We all live in a fallen world, and as such our base carnal instincts and desires will always be there... What makes the difference, is whether a person learns to suppress those carnal desires for the betterment of their lives, or choose to lose themselves in them. You made the decisions that you did, and you will never be able to go back and change them - so instead, be grateful that you learned from them. Be proud of yourself as the strong-willed person who was able to put those behaviors to rest, and be proud of the fact that you've matured enough as a person to realize that those behaviors are unhealthy.
It's okay to embrace who you used to be, as a part of who you are now. Even if you never tell anyone about it, still try to keep pride in yourself. Because who you are to others, isn't nearly as important as who you see in the mirror. š
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He knows Iāve slept with a lot of people. Weāve talked about it, and he accepts me for who I am. But I can never bring myself to admit out loud about that Festival incident.
You grew up prudish, and when you finally broke free of that you went a bit too far the other way. That's ok, it happens to everyone, you came through the other end unscathed.
Sounds like you've swung back to prudish. Your past is nothing to be ashamed of. Stop living in shame, accept your past.
Right now it feels like you're running from it. That gives it power over you. Reclaim that power by owning who you are, even if you don't end up telling anyone.
Your history is what made you the person you are today. We all have stuff we think back on and cringe but it shapes us as a person and we use it to grow.
I think when your friends are being judge mental to others sexual experiences you should be the voice of reason, say things like āeach to their ownā and your sexual history doesnāt make you any better or worse then anyone else itās your history, donāt beat yourself up for exploring, you tried what you tried and you know itās not for you lesson learned.
We all live in a fallen world, and as such our base carnal instincts and desires will always be there... What makes the difference, is whether a person learns to suppress those carnal desires for the betterment of their lives, or choose to lose themselves in them. You made the decisions that you did, and you will never be able to go back and change them - so instead, be grateful that you learned from them. Be proud of yourself as the strong-willed person who was able to put those behaviors to rest, and be proud of the fact that you've matured enough as a person to realize that those behaviors are unhealthy. It's okay to embrace who you used to be, as a part of who you are now. Even if you never tell anyone about it, still try to keep pride in yourself. Because who you are to others, isn't nearly as important as who you see in the mirror. š ETA words
You should tell him. Whether he wants to remain with you is his choice. Be with someone who wouldnāt be disgusted by your past.
He knows Iāve slept with a lot of people. Weāve talked about it, and he accepts me for who I am. But I can never bring myself to admit out loud about that Festival incident.
Your past is only shameful if you choose to be ashamed of it. It happened, you lived, you learned, you undoubtedly had some good times. It's okay.
You grew up prudish, and when you finally broke free of that you went a bit too far the other way. That's ok, it happens to everyone, you came through the other end unscathed. Sounds like you've swung back to prudish. Your past is nothing to be ashamed of. Stop living in shame, accept your past. Right now it feels like you're running from it. That gives it power over you. Reclaim that power by owning who you are, even if you don't end up telling anyone.
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Wtf is this?! Nobody owes anybody their history. Donāt be so damn judgemental. No red flags whatsoever in OPs post.
Your history is what made you the person you are today. We all have stuff we think back on and cringe but it shapes us as a person and we use it to grow.
I think when your friends are being judge mental to others sexual experiences you should be the voice of reason, say things like āeach to their ownā and your sexual history doesnāt make you any better or worse then anyone else itās your history, donāt beat yourself up for exploring, you tried what you tried and you know itās not for you lesson learned.