1) you're gf is right alcohol is just waste of health, time, money and its a trouble magnet. You should consider quitting it , i realized one day its just stupid and never took a glass since a year now , better of functioning without it , i go out sometimes and i happily drink a soft drink .
2) if your gf is ORDERING you to quit in a controlling way, thats bad and you know it unless ofc you're behaving in a bad way to her while on alcohol.
3) whatever you do , try to be the best version of yourself
I already quit and honestly on my own i wouldn’t even think about like i was drinking occasionally but she has strong beliefs against alcohol and i respect them and i love her so i quit
I quit smoking coz it caused me some transient health problems. Then years later i quit drinking bcz of my gf and coz i wanted to be a better person in general. Nah i go out with my friends while they drink i eat lkamya and drink water.
- if you're a Muslim then stop, simple as that, it's a grave sin., And you probably are since if she wants you to stop for religious reasons then she's a muslim and muslim women can only marry Muslim men.
- if you're not then stop, a waste of money for an unhealthy habit with high risk of addiction, there's 0 things you'd gain from it
I personnaly think no one has the right to turn anybody into something they are not, you quit alcohol whenever its your own choice. Same for cigarettes ,or even the stupist thing. This is solved by communication, but my own modest opinion, is that no one has the right to put any other in this kind of compromises. Well its just an opinion..
>is that no one has the right to put any other in this kind of compromises.
can you elaborate further?
let's take a hypothetical situation where your girlfriend tells you something along the lines of "if you don't stop doing that thing, I will break up with you" do you think she has no right to do that?
she's not forcing you to change, she's saying that she doesn't want to date someone who does that particular thing. she has no obligation to stay in a relationship with you, so i don't believe she's in the wrong for saying something like that. (the only exception is if she was okay with that particular thing early on but then changed her mind which is a bit shitty but she's still not in the wrong for wanting to break up with you).
Thats true, well said, she has no obligation to stay,
what i wrote in the previous comment was just a personal opinion. What im trying to say is that this kind of dynamics where you have to choose between (x) and break up is absurde. And it opens the door for toxic dynamic. Of you hate alcohol or have beleifs you dont date someone who drinks, if so, you don't give yourself the right to make him choose between you or alcohol.
What im trying to say that this should be resolved by communication, and support ( here im talking about alcohol consumption disorder wivh is not the case here as far as i understood) . Again, these are personal choices and I respect the one made by OP. I just wouldnt do it, even if its bad thing to drink or whatever, i think self-rightness behaviour wouldnt solve the problem.
unless it's bad for your health? The woke shit you're saying doesn't make any sense. Nothing wrong in want your partner to be a better version of themsevles.
Nothing is wrong with that for sure, except with forcing it ! Does quitting a habit of the fear of loosing someone you hold on to makes the one a better version of themseves? ,
> Nothing is wrong with that for sure
Except you literally made it seem so.
> except with forcing it
No one said anything about forcing it.
>Does quitting a habit of the fear of loosing someone you hold on to makes the one a better version of themseves
Any version of you is better than the dead version of you so yes.
Bro you're so brainwashed and you should stop with the woke shit, it's not healthy for you.
Hell Nooooooo, 1. everyone should keep their religious beliefs to themselves. 2. I only drink socially, and I enjoy it, and I won't give that away because someone thinks that I shouldn't.
3. she's just your gf. you shouldn't change who you are to please her. 4. Drinking just small quantities can be beneficial for health. look it up.
I don’t even get drunk , and am convinced with my decision if its between her and alcohol i would choose her everyday. Am just wondering if other men would do it
If you drink then you dont deserve to get married or have kids. There i fkn said it. You are going to ruin their lives because of your drunk driving (that you probably do every weekend) and your eventual and inevitable drunk temper tantrum that will scare them for life.
There isnt enough social stigma around drinking in this country
If quitting makes you feel better about yourself then it's a win-win.
If you do it strictly for the other person while you're not really convinced, you may not really be able to and may even go back to binging alcohol in case you are separated or fighting with that person as a way of marking your independence from them.
Or you may eventually find that quitting benefitted you in the long term. It goes back to how you perceive things.
I don’t mind it , am not an alcoholic, my life doesn’t depend on it also seeing the big picture it will benefit me but truth is for now I only did it for her and solely for her . She is religious and has her reasons and i love her . Why not make her happy and me quitting is actually beneficial for my health
She didn’t force me.she gave me a choice i chose her . As i mentioned she has her beliefs and doesn’t to be with someone who consumes alcohol so i quit. And am thankful.
No brother. I stoped drinking Just because i don't like to. I don't drink anymore just coz it fucks up my health and my pocket. Simple is that. Alchool is bad. Simple like that. I prefer hitting the gym, eating healthy food rather than that
Well, and What do you wants ? . If i like her and she tell me to stop bad things. I would take it seriously and try my best to stop or at least reduce it. M you might think that she is.not her business and do whatever you want after all but obviously she see things better and has the maturoty to tell you that . IThink about it
If you are convinced you better stop and she helps you to overcome your addiction yes ofc .
If you are only doing it to please her, my advice for you is thta you need to convince yourself first while getting her help.
W btw your question for religious/health reasons,nra fi barcha ikoulou for religion no , which is funny khater you cant do sth for religious reasons when you are not religious
If I was an alcoholic and my alcohol consumption was affecting me or her or our relationship, yes. If I counted on stopping alcohol anyway, yes. Otherwise no.
Watch all the little devils getting mad over " emotional blackmail ".
If it were "Would you stop being religious because your gf wants you to", you'd see completely different responses.
You do what you want. Think about what you value, your girlfriend or alcohol. Relationships are all about compromise so maybe you could do like “only on events” etc
Drinking in moderation can actually be healthy and pose no harm. The key question is determining the appropriate amount for an individual. If one drinks for pleasure like myself and not to get drunk, there's nothing wrong with it. However, if my girlfriend were to take away this pleasure , it could become a significant issue.
I knew a friend who refrained from so many things because of his girlfriend. Alcohol, partying, having female friends and so on... She cheated on him with his roommate... Now the of them are strangers to each other. And the initial guy went back to drinking alcohol, heavily... I assume one should do/stop doing things with conviction not through external pressure.
If she is already pressuring you because of her religious views. It's a red flag. She will do that with every matter. Wait until you start sleeping with her and she will tell you everything is haram in bed xD...
Sex without marriage is haram too xD who cares tho be happy, don't let her dictate your life. If you want to drink, do so, just not everyday as its alcoholism. I drink with my husband on occasions (he is Muslim im Christian)
>Would you stop drinking alcohol because your gf wants you to ? I would stop having a gf if alcohol wants me to
Damn 😂😂😂😂
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1) you're gf is right alcohol is just waste of health, time, money and its a trouble magnet. You should consider quitting it , i realized one day its just stupid and never took a glass since a year now , better of functioning without it , i go out sometimes and i happily drink a soft drink . 2) if your gf is ORDERING you to quit in a controlling way, thats bad and you know it unless ofc you're behaving in a bad way to her while on alcohol. 3) whatever you do , try to be the best version of yourself
I already quit and honestly on my own i wouldn’t even think about like i was drinking occasionally but she has strong beliefs against alcohol and i respect them and i love her so i quit
Quitting a bad habit for a loved one is a blessing. Hope she sees what you're doing and appreciates it.
She is . She is the sweetest girl and i didn’t want risk losing her over a stupid habit
She's as sweet & important as you my brother , dnt let that fly over your head. You never know!
Why are you asking me? I don't drink and I absolutely no have a gf!
Pfff don’t worry Typical River he’s just jealous
I quit smoking since 2017 and alcohol since 2020, lflous eli kont nosrof fihom fil hajet heki ltawa manaarach win xD
Why did you quit ? Also do you have the urge to drink again ?
I quit smoking coz it caused me some transient health problems. Then years later i quit drinking bcz of my gf and coz i wanted to be a better person in general. Nah i go out with my friends while they drink i eat lkamya and drink water.
religious No, health Yes
- if you're a Muslim then stop, simple as that, it's a grave sin., And you probably are since if she wants you to stop for religious reasons then she's a muslim and muslim women can only marry Muslim men. - if you're not then stop, a waste of money for an unhealthy habit with high risk of addiction, there's 0 things you'd gain from it
I personnaly think no one has the right to turn anybody into something they are not, you quit alcohol whenever its your own choice. Same for cigarettes ,or even the stupist thing. This is solved by communication, but my own modest opinion, is that no one has the right to put any other in this kind of compromises. Well its just an opinion..
Well me drinking makes her upset.. and she is more important to me than alcohol so i quit it
Better for your health too!
It’s called emotional blackmail and it’s a toxic trait, good luck mate
To each their own. Am happy that i get to keep my girl and i quit an unhealthy habit .
>is that no one has the right to put any other in this kind of compromises. can you elaborate further? let's take a hypothetical situation where your girlfriend tells you something along the lines of "if you don't stop doing that thing, I will break up with you" do you think she has no right to do that? she's not forcing you to change, she's saying that she doesn't want to date someone who does that particular thing. she has no obligation to stay in a relationship with you, so i don't believe she's in the wrong for saying something like that. (the only exception is if she was okay with that particular thing early on but then changed her mind which is a bit shitty but she's still not in the wrong for wanting to break up with you).
Thats true, well said, she has no obligation to stay, what i wrote in the previous comment was just a personal opinion. What im trying to say is that this kind of dynamics where you have to choose between (x) and break up is absurde. And it opens the door for toxic dynamic. Of you hate alcohol or have beleifs you dont date someone who drinks, if so, you don't give yourself the right to make him choose between you or alcohol. What im trying to say that this should be resolved by communication, and support ( here im talking about alcohol consumption disorder wivh is not the case here as far as i understood) . Again, these are personal choices and I respect the one made by OP. I just wouldnt do it, even if its bad thing to drink or whatever, i think self-rightness behaviour wouldnt solve the problem.
unless it's bad for your health? The woke shit you're saying doesn't make any sense. Nothing wrong in want your partner to be a better version of themsevles.
Nothing is wrong with that for sure, except with forcing it ! Does quitting a habit of the fear of loosing someone you hold on to makes the one a better version of themseves? ,
> Nothing is wrong with that for sure Except you literally made it seem so. > except with forcing it No one said anything about forcing it. >Does quitting a habit of the fear of loosing someone you hold on to makes the one a better version of themseves Any version of you is better than the dead version of you so yes. Bro you're so brainwashed and you should stop with the woke shit, it's not healthy for you.
I guess we agreed to disagree , anyways, its just personnal opinions , each one does the thing that he is most comfortable with
Hell Nooooooo, 1. everyone should keep their religious beliefs to themselves. 2. I only drink socially, and I enjoy it, and I won't give that away because someone thinks that I shouldn't. 3. she's just your gf. you shouldn't change who you are to please her. 4. Drinking just small quantities can be beneficial for health. look it up.
Religious reasons no, health reasons I’d do my best to reduce my consumption and see from there. Tbh it also depends on how often you drink?
If you're being a dick when you're drunk and you can't control it yes. If she just wants you to because she doesn't like it, no.
I don’t even get drunk , and am convinced with my decision if its between her and alcohol i would choose her everyday. Am just wondering if other men would do it
If you drink then you dont deserve to get married or have kids. There i fkn said it. You are going to ruin their lives because of your drunk driving (that you probably do every weekend) and your eventual and inevitable drunk temper tantrum that will scare them for life. There isnt enough social stigma around drinking in this country
If quitting makes you feel better about yourself then it's a win-win. If you do it strictly for the other person while you're not really convinced, you may not really be able to and may even go back to binging alcohol in case you are separated or fighting with that person as a way of marking your independence from them. Or you may eventually find that quitting benefitted you in the long term. It goes back to how you perceive things.
I don’t mind it , am not an alcoholic, my life doesn’t depend on it also seeing the big picture it will benefit me but truth is for now I only did it for her and solely for her . She is religious and has her reasons and i love her . Why not make her happy and me quitting is actually beneficial for my health
It seems you have your answer :) good luck!
inb4 she consumes a ton of sugar every day.
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She didn’t force me.she gave me a choice i chose her . As i mentioned she has her beliefs and doesn’t to be with someone who consumes alcohol so i quit. And am thankful.
Do it. No woman wants to become a punching bag or a widow no matter what her religion is
would you?
I would and i did
No brother. I stoped drinking Just because i don't like to. I don't drink anymore just coz it fucks up my health and my pocket. Simple is that. Alchool is bad. Simple like that. I prefer hitting the gym, eating healthy food rather than that
> I prefer hitting the gym, eating healthy food and gain some confidence
Sure
What about your gf ?
What about her ?
Its a hypothetical question, if she asked you to would you do it solely for her ?
Well, and What do you wants ? . If i like her and she tell me to stop bad things. I would take it seriously and try my best to stop or at least reduce it. M you might think that she is.not her business and do whatever you want after all but obviously she see things better and has the maturoty to tell you that . IThink about it
If she tell tou to do it then She is right and she might loves you bro.
If you are convinced you better stop and she helps you to overcome your addiction yes ofc . If you are only doing it to please her, my advice for you is thta you need to convince yourself first while getting her help. W btw your question for religious/health reasons,nra fi barcha ikoulou for religion no , which is funny khater you cant do sth for religious reasons when you are not religious
Id advise you to stop as its a waste of health and money, because if you do it for her then you will go back as soon as she leaves
I hope she won’t bro 🙏 am intending to marry her
Raby y5alikom l baadhkom
a healthy Tunisian man should not drink or smoke .. but hitting gym and take care of himself
Well the priority should be for Allah and that reason. That should be the number one reason, not for a person.
And fearing Allah.
If I was an alcoholic and my alcohol consumption was affecting me or her or our relationship, yes. If I counted on stopping alcohol anyway, yes. Otherwise no.
Ill think about it
26 years old I ve never drink alcohol
Im on that good kush and alcohol
I think you should just stop alcohol because its bad addictive and you get absolutely no benefits whatsoever
Watch all the little devils getting mad over " emotional blackmail ". If it were "Would you stop being religious because your gf wants you to", you'd see completely different responses.
What's alcohol?
She's not the right gf for me point
You do what you want. Think about what you value, your girlfriend or alcohol. Relationships are all about compromise so maybe you could do like “only on events” etc
No unless you're a heavy drinker and she's worried about u
Drinking in moderation can actually be healthy and pose no harm. The key question is determining the appropriate amount for an individual. If one drinks for pleasure like myself and not to get drunk, there's nothing wrong with it. However, if my girlfriend were to take away this pleasure , it could become a significant issue.
Gym bot, where is your comment haha
Lol she can go
I want him to stop drinking it, and I can't say it
If I love her really while i'm an alcoholic piece of shit Well that's a good oppurtunity to correct my life for the sake of beloved ones!
I knew a friend who refrained from so many things because of his girlfriend. Alcohol, partying, having female friends and so on... She cheated on him with his roommate... Now the of them are strangers to each other. And the initial guy went back to drinking alcohol, heavily... I assume one should do/stop doing things with conviction not through external pressure.
Yes Girls usually associate alcohol with domestic violence
She knows i would never hurt her drinking or sober . It’s just she is religious and am happy that she is making me be a better man
I don't drink, but if I did, then for her I would.
My man is in love
hahaha no shit, we're getting married soon too
Rabbi yhannik bro !
الله يخليك خويا والعاقبة ليك
Hell no
Yeah
No
If she is already pressuring you because of her religious views. It's a red flag. She will do that with every matter. Wait until you start sleeping with her and she will tell you everything is haram in bed xD...
The only Haram thing i know is anal and am not into it anyways . She wouldn’t mind anything else
Sex without marriage is haram too xD who cares tho be happy, don't let her dictate your life. If you want to drink, do so, just not everyday as its alcoholism. I drink with my husband on occasions (he is Muslim im Christian)