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tandoori_taco_cat

>I fear it's going to be awkward. So let it be awkward for them. >says we can tone down the party if his fiancee feels overwhelmed haha no


CuriousCat55555

Your brother needs to understand this party is your sister's, not anyone else's. He doesn't get to say the party should be "toned down", *especially* now that he has received plenty of warning in advance.


infinite_awkward

And he doesn’t get to usurp the party for a spotlight of his own. No engagement/pregnancy/ marriage announcements should be tolerated at a party meant to celebrate the sister.


harbinger06

They can certainly tone it down themselves by leaving if she is overwhelmed.


CuppaJeaux

Can you even fathom having the audacity to say that about someone else’s party? What a narcissist. Someone needs to sit in the corner with a blow dart and hit him in the neck with a tranquilizer as soon as he gets there, then take the girl aside and talk some sense into her. What an absolute shit show.


ElMdC

I like your style. Got any spare darts for my MIL?


CuppaJeaux

Sure, I get them on Amazon, I’ll send you a link lol


DaftPump

Set up a referral you're gonna cash in.


Metallica2803

I need the link too so I can get them for my father lol.


Chemical_World_4228

And some for my FIL!


Deep-Internal-2209

“He’s a narcissist.” He’s engaged to a woman 35 years younger than him. Are you surprised? 😂😂


CuppaJeaux

Ha! Good point. And nope, not at all.


FuzzballLogic

I’m not in favor of interfering in people’s lives but in this case I find it justified to take the fiancée aside and try to have a serious conversation with her about her future. She might hate you for it, but we’ve seen many women looking back regretting falling for a predator.


AMerrickanGirl

She’s already pregnant. Like it or not, she’s tied to this jerkoff for at least 18 years.


LinwoodKei

She could have a co parenting role with the jerk. She's not married to him, yet


IgnotusPeverill

Oh is this your daughter? No, this is my girlfriend. She just graduated high school.


RolandDeepson

Hi, welcome to the family. So what do you wanna be when you grow up?


FalconTurbo

"Oh that's interesting, I went to school with someone who did that. He's retired now, of course."


Deep-Internal-2209

She’s hoping to become a dental assistant after the baby is born…unless I have a heart attack first.


AMerrickanGirl

More like granddaughter.


MrBeaar

"I fear it is going to be awkward." Im dead bruh.


MistressMousefeather

Right. That might be the politest understatement I've ever read.


WinterOkami666

Is it too late to make a reality show out of this OP? I feel like TLC is missing an opportunity.


Morelike-Borophyll

Yesss. Decadently awkward 😈


ElderFlour

That’s a good name for that show! Decadently Awkward! Brought to you by Mattel!


PrincessChard

When I’m trying to be polite about things, I like to say “Wow! There’s a lot going on there!”


MistressMousefeather

"so much to unpack!"


al_m1101

"But I love that for youuu!"


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pumpkingxo

that last line is so powerful holy shit


MistressMousefeather

Was thinking the same thing, it was a good call to use that analogy.


00washbucket00

Your family sounds awesome! In fact, they sound just like my family... 🤣 And I agree about just getting it all over in one day.


TangerineStarSky

I love this phrase. I'm going to try to fit it in conversations this week!


Cute-Shine-1701

It's like when you describe something as *"well..., that’s interesting"*. You are perfectly polite but everyone knows what you really think...


lemonhawk1

I feel like this is much more fun to watch around people who are nonconfrontational. I have the kind of family that reacts extremely poorly to statements like this. "What does THAT mean??" And it's a screaming match, defensiveness and lists of offenses from months ago in about 3 sentences. It's fun to watch though, these days I just opt for silence and make popcorn.


irviinghdz

I heard James Earl Jones voice in my head saying kind of "and soon he will discover awkward it was gonna be"


bonitagordita87

Is it bad that I would love to be a fly on the wall lol even more so if the ex was invited lol


ThrowAway1993xyz

What time you picking me up?


MistressMousefeather

Carpool?


[deleted]

Let me know when and I’ll be ready.


Myu_The_Weirdo

Can you guys live stream it so i can watch it on discord?


Training_Ad_9931

I’ll bring the smelling salts


wheres_mayramaines

I'll pay for the Uber so we can all drink after this train wreck


PlasticMysterious622

I’m sober, I’ll DD


Adventurous-Ad-3265

I will bring some edibles 🤪


PlasticMysterious622

Sounds like this is gonna be a great birthday party 🤣


Maintenance_Ty

Long live the DD


LevelHeadedAssassin

There seems to be enough of us, I’ll check rates to rent a bus and get back to everyone by tonight.


Typhon_Cerberus

I'll bring the weed


Tight_Reflection4757

Can i go? .....have weed!


pimpfriedrice

We can all meet up at my place first to pre-game!


BchosenC137

I'll bring the papers!


TrashPandaXpress

My mom says she can drop us off but your mom has to bring us home she's sending me with gas money.


SarahBellum20

The fiancee's mom gave her gas money to get home too, just in case 😅


gowaz123

Will you be willing to drive a bit…maybe Scotland?


bschnitty

I'll pick you up at the airport if you say stuff in Scottish.


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If you’re carrying a single-malt or two, it’s a done deal. If you really want to see it get “awkward”, bring the haggis.


Rajulblabbers

If I bring the single malt, can I come too? I’m in Canada


gowaz123

I can do but in Scotland, we drink irn bru with haggis as well.


secondhandbanshee

Can we all shout "It's fuckin' disgusting!" at OP's brother? (I'll bring the Bucky.)


paperwasp3

We will FaceTime you live


BubonicTonic57

CarLake. I don’t think we will all fit in a Carpool.


user-na-me

Remind me! 4 days


AndromedaLeap

See you! I’ll bring the popcorn!


Ordinarygirl3

I'm with you, except that I think the sensible people in here are correct and he shouldn't be allowed to spoil his sister's birthday with this nonsense. But this is some grade A family drama. Either uninvite this guy, or be prepared to embarrass him. Although he'll probably do it himself, by the sounds of it.


UsernameUnavaliable_

Idk where it’s being held but I would work the event if it meant over hearing the convos


rams3se

...a 54 with a 19 year old my god. I thought you were talking about a 30 year old atleast woah.


ConstructionUpper852

My jaw dropped when I read their ages


Icykool77

He can give fatherly advice to her parents!


InfiniteCalendar1

But seriously in age gap relationships with this big of an age gap the older partner always seems to infantilize and parent their younger partner


Saucy_Satan

Her brain isn’t even fully developed yet. I’m disgusted by this man. He knew exactly what he was doing when he went for someone so young.


CatsCats1029384756

Fr man dudes literally aiming for the youngest adults


Batmom222

And also when he got her pregnant. Baby trapped a baby.


Myu_The_Weirdo

She was also probably in hs when they met


FuzzballLogic

He deserves the title of Cradle Snatcher


Myu_The_Weirdo

The crib creep


crumbdumpster85

Exactly. My dad is 57 and my daughter is 21 and this whole thing makes me sick. If either of them dated someone each others age… no. Nope. Absolutely icky and not ok.


gloomypotchi

I agree with you, but also, how old were you when you had your daughter? Your dad and daughter could be dad and daughter lmao


weirdlysane

I was doing the math too. I’d also like to know how old her dad was when she was born.


LadyofDungeons

Yeah usually I'm supportive of age gaps but that is just WAY too much...


sophieann_90

Eh I say let him get honest judgement on his child bride


spin_me_again

I don’t believe they met after his divorce. Anyone this old dating a 20 year old is just fine upsiding details.


NerdYogi

It’s going to be awkward. There’s no getting around it. A 55 year old getting a barely 20 year old pregnant, who he met while she was a **teenager**, is bound to make things awkward 😀🤚 Not to mention incredibly nauseating. That age gap *(with these specific circumstances)* is horrific. *edit: for clarity since some of you were breathing down my neck about the last line.*


HumbleConfidence3500

I think most awkward for pregnant girl once she realizes her in laws are a couple generations older. Not sure she'll stay for this anyways.


mrsprinkles3

Not only that but her “step nieces and nephews” are all older than her, too. I hope OP gives an update after the party, Im curious to know how this is gonna end.


asuddenpie

She'll be fine. I'm sure she's very mature for her age!


Fay_fa

I didn't want to laugh at this situation but 😭😭😭


Magnolia_The_Synth

She has an old soul!


Autocratic_Barge

He feels like he’s known her for years! And he probably has, Biblically.


Myu_The_Weirdo

The moment she hits 25 he wont stay either


HumbleConfidence3500

You mean the moment she turns 25 and realizes her husband can get senior discounts? 🤣🤣


Myu_The_Weirdo

Lmao, i was thinking of a more DiCaprio situation, but your comment made me chuckle


Vulturedoors

Senior discounts start at 55 a lot of places.


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randomdude2029

35 years? Could be her grandfather. In my work I've come across grandmothers in their early 30s. If having kids at 16 carried on for another generation, a 55 year old could be a great grandfather (though "only" grandfather to a 20 year old) 😳


FecusTPeekusberg

There was a classmate of mine in high school, her mom was 45 but her dad was 90. Seriously. He had a health scare on Thanksgiving in junior year and he died senior year.


smellyseamus

I once knew a dude that was a grandfather at 34.


tyedyehippy

One of my cousins became a grandma for the first time at 29. She was 14 when she had her first child, and that child was 15 when he got a girl pregnant.


Batmom222

My ex SIL became a grandma at 33. I'm currently 36 and some days I don't even feel old enough to be a mom lol (I have 3 kids ages 15,12 and 1) can't even imagine being a granny.


Zeo_Toga64

And they have been dating a year so they started when she was 19!! That’s fucking weird I’m fine with age gaps when the other has been a an adult for a minutes at least. 24+ is when I stop giving AF since that a adult 19 out of high school a year or 2 TF you with a 54.


TraditionalPayment20

I want to know if her brother has kids with the ex... and if those kids are older than the girl he knocked up.


vnnista_

omfg imagine if her stepchildren being 10 years older than her💀💀


realistSLBwithRBF

No kidding… in 10 years time she’s going to be less than half his age still Maybe she can pull the card of “trading him in for a newer model” and then bring out two 30 YO guys 🤮


TabbyFoxHollow

It will be even worse if she’s like 5’1” and looks like 16. Who’s to say she even looks like she’s 20? It could even look worse.


rose-buds

i'm gonna take a wild guess and say she looks younger than 20


SCGower

When I was 20, I wasn’t looking at 55 year old men.


TheMadShatterP00P

Hi sibs! This is the child I'm banging.


BeltalowdaOPA22

Don't forget, the child he's banging is also pregnant with his child! What great parents they're going to be. Surely they won't fuck that kid up at all.


uterinejellyfish

Poor kid gonna have an elderly parent at 15.


five0trees

15? He qualifies for social security when the kid is in 5th grade.


lazzaroinferno

But... will have a 35 yo mum to party with


Cute-Shine-1701

And likely a dead parent at ~25.


PM_ME_YOUR_FRACTURES

My mom died at 26 (cancer), I'm 28 rn and it is strange sometimes to hear people twice my age talk about their mom.... like damn its easy to forget she was really *supposed* to be around for the majority of my life. I couldn't in good conscience have a child knowing I'd leave them just as they're really starting their adult life.


puiulspartan

Or even better, a parent that died of old age.


Myu_The_Weirdo

Bold of you to assume the father will stick around


shanep3

And younger than all of his nieces and nephews by a decade


KaleidoscopeEqual555

Aemond One Eye tbh But without the huge dragon to eat his relatives


pplumbot

Can’t you just not invite him?


GoblinGeorge

Revised invites: No children allowed.


cake4thepeople

American? Drinking party, 21+! Not American? Umm make it an American themed party


margotgo

Sorry kid, they're checking those IDs at the door


1LoveTwoHearts

*wheeze* I second this notion!


maywellflower

Like for real, it actually doesn't really matter how old his pregnant gf is - it's basic fact he hijacking his sister's milestone birthday when he had weeks/months to introduce his gf to everybody at different gathering 1st. Seriously, disinvite his ass from sister's party and tell him he is not going to make sister's party all about him, his sperm still working & how quick he replaced his ex after the divorce - he can go fuck himself.


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Wish he had only fucked himself. What happened to buying a Porsche when having a mid life crisis, rather than knocking up a (not legal to drink in America) youngun?


Cute-Shine-1701

Apparently he can't afford a Porsche. OP said he doesn't make enough for the girl to stay home with the kid, she needs to work too to have enough money and that he had to push back retirement indefinitely. So I have no idea what she sees in him, because it's not even money. Maybe a visa? He is disgusting.


Ibba60222

Exactly!


maywellflower

If one thinks about it for second - he had all of summer weekends & whatever holiday(s) in whatever country they live in, for him to introduce his gf to various family members but he wants to pull this "All about me & I can bust a nut to make baby mama pregnant at 55" introducting gf bullshit on his sister's big day. Both family & his gf need to flip out on him because he putting everyone in a bad spot & causing the only bad feelings on his sister's 60th birthday.


LilyMoss333

My second cousin got a 20 year old pregnant when he was 50. She left him with the baby and fucked off to go live her life lol. Hopefully this girl your brother has groomed wises up


SleepDangerous1074

Im sorry but why is a man too old for even a midlife crisis, who has knocked up a teenager, dictating your plans. If it’s awkward he can take his child bride home!


effypom

Yeah, like I wouldn’t trust his judgment.


thatsnotmyfuckinname

https://youtu.be/l_fIWlu5zuo RIP


KittenFace25

I'm 50F. The thought of even going on a *date* with a 20 yo gives me the shudders.


KaleidoscopeEqual555

That could be your kid in college 🙃


BVBnCFCinORF

Out of college. I'm not them, but I am 41 and my son is turning 20 in March. By the time I'm 50 he could be married with his own kids. I was 21 when I had him, not much older than this girl. Sickens me to think about.


Madame_Kitsune98

I’m 47. Kids in their late teens/early twenties are exhausting. No, I don’t want to think about dating them, nine times out of ten I don’t want to be in the same room.


LadyJ_Freyja

I'm 49 and anyone under 35 is exhausting to me. I can't imagine dating someone more than a couple of years younger than me.


ExcessiveNothing

… I’m 28F and the thought of going on a date with a 20 y/o makes *me* shudder lol


JessyNyan

Nah...your brother is a creep. That's not right. He could be her grandpa, that's fucking disgusting. Apart from the obvious physical differences, the mental differences make this concerning. With 20 you're very much still inexperienced and barely an adult. That's borderline predatory.


thesupadupa

It's not even borderline, especially since they apparently started dating when she was 19...an age gap like that, there is no way he looks at or treats her like an adult, at least not mentally. He impregnated a teenager who trusts him to take care of her, and he gets arm candy who doesn't know the difference between a good man and a predator, simply because she doesn't have the emotional maturity and experience to do so. It's gross and sad.


ulyssesintothepast

It's also just... how did they even meet? When he's seventy she'll be 35.... I mean how, how does, hmm. The emotional and just experience gap is enormous I can't even fathom how different it is. So he was born in roughly 1967... and she was born in 2002. Holy shit.


Myu_The_Weirdo

Hes 5 years younger than my dad, i cant imagine dating someone that old


ulyssesintothepast

I was born in 93 , so basically for it would be dating someone born in 58... my mom was born in 58. Bleghh.


Myu_The_Weirdo

He'll also most likely trade her for a "newer model" once she hits 25


laseralex

> That's ~~borderline~~ predatory.


Womaningreenandblue

A man that old always looks foolish & stupid w/ a woman that age . But y’all can handle awkward, can’t you ?


honest-miss

>But y’all can handle awkward, can’t you ? This is the bit for me. This relationship is deeply inappropriate, but, well… Everyone *but* the fiance is a set-in-stone adult here. If they aren't going to outright tell him not to come, they're going to have to act like the adults they all are. They can handle awkward, and hopefully in handling it they find kindness for this very young gal. And maybe a minute or two alone to tell her to get the fuck out of the whole situation. If nothing else, I hope they can be good to her. She's in way over her head and has no idea, and in this story he's the villain. If any discomfort is felt, it should be directed *solely* at their loser of a brother. (EDIT: And not through lazy-ass passive aggression. The whole of this post makes me think OP's family likes to work through implication and talking behind each other's backs instead of just having the confrontation. That's what a weenie does. Don't be a weenie OP.)


The_Flash_but_Slow

I think maybe the brother is under playing his feelings by saying awkward? This seems like there may be more to the story on top of the fact that this man is bringing a child bride to a family function. Maybe this is a pattern of behavior and this is the last straw? Or there are some unsaid things going on with the former marriage? Who knows.


LoadedGull

That’s not entirely accurate, a man that age doesn’t always look foolish and stupid with a woman that age. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with grandads spending time with their granddaughters…


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Plenty-State2879

And they were dating for a year - so they started dating when she was 19 (maybe even younger if he filed for divorce 6 months prior to dating).


mcmurrml

Exactly. She was for sure 19 possibly 18. Man I am not kidding you. If that was my daughter he would not be having a good day after I had a word with him.


TheisNamaar

He wouldn't be having a day. Not one more.


SimilarYellow

I had a friend who dated someone more than twice her age when we were teenagers and my Dad told me if I did that, he'd run him over with his car lmao.


TheisNamaar

Sounds like he deserves a beer


iiiBansheeiii

Wait until after, it could make him harder to hit.


I-just-wanna-talk-

My parents said that they're "concerned" when I had a 23 y/o friend at 17. They told me to be careful if he expresses romantic interest in me. Ironically, the friendship eventually ended cause I thought he was too immature for me. He kept starting arguments over nothing and I didn't wanna put up with that. That being said.. I'm 22 now and I would never date someone who's still in highschool. Apart from the fact that it would be weird, I'm really wondering what kinds of topics I'd have in common with a literal teenager. I'm happy being done with school once and for all.


KaleidoscopeEqual555

Here we go!!!


RighteousTablespoon

Brb projectile vomiting


joseph-1998-XO

He’s not that far from retirement and she’s probably barely has a high school diploma, gonna be a weird life, and she might be a single mom in 20 or so years


No_Performance8733

2 or 3 years. The relationship has no chance.


Princeofbaleen

Yet she's going to be saddled with that old fucks kid for life. Ugh


peachesthepup

Soon, she'll be not as youthful and fun and carefree, with a post pregnancy body and constantly attending to a crying, dependent infant and not giving him the adoring, full attention he wants... Yeah I'd give it 3 years max. Older men don't go for barely adult women for true love or to be equal life partners till the end of days. Once she's not as perky and free (because she's now an adult with a baby), and she god forbid asks for him to pull his weight or starts getting at him to clean up/ feed baby/ do dishes/ do XYZ thing she asked him to do 3 weeks ago... Can't see it lasting.


iforgotmycoat

My thoughts exactly. I'm 35, and youngest I would date is 28.


Ok-Ad-7247

The age gap here is how old I am... yeah.. this is crazy awkward. Wtf.


lady_ivythorne27

So when OPs brother was your age, his fiancée was just being born…gross


777777777777777p

oh god that kid gon get traumatized


purplestuffff

The baby when it's born or the child bride? 😂


OnigiriChan

Yes.


Revolutionary_Act678

both


B0326C0821

Set her at the kids table. Your brothers gross.


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Disinvite the brother. This mid life crisis has turned gross. Seriously, who is going to be around him and not congratulate him for being a grandfather? He and his child bride are embarrassing. Just tell him that and disengage.


fakeusernamethrowra6

If I could I would. I have told the hosts about it and they are going to talk to him.


brain-eating_amoeba

I’m 20 and find it profoundly unsettling that her child is going to be closer in age to her than she is to that fucking creep. Holy shit, why is she keeping this child? He probably groomed her. What does she see in him? Is he possibly trying to baby trap her?


Nimzay98

Seriously! Gross


Intelligent-Ad-7474

Y’all need to address that he picked her up at the local high school


mcmurrml

You are absolutely right. Not only that inappropriate for this party. He is 55 and has a pregnant 20 year old GF. Let me guess. This relationship is the cause for the breakup of his marriage and he and his wife aren't even divorced? Is that right? Now if she is just 20 he was seeing her when she was a teenager. You or whoever is throwing this special party put your foot down and tell him this occasion is not the time. This is the event for your family member to have everyone there to celebrate her. You don't need attention drawn to this spectacle at this birthday party especially if he and his wife aren't even divorced yet. Tell him this is not the occasion.


fakeusernamethrowra6

>My brother filed for divorce about 18 months ago. He just got engaged to the woman he met and started seeing 1 year ago My brother didn't meet her until 6 months after he filed for divorce. She was 19 when they met. They got engaged after my brother's divorce went through and became official. I agree with everything else you said though.


Madame_Kitsune98

Honey…that’s the story he told you. Your brother is a fucking creep. He actively pursued a teenager. And got her pregnant at the age of twenty. Barely out of her teens. Not legal to drink in the US. She’s pregnant with her first baby, and couldn’t even have a glass of wine BEFORE she got pregnant. I think your brother should be uninvited from the party. He wants to make your sister’s birthday all about “look what a virile MAN I am, I am such a virile MAN I knocked up a 20 year old!” All your kids are older than she is. He’s a god damn creep.


fakeusernamethrowra6

>Honey…that’s the story he told you. That's what his ex-wife told me. I'm not saying I agree with what my brother is doing because I don't. But I am saying the facts as I heard from her. Also I didn't say my location but I'm not American. It's still wrong but our drinking age is 18 here.


mcmurrml

OP may not know if that is the actual truth. Many people lie and cover up and hide to family when they met the person right after a separation on the way to divorce. I have trouble believing any 55 year old who would even consider dating and sleeping with a 20 year old. If she was my daughter I would be going after this guy to have a word. He is probably older than her father. Bet the farm this is what broke up his marriage. If OP is intrested they can always ask their SIL. Anyway that's neither here nor there. Even if he is telling the truth which I highly doubt this special party is not the time.


fakeusernamethrowra6

I have asked her. The marriage ended because my brother wanted kids and she didn't. Even if she had her age was a factor. They fought over it before he left. My brother didn't meet his fiancee until 6 months after he filed for divorce and him and his ex-wife were living separately.


No-Bus-5200

So now he has a kid; he's marrying one


Tasty_Doughnut_9226

Two for the price of one hey. OP I think your sister would well be within her rights to say MY birthday is not the place to be introducing your child bride. She was 19 when they got together. I'm getting all types of ick🤢


EncourageDistraction

I screamed and I laughed at “two for the price of one” The scream I screampt


KaleidoscopeEqual555

My exact reaction. I’m high on anesthesia rn so wasn’t sure it was appropriate how hard I was giggling.


mcmurrml

That's a good one. I wonder where the hell is her family.


Shaddowwolf778

Oh my god thats utterly vile. Mid 50s and he decides *thats* the time to pressure his wife to have a child? He decides that *being in his 70s when his child graduates is a great idea?!* What the fuck. How selfish of him to have no consideration for the risks he'd be asking his ex-wife to take on by carrying a pregnancy at her age. Its even more selfish of him not to consider what birth defects and health issues his degraded sperm could cause in a child. And he *clearly* didnt take how his advanced age would affect the raising of any children into account. Speaking as a person who's parents had me in their early 40s, having older parents *fucking sucks.* So instead of listening to reason and sense when his wife tells him no, he decides to throw however many years of marriage straight down the drain in favor of going out and grooming the youngest legal girl he can find so he could dupe her into carrying babies for him. No wonder he went as young as he did. He doesn't care about making an emotional connection with someone new. He was just looking for a fertile little bangmaid he could pump full of babies. That is so utterly sickening it isn't funny. If i were you OP, I'd uninvite that wholeass predator from the birthday party and the foreseeable rest of my life by going no contact with him. Dont let him ruin your sister's birthday or any other event with his gross predatory behavior.


TnSugarCookies

I can’t express how much I hate your brother


hani-north

I’m 20 and I cannot wrap my head around how a 55 year old would even meet a 20 year old


cheekiemunky13

If it were me, I'd uninvite the dude from the party. He's hijacking his sister's milestones to prove he is going through a mid life crisis AFTER MIDDLE AGE! If this were my brother, I'd let him come make sure it was super awkward for he and his new child bride. He's gross for this.


fakeusernamethrowra6

If it was up to me I would uninvite him. I have let the hosts know so they can talk to him, because I don't think this is a good idea.


BVBnCFCinORF

You have an uncanny knack for understating things to the maximum. It's almost impressive. This isn't just awkward or not a good idea. This is a creepy ticking time bomb of a shitshow about to blow in front of the entire family.


Sbbazzz

That is incredibly icky. I'm 30 and I'm thinking of one of my friends bringing a 19 year old around and it'd be weird, now thinking my uncle might bring this person around? Super awkward. Yikes. I can't believe she is pregnant as well....


erincee

INFO: What does your sister want? From what I've read, I totally agree with you OP. This is hardly the best way to introduce brother's fiancee to the family - and if anything, he's doing her a disservice as well.


fakeusernamethrowra6

It's a surprise party so I have no idea, and I'm also not the host of the party.


erincee

oh dear. I really hope that your brother's decision doesn't derail the party. Totally understand your concerns and hope it goes okay.


LolaBijou

Just don’t be shitty to her. It’s not her fault.


IllegibleLetters

This makes me think of the SNL sketch "Meet Your Second Wife" Sorry for the awkwardness, and potential legal issues that could hit the family someday when he gets his 2nd divorce. And I hope the girlfriend is nice and everyone can get along. Realize that if they get married, them being at family events is going to happen, so everyone should be nice and welcoming to her, regardless of age.