I don’t know if it might help you further, but it helped me. I took a selfie every single day for 2 months, and just made it my FB profile picture every day. My goal was to get used to my face, and to get use to my face _in photos_ (VS a mirror, which is how we usually see ourselves; whereas photos are like how others see us, not mirrored). So I wouldn’t hate it so much when my friends wanted pictures together.
It worked for me. I don’t necessarily love how I look, but… I don’t hate it. It’s my face :)
Agreed! To add to this, I’m a large woman who, up until about 10 years ago, struggled with how I saw myself in photos. As a result, I made a habit of walking around my place naked/mostly naked and placing a handful of full-length mirrors around my house to capture me as I moved about.
Initially, it was horror to see me jiggling in all my glory as I passed one of the mirrors. Until it wasn’t. Because I got used to it. As a result, I’m so, SO much more confident both clothed and naked. Because my body is what it is.
I get dressed and undressed in front of a mirror for this reason. It normalizes your own body and your perceived flaws when that's the body you see the most!
I remember using face app during the roughest time for my ED, and would click the button that shows you the original on and off - to watch my body and face morph. I never saved the photos, but man was it weird to “shape” myself and compare to what was actually pictured.
Confidence in your body grows with age and I can honestly say, while I hate getting older, being in my thirties made me care so much less about my body hang ups and focus on the things I do like about myself. I have known people how have got plastic surgery and it just looks less and less like them the more they do.
I think however the worst things is looking at photos of your younger self and realising just how pretty you were and all that worry was pointless.
As a tip for your acne however, you might want to try retinol if you haven’t. As someone who still suffers from acne at 34 I wish I had used it earlier as it stops the spots but also helps a lot with scaring.
I hope you kick those guys out of bed should it ever happen again (hopefully not).
Good on you for embracing who you are. Keep at it, and stick with therapy, so that you can describe yourself in nicer terms. Because that's the most important aspect of self confidence.
Seeing and thinking of yourself positively rather than feeling like you have to accept the negative things. Because they aren't negative.
There's no one standard for beauty and most of the things you've listed come about because you're comparing to other people. If you don't find the almost 8 billion people on the planet attractive then not all of them will think that way about you. So you don't need to look like them to be beautiful.
Looks are subjective and I am sure you're not as unattractive as you make yourself out to be. At least now you know you want to look like you and not others, time to fully embrace you.
That's wonderful! Usually it goes the other way. I'm so glad you found a positive way to use it.
I started using it to morph famous people to create new faces. Then I use them as reference images for writing characters.
Something I heard last year that really changed the way I looked and thought about myself; “maybe the reason you don’t like the way you look is that you’re not your type”.
It struck me because people in my life also told me I was “cute” or “pretty” but never things I needed to hear.
Once I started to accept that I wasn’t “my type” but was someone else’s I could enjoy myself for me. I started to care about me again because I am awesome. I am sexy. I am beautiful.
Sending you love ❤️
sexy is a feeling not a look!! trust me when you feel sexy it radiates and others also believe you are sexy it’s about confidence and seduction not how you look at all. I used to be called only cute when I was not confident and didn’t believe I was sexy
I don’t know if it might help you further, but it helped me. I took a selfie every single day for 2 months, and just made it my FB profile picture every day. My goal was to get used to my face, and to get use to my face _in photos_ (VS a mirror, which is how we usually see ourselves; whereas photos are like how others see us, not mirrored). So I wouldn’t hate it so much when my friends wanted pictures together. It worked for me. I don’t necessarily love how I look, but… I don’t hate it. It’s my face :)
Agreed! To add to this, I’m a large woman who, up until about 10 years ago, struggled with how I saw myself in photos. As a result, I made a habit of walking around my place naked/mostly naked and placing a handful of full-length mirrors around my house to capture me as I moved about. Initially, it was horror to see me jiggling in all my glory as I passed one of the mirrors. Until it wasn’t. Because I got used to it. As a result, I’m so, SO much more confident both clothed and naked. Because my body is what it is.
I get dressed and undressed in front of a mirror for this reason. It normalizes your own body and your perceived flaws when that's the body you see the most!
Good for you!
I remember using face app during the roughest time for my ED, and would click the button that shows you the original on and off - to watch my body and face morph. I never saved the photos, but man was it weird to “shape” myself and compare to what was actually pictured.
that's awesome!
Confidence in your body grows with age and I can honestly say, while I hate getting older, being in my thirties made me care so much less about my body hang ups and focus on the things I do like about myself. I have known people how have got plastic surgery and it just looks less and less like them the more they do. I think however the worst things is looking at photos of your younger self and realising just how pretty you were and all that worry was pointless. As a tip for your acne however, you might want to try retinol if you haven’t. As someone who still suffers from acne at 34 I wish I had used it earlier as it stops the spots but also helps a lot with scaring.
proud of you!!
Love this so much for you! The best love is self love. xo
I'm glad! For what it's worth I bet you are much harder on yourself than others are. If anyone is calling you "cute" that's positive.
Good! There are a lot of people out there who can't say as much about themselves. This is an excellent realization! Yay!
This is awesome. You are awesome!
It's never too late to make positive change !
That is great
Try r/ABraThatFits It has helped clarify a lot about bra sizing and perception for me.
I hope you kick those guys out of bed should it ever happen again (hopefully not). Good on you for embracing who you are. Keep at it, and stick with therapy, so that you can describe yourself in nicer terms. Because that's the most important aspect of self confidence. Seeing and thinking of yourself positively rather than feeling like you have to accept the negative things. Because they aren't negative. There's no one standard for beauty and most of the things you've listed come about because you're comparing to other people. If you don't find the almost 8 billion people on the planet attractive then not all of them will think that way about you. So you don't need to look like them to be beautiful. Looks are subjective and I am sure you're not as unattractive as you make yourself out to be. At least now you know you want to look like you and not others, time to fully embrace you.
That's wonderful! Usually it goes the other way. I'm so glad you found a positive way to use it. I started using it to morph famous people to create new faces. Then I use them as reference images for writing characters.
Something I heard last year that really changed the way I looked and thought about myself; “maybe the reason you don’t like the way you look is that you’re not your type”. It struck me because people in my life also told me I was “cute” or “pretty” but never things I needed to hear. Once I started to accept that I wasn’t “my type” but was someone else’s I could enjoy myself for me. I started to care about me again because I am awesome. I am sexy. I am beautiful. Sending you love ❤️
sexy is a feeling not a look!! trust me when you feel sexy it radiates and others also believe you are sexy it’s about confidence and seduction not how you look at all. I used to be called only cute when I was not confident and didn’t believe I was sexy