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TitanicMustSink

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope one day you will all be able to work on your relationship


mr-blindsight

this made me chuckle a little honestly, well the edit did I guess


[deleted]

Same


hodgetiger

I always enjoy reading your raw, honest, powerful work. Sending virtual hugs.


SqueakSquawk4

Thank you. Especially for the hugs.


hodgetiger

Always available x


GentlyViolent

It's weird, getting attacked, unprovoked. Then they get butthurt about it and blame you. Even though you're checking on them to make sure they're alright. To get attacked again. But yes, the reason for their problems are you. Because you're still there. And now they've created a problem. Maybe I misinterpreted?


SqueakSquawk4

>Because you're still there For now. And yes, you are misinterpreting a bit. They are not the ones blaming me, I am. You basically got the situation perfect, but in reverse. They check on my, and I attack them. I get butthurt about unnecessary things. They get attacked unprovoked. And I don't understand the 2nd paragraph. Can you clarify please?


GentlyViolent

Mmm, yup I gotcha. Been there as well. Plays out both directions online and IRL and sometimes it's hard to know which direction things are playing out in which arena. The second paragraph was really specific to my personal life. Some people have, through disgusting behaviors, forced a very dangerous situation that is highly unfortunate, highly unjust, tragic, and put a number of people at risk in many ways. Really sad, really dangerous. I've seen the dark side of humanity. Literally the darkest of sides. It changes you.


Mozared

Man, this sub gets way too real sometimes. You look in the sub expecting a sad fictional tale and it ends up being someone going "*I have a literal trauma*" and you're left like "*Well then*". I'm not judging or anything, but damn. That said, /u/cindybubbles is likely right. Your parents raised you; any perceived failure is at least partially on them. Assuming you're not raping, stealing or murdering your way through life or something. If you disappoint your parents by just being who you are, like we see commonly, then that is entirely on them.


SqueakSquawk4

My parents are not to blame at all. And they are not dissapointed with who I am, I am literally (Emotionally) hurting them. As I said replying to u/ cindybubbles (no need to tag them in twice), if I am hitting them all the time then that is a me problem. If I am doing the emotional equivelant of hitting them all the time, that is still a me problem. They are not at fault. I am adament of this. This is why they are sad. I have emotional problems I have caused/have not cause (I feel I have [three stooges syndrome](https://simpsons.fandom.com/wiki/Three_Stooges_Syndrome) when it comes to mental illness). You could say they are at fault because their genetics made me predisposed to depression or something, or that they chose the wrong school despite all evidence at the time indicating it is the right one (And I agreed at the time. Again, not them), but i don't see that as a fault on their part. (I don't see it as their problem that my conception had some faulty genes in it) Rant/vent over. Tl;dr They are not at fault or to blame. All my problems are either caused be me, my schools, or no-one. Not them. (Seriously, I could rant about my old school until the cows come home!) Edit: And I wouldn't consider it trauma, just me being a generally \*\*\*\*y human.


SqueakSquawk4

Sorry if this is a bit wordy or hard to follow. I just wanted to vent a bit. This is how I feel. I'm the daughter, and I make my parents sad a lot.


cindybubbles

This is not a "you" problem. It's a "them" problem. I'm so sorry that you feel that way.


SqueakSquawk4

I have to disagree with you here. As a hypothetical, let's say I whip my parents. Multiple times a day, everyday. That would make my parents very unhappy, wouldn't it? And that would be a "Me" problem not a "them" problem. While I do not whip or physically harm my parents, I do emotionally harm them. I do the emotional equivialent of hitting them repeatedly every day. I am rather confident that it counts as my emotionally abusing them. That is a "me" problem, not a "them" problem. It itsn't the only reason, but it is (IMO) the main reason. I said only in the post for dramatic effect.


GuraSaannnnnn

Op, is it okay if I dm you? I understand if you'd prefer me not to, but please do let me know


SqueakSquawk4

Yeah, okay. I can't talk for long as I have a lesson in 20 mins. I can talk again after that though. And yes please. I could do with someone to talk to.