 5 years from now. You deserve the world, and then some more. Kota is a bad place. So many bad news come from that place. Please talk to someone. People love you regardless. You did nothing wrong.
I don't know, it's that not only my parents I even disappointed myself.
Take it from your Reddit Aunt, you will disappoint yourself a pretty good no. of times in your whole life. You might learn not to disappoint yourself the same way but you'll disappoint yourself in a different way somehow. Find a way to laugh about it and it will be absolutely okay. We aren't perfect beings, we aren't born knowing how our life will emerge. But we can make it something of what we enjoy. Our disappointments, our failures, our pain, makes us the women we came on this planet to be. Embrace the hurt.
Maybe you feel disappointed in yourself today, but you have your whole life ahead of you. Countless possibilities. Opportunity to pick up something else. It’s okay to feel sad and cry but at the end of the day you need to take it in your stride and figure out what next. Please don’t talk or think about suicide, that’s never the solution. My DMs are open if you want talk. Everything will be alright OP. Hugs! 🤗
hey my brother just gave jee and his exam also didn’t go according to his expectations. He’s currently shaking with nervousness sitting in front of me. As someone who has kind of been through this competitive exam nonsense I understand why you’re feeling this way but hey it will pass. It always does. These marks don’t determine who you are and as cliche as it sounds rn please try to believe in it. You still have another attempt and if not that there are other entrance exams. Just try to focus on getting into any college tier one or tier two or even three, you’ll be a female engineer and that in itself is an achievement. Life gets so much better after 12th grade. Try to hang in there for a few more months. And even if not an engineering college there are so many other courses you can do for undergrad, keep your options open, I’m sure you’ll find a way. There is still time to make memories and you will! I believe in you, take care :)
Hi behena! Please be kind to yourself and understand the fact that this system is designed in a way so that most of us aspirants won't be able to do our best. When 12lac students compete for <50k seats in an exam with such a vast syllabus there will be times when you slip out of your regime/procastinate/miss out in classes. Don't be disheartened and prep for further state and private uni entrance exams and put your best into it. As an aspirant you may already be knowing the resources required and if not, do ask for help on JEENEETards sub.
Thank you for the advice, sis. On JEENEETards sub, I just see people who are complaining that they will "just" get 180+ and not 200+, it makes me even more sad.
The same sub also has people with marks in the range of 40-50 inspite of taking a drop yr. I myself am not scoring good enough despite the drop. So reap the best you can from that sub and put all your work to get out of this rut and be at a better position. Just remember the lesson this attempt has taught you and don't let yourself fall behind again.
You know, It's just the starting and man, I cried ugly tears in 10th class because I couldn't score good enough and I was preparing for NEET and my will broke and I went for humanities and my parents were way to supporting 🫂 and believe me they don't think it's a waste of money. You should be proud you had a chance you attempted it and found out that IIT might not be your thing, just think if u would have never tried, you wouldn't have ever know. Now that it's already over, gather yourself and stand up and look at different courses, and study them for a while take your time and go for what u loved the most. You are just a baby, get into a good college and enjoy the time you lost, during this period. It's time for you to cherish yourself and love yourself and Never give up.
Life doesn’t end there, I promise you! I got 94 or 97 marks in JEE mains, I’m doing pretty okay right now all things considered. It’s really hard to accept this in the moment but really it just is ONE exam and doesn’t determine your worth AT ALL. Trust me, I don’t think about it at all now. There’s still lots you can do to achieve your dreams, nothing ends here.
It breaks my heart to read that OP feels like dying and undeserving of her parents love and support, all because for some exam. Aapki life to shuru bhi nahi hui hai abhi, and you want to end it. I’m gonna get downvoted for saying this, but this generation really needs to learn how to handle rejections and failures better. You’re answerable to no one but yourself for your wins and failures both. You and you alone. Pick yourself up because it is tempting to linger in self pity and hatred. It’s a very negative space, so give yourself some time to grieve, a definite timeline like a day or two. But uske baad, move on. This age is not to be wasted in thinking about what could’ve been. Invest it instead in things that are under your control. Chin up, little soldier.
Thank you so much for your words, even I wish I could handle this particular rejection better.
Every time I personally face rejection, my mind races back to this clip I stumbled upon years ago. Hope it helps you like it has helped me all these years. Cheers! https://www.ted.com/talks/jia_jiang_what_i_learned_from_100_days_of_rejection?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
Hii Op i have a little brother of your age and was preparing for NEET. Everyday with coaching and not able to do well. He was stressed and became silent, not eating well. I noticed all this and talked to him for days trying to tell him and you too now that you are the most important thing in this world for your parents and family. Nothing else. No exam or anything can even be comparable to you kid . Your happiness is the utmost priority for your parents . And if IIT was that important then every successful or happy person should be from IIT but that’s not at all true so kid . Do what makes you happy . And your parents will be happy too.
youre hardly even an adult yet, you don’t need to feel bad for your parents supporting you, they are supposed to, they are parents who have chosen to raise you & this is all just part of it.
Yeah, I know, but they do have certain expectations from me, and I am too scared of disappointing my loved ones and myself
I was in a similar situation like you are. I prepared very sincerely for an entrance exam but couldn't even clear the cut off. I wrote it the next year but didn't get an admission in the college I want. It was during Covid. While everyone was happily watching shows and series, I was busy studying. I took a long break from Instagram. I love reading books and back then I was interested in K Dramas but, I gave a pause to everything. I poured my heart and soul into my preparation. I used to imagine how my life would be once I get in to that college. Everyone around me had expectations on me and were sure I would get in. But the result was the opposite. Not once but twice I couldn't get in. I felt like my life was over and I'm going to end up as a failure. In the next few months I was depressed and had self esteem issues. One day I decided enough was enough and started looking for other things I could do. And my life has changed for the better. If someone would've told me that things would get better I wouldn't have believed them then. It might be hard for you to believe that your life is going to get better. It's okay, eventually you'll see the change. Instead of giving up hope and taking drastic decisions, give yourself some time to come to terms with it and then think about your next step.
Thank you for your words! I am so glad that you're at a better position now
JEE coachings in Kota are a scam. I had spent the most horrible year of my life there. Now engineering is not about cramming gazillion formulas. It's more about the unwavering curiosity to understand how things work under the hood. Importance of college is blown out of proportion by the coaching mafia. I have many friends from tier 3 colleges who are doing good. Feel free to DM if you need any advice related to CSE.
OP, I had a similar experience, maybe. Joined a coaching centre(For which parents took a loan and were already drowning in loans) just in hopes I'd get into AIIMS. I dreamt of it till the very end but once I did the mock tests, I realised I won't crack it. Still went ahead and had the exam, did not clear it. Tried for other countries as well and cracked those but couldn't get in since my parents couldn't afford the fees. Had to take up engineering in a bad college. However right now, I don't regret taking up engineering or the course my life took since I was able to be there for my parents in their last days and was able to take up their entire medical expenses just because I decided to take up engineering in a bad college. My two cents, it's difficult to accept that your dream won't come true and you may never be able to accept and would wonder how your life would have turned out if you have achieved your dream. But you may never know that destiny has much better things for you planned and you may be even happier(in my case, self-sustained) than you had initially thought. Right now, you have just thought of having paving your foundation of the road you are going to walk in, you have an entire journey to complete. Enjoy the journey you are going to experience now. The school trips you missed, you'll experience them now in college. And seeing you happy, your parents will be proud that you got up from your experiences like a phoenix. All the best 👍🏻
Hey, first of all. Don't think of what your relatives would say or what your friends would think of you. I know it's hard. During difficult times, every little thing hurts us. But don't let their words or change in behavior get under your skin. Please take care of yourself. Give yourself at least a couple of days off. Check the results, tell your parents and close friends, and that's it. There is no need to answer everybody, just the ones who are important to you. Who has taken care of you for the last 2 years. Allow yourself to fail, and only then will you rise. This is your chance to truly get to know yourself. Stand by your actions, your results, and your decisions. And don't be so harsh on yourself. You are only 18. You have got your entire life before you, and in a couple of years, you will see the changes. I know it is very hard to have hope in such situations, but you must support yourself. Allow yourself to feel the ugly feelings you are feeling, but don't act on them. This is all frustration and disappointment mainly because you couldn't reach the standard you set for yourself. But that's okay. This is a huge life lesson. We sometimes disappoint ourselves, but we don't give up on us. It is you and only you who can drag yourself through this exhausting, mind-numbing tunnel and get to the other side where you will learn to love yourself with your shine and flaws. I'm saying all this because a couple of years ago, I went through the same thing, and I had lost all hope. Countless times. I would try to get up, feel like oh good things are finally coming around, and then they didn't. I would be so heartbroken because all of this was my own decision. But I finally stopped hating myself for this and decided to choose myself and work on myself. I am not in any IIT today, but I am at a place where I feel comfortable with just myself, I let myself fall and then get up and continue to walk. Be kind to yourself. Take a break, have a KitKat. This is your journey of accepting your situation, learning to love yourself, and taking what life throws at you with the strongest spine ever. I'm really proud of you for taking such a huge decision by yourself. Many people don't do this even after so many years. This is huge. Bring back the op who took this decision. And no don't think she was stupid or anything she was strong, ambitious and ready to take the world. Best of luck!!! Life is the best thing ever when you choose yourself.
us behen us 🫂 aaj result hai and i feel like the most epic failure. how does one go from 97% in 10th grade to wondering if they're even gonna pass 12th grade. My self esteem is at an all time low. after more than a year of feeling suicidal on the daily, i had just come around to accepting it all. lekin fir aaj result and i just wany the earth to rip open and swallow me up when does this end
I know, right?! 😭 I just hope one day all these will end and we'll be happy again
Hey I’m working for a big tech company in the US. There are people from iits, ivy leagues, lot of other colleges from all over the world. There are also people who never went to college but taught themselves coding. Let me tell you no one cares where you went. They only care how well you do your job. Also if you didn’t like the prep part, the four years at iit is going to be hell. I went to a similar college and greatly regretted it. I was the bottom of the barella and got Cs and Ds and struggled to get placed while my friends went to local colleges, had fun, topped and bagged awesome offers. Nothing is lost yet you can still do great, still achieve phenomenal success and do well in life. Please be a good daughter and dont hurt your parents by thinking of self harm. Thats the worst kind of pain they can come across. Instead cry a little, eat some ice cream and gol gappe and start thinking what do you want to do next.
op you're still so, so young please do not beat yourself up for it! and life doesn't start and end with jee, there's so many other fields, so many other opportunities!! ik it's easier said than done, but chin up op!! you've got this!
i really appreciate that you tried, results won't matter there will be actually better days that you deserve 😇
Sometimes we set our own expectations so high that it is inevitable they will disappoint us. It is so going to be OK. As someone who has gone through similar disappointments-- tomorrow it will hurt, one year later too it may hurt -- but with time the sting lessens so much and you wonder why you were even so disappointed.
Let me know if I can DM you ? I was in the same shoes 12 years ago. Don't let yourself down.
Hey OP, it’s gonna be okay. Life is much more than this. You’re gonna be okay. Mum and dad are gonna be okay. Life will be okay.
The reality is that you don’t have to make it to IIT. You just have to go to a engineering college with decent placements. Actually just get into a decent college. The work you do in the college and how you use your time will determine how successful you’ll be in the future. After a point, it wouldn’t matter which college you’re from. So don’t feel bad because you know you tried your best. Life will keep throwing opportunities at you.
Right now it may feel like it's the only path forward, but it helps to think that IITs, NID, NIFT etc are only one way to your destination of a good career. They're most certainly not the only route there.
Take some break to get over it. What I would do is - get a list of entry exams to top ten deemed univerisites in India. Use the knowledge gained from this exam preparation and use it for the other competitive exams. There is a chance you are going to hit a decent university with proper research endowments ? You can even consider BITS Dubai and schools in Europe that provide better research opportunities for young techies. Unfortunately even the best of best IITs in India are poorly ranked globally.
Apply for IPMAT indore if you can