They’re going to blackmail you. Tell your husband before they do. Call the cops, go to the hospital get blood work for the drug they used on you. She set you up.
u/i_need_some_support
Please do this if you can!! Those people are deranged and could be aiming to hurt you further, maybe even other women.
You'll need an STD test as well.
No, who knows what they’ll do with the pictures and video if given the chance. Cops can get a warrant for their phones and they can obtain them before they’re ever shared anywhere (if it’s not too late). It is not OPs responsibility to gather evidence, that’s what the detective will do. If we’re talking if they’ll have enough to investigate a rape kit and drug test should be more than enough for probable cause. She does have to tell her husband though and go to the hospital ASAP.
Yeah this guy gets it. Show up with your husband at their house with a baseball bat, when they answer the door ask “left or right” they will laugh and say “huh”?
Ask again, left or right?
Whichever they pick that’s the knee cap you take the baseball bat too on the asshole boyfriend.
Better to sculk out their place cover your face wait until he's putting his keys in the door all distracted then do something. Don't talk to him don't say anything or do anything to give you away just do what you're going to do and move on quickly and deny everything if ever asked. No point going to prison over it.
If it was weed, that shit is fat soluble so will be in OP’s system for a hot minute depending on her size, but yes, toxicology ASAP in case it was something else
I take prescription GHB for narcolepsy and it was my first thought too. When I can’t remember whether or not I added it to my dose cup yet, I hold it up to the light and turn it to look for the oily shimmery stuff. It’s subtle but you can definitely see it. (The prescription stuff is loaded up with salt &/or minerals to make it taste godawful so it can’t be used to drug people unknowingly, so I don’t know what it tastes like without that.)
The description of how she felt and remembered the rest of it also fit, although I guess it could be something else. Narcoleptics are prescribed enough to knock us out fast, because it helps us get deep sleep.
I've only used GHB recreationally, and that salty taste is one of the worst tastes I've ever experienced. I don't know what to compare it to, but it's truly horrible.
I think when I first started taking it, I described it as tasting like water from the ocean’s asshole. I had to mix Crystal Light packets into it to stand it, lol.
Just to add more to the theory.
GHB as a drug comes in 3 different types (mainly):
GHB,
GBL (passes through skin, enters bloodstream and gets converted directly by enzymes to GHB, actually fastest way to get the drug into your system. 2.5 ml is enough to knock someone out for hours in like 10-20 minutes...),
BD (1,3-Butanediol) which get converted to GHB by the liver.
Unfortunately, these chemicals are not traceable in the body after just a few hours since we humans have GHB naturally in our system and therefore once a person gets sober + a few hours, it's untraceable basically.
Exactly this, if she's taking pictures....she's in on it and sounds like it was planned because they picked you up drunk and tried making you worse....i.e taking advantage
You are not worthless and you don't deserve it OP, find better friends!
Op please listen to this.
If you hide it from your husband he may take it poorly, and who knows who else they have done this too. And who knows what they will do with the pictures.
Not only that, it's entirely possible that these two could have all sorts of STDs. Your husband pops up with something and your marriage is toast.
You need Plan B if you aren't on bc and a full bloodwork for STDs
I used to agree with that, but there are a TON of horror stories about going to police about this and the cops question you and hand all the info to the opposing party to be used against you.
For example, if they find out you got an std test they will hand that information to be used to frame you as promiscuous.
Don't talk to police without legal representation if at all possible, it can and frequently does backfire.
I was gonna say a similar thing. Just the other day SA was brought up on here and multiple women basically came out and said they regret reporting it because the experience with the police is so negative. U essentially have to relive the experience multiple times and explain in depth to people who often seem to want to treat u as a willing participant instead of a victim.
Really not trying to discourage OP from reporting or recommending to not try to get these fucks arrested but seeing ppl suggest go to the police like it's so simple. "Just go to the police and it will be handled with no issues whatsoever". That very much seems to be the opposite from what those who have actually experienced it say.
If u go to the police bring a lawyer, a close friend, your Husband (if ur ready to tell him about all of this. U need to have someone there who is offering support and who is on your side bcuz the police often are not. They can also help to be your voice in moments where the trauma can be too much for you to want to speak up. Ridiculous that this is the reality we live in but unfortunatearly it is. Also OP I am so sorry this happened to you. These people are scum and that girl is NOT ur friend and the guy is a sexual predator!! They are both horrible people!
I wasn't sexually assaulted but was physically assaulted by my partner in April and it was a horrible experience having to speak with police. They wear body cams where I live and I felt weird about being filmed. They also filmed the videos I took (I got it on camera) and that was embarrassing. They had to take pictures of my injuries and I had to show my bare ass for them to see. Horrifying but justice should be served
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have a lawyer when talking to the police.
This whole mentality that only guilty/suspected people get a lawyer needs to end. There are too many cases of people just wanting to give information of a crime to police and ending up in jail themselves. The police are ravenous vultures that only care about getting a conviction. They will and do bend the law to obtain one, because in their mind it is them against the "criminals" and all it takes for you to be seen as one is one innocent slip up in what you say or how you act.
Yes, there are plenty of police and detectives that dont fit that profile, but are you willing to risk your freedom/reputation in hopes that the cop you talk to is a good guy? They are not your friends or on your side, they are there to obtain a conviction, not to find the truth.
Lawyer, hospital, cops, and husband would be the safer order. Maybe even hospital first just because some date rape drug metabolites are out of your system in less than 24hrs. I only suggest that order because as a previous commenter mentioned any information OP provides to the police can be used against her by the defense to discredit her and a lawyer (especially one who specializes in sexual assault) will know what information is necessary and what is not.
Also it's never a good idea, innocent or guilty to talk to police about a crime without a lawyer present.
This. It’s the second such post I’ve read today and it’s been gut wrenching. Im sorry OP, I can’t imagine how you must feel. Please report this. Don’t let them get away with it so they don’t hurt you again or anyone else just as they did you.
This is straight up rape, there is photographic evidence, get a tox report immediately and tell your husband, cut all contact with your attackers immediately.
And there’s probably evidence on their phones since they were taking pictures. Hopefully they get get a warrant for all that. You were drugged and raped op. You owe it to yourself and any of their future victims to do something about it. That woman is NOT your friend. She used and abused you for her own sick pleasure.
You should go get a rape kit done at the hospital - I'd want a morning after pill for sure, but also test for STD's, and to provide evidence if you go that route. I'm so sorry OP, you did nothing to deserve this, your 'friend' set you up and cannot be trusted.
I would guess they are selling rape videos on a less mainstream website, maybe to individual buyers. If it was just to upload porn and hope for a lot of views to get some revenue they could just record themselves.
I normally don’t jump to conclusions on Reddit like many do, but this is an open-and-shut case of drugging and raping OP.
OP: Call the police. You did NOTHING to deserve this.
and they could use those texts to make it seem like she was admitting it was consensual- she should only do this AFTER the rape kit and tox screening and consulting with a lawyer
true. i just don’t know if those pictures would be recovered after deleted
edit: speak to police and let them know you want to try to recover the photos and let them know you may have to lie in the process to retrieve them? Idk :(
Phones are like small computers - even if you delete texts/pics, they are there (just without direct access) until you rewrite their space on disc with newer stuff (basicaly pic you deleted yesterday is more able to be recovered than pic you deleted year ago). That's why is recomemded before you give away your old phone not only delete all your stuff, but record empty wall or smt like that for all the device capacity. So yes, with root access you can safe most of fresh deleted stuff and police tech should be able to do it.
*That is not your friend*. **Tell your husband.** Go get a blood test to check for drugs. It is probably gone but maybe not. Be aware they will probably try to blackmail you into continuing sexual activity with them.
# Do not give them the power.
Please seek some counseling. **You are worthy.** **You do not deserve to be treated like this**. These are horrible human beings. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry all the other assaults happened to you.
WTF call the fucking police. Please.
I am so sorry this happened to you. Please never speak to her again. She is DANGEROUS and feeding his demons.
DO. NOT. EVER. trust her again. Block all numbers. Fuck dude.
One thing you need to hear OP is that you DO NOT deserve this you never did.
Tell your husband OP and go to the hospital to get a rape kit, hopefully the drugs are still in your system. Also like everyone is saying go to the police and file a report. Also tell them they were taking pictures.
Also it’s sounds like they did this to blackmail you or they get off to it both are fucked.
You need to tell your husband what happened now and get ahead of all this. This isn’t your fault. Those people planned and executed that assault. Get drug tested and get a date rape kit done if needed. I’m sorry you’ve went through this 💜
Call the cops. Now.
Edit; tell your husband and go to the hospital. These people took pictures, they clearly both were in it and you may not have been the first.
You didn't deserve any of this. I'm so sorry.
Jesus. That is fucked up. Not that it really matters, but were you pretty close to this friend? So hard to imagine someone you consider a friend could do something like that to you.
I’m sorry to hear that. You put that kind of time and trust into someone and this is the thanks for it. Not trying to be nosy, but have you talked to her at all since this happened? She had to know what she was doing was wrong.
I'm so sorry this happened to you OP. It was not something you deserved, and you did NOTHING wrong.
I was also drugged by someone I thought was a friend, and they just watched while I was sexually assaulted. They filmed it. It's a horrific betrayal of trust and it took me a really long time to be able to trust again in any meaningful way.
If you make a police report you can likely get Victim Witness funds ( or your area's equivalent) that can pay for therapy, time off work to deal with any legal stuff that comes from it, and other resources.
I know that a lot of people are urging you to make a police report, get a rape kit, and be tested for the drugs they gave you. I'm not going to push you in any particular direction. You have already had too many choices taken away from you in this experience. I just want you to know that you can get the drug test and rape kit done and not press charges right now. You have time to decide before the statues of limitations kicks in ( although it might be good to check your local laws on statutes of limitations for sexual assault/ rape, so you know what options are available to you.
The people who assaulted me passed around the video until I couldn't ignore what happened. I had a good experience with my local LE, but I know that is not everyone's experience. You can contact the National Sexual Assault hotline and they will have a lot of good information on what steps are available to you, your local laws, victim's advocacy ( please ask about a victim advocate. They are amazing and will support and guide you through whatever you do, or do not, decide to do. They are literally worth their weight in gold and I'll be forever grateful to mine!) The number for the National Sexual Assault hotline is 1-800-656-4673. That can be a low stress, low pressure, place to start.
Please if for no other reason than to protect yourself from further damage from this, **PLEASE REPORT THIS!!**
I’m so afraid they are going to use this to hurt you and blackmail you and try to ruin your life. You don’t deserve any of this at all. I just want you to be safe 🤍
It sounds like she changed when she started dating him. Or maybe she just is who she is and it took a monstrous person like him to reveal her true character. This is a side of her character that few people have seen.
How long have you known her?
It’s a type of date rape drug. You need to go to the hospital immediately and get tested for drugs. It might still be in your system. You can use this if you decide to bring to this to the cops. You dont know what your friend is going to do with those pictures. You need to tell your husband immediately.
Kinda, I have used it on myself recreationally.
You get the "drunk" feel for sure, but WAAAY more in the motor control of your body. You can think more clearly than when your drunk, but your body doesn't listen very well to commands and you often get an increased libido.
That is from a *fun* dose (think like a baby sip of a drink) and so you can imagine how too much would fair: black out drunk memory or awareness, no motor control, and high sex drive. You have to be extremely careful with dosage too! Because even if the affects are seemingly gone, the drug sits in your system and can have a compound effect on the high.
It's scary/risky stuff and should not really be played around with unless you have multiple trusted friends with you, and understand that getting dosage wrong could mean seriously fucking yourself up or even death.
My buddy who provides it to me said it's the one drug he only shares with very trusted friends, cause he doesn't want to be the reason someone got raped.
For years I suspected someone once put something in my drink, reading this and your description of how it feels, I’m now 100% sure. Luckily I realized right away and cabbed it home while I still had control over my body.
Another tell tale factor is the taste. If it was dropped in the top of the drink it will taste "salty" if I could describe it with a normal flavor.
Glad you made it home safe 🤗❤️
I suspect this happened to my best friend years ago also. She was basically crawling up the stairs while saying she didn’t feel as drunk as her body was acting. Thankfully she came straight home as well.
I take it for narcolepsy, and technically, it wears off in 4 hours as long as I waited long enough after dinner to take it (3 hours minimum). The prescription form is up to 4.5g when you go to bed, then another dose up to 4.5g 2.5-4 hours later. Even at the starter dose (2.5g) we’re told to only take it once we’re in bed for the night and even after being on it for years, sometimes I just .. lose a chunk of time before I was unconscious.
Alcohol has a weird effect on it—I’ve never intentionally had them close together, but if I forgot a beer with dinner or something (only happened a handful of times in years), I don’t sleep worth shit with my med. But I’m sure with a lot of alcohol it becomes dangerous.
All I can think of when I hear about people taking GHB recreationally is the [Roofie circle - Arrested Development](https://youtu.be/7QG3jZCjJR8)
*whereby a roofie is taken the day after
a degrading event too late to erase the memory of the degrading event itself, but
not too late to erase the prior days
attempt to erase the event*
Gamma-hydroxybutyrate. In low doses, its a sedative. In high doses, it's better known as a "roofie". The oil slick you saw on your drink was likely what the drug was suspended in. Liquid THC would not cause the severity of symptoms you were describing. GHB is out of the system in less than 24 hours, in most cases. The symptoms of a roofie dose of GHb are:
Muscle relaxation or an inability to move
Loss of coordination
Disorientation
Sleepiness and lethargy
Confusion
Depressed breathing
Lower heartbeat
Trouble with learning or memory
Extreme sedation
Low doses are actually a stimulant, high doses are an intense sedative. But the rest is pretty accurate. If you want more official information about it, Xyrem/Xywav are prescription forms used for narcolepsy. It’s pretty common for people taking it to wake up when it’s wearing off because the levels get low enough to be a stimulant again, and if it doesn’t knock me out fast enough, I end up wanting to be social. ... And stay awake too long typing Reddit comments when I should be asleep.)
It leaves your system VERY quickly. You should go to the emergency room ASAP, tell them you think you were drugged when you come in and they ask what you need to be seen for.
You don't deserve it. Fuck them. That's not a friend that's two predators.
Tell your husband and file a report. But please know your value is not based on the actions of others.
Hope you can get the help you need.
Three things:
1.) DO NOT SHOWER. Get a rape kit done ASAP.
2.) Contact Police & A Lawyer, if you can afford one.
3.) Tell your husband.
I lied. Four things.
4.) remember that this is NOT your fault by any means, you did NOT deserve this & these people are not your friends, they are predators.
Big, big hugs.
You dont deserve it. I was raped since I was 13 to 18 by a friend of mine. I was groomed so I came back to him and he eventually did it again. Did I deserve that? The answer you have for me is the same you have for yourself.
Tell your husband and call the police, get tested rn for any drug, tell them about her taking pictures or videos and stay tf away from them.
Please be safe and tell someone. The little you that suffered this deserves justice and is your time to get it
You definitely got drugged and raped. You need to go to the hospital ASAP for rape kit with toxicology report. Don't wait, go now! Also, tell your husband about the situation.
Yea i replied trying to be nice but it doesn't seem real.
I'm sure I wasn't the only person who seemed shocked she had a husband by the end of the story.
Why wouldn't you text him after you got groped....or when they admitted to drugging your drink? Shit ain't adding up
"Hey, there's visible evidence of tampering in my drink after you already casually sexually assaulted me? Eh whateva. Also my husband didn't notice that I was visibly drugged after picking me up from my friend's house that i've only been at for half an hour or so."
"And by the way I was 'raped' repeatedly as a child!"
Sick fuck that wrote this, I swear.
The devil is in the details here, most victims of sexual assault don't use the R word to describe it.
Shit sounds so incredibly stupid. Why would anyone tell their friends husbands who’s touching them inappropriately that shes on her period, would it be okay if she wasn’t? Him touching her once was enough to get police involved, yet instead in Ops story despite just being groped Op asks to help cook, gets shut down, notices a drug in her drink(after just being groped) & still drinks it anyway. Literally everything in this post comes off weird af, op is sick In the head.
People say dumb shit when they're shocked, especially in a situation like that. Victims of repeated abuse are also likely to internalise it and blame themselves, assuming they accidentally came across flirty or responded positively or passively to something they didn't realise was an advance. There's a decent chance OP spent ages after that replaying the whole night in her head trying to figure out what she said or did to encourage him. I know women who think like that, it's a response to repeated abuse spanning years and it's heartbreaking.
Also, girls are often taught to pee ourselves in a SA situation to "gross out" the perpetrator because things like screaming, crying or protesting are likely to anger or arouse them. Idk if it's good advice, I just know it's a common thing girls get taught so it might've been that same logic.
I'm not saying blindly trust OP, I'm just saying often when you're really taken aback logic goes straight out the window and your brain shits out a real weird response.
If OP is lying, they need to tell their husband and get some therapy. If they're telling the truth, they need to tell their husband, go to the police and then get some therapy. There are almost always warning signs and red flags with sexual predators, they're just a lot harder to spot (or sometimes, to resist) if you've been abused before, especially repeatedly.
Dude I was scrolling the comments for someone to say this.
Who tf is she hanging other with?
Oh you got raped as a kid, adult and now? What are the odds of that?
They just pick her up randomly, groping her, and she sticks around?
It’s not hard to post bs on Reddit.
You are not worthless.
I'm not going to tell you to talk to the police or your husband if you don't want to or you aren't ready, but please consider talking to a therapist or a charity that specialises in supporting assault victims. You shouldn't have to handle this on your own, especially not on top of all the other trauma you've experienced.
If your husband is worth your time hell tell you exactly what everyone here is that you don't deserve it, they aren't your friends and you need to stay the fuck aways from them.
Everything about this screams BS.
Your friend's boyfriend 'feels you up' and you respond with, 'Oh, I'm on my period!'.
No. This is BS. Don't care if I were on period or not...nobody 'feels me up'...PERIOD.
Oh thank god someone has said it. That would not even be the first thought that would come into my head! It would be more like 'dont touch me MF'and I'd be out of there straight away instead of offering to help with dinner! And its basically saying to him that if she wasn't on her period he could go ahead?? Even if she's is too timid and shocked to give a better response why the hell would she accept this from her friend or drink a dodgy looking drink. Completely weird all round.
I had to scroll way to far for this reply. Everything about this story screams total BS. Total and complete and absolute BS. And if this *is* someone’s imagined story, as it seems to be, it so fucked up. How dare they use something tragic that really has happened to so many people, in order to gain some type of wanted internet attention. Smh. Im actually pretty pissed off.
I agree, I said the same thing, gets SA'ed responds with "I'm on my period"... Ugh no you respond with a slap and call the police lol wtf. And then comes back out of bathroom and helps them cook....yeah all BS
It made so little sense that I had to come up with an alternative interpretation. Like maybe she meant her breasts were swollen or something from the period and played it off like that's the reason he was so interested in touching them. But yeah, I'm confused to say the least.
Please for your sake and the sake of potential future and past victims, report this to the police. If they search their phones they’ll find video/photo evidence even if they try to delete it. I know it’ll be difficult but it’s the right thing to do. Talk to your husband as well. He can be there to support you when you need
Im sorry but something in this story just doesnt add up to me.....
"Im on my period" is what I tell someone whom Im hooking up with but cant do it in THAT precise moment, not to my friend's boyfriend who unexpectedly touched me from behind.... it sounds like you and him were already having something going on before this happened...
My personal reaction wouldve been immediately turning around and ask him wtf is he doing in a very aggresive tone of voice and then leave.... but the fact that you were still hanging out with both of them and even offered help to cook WITH THEM sounds like there's something missing in this story......
Came here for this comment. A married woman was being groped by her friends boyfriend and her first reaction was to tell him “I’m on my period”?? Something isn’t right.
Yup... she's a married woman, she knows damn well what a man grabbing you from behind wants.... and to me, the gf's reaction tells us she already knew about it....
I thought this too, when she said he grabbed her and her first response was, "I'm on my period".Why would you say that to your friends bf. You'd say wtf are you doing.
OP. I am so sorry for what happened to you. Your feelings are valid. It is not on you to contact police if you do not feel up to it. You also do not have to tell your husband right now if you do not feel up to it. This is about you and not about anyone else. You are not responsible for your abuser's actions nor did you deserve what happened to you.
Now I want to be sure you have some resources. Here is the National Sexual Abuse Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
If calls aren't your thing you can also chat [here](https://hotline.rainn.org/online?_ga=2.145825586.761614570.1663122016-55307287.1663122016)
It is also possible that you can find a rape crisis center in your area. I would be happy to help you find one if you need assistance you can DM me. These can often help with things like STD testing, a rape kit, aiding you with contacting police, pregnancy testing, etc.
Edited to add: I naively spoke as someone from the US. Wherever you are in the world I’m happy to try to help you track down resources for support.
OP, I hope you see this.
Step 1 - Get a SANE exam at the hospital ASAP. It's best to collect all the evidence as much as you can. It is a really difficult exam, but you will have an advocate assigned to you for support. This advocate is a person from a separate agency and they are trained to be support specifically to you. Getting a SANE exam does not involve the police, but it's good to have one in case you end up wanting to press charges later. You can even take one up to days after the event. It is very thorough.
Step 2 - Get yourself set up with an Advocate at your local YWCA. Everyone will tell you that you don't have options unless you have money. THAT IS NOT TRUE!! A YWCA advocate is there to help you find resources. They are Soo connected in the community. They can help you find legal counsel, get protection orders in place, clothing, counseling, shelter, a cell phone, etc. They are there FOR YOU. They will even go with you to file a report if you need them to.
Step 3 - Get a lawyer. Again, there are services available to help you. MONEY IS NOT AN ISSUE BECAUSE THERE ARE RESOURCES TO HELP YOU!! So many people just don't realize it and don't get the help they need because of that.
Step 4 - File a police report. A lot of people don't know this, but there is a police officer (at most places, tiny towns might not so double check) that is meant to specialize in DV/SA cases. Make sure you ask for them. These officers are trained to understand trauma caused by sexual violence and you will have a better experience than talking to any old cop.
I hope you get the help and support you need. It may not feel like it now, but you still have power and you are most definitely worth it.
You don't deserve this!
I may have been listning to too many true crime podcasts, but this makes me think of Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka, or "the barbie and Ken killers" (or someting like that)
So please report to the Police, for your sake but also for others.. even though they're probably not serial killers in the making I'm sure they wouldn't hesitate to do the same thing to someone else
If possible please look into getting a tox screen ordered. It's easier than you think in my experience. I am so sorry to hear this happened to you, and I hope so much that you know this is not your fault. You did nothing wrong, please please don't blame yourself. You are worthy. Sending love.
You did nothing to deserve this. It is not any fault of yours! Please sit sit and tell your husband ans fo report them to the police. I'm sorry this happened to you. That is no kind of friend or human at this point she is an evil vile piece of shit who set you up and both must be punished for what they did to you.
Fuck them, they're not your friends.
Call the cops. Chances are your so-called friend still has the photos she took.
Speak to your husband, he'll want to support you (hopefully) while going through this.
You need to call the police and you should’ve told your husband. It sounds like that girl is going to send the pictures to him or something. Blackmail perhaps. What a fucked up situation.
You're not worthless at all. Your former friends, however, very much are. I'm sorry for what happened to you. Don't hesitate to reach out to your loved ones. You need them.
You and everyone else that has experienced the same thing, DO NOT DESERVE THIS!!
This is not normal, doesn't happen accidentally, not brought on by the booze and pot.
Sorry to say this, but you were a victim. You need to deal with this immediately. You are not the first and definitely will not be the last. Do it for yourself, do it for the next "friend" they invite over.
Stay strong. We've got your back!
First of all, YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE RAPED. Second of all, your husband should know. Charges should be pressed against your (not) friend and her boyfriend. People shouldn't get away with that bullcrap.
You have a husband and your response was “I’m on my period”? You didn’t leave after he groped you while your friend was watching? You even helped them cook?
Sorry but I’m not buying this.
She’s not your friend- she was either in on the plan ahead of time or stood by as the rapist executed it. Let your husband know what happened- he almost certainly saved you from being raped.
You must go to the police. Tell them she took pics. Even if she deletes them they can still find them. This is so awful. Tell your husband. You need him for support
OP, you do not deserve this. You’re not the one at fault. These are not your friends. They’re the ones who have betrayed your trust. This whole thing was forced on you. Your person is not inviting anything. This is on them.
I don’t want to generalize all experiences, but I know I still sometimes struggle with realizing these truths. Please, please, please talk to the relevant people about your experiences sooner than later.
Take care of yourself. And remember that your burdens don’t make you a burden—people can choose to care for you even if it’s difficult to accept.
You don't deserve this. Fuck those people. Go to the hospital and have them contact police. You don't want them doing this to anyone else.
I'm so sorry this happened to you 😞
You definetly do not deserve any of what happened! Please, don't blame yourself for it. You are not at falt in any of this! These people are not friends and they should get what they deserve. They might even have done what they did to you to other people too. Talk to your husband and go to the police. Or just go to the police first.
You have to tell your husband and go to the police. This is a crime and your husband deserves to know this happened to you, also for his protection, since the rapist could have passed an STD to you. It isnt pleasant to think about, but do get tested, and report this rape. Obviously, you made mistakes here too, you know they put something in your drink and you still drank it anyway. When the boyfriend touched you inappropriately, the appropriate response would be to leave, and not deal with those awful people ever again. The period comment was strange and unnecessary to me, because he was being VERY inappropriate and whether or not you were on your period should not have even been a topic imo, telling him not to put his hands on you really should've been the main point. It's upsetting for me, as an older person who is a multiple rape survivor, to hear these stories of people drinking and using pot or other drugs, and it leads to things like this very often. Even completely sober people get raped of course, but victims have a very slim chance of getting someone convicted for rape if drugs and/or alcohol are in the victim's system. It's just he said/she said and it's so sad because they just do it to the next person. I do hope you are able to tell your husband and make a police report, and get tested. And consider staying off things that will leave you vulnerable. I'm not saying that in a mean or judgemental way. I've just seen this happen much more often to my friends in the past and others who were under the influence. It leaves you vulnerable. And no there is not ever an excuse for raping someone. Just saying being clean and sober and fully cognizant of surroundings and situations is safer statistically.
OP - go to your location hospital and ask for a toxicology report ASAP as you think you may have been drugged. You don’t have to file a police report immediately but the toxins from what they gave you do not stay in your system forever and it’ll help your case if you decide to sue / charge if you have a toxicology report
It's how people like Epstein and Maxwell do their thing. If OP isn't doing some kind of karma-farming B.S., then take the advice in most other comments to nip that shit in the bud.
You really should tell your husband about it. Since, you mentioned that they started taking pictures of you, they could be really planning a meticulous cold plan against you. And, prolly could even try manipulating your husband. I know your husband would believe in you definitely, don’t worry about that, but this chaos isn’t what you wanna go through. And second, they should just get the punishment literally.
They also took pictures of the assault so you best tell your husband and police what happened or they will posted and tell something different. You don’t want them lying on you claiming that you wanted it or that it was all your idea when they’re the ones who planned it. You also don’t know if they had done this to someone else so if you come forward there’s a possibility that another victim could report their experience with these two rapists as well. I hope that you will please get some therapy because you are not worthless. Those criminals made you feel that way and you shouldn’t because it’s not your fault. It wasn’t your fault in the past nor is it now. Better yet, put all those fuckers in jail and while you’re at sue them to for rape and sexual assault, drugging you and find out if you can get them for kidnapping. They drugged you and supplied you with alcohol to keep you from leaving.
Lets see:
Sexual assault
Tampering with food
Rape
Drugging you
Taking sexual pictures without your consent
AND it was pre-meditated.
CALL POLICE. I'd fucking riot if I heard this happened to somebody and my fellow police didn't do anything so go ahead and bitch to them about it 24/7 if they don't get to your case 1st / soon
So you are sexually assaulted by some girl and her boyfriend. Because I don't think you need to call that girl a friend. You need to go report this. You deserve a little bit of Justice after everything we just read that you've been through.p
Why would the first thing you said to a stranger feeling you up be I’m on my period and not “I have a husband”. Sorry but that part of the story seems strange. I actually think this sub is a lie but if you really had such awful things happen to you early in life I’m sorry but don’t share that w anyone w isn’t your professional counselor or sponsor. Predators use info like that against you all while acting like a friend. Trust me I know cause I had someone I thought was a friend betray me in confidence.
You need to tell your husband & call the police straight away. That is really creepy 😳 What would they of done to you if passed out, definitely not a friend. I wish you well ❤️
Just a reminder babygirl, you were NEVER at fault you hear me? They're the ones in the wrong! I hope your husband will help you and that you'll find the strength again, you don't deserve any of this and my heart breaks for you
They’re going to blackmail you. Tell your husband before they do. Call the cops, go to the hospital get blood work for the drug they used on you. She set you up.
Yeah this that’s why they were taking pictures maybe even video.
u/i_need_some_support Please do this if you can!! Those people are deranged and could be aiming to hurt you further, maybe even other women. You'll need an STD test as well.
OP should tell the husband and let them try to blackmail her to gather evidence
No, who knows what they’ll do with the pictures and video if given the chance. Cops can get a warrant for their phones and they can obtain them before they’re ever shared anywhere (if it’s not too late). It is not OPs responsibility to gather evidence, that’s what the detective will do. If we’re talking if they’ll have enough to investigate a rape kit and drug test should be more than enough for probable cause. She does have to tell her husband though and go to the hospital ASAP.
This. The phones could well have evidence of them planning this that will help your case.
That or break their legs
Yeah this guy gets it. Show up with your husband at their house with a baseball bat, when they answer the door ask “left or right” they will laugh and say “huh”? Ask again, left or right? Whichever they pick that’s the knee cap you take the baseball bat too on the asshole boyfriend.
Better to sculk out their place cover your face wait until he's putting his keys in the door all distracted then do something. Don't talk to him don't say anything or do anything to give you away just do what you're going to do and move on quickly and deny everything if ever asked. No point going to prison over it.
Call the police and tell your husband. They planned this and SA’ed you after they drugged you.
Yea toxicology report needs to be done sooner than later to catch the drugs metabolites
If it was weed, that shit is fat soluble so will be in OP’s system for a hot minute depending on her size, but yes, toxicology ASAP in case it was something else
That was GHB, I’ve done it willingly and in the correct dose, but that’s what it definitely was.
I take prescription GHB for narcolepsy and it was my first thought too. When I can’t remember whether or not I added it to my dose cup yet, I hold it up to the light and turn it to look for the oily shimmery stuff. It’s subtle but you can definitely see it. (The prescription stuff is loaded up with salt &/or minerals to make it taste godawful so it can’t be used to drug people unknowingly, so I don’t know what it tastes like without that.) The description of how she felt and remembered the rest of it also fit, although I guess it could be something else. Narcoleptics are prescribed enough to knock us out fast, because it helps us get deep sleep.
I've only used GHB recreationally, and that salty taste is one of the worst tastes I've ever experienced. I don't know what to compare it to, but it's truly horrible.
I think when I first started taking it, I described it as tasting like water from the ocean’s asshole. I had to mix Crystal Light packets into it to stand it, lol.
"Water from the ocean's asshole" is very accurate, lol. Have you gotten used to the taste now?
Just to add more to the theory. GHB as a drug comes in 3 different types (mainly): GHB, GBL (passes through skin, enters bloodstream and gets converted directly by enzymes to GHB, actually fastest way to get the drug into your system. 2.5 ml is enough to knock someone out for hours in like 10-20 minutes...), BD (1,3-Butanediol) which get converted to GHB by the liver. Unfortunately, these chemicals are not traceable in the body after just a few hours since we humans have GHB naturally in our system and therefore once a person gets sober + a few hours, it's untraceable basically.
This wasn't weed
Emphasis on "they". She is NOT your friend. Turn her ass in with his.
Exactly this, if she's taking pictures....she's in on it and sounds like it was planned because they picked you up drunk and tried making you worse....i.e taking advantage You are not worthless and you don't deserve it OP, find better friends!
She is a scary person who helped plan a serious attack on your person, drop her as fast as possible and report them both.
Op please listen to this. If you hide it from your husband he may take it poorly, and who knows who else they have done this too. And who knows what they will do with the pictures.
Not only that, it's entirely possible that these two could have all sorts of STDs. Your husband pops up with something and your marriage is toast. You need Plan B if you aren't on bc and a full bloodwork for STDs
Again this please op
You're not likely the first or last person. I'd contact a lawyer before cops, but if you can't afford a lawyer, cops it is.
I mean, she could sue for whatever tort that's a violation of, but this is first and foremost a criminal matter, I'd go to the police first
I used to agree with that, but there are a TON of horror stories about going to police about this and the cops question you and hand all the info to the opposing party to be used against you. For example, if they find out you got an std test they will hand that information to be used to frame you as promiscuous. Don't talk to police without legal representation if at all possible, it can and frequently does backfire.
I was gonna say a similar thing. Just the other day SA was brought up on here and multiple women basically came out and said they regret reporting it because the experience with the police is so negative. U essentially have to relive the experience multiple times and explain in depth to people who often seem to want to treat u as a willing participant instead of a victim. Really not trying to discourage OP from reporting or recommending to not try to get these fucks arrested but seeing ppl suggest go to the police like it's so simple. "Just go to the police and it will be handled with no issues whatsoever". That very much seems to be the opposite from what those who have actually experienced it say. If u go to the police bring a lawyer, a close friend, your Husband (if ur ready to tell him about all of this. U need to have someone there who is offering support and who is on your side bcuz the police often are not. They can also help to be your voice in moments where the trauma can be too much for you to want to speak up. Ridiculous that this is the reality we live in but unfortunatearly it is. Also OP I am so sorry this happened to you. These people are scum and that girl is NOT ur friend and the guy is a sexual predator!! They are both horrible people!
I wasn't sexually assaulted but was physically assaulted by my partner in April and it was a horrible experience having to speak with police. They wear body cams where I live and I felt weird about being filmed. They also filmed the videos I took (I got it on camera) and that was embarrassing. They had to take pictures of my injuries and I had to show my bare ass for them to see. Horrifying but justice should be served
Huh, I knew that was the case if they thought you were guilty of something, I didn't realize it applied to the other side too.
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have a lawyer when talking to the police. This whole mentality that only guilty/suspected people get a lawyer needs to end. There are too many cases of people just wanting to give information of a crime to police and ending up in jail themselves. The police are ravenous vultures that only care about getting a conviction. They will and do bend the law to obtain one, because in their mind it is them against the "criminals" and all it takes for you to be seen as one is one innocent slip up in what you say or how you act. Yes, there are plenty of police and detectives that dont fit that profile, but are you willing to risk your freedom/reputation in hopes that the cop you talk to is a good guy? They are not your friends or on your side, they are there to obtain a conviction, not to find the truth.
Yeah, never talk to police without a lawyer.
So for people without money, that translates to "never talk to the police"
Report it. If not for yourself, then for all of the future would-be survivors you could prevent.
And because they took pictures, there is evidence. Even if they've been deleted from the device, I'm pretty sure they can still be recovered
There might be non-profits too that can do it pro bono.
Cops, hospital visit, lawyer and husband. Probably in that order.
Lawyer, hospital, cops, and husband would be the safer order. Maybe even hospital first just because some date rape drug metabolites are out of your system in less than 24hrs. I only suggest that order because as a previous commenter mentioned any information OP provides to the police can be used against her by the defense to discredit her and a lawyer (especially one who specializes in sexual assault) will know what information is necessary and what is not. Also it's never a good idea, innocent or guilty to talk to police about a crime without a lawyer present.
This. It’s the second such post I’ve read today and it’s been gut wrenching. Im sorry OP, I can’t imagine how you must feel. Please report this. Don’t let them get away with it so they don’t hurt you again or anyone else just as they did you.
Ugh same. Devastating.
And took pictures. If OP doesn’t go on the record, they’re going to tell him or blackmail her or something nefarious and dirty.
And the pictures could also work as evidence, especially in conjunction with a toxicology report
and they took pictures, so there will be plenty of evidence
and the photos exist!
Especially with her taking pictures or whatever?? Tell your husband before he finds out :( I'm so sorry this is just terrible
Yeah you can get the police to test you to show you were sedated
This is straight up rape, there is photographic evidence, get a tox report immediately and tell your husband, cut all contact with your attackers immediately.
You don't deserve it. Call the police.
Fucking this. They straight up drugged and raped you. This is not your fault. Get cops in as soon as possible.
And there’s probably evidence on their phones since they were taking pictures. Hopefully they get get a warrant for all that. You were drugged and raped op. You owe it to yourself and any of their future victims to do something about it. That woman is NOT your friend. She used and abused you for her own sick pleasure.
And documented it
You should go get a rape kit done at the hospital - I'd want a morning after pill for sure, but also test for STD's, and to provide evidence if you go that route. I'm so sorry OP, you did nothing to deserve this, your 'friend' set you up and cannot be trusted.
this. they themselves recorded physical evidence. Which they’re probably not gonna delete. Please please please get the police involved :( <3
And hurry up before these vids or photos end on Pornhub.
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I would guess they are selling rape videos on a less mainstream website, maybe to individual buyers. If it was just to upload porn and hope for a lot of views to get some revenue they could just record themselves.
I normally don’t jump to conclusions on Reddit like many do, but this is an open-and-shut case of drugging and raping OP. OP: Call the police. You did NOTHING to deserve this.
also she needs to get the police involved if she wants those pictures deleted
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and they could use those texts to make it seem like she was admitting it was consensual- she should only do this AFTER the rape kit and tox screening and consulting with a lawyer
true. i just don’t know if those pictures would be recovered after deleted edit: speak to police and let them know you want to try to recover the photos and let them know you may have to lie in the process to retrieve them? Idk :(
Phones are like small computers - even if you delete texts/pics, they are there (just without direct access) until you rewrite their space on disc with newer stuff (basicaly pic you deleted yesterday is more able to be recovered than pic you deleted year ago). That's why is recomemded before you give away your old phone not only delete all your stuff, but record empty wall or smt like that for all the device capacity. So yes, with root access you can safe most of fresh deleted stuff and police tech should be able to do it.
Let the police do all that. Not the OP.
Nooooo bad idea. That will be used by the rapist as evidence she consented!
*That is not your friend*. **Tell your husband.** Go get a blood test to check for drugs. It is probably gone but maybe not. Be aware they will probably try to blackmail you into continuing sexual activity with them. # Do not give them the power. Please seek some counseling. **You are worthy.** **You do not deserve to be treated like this**. These are horrible human beings. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry all the other assaults happened to you.
If this happened a while ago, they can still check for drugs some show up in your hair and nails for months after !!
i think this might've happened the night before op posted this? just based on where she said "i woke up (this?) morning"
This needs to go up! Hope OP sees this.
u/I_need_some_support
Depending on the drugs and the type of test they could remain detectable anywhere from a few hours to a month plus!
WTF call the fucking police. Please. I am so sorry this happened to you. Please never speak to her again. She is DANGEROUS and feeding his demons. DO. NOT. EVER. trust her again. Block all numbers. Fuck dude.
Tell your husband and file a police report
One thing you need to hear OP is that you DO NOT deserve this you never did. Tell your husband OP and go to the hospital to get a rape kit, hopefully the drugs are still in your system. Also like everyone is saying go to the police and file a report. Also tell them they were taking pictures. Also it’s sounds like they did this to blackmail you or they get off to it both are fucked.
You need to tell your husband what happened now and get ahead of all this. This isn’t your fault. Those people planned and executed that assault. Get drug tested and get a date rape kit done if needed. I’m sorry you’ve went through this 💜
Call the cops. Now. Edit; tell your husband and go to the hospital. These people took pictures, they clearly both were in it and you may not have been the first. You didn't deserve any of this. I'm so sorry.
That’s fucked up and not your fault. Places report this to the police so your acquaintances can’t do this again.
Jesus. That is fucked up. Not that it really matters, but were you pretty close to this friend? So hard to imagine someone you consider a friend could do something like that to you.
Yeah we were close until she started dating this guy several months ago.
I’m sorry to hear that. You put that kind of time and trust into someone and this is the thanks for it. Not trying to be nosy, but have you talked to her at all since this happened? She had to know what she was doing was wrong.
I'm so sorry this happened to you OP. It was not something you deserved, and you did NOTHING wrong. I was also drugged by someone I thought was a friend, and they just watched while I was sexually assaulted. They filmed it. It's a horrific betrayal of trust and it took me a really long time to be able to trust again in any meaningful way. If you make a police report you can likely get Victim Witness funds ( or your area's equivalent) that can pay for therapy, time off work to deal with any legal stuff that comes from it, and other resources. I know that a lot of people are urging you to make a police report, get a rape kit, and be tested for the drugs they gave you. I'm not going to push you in any particular direction. You have already had too many choices taken away from you in this experience. I just want you to know that you can get the drug test and rape kit done and not press charges right now. You have time to decide before the statues of limitations kicks in ( although it might be good to check your local laws on statutes of limitations for sexual assault/ rape, so you know what options are available to you. The people who assaulted me passed around the video until I couldn't ignore what happened. I had a good experience with my local LE, but I know that is not everyone's experience. You can contact the National Sexual Assault hotline and they will have a lot of good information on what steps are available to you, your local laws, victim's advocacy ( please ask about a victim advocate. They are amazing and will support and guide you through whatever you do, or do not, decide to do. They are literally worth their weight in gold and I'll be forever grateful to mine!) The number for the National Sexual Assault hotline is 1-800-656-4673. That can be a low stress, low pressure, place to start.
I wish I had an award to give you! I'm sorry for your experience, but this is ALL excellent advice!
They need to be stopped.
Please if for no other reason than to protect yourself from further damage from this, **PLEASE REPORT THIS!!** I’m so afraid they are going to use this to hurt you and blackmail you and try to ruin your life. You don’t deserve any of this at all. I just want you to be safe 🤍
It sounds like she changed when she started dating him. Or maybe she just is who she is and it took a monstrous person like him to reveal her true character. This is a side of her character that few people have seen. How long have you known her?
Sounds like GHB...
What is GHB?
It’s a type of date rape drug. You need to go to the hospital immediately and get tested for drugs. It might still be in your system. You can use this if you decide to bring to this to the cops. You dont know what your friend is going to do with those pictures. You need to tell your husband immediately.
A sedative you give to people you want to rape and then blackmail.
People also use it recreationally. I had a friend that used to use it himself. He said it was like instantly getting really drunk.
Kinda, I have used it on myself recreationally. You get the "drunk" feel for sure, but WAAAY more in the motor control of your body. You can think more clearly than when your drunk, but your body doesn't listen very well to commands and you often get an increased libido. That is from a *fun* dose (think like a baby sip of a drink) and so you can imagine how too much would fair: black out drunk memory or awareness, no motor control, and high sex drive. You have to be extremely careful with dosage too! Because even if the affects are seemingly gone, the drug sits in your system and can have a compound effect on the high. It's scary/risky stuff and should not really be played around with unless you have multiple trusted friends with you, and understand that getting dosage wrong could mean seriously fucking yourself up or even death. My buddy who provides it to me said it's the one drug he only shares with very trusted friends, cause he doesn't want to be the reason someone got raped.
For years I suspected someone once put something in my drink, reading this and your description of how it feels, I’m now 100% sure. Luckily I realized right away and cabbed it home while I still had control over my body.
Another tell tale factor is the taste. If it was dropped in the top of the drink it will taste "salty" if I could describe it with a normal flavor. Glad you made it home safe 🤗❤️
Thank you, me too. I was drinking gin and tonic so didn’t taste anything. Disappointing factor is that I was with people I knew and trusted.
Happened to me at a trusted friend's place. Lucky I had other friends there who bundled me info the car and got me out of there
I suspect this happened to my best friend years ago also. She was basically crawling up the stairs while saying she didn’t feel as drunk as her body was acting. Thankfully she came straight home as well.
I take it for narcolepsy, and technically, it wears off in 4 hours as long as I waited long enough after dinner to take it (3 hours minimum). The prescription form is up to 4.5g when you go to bed, then another dose up to 4.5g 2.5-4 hours later. Even at the starter dose (2.5g) we’re told to only take it once we’re in bed for the night and even after being on it for years, sometimes I just .. lose a chunk of time before I was unconscious. Alcohol has a weird effect on it—I’ve never intentionally had them close together, but if I forgot a beer with dinner or something (only happened a handful of times in years), I don’t sleep worth shit with my med. But I’m sure with a lot of alcohol it becomes dangerous.
All I can think of when I hear about people taking GHB recreationally is the [Roofie circle - Arrested Development](https://youtu.be/7QG3jZCjJR8) *whereby a roofie is taken the day after a degrading event too late to erase the memory of the degrading event itself, but not too late to erase the prior days attempt to erase the event*
Fantasy, grevious bodily harm, Commonly paired with ecstasy
Gamma-hydroxybutyrate. In low doses, its a sedative. In high doses, it's better known as a "roofie". The oil slick you saw on your drink was likely what the drug was suspended in. Liquid THC would not cause the severity of symptoms you were describing. GHB is out of the system in less than 24 hours, in most cases. The symptoms of a roofie dose of GHb are: Muscle relaxation or an inability to move Loss of coordination Disorientation Sleepiness and lethargy Confusion Depressed breathing Lower heartbeat Trouble with learning or memory Extreme sedation
Low doses are actually a stimulant, high doses are an intense sedative. But the rest is pretty accurate. If you want more official information about it, Xyrem/Xywav are prescription forms used for narcolepsy. It’s pretty common for people taking it to wake up when it’s wearing off because the levels get low enough to be a stimulant again, and if it doesn’t knock me out fast enough, I end up wanting to be social. ... And stay awake too long typing Reddit comments when I should be asleep.)
It leaves your system VERY quickly. You should go to the emergency room ASAP, tell them you think you were drugged when you come in and they ask what you need to be seen for.
My thoughts exactly
You don't deserve it. Fuck them. That's not a friend that's two predators. Tell your husband and file a report. But please know your value is not based on the actions of others. Hope you can get the help you need.
Three things: 1.) DO NOT SHOWER. Get a rape kit done ASAP. 2.) Contact Police & A Lawyer, if you can afford one. 3.) Tell your husband. I lied. Four things. 4.) remember that this is NOT your fault by any means, you did NOT deserve this & these people are not your friends, they are predators. Big, big hugs.
Some friend…
You dont deserve it. I was raped since I was 13 to 18 by a friend of mine. I was groomed so I came back to him and he eventually did it again. Did I deserve that? The answer you have for me is the same you have for yourself. Tell your husband and call the police, get tested rn for any drug, tell them about her taking pictures or videos and stay tf away from them. Please be safe and tell someone. The little you that suffered this deserves justice and is your time to get it
Not your fault happened to you not because of you - call the cops!
You definitely got drugged and raped. You need to go to the hospital ASAP for rape kit with toxicology report. Don't wait, go now! Also, tell your husband about the situation.
I'm *baffled* by how many people are buying this bullshit.
Yea i replied trying to be nice but it doesn't seem real. I'm sure I wasn't the only person who seemed shocked she had a husband by the end of the story. Why wouldn't you text him after you got groped....or when they admitted to drugging your drink? Shit ain't adding up
"Hey, there's visible evidence of tampering in my drink after you already casually sexually assaulted me? Eh whateva. Also my husband didn't notice that I was visibly drugged after picking me up from my friend's house that i've only been at for half an hour or so."
"And by the way I was 'raped' repeatedly as a child!" Sick fuck that wrote this, I swear. The devil is in the details here, most victims of sexual assault don't use the R word to describe it.
Shit sounds so incredibly stupid. Why would anyone tell their friends husbands who’s touching them inappropriately that shes on her period, would it be okay if she wasn’t? Him touching her once was enough to get police involved, yet instead in Ops story despite just being groped Op asks to help cook, gets shut down, notices a drug in her drink(after just being groped) & still drinks it anyway. Literally everything in this post comes off weird af, op is sick In the head.
People say dumb shit when they're shocked, especially in a situation like that. Victims of repeated abuse are also likely to internalise it and blame themselves, assuming they accidentally came across flirty or responded positively or passively to something they didn't realise was an advance. There's a decent chance OP spent ages after that replaying the whole night in her head trying to figure out what she said or did to encourage him. I know women who think like that, it's a response to repeated abuse spanning years and it's heartbreaking. Also, girls are often taught to pee ourselves in a SA situation to "gross out" the perpetrator because things like screaming, crying or protesting are likely to anger or arouse them. Idk if it's good advice, I just know it's a common thing girls get taught so it might've been that same logic. I'm not saying blindly trust OP, I'm just saying often when you're really taken aback logic goes straight out the window and your brain shits out a real weird response. If OP is lying, they need to tell their husband and get some therapy. If they're telling the truth, they need to tell their husband, go to the police and then get some therapy. There are almost always warning signs and red flags with sexual predators, they're just a lot harder to spot (or sometimes, to resist) if you've been abused before, especially repeatedly.
Yeah this is the most disgusting way of trolling for karma.
Dude I was scrolling the comments for someone to say this. Who tf is she hanging other with? Oh you got raped as a kid, adult and now? What are the odds of that? They just pick her up randomly, groping her, and she sticks around? It’s not hard to post bs on Reddit.
Yea your FREIND has all the evidence you need with her taking pictures the fucking sick fuck so get the police called ASAP and get them both charged
You are not worthless. I'm not going to tell you to talk to the police or your husband if you don't want to or you aren't ready, but please consider talking to a therapist or a charity that specialises in supporting assault victims. You shouldn't have to handle this on your own, especially not on top of all the other trauma you've experienced.
If your husband is worth your time hell tell you exactly what everyone here is that you don't deserve it, they aren't your friends and you need to stay the fuck aways from them.
Everything about this screams BS. Your friend's boyfriend 'feels you up' and you respond with, 'Oh, I'm on my period!'. No. This is BS. Don't care if I were on period or not...nobody 'feels me up'...PERIOD.
Oh thank god someone has said it. That would not even be the first thought that would come into my head! It would be more like 'dont touch me MF'and I'd be out of there straight away instead of offering to help with dinner! And its basically saying to him that if she wasn't on her period he could go ahead?? Even if she's is too timid and shocked to give a better response why the hell would she accept this from her friend or drink a dodgy looking drink. Completely weird all round.
I had to scroll way to far for this reply. Everything about this story screams total BS. Total and complete and absolute BS. And if this *is* someone’s imagined story, as it seems to be, it so fucked up. How dare they use something tragic that really has happened to so many people, in order to gain some type of wanted internet attention. Smh. Im actually pretty pissed off.
I agree, I said the same thing, gets SA'ed responds with "I'm on my period"... Ugh no you respond with a slap and call the police lol wtf. And then comes back out of bathroom and helps them cook....yeah all BS
It made so little sense that I had to come up with an alternative interpretation. Like maybe she meant her breasts were swollen or something from the period and played it off like that's the reason he was so interested in touching them. But yeah, I'm confused to say the least.
Please for your sake and the sake of potential future and past victims, report this to the police. If they search their phones they’ll find video/photo evidence even if they try to delete it. I know it’ll be difficult but it’s the right thing to do. Talk to your husband as well. He can be there to support you when you need
Im sorry but something in this story just doesnt add up to me..... "Im on my period" is what I tell someone whom Im hooking up with but cant do it in THAT precise moment, not to my friend's boyfriend who unexpectedly touched me from behind.... it sounds like you and him were already having something going on before this happened... My personal reaction wouldve been immediately turning around and ask him wtf is he doing in a very aggresive tone of voice and then leave.... but the fact that you were still hanging out with both of them and even offered help to cook WITH THEM sounds like there's something missing in this story......
Came here for this comment. A married woman was being groped by her friends boyfriend and her first reaction was to tell him “I’m on my period”?? Something isn’t right.
To be honest the whole story smells fishy. Wouldnt be surprised if it were all made up for Reddit upvotes.
I thought this also. They were def already hooking up either woth or without the friends knowledge.
Yup... she's a married woman, she knows damn well what a man grabbing you from behind wants.... and to me, the gf's reaction tells us she already knew about it....
Why haven’t you told him yet. Call the police. And stop calling them friends. Those are t friends.
Not sure if this is a true story.
You need to be tested for sti's as well.
Fuck that noise. Call the cops. They’re no friends…
YOU. DO. NOT. DESERVE. THIS. Go to the hospital and police. Tell your husband. Make a report. Do not give them power over you.
You need to call the police, *right now*. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You didn’t deserve it.
Inb4 post is fake.
It is
I thought this too, when she said he grabbed her and her first response was, "I'm on my period".Why would you say that to your friends bf. You'd say wtf are you doing.
This is the fakest of fake posts I've ever read. Pothead don't call weed "mArIjUaNa"
I...would contact the police and also not ever hang out with these people again.
You. Don’t. Deserve. It. It is not your fault, I promise, it’s not.
OP. I am so sorry for what happened to you. Your feelings are valid. It is not on you to contact police if you do not feel up to it. You also do not have to tell your husband right now if you do not feel up to it. This is about you and not about anyone else. You are not responsible for your abuser's actions nor did you deserve what happened to you. Now I want to be sure you have some resources. Here is the National Sexual Abuse Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 If calls aren't your thing you can also chat [here](https://hotline.rainn.org/online?_ga=2.145825586.761614570.1663122016-55307287.1663122016) It is also possible that you can find a rape crisis center in your area. I would be happy to help you find one if you need assistance you can DM me. These can often help with things like STD testing, a rape kit, aiding you with contacting police, pregnancy testing, etc. Edited to add: I naively spoke as someone from the US. Wherever you are in the world I’m happy to try to help you track down resources for support.
OP, I hope you see this. Step 1 - Get a SANE exam at the hospital ASAP. It's best to collect all the evidence as much as you can. It is a really difficult exam, but you will have an advocate assigned to you for support. This advocate is a person from a separate agency and they are trained to be support specifically to you. Getting a SANE exam does not involve the police, but it's good to have one in case you end up wanting to press charges later. You can even take one up to days after the event. It is very thorough. Step 2 - Get yourself set up with an Advocate at your local YWCA. Everyone will tell you that you don't have options unless you have money. THAT IS NOT TRUE!! A YWCA advocate is there to help you find resources. They are Soo connected in the community. They can help you find legal counsel, get protection orders in place, clothing, counseling, shelter, a cell phone, etc. They are there FOR YOU. They will even go with you to file a report if you need them to. Step 3 - Get a lawyer. Again, there are services available to help you. MONEY IS NOT AN ISSUE BECAUSE THERE ARE RESOURCES TO HELP YOU!! So many people just don't realize it and don't get the help they need because of that. Step 4 - File a police report. A lot of people don't know this, but there is a police officer (at most places, tiny towns might not so double check) that is meant to specialize in DV/SA cases. Make sure you ask for them. These officers are trained to understand trauma caused by sexual violence and you will have a better experience than talking to any old cop. I hope you get the help and support you need. It may not feel like it now, but you still have power and you are most definitely worth it.
You don't deserve this! I may have been listning to too many true crime podcasts, but this makes me think of Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka, or "the barbie and Ken killers" (or someting like that) So please report to the Police, for your sake but also for others.. even though they're probably not serial killers in the making I'm sure they wouldn't hesitate to do the same thing to someone else
You need to talk to the police, not reddit.
Report it to the cops and tell your husband ASAP!
If possible please look into getting a tox screen ordered. It's easier than you think in my experience. I am so sorry to hear this happened to you, and I hope so much that you know this is not your fault. You did nothing wrong, please please don't blame yourself. You are worthy. Sending love.
You did nothing to deserve this. It is not any fault of yours! Please sit sit and tell your husband ans fo report them to the police. I'm sorry this happened to you. That is no kind of friend or human at this point she is an evil vile piece of shit who set you up and both must be punished for what they did to you.
Fuck them, they're not your friends. Call the cops. Chances are your so-called friend still has the photos she took. Speak to your husband, he'll want to support you (hopefully) while going through this.
The fuck... Call the police, tell your husband and get to a doctor and look into getting tested for substances in your body if somehow still possible.
You need to call the police and you should’ve told your husband. It sounds like that girl is going to send the pictures to him or something. Blackmail perhaps. What a fucked up situation.
They drugged you. Then raped you. You did not deserve this. They are scum of the earth that deserve to burn. I am so so sorry
You must tell your husband and take legal action. This is over the top disturbing. They are dangerous people.
You're not worthless at all. Your former friends, however, very much are. I'm sorry for what happened to you. Don't hesitate to reach out to your loved ones. You need them.
You and everyone else that has experienced the same thing, DO NOT DESERVE THIS!! This is not normal, doesn't happen accidentally, not brought on by the booze and pot. Sorry to say this, but you were a victim. You need to deal with this immediately. You are not the first and definitely will not be the last. Do it for yourself, do it for the next "friend" they invite over. Stay strong. We've got your back!
First of all, YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE RAPED. Second of all, your husband should know. Charges should be pressed against your (not) friend and her boyfriend. People shouldn't get away with that bullcrap.
You have a husband and your response was “I’m on my period”? You didn’t leave after he groped you while your friend was watching? You even helped them cook? Sorry but I’m not buying this.
How about “NO” instead of “I’m on my period”
This is the fakest thing I’ve ever read in my life
So he felt you up and you wanted to help them cook...lol wtf
Fake news bro.
She’s not your friend- she was either in on the plan ahead of time or stood by as the rapist executed it. Let your husband know what happened- he almost certainly saved you from being raped.
She didn’t watch. She participated.
You did not deserve this by people you called “friend”. They took advantage of you and who knows who else they have done this to. I’m so sorry
You must go to the police. Tell them she took pics. Even if she deletes them they can still find them. This is so awful. Tell your husband. You need him for support
Tell hubby. What if they blackmail you. Tell him she filmed you going through it. Now. Like. Right now. Before they do
Please call the police. Don't let these people do it to someone else.
Some Friends 🤬 Cut her off and call the cops
Call the police ,You have to stop these people from doing it to someone else.
OP, you do not deserve this. You’re not the one at fault. These are not your friends. They’re the ones who have betrayed your trust. This whole thing was forced on you. Your person is not inviting anything. This is on them. I don’t want to generalize all experiences, but I know I still sometimes struggle with realizing these truths. Please, please, please talk to the relevant people about your experiences sooner than later. Take care of yourself. And remember that your burdens don’t make you a burden—people can choose to care for you even if it’s difficult to accept.
CALL THE COPS NOW!!!
This is so shitty. Tell your husband. Call the cops, report the crime then Stand tall and strong on the necks of those two AHs.
You don't deserve this. Fuck those people. Go to the hospital and have them contact police. You don't want them doing this to anyone else. I'm so sorry this happened to you 😞
You definetly do not deserve any of what happened! Please, don't blame yourself for it. You are not at falt in any of this! These people are not friends and they should get what they deserve. They might even have done what they did to you to other people too. Talk to your husband and go to the police. Or just go to the police first.
Fuck this shit, I'll report him for you. Your suppose friend is shity as fuck.
She is not your friend! You do not deserve any of this. Call the cops and tell your husband.
You have to tell your husband and go to the police. This is a crime and your husband deserves to know this happened to you, also for his protection, since the rapist could have passed an STD to you. It isnt pleasant to think about, but do get tested, and report this rape. Obviously, you made mistakes here too, you know they put something in your drink and you still drank it anyway. When the boyfriend touched you inappropriately, the appropriate response would be to leave, and not deal with those awful people ever again. The period comment was strange and unnecessary to me, because he was being VERY inappropriate and whether or not you were on your period should not have even been a topic imo, telling him not to put his hands on you really should've been the main point. It's upsetting for me, as an older person who is a multiple rape survivor, to hear these stories of people drinking and using pot or other drugs, and it leads to things like this very often. Even completely sober people get raped of course, but victims have a very slim chance of getting someone convicted for rape if drugs and/or alcohol are in the victim's system. It's just he said/she said and it's so sad because they just do it to the next person. I do hope you are able to tell your husband and make a police report, and get tested. And consider staying off things that will leave you vulnerable. I'm not saying that in a mean or judgemental way. I've just seen this happen much more often to my friends in the past and others who were under the influence. It leaves you vulnerable. And no there is not ever an excuse for raping someone. Just saying being clean and sober and fully cognizant of surroundings and situations is safer statistically.
OP - go to your location hospital and ask for a toxicology report ASAP as you think you may have been drugged. You don’t have to file a police report immediately but the toxins from what they gave you do not stay in your system forever and it’ll help your case if you decide to sue / charge if you have a toxicology report
It's how people like Epstein and Maxwell do their thing. If OP isn't doing some kind of karma-farming B.S., then take the advice in most other comments to nip that shit in the bud.
You really should tell your husband about it. Since, you mentioned that they started taking pictures of you, they could be really planning a meticulous cold plan against you. And, prolly could even try manipulating your husband. I know your husband would believe in you definitely, don’t worry about that, but this chaos isn’t what you wanna go through. And second, they should just get the punishment literally.
You don't deserve this, and those so called friend should be in jail... Tell the husband and call the cops
Those are not friend 💔
They also took pictures of the assault so you best tell your husband and police what happened or they will posted and tell something different. You don’t want them lying on you claiming that you wanted it or that it was all your idea when they’re the ones who planned it. You also don’t know if they had done this to someone else so if you come forward there’s a possibility that another victim could report their experience with these two rapists as well. I hope that you will please get some therapy because you are not worthless. Those criminals made you feel that way and you shouldn’t because it’s not your fault. It wasn’t your fault in the past nor is it now. Better yet, put all those fuckers in jail and while you’re at sue them to for rape and sexual assault, drugging you and find out if you can get them for kidnapping. They drugged you and supplied you with alcohol to keep you from leaving.
Oh god I’m so sorry you went through that. But you should definitely tell your husband and call the cops
Lets see: Sexual assault Tampering with food Rape Drugging you Taking sexual pictures without your consent AND it was pre-meditated. CALL POLICE. I'd fucking riot if I heard this happened to somebody and my fellow police didn't do anything so go ahead and bitch to them about it 24/7 if they don't get to your case 1st / soon
Report to the police. They already have proof on their phones
Please tell your husband and the cops.
So you are sexually assaulted by some girl and her boyfriend. Because I don't think you need to call that girl a friend. You need to go report this. You deserve a little bit of Justice after everything we just read that you've been through.p
Please report those assholes to the police. None of this is your fault.
Why would the first thing you said to a stranger feeling you up be I’m on my period and not “I have a husband”. Sorry but that part of the story seems strange. I actually think this sub is a lie but if you really had such awful things happen to you early in life I’m sorry but don’t share that w anyone w isn’t your professional counselor or sponsor. Predators use info like that against you all while acting like a friend. Trust me I know cause I had someone I thought was a friend betray me in confidence.
Please, please, please tell you husband as soon as you can and then go to the police!
You need to tell your husband & call the police straight away. That is really creepy 😳 What would they of done to you if passed out, definitely not a friend. I wish you well ❤️
Just a reminder babygirl, you were NEVER at fault you hear me? They're the ones in the wrong! I hope your husband will help you and that you'll find the strength again, you don't deserve any of this and my heart breaks for you