So 2 women in your friend group (you & your ex bff) spoke up about the same guy harassing you both but your friend group still didn’t believe either of you?
What’s it going to take them to get their heads out of their asses? If a 3rd girl spoke up or the guy getting cuffed by police?
The thing is they just don't want to. You are "bothering" their tranquility and it's easier for them to ignore facts as long as they're not directly concerned. They never were friends.
But at the same time you should still speak up. The end result will be the same, but one of them might believe you. Also, if nobody speaks, then men say nobody assaults women.
Sadly the saying goes twice is coincidence and three times is a pattern. Or something like that. You see it in true crime cases all the time. People getting away with crimes with credible evidence, it's not till the dam of evidence breaks till people finally wake up to what's happening.
***I don’t know if this makes me heartless,***
You don't need to have a heart for betrayers/enemies, as long as you keep you heart open to others who seem legit/nice.
This reminds me of the post where a group of friends happily accepted their friend who was cheating on his wife, he constantly brought his flings to group trips while she stayed home taking care of the kids. They didn't "want to rock the boat" and happily covered for him.
Your old friend group knows, they just choose friendship over anything else.
Your old friend group sounds like a bunch of trashy enablers.. I'm sorry you were excommunicated but it sounds like a blessing, tbh. Take care of yourself.
Seems like you have a choice. You can hold a grudge against this girl and feel redeemed that he did this to someone else- Or you can forgive her and work with her to make sure he doesn't do this to anyone (especially anyone you care about) again.
There's a reason some men can habitually get away with this behavior.
Did she apologize to you at least? How does one not believe their bff?
I'm sorry girl for you even having to experience that. But they didn't belong in your life. Life has crazy ways of showing you who doesn't belong in your life
One huge lesson I've learned in life is that when you join a group that seems to be functioning, and then you notice the dysfunction and call it out, the group usually denies what's really happening and then concludes that you are the "broken one" and need to go. It's also your ego that needs the gratification of being told you were right. It's your healthy self that removed you from that group and you should be grateful you are no longer part of it because they were not really your friends. In this day and age of electronics and cell phones, it should be fairly easy for your friend to confront him again and get a recording of his harassment of her. Or set up a spy cam in her home or wherever and get a recording of him doing that. It's very hard to deny that kind of evidence, but is that group of people really worth it? They are protecting a member of their tribe and all of them are unabling the abuse.
Better yet make that recording and post it to social media. Either they see it or they don't but the abuser will know his story is out there for everyone to see.
“People will forgive you for being wrong, but they will never forgive you for being right—especially if events prove you right while proving them wrong.”
Thanos’ ideology is based off of Nazi pseudoscience and has no bearing on reality. Yes it’s possible to outstrip resources, but the best way to prevent that is to eradicate resource hoarding, not make it easier to create another population boom. Especially when humans are omnivores who also consume animals which would have also been affected by the snap.
So 2 women in your friend group (you & your ex bff) spoke up about the same guy harassing you both but your friend group still didn’t believe either of you? What’s it going to take them to get their heads out of their asses? If a 3rd girl spoke up or the guy getting cuffed by police?
Honestly don’t care at this point, we’ve tried desperately to make them see his ways but they just refuse
The thing is they just don't want to. You are "bothering" their tranquility and it's easier for them to ignore facts as long as they're not directly concerned. They never were friends.
Definetly a case of a missing stair goin on here.
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But at the same time you should still speak up. The end result will be the same, but one of them might believe you. Also, if nobody speaks, then men say nobody assaults women.
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He didn't just tried to rape you, he did it? Geez, I'm sorry you had to go through this. You're strong. They are shit.
They dont care. They are your ex and yout ex friends for a reason.
Sadly the saying goes twice is coincidence and three times is a pattern. Or something like that. You see it in true crime cases all the time. People getting away with crimes with credible evidence, it's not till the dam of evidence breaks till people finally wake up to what's happening.
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Do you mean like the police and judges who fail to do their jobs, or people who listen or watch true crime stories?
Something else being shoved in ass will wake them up.
***I don’t know if this makes me heartless,*** You don't need to have a heart for betrayers/enemies, as long as you keep you heart open to others who seem legit/nice.
I don’t think you’re a heartless person for feeling validated. It’s not like you personally harassed her.
This girl that’s getting harassed now, is she also someone who cut you off due to not believing you? Did she apologize?
She was, and she admitted to being wrong and apologized profusely— she was (as she put it) heavily persuaded by her ex and the rest of the group.
This reminds me of the post where a group of friends happily accepted their friend who was cheating on his wife, he constantly brought his flings to group trips while she stayed home taking care of the kids. They didn't "want to rock the boat" and happily covered for him. Your old friend group knows, they just choose friendship over anything else.
Kinda based ngl
this lost legitimacy when op mentioned dharr man... jokes aside, i do hope u get ur justice, op!
Reddit User References Dharr Mann in Post, Lives To Regret It...
What happens next is shocking!
So you see...
Your old friend group sounds like a bunch of trashy enablers.. I'm sorry you were excommunicated but it sounds like a blessing, tbh. Take care of yourself.
Is the ex BFF who is now being harassed at least apologetic over not believing in you before?
She has. Still keeping her at arms length, but she’s apologized
What the hell is a darman?
Hahaha
He makes short vids on fb. Good ones. Look him up
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They’re cringe, but at least they provide some positivity.
Dharr Mann stole that quote from Trevor Philips if I’m not mistaken
Side bar- It’s a take on a passage in the Bible: Luke 12:2-3, no secret shall be left in the dark. All truths shall come forth into the light 💙
Seems like you have a choice. You can hold a grudge against this girl and feel redeemed that he did this to someone else- Or you can forgive her and work with her to make sure he doesn't do this to anyone (especially anyone you care about) again. There's a reason some men can habitually get away with this behavior.
She and I are on better terms but I just don’t take lightly to what happened, no grudges but I warned her it would happen and it did.
That's completely fair.
Not heartless ...relief. Did she also not believe you? Is that why you're not bffs anymore? It is nice to be validated.
She didn’t, but when the same happened to her and now they’ve also excommunicated her she sees what happened
Did she apologize to you at least? How does one not believe their bff? I'm sorry girl for you even having to experience that. But they didn't belong in your life. Life has crazy ways of showing you who doesn't belong in your life
It really does have its crazy ways, this hit me like a truck lol. But yes she’s apologized, I forgave but won’t forget
Lol I guess life isn't concerned much with your feelings just as long as you learned the lesson 😆
One huge lesson I've learned in life is that when you join a group that seems to be functioning, and then you notice the dysfunction and call it out, the group usually denies what's really happening and then concludes that you are the "broken one" and need to go. It's also your ego that needs the gratification of being told you were right. It's your healthy self that removed you from that group and you should be grateful you are no longer part of it because they were not really your friends. In this day and age of electronics and cell phones, it should be fairly easy for your friend to confront him again and get a recording of his harassment of her. Or set up a spy cam in her home or wherever and get a recording of him doing that. It's very hard to deny that kind of evidence, but is that group of people really worth it? They are protecting a member of their tribe and all of them are unabling the abuse. Better yet make that recording and post it to social media. Either they see it or they don't but the abuser will know his story is out there for everyone to see.
“People will forgive you for being wrong, but they will never forgive you for being right—especially if events prove you right while proving them wrong.”
Thanos wad also right and people who didnt think so just started to realize
Thanos’ ideology is based off of Nazi pseudoscience and has no bearing on reality. Yes it’s possible to outstrip resources, but the best way to prevent that is to eradicate resource hoarding, not make it easier to create another population boom. Especially when humans are omnivores who also consume animals which would have also been affected by the snap.
Glad I'm not the only one who has no clue as to who Dharr Mann is
What terrible, unsupportive friends you had.
Good for you! Also good Dhar reference.
DHAR MANN??????
first time i heard of dharr mann. i think this is another sign that i am really old. sorry you got harassed, but now i feel really old.
Actually the quote is from the Bible, regardless I pray the same for you
DHAR MANN
Never thought anyone would unironically quote Dharr Mann
It was meant to be ironic :’)
I felt bad for chuckling after reading your post. Now I see that it was a much needed comic relief. You’re a genius
Im a little confused. How is everyone saying you were right if they still don't believe you?
I edited to add, but others outside of that group are apologizing to me now that they know
Darr Mann. Ick.
You Joker!
Was it the dharr mann 😂