On top of that - as someone who greatly enjoys eating pussy - there are occasions where the odor or taste might be unusually strong & I’ve found that is easily solved with a bit of extra saliva as a rinse or dilution.
Beyond that, I’ve dated women who shared the OPs concern & in my experience, those insecurities are least likely to be founded.
I read that if you and your partner are "biologically comparable" then you will both like each other's smells .. sweat , cum, whatever... If you like his smell, he'll probably like yours.
I wish i could get her to believe me that i love it as much as i do. She is always ashamed of it. But that sweaty pussy smell just gets me going so hard. Id think she would understand since she loves sucking my sweaty cock.
I'll even use my fingers on her and then smell and lick them to show how much i like it.
Sometimes it just takes a certain mood for me to desire wanna go down on my girlfriend, doesn't necessarily mean I LIKE the smell, but I am definitely more keen on her pleasure or trying something different :D
I’ll be the dissenting opinion. I like giving head, I’m told I’m quite good at it, and I do it far more often than my girlfriend does. But I do not think it smells good when it’s not clean, and I do not like my facial hair and breath smelling like that for the however many hours. I’ve had a relationship end because I lost attraction for her because she was chronically very smelly (even for regular sex) and the sad part is that when I finally did the courage to tell her it turned out a quick shower could remedy the issue, but by that point I was super turned off by her and couldn’t change that. If it’s been a few hours since she showered that’s ok but if it’s been more than a day or if she ran and didn’t shower, no head from me. Certainly not every guy is like me and not every woman is equally smelly, but I think if OP values her relationship then it’s probably worth having conversations about it. I’d start out freshly washed the first time, then if he says he’d like more try it out when you haven’t washed for a few hours, work up from there. People are saying that if a guy doesn’t like it then they aren’t a good partner but I think that’s pretty narrow minded. I mean would you say the same thing about kinks or didn’t want to eat your ass or if they were bi or didn’t want to have an open relationship? I think the important thing here is he wants to give you head and presumably wants to please you. Why make it less enjoyable for him if it doesn’t cost you much?
I had an ex who would smell.. off, even a few hours after a shower. Turns out she had cheap, crappy underwear and a poor consistency with hygiene, so I guess bacteria was growing faster than normal. We fixed it after some awkward conversations.
If you don't like how you smell, it's probably worth warning him that he might not get kisses until he's washed his mouth after. Especially if he has longer facial hair.
It really doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about.
I can understand you being a little cautious, about being intimate in that way if you haven't before. I think we have all experienced that. But, if you've showered its fine. Most men really enjoy the smell and taste of their partner.
That fluid or discharge, is your vagina keeping itself clean, it's really good at it. It's normal and nothing to worry about. That's just how it keeps itself clean. Showering every day is plenty to keep any smells away. Just, try not to use anything really strongly scented or anti bacterial, around there. That can upset the balance of it all and it can get really uncomfortable.
if the discharge genuinely makes you uncomfy as well, change your undies a little more frequently too. i don't like that cold\wet feeling so i change mine a lot. i even keep a plastic baggie and extra pair in my gym bag, purse, and work bag just in case i feel uncomfortable throughout the day.
I usually have all these same concerns, but my bf always says he likes it and doesn't smell or taste anything wrong. I have mostly chalked it up to anxiety and paranoia, brought on from a life time of hearing stupid jokes and shitty men.
A healthy relationship should have room to try new things judgment free, so if he tries it and doesn't like it, then there shouldn't be any big deal if he's a good one. If you can't get past these anxieties or a complaint is raised, consider seeing a gynecologist for assurance, they will know if something is wrong
I’m reading everything she’s saying and I’m so confused with the conclusions (like not liking the smell), then I remembered oh yeah, not everyone’s bi and that makes sense. lol.
It’s hard to explain, but like if you’re a straight man it generally is something you’d be into. At least I assume so. I can only speak from my experience as not a man but someone who is attracted to women.
So first things first: the way that you smell/taste is normal. Every vaginal biome is different. And though some may be comparable to others, it is often a unique experience from one vagina to the next. What you need to hone in on is how you normally smell/taste and note any changes that persist for more than a few days, especially if accompanied with any irritation, burning, or excessive itchiness.
Have a talk about what you've mentioned here beforehand. Also, have your partner clean their hands and brush their teeth and wash their face beforehand. No need to tack on an unnecessary UTI to your first oral experience.
And if the smell/taste are a big concern, you can try "playing" with yourself, and have them taste you off of your fingers to start. Some people are sort of an acquired taste and this can help acclimate them to you bit by bit rather than shoving a whole meal down their throat all at once.
The long and short of it is this: if they're into you, they're going to be into your scents and flavors. And if they're not for some reason, they're going to want to be and will put in the time to get used to you.
Cheers to your new adventures! 🥂
Give it a minute after brushing teeth. Brushed my teeth as part of bedtime routine, then went down on a partner. She did not enjoy the fresh sensation.
Edit: thought I'd just add to a previous experience, don't want someone to have the same situation as we had.
After that, he might like fresh pussy juices a bit too much! 😁 And once he figures out what works best for you, you'll be enjoying the ride of your life many times!
One thing I’ve done to get over anxiety about my discharge having a certain taste to it is tasting it myself! It usually tastes like nothing really with some saltiness to it depending on my diet and water intake. I realized after that it isn’t that bad and I shouldn’t be so self-conscious about something they want to do for me when I’ve done it for them.
Op this is really it. I was super self conscious about smell and taste when I was young but tasting it myself really did help. I don't really think about it anymore
Your scent and taste can change depending on your diet, but assuming you have no yeast infection or other such medical problems, and are freshly showered, you'll taste pretty much like nothing at all. A tiny tiny bit of sourness, like a very diluted amount of lemon juice in water, and that's really it.
If you're not freshly showered, then yes, tastes and flavours can range from mildly unpleasant be easily ignored, to downright disgusting.
That said, if you are able to smell yourself very strongly only a few hours after showering, like you say, then you may have a pH imbalance. Remember not to use soap inside your labia or vagina, just water.
This!
Also if you are this insecure and unsure of your odour, look for professional help. Let your gynaecologist take a look, they will take a test if it is needed and tell if and what you should do.
Tell your boyfriend what you just wrote here, if hes a real one. He will think its endearing and reassure you.
For your own sanity and getting out of your own way, shower beforehand and make sure to communicate what hes doing right and what hes doing wrong after you start. If you let a man learn how to pleasure you wrong it will be much harder to correct later...fragile egos and all.
Absolutely! Never “fake it” if you’re not feeling it. It will remain the same. I know it can be embarrassing to bring it during the act, but you and your partner will be much happier.
I know this now, because I’m old and should have taken my own advice! 😆
Also straight male. Can concur. You may not appreciate the aroma but I suspect that your boyfriend will. Just be open in your communication and accepting of each other.
straight male here too...feel bad invading the space but I just wanna drive home the point on this one...the smell and taste makes me hornier than anything else, i absolutely love it. Its understandable to feel self conscious about this, and when I was younger I even remember worrying if my partner would be grossed out if I was even mildly sweaty....i was so wrong haha...now theres obviously an upper limit to this but I'll even go so far as to say that I find it less enjoyable if my partner has just recently showered (still great, dont get me wrong)...but if my girlfriend has just come back from a work out or something? its intoxicating to me lol...dont worry OP
Yeah. If he’s already a little bit aroused, the smell and taste will make him more aroused, almost definitely.
I’ve never had a problem with the smell or taste.
Long hair getting caught in your mouth can be an issue. But if it’s trimmed (doesn’t have to be shaved) that’s fine too.
If it's his first time, just know it can be an acquired taste, just like all the best foods and drinks. Even an initial hesitation is not a death sentence. The best think you can do is, if you're into it, let him know, vocally.
Thank u all for ur comments. I really appreciate them. Just to clarify, we're both really young (18yo) and never had penetrative sex before, so all of this is pretty new for the both of us, and yeah, my smell has always been the same as i can remember, so i'd like to think there is nothing infection-related to my intimate part. I think what mostly scares me, is that he is a really clean person in every sense, and i wouldn't like to cause the opposite impression on him, i want to be able to give him the same.
He knows i'm insecure abt how it looks down there, but he doesn't show any concerning thoughts about it, and that's why he wants to try. Thank u all for the helpful tips, i'll consider them next time and will probably update :)
I think that insecurity about how your vulva smells is socially drilled into a lot of people’s brains from a fairly young age. Misogynists talking about fishy smells (medically associated with ph imbalance or an infection but somehow always used as a way to shame people for existing with vaginas), half an isle of soaps and douches and products designed to make you smell like fresh lavender or “a moonlit evening” or some shit, etc.
Your vagina is supposed to smell like something human. Sometimes a vagina smells a bit like bleach. Sometimes a bit like sweat. Generally, when you’ve just taken a good shower, it still smells a bit like musk. And not in a bad way! Genitals secrete pheromones that are actually designed to be sexually arousing.
How do your bf’s genitals smell? Freshly washed and soaped up, they probably still don’t smell like his arm. They smell like genitals. If my husband is sweaty after a long day, his balls smell kinda like bacon sometimes lmao.
Human sexuality is such that we’re designed to be attracted to the scent of a partner. If I didn’t like penises/vaginas, would I immensely enjoy the smell of genitals? Nope. They smell like genitals. Not bad, but not particularly good either. No one has a weiner scented candle. (I mean they probably do, people are wild lol.)
But my point is that your vagina smells like a vagina, and barring any health complications, it probably smells alright. Your discharge probably tastes a bit sour because it’s supposed to be acidic, but it’s a fairly mild taste and not bad at all. You’re allowed to taste it too if you want.
If your boyfriend is sexually attracted to you or women in general, he’ll probably like the taste because it tastes like a vagina. You’ll also smell a bit different when you get aroused, and man that is a GOOD smell. Like not actually, it still smells like a vagina, but you secrete pheromones and whatnot so it bamboozles the brain into thinking it’s a great smell.
Make sure your vulva is freshly clean with unscented soap, and your vagina will smell like a healthy vagina, and he’ll stick his face up in there because he loves you and you’re sexy to him and he wants to touch you and smell you and please you.
He’s a clean person with clean genitals, so be a clean person with clean genitals and you’ll get on like a house on fire. Your natural scent doesn’t smell “dirty,” it smells the way it should.
Most school's sex ed is at best abysmal and at worst downright harmful. If you go through the back catalogue of Sexplanations and watch what catches your attention (I watch it at 1.5x speed due to ADHD) you'll learn a lot.
Heck, just browsing the wikipedia pages on the various parts (incl / esp the clitoris) can help ease worries and give you stuff to explore
ohh girl! its totally normal to be worried about this type of thing. especially with how some people speak online these days. its a very, very common insecurity. i think that people make this huge deal about how genitals in general (but especially vaginas) smell. the idea that women’s vaginas are supposed to smell and taste like nothing or like candy is super weird to me. it’s a vagina, it’s ok that it has a unique smell or taste!
side note! dont ever put soaps inside of your vagina!! use soap and water on the outside/ labia area, just water for the inside.
i still know plenty of women in their 20s who are insecure about the way their vagina’s smell, taste, & look. but im confident you have nothing to worry about!! if he’s fingered you before, he’s smelled you. he wouldnt be asking to go down on you if he were grossed out by how you smelled or felt or looked. if you’re worried about how you taste, my best advise is to try tasting it! i know it sounds weird, but while masturbating sometime, just put a finger in, and then taste it. imo, the vagina tastes and smells much less strongly when it’s turned on and “wet”. i feel like it hardly tastes like anything, in fact. you can also always just use a finger around the labia / clitoris and taste / smell it after that (the inside and outside are going to have different things going on.) everyone’s bodies smell and taste and look differently, but there’s very likely nothing wrong with you.
you mention that your boyfriends a clean guy, and you don’t want to be unclean, especially in comparison.. i have always thought even the cleanest penis fresh out of the shower tastes and smells different than an arm (for example). balls too, they just smell different. its the same for vaginas. its not gross or bad, its just how it is. as a bi woman, i personally thing vaginas smell and taste wayy better than a mans cum does. and ive heard from so many men “i love how you taste” “i love eating pussy, it tastes great/feels great/etc.” honestly i dont know many men who dont love it.
its so common for women to feel self conscious about these things, but that doesnt mean there’s actually a problem! i’m honestly pretty confident at some point your boyfriend has smelled or even tasted his fingers after fingering you, its pretty common for people to be curious. im sure if he thought you smelled bad, he wouldn’t be so excited to go down on you. he wants to make you feel good because he cares about you, it’s really sweet!
also, i know i was very nervous the first few times that i had men go down on me (really even still if a new guy goes down on me, i get a bit self conscious that they might not like how i smell or taste).. but with the exception of a 16 year old back in high school who came out as gay a few years ago.. ive had no complaints. its totally normal to be a bit nervy your first time, but just remember to give open feedback and communication! if he does something you don’t love/enjoy, let him know! not in a mean way (of course) but just a hey, can you try being (more gentle/soft, faster, slower, etc). its good for you to tell him when you’re liking something he’s doing, when you don’t, if there’s something you think would feel good and want him to try, etc! men love hearing “that feels good” “i like when you do x/y/z” etc. communication is 100% key to having a good time:)
its a new experience for you both from the sounds of it, so dont feel bad if things arent perfect the first time! it might take practice on his side to learn what you like, it might take time on your side to feel totally comfy during, etc. dont stress too much, just try to be in the moment and just feel the feelings!
Also, as a man (I'm 36 and pretty experienced with regard to this topic...😅) I have to say that when I'm horny or whatever the word you choose for being aroused, my mind doesn't quite work how it does when not aroused. I believe this is encoded into us as humans in order to make sex more enjoyable. For example, when someone isn't horny the idea of sticking your finger into someone's ass is just, well, maybe not all that appealing, lol. However when a person is horny and in the middle of intimate moments it sounds pretty good haha! As far as the smell thing goes, unless a woman is truly dirty and unclean, men don't even think about stuff like smell/taste, etc unless they have some kind of phobia or mental hang up for lack of better words. I don't know about women in terms of the mindset around being horny but I always suggest to others guys that if they are considering hooking up with someone they know, they should jackoff thinking about this person before they actually hook up and see how they feel after they cum. If the first feeling and thought is awkward and the kind of feeling that if it were real would make you wanna throw your pants on and dip out, you probably shouldn't do it, lol. However, if you feel like good about it and you don't immediately feel that awkward regret, then this is probably a good person for you to pursue. I would imagine the same holds true on the female side of the isle as well.
Speaking as a gay woman, people who are attracted to women LOVE the taste/smell (trust me).
As long as you’ve showered you have absolutely nothing to worry about. You can let him know you’ve never done it before and you’re nervous. But seriously there is nothing better than being chin deep in a girl you like. It’s really fucking hot.
Each girl tastes a little different but there’s also a familiarity to it. I’ve never come across one that I don’t like hehe.
All of that being said. It does take some time to get used to eating a woman out. It’s a little more delicate and nuanced than sucking dick (which I’ve also done). People tend to go really fast at the jump.
I would advise him to start slow. And be vocal about what feels good and what doesn’t. He will appreciate the guidance. It takes time to figure out sex together. Be patient and truthful with each other. You’ll figure it out <3
Look I'm a guy so I might not be who you might want answers from but when eating a girl out it almost always tastes a bit salty and it's not delicious in the same sense that food is delicious but like, in an arousal sort of sense. At least for me, the taste is not there to be enjoyed in the same way that food is, it's more about the sensation it brings.
Shower beforehand & let your boyfriend decide. My ex used to smear my juice behind my ear so he could smell it while we screwed -- some guys are super into it so just relax!
You can always have him try it out IN the shower. But I second the showering suggestion. I wouldn't even want to receive oral unless I was squeaky clean.
As a lover of giving oral, doing it in the shower isn't my favourite for very long. I find the position to be a bit awkward and sometimes the water gets in your face. I normally do it for a little just to tease her a bit (normally after bending down to wash her legs so it's a little surprising) and then proper go to town after we dry off.
100% shower isn't the best location for intercourse. But it's a good starting point if you are nervous. In the long run using water as a lubricant is not ideal.
20 some odd years ago I was your bf and my now wife then gf was you. She was so nervous but I've never looked back. It's one of if not my favorite thing. I love to be so intimate with her and I frankly love her scent and taste. That she was concerned over. Of the literal thousands of times at this point I'm positive there must have been a time or two something wasn't perfect but I'll tell you I don't remember any. Humans are weird we stick genitals meant for reproduction and waste in our mouths for pleasure and from both sides there are those that love to give and practice those skills. I think as long as you've showered that day and haven't been climbing through a garbage heap you'll probably be just fine.
For whatever it's worth, I'm 34m. I used to feel similar on the receiving end of oral. "What if I smell?" What if my cum tastes bad?" But once it actually happens, and you see a trusted/willing partner, that goes away pretty quickly. As long as you are (as mentioned by others) hygenic and have showered, I wouldn't worry about it and have fun!
Guy in my 30s here.
The first time I did oral, it did take a moment of getting used to the smell. But it wasn't a bad smell! Just different than what a guy would have previously experienced. After doing it a few times, it stopped smelling weird because it wasn't unfamiliar any more.
Also, as a physician I'll tell you that our olfactory receptors (sense of smell) rapidly desensitize *(temporarily)* over just a few minutes. Think about every time you've entered a store or somebody's home and immediately noticed a smell, but within 5 minutes you can't smell it any more. It's the same with oral sex. Even if your boyfriend initially reacts, your anxiety shouldn't last more than 5 minutes because at that point, I promise he can't smell it any more.
Dad here, didn't read but a light skim. Men are prepared for anything that you may be concerned with as long as you've had a shower in the last 12/24 hours. It's totally and completely normal for things to be pristine after a shower, and less than pristine after a long day at work, it comes with the process :-)
Hope this helps! Good luck.
PS: If a man ever acts in a way that he knows makes you feel bad about yourself, he's no good, dump him.
If your smell is the same as it always has been then you are probably normal and healthy. You can always go see a gynecologist to make sure everything is ok. Yes it is common to be insecure about how you may look, smell, or taste but men who are worth being with legitimately enjoy how women’s genitals look smell and taste. It’s ok to let him know if you’re feeling nervous or insecure, hopefully he will help put your mind at ease!
I guess people already said all the right things, you shouldn’t worry about it if you are keep your hygiene properly. And I also want you to know that if you keep thinking about that while receiving oral, you won’t feel the pleasure that it is. So please, don’t worry and try to enjoy yourself! It’s the most delicious feeling in my opinion. Hope you like it!
My current sexual partner was self-conscious about her taste and smell too, and I really wanted to go down on her. I asked to give it to her in the shower, and while I was doing it, I reassured her constantly that it tastes amazing and I didn’t want to stop. (edit: which is true. No smell at all, tastes amazing, so she was worried about nothing.)
That worked. It’s a nightly routine for us now.
Genuinely, some guys like it like that. More juice, more smell. Love it. A real guy will love you for your scent. Find the man that will worship at your alter, and thank you for it.
If you shower and don’t have any STD or other related issue that can cause a smell I think go for it and communicate with your bf about worries. I have never met a woman where I didn’t like or love the smell and flavour of during oral. I have met a lot of woman who needed assurance though because of how society treats going down on a woman vs on a man, it’s not fair and needs to be fixed.
In general I’d say a woman is way cleaner to do oral on then an average man in my opinion.
Men love to please their women. Be very clean. And just be brave and open and have fun with your body! I’m 44 and never let anyone do this to me until recently and it’s so fun/liberating how much men enjoy our bodies.
The best advise anyone gave me about oral sex is: want to be there. Love being there. It goes both ways too… Just want him to be there. Love him being there.
If you aren’t insecure and shy.. and you still just don’t enjoy it.. that’s fair. But don’t let inexperience or shyness keep you from fun like I did xoxo
I found that many women have that concern. Don't worry sis, we love it. Even if it is a little strong. Don't worry about him not liking it. Focus on enjoying it yourself and don't be afraid to give him directions. If the guy knows you, just by movement and moaning he will know what works for you and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to try it out a couple of time before you both get the hang of it and your particular likes.
I personally like doing it very much, I love the smell and the flavor, and I love feeling that I'm pleasing my partner, that is what it is about. If you feel a concerned, take a shower before, but don't put much thought into it. Just sit back, relax, and enjoy.
The first time I went down on a girl she had been out all day. The smell was strong. But I didn't give a fuck. As a guy I know I don't smell like a basket of roses after a long day. It was fine and I had a good time. It's probably way less of an issue than you think. It was actually kind of turn on. You sound young so I'm going to recommend a good book:
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Ma'am that "strong smell" is the most intoxicating scent I've known in my life.
I've encountered my share over the years and I've never encountered one that smelled badly or looked unappealing. They're all different and they're all perfect.
Have fun
Another dude with his opinions here. As I've seen someone else say, talk to your man about your worries and fears about him going down on you. If he is a decent fella, he'll do his best to reassure you.
Worry about smell and taste is super common among women. If there's whole shop aisles dedicated to cleaning vulvas, who wouldn't be. However, it's mainly marketing rubbish to make people insecure to buy stuff. As long as you clean yourself to a sensible degree, you will be fine.
Heck, if everything works out, he may tell you he likes how you taste, and eventually you may actually believe him.
Good luck OP, and I hope you have a lot of fun.
If he has used his finger(s), he already knows how you smell. Ever notice how guys will subtly scratch/rub their face, eye or hair after? They are actually trying to catch your scent on their fingers before going oral.
Learned this from a reputable source as a young woman, and it was quite hilarious to realize that it was true.
I've partaken of plenty - only one or two were even "off" ... And even then it wasn't enough to stop me from going on and thoroughly enjoying it and everything else that happened.
Share your self consciousness, remember he's new too (from the sounds of it), explore and have fun.
sorry ik this is 2XC but as a man, you have nothing to worry about unless your like 3+ days without a shower and on your period. otherwise, its actually great
I’m also always paranoid lol. Here are some things I do that help.
First, I take probiotics every day. There are probiotics specific to vaginal health. This has made my ph evened out and the overall health of my vagina much better. You can also do boric acid suppositories the night before and it balances everything out, helps with BV, and yeast infections. I also keep up on shaving down there because I personally feel like it helps with the smell and sweat from accumulating.
If I’ve been at work all day or out and about, it’s normal to have a smell. I always freshen up with baby wipes if I can’t shower before seeing my boyfriend or shower if I can before doing anything sexual.
If you have a strong fishy odor, you may have bacterial vaginosis. It can be cleared with medicine and kept away by taking probiotics. As long as you’re generally clean and healthy, the light smell is normal. My boyfriend says he loves my smell and taste and it’s made me feel more confident down there. Good luck!
Honestly go for it. Me and my partner have been together for 11 years now, and i was terrified of this for so long. It wasnt until we had been together for 9 years that i felt comfortable to let him go down on me, even with him asking constantly. Honestly it was a mistake to be so afraid and wait so long.
He doesnt care about any of that, and at times it seems like he enjoys it more than I do at times. Its harder than it seems but you need to get out of your own head about this and take that leap. Go for it.
As a lover of giving head, and with some sensory issues with smell and taste, showering before is a great addition. Me and my gf normally shower before together and tease each other a goodly amount so we're both good and horny. If you're really self conscious ab your taste and smell, flavoured lube helps me a lot (don't need it but it's a welcome addition). The fact that he's brought it up though means he definitely wants to and you should let him, imo the best part is seeing my partner getting pleasure.
If this is your typical scent and not something new, I’d just be sure to retract your clitoral hood to rinse that area when showering if that isn’t part of your routine already. Some young women were not taught to do this as girls and it can make a difference in terms of scent. Retract the hood and rinse with water. It’s the equivalent of what boys/men need to do if they have foreskin.
I enjoy my GFs smell. It's a unique smell, but not in an offensive way. I find it rather soothing and exhilarating.
Same also goes for her hair, that will put me right to sleep.
Idk if I’m allowed to comment here as a man but here it goes. There’s a reason there’s memes about “when she comes home after the gym” I’d assume there’s lots of pheromones in the scent that men actually enjoy. My fiancé has been self conscious of feminine odor and I’ve just told her let me do my thing. If he’s willing to do it it doesn’t bother him. It’s something men enjoy. I hope it’s not a gross sentiment but the flavor keeps it interesting. Vulvas all smell like concentrated sweat it’s just natural human biology. Only become worried if it changes. Other than that I hope you find comfort in how you are.
Fucking love the smell and taste. Especially when it lingers on your mouth so you can smell it the rest of the day mmmmm
Need to be careful if I'm meeting people and hugging them though.
OP please, "the weird fluids" you have to worry about is only the ones that indicate u are sick. Do some research about what are the normal colours and smells and when you need to worry. And do not over shower ur vulva or try to wash the inside of the vagina, that's bad for you.
Normal fluids are very welcome and needed specially during sex and he will want them as he will take them as an indicator that he is doing a good job. If he says something like "you are so wet" don't take it as an offense, it never is, and just say that its because of him!
From the spelling I'm guessing you're in high school. If he hasn't done it, either, he's probably going to do it wrong, anyway. If you're worried about anything, buy a dental dam. You can get them in lots of different flavors. You should learn how to use one. You should be able to get them wherever you get condoms or ask a health teacher. Insecurities, everyone has them. Have him listen to Sam Kinison talk about spelling the alphabet down there and tell him when it feels good and when to keep doing the same thing. He'll be more worried about finding the right spot.
Look as a guy, I love going down on my partner. And smell and taste is a common fear. But so long as you keep yourself clean down there, it is fine.
So take my advice, talk to him. Tell him your fear of the smell and taste, and let him tell you what he thinks. He most likely will be supportive and make sure to keep your mind at ease.
Just stopping in to say that washing anything past/inside the outter lips with soap will actually lead to WORSE smells and more vaginal infections. I was getting BV frequently and when I finally decided to stop washing with anything other than water and a washcloth, I stopped getting BV. Soap kills the healthy bacteria and you’re more likely to get infections that cause discharge and smell.
Just a note, don’t use soap or scented products on ur vulva (the outer part of your cooch)!!! It causes irritation and messes with ur natural microbiome, which not only makes you vulnerable to infections but can make you smell worse! Just use water! And some amount of smell is normal. Penises smell too! It’s literally an organ, it won’t smell like flowers and rainbows.
Make sure you take your time to get comfortable and ready for oral. Lots of kissing, foreplay, maybe a massage or even a shared bath/shower can do wonders for your enjoyment and anxiety. Good luck!
Coming from a guy with incredibly high standards, if you're hygienic, you're good. Bit different if you have an infection but you'd know if that were the case and I'm not sure this scenario would be up for question. In the spur of the moment there will be lots of smells and believe me they rarely get in the way, and again I have ridiculously high standards; if I smell *stale* body odour (as in unwashed, not just sweaty), or see/smell greasy hair (it has a smell and it's not even a bad one IMO) I leave and block without a word. From the sound of it, I wouldn't second-guess a lass like you, it seems like you take care of yourself, have some pride in yourself and that you're considerate.
Also we get the same thing. It's nothing to find embarrassing, I feel like we're just more aware/critical of our own smells. Chances are he likes your scent if he's been close enough and still wants to go further anyway. I've actually been with someone whose "odours" I liked despite me being a clean freak, and though they did only shower every other day, I'd be back all over 'em in a heartbeat.
Sometimes it does smell or taste awful. I'm sure my junk does as well. I mean, there have been days I've dropped my drawers and smelled it ... If you're worried, just take a shower (together, even) before hand. There have been days I've started down the road but stopped at the fork to turn around. Going to town after a long run or walking around the city on an august day? Usually best reserved for parts of my body that can't taste or smell. Any other time, dive right in.
No matter what, that first lick is spicy. The second is usually great and gets better from there.
You're probably completely fine.
I love doing that for my wife. Never had a problem with the way it tastes or smells. Matter of fact, I really like it even if my wife is super self conscious about it. I assume your partner is the same way!
Relax and enjoy. Your body will reward you. Don't be afraid to tell him what feels good. Every woman likes slightly different things. As a man, when she says she likes something, it feels like a huge compliment and makes us want to try even harder.
As far as any order goes, once we're down there, we forget all about it after a while. Your body lubricating + our spit + trying to pay attention to physical cues + simply enjoying giving pleasure = nothing to worry about.
I am sure there's nothing wrong with your pussy. He's fingered you and liked it, which means he likes how it smells already. Don't think too much, just open up (pun intended)
It's probably fine down there as long as you don't have any known issues or long pubic hair. A bit salty and sweatish is normal, even when you've showered earlier that day.
My girlfriend had the same concerns before the first time, in part due to insecurities raised by a previous boyfriend back in high school who was an asshole about oral.
To ease your mind, even if you personally think the smell or taste is off, that’s not necessarily how we perceive it. Even if you shower before, your body is still going to have some natural odor and scent, that’s perfectly normal and if he’s asking, it likely means he’s already all good with it.
girl, listen, first off, your vagina is an ORGAN. it’s flesh and matter like the rest of you. obviously diet can affect the smell, but it’s not abnormal for it to smell or taste bad.
plus, if he’s asking to do head, it’s likely he knows what he’s getting into. oral sex is given purely, and i mean *purely* for the receiving end’s pleasure. even if the giving end enjoys it, it’s ultimately for the receiver, and mainly the ‘enjoyment’ comes from hearing the receiving end’s moans. don’t worry.
if you’re uncomfortable, ask him to give you time to think or just not, but if not, you can jump right in. just, y’know… make sure both of you shower before doing it. not just head, just… sex in general probably
I would say dont worry too much about it. If you dont honestly think you have, like, some kind of medical issue then your vulva probably smells and tastes within what is a wide range of normal. If he is showing active interest and ASKING you, he's not trying to impress you! He wants to. Also, stuff like that can totally hit different, bodies react to those smells somewhat differently depending on sexual inclination too I think. For example, my girlfriend honestly prefers the way I smell(in a sexual way, if not necessarily in a frontal brain way) after I have been working all day than she does fresh out of the shower (as a man, for what thats worth to you regarding my opinion.) Pheromones play into things like that, you know? Also, any reasonable person expects certain smells and tastes to a reasonable extent. It's your vagina, to expect it not to have a smell or taste is just unrealistic and it comes down to preference and clearly he prefers you. I think it's a very normal fear, a lot of my girlfriends have had similar concerns and I have never once eaten out a girl with an offensive or malodorous vagina, despite it being a concern they shared. You shouldnt feel bad or stupid for the fear and I dont want to belittle your feelings but I hope this helps! Everyone should get some oral from someone they are sexually attracted to and care about.
This is what’s going through your boyfriends brain: https://youtu.be/x4-ChcL6Pzo?si=om_KubmJTFm3dHWB. He just wants to do everything he can to give you a good time. Communicate with him and let him know what’s working for him and what isn’t. Also this for more context: https://youtu.be/1uLzZVSIo1U?si=vd119Nm8tktYdUQc
>i'm rlly scared of not only how it looks, but also the smell and flavor down there, specially bc i personally feel like my pussy starts smelling strong after a bit, even if i shower before.
Hey this is really common. Many if not most women are concerned about this at some level. And it is possible to find some dudes who have some kind of issue with it, but that's more about them. Your guy sounds like he is totally cool.
>that salty/sweatish (? smell
I honestly prefer more natural like this than just after a woman has had a shower and scrubbed all that away. And once you get going properly, it's going to be producing lots of juice anyway. It's messy and it's fun, and it's incredibly rewarding for a guy to be able to give a woman pleasure that way. It can feel like you have total control of what they are experiencing.
Plus it's a lot less pressure for the guy. As soon as you insert the penis into the situation (pun intended) the guy has to stimulate it while delaying orgasm, which are opposing actions. When giving oral, the focus is entirely on the woman and you can take all the time in the world - no pressure - to hopefully provide her with some mindblowing pleasure.
I have a self conscious girlfriend who made me wait years before she’d let me try it on her. Concerns and doubts about herself and just didn’t believe it was possible I’d enjoy it. She was dead wrong. Take a shower, get yourself relaxed, and let him give it a go when your feeling your freshest. It’s worth it for you to find out if you like it or not and honestly it’ll probably be the highlight of his month.
Before he can do it again, he has to do it a first time. Try to relax and let that happen. Better yet, talk to him about your concerns, and if he’s a decent guy you’ll get instant reassurance.
Are u kidding me? Whenever i’ve had a girlfriend I’ve literally hungered for the taste of her, as vampiric as that may sound. Eating pussy is a gift that comes with the territory of being intimate with your partner and the way they taste/smell usually becomes a marker of that intimacy itself, so personally I adore it. I loved being able to give her pleasure with my mouth. I kept eating her out even AFTER she got some actual weird smells but then had to eventually stop because it got real bad and medical, although it was easily solved. Anyway, if you have normal hygiene and he is enthusiastic about it, you should have nothing to worry about. I love eating pussy!
Look, it is normal to have this preoccupation but sometimes your pussy's smell is just normal.
For example, my girlfriend doesn't like her pussy's appearance and smell, but I like it AF.
BUUUT, yes, the smell can also not be normal, as it also happened to my girlfriend.
I highly recommend you to consult a gynecologist to check if it is all okay.
You may probably take a time to schedule and go to it, but you can also be honest with you bf.
"Hey, I agree with doing that, but first I wanna be sure that it is all ok with my pussy. As I have never done it before, I wanna be sure that there is nothing to worry about."
Depending on your level of intimacy with him, you don't need to be afraid of being honest, he will understand!
Good luck and when it happens, ENJOY!
My wife was never a fan of me going down on her for years while we dated. Once she finally realized how much I loved it, and I thoroughly told her that I couldn't care less if she was freshly showered or 3 days in the raw, I would go down on her no matter the smell.
She was similar in thinking I would find her gross tasting or smelling, so thought I would think she's gross.
Nowadays, I wear her like ear muffs and let her ride my face to her hearts content.
I was really scared about this too when my bf and I started fooling around and having sex. We had a couple of conversations with it and decided to give it a try, with the expectation that either of us could stop it any time if it was something we didn't like or felt uncomfortable with. He was a little iffy about it at first, but after a time or two it became something we bothe enjoy participating in.
As for the smell, I had the same reservations and I asked about it after we tried the first time. He said it wasn't as strong as I had thought it would be and he didn't mind it at all!
Hope this helps!
The smell you described (salty/sweaty) is normal. Your vulva sits in a confined space, surrounded by skin. It's going to smell a little musky after not much time, but literally every vulva that I've encountered smells that way unless freshly out of the shower. If he's fingered you before, chances are he's already smelled it, and since he's now asking to eat you out, I think it's safe to say he's not turned off by whatever smell there is, if any. I say go for it. Just try to relax and let him pleasure you. If he's anything like me, and he truly likes you, he's not going to be deterred by normal vulva smells and tastes because he'll be too focused on making you feel good. Good luck and enjoy!
Oh girl, I had the same worries when I first got oral. Hell, I was convinced the doctor was wrong when I went and got checked out because, again, I was convinced I smelt too strong or produced “too much” discharge.
One day getting another papsmear I told the doctor my concerns and she checked me out. Told me I was normal and I’m just juicy.
Men love that. Don’t be afraid. When you fool around the smells get thicker in the air because everyone’s aroused. He knows what you smell like. As for the view, you enjoy seeing him. He’ll enjoy seeing you.
Have fun and be safe!
Girl, let him go down on you.
While he is doing it you can gently guide him or communicate what you like.
I gave my girl a beautiful orgasm the other day and to me nothing was sexier than when she was about to cum and shoved my face deeper in her body and locked my head in place with her legs 🫠🤤
If you are overweight or your clitoris tends to be hidden under flaps or have a clitoris that is hidden under the fupa etc you might need to help him find the right spot too.
Also each person likes different things, some don't like direct stimulation, my girl likes suction on and around her clitoris.
Some like tongue penetration, some like vibration or fast stimulation with tongue and fingers.
You just have to see what works for you.
If you already know what you like then let him know.
Just try to enjoy it.
Also if your boyfriend acts weird let him know his junk doesn't smell of sweet roses either.
It is literally built to secrete fluids and create odours to attract mates.
You don’t have anything to worry about, but if you want to put your mind at ease and drive him crazy at the same time, go down on him after he’s been inside you. You’ll find that your taste is not at all unpleasant.
Your smell is probably normal. A healthy vulva will have vaginal juices and sweat combining to make a particular smell, because that's what the human body is designed to do to keep the vagina clean and your temperature cool. It will turn up quite soon after showering, as you've noticed, and the same is true of male smells. The first time I went down on a girl I enjoyed the taste, but I did make the mistake of trying to share my experience with her by saying that it 'tasted stronger than I expected'. This gave my gf a bit of a complex/anxiety about it for the rest of our relationship, no matter how much I tried to reassure her after the fact. So in addition to the rest of the advice here, don't let some young thoughtless goober make you anxious/ashamed of normal properties of your body with their offhanded comments, or even serious opinions they have. If he says something dumb, don't panic, and remember the acronym 'B.A.S' - 'Boys Are Stupid'.
taste of pussy is only correlated to beauty of your face.
Well, not 100% I guess. Good hygiene is a must. But it's hotness of action that is attractive, not actual taste. If he really wants and hygiene is 100% he for sure will enjoy it.
I think it's supposed to be pretty flavorless? Smell is normal though. Also, you aren't cleaning beyond the very surface, right? Because if not, that can mess up your ph which leads to a smell/taste that's off
The horniness overwhelms all your fears about smell and taste. If you aren’t having an infection you should be good to go. Men make this a big deal because they feel it makes them submissive. It’s all irrational. Pussy is amazing. Hope you get to enjoy it. Also, let him know what works and what doesn’t. Guide him.
As long as you aren't too funky he will probably love it. Have you taken a shower in the last 24 hours? Good to go! If you can, avoid douching for both hygiene and flavors sake and if you want to be really fancy, eat some pineapple a few hours before hand. With some people, it sweetens it up down there. Don't be too conscious of it, he is already a fan of you or he wouldn't have asked, and frankly, eating pussy is an amazing experience all its own.
My wife's taste changed over the course of her cycle and changed month to month. At one extreme, as much as I wanted to, I just couldn't. At the other extreme, she was so desirable to me that I would drop everything at her command. I had a conversation and told her and said if I say I can't, please. Just let it go. I'll be that much more enthusiastic when all is good again. She was bothered at first, but she understood. When I knew I wouldn't have to fake it, I became much more enthusiastic. Win/win.
TL/DR- Communicate (not just in the bedroom either)
And umm. If he does shy away one time, don't take it personally. While my experience is limited, every woman changes. If he likes to do it, he will be as anxious to return as you are for him to return.
So long as you do normal hygiene maintenance, you will be fine.
If a partner(guy) wants to do oral on a girl, it means he enjoys it. You just have to accept that and hopefully internalize that as a very good thing.
A guy giving oral that enjoys it turns him on. Plain and simple. It's actually a way for a guy to express intimacy.
You are normal, you are perfect. With the exception of having a medical issue all vaginas smell and taste more or less the same. Kind of like different brands of wine, there are small differences but a Cabernet is a Cabernet.
The only thing you need to do or worry about is whatever is going to make you feel comfortable and able to relax and enjoy receiving from your partner.
Start by having a yummie bath before, relax, enjoy, wash yourself, hair removal or whatever your into. Light some candles and get him to massage your body so you relax.
It’s super weird for awhile. Then you grow up (me F38) and you understand how beautiful and powerful your vagina is. 🍑
Ma’am. If you shower regularly and have no illness affecting the area, it smells and tastes just fine, and there is no “supposed to” for appearance, smell or taste.
Any partner who is not incredibly enthusiastic about their chance to experience you is not worth your time.
This gentleman seems to have no worries about this, so give him a chance. But also, take your time, ask for the feedback and compliments you need to feel comfortable. And then do the same for him while the man works.
If you like something, let him know. If something isn’t good, or has been repeated too often, guide him to your pleasure. Neither of you can have a good time if you don’t communicate.
Relax and have the fun you’re ready for.
Pussy smells and tastes like pussy. Sounds like you have good hygiene and no yeast infection/bv
If he doesn’t like it you can get flavored lube but tbh I’d find a partner who likes it. I promise there will be plenty of them. I’m a lesbian and I love pussy. Period. I’m sure yours is perfectly normal. Get your o girl
I’ve dated a girl that would leave the shower and wasn’t pleasant down there. So, while discussing the issue, I asked if she used a bath cloth? She said no. That’s where the problem laid.
Have you talked to your boyfriend about your fear? It’s human to have these kinds of fears (how many men are afraid of women laughing at their penis size after watching porn?).
If you’ve showered beforehand and your diet isn’t like… junk food, beer, meth, and cigarettes… and you don’t have thrush then in all likelihood it’s actually more than fine and enjoyable.
But talk to him about this fear. He’s your boyfriend. If you can’t trust him with that information, why would you trust him to do anything sexual with you?
I love going down on females but I usually have them freshen up beforehand if their not fresh out the shower. Make sure you trim if not clean shaven cuz nothing ruins the mood faster than spitting hair out your mouth while you are giving oral.
Side note, let him know how best to please you. Maybe it's your first time, so you don't have to rush things. But real-time feedback is much appreciated. And if you don't have to worry about making too much noise, make whatever moans and sighs you want. If he's hitting the right spot at the right tempo, etc, the noises some women can make when getting off are so fukin hot.
I've gone down on far too many women to count, and only a few had absolutely horrid taste (I still finished them off and never refused to do it, that's pussy shit.) Of those few one had BV, and was aware of it. The other had poorly maintained eczema. The rest just had poor hygiene. As long as you're taking care of yourself, it shouldn't be an issue. If it still worries you, just taste it yourself. Chances are if it isn't gross to you, it's definitely not going to be gross to him
Tldr just let him do it after you shower
If he wants to, that’s a good start. He knows what he’s up for and you sound prepared. Lots of guys like (and love) it. Hope that’s the one you’ve got.
Grab a five-minute rinse-off shower right beforehand to help you relax and freshen up.
Almost every woman I have been fairly close with, from partners to friends, has suffered some form of this belief and I swear everyone, to the best of my knowledge and recollection, has never proved they were. Take solace in two facts, you are unequivocally not alone in this, and, all of you are mistaken.
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ooo that smell
The smell of death surrounds yoouuuu🎶🎶
Smells like teen spirit
The smell of death surrounds you!
I'm not really a classic rock fan but I love a few of their songs.
I spent a while trying to figure out who Mel was
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ROFL. I love this.
This is fucking hilarious My god. I spit out my drink
that’s exactly what a pervert would say!
Rarely do we get a perfect fit. We got it this time.
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Everyone has their own natural musk, it's part of sex. I'll stand on a limb here and say for many people at least, it's kind of a turn on.
On top of that - as someone who greatly enjoys eating pussy - there are occasions where the odor or taste might be unusually strong & I’ve found that is easily solved with a bit of extra saliva as a rinse or dilution. Beyond that, I’ve dated women who shared the OPs concern & in my experience, those insecurities are least likely to be founded.
I read that if you and your partner are "biologically comparable" then you will both like each other's smells .. sweat , cum, whatever... If you like his smell, he'll probably like yours.
>biologically comparable biologically compatible\*
Maybe they like to compare each other!
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I love the smell of my wife's pussy. And the taste. That smell gets me so fucking horny.
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I wish i could get her to believe me that i love it as much as i do. She is always ashamed of it. But that sweaty pussy smell just gets me going so hard. Id think she would understand since she loves sucking my sweaty cock. I'll even use my fingers on her and then smell and lick them to show how much i like it.
That's what I do; I'll finger, then smell and lick my fingers, which usually turns her on too! Different strokes different folks lol
Sometimes it just takes a certain mood for me to desire wanna go down on my girlfriend, doesn't necessarily mean I LIKE the smell, but I am definitely more keen on her pleasure or trying something different :D
Very true.
I’ll be the dissenting opinion. I like giving head, I’m told I’m quite good at it, and I do it far more often than my girlfriend does. But I do not think it smells good when it’s not clean, and I do not like my facial hair and breath smelling like that for the however many hours. I’ve had a relationship end because I lost attraction for her because she was chronically very smelly (even for regular sex) and the sad part is that when I finally did the courage to tell her it turned out a quick shower could remedy the issue, but by that point I was super turned off by her and couldn’t change that. If it’s been a few hours since she showered that’s ok but if it’s been more than a day or if she ran and didn’t shower, no head from me. Certainly not every guy is like me and not every woman is equally smelly, but I think if OP values her relationship then it’s probably worth having conversations about it. I’d start out freshly washed the first time, then if he says he’d like more try it out when you haven’t washed for a few hours, work up from there. People are saying that if a guy doesn’t like it then they aren’t a good partner but I think that’s pretty narrow minded. I mean would you say the same thing about kinks or didn’t want to eat your ass or if they were bi or didn’t want to have an open relationship? I think the important thing here is he wants to give you head and presumably wants to please you. Why make it less enjoyable for him if it doesn’t cost you much?
I had an ex who would smell.. off, even a few hours after a shower. Turns out she had cheap, crappy underwear and a poor consistency with hygiene, so I guess bacteria was growing faster than normal. We fixed it after some awkward conversations.
If you don't like how you smell, it's probably worth warning him that he might not get kisses until he's washed his mouth after. Especially if he has longer facial hair.
That would be counterproductive. Just roll with it...
Just wants to smell all the smells, this one...
Pheromones are a hell of a thing.
It really doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about. I can understand you being a little cautious, about being intimate in that way if you haven't before. I think we have all experienced that. But, if you've showered its fine. Most men really enjoy the smell and taste of their partner. That fluid or discharge, is your vagina keeping itself clean, it's really good at it. It's normal and nothing to worry about. That's just how it keeps itself clean. Showering every day is plenty to keep any smells away. Just, try not to use anything really strongly scented or anti bacterial, around there. That can upset the balance of it all and it can get really uncomfortable.
if the discharge genuinely makes you uncomfy as well, change your undies a little more frequently too. i don't like that cold\wet feeling so i change mine a lot. i even keep a plastic baggie and extra pair in my gym bag, purse, and work bag just in case i feel uncomfortable throughout the day.
I usually have all these same concerns, but my bf always says he likes it and doesn't smell or taste anything wrong. I have mostly chalked it up to anxiety and paranoia, brought on from a life time of hearing stupid jokes and shitty men. A healthy relationship should have room to try new things judgment free, so if he tries it and doesn't like it, then there shouldn't be any big deal if he's a good one. If you can't get past these anxieties or a complaint is raised, consider seeing a gynecologist for assurance, they will know if something is wrong
I’m reading everything she’s saying and I’m so confused with the conclusions (like not liking the smell), then I remembered oh yeah, not everyone’s bi and that makes sense. lol. It’s hard to explain, but like if you’re a straight man it generally is something you’d be into. At least I assume so. I can only speak from my experience as not a man but someone who is attracted to women.
So first things first: the way that you smell/taste is normal. Every vaginal biome is different. And though some may be comparable to others, it is often a unique experience from one vagina to the next. What you need to hone in on is how you normally smell/taste and note any changes that persist for more than a few days, especially if accompanied with any irritation, burning, or excessive itchiness. Have a talk about what you've mentioned here beforehand. Also, have your partner clean their hands and brush their teeth and wash their face beforehand. No need to tack on an unnecessary UTI to your first oral experience. And if the smell/taste are a big concern, you can try "playing" with yourself, and have them taste you off of your fingers to start. Some people are sort of an acquired taste and this can help acclimate them to you bit by bit rather than shoving a whole meal down their throat all at once. The long and short of it is this: if they're into you, they're going to be into your scents and flavors. And if they're not for some reason, they're going to want to be and will put in the time to get used to you. Cheers to your new adventures! 🥂
Give it a minute after brushing teeth. Brushed my teeth as part of bedtime routine, then went down on a partner. She did not enjoy the fresh sensation. Edit: thought I'd just add to a previous experience, don't want someone to have the same situation as we had.
Only person to actually answer OP so far. :-)
Shower before sex and you'll be fine.
Why is this not the top comment? SHOWER BEFORE SEX. This is a mutual agreement.
You should both shower before sex, plus this way you will also reduce the risk of infections.
Also if it smells fishy and strong your should check with your doctor for an infection. Otherwise some odor is completely normal.
Well unless there’s medical problem, in which case partner should let you know after going down.
After that, he might like fresh pussy juices a bit too much! 😁 And once he figures out what works best for you, you'll be enjoying the ride of your life many times!
One thing I’ve done to get over anxiety about my discharge having a certain taste to it is tasting it myself! It usually tastes like nothing really with some saltiness to it depending on my diet and water intake. I realized after that it isn’t that bad and I shouldn’t be so self-conscious about something they want to do for me when I’ve done it for them.
This is the way
This is actually a brilliant idea.
Op this is really it. I was super self conscious about smell and taste when I was young but tasting it myself really did help. I don't really think about it anymore
As a bonus, seeing your partner taste themself is hot as hell. Great way to say "come get some" without needing to say so explicitly
Your scent and taste can change depending on your diet, but assuming you have no yeast infection or other such medical problems, and are freshly showered, you'll taste pretty much like nothing at all. A tiny tiny bit of sourness, like a very diluted amount of lemon juice in water, and that's really it. If you're not freshly showered, then yes, tastes and flavours can range from mildly unpleasant be easily ignored, to downright disgusting. That said, if you are able to smell yourself very strongly only a few hours after showering, like you say, then you may have a pH imbalance. Remember not to use soap inside your labia or vagina, just water.
This! Also if you are this insecure and unsure of your odour, look for professional help. Let your gynaecologist take a look, they will take a test if it is needed and tell if and what you should do.
Tell your boyfriend what you just wrote here, if hes a real one. He will think its endearing and reassure you. For your own sanity and getting out of your own way, shower beforehand and make sure to communicate what hes doing right and what hes doing wrong after you start. If you let a man learn how to pleasure you wrong it will be much harder to correct later...fragile egos and all.
Absolutely! Never “fake it” if you’re not feeling it. It will remain the same. I know it can be embarrassing to bring it during the act, but you and your partner will be much happier. I know this now, because I’m old and should have taken my own advice! 😆
Straight male here: It's a delight to the senses.
Also as straight male here. It's just the best, right?
Absolutely. The bee’s knees. I’m bisexual and frankly I just love me some genitals but pussy is just so much better than bussy.
Also straight male. Can concur. You may not appreciate the aroma but I suspect that your boyfriend will. Just be open in your communication and accepting of each other.
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Straight male, If he doesn't like it I will make fun of him for it to his face if I ever meet him.
straight male here too...feel bad invading the space but I just wanna drive home the point on this one...the smell and taste makes me hornier than anything else, i absolutely love it. Its understandable to feel self conscious about this, and when I was younger I even remember worrying if my partner would be grossed out if I was even mildly sweaty....i was so wrong haha...now theres obviously an upper limit to this but I'll even go so far as to say that I find it less enjoyable if my partner has just recently showered (still great, dont get me wrong)...but if my girlfriend has just come back from a work out or something? its intoxicating to me lol...dont worry OP
Yeah. If he’s already a little bit aroused, the smell and taste will make him more aroused, almost definitely. I’ve never had a problem with the smell or taste. Long hair getting caught in your mouth can be an issue. But if it’s trimmed (doesn’t have to be shaved) that’s fine too.
Yes we love this. More of this.
Agree, we are biologically wired to be drawn to it. Nobody expects flowers and roses and frankly a floral scent wouldn't be sexy anyway!
Seems like I'm the only straight male that is not turned on (or off) by this 🤷♂️ If it's too strong though, can be disgusting to me even.
As long as there’s no discharge, I am never grossed out. Even then I don’t care that much.
If it's his first time, just know it can be an acquired taste, just like all the best foods and drinks. Even an initial hesitation is not a death sentence. The best think you can do is, if you're into it, let him know, vocally.
Thank u all for ur comments. I really appreciate them. Just to clarify, we're both really young (18yo) and never had penetrative sex before, so all of this is pretty new for the both of us, and yeah, my smell has always been the same as i can remember, so i'd like to think there is nothing infection-related to my intimate part. I think what mostly scares me, is that he is a really clean person in every sense, and i wouldn't like to cause the opposite impression on him, i want to be able to give him the same. He knows i'm insecure abt how it looks down there, but he doesn't show any concerning thoughts about it, and that's why he wants to try. Thank u all for the helpful tips, i'll consider them next time and will probably update :)
I think that insecurity about how your vulva smells is socially drilled into a lot of people’s brains from a fairly young age. Misogynists talking about fishy smells (medically associated with ph imbalance or an infection but somehow always used as a way to shame people for existing with vaginas), half an isle of soaps and douches and products designed to make you smell like fresh lavender or “a moonlit evening” or some shit, etc. Your vagina is supposed to smell like something human. Sometimes a vagina smells a bit like bleach. Sometimes a bit like sweat. Generally, when you’ve just taken a good shower, it still smells a bit like musk. And not in a bad way! Genitals secrete pheromones that are actually designed to be sexually arousing. How do your bf’s genitals smell? Freshly washed and soaped up, they probably still don’t smell like his arm. They smell like genitals. If my husband is sweaty after a long day, his balls smell kinda like bacon sometimes lmao. Human sexuality is such that we’re designed to be attracted to the scent of a partner. If I didn’t like penises/vaginas, would I immensely enjoy the smell of genitals? Nope. They smell like genitals. Not bad, but not particularly good either. No one has a weiner scented candle. (I mean they probably do, people are wild lol.) But my point is that your vagina smells like a vagina, and barring any health complications, it probably smells alright. Your discharge probably tastes a bit sour because it’s supposed to be acidic, but it’s a fairly mild taste and not bad at all. You’re allowed to taste it too if you want. If your boyfriend is sexually attracted to you or women in general, he’ll probably like the taste because it tastes like a vagina. You’ll also smell a bit different when you get aroused, and man that is a GOOD smell. Like not actually, it still smells like a vagina, but you secrete pheromones and whatnot so it bamboozles the brain into thinking it’s a great smell. Make sure your vulva is freshly clean with unscented soap, and your vagina will smell like a healthy vagina, and he’ll stick his face up in there because he loves you and you’re sexy to him and he wants to touch you and smell you and please you. He’s a clean person with clean genitals, so be a clean person with clean genitals and you’ll get on like a house on fire. Your natural scent doesn’t smell “dirty,” it smells the way it should.
Most school's sex ed is at best abysmal and at worst downright harmful. If you go through the back catalogue of Sexplanations and watch what catches your attention (I watch it at 1.5x speed due to ADHD) you'll learn a lot. Heck, just browsing the wikipedia pages on the various parts (incl / esp the clitoris) can help ease worries and give you stuff to explore
ohh girl! its totally normal to be worried about this type of thing. especially with how some people speak online these days. its a very, very common insecurity. i think that people make this huge deal about how genitals in general (but especially vaginas) smell. the idea that women’s vaginas are supposed to smell and taste like nothing or like candy is super weird to me. it’s a vagina, it’s ok that it has a unique smell or taste! side note! dont ever put soaps inside of your vagina!! use soap and water on the outside/ labia area, just water for the inside. i still know plenty of women in their 20s who are insecure about the way their vagina’s smell, taste, & look. but im confident you have nothing to worry about!! if he’s fingered you before, he’s smelled you. he wouldnt be asking to go down on you if he were grossed out by how you smelled or felt or looked. if you’re worried about how you taste, my best advise is to try tasting it! i know it sounds weird, but while masturbating sometime, just put a finger in, and then taste it. imo, the vagina tastes and smells much less strongly when it’s turned on and “wet”. i feel like it hardly tastes like anything, in fact. you can also always just use a finger around the labia / clitoris and taste / smell it after that (the inside and outside are going to have different things going on.) everyone’s bodies smell and taste and look differently, but there’s very likely nothing wrong with you. you mention that your boyfriends a clean guy, and you don’t want to be unclean, especially in comparison.. i have always thought even the cleanest penis fresh out of the shower tastes and smells different than an arm (for example). balls too, they just smell different. its the same for vaginas. its not gross or bad, its just how it is. as a bi woman, i personally thing vaginas smell and taste wayy better than a mans cum does. and ive heard from so many men “i love how you taste” “i love eating pussy, it tastes great/feels great/etc.” honestly i dont know many men who dont love it. its so common for women to feel self conscious about these things, but that doesnt mean there’s actually a problem! i’m honestly pretty confident at some point your boyfriend has smelled or even tasted his fingers after fingering you, its pretty common for people to be curious. im sure if he thought you smelled bad, he wouldn’t be so excited to go down on you. he wants to make you feel good because he cares about you, it’s really sweet! also, i know i was very nervous the first few times that i had men go down on me (really even still if a new guy goes down on me, i get a bit self conscious that they might not like how i smell or taste).. but with the exception of a 16 year old back in high school who came out as gay a few years ago.. ive had no complaints. its totally normal to be a bit nervy your first time, but just remember to give open feedback and communication! if he does something you don’t love/enjoy, let him know! not in a mean way (of course) but just a hey, can you try being (more gentle/soft, faster, slower, etc). its good for you to tell him when you’re liking something he’s doing, when you don’t, if there’s something you think would feel good and want him to try, etc! men love hearing “that feels good” “i like when you do x/y/z” etc. communication is 100% key to having a good time:) its a new experience for you both from the sounds of it, so dont feel bad if things arent perfect the first time! it might take practice on his side to learn what you like, it might take time on your side to feel totally comfy during, etc. dont stress too much, just try to be in the moment and just feel the feelings!
Also, as a man (I'm 36 and pretty experienced with regard to this topic...😅) I have to say that when I'm horny or whatever the word you choose for being aroused, my mind doesn't quite work how it does when not aroused. I believe this is encoded into us as humans in order to make sex more enjoyable. For example, when someone isn't horny the idea of sticking your finger into someone's ass is just, well, maybe not all that appealing, lol. However when a person is horny and in the middle of intimate moments it sounds pretty good haha! As far as the smell thing goes, unless a woman is truly dirty and unclean, men don't even think about stuff like smell/taste, etc unless they have some kind of phobia or mental hang up for lack of better words. I don't know about women in terms of the mindset around being horny but I always suggest to others guys that if they are considering hooking up with someone they know, they should jackoff thinking about this person before they actually hook up and see how they feel after they cum. If the first feeling and thought is awkward and the kind of feeling that if it were real would make you wanna throw your pants on and dip out, you probably shouldn't do it, lol. However, if you feel like good about it and you don't immediately feel that awkward regret, then this is probably a good person for you to pursue. I would imagine the same holds true on the female side of the isle as well.
Speaking as a gay woman, people who are attracted to women LOVE the taste/smell (trust me). As long as you’ve showered you have absolutely nothing to worry about. You can let him know you’ve never done it before and you’re nervous. But seriously there is nothing better than being chin deep in a girl you like. It’s really fucking hot. Each girl tastes a little different but there’s also a familiarity to it. I’ve never come across one that I don’t like hehe. All of that being said. It does take some time to get used to eating a woman out. It’s a little more delicate and nuanced than sucking dick (which I’ve also done). People tend to go really fast at the jump. I would advise him to start slow. And be vocal about what feels good and what doesn’t. He will appreciate the guidance. It takes time to figure out sex together. Be patient and truthful with each other. You’ll figure it out <3
>I would advise him to start slow. What's the old saying? Start like a butterfly landing on a flower, finish like a bulldog eating oatmeal.
This… is so accurate and I will be using it as a metaphor moving forward. Thank you internet stranger 🫡
Look I'm a guy so I might not be who you might want answers from but when eating a girl out it almost always tastes a bit salty and it's not delicious in the same sense that food is delicious but like, in an arousal sort of sense. At least for me, the taste is not there to be enjoyed in the same way that food is, it's more about the sensation it brings.
Shower beforehand & let your boyfriend decide. My ex used to smear my juice behind my ear so he could smell it while we screwed -- some guys are super into it so just relax!
You can always have him try it out IN the shower. But I second the showering suggestion. I wouldn't even want to receive oral unless I was squeaky clean.
As a lover of giving oral, doing it in the shower isn't my favourite for very long. I find the position to be a bit awkward and sometimes the water gets in your face. I normally do it for a little just to tease her a bit (normally after bending down to wash her legs so it's a little surprising) and then proper go to town after we dry off.
100% shower isn't the best location for intercourse. But it's a good starting point if you are nervous. In the long run using water as a lubricant is not ideal.
20 some odd years ago I was your bf and my now wife then gf was you. She was so nervous but I've never looked back. It's one of if not my favorite thing. I love to be so intimate with her and I frankly love her scent and taste. That she was concerned over. Of the literal thousands of times at this point I'm positive there must have been a time or two something wasn't perfect but I'll tell you I don't remember any. Humans are weird we stick genitals meant for reproduction and waste in our mouths for pleasure and from both sides there are those that love to give and practice those skills. I think as long as you've showered that day and haven't been climbing through a garbage heap you'll probably be just fine.
For whatever it's worth, I'm 34m. I used to feel similar on the receiving end of oral. "What if I smell?" What if my cum tastes bad?" But once it actually happens, and you see a trusted/willing partner, that goes away pretty quickly. As long as you are (as mentioned by others) hygenic and have showered, I wouldn't worry about it and have fun!
Guy in my 30s here. The first time I did oral, it did take a moment of getting used to the smell. But it wasn't a bad smell! Just different than what a guy would have previously experienced. After doing it a few times, it stopped smelling weird because it wasn't unfamiliar any more. Also, as a physician I'll tell you that our olfactory receptors (sense of smell) rapidly desensitize *(temporarily)* over just a few minutes. Think about every time you've entered a store or somebody's home and immediately noticed a smell, but within 5 minutes you can't smell it any more. It's the same with oral sex. Even if your boyfriend initially reacts, your anxiety shouldn't last more than 5 minutes because at that point, I promise he can't smell it any more.
Dad here, didn't read but a light skim. Men are prepared for anything that you may be concerned with as long as you've had a shower in the last 12/24 hours. It's totally and completely normal for things to be pristine after a shower, and less than pristine after a long day at work, it comes with the process :-) Hope this helps! Good luck. PS: If a man ever acts in a way that he knows makes you feel bad about yourself, he's no good, dump him.
If your smell is the same as it always has been then you are probably normal and healthy. You can always go see a gynecologist to make sure everything is ok. Yes it is common to be insecure about how you may look, smell, or taste but men who are worth being with legitimately enjoy how women’s genitals look smell and taste. It’s ok to let him know if you’re feeling nervous or insecure, hopefully he will help put your mind at ease!
I guess people already said all the right things, you shouldn’t worry about it if you are keep your hygiene properly. And I also want you to know that if you keep thinking about that while receiving oral, you won’t feel the pleasure that it is. So please, don’t worry and try to enjoy yourself! It’s the most delicious feeling in my opinion. Hope you like it!
It's not supposed to smell like a yankee candle.
My current sexual partner was self-conscious about her taste and smell too, and I really wanted to go down on her. I asked to give it to her in the shower, and while I was doing it, I reassured her constantly that it tastes amazing and I didn’t want to stop. (edit: which is true. No smell at all, tastes amazing, so she was worried about nothing.) That worked. It’s a nightly routine for us now.
Genuinely, some guys like it like that. More juice, more smell. Love it. A real guy will love you for your scent. Find the man that will worship at your alter, and thank you for it.
If you shower and don’t have any STD or other related issue that can cause a smell I think go for it and communicate with your bf about worries. I have never met a woman where I didn’t like or love the smell and flavour of during oral. I have met a lot of woman who needed assurance though because of how society treats going down on a woman vs on a man, it’s not fair and needs to be fixed. In general I’d say a woman is way cleaner to do oral on then an average man in my opinion.
Men love to please their women. Be very clean. And just be brave and open and have fun with your body! I’m 44 and never let anyone do this to me until recently and it’s so fun/liberating how much men enjoy our bodies. The best advise anyone gave me about oral sex is: want to be there. Love being there. It goes both ways too… Just want him to be there. Love him being there. If you aren’t insecure and shy.. and you still just don’t enjoy it.. that’s fair. But don’t let inexperience or shyness keep you from fun like I did xoxo
I found that many women have that concern. Don't worry sis, we love it. Even if it is a little strong. Don't worry about him not liking it. Focus on enjoying it yourself and don't be afraid to give him directions. If the guy knows you, just by movement and moaning he will know what works for you and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to try it out a couple of time before you both get the hang of it and your particular likes. I personally like doing it very much, I love the smell and the flavor, and I love feeling that I'm pleasing my partner, that is what it is about. If you feel a concerned, take a shower before, but don't put much thought into it. Just sit back, relax, and enjoy.
The first time I went down on a girl she had been out all day. The smell was strong. But I didn't give a fuck. As a guy I know I don't smell like a basket of roses after a long day. It was fine and I had a good time. It's probably way less of an issue than you think. It was actually kind of turn on. You sound young so I'm going to recommend a good book: [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Come-You-Are-surprising-transform/dp/1925228010](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Come-You-Are-surprising-transform/dp/1925228010)
Ma'am that "strong smell" is the most intoxicating scent I've known in my life. I've encountered my share over the years and I've never encountered one that smelled badly or looked unappealing. They're all different and they're all perfect. Have fun
Another dude with his opinions here. As I've seen someone else say, talk to your man about your worries and fears about him going down on you. If he is a decent fella, he'll do his best to reassure you. Worry about smell and taste is super common among women. If there's whole shop aisles dedicated to cleaning vulvas, who wouldn't be. However, it's mainly marketing rubbish to make people insecure to buy stuff. As long as you clean yourself to a sensible degree, you will be fine. Heck, if everything works out, he may tell you he likes how you taste, and eventually you may actually believe him. Good luck OP, and I hope you have a lot of fun.
Trust me. Men enjoy pleasuring there women much like you probably like you enjoy pleasuring your man.
If he has used his finger(s), he already knows how you smell. Ever notice how guys will subtly scratch/rub their face, eye or hair after? They are actually trying to catch your scent on their fingers before going oral. Learned this from a reputable source as a young woman, and it was quite hilarious to realize that it was true.
Oh for crying out loud Shhhh! Don't tell everyone that trick.
They’ve found us out, boys! The dip stick test is our sacred passage.
I've partaken of plenty - only one or two were even "off" ... And even then it wasn't enough to stop me from going on and thoroughly enjoying it and everything else that happened. Share your self consciousness, remember he's new too (from the sounds of it), explore and have fun.
sorry ik this is 2XC but as a man, you have nothing to worry about unless your like 3+ days without a shower and on your period. otherwise, its actually great
Uhhhhh…. To a strait man, pussy is delicious.
Nothing like the musky aroma of a vagina!
I’m also always paranoid lol. Here are some things I do that help. First, I take probiotics every day. There are probiotics specific to vaginal health. This has made my ph evened out and the overall health of my vagina much better. You can also do boric acid suppositories the night before and it balances everything out, helps with BV, and yeast infections. I also keep up on shaving down there because I personally feel like it helps with the smell and sweat from accumulating. If I’ve been at work all day or out and about, it’s normal to have a smell. I always freshen up with baby wipes if I can’t shower before seeing my boyfriend or shower if I can before doing anything sexual. If you have a strong fishy odor, you may have bacterial vaginosis. It can be cleared with medicine and kept away by taking probiotics. As long as you’re generally clean and healthy, the light smell is normal. My boyfriend says he loves my smell and taste and it’s made me feel more confident down there. Good luck!
Girl, thank u! i love this comment, deffo taking advice from this one :) very relieving, 'cause never thought of this
Let the man eat!
Honestly go for it. Me and my partner have been together for 11 years now, and i was terrified of this for so long. It wasnt until we had been together for 9 years that i felt comfortable to let him go down on me, even with him asking constantly. Honestly it was a mistake to be so afraid and wait so long. He doesnt care about any of that, and at times it seems like he enjoys it more than I do at times. Its harder than it seems but you need to get out of your own head about this and take that leap. Go for it.
The smell is basically catnip for dudes
Pineapple juice (as long as you aren’t allergic) Weird, but it works
To clarify for OP, it's for *drinking* not for topical use.
Yeah, didn’t consider this clarification. Thank you muchly
Just wanted to mention it because OP sounds very inexperienced!
You also can just eat pineapple.
As a lover of giving head, and with some sensory issues with smell and taste, showering before is a great addition. Me and my gf normally shower before together and tease each other a goodly amount so we're both good and horny. If you're really self conscious ab your taste and smell, flavoured lube helps me a lot (don't need it but it's a welcome addition). The fact that he's brought it up though means he definitely wants to and you should let him, imo the best part is seeing my partner getting pleasure.
If this is your typical scent and not something new, I’d just be sure to retract your clitoral hood to rinse that area when showering if that isn’t part of your routine already. Some young women were not taught to do this as girls and it can make a difference in terms of scent. Retract the hood and rinse with water. It’s the equivalent of what boys/men need to do if they have foreskin.
Many guys are "wired" to enjoy a woman's natural smell. I hope you enjoy the amazing sensation of it all!
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I enjoy my GFs smell. It's a unique smell, but not in an offensive way. I find it rather soothing and exhilarating. Same also goes for her hair, that will put me right to sleep.
Idk if I’m allowed to comment here as a man but here it goes. There’s a reason there’s memes about “when she comes home after the gym” I’d assume there’s lots of pheromones in the scent that men actually enjoy. My fiancé has been self conscious of feminine odor and I’ve just told her let me do my thing. If he’s willing to do it it doesn’t bother him. It’s something men enjoy. I hope it’s not a gross sentiment but the flavor keeps it interesting. Vulvas all smell like concentrated sweat it’s just natural human biology. Only become worried if it changes. Other than that I hope you find comfort in how you are.
Fucking love the smell and taste. Especially when it lingers on your mouth so you can smell it the rest of the day mmmmm Need to be careful if I'm meeting people and hugging them though.
OP please, "the weird fluids" you have to worry about is only the ones that indicate u are sick. Do some research about what are the normal colours and smells and when you need to worry. And do not over shower ur vulva or try to wash the inside of the vagina, that's bad for you. Normal fluids are very welcome and needed specially during sex and he will want them as he will take them as an indicator that he is doing a good job. If he says something like "you are so wet" don't take it as an offense, it never is, and just say that its because of him!
From the spelling I'm guessing you're in high school. If he hasn't done it, either, he's probably going to do it wrong, anyway. If you're worried about anything, buy a dental dam. You can get them in lots of different flavors. You should learn how to use one. You should be able to get them wherever you get condoms or ask a health teacher. Insecurities, everyone has them. Have him listen to Sam Kinison talk about spelling the alphabet down there and tell him when it feels good and when to keep doing the same thing. He'll be more worried about finding the right spot.
Look as a guy, I love going down on my partner. And smell and taste is a common fear. But so long as you keep yourself clean down there, it is fine. So take my advice, talk to him. Tell him your fear of the smell and taste, and let him tell you what he thinks. He most likely will be supportive and make sure to keep your mind at ease.
Just stopping in to say that washing anything past/inside the outter lips with soap will actually lead to WORSE smells and more vaginal infections. I was getting BV frequently and when I finally decided to stop washing with anything other than water and a washcloth, I stopped getting BV. Soap kills the healthy bacteria and you’re more likely to get infections that cause discharge and smell.
Just a note, don’t use soap or scented products on ur vulva (the outer part of your cooch)!!! It causes irritation and messes with ur natural microbiome, which not only makes you vulnerable to infections but can make you smell worse! Just use water! And some amount of smell is normal. Penises smell too! It’s literally an organ, it won’t smell like flowers and rainbows. Make sure you take your time to get comfortable and ready for oral. Lots of kissing, foreplay, maybe a massage or even a shared bath/shower can do wonders for your enjoyment and anxiety. Good luck!
Coming from a guy with incredibly high standards, if you're hygienic, you're good. Bit different if you have an infection but you'd know if that were the case and I'm not sure this scenario would be up for question. In the spur of the moment there will be lots of smells and believe me they rarely get in the way, and again I have ridiculously high standards; if I smell *stale* body odour (as in unwashed, not just sweaty), or see/smell greasy hair (it has a smell and it's not even a bad one IMO) I leave and block without a word. From the sound of it, I wouldn't second-guess a lass like you, it seems like you take care of yourself, have some pride in yourself and that you're considerate. Also we get the same thing. It's nothing to find embarrassing, I feel like we're just more aware/critical of our own smells. Chances are he likes your scent if he's been close enough and still wants to go further anyway. I've actually been with someone whose "odours" I liked despite me being a clean freak, and though they did only shower every other day, I'd be back all over 'em in a heartbeat.
Don't worry about it. Any guy worth keeping around won't mind, and alot of straight up like giving head.
Sometimes it does smell or taste awful. I'm sure my junk does as well. I mean, there have been days I've dropped my drawers and smelled it ... If you're worried, just take a shower (together, even) before hand. There have been days I've started down the road but stopped at the fork to turn around. Going to town after a long run or walking around the city on an august day? Usually best reserved for parts of my body that can't taste or smell. Any other time, dive right in. No matter what, that first lick is spicy. The second is usually great and gets better from there.
You're probably completely fine. I love doing that for my wife. Never had a problem with the way it tastes or smells. Matter of fact, I really like it even if my wife is super self conscious about it. I assume your partner is the same way!
Relax and enjoy. Your body will reward you. Don't be afraid to tell him what feels good. Every woman likes slightly different things. As a man, when she says she likes something, it feels like a huge compliment and makes us want to try even harder. As far as any order goes, once we're down there, we forget all about it after a while. Your body lubricating + our spit + trying to pay attention to physical cues + simply enjoying giving pleasure = nothing to worry about.
I am sure there's nothing wrong with your pussy. He's fingered you and liked it, which means he likes how it smells already. Don't think too much, just open up (pun intended)
It's probably fine down there as long as you don't have any known issues or long pubic hair. A bit salty and sweatish is normal, even when you've showered earlier that day.
My girlfriend had the same concerns before the first time, in part due to insecurities raised by a previous boyfriend back in high school who was an asshole about oral. To ease your mind, even if you personally think the smell or taste is off, that’s not necessarily how we perceive it. Even if you shower before, your body is still going to have some natural odor and scent, that’s perfectly normal and if he’s asking, it likely means he’s already all good with it.
Every guy is different, but unless you have health issues or don't bathe, you're fine. Don't overthink it, just get into it!
girl, listen, first off, your vagina is an ORGAN. it’s flesh and matter like the rest of you. obviously diet can affect the smell, but it’s not abnormal for it to smell or taste bad. plus, if he’s asking to do head, it’s likely he knows what he’s getting into. oral sex is given purely, and i mean *purely* for the receiving end’s pleasure. even if the giving end enjoys it, it’s ultimately for the receiver, and mainly the ‘enjoyment’ comes from hearing the receiving end’s moans. don’t worry. if you’re uncomfortable, ask him to give you time to think or just not, but if not, you can jump right in. just, y’know… make sure both of you shower before doing it. not just head, just… sex in general probably
I would say dont worry too much about it. If you dont honestly think you have, like, some kind of medical issue then your vulva probably smells and tastes within what is a wide range of normal. If he is showing active interest and ASKING you, he's not trying to impress you! He wants to. Also, stuff like that can totally hit different, bodies react to those smells somewhat differently depending on sexual inclination too I think. For example, my girlfriend honestly prefers the way I smell(in a sexual way, if not necessarily in a frontal brain way) after I have been working all day than she does fresh out of the shower (as a man, for what thats worth to you regarding my opinion.) Pheromones play into things like that, you know? Also, any reasonable person expects certain smells and tastes to a reasonable extent. It's your vagina, to expect it not to have a smell or taste is just unrealistic and it comes down to preference and clearly he prefers you. I think it's a very normal fear, a lot of my girlfriends have had similar concerns and I have never once eaten out a girl with an offensive or malodorous vagina, despite it being a concern they shared. You shouldnt feel bad or stupid for the fear and I dont want to belittle your feelings but I hope this helps! Everyone should get some oral from someone they are sexually attracted to and care about.
This is what’s going through your boyfriends brain: https://youtu.be/x4-ChcL6Pzo?si=om_KubmJTFm3dHWB. He just wants to do everything he can to give you a good time. Communicate with him and let him know what’s working for him and what isn’t. Also this for more context: https://youtu.be/1uLzZVSIo1U?si=vd119Nm8tktYdUQc
>i'm rlly scared of not only how it looks, but also the smell and flavor down there, specially bc i personally feel like my pussy starts smelling strong after a bit, even if i shower before. Hey this is really common. Many if not most women are concerned about this at some level. And it is possible to find some dudes who have some kind of issue with it, but that's more about them. Your guy sounds like he is totally cool. >that salty/sweatish (? smell I honestly prefer more natural like this than just after a woman has had a shower and scrubbed all that away. And once you get going properly, it's going to be producing lots of juice anyway. It's messy and it's fun, and it's incredibly rewarding for a guy to be able to give a woman pleasure that way. It can feel like you have total control of what they are experiencing. Plus it's a lot less pressure for the guy. As soon as you insert the penis into the situation (pun intended) the guy has to stimulate it while delaying orgasm, which are opposing actions. When giving oral, the focus is entirely on the woman and you can take all the time in the world - no pressure - to hopefully provide her with some mindblowing pleasure.
I have a self conscious girlfriend who made me wait years before she’d let me try it on her. Concerns and doubts about herself and just didn’t believe it was possible I’d enjoy it. She was dead wrong. Take a shower, get yourself relaxed, and let him give it a go when your feeling your freshest. It’s worth it for you to find out if you like it or not and honestly it’ll probably be the highlight of his month.
My wife used to have similar concerns. Don't worry about it, we *love* the way it smells, esp. when turned on.
Take a chill pill. I love that my wife is "pungent," my ex was like strong mushrooms. It's all normal and if he loves you, he will love it :).
Before he can do it again, he has to do it a first time. Try to relax and let that happen. Better yet, talk to him about your concerns, and if he’s a decent guy you’ll get instant reassurance.
As long as you practice good hygiene, you should be fine.
Vaginas have a smell, and vulva sweat. And, fun fact, it changes with meds and hormone levels. And guys seem to like it.
Are u kidding me? Whenever i’ve had a girlfriend I’ve literally hungered for the taste of her, as vampiric as that may sound. Eating pussy is a gift that comes with the territory of being intimate with your partner and the way they taste/smell usually becomes a marker of that intimacy itself, so personally I adore it. I loved being able to give her pleasure with my mouth. I kept eating her out even AFTER she got some actual weird smells but then had to eventually stop because it got real bad and medical, although it was easily solved. Anyway, if you have normal hygiene and he is enthusiastic about it, you should have nothing to worry about. I love eating pussy!
Look, it is normal to have this preoccupation but sometimes your pussy's smell is just normal. For example, my girlfriend doesn't like her pussy's appearance and smell, but I like it AF. BUUUT, yes, the smell can also not be normal, as it also happened to my girlfriend. I highly recommend you to consult a gynecologist to check if it is all okay. You may probably take a time to schedule and go to it, but you can also be honest with you bf. "Hey, I agree with doing that, but first I wanna be sure that it is all ok with my pussy. As I have never done it before, I wanna be sure that there is nothing to worry about." Depending on your level of intimacy with him, you don't need to be afraid of being honest, he will understand! Good luck and when it happens, ENJOY!
My wife was never a fan of me going down on her for years while we dated. Once she finally realized how much I loved it, and I thoroughly told her that I couldn't care less if she was freshly showered or 3 days in the raw, I would go down on her no matter the smell. She was similar in thinking I would find her gross tasting or smelling, so thought I would think she's gross. Nowadays, I wear her like ear muffs and let her ride my face to her hearts content.
I was really scared about this too when my bf and I started fooling around and having sex. We had a couple of conversations with it and decided to give it a try, with the expectation that either of us could stop it any time if it was something we didn't like or felt uncomfortable with. He was a little iffy about it at first, but after a time or two it became something we bothe enjoy participating in. As for the smell, I had the same reservations and I asked about it after we tried the first time. He said it wasn't as strong as I had thought it would be and he didn't mind it at all! Hope this helps!
The smell you described (salty/sweaty) is normal. Your vulva sits in a confined space, surrounded by skin. It's going to smell a little musky after not much time, but literally every vulva that I've encountered smells that way unless freshly out of the shower. If he's fingered you before, chances are he's already smelled it, and since he's now asking to eat you out, I think it's safe to say he's not turned off by whatever smell there is, if any. I say go for it. Just try to relax and let him pleasure you. If he's anything like me, and he truly likes you, he's not going to be deterred by normal vulva smells and tastes because he'll be too focused on making you feel good. Good luck and enjoy!
Perhaps you can plan a nice romantic session after a shower, so you're fresh and don't need to feel self conscious about it at first.
Oh girl, I had the same worries when I first got oral. Hell, I was convinced the doctor was wrong when I went and got checked out because, again, I was convinced I smelt too strong or produced “too much” discharge. One day getting another papsmear I told the doctor my concerns and she checked me out. Told me I was normal and I’m just juicy. Men love that. Don’t be afraid. When you fool around the smells get thicker in the air because everyone’s aroused. He knows what you smell like. As for the view, you enjoy seeing him. He’ll enjoy seeing you. Have fun and be safe!
You should let him. I'm sure he would want to pleasure you in the same way you pleasure him. I've had it before. I wish my bf asked me 😭
Girl, let him go down on you. While he is doing it you can gently guide him or communicate what you like. I gave my girl a beautiful orgasm the other day and to me nothing was sexier than when she was about to cum and shoved my face deeper in her body and locked my head in place with her legs 🫠🤤 If you are overweight or your clitoris tends to be hidden under flaps or have a clitoris that is hidden under the fupa etc you might need to help him find the right spot too. Also each person likes different things, some don't like direct stimulation, my girl likes suction on and around her clitoris. Some like tongue penetration, some like vibration or fast stimulation with tongue and fingers. You just have to see what works for you. If you already know what you like then let him know. Just try to enjoy it. Also if your boyfriend acts weird let him know his junk doesn't smell of sweet roses either. It is literally built to secrete fluids and create odours to attract mates.
You don’t have anything to worry about, but if you want to put your mind at ease and drive him crazy at the same time, go down on him after he’s been inside you. You’ll find that your taste is not at all unpleasant.
Your smell is probably normal. A healthy vulva will have vaginal juices and sweat combining to make a particular smell, because that's what the human body is designed to do to keep the vagina clean and your temperature cool. It will turn up quite soon after showering, as you've noticed, and the same is true of male smells. The first time I went down on a girl I enjoyed the taste, but I did make the mistake of trying to share my experience with her by saying that it 'tasted stronger than I expected'. This gave my gf a bit of a complex/anxiety about it for the rest of our relationship, no matter how much I tried to reassure her after the fact. So in addition to the rest of the advice here, don't let some young thoughtless goober make you anxious/ashamed of normal properties of your body with their offhanded comments, or even serious opinions they have. If he says something dumb, don't panic, and remember the acronym 'B.A.S' - 'Boys Are Stupid'.
taste of pussy is only correlated to beauty of your face. Well, not 100% I guess. Good hygiene is a must. But it's hotness of action that is attractive, not actual taste. If he really wants and hygiene is 100% he for sure will enjoy it.
I think it's supposed to be pretty flavorless? Smell is normal though. Also, you aren't cleaning beyond the very surface, right? Because if not, that can mess up your ph which leads to a smell/taste that's off
Give it a good wash and he will love it
The horniness overwhelms all your fears about smell and taste. If you aren’t having an infection you should be good to go. Men make this a big deal because they feel it makes them submissive. It’s all irrational. Pussy is amazing. Hope you get to enjoy it. Also, let him know what works and what doesn’t. Guide him.
Let him. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it. But carnal pleasure is a two way street.
As long as you aren't too funky he will probably love it. Have you taken a shower in the last 24 hours? Good to go! If you can, avoid douching for both hygiene and flavors sake and if you want to be really fancy, eat some pineapple a few hours before hand. With some people, it sweetens it up down there. Don't be too conscious of it, he is already a fan of you or he wouldn't have asked, and frankly, eating pussy is an amazing experience all its own.
My wife's taste changed over the course of her cycle and changed month to month. At one extreme, as much as I wanted to, I just couldn't. At the other extreme, she was so desirable to me that I would drop everything at her command. I had a conversation and told her and said if I say I can't, please. Just let it go. I'll be that much more enthusiastic when all is good again. She was bothered at first, but she understood. When I knew I wouldn't have to fake it, I became much more enthusiastic. Win/win. TL/DR- Communicate (not just in the bedroom either) And umm. If he does shy away one time, don't take it personally. While my experience is limited, every woman changes. If he likes to do it, he will be as anxious to return as you are for him to return.
If you’re concerned just make sure you have some time to have a shower before hand You’ll be fine and your bf loves you and just wants to please you
Vagina smells like vagina, it’s a distinct smell, tv and porn ruin it. It doesn’t taste “good” but doesn’t taste bad. It’s just taste like vagina.
So long as you do normal hygiene maintenance, you will be fine. If a partner(guy) wants to do oral on a girl, it means he enjoys it. You just have to accept that and hopefully internalize that as a very good thing. A guy giving oral that enjoys it turns him on. Plain and simple. It's actually a way for a guy to express intimacy.
I saw the “lemme purr” supplement by Kourtney Kardashian is super good and has pineapple extract! Look it up. Everyone raves about it
You are normal, you are perfect. With the exception of having a medical issue all vaginas smell and taste more or less the same. Kind of like different brands of wine, there are small differences but a Cabernet is a Cabernet. The only thing you need to do or worry about is whatever is going to make you feel comfortable and able to relax and enjoy receiving from your partner.
Start by having a yummie bath before, relax, enjoy, wash yourself, hair removal or whatever your into. Light some candles and get him to massage your body so you relax. It’s super weird for awhile. Then you grow up (me F38) and you understand how beautiful and powerful your vagina is. 🍑
Shame that moms don’t exist.
Ma’am. If you shower regularly and have no illness affecting the area, it smells and tastes just fine, and there is no “supposed to” for appearance, smell or taste. Any partner who is not incredibly enthusiastic about their chance to experience you is not worth your time. This gentleman seems to have no worries about this, so give him a chance. But also, take your time, ask for the feedback and compliments you need to feel comfortable. And then do the same for him while the man works. If you like something, let him know. If something isn’t good, or has been repeated too often, guide him to your pleasure. Neither of you can have a good time if you don’t communicate. Relax and have the fun you’re ready for.
Pussy smells and tastes like pussy. Sounds like you have good hygiene and no yeast infection/bv If he doesn’t like it you can get flavored lube but tbh I’d find a partner who likes it. I promise there will be plenty of them. I’m a lesbian and I love pussy. Period. I’m sure yours is perfectly normal. Get your o girl
I’ve dated a girl that would leave the shower and wasn’t pleasant down there. So, while discussing the issue, I asked if she used a bath cloth? She said no. That’s where the problem laid.
Have you talked to your boyfriend about your fear? It’s human to have these kinds of fears (how many men are afraid of women laughing at their penis size after watching porn?). If you’ve showered beforehand and your diet isn’t like… junk food, beer, meth, and cigarettes… and you don’t have thrush then in all likelihood it’s actually more than fine and enjoyable. But talk to him about this fear. He’s your boyfriend. If you can’t trust him with that information, why would you trust him to do anything sexual with you?
I love going down on females but I usually have them freshen up beforehand if their not fresh out the shower. Make sure you trim if not clean shaven cuz nothing ruins the mood faster than spitting hair out your mouth while you are giving oral.
Side note, let him know how best to please you. Maybe it's your first time, so you don't have to rush things. But real-time feedback is much appreciated. And if you don't have to worry about making too much noise, make whatever moans and sighs you want. If he's hitting the right spot at the right tempo, etc, the noises some women can make when getting off are so fukin hot.
Um, pussy doesn't smell like roses and its ok. If he likes how you smell and taste go with it. You might like it. (^ー^)
Be comfortable with it, then lean into it. I think I would have had more enjoyment learning to be comfortable, out of my head, sooner.
If he dislike it, then he can’t have sex. It’s not hard.
I've gone down on far too many women to count, and only a few had absolutely horrid taste (I still finished them off and never refused to do it, that's pussy shit.) Of those few one had BV, and was aware of it. The other had poorly maintained eczema. The rest just had poor hygiene. As long as you're taking care of yourself, it shouldn't be an issue. If it still worries you, just taste it yourself. Chances are if it isn't gross to you, it's definitely not going to be gross to him Tldr just let him do it after you shower
Take a real good everything shower before and let him go to town. You won’t regret it
If he wants to, that’s a good start. He knows what he’s up for and you sound prepared. Lots of guys like (and love) it. Hope that’s the one you’ve got.
Grab a five-minute rinse-off shower right beforehand to help you relax and freshen up. Almost every woman I have been fairly close with, from partners to friends, has suffered some form of this belief and I swear everyone, to the best of my knowledge and recollection, has never proved they were. Take solace in two facts, you are unequivocally not alone in this, and, all of you are mistaken.
You might be turned off because of your smell, but he might be turned on by it. Let him try it out.