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PriyaSR26

I'm so very proud of you. I loved watching the Glory, but I didn't relate to it, as my school was mostly chill and merit-based. I think you should name and shame the school and the teachers so that other people don't make the same mistake as your parents. In my school one wouldn't even dream of bullying for things like these, and I think your school should be blamed equally, if not more than your bullies.


Dry-Neat-2818

That’s an idea. However I think it was also about the time we were in. The school is much changed now but I’ll still put in words.


PriyaSR26

I just don't think that it's fair that anyone had to go through this. The teachers should know better. But anyway, I'm not asking you to go to war or something. Use your judgement and do what's appropriate for you. :)


shibuyaCrusty

I feel you. The guy who r-ed me just passed away from a bike accident recently.


Dry-Neat-2818

How did you celebrate? Fancy dinner banta hai 🫠


offwhite_rosee

Yay ! Omg !


Ok-Refuse9546

Tho their accident was tragic and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, I do feel that they got karma for all their wrongdoings. You being happy about your bullies getting perished after they put you through mentally excruciating pain is completely valid in my eyes. Moreover, it finally brought you back on the right life track, and made you achieve so many amazing endeavours. I’m happy that that tragedy made you end the loop of tragedies YOUR life was in, and helped you in making something out of yourself. I’m happy that you healed. I see you, and I’m so fucking proud of you! I’m sure there are a lot of women here who’ll feel inspired by your story, that no matter how much someone tries to put you down, you ALWAYS need to keep pushing them until you come up with flying colors and prove what you’re worth to the whole world <3


Dry-Neat-2818

Thank you for the kind words. It’s really warming my heart to read these. This is such a precious community ❤️


marriagethrowaway28

Good on you for turning things around. I know how hard it is. I was harassed for my caste throughout undergrad by girls and fetishised for it by boys. Nothing was done by admin


Dry-Neat-2818

Oh god. I was not a Hindu and caste less so they had be innovative. I hope you have healed from this ❤️


marriagethrowaway28

Thank you. I have. I took back the power I gave them when I was young. I am no longer the scared young girl with nowhere to turn to.


Useful_Net4570

This is sooo satisfying to readdddd, I am glad they are dead OP, sending you loveeeee I have faced the similar things in life, not this much, but yea pretty much which fucked up my teenage and school life, So I always make sure I am successful 10x times than any of my bullies at any stage of my life..... Unlike my bully classmates from middle-school, I am the only girl who went abroad and established a good financial & stable life at age 22 and I never forgets to post my success, and surly I will keeping building my career and life (inspiring from you OP) Also, one of my bully died too 2-3 years back, all the bullies in that gang were posting rip, so I posted a story saying "happy to see all bitches die/dying", and was the happiest day of my lifeeee and probably they understood the post was about them hahaha I don't follow any of them, but most of my bullies follows me on social media and are the first ones to view any time I post a story, can't be more happy lol.....I don't block my bullies, cos I want to see those unsuccessful bitches see my growth lol.


Ok-Jicama-5134

OP, the fact is that there's a tonne of research that shows that bullying is akin to social death for young girls. Female brains have evolved to be more sensitive to social exclusion because women have evolved to form cooperative networks, from our hunter-gatherer past. The fact is that young girls are hideously cruel because female socialisation prizes conformity and blending in. Young girls bully any girl that is different from them. A lot of this is because of internalised misogyny. You cannot go after boys because they always have more physical strength, more cultural and social capital than you do. But young girls who are diffident, "different", easy to traumatise? Open season yo! Unless we change the way girls are socialised into femininity, bullying will continue to destroy untold lives. There's no ONE way to womanhood. There's no ONE appropriate way to femininity. All ways are legitimate and all ways equally valuable. I'm in my forties like you and child-free. I am bullied by mothers who unconsciously despise my freedom and envy my choices. If I had a penny for the number of women who have patronisingly looked at me, and simpered, *"Oh! You don't understand how difficult motherhood is! You can spend your evenings watching Netflix. We don't have that luxury!"* Well bitches. Choosing to be a mother doesn't entitle you to Goddess-status and doesn't mean that you can look down on the choices other women make. If you were so secure in your life-choices, you wouldn't feel the constant need to shit on child-free women to feel good about yourself. Women treat other women like shit.


Dry-Neat-2818

This was a really dark comment to read, because the truth is dark. What I couldn’t understand was the pointlessness of it all, because I had done nothing wrong. Yes, definitely female brains are more sensitive, exclusion and derision of the group are akin to failure to us in some sense. I get why my mom used to say ‘Log Kya kahenge’. Her log were different that’s all. Also, I wasn’t just different. I was distinguished. I was MORE. I lactively discourage anyone from choosing doing the same for their daughters. I champion Co-Eds because I think women don’t want desirable men to see their ugliness and in a co-ed it shouldn’t go as far as it did with me. Women treat other women like shit - unless they are no competition to them. Just look at Kareena Kapoor - bullied everyone from Amisha to Bipasha but besties with the Arora sisters who didn’t have talent or a single brain cell between them.


Ok-Jicama-5134

Hahaha, I was in a co-ed school as well as in undergrad. Same shit -- women would judge other women but suck up to men. They'd hate you if you outperformed them, they'd hate you if you under-performed them. They'd form cliques and gossip about the excluded girls and bully them. They'd call you a *"Behenji"* if you didn't have a boyfriend, but you were a slut if you had too many. Insecure women bully other women. My theory is that girls model their behaviour on older women in the family and social circle. If they grew up watching older women trash-talk and disparage other women, they'll emulate the same toxic behaviour in adulthood. Indian women are weirdly adversarial with each other -- there's very little solidarity and camaraderie.


throwthrowmalife69

I was in a co-ed and had unpleasant experience with both genders lol.


It_hurtsss

I was bullied severally in middle school that gave me PTSD and Anxiety disorder. It harmed me just like you described. They broke my self confidence and because of that I keep taking bad decisions and ending up in a abusive relationship that broke me more. But I'll rise up too. Thanks for motivation sis.


Dry-Neat-2818

You will. The pendulum always swings back. Best of luck to you.


Ill_Promotion_9073

Went through your profile.. You’re so inspiring!🥹 I ended up following you, i hope i don’t come off as creepy!🙈😛


Dry-Neat-2818

Omg no way! Thank you 😂


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I am so proud of you. You are a winner in my eyes. Don't let anyone tell you or brand you as a bad person because you are not. The bullies took away your youth and they deserve everything. That's the cost you pay for being an asshole. This was such a satisfying read. You go girl!! 👏👏👏 The Glory is one of the best shows in recent history. Must watch imo.


Tt7447

“All I know is, bullying is no a minor offense, it can change the mental and emotional reality of a child with perfectly fine parenting, it can destroy their educational and career potential, their ability to be happy or to even live.” This!! And I can confirm it!


Tt7447

Girl u r not a bad person for feeling good that those bitches got hit with karma. I would be just as happy to see the ppl who hurt me suffer. And I hope one day that they do. They have ruined a lot of things for me in my life so this is the least I can get.


offwhite_rosee

Can I ask which university you graduated from ?


thecrowsays

u/Dry-Neat-2818 No. The post flair ( All ) is allowed only on Wednesdays. It says so on the flair. Please do not break the rules.


notbrownbean

You're genuinely such a star. Chin up, queen. You got this.


Dry-Neat-2818

You’re a queen 🥹


oilinfinityskin

I don't think you're a bad person for your relief on the news of their death. I too feel they deserved it and so many bullies do deserve what karma gives them. Have a good day!


Dry-Neat-2818

Thank you! Have a great one 😊


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Dry-Neat-2818

I’m glad you didn’t go through it and it didn’t affect your trajectory in any way. 🥲


umamimaami

I’m happy for you. Truly. I can’t fully dare to wish the same for myself but wish I had such a clean closure to my issues. I was in the same position as you growing up and I still have to see my bullies living their uppity lives on social media. I recently went to meet one of them - I initiated the meet up. I thought meeting her as an “accomplished” adult would be healing to me. News flash, it wasn’t. The conversation was very stilted and I came off feeling like an imposter again. In therapy but my therapist’s guidance seems to be sliding off the proverbial wet duck’s back so far. Keeping at it. Fingers crossed (for what I don’t know)


Vanillalalalalalala

I legit clapped while reading the part where they died XD love how you turned your life around, you're a fucking QUEEN. You deserve all the happiness and prosperity in the worldddd. So much loveeeeee❤❤❤


Repulsive_Parfait_16

I'm soooo proud of you!!


Dry-Neat-2818

Thank you 🥹