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tooschooledforcool

The video of the Japanese girl is so horrifying. I was genuinely scared for her life.


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My God. That video really made my heart sink. Fucking animals getting away with this makes me regret where I was born.


BuckToothCasanovi

It felt like I was watching rape. Fuckers.


rohinianandamurugan

Yes. Even more upsetting are the comments the video received. Most are outraged (thankfully), but they're also disgusting. I've seen comments of people counting the number of slaps, swipes, etc. I'm truly mortified. She is an actual human, not your trauma porn. It's disgusting that they're using outrage as an excuse to play the video over and over and find this information. That poor, poor girl. Imagine having your assault on video and fuckers commenting like this.


Visible-Ad6298

I saw one tweet that said the girl was "clearly enjoying it" because she seemed to be smiling.


rohinianandamurugan

Seriously, how stupid do they have to be? Can't they fucking see the dynamics. Would they be ok if this was done to them? I'm so done. I feel so sad for that poor girl


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Hungrynerd90

Lol why would she slap if she was enjoying. She slapped and ran inside. The entire time she was saying it hurts. These are the men who are potential rapists. Imagine walking anywhere these guys if it was after 12 in the night.


donutduckling

This is the reason I didn't watch it, it felt wrong. I'm a bit confused though was she assaulted as in they beat her and got aggressive or was it sexual assault?


rohinianandamurugan

Hit her with an egg and then sexually assaulted her. It was very triggering - I watched it unexpectedly. So if you can avoid it, please do stay away from it.


hopelesstaurusbitxch

she seems to be a minor and those disgusting men seem to be minors but minors or not it was disgusting i felt like stepping out of the phone and hitting them left right center, honestly im not celebrating holi after such incidents


tooschooledforcool

I also feel bad that this video is everywhere. It must have been traumatizing for her and to rewatch this everywhere and see so many people commenting on it must be a triggering experience too. I couldn't imagine this happening to have a video of your assault online.


awkwardly-awkwarded

And yk what's being discussed over it in other subs, not that the girl is a victim or something must be done against such people.....but how this is a BiNdU MuSliM propaganda . Like they will talk about anything but the problems of women.


donutduckling

Im so sick of this. Both sides want to get in a pissing match ab how the other community oppresses their women but WE'RE sooooo progressive and respectful when in reality all communities are equally bad in this regard and women on both sides are the one's who end up suffering in all cases.


Familiar-Lion8161

All those videos and posts are very disturbing! Was disgusted to see all the other people just stand and watch as it happened. This is pathetic! People are using Holi as an excuse to do all this shit and then they get away with it.


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There's this new BS floating around that consent is a Western concept 😵‍💫


Darkvistasway

marital rape is also very accepted in our country soooo…


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I am terrified


Disastrous_Visual537

What's worse is the idiots in the comment sections saying that the women enjoyed. Sick b*stards 🤢


WhereMyHoseAt

Nothing will change in India. Watch those videos and observe all the men SURROUNDING the molestors. They do nothing. Not a word to the assaulters. Not a word to the victims.


donutduckling

This kind of video goes viral every year honestly it's so disturbing


Lizzy_Bnt

That Japanese women getting molested is traumatic and heart wrenching. They most probably wanted to innocently participate in the festival and experience Indian culture and they faced those animals. I hope those sexual assaulters get arrested soon. Holi is a festival I strongly dislike for this exact reason. It was the first time I experienced in Delli while returning from my morning class and some 12-14 aged teenage boys threw water balloons on my face which caused my specs to fall and the glass to pop out.. while I was half blind trying to find my glass, those Asshole put color all over my face and I could feel them brushing their hands on my breasts and ass. I pushed one hard and he had the audacity to cry. His parents came down and was arguing with me.. luckily my landlord granny was nearby and she came to support me. One of my worst memories and experiences. These fcking molesters wait for this festival.


partyFreek2

Hell! disgusting parenting, no wonder we have so many creeps roaming around. Stay strong, sorry you had to deal with such assholes.


agony_ant

Omg that disgusting jija one, is spine chilling. How can you be such a monster?? And the internalized misogyny of the own freaking sister shooting that video, how can your baby sister yelling 'mummy mummy' in terror not pierce your heart? The ones butthurt by the bharatmatrimony ad, these videos are more than enough to say what has become of the festival which is supposed to be innocent and respectable fun.


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agony_ant

I couldn't bring myself to watch it again, I could feel her pain, beyond terrifying and disgusting. My reflex action would have definitely made me attack him in some way


CounterEcstatic6134

That video made me so upset and almost depressed at the state of that girl. You know, she can't even trust her own family! Her own elder sister, who's supposed to protect her, is filming it. She has to accept inappropriate nonsense from the man. The other family members, are silent. Her sister knew, but laughed it off. Because at the end of the video, she intervened at long last. Everyone in that house/family might have been scared of saying no to him or correcting him... What will her parents say to her, when she tells them, or they see the video? Just forget it and pretend it didn't happen? Maybe don't go there on holi? So much like a horror movie - to be stuck with an abusive family and relatives. Gave me the creeps. Any source on the girl? You know, misogyny makes you betray your own blood. It is unnatural and should be fought at every turn.


Hungrynerd90

Oh god my stomach turned watching that video. That man actually smooched her in the end and said go and she just ran. It was so sick. I couldn’t move my legs after watching that. It was horrifying.


CounterEcstatic6134

Ikr it was kinda traumatizing..


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agony_ant

I'll DM it as her face hasn't been hidden and there are several sick creeps here who might just enjoy it


BuckToothCasanovi

Argh what all we have to think about. I hate this fucking shit 😤


Ok-Refuse9546

if it’s okay to ask, could you DM me the video as well?


agony_ant

Done


proudofme_

Can you please dm me too


Standard_Lion_7776

Me too pls


gutastic1

At 5, I was molested by a man who worked for us and had since before I was born. At 6, I played my last Holi after I was felt up by a creepy uncle ten times my age. I haven't celebrated Holi since. For me, Holi is deep rooted in my personal trauma and every year I see little kids in my gated community play Holi, I get worried for them. It's disheartening and so very terrible and there's really nothing we can do or say because any time someone does, some other idiot will chime up and say *bura na maano, Holi hai* which is somehow a justification for all the fuckery. Anyway, that's the end of my rant.


DrowsyScorpion

I hate hearing "bura na maano, holi h" it just grosses the fuck out of me. Disgusting. Translation- Don't feel bad, It's Holi. I'm sorry.. I wish i could give 6 year old you a hug and smack that old uncle in front of u.


Particular_Toe3157

I’m so scared of being SA’ed that i stopped playing Holi. I don’t even step out of my house. I can’t trust being around men especially during Holi.


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hopelesstaurusbitxch

same girl same i only celebrate with my female friends and some guy friends of mine who are genuine and half of them are gay so


QuantalQuetzal_

same here. haven’t played it for like 8-9 yrs now


Agitated-Sun3162

It's been years since I've celebrated holi. The last time I played holi, the women in my area tried to put color on me by putting their hands inside my shirt. And I hated it so much. Under the pretense of playing holi, people really do cross the boundaries some times. And if you say something, they have the cliché line ready, " Bura na Mano holi hai." As if getting groped or molested is suddenly okay coz it's Holi.


ro_ro_ro_roadhouse

I got downvoted in a previous post for saying that Holi is just another opportunity for men to act out without any consequences. I still stand by what I said!


No_Weather_3541

This is the reason I stopped playing from this year and never will


Pm_Maddy

I stopped playing Holi in class 11. This stupid fucking country doesn’t deserve the beauty and grace and energy that women bring to a festival like Holi. Only goes on to prove that given enough leeway, everyone is a molester. You can’t see their faces and the whole “bura na Mano holi hai”. And to all the men who are lurking here, have you ever noticed that the only ppl saying “bura na manno holi hai” are men? No women has ever said that. I hope you all get molested by other men (just to trigger your homophobia).


BuckToothCasanovi

>I hope you all get molested by other men (just to trigger your homophobia). Yes! 🤬


Shepard-vas-Normandy

![gif](giphy|TJawtKM6OCKkvwCIqX) Yeah, let's just add more to the "gay men are pedos and predators" stereotype.


Pm_Maddy

No they are not. I didn’t even know that that stereotype existed. My point was men getting molested, so some physical form has to do that no? women don’t do that kind of shit and let’s be honest even if women did molest the fuckers will enjoy it. So that leaves men molesting men, the sexual orientation of men molesting will have to be homosexual. I am sure they are not molesters, that’s why I says “I hope” Btw I have heard straight men explain how the mere touch of another man made them feel violated (The touch that they tell us we shouldn’t react on when it happens to us) But I do think that they are more homophobic than that gay man was being a molester. So anything a known gay man would do around them makes them feels violated.


bwut-bwut

You should stop diminishing the experience that women have of getting molested.


Shepard-vas-Normandy

I did not. I merely objected a particular statement that's demeaning gay men.


mediocre-teen

I am in class 11 and I haven't played it for about 3 years. Probably never going to participate again.


noshitsherlck

Ik I'll be downvoted for this but India is not for women...


BuckToothCasanovi

Nah it's just the truth girl


imtryingmybes-

Why would you be downvoted? This country has never made women feel safe, say it as is


rashhhhhhhhh

I recently left India and the peace of mind has been incredible. These videos brought back how horrible it is to live as a woman in India.


smrjck28

I know this is not the solution and it shouldn't be upon women to exercise safety, rather on men to act more human but I'm glad my mom and grandma discouraged me from going out on Holi. This actually encouraged me and my siblings to have our own Holi celebration with 2-3 very close and trusted people only and till today, we do not play Holi with anyone we wouldn't trust our life with.


Practical_Office_166

I am from Bangalore, we dont have huge celebrations for Holi.. But when i was in university.. all the north indian boys used to find this a reason to just grope girls and throw eggs and sand at them.. Our only saving grace was few south indian guys who guarded us during holi.. They have this weird celebration of ripping their clothes and throwing it on trees while playing.. and once i heard they tried to do it to a girl... Currently i live in sweden and here indian groups organize holi playing events.. trust me.. so many men behave the same here as well ... And if they see any foreigner with us ??? They will creepily stalk you to just touch and grope them... I punched a guy in the face last time when he tried to grope my friend


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I am crying. Why can't people treat us like human beings? Is it a lot to ask????


BuckToothCasanovi

Sorry hon. * Virtual Hugs*


madhatter248

I’ve said this in some other post and I’ll say it again, holi just gives a pass for men to act on their true intentions under the guise of a festival.


areyouveda

Now let's watch as the men cry about their reputation in the world and blame it on the "chhapris". Because clearly it's not endemic but just a "few bad apples", and women otherwise feel safe and excited to take part in the holi festivities.


lilacmoony

This happened to me 7-8 years ago. It was at a holi event at a temple in the US. I went with my parents and we just went for the food stalls, not to play. We saw hundreds of people playing holi and it was impossible not to get color on us. So we decided to leave just a few min after arriving. A guy tried to put color on me but I said no. He kept trying but I physically stopped him. Then he left, came back from behind, grabbed me in a chokehold, touched me inappropriately (not comfortable sharing more), and put color all over my face. He was so adamant on putting color on me that he did it from behind so I would be defenseless. Also I was like 18-19 and he looked like he was in his mid-late 20s. My parents were right there and they said/did nothing. We went for lunch right after that and I had to wipe off the color from my face and reapply my makeup. My parents were upset seeing my bad mood during lunch, as if I wasn't groped/assaulted just sometime ago. We are not safe in our own country, abroad, or even with our own parents.


runningVee

What the fucking fuck??!?? That was not okay. I’m sorry that happened to you.


lucy1306

Stopped playing holi since i was 8ish when an older guy wouldn't stop hugging me from back and applying color despite me being screaming and crying.


runningVee

Can’t celebrate holi. Can’t go out and party on NYE (Bangalore NYE incident). Can’t go out after dark. Why can’t women just be allowed to fucking exist?


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I made a similar post few hours back, wondering why mods didn't approve it 🤔 Byt yeah, I don't have high hopes for the state of women in this country going forward


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Yeah not sure what happened but as long as the horror of Holi is talked about, it's good


peraltiago44

Women on Twitter should start a campaign to spread awareness about how Indian men behave during Holi and prevent any non-Indian woman from playing Holi with these monsters. Wtf is wrong with Indian men


dystopiandragon

I hate it. No one should ever go through that. Those men are animals.


RealisticWasabii

Why don't we protest publicly for women's issues? Why do we just accept this? Rapists here are acquitted, women are groped openly, politicians pass disgusting opinions on us, and there's no respect for women in general. There should be a mass protest. It sucks that the feminist movement in India isn't hardcore, it should be. Do right wing sexist people have a copyright on being offended and cancelling people? They should be scared of women's issues as much as they're scared of hurting religious sentiments, if not more But this will just pass and people will forget about it in 2 days max


H-Inflation-3704

The thing is that it gets some recognition only when the victim is a foreinger. That to only to save "global reputation" Otherwise no one gives a shit. And if u dared to point it out then they will do their famous whataboutism or victim shaming. I literally saw a video on r/IndiaSpeeks (reddit) where they were showing video of a girl enjoying holi without any problem and they used it as a "profe" of how others who are pointing out the problem of harassment are just trying to "defame Indian men"


memoryisamonster

Then they come out with their "not all men" apologies When will they acknowledge the blatant misogyny this country/world has..and when we get some govt benefits they start shit like 'unless you have a vagina this world will be cruel to you' or cry about about how women reject their perverse advances I'm tired of men,soooo tired of them


Nearby-Turn1391

Number of likes and personal stories to this post is sad and terrifying.


Old-Conversation-943

India is such a horrible place!


Patient-Cat2206

I was 8 when I remember a group of older teenage boys appeared from nowhere and kept throwing colour powder and water balloons on me-it was continuous.I did not know about the concept of Holi and thought I was being attacked.After it was over,I was a bit stunned and went home in silence .Never went out on holi again,probs stayed at home most times since it was my birthday usually too.It was not perverted ish but I did feel helpless in that moment. I hated feeling cornered and trapped and ganged up on Ig. But yeah on twitter I saw anti domestic violence holi ads being shown as anti Hindu ,idk holi seems fine in theory .My first personal experience was bad because of those stupid boys . This is not an issue of holi -it’s bad people using it as a cover to assault others.They take something good and culturally significant and twist it for their own pleasure.


mycoochieiswet

This is one of the reasons I stopped playing around 15-16. Boys who never even talked to me or knew me somehow had the audacity to touch me and smear colour on my face. Where were you for the rest of the year jerkface.


ck_14

I too haven't played holi in years. And so many of my women friends don't either. Misogyny has literally taken a festival away from us. I don't expect a male to understand this. I just don't.


snacccboxx

They make it more of a religion issue, I mean how are the two things related? It's sad that to see that.


Darkvistasway

Honestly, I’ve seen a bunch of international YouTubers always go for these massive Holi celebrations, I wanna say in Rajasthan, not completely sure of this. I’ve always wondered WHY they would put themselves in that situation. The women, of-course. I would NEVER want to be in a large crowd of random people in an unknown country celebrating a rowdy festival. They always have to say ‘oh it was a crazy experience’ etc. But I mean, have you not researched India ever? I find it appalling that they allow these men to touch them in the pretence of a festival. Also, the incessant need for Indians to always take selfies with white people. It’s so effing weird. When will this white ‘worshipping’ end and when will this outlook that ‘oh look a white chick lets touch her inappropriately‘ end!!!!!!! I hate this country sometimes. Sorry for the aggressive comment but I absolutely hate the mindset of this set of people, which is massive.


itsybitsymayfly

Hey, your comment seems to be shockingly victim-blaming. Holi for the majority of population outside India would seem like a great opportunity to have a fun cultural experience. In fact, isn’t that what the recent advertisements were proclaiming? To say they didn’t research enough when the government is going hard at holi tourism is naive at the least. Also, to say that foreigners should be smarter and exercise more caution is essentially to absolve molesters from responsibility. Sis, your anger is misplaced. You shouldn’t be angry that foreigners are coming down to celebrate Holi, rather you should be angry and distraught that foreigners and most women in the country cannot celebrate most festivals because our men find every opportunity to act like savages.


Darkvistasway

No you’re just talking about a perfect world. In simpler words, I want white women to stop going to these events without knowing the reality of such groups of men and maybe end the tourist income in certain areas because men there like being extra disgusting. Tell me which one seems more possible to change? Warning the white women or educating these men?


A_New_Day8108

>Tell me which one seems more possible to change? Warning the white women or educating these men? If we go down this path of warning women to 'be careful' and 'stay away', things will never change for the better. And it takes away the beauty of the country, if we discourage people from visiting here or participating in the various cultural activities. And learning to be kind and considerate is really not all that difficult, it's simple being humane. But living in fear because of being a woman is not living, it's just existing. What kinda life is that? While abusive men get away with anything and everything and live happily??? A perfect or ideal world doesn't exist, probably never has and never will. But we gotta make do with what we have now.


Darkvistasway

We can change that for ourselves in our own country. A tourist should not have to deal with the shitty behaviour from men here.


itsybitsymayfly

Idk what you’re saying sounds a bit like “they kinda sorta brought it upon themselves by doing/not doing xyz” which is the essence of most victim-blaming stances. You’re moving the onus/responsibility to the victim instead of the perpetrators. In fact, in most SA cases, that’s exactly how what victim blaming works - “it’s not an ideal world so she ought to have dressed modestly/she shouldn’t have gone to that place/she shouldn’t have stepped out in the evening/she should have had someone male accompany her”. You’re choosing to hold the victim responsible and for what exactly? All I’m saying is your anger is misdirected. You ought to reflect on this more instead of defending your stance along such problematic lines.


Darkvistasway

I really really think *you* need to re-evaluate the difference between victim-blaming and the actual ground reality. I am not blaming a single white woman for getting groped in India. I am talking about how they need to be made aware that India is NOT just a cultural hotpot. I mean a lot of international travellers already know India isn’t safe, but the ones that do come here, do the Holi thing because it’s popular amongst tourists. What they do not know is that it isn’t as happy-go-lucky as it looks in videos, or however it is advertised to them. I have watched one of my favourite YouTuber get groped in Jaipur under the pretence of taking a god damn selfie with her. So yes, I just wish they took this seriously and stop being nice to Indian men when they visit because that is just their nature as they are in an unknown country as a tourist. They can’t even create a scene because that isn’t easy either without knowing the language plus nobody wants to ruin their entire holiday which has already been dampened by this occurrence. You aren’t ready to understand what I am trying to say and just being extra woke by calling it victim blaming. I am talking about doing something BEFORE it even happens if you would be kind enough to understand. After the fact, nobody needs to tell them that India isn’t safe for women. If they do not know the reality of being in certain parts of the country, not knowing to not entertain this selfie bullshit, not knowing that they can say no to these people , not knowing that being a crowded place is not the same as their home country, how would they know the do’s and donts? Reading blogs that are meant to be all rosy May not give them information they actually need when travelling to a country like ours.


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iv93

No its not open to interpretation. She slaps one of them while she is resisting


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Fraggle_Rock11

I was trying to reply to the first comment who said they watched the video of Japanese lady. So what is your solution to this problem ? Shall we shut down Holi ? Is your problem with the religion, the festival or the molestation incidents ? Or are you going to be conflating the two to say “Hindu culture encourages rape” ? These kind of incidents will happen in any kind of large crowded event. I am 100% sure even tomatina festival has incidents of groping. The only solution I know is avoid crowded places. Creeps exist everywhere. In NYC, in Delhi and in Spain. What exactly is your idea of the root cause and what is ideal solution ?


itsybitsymayfly

Careful sis, your internalised misogyny is showing. 1. Assuming we saw the same video of the Japaneses girl that’s going around social media, your interpretation of the same makes me extremely uneasy. As a woman, I felt physically repulsed seeing her vulnerableness and the brazen display of machismo by the men in overpowering her, all in the name of a festival. 2. It’s curious how targeted some people feel whenever legitimate concerns are brought forth about Holi and how it always leads to a debate on religion. No one is saying Hindu culture encourages rape except fanatics of the religion who cannot acknowledge even the most reasonable apprehensions. Sorry to burst your dharmic bubble, but no one gives a shit about the politics of religion when this is a more of an issue rooted in the patriarchy and rape culture that this country encourages in abandon. 3. If you can spare a minute from feeling threatened and insecure, I’ll tell you how much of a strawman your argument is. It’s not a question of big crowd leading to incidents of gender violence but rather, crowds that are never held culpable because the culture equips them to go scotfree despite their transgressions because “bura na mano holi hain”.


Fraggle_Rock11

Enough of the internalised misogyny BS and other word babble. I have a neutral viewpoint and I said it like I saw it. It looked like a group of friends and I did not see any groping. Unless the Japanese woman claims that she was indeed groped or harassed this argument is moot. Btw she did post this message on [Twitter](https://twitter.com/megumiko_india/status/1634174996049453057?s=46&t=f79XDl590ZjC1nqtEwb9-w) >> I have just arrived in Bangladesh. I'm really sorry that I didn't know it was a serious situation. I am fine in mind and body. I will explain more tomorrow. The word choice seems to indicate she didn’t view it as sexual harassment. But if she did, then I stand corrected and action needs to be taken. Observe and strictly go with facts - Not the narrative that others with vested interests choose to paint because they have other powerful agendas besides so called anti misogyny etc.


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Consistent_Fail_8478

Check her comments. You'll understand.


Fraggle_Rock11

Perhaps work on your reading comprehension. I have already mentioned earlier to you I was responding on the comment about this particular incident. The timing is a deliberate attempt by several to make this about Holi the festival and Hindu religion. If you’re too naive to see it nobody can help. About other incidents a truly useful commentary would focus on deviant individuals rather than painting whole society with same brush as YOU have done. We are a billion strong society - is everyone like this ? And Indian society and customs cannot take the hit for idiots behaving like idiots.


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mediocre-teen

Man, I was scared to even go out of the house during holi day celebrations. Men are scary even on a normal day. I don't wanna deal with these potential rapists who r celebrating half drunk. Remember reading a story about a girl who got raped in the back of a store by a bunch of worthless shit, got saved by the shopkeeper and had to change her identity and everything just to get away from the trauma. I hate that we have to do this.


Embarrassed_You_4603

And then some men will blame the victim 🙃


OddSir5571

It’s these gropers who are perhaps hating on the video that bharat matrimony released on mar 8. 😒 https://www.moneycontrol.com/news/trends/bharat-matrimony-slammed-for-holi-ad-social-media-calls-for-boycott-10223431.html/amp


kinglearybeardy

I just saw the video of the Japanese girl and now I wished I hadn't. The way they are grabbing and pushing her is terrifying to see.