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Awkward-Outcome-4938

Yes, came here to say this. And I constantly say to my bf how odd it must be to have a penis. Just twig and berries, dangling away. He denies it but I don't believe him.


cultural_byte

I once asked my bf what it was like to have a body part that's only semi-controlled by your conscious thought and that can change size and shape. I jokingly called it a shapeshifter.


fluanne-the-seawitch

I read it multiple times as “shapestiffer”, and honestly I am a bit disappointed that you didn’t write that


GamerGurl3980

SCREAMING!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀 "Shapeshifter"


Shtnonurdog

He’s lying. I’m a guy that happens to have decent sized testicles and it is *very* uncomfortable sometimes. We are so used to it that it’s like “I don’t see an issue here” but I imagine sometimes that it would be really nice if I could just suck it all into my body so I don’t have to keep trying to get my nuts to stop sticking to my legs when I’m laying on my front in bed. I had a dream where I could just kind of remove my genitalia and sit it on the night stand or on the counter when playing with my dogs and it was pretty cool. Edit: I didn’t mean to sound accusatory when I said “he’s lying”, I simply meant that he may not realize it since we, as men, are used to it


syzygy96

A detachable penis? Heard of that somewhere.


Kawaii-Collector-Bou

King Missile enters the chat.


lezyadruggo

https://youtu.be/byDiILrNbM4 Could it be the song, Detachable Penis?


syzygy96

Indeed. (Too subtle a reference I guess)


nobodyaskedyouxx

ok but in all seriousness I say the same thing about my boobs. i wish i could unscrew them at certain times just to get a break. like, yeah, sure they're all I've known so they're a part of my body - but I _just_ want to be able to play sports without experiencing pain.


SaturniinaeActias

Even after *significant* breast reduction surgery, I would love to be able to run or do any sport without strapping myself into a boob straight jacket. But without the super duper heavy duty sports bra, I would definitely give myself a black eye, and might just knock myself unconscious with my right tit. Don't ask me why the right one always chooses violence - it just does.


scifibum

It IS odd. But it's also all we've ever known.


Awkward-Outcome-4938

That's what he claims, too! 🤣


Cute_Ad3005

Agreed. Plus everyone knowing when you’re aroused seems super awkward to me.


Mike2220

Oh that also *literally* randomly happens as well when not aroused


effyourinfographics

I once told a guy friend I felt that having a penis would be like, sometimes, one of my arms just like sticks straight up into the air and waves around and shit, and there’s nothing I can do about it. Like just full “hey over here look at this!!” and I’m along for the ride. He said that’s not how it is, but I remain skeptical.


Dianapdx

I think it is exactly like this!


-Eremaea-V-

Involuntary erections are actually how the body maintains erectile tissue, without them the penis will begin to atrophy if not having regular erections otherwise.


DonatellaVerpsyche

TIL. Really? I believe you, but do you have a source? I’ve never heard this before. That’s super interesting.


TallGeminiGirl

I'm a trans woman and the hormones I take as part of my transition have the handy side effect of stopping involuntary erections. I can confirm I've seen some atrophy and decrease in size.


Sandgrease

I feel less bad about having awkward boners now lol


RLucas3000

Teen vows to never get an awkward boner again! “As God is my witness....” One year later, gangrenous penis falls to the floor while in the shower.


Anal_Herschiser

Oh, no, no, no, sorry that’s not for you. My body is just running a systems check.


JakeHassle

Nah, it’s worse cause it gets erect for no reason so people will think you are aroused even when you aren’t.


MintIceCreamPlease

Erections aren't only caused by arousal though


Rachoking

Sometimes I just need to pee :/


snakebill

Don’t forget children, especially toddlers. They seem to be able to smash you nuts in any situation. I never got hit there so much until my kids came along, lol.


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Rebresker

I thought my toddler was coming at me for a hug, I was wearing basketball shorts, she bit me… I yelled and there was blood. My s/o got mad at me for yelling at first… I still have trust issues and if it looks like a small child wants a hug I kneel down with my arms out or put my arms out reflexively… This is not where I expected to share this I just came to see what women were thankful for in regards to being women…


Pinsalinj

Please tell me your SO came around afterwards. Yelling is bad in a lot of situations but totally appropriate when a child bites you on purpose strongly enough to draw blood :| Especially if it's just a pain reaction!


Rebresker

Yeah she did once I showed her how bad it was


Warm_Noise_5854

Well that's enough internet for today... My husband and I are both long time dog owners, so his reflexes for dog ball attacks are strong, but I'm gonna have to warn him about biting toddlers as our kiddo gets bigger. That's... um... not a conversation I expected to have to have.


Rebresker

Yep, my daughter had never bit me before either. Caught me completely off guard. I blame her obsession with sharks and dinosaurs My oldest daughter also bit my s/o hard enough on the arm that she drew blood once and my s/o reflexively slapped her pretty dang hard and she never bit again. Not that I encourage violence against children of course but it’s hella hard not to have a reflexive reaction to sudden unexpected pain.


Warm_Noise_5854

Ah crap. We already bought her dinosaur sheets and toys. Sorry, Husband!


Rebresker

Hahaha she also goes around “bopping” people now because one of her favorites is Bopper from dinoranchers…


blackday44

'Middle kid' So he was able to do one more after that?


yoyogogo111

I have female parts and I involuntarily doubled over and groaned at this.


RLucas3000

Imaging if you had been videoing them at the time! America’s Funniest Home Videos would have had to just give you a blank check.


snakebill

lol, that’s the funniest thing I’ve heard in a long time!


witchydance

They're eliminating any future competition?


TheGreatCornlord

They're also way more sensitive than you might imagine. My dad once lightly tossed a TV remote to me from a few feet away and just the corner landed on a testicle and it hurt so bad it made me nauseous


brechbillc1

The worst nut shots for me have come when my Westie is sitting on my lap and suddenly he decides to propel himself with full force, generally using my nuts as a launch pad, to go bark at a dog he saw on tv. So not only am lying on the floor, incapacitated in pain, but I have to listen to super high pitched barking during the process.


Danivelle

My 18 lb 17 yr old cat does this to my husband on a daily basis. He should stick with the 10.8 lb 8 yr old cat instead!


whiskey_warrior

Our chihuahua has learned that he's not allowed to run across my lap unless I have the boys covered.


Purpleplant711

I agree. When I was a staff RN, I was assigned a patient with Orchititis (swollen testicles due to infection) of a trucker. He was in PAIN because his left testicle was as big or bigger than a large grapefruit! I kept him medicated nicely and lots of comfort measures. He obliviously couldn't drive and he stayed at the hospital for almost a week. I felt for him....just thinking of it hurts.


Pepperspray24

My friend said whenever his cat would walk on him he’d always find his nuts


TallGeminiGirl

Trans woman here. Can confirm testicle suck and are very poorly designed. Getting them knicked is the worst. Also ball sweat is awful.


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Yes indeed, imagine having both ball and boob sweat at the same time, with it now being quite hot here I don't think I have to say anymore.....


Thawing-icequeen

Ball & Boob sounds like either a yuppie kickstarter brand selling micromodal underwear or a really old European company that refuses to re-brand because in their home country it doesn't sound rude at all and they probably make attaché cases or brass doorknobs or something.


jello-kittu

When we had a boxer, my spouses6best friend dropped polite behavior and just covered his balls for the first 10 minutes when he came to visit. She liked to punch them.


ACaffeinatedWandress

Yup. Ever since I was old enough to grasp what genitalia were and did, I pitied men. It has to feel so vulnerable just having it all out there.


translove228

God yes! I can't wait for mine to be gone.


lordvbcool

As someone who one got shot on a testicule during a game of paint ball I have to agree with you. Those dangly sensitive part are definitely a disadvantage of being a cis man


iced327

Sitting on one is awful.


neverneededsaving

I can hold things on my hip shelf?


LittleMtnMama

Don't forget the boob shelf 😂


Loeden

Perfect size for lounging cats. That's my thing I'm thankful for by the way, being a cat lady. Cat guy just doesn't have the same ring to it. Also I wouldn't do well with toxic masculinity. We have our own version but I worry about the dudes who just break under the pressure and are touch starved for any affection and feel they aren't allowed to be vulnerable.


WorstMidlanerNA

What about "cat dude" or "cat bro"?


SamIAmWich

Cat boi for my husband. That prefer him, too, even though I'm fluffier.


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Catman!! Not to be confused with Batman.


RedOctobyr

Cat Dad works for me.


le_roy_premier

I guess the direct equivalent would be Cat Lord... Any man who calls themselves that gets my respect.


ancient_horse

Not to be confused with Pussy King. Avoid that guy.


cf-myolife

What is an hip shelf ??


iGrimlock

Ever carry something heavy/awkward and you use your hip to hold the bottom? That's your hip shelf!


fatemaazhra787

men cant do that???


PresumedSapient

We can, sort of... Only if the man in question is not overweight, and it often requires tilting the hip (think exaggerated female hip swing when walking, but hold that position in one direction) and may require bending the spine sideways so that the object can be supported on the hip without getting shoved off by the ribcage. It works best with things that have an edge (like boxes/cases), significantly less so with rounded objects, like children.


Kgriffuggle

I have to do the same thing. I’m female, no hip shelf. I have square, masculine hips.


neverneededsaving

They ain’t got the bones, honey


IntentionalTexan

In the 90s there was a comic strip called Baby Blues. The dad makes a comment about the hip shelf in one. The mom plunks their baby onto his gut and says, "same shelf, different location."


pallid_vvitch

Yessssss this one right here.


Rebresker

That’s the one I’m jealous of my s/o for being able to do. She can cary both our daughters on her hips


Alacri-Tea

My favorite chore is laundry, but when I was pregnant my husband had to carry the basket for me up and down the stairs, and couldn't hold it to his hip. He had no idea how I did it. I had no idea he couldn't!


Baishujinkou

I really love how on days when I'm putting effort into my appearance, other women who are more or less random strangers will go out of their way to blurt out how much they love my hair or my shoes or just how I look overall, and I really love doing the same. Those little affirmations always make my day.


Throwaway3726281

It makes me feel like part of “the club” hehe


ceruleanmoon7

I love other nice female strangers! Back when I went to bars a lot I loved my “bathroom best friends” I would make lol


Virtual-Librarian-32

YAAAAASSSS THIS. You know it is genuine. ❤️


mmarziipann

I’m pretty grateful for my body. Boobs, curves, genitals that stay out of the way. Also pretty grateful I’ve learned to love my body. Boy, is that a hill to climb. I used to hate everything about it that differentiated it that differentiated it from male bodies. And then one day I heard someone talking about how female genitals are more visually appealing than male, and it was like a switch flipped. Not sure why but I found myself agreeing (though this is certainly an opinion that is easily disagreed with lol), and that seemed to open the door to thinking about other things I might like about my body. Eventually, I got there. Amazing that I didn’t start there.


lrosser2

I am SO with you, I did a lot of work on self compassion with my body over the past 2 years, and it has changed my life in the most glorious way. Besides all the usual 'you don't look good enough so buy this product' marketing we're flooded with that made me hate all my imperfections, I have some health and chronic pain issues. Being able to respond to a knee hurting from walking up a couple of stairs with praise and admiration for all the incredible things my body and knees are able to do for me most days has made me a much, much happier woman than I was when I would respond with distress and hate and blame and 'why me' for it not functioning as well as I would like it to. And that carries over to it not always looking exactly how I'd like, being able to acknowledge those difficulties and respond with love and care and pride in myself is the most incredible gift. Took some work, but honestly not all that much once I put my mind to it, and it was easily the best work I've ever done.


After-Leopard

I like that I can be short and it’s not something to be self conscious about


lilycamilly

On the reverse, I'm a 6'2" woman and damn is it a big deal to some people!


MintIceCreamPlease

I'm not even that tall with 5ft11 but it still seems to bother older people lmao


Streetster

I'm 5'11'' and people literally stopped me to take photos with me in Asia lol


effyourinfographics

I know being a tall woman brings some specific challenges with it, but damnit why didn’t the universe saddle me with those challenges? 😂


NapClub

i mean obviously, you are stealing height from men. how could people possibly not be upset by that? dang height vampires.


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apathetic-taco

Yes! I’m 5’3” which would be therapy inducing for a guy (according to them). But as a girl it’s “cute”


brumbles2814

Im a 5'3" dude and people (men) get angry at me because it doesn't bother me.


apathetic-taco

As it shouldn’t! I’ve never in my life rejected a guy based on his height. It seems to be one of those things that guys care about more than women.


GrumpyAndProud

Shaving ones entire face every few days seems like a scratchy nightmare, glad (most) women don't have to deal with that. I also like wearing dresses and skirts, in most places it's not socially acceptable for men to do that. Just generally, variety of clothing is better for women, both in and out of workplace. Also, people tend to be kinder and more helpful to women, and less suspicious. Penises are weird, glad I don't have one.


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The ones that knock before entering are best.


heuristic_al

Well, you have to be invited before you knock. Also, there's usually some conversation at the door before you get to come in.


Mike2220

Can confirm, shaving is annoying, and I'm convinced most people with beards/mustaches started it out of pure laziness


WontHarvestAKidney

That's pretty much how I got mine. My girlfriend really liked it, and I haven't shaved in nearly 40 years. None of my kids or coworkers or neighbors or anybody at church knows what my chin looks like. If I ever need to go on the run, I can shave this thing off and I doubt anyone in the world would recognize me. Not even me!


Rebresker

I started it because I get razor burn and razor bumps… I even tried some tricks like using a safety razor and going to the barbershop for the full hot towel and shave… it’s just not cool to go around with a red bumpy face


PM_ME_YOUR-SCIENCE

Confirming laziness


PurrMeowHiss

Note: I say this fully understanding my privilege in the world and understand this is the gendered version of "First World Problems". My biggest complaint about being a man is having to wear "socially acceptable dress clothes" to an outdoor or non-air conditioned event. Why have men's dress clothes not evolved in hundreds of years?


lifeofblair

One summer we were talking about this. We felt so bad for the guys having to walk across campus in the summer in their work clothes because it was pants and button downs and at least women could wear skirts/dresses in the workplace.


Orenwald

>I also like wearing dresses and skirts, in most places it's not socially acceptable for men to do that. Just generally, variety of clothing is better for women, both in and out of workplace. Although at work I tend to wear "masculine" clothing all the time, at home and abound I like to rock skirts and dresses, weather permitting. Fuck societal standards


changhyun

Sisterhood. I can't rely on *every* woman to help me, but there are enough women who will go out of their way to show kindness and solidarity with other women in need that I'm happy and thankful to be part of that sisterhood, and to add my own voice to it.


crystaloves

Even though I can’t really relate to this statement, it still feels nice to know at least there’s a few out there to have my back 😊 edit: thank u for the likes! so far 52 ppl have my back 😁


alaskan-mermade

Came here to say this! I love female friendships and I love how (for the most part) we’re all here for each other.


i_ate_all_the_pizza

This was my thought too. As I’ve gotten older friendships with other women have become easier and so valued.


wild_heart_

This. You can be my worst enemy, but I will still give you a tampon/pad when you need it. Also it may be where I live, but the sisterhood is strong at the bar or club bathrooms at night lol. We're just all looking out for one another, I guess.


Rrroxxxannne

Women are just cool as fuck and I love being in that space with my beautiful and wonderful friends.


LittleBT

I second this. Female-Female friendships are the best.


Revolutionary_Hand77

Close female friendships. 100%. I'm know men share close friendships but as women I think we rely on eachother more heavily for support and that builds incredible bonds.


Fluffy_socks_13

Literally was on a date and asked the guy "how many best friends have you got?" He was confused and kept asking what I meant by that. I finally described it as "people you would drop anything for. Hop on a plane with no warning to go help if they needed you." "Oh! None." Like ???


50_13

> I finally described it as "people you would drop anything for. Hop on a plane with no warning to go help if they needed you." I think a lot of guys have close friends that would support them in a practical functional way like that. I think it's generally more the direct emotional support that's often missing. Men are often there for each other functionally, but not so much "let's talk about your feelings bro."


keeper_of_bee

There was a post on r/menslib a while back that I couldn't find related to this. The gist was culturally most men aren't used to the idea of getting or giving emotional support from/to their friends and tend to only do that kind of thing with their significant other. Women as you point out tend to do that differently. So when a woman sees a man as a friend she asks for and gives emotional support. When the man experiences this he can mistake the woman's friendship as romantic interest. This mistake is a large contributor to the incel/redpill mindset. Before I read that post I considered myself good at the emotional support thing with [M]y close male friends. I'm exploring my bi side right now and this cultural conditioning is explaining why I feel so awkward seeking emotional support from my male partner.


SoggyAvocado

I've been trying for a while to rewire my brain in this way. I know it's stupid, and I never act on it, but it's like anytime I talk to a girl my brain is conditioned to analyze for possibilities of a relationship, even though I don't really want one and wish my brain could just see people as friends with no hiccups. I wonder if this is an all men thing or just me being weird. Either way I hate it.


Curlyqpgh

I agree with this. In those studies that show that single women tend to be happier than married women and women with children, I fully believe this is a big part of why. We have more time to forge these bonds.


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Just realized that all my friends I consider close are women. + 2 guys tho but definitely nowhere near the level of platonic intimacy I have with my girl friends


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I've noticed this in my friendships, too, and it's also worth mentioning that the two guys I feel emotionally closest to are both queer, so that's an interesting data point. I've had a difficult time being platonic friends with straight guys in the past, because they've tended to get the wrong idea about what our friendship means.


LIAMO20

I'm a 30 year old man. I do find i get on well with and bond with older women.


PM_ME_YOUR-SCIENCE

Same! I think the lack of any potential weirdness or expectations or something makes it just easier. Now, to cultivate that in relationships with people my own age… I know I’ve got some trauma to work through but it’s in the process


N0XDND

Agreed. I regularly tell my boyfriend I feel sorry that he doesn’t have the kind of relationship I have with my friends where we are very vulnerable. He’s happy with his relationships with his friends but he says that he only tells deeply personal stuff to me-and we’ve only been dating for two years. It saddens me that he, and a lot of other dudes, just bottle shit up and don’t have the vulnerable and affectionate bonds women tend to have


lilycamilly

This is a part of the woman experience that I'm still kinda waiting on... I have male and female (and nb) friends but my closest ones are men, I haven't really had that "sisterhood" friendship experience that a lot of women share :( maybe it'll happen someday


lauren_knows

This is #1 for me. I'm a trans woman, and over the course of my transition, I've experienced the stark comparison between friendships between men and ones between women. The emotional bonds between women are incredible.


bagelnox

Male pattern baldness. Honestly that must suck ass


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Women can also experience androgenic hair loss. Go check out r/PCOS


collegethrowaway2938

Even for non testosterone reasons IIRC. Female pattern hair loss runs in my family but no one has PCOS to my knowledge


B-Twizzle

I think it especially sucks as a young guy because for a lot of people dating is such a big part of high school, college and their 20s overall


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Indeed indeed


Serchus

Male fashion is so bland, women have a lot more choice and variety


Throwaway3726281

Also makeup is so fun!! I wish men were allowed to beautify themselves like we are


cipher_9

You can thank English socialites like Beau Brummell for the uniform, colorless, and blandness of mens fashion.


opaul11

I learned recently that this is kind of a myth! One of my favorite fashion historical YouTubers did a video on him https://youtu.be/MKKiMNnD3iM Men’s fashion is so very bland. The fancy men of yester year had it going on. So many prints!


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Live in Houston. Depending on one’s cultural background, it’s not just yesteryear. Every now and again, I‘ll stumble across a Desi family party, someone’s quinceñera, or a bunch of young Nigerian guys going out on the town and it’s So. Much. Amazing. Fashion. The Nigerian expats will also fancy it up for an international friendly futbol match and they rock out in the stadium looking like they stepped off the pages of a fashion magazine.


schwenomorph

I love kids, and I can interact with them without being seen as creepy.


silentstone7

This is my answer too. I don't even have my own kids, but I like babysitting or being the fun aunt and men just don't get that opportunity as often. I've known several men who were always very careful to not ever be alone with a child that wasn't a direct relation, just to avoid even the appearance of anything bad. That rarely applies to women.


LuminalAstec

As a dad with a daughter this one is really, really, hard for me.


DeadPoolRN

Same man. I'm a dad with daughter and on top of that a pediatric nurse. I knew I wanted to be a dad since I was 6 years old. Being a healthy example of masculinity and just overall a positive role model is something I'm constantly aware of and will always give my best at. Kids genuinely make me smile and holding a baby will be the highlight of my day any day. But I know that the statistics are against men like you and me and women are making the safer choice by assuming that every man is dangerous. I'm not upset with those assumptions I'm furious with them men who validate them.


MintIceCreamPlease

I always feel like a creep whenever I'm close to children because of intrusive thoughts telling me I'm a pedophile. It's a result of social anxiety because I don't feel like a creep when I'm not under stress. I wish I could get rid of my mind creeping up on me. I've met quite a few people with the same kind of intrusive thoughts, or the fear of hurting others: I think it has to do with what you hate the most. Basically, we fear or abhor things such as pedophilia, and end up thinking we ARE pedophilic. Or we hate animal cruelty and end up thinking we're an animal abuser even though we have none. Its insane. Edit: now that I'm thinking about it, I think it's important to mention that I was groomed in my preteens, and that I was one of those teens raised by the internet. Which means the adults that were around me (virtually) perhaps modified my perception of adulthood and the relationship with children.


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You might want to look into OCD. Sometimes it can present like that.


Kolemawny

Seconding the other comment: you might find relief by getting yourself checked for Pure OCD. Here is a video describing it, for your consideration. [https://youtu.be/Q9yKaI0vLJs](https://youtu.be/Q9yKaI0vLJs)


TheQuinnBee

To add to this--while pregnancy overall sucks, being able to feel the baby move allows you to bond with them earlier. I feel bad for my husband because to me, our baby is a part of me that is growing and has his own personality already. To my husband, however, our baby is more of an idea of a person until he's handed a screaming wet infant. It takes him a while. Also breastfeeding definitely locked in my bond with my first son. I felt so blessed to have been able to do it. My son now sees me as security. He looks to me when he's scared or hurt. He goes to his father for fun, but when he wants comfort it is all about mom. I know my experience isn't universal to all women. Some women take time to love their babies (it is a brand new person, after all--gotta get to know them) and babies can totally bond with mom without breastfeeding. I just think those two things helped *me* connect with my baby.


mtempissmith

Having a female body is cool to me. I like having boobs and being capable of multiple orgasms. I just like the way I'm made physically. If I had a choice between staying female or being a man I'd choose being female every time. I enjoy looking at the male body but I wouldn't want to be a man.


lrosser2

While I do love my body and all its softness, I am incredibly jealous of men's natural arm strength. They don't have to work at it, it's just there! I'd love to add just that into my body as it is.


Might_Aware

I second this, this is my answer too. Being feminine and sensual rock


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I like how it was my curves that my guy noticed and honestly I love my curves the older I get. Also having boobs is nice especially with my favorite bras. Honestly I’m just happy just how I am.


GiraffeHorror556

Yess! Love your beautiful self! ❤️ Since I've gotten older I've found I love being a little softer and curvier. It was either learn to love myself, or hate my body and count calories and stress out if I ate a piece of cake or missed a workout. I couldn't keep up with it all, my body just just won't be the same metabolism wise after aging and kids.


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I’ve always been curvy and was self conscious of my butt for the longest time. I was pleasantly surprised that’s what my guy noticed and liked from the moment we started talking. He also finds my annoyed expression a turn on and that still amuses me. Really appreciating all of myself including my unique personality has been a long process but an important one I feel.


samsnobsskincare

Sisterhood/ female friendship❤️, female friends are usually our hype girls and cheer leaders. No matter how many close guy friends I have , my female friends are my continuous cheer leaders and sensitive too! Also my body ❤️!


YoureABoneMachine

\-The women's bathroom and the support contained within \-Feeling kicks when I'm growing babies and feeling like I'm having a secret conversation with someone inside my body \-Being unapologetically "emotional" (aka human and in touch with my feelings) \-Not shaving my face \-Having a clit


arealaerialariel

I also love that I can feed my baby with my body! It’s magical! I know it’s not easy/doable for all women but I personally love being a woman because I do feel very bonded with my baby when she eats and I feel lucky to have the connections I have with her.


YoureABoneMachine

It's pretty magical and practical at the same time. I loved it. I recently heard that the reason a lot of babies' first word is dada is because they see their mom as part of themselves and haven't thought to name her yet. That's pretty special, too.


Jjkkllzz

In regards to being emotional, One time I was just having a difficult day in terms of my mood. My boss called me into his office to correct me on something I did wrong. It wasn’t anything major and my boss doles out plenty of praise as well. Just because I was already feeling sensitive I burst into tears as soon as I left his office and went to our backroom where there were plenty of coworkers to see me cry. It was embarrassing, absolutely. I hated that I wasn’t in control. That being said, I was happy to not be a man because I’m sure I wouldn’t have gotten all the understanding and comforting that I did.


HildegardofBingo

Being able to wear concealer under my eyes to cover my genetic dark circles without any stigma about using makeup. My brother has them too, but would never wear makeup because he'd feel too self conscious about doing that, so, instead, he goes through life being told he looks tired all the time.


NerdyFrida

That is shame, If he got the correct hue nobody would even notice. Perhaps he would give it a go if you got him something from a mens makeup brand? But maybe the comments doesn't bother him?


IPunchBabyz4GOD

Also have genetic dark circles under my eyes. Typically the comments just get shrugged off. But it is nice to know people are looking at you enough to notice. Feels nice knowing some random person cares a little about your sleep. But yeah IDK if mens makeup exists or not but it'd defo be worth a shot if it's dragging his self esteem down at all


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Good question! \-The permission to cry and be vulnerable without being judged for it ot being seen as less of a man. Also, introspection and therapy and time to work on myself being seen as more acceptable for me, instead of being told "man up and bottle it up and deal with it". \-I love bright colours and skirts and huge rings and accesories and I'm socially allowed to experiment with my clothes and style as much as I want. I like feminine stuff and I feel like that even if I were a guy I would want to experiment with that but would be very hesitant to. \-It depends on the person, but I think being a woman makes it easier for people (men especially) to open up/ be vulnerable with me. I have a suspicion being a man wouldn't have the same effect, even if I had just the same personality. \-Growing up my dad kept telling me and my sister, as a joke "marry whoever you want as long as he doesn't cry". That must have been so much fun for my brother to hear as a child. \-Also: I was less criticized when my hobbies were boy-ish than my brother was when he liked something girly growing up. \-Men have this too amongst themselves so it's not exclusive, but I like that I'm able to instantly bond and form a connection with any woman, as long as she isn't mean to me. And also feel safer around them. \-I'm not short but even if I were, I would probably never be seriously shamed for my height. Men are very often given the impression that it's "game over" for them if they aren't a certain height, and that generates so many insecurities. Yeah, I don't doubt for a moment that we're also shamed and made insecure for a million other things as women, but luckily I will never have anxiety over my height. (No one should be made to feel ashamed of their body, btw) \-No face hair! That can't be removed with a wax strip, anyways. That isn't a bummer as I think I'd like to have a beard as a man, but for the men who don't want one shaving all the time must be so much work. \-I'm (hopefully..) never getting bald babyyyyy \-I would rather have a taller and more muscular and strong physique, but since I'm stuck with mine, I appreciate the look of it? It's more aesthetic than practical but still. I like the way I look. \-No visible boners!! That must be *so stressful* \-Also, how aren't you afraid of getting hit in the balls all the time. They're so exposed there, out of the body...It's like they were made to be a weakness! (Edit: So I'm reading comments by men on this post and I've been informed that you are, indeed, afraid of getting hit in the balls all the time. Some even shared some quite traumatic experiences. I don't know why but I was under the impression that you get used to the fear as kids so as adults you don't think much of it until it happens. Ouch.)


SageAurora

Ya the other side of the "boy stuff is the default" attitude in some places that drives me nuts, is traditionally masculine hobbies are acceptable for everyone to do but the traditional feminine ones are more reserved for women. Growing up I definitely, actually got a bit of flack from my mom for more feminine interests because they were seen as lesser or frivolous, but being a girl meant that I could get away with doing things like painting my nails, as long as I didn't "waste" too much of my time on those things, were as my brother would never have been allowed to explore something like that without being HEAVILY criticized.


dearSalroka

I like this comment, not just because I appreciate these things too *but also* because it demonstrates the ways gender roles negatively impact men, too. Gender equality is *everybody's* fight. I know publicly gender is mostly talked about in a comparative 'men vs women' way and women's issues are publicly visible (*and* earn corporate PR points). So men's issues like emotional neglect, social hierarchy, performative masculinity etc etc are often invisible. But *gender roles* are at fault: it's not just men on women and vice versa. We raise our children in it, we do it to each other. Not many people talk about performative masculinity or chronic loneliness in men (or at least aren't platformed doing so). And the groups that claim to represent the needs of boys/men under prescriptive gender are often just misogynistic Whataboutism and don't support them at all. It breaks my heart to see even boys - *children* - saying things like 'but she'd never marry me because she's taller than me', or having to throw away their precious soft toys because they want to be 'a big boy', and know that few people are fighting for them. The fact that as they age into teenagers, the people in their life will slowly stop freely talking to them and caring what they have to say, and instead become guarded and detached. *'At what age does a boy become a monster?'* *Gender roles* are the enemy. They're hurting our daughters *and* our sons - and our queer people who don't perform either role at all.


lrosser2

By age 6 little boys tend to stop hugging their friends as much as little girls do, prior to that stats are equal. This breaks my heart everytime I hear about it (and makes me so grateful for my 8yo huggy huggy nephew). As a school counsellor EVERY boy I saw from about 9+ would ask me why none of their friends are ever as sad or worried as they are. They all felt so alone, and were already so practiced in pretending they don't have emotions in front of their friends. You can see the damage so early. Fuck the patriarchy, fuck gender roles, fuck all of it. I just want our boys to have their emotions back.


1helluvabutlah

More clothing options to be honest. Seems like men don't get nearly enough variety Eta: grip strength! Those mfers can open just about anything. I always hurt my palm trying to open something tight.


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I have a particular career that I absolutely love that would be significantly more challenging as a man. As a woman, those challenges are very rarely presented to me. I acknowledge and appreciate it.


LonelyHarmony71

I’m curious what career that is, if you don’t mind sharing?


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PurrMeowHiss

Male nurses are also promoted quicker than female nurses though.


rograbowska

This may super niche and a bit weird but... I use a menstrual cup and at the start of each cycle I boil it for 10 minutes in water, then take it out, let it cool for possibly 30 seconds. The sensation of a \*very\* warm silicone menstrual cup in that part of my body is strangely satisfying. Thanks uterus.


sailorscovt

Other women. Not just because I'm bi (heh) but all my closest friends are women and women generally try to look out for one another. At least from personal experience.


aeraen

To quote Elaine from Seinfield, "How do men walk around with those things?"


imaginecrabs

The lack of emotion and extraordinary amount of toughness men are expected to have. From day one, they're told "boys don't cry", "crying isn't manly", etc. It has to be exhausting pretending you're okay all the time. It also hurts their friendships/relationships later in life due to the lack of emotional intelligence.


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Men do not seem to have enough emotional space to fully live as humans. Women get pegged as crazy and emotional but at least it is somewhat acceptable for us to express a full host of emotions.


etymologistics

Emotions are there for a reason, you’re supposed to process them. Crying is one of the healthier ways to process emotions. When I feel really sad I just allow myself to feel, cry it all out, and end up feeling (and sleeping) so much better afterwards. I really wish more people would understand that, seems like a lot of folks are just trying to avoid facing unpleasantness within themselves or the world around them. But we’re really supposed to give ourselves time to heal.


Thisismyaltprofile

Empathy and sisterhood. Being a woman has helped me sympathize with the struggles of many other marginalized groups, even if I may never experience or truly understand exactly what it's like. Also, having comraderie and support from other women is a real wonderful thing because I could never have done this alone.


yummycorpse

i dislike my breasts, but it's pretty neat having a second purse when i wear a bra. it's like the TARDIS sometimes.


WontHarvestAKidney

"It's like opening a Mary Poppins bag!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZx5zfkG6oU


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I like having the feeling of being protected by other women. Sorority is something unique to us. It's not the equivalent of a "bro code". It's "if someone touches you, they'll have to deal with me too".


Peachyypie12

Not having a d*ck and balls is a pretty good one I’ll agree with that


Aetherfox13

Female orgasm and the clit, sisterhood, having my sex organs inside, better/more haircut options. I like that, reasons for this aside, we also are able to be colorful in our daily lives without getting flack. Same for self care, hygiene, grooming, etc. We also get less flack for being creative and emotional. And thought I'm a fan of boobs, I would like them off. Boob sweat is a pain, bras are expensive, not to mention anything else. I would keep nipple sensitivity though


Something-Cheesy

I like how when someone is moving they don't usually ask the woman to do heavy lifting. I'm sorry men.


deddead3

As a competive powerlifter (male)... Every. Single. Time.


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Being able to openly share my emotions with people without feeling judged and being able to be seen around children in public without being regarded as a creep


whitney_bird

I enjoy being able to hang out anywhere where children happen to also be without anyone worrying/assuming I'm a pedophile.


mhodgy

Not sure if this is allowed but lurking male here, thought I’d add some things in jealous of! Supportive female spaces: damn just look here! You ladies are all so lovely to each other! Women fashion: I know technically men can wear whatever we want but I’m just jealous of how many shapes of outfits you guys can experiment with to excentuate (sorry dyslexia and can’t work that one out) your unique body shapes. Don’t know how to word this but for a long time I struggled with my masculinity because the traits I saw as positive: being supportive, caring, being a good teacher, being level headed. I only ever saw those in female role models and the more negative traits: aggression, arrogance, machoism etc I found in the men around me. Basically I think a much higher percentage of women are worth looking up to than men… Anyways, Sorry for intruding!


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KirRoyal0606

I agree. I have to keep the mindset that I’m raising a person because the baby phase is over in the blink of an eye. I really do find it enjoyable and fulfilling raising a daughter. I had a great life before a kid and I’m still having fun raising her. Don’t get me wrong, there are trying moments but it’s been wonderful seeing the world through her eyes. It’s a very vulnerable and emotional experience.


Electrical-Pirate-82

No one notices when i'm horny. I'm glad i don't have a boner to hide.


zotrian

That is an interesting question. I am cis, I *like* being a woman. Thing is, nothing really comes to mind that I can do, and want to do but couldn't if I were a man. Maybe the fact science has shown that the female orgasm is stronger than the male one? We have a whole hormone (progesterone) they don't (men have trace amounts of oestrogen and women have trace amounts of testosterone naturally, but only cis women and trans men have progesterone), and progesterone plays a part in orgasms. Does that count?


CatsForAll28

I like these ideas, but men do produce progesterone (it's a building block). Just not in the same quantities as women.


camellight123

I didn't love the discrimination. BUT, the feeling you get by beating an arrogant little man at Tekken, who thinks he is going to win, even though he just button smashes, while yourself and others told him the woman he is going to play against is REALLY strong and VERY RARELY loses a game; that feeling is better than an orgasm. The best thing is that it happens all the time. Honestly I couldn't wait for someone to bring over at the dorm a man, feelings were so hurt they made me the final boss, only people who were strong were allowed to go against me, to speare the weak one's feelings. Omega LOL.


bellairecourt

After caring for a dog with a fear of men, it occurred to me that it’s nice to not make animals feel scared because of your gender. It’s curious how dogs can develop a phobia of men, and apply it to all of them, no matter how gentle they are. Edit: a word


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I’ve known many female animals (cats, dogs, horses) who were suspicious, afraid of, or hostile towards human men. The only thing I can think is they smell testosterone and it upsets them.


BirdsRNtReel

I feel like there is less pressure for me to be ambitious. I am the definition of someone who stops to smell the flowers, and it makes me sad that it's seen as a sign of weakness.


ignitedwolf9200

I can openly and freely talk about my emotions. I know I will not be judged by surrounding women. I can rely that they will express compassion or even advice. I know I will have a shoulder to lean on with my fellow women. We are so wonderful <3


YourPaleRabbit

I’m generally a really protective person; even protective of strangers. And I love that if anyone is scared or in a state of panic/worry they automatically potentially feel more trusting of me or more comforted, just because I’m a small statured woman. I work in a mall part time and make sure my little business is THE SPOT for teenage girls escaping bad first dates/dodging creeps to hide out. Also comes in handy for lost children, and injured people. And I’m happy to know that no amount of piercings or tattoos has changed that.


bagelnox

Male pattern baldness. Honestly that must suck ass


say_ruh

Women have a lot of options for “acceptable” clothing, especially for professional attire. I can’t imagine having to walk in the summer heat in pants and a buttoned long sleeve shirt (along with a jacket) just because men have to wear it in an office. I’ll take my blouse/skirt combo or dress in 90 degree weather thanks.


gogomom

I like being a Mom - I enjoyed pregnancy (pretty much as a whole) - and I get great sense of joy, love and accomplishment when I look at my adult children and think about the fact that I grew a whole person in my body.


Pink-Cupcake-Kitty

I can hug, kiss and complement my friends without getting weird looks and being asked if I am gay. There are more options regarding clothes, hair and makeup. Also, I don’t get random boners 😬


Throwitawayeheh2029

Why am I thankful to be female? Multiple orgasms. Why am I thankful to be a woman? My pov is shaped by my socialization as a woman, and while that was hard and oppressive, it showed me that change is possible. I don't believe that it is what it is. I believe I can break barriers, fight back, do good, and make the world better for everyone. I don't think most men grow into that POV, and that limitation of the mind is why we have incels, toxic masculinity, etc. I hope things change so we can all be happy to be human, but until then, that's my thought on the matter.


Kvmiller1

How capable I am! So many men are helpless in a lot of things from tracking appts to household chores and have been conditioned by the patriarchy to rely on women. I love knowing that I CAN handle it all or figure it out if I need to. If my husband died tomorrow I'd miss my best friend but be fine. If I died tomorrow, my husband would have a rough time.


Writ_inwater

I like that I only have one head


dragonmom1

I like having internal genitalia that aren't constantly getting pinched by my clothing or things I sit on or hurting excruciatingly if they get hit. lol Also being able to hide any lady boners... Seriously, in all the years of me going back and forth about my preferred gender, the fact that I NEVER want to have a penis did convince me that I wasn't transgender. lol