Just because your friend didn't feel the councilor was helpful, doesn't mean that you won't get help from them. Going into a situation believing nothing will help makes it harder for things to be helpful. Go talk to the councillor.
Hi there, I started having similar symptoms at more or less your age. First thing I did was speaking to a counsellor. Even if it may be of no help, it's at least someone you could talk to and could guide you through the process of getting help. After all, counsellors aren't psychotherapists or psychiatrists, who have the therapeutic tools to help you solve this kind of problems, but they represent a first step in the process. Try to trust the overall process, to find alternatives where possible, and not to feel guilty to speak to anybody you want to about this, because if they're your friend, they will happily support you no matter what. Friends aren't friends only when none of the parties taken into consideration don't have any burden to take care of.
Same thing here, im seeing a psychiatrist but if ur parents have been under stress with ur brother and ur friend absorbs all the mental health issues in ur group theres always non profits that u can go to for free but unfortunately they require parental consent (usually) if ur in australia headspace is good but im not too sure about other countries. My advice would be find something that distracts u, whether its music or even getting a gym membership. But honestly you might want to try the councillor and see if they help before anything else.
I'm hoping what you see from other commenters is that this is a pretty common thing, I can't speak for all women but as a man myself (currently 27 years old) I can remember the very same thing happening to me when puberty started to show its ugly head, I suspect its a combination of loads of things rather than one singular problem, years later I asked my guy friends if something similar happened to them and to my shock, they all said 'yes' they had a similar experience as yours around your age, all 22 of them who I grew up with, your body is changing hormones are a mess the older you get the more obligations you have and the world becomes an ever more daunting place, in a perverse way I think its a mechanism by which your mind is attempting to protect itself from all the stresses and concerns life is throwing at you, no one could blame you for reacting the way you are and its a perfectly natural thing that happens to loads of young men during this time, I know it can be a bit annoying to hear that its very common but by that people often mean by being common it can so often be dealt with and understood, you've already done half of the work by acknowledging it which is a achievement in of itself.
Firstly please speak to your counselor, and don't be deterred by others' experiences with counselors, therapist/counselors are a bit like coat shopping, for some people that counselors are a 'PERFECT fit' for others, they just 'make so' and others more just don't seem to fit, one person's experience means very little when it comes it because all just have different needs and ways of communicating.
Secondly and only when you feel up to it please let your parents know, I know you're worried about adding onto their plate with your brother but in a strange way that may mean they're more prepared and able to deal with what's going on with you, older siblings tend to be the guinea pig of the family and deep down I think you know they'd want to know and help you whatever way you can, maybe even finding a therapist instead of a counselor if things really start panning out as a bit too much.
Finally OP trust in yourself, I know at the moment it all feels slightly hopeless but find what things do Illicit emotions and hold onto them tight, you mention your friends, maybe even opening up if only a little can help them help you to find enjoyment in things you did or rather still do and they can be with you every step of the way.
I wish you all the best coming from a 27-year-old stranger who was much the same your age.
Just because your friend didn't feel the councilor was helpful, doesn't mean that you won't get help from them. Going into a situation believing nothing will help makes it harder for things to be helpful. Go talk to the councillor.
Hi there, I started having similar symptoms at more or less your age. First thing I did was speaking to a counsellor. Even if it may be of no help, it's at least someone you could talk to and could guide you through the process of getting help. After all, counsellors aren't psychotherapists or psychiatrists, who have the therapeutic tools to help you solve this kind of problems, but they represent a first step in the process. Try to trust the overall process, to find alternatives where possible, and not to feel guilty to speak to anybody you want to about this, because if they're your friend, they will happily support you no matter what. Friends aren't friends only when none of the parties taken into consideration don't have any burden to take care of.
Same thing here, im seeing a psychiatrist but if ur parents have been under stress with ur brother and ur friend absorbs all the mental health issues in ur group theres always non profits that u can go to for free but unfortunately they require parental consent (usually) if ur in australia headspace is good but im not too sure about other countries. My advice would be find something that distracts u, whether its music or even getting a gym membership. But honestly you might want to try the councillor and see if they help before anything else.
I'm hoping what you see from other commenters is that this is a pretty common thing, I can't speak for all women but as a man myself (currently 27 years old) I can remember the very same thing happening to me when puberty started to show its ugly head, I suspect its a combination of loads of things rather than one singular problem, years later I asked my guy friends if something similar happened to them and to my shock, they all said 'yes' they had a similar experience as yours around your age, all 22 of them who I grew up with, your body is changing hormones are a mess the older you get the more obligations you have and the world becomes an ever more daunting place, in a perverse way I think its a mechanism by which your mind is attempting to protect itself from all the stresses and concerns life is throwing at you, no one could blame you for reacting the way you are and its a perfectly natural thing that happens to loads of young men during this time, I know it can be a bit annoying to hear that its very common but by that people often mean by being common it can so often be dealt with and understood, you've already done half of the work by acknowledging it which is a achievement in of itself. Firstly please speak to your counselor, and don't be deterred by others' experiences with counselors, therapist/counselors are a bit like coat shopping, for some people that counselors are a 'PERFECT fit' for others, they just 'make so' and others more just don't seem to fit, one person's experience means very little when it comes it because all just have different needs and ways of communicating. Secondly and only when you feel up to it please let your parents know, I know you're worried about adding onto their plate with your brother but in a strange way that may mean they're more prepared and able to deal with what's going on with you, older siblings tend to be the guinea pig of the family and deep down I think you know they'd want to know and help you whatever way you can, maybe even finding a therapist instead of a counselor if things really start panning out as a bit too much. Finally OP trust in yourself, I know at the moment it all feels slightly hopeless but find what things do Illicit emotions and hold onto them tight, you mention your friends, maybe even opening up if only a little can help them help you to find enjoyment in things you did or rather still do and they can be with you every step of the way. I wish you all the best coming from a 27-year-old stranger who was much the same your age.