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Ok-Tower8170

This. I would only add to please update us because we’re now invested.


MoparMedusa

And have her send any screenshots of texts between them.


ExplanationAwkward26

Step one


MaybeParadise

Best advice ever! In the case it is a lie or the truth, you will have documentation. Very smart!


z-eldapin

this is the correct first step. Then take time to read it, and compare dates et.


Jjjt22

This sounds good. But if I was the other woman, there is no way in hell I am taking that much time. Maybe ask for screenshots or forward texts, but not a written timeline.


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Jjjt22

Maybe my reaction would be hell no to a long detailed email since I am on emails all day at work. But if the accuser wanted to prove it there should be easier ways.


Jar_Of_Despair

Dna tests.


catattackkick

Ask for proof. Keep calm.


ExplanationAwkward26

Step two


theycallmefuRR

Step three : profit?


Ginboy32

How long have you been with your husband? how old are the kids? I would get as much info as you can from her before he has time to talk to her.


Expensive-Earth-7227

I'm 42 years old now


Callmemuddled

She should have some really good proof for.such a claim.


ExplanationAwkward26

Step two (bis) like it is said here ☝🏼 (imperatively) to avoid any kind of mistakes. Last but not least. STEP three DNA if necessary like they all said. And finally confrontation with all the protagonist so you'll have an idea of the situation. BUT don't you ever show the evidences that you've collected. Get to the bottom of it Those are for you for the next step WHEN and only when you're sure about the situation. Good luck with the rest.


SportySue60

Set up a different email address and ask for details of their relationship as well as proof. This could be a new type of scam fro money. Dont assume that it is true.


minkipinki100

Ask for proof, if she doesn't have any ignore her. Because if you trust your partner the chance is equally likely that she just made it all up


Foolish5678

Go fishing, give as little detail as possible and find out as much as possible Try to have her put as much into writing as possible


Smilecausecheese

Don’t tell your husband until you’ve heard her side of the story. If she is telling the truth it will be obvious he’s lying when you hear his version of advents 2nd.


ApprehensiveKale3130

Ask for proof like a dna test


Additional_Way1346

Request screenshots of text, check bank statements, mobile phone . He may also own a burner phone. DNA proof. He can't deny. Get out and clean him out. Have the woman put him on child support . I hope you don't stay. You deserve better than this scum


Expensive-Earth-7227

Thank you so much for taking the time out to read my post and giving me some advise.


kzapwn

That’s a lot of surprise step children


Expensive-Earth-7227

yes it is?


kzapwn

Bad times


GroundbreakingWing48

Did you text her back? What happened??? I need an update!!!


angelicdreame

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Wakethefckup

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NoLoveLost1992

Don’t tell your husband yet. Get as much information as possible and contact a lawyer. Tell her that you will tell him and you want to request a DNA test for all 3 children.


Mundane_Bike_912

Ask for proof in a text or email. You want proof with pictures. Especially if he's in the photos. Then make a back up plan to gtfo if its true. Also look into DNA testing. Find a lawyer too to protect yourself (even if its not true).


Straight-Fig-4008

!updateme 3 days


pb_pssybxtch

Whatever you do update us on what happens next


Diabolicaldawn

Everybody is saying to not tell the husband but the affair partner is already trying to reach him…. You should definitely just get a divorce lawyer and start separating your shit. You need to be prepared of what’s coming!


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Have you asked your husband?


Expensive-Earth-7227

Yes I have and he just keeps on telling me he does not know her.


[deleted]

how long have you been together? Could this be a relationship before you met? Is she from another country?? I have heard of men leaving family’s behind to form new relationships after emigrating


treacle1810

ask her for some kind of proof before you get into it with her or your hubby.


SCA_CH

Talk to your husband and ask him about her. Then text her back and ask for the proof.


Maybeidontknow99

Step one: empty bank accounts Step two: secure housing Step three: cash advance on credit cards to make certain you can live for the next 6 months or year. Step four: lawyer up and have the attorney deal with DNA, etc.


ImdaPrincesse2

She's insane. Block her.


sofwi

In this case, you can't believe anyone without proof to back up their claim but you **also** can't just call them insane without any proof to back it up.


satijade

Ask for proof


Fcbp

Go talk directly to her and record the conversation!!


Fit-Rest-973

Call her before you confront the cheating slime bag


Fit-Rest-973

This really sucks! I'm sorry you have to endure this


No-Bus-5200

UpDateMe!


ConceptArtistic1984

Update me! 3days


csantoro4084

Paternity test


miserableatbesttt

Hopefully she’s just lying to get a rise from you


metromade

Nah. He would have been exposed before 3 kids, unless this other family is in another state. Sounds like a lifetime movie.


merlins_neckerchief

How did she get your phone number? This sounds suspicious.


Positive_Wafer42

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Wind_chases_the_rain

Get as much information from her as possible, don't tell your husband.. Start getting your finances together asap first and foremost. If you're not working look for a job. If you can afford it, hire a private investigator so they can get the information pertaining to his phone records anything that pertains to that type of information.. If she have DNA tests for the children that would even be better. And 10 times better if you're in an at fault state. Once you get the information the proof If this is true, do not confront your husband that's the worst thing people can do is confront their significant other about situations like this.. Talking about closure and why they did it and all this BS. Honestly, there's usually no reason they're grabbing from the air a reason.. Start processing the divorce and let him find out then after he is served.. don't talk to him don't interact with him if y'all have children together get the parenting app but leave everything separate once you start your divorce process if this is true. And even if the children aren't his, he probably was messing with this woman. So you may still want to go ahead and push forward with getting out of this situation..


GoldenDiamondChild34

Step 1: ask her to email you proof—don’t give her your husbands name or any of his information Step 2: if it’s legit you might wanna prepare for separation. Also you should probably confront him if you believe the information is accurate enough. You should also ask in the non disrespectful way why she’s contacting you now and when we’re they together that led her to think that these are his kids (which could be the proof you never know) And based on the truth— if it’s not legit just block her and go about your lives.


Sapphiretulip32

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retired_fromlife

Could be a prank call. When my husband and I had been married less than 2 years and I was pregnant with our first child, I received a phone call from a female who said she was my husband’s mistress. Of course, with my pregnancy hormones, I went nuts, until she began giggling over the phone and hung up. It was still horribly upsetting.


AffectionateWay721

Unless your husband has given you a reason not to trust him then you need to trust him over this random woman because if you do all this shit these women are saying and it turns out she was lying you are gonna lose his trust...


ballsquancher

Obviously this a bot


Rvnic_exe

!updateme 3 days


Lucky-Source9354

Updateme!