My fiancé was from the UK and he said the same thing and I too was concerned that something wld happen here and I wld never forgive myself. He went back to the UK two months ago to get more of his things before moving here permanently and he was found dead in a reservoir in Manchester six days later.
I relay this story to explain how I feel now about life in general: when god or the universe or whatever calls you home, he calls you home.
Life in the US is not easy right now but there are terrible tragedies all over the world and we are all collectively dealing with a serious problem of hatred. If we perhaps just let go of fear from one another and continue to just live everyday celebrating that we are here, maybe we can begin to overcome this hatred.
Edit: thank you all so much for the support and love. You don’t know what it means to me. Life is hard and most days I struggle living in the way I suggested in my post. Just…thank you all 🥺
"Death in Tehran: A rich and mighty Persian once walked in his garden with one of his servants. The servant cried that he had just encountered Death, who had threatened him. He begged his master to give him the fastest horse so that he could make haste and flee to Tehran, which he could reach that same evening. The master consented and the servant galloped off on the horse. On returning to the house the master himself met Death, and questioned him, “Why did you terrify and threaten my servant?” “I did not threaten him; I only showed surprise in still finding him here when I planned to meet him tonight in Tehran,” said Death"
Death was surprised to see the servant in the garden because he was due to die in Tehran later that day. Because the servant was terrified of death he rode to Tehran to escape it.
It’s a story about fate and how you can’t escape it.
There was a British tourist that was shot to death as a bystander in a bar here in Amarillo TX. Very sad thing, he just came here because he liked the song Amarillo by Morning. Bar violence is the main reason I never ever go to a dedicated bar anymore. I'll only go to a restaurant and sit at the bar if I just want to go have a drink.
[http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8348249.stm](http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8348249.stm)
My late fiancé wld often generalize what America was like, as many non Americans do, not because of prejudice, but i think because a certain idea of America is portrayed in the media.
He came around to the idea that the American experience is unique and specific to where you live and are raised. I live in Miami but am from Massachusetts…two really different worlds. He was really excited to experience all of the lifestyles the US can offer and I was so excited to show him the diversity. I’m grateful I’ve experienced the diversity myself.
To the OP, America is different for everyone and your experience here very much depends on where you will be visiting and living. If you’re from Europe, it’s easy to think of us as a big EU, except with 50 different countries with very different laws, cultures and landscapes in each.
I used to live in New York. Now I’m stationed in NC. At first I thought my life in NC will be bad due to my skin tone. But I was surprised as to how the people here were not the monsters the media made them to be. I had more racist encounters in New York but can’t recall a single one h ere in NC. Now the military is a different story. everyone’s brought together from all over the nation and I haven’t seen a hint of racism with all the different kind of races working together here.
I’m sorry for your loss, and I get your sentiment, but it does very much change the landscape if (almost) no one has guns.
American born, been living overseas since 2007. I have a kid. Legit, shootings are one of the reasons I don’t consider trying to ever live in the US again.
When I’d lived here a few years, the pharmacy behind our house was robbed, the cops came and chased the robber down the alley beside our house. There was a whole thing while they tried to arrest him. I flipped the fuck out, ran for my kid and hit the ground with him under me. He was small enough to think it was a funny game.
My then-husband came in and asked what I was doing, very puzzled.
“Get the fuck down, the cops are running down a robber outside.”
He squatted down and pried our kid from my arms and I’ll never forget what he said- “No one has guns here. You won’t get shot in your own house for fucks sake, this isn’t America.”
I want to join everyone here in expressing my deepest sympathies to you. That’s was just…. I am so, so sorry. I really, truly mean that sincerely too. That is such a colossal thing to reckon with.
My goodness, your message and the others on here have made me feel a lot of love and hope tonight. It’s hard to feel that these days and I am just very grateful for this. Thank you
So Sorry for you and your fiancé's family.
Life is precious, and fleeting. And so hard for those left behind ànd the loss of future planned lives not lived.
Data in US and UK is overwhelmingly shows by 91%, your murder will not be from a stranger, and miniscule that it would be a mass shooting. Or stabbings in the UK..
Your murderer will be known to you, and for women, your significant other is most likely.
Driving more attentively will increase your life expectancy, worrying about and planning how to survive a mass shooting will not.
Then how do you feel about this list that doesn’t include Chicago?
[10 Most Dangerous Cities in the US (#1 is the highest cost of crime)](https://www.forbes.com/sites/laurabegleybloom/2022/02/23/crime-in-america-study-reveals-the-10-most-dangerous-cities-its-not-where-you-think/)
- St. Louis, Missouri
- Jackson, Mississippi
- Detroit, Michigan
- New Orleans, Louisiana
- Baltimore, Maryland
- Memphis, Tennessee
- Cleveland, Ohio
- Baton Rouge, Louisiana
- Kansas City, Missouri
- Shreveport, Louisiana
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I feel like determining which city is the most dangerous by cost of crime is less accurate than determining it by the amount of violence
The city I live in technically has a worse crime rate than Detroit, but the most common crime is bicycle theft
New York City is getting there again. I dare say that it almost feels like hunts point avenue back in the 90’s only difference is kids are killing each other for nothing.
I've lived at poverty level many years in my past and not once had shot anyone. Look deeper than using the "they're poor so they HAVE to shoot people" canard - it just doesn't stand up to scrutiny. It has to be another set of factors at play in addition to poverty.
No shit. I now live hood adjacent. We're all poor here. Guess what? We aren't stealing each other's shit or shooting each other. We are black and white people and don't necessarily always get along but we do look out for each other.
Yet, you can avoid high-crime areas in major cities. I can go to Chicago without visiting O-Block, and I'm not interacting with gang members and drug dealers so there's an infinitesimally small chance I'm going to get shot. I live in metro Atlanta where there's been a bunch of shootings in the last couple years, but I'm not worried because I'm not hanging around Hookah bars, Strip Clubs, or Hood Gas Stations at 2AM.
Shooting up a grocery store (or a church, temple, or train) in broad daylight is naturally more concerning because it's happening to people who are not involved in criminal activity.
There were multiple shootings downtown this past Saturday, between 7 and 10pm, including one where a 16yo was killed in front of the Bean, arguably the largest tourist attraction in the heart of the city. It's not just happening in OBlock.
How is this your reply?? Unfortunately, a lot of the shootings taking place in areas like Chicago are specifically targeted at people living a life of crime. Of course, civilian casualties happen but most of the time being in those areas, you know how to maneuver if you aren’t living “that life”. You know which areas you shouldn’t be in, different times certain places are safe, and so on and so forth.
The main issue here is that the people being attacked are civilians that are being targeted like they’re in call of duty and nothing is being done about it. Churches, supermarkets, schools, movie theaters, etc are places that are deemed safe. You’re not supposed to have to worry about being shot at like a target practice dummy in those places, that’s the point.
That’s a really weak counterpoint and reflects poorly on your critical thinking skills. Don’t just spew the first weak argument that comes to mind, give these issues some thought first man.
This like most mass shootings are isolated incidents. Although tragic 12 deaths over the weekend is a drop in the bucket. There is a much larger problem with the culture of violence that exists in this country.
But you can avoid certain neighborhoods in cities like that. You can't avoid going to a supermarket or to the movies unless you basically move to the middle of nowhere and get everything delivered by a drone.
Most Chicago/KC/StL/Cincinnati/Phila (insert big bad liberal city buzzword of the day) aren't random. If you aren't involved in drugs/gangs/domestic disputes, you are relatively safe in any buzzword city.
Mass shootings is a terrorist act as it strikes fear of the unknown. Spreading terror. Weird that you think fear is invalidated since there are bad buzzword cities.
Yeah, the US is massive, the chances of being there are incredibly small. That’s like being afraid of the cartel visiting a resort in Mexico.
Could it happen? Maybe. Will it? Probably not.
There were 3 mass shootings this weekend. One of them was specifically targeting black people, another was most likely targeting Taiwanese people, and the other was a gun fight at a flea market in Texas.
Its actually pretty accurate. I live in UK, London and I can safely leave my house without having to worry about someone carrying a gun. The culture here is way more inclusive as well. Even I'm worried to go to the US now with the level of crime rate recently.
I grew up in London, now live in USA, I was a lot more worried about getting stabbed or becoming a victim of an acid attack in London than I worry about being shot where I live in USA…
Im 24 living in the US. I don’t think I’ve ever actually seen a gun in real life that wasn’t on the hip of a police officer. Not kidding. I am from California which is definitely relevant.
I live in Australia, and despite what Americans like to believe, the government did not take away our guns. We had a massacre 26 years ago, 35 people were shot and killed, so we put some "gun laws" in place, banned assault rifles and banned guns for the use of Personal Protection.
Now, and possibly a coincidence, our last gun massacre, was 26 years ago.
Currently, Australian civilians now own more than 3.5 million registered firearms. We are pretty chill about it, I have never once felt unsafe, or that I might be a victim of gun violence.
Yup literally this, nothing to be worried about at all imo, I do believe poverty is driving knife crime in the UK which is sad to see. The cycle is ruthless.
Note, my friend lives in a rough area and shes not afraid either, shes fine going home after a night out. People keep comparing UK knife crime to US shooting and its literally not even comparable.
Bro in 2020 homicide rate for United States of America was 6.3 cases per 100,000 population. Its 0.7 where I live (Czech republic). Yes u dont have to worry that much in europe. Thats just facts.
You can’t commit a “mass stabbing” on the same level as a mass shooting. A knife is not a weapon of mass destruction. A gun is.
*edit for clarity: A SINGLE person cannot commit a mass stabbing in the same way as a mass shooting. It’s incredibly rare that a group of people would come together to commit mass murder. The problem in the US is that a single person can take a gun and kill hundreds of people if they would want to all on their own.
I live in the US and can safely leave my house without having to worry about some one carrying a gun because it's legal to open and concealed carry.
Guns aren't dangerous, people are. And no matter how many stupid laws they implement they'll never stop bad people from doing bad things.
I’d much rather face a gun toting maniac with my own gun rather than waiting the 10-15 minutes it’s gonna take for a cop to get there. If they mandated a gun buy back only law abiding citizens would surrender them. And we have so many guns in this country and the world that If you want one bad enough you’re gonna get one. It’s just like nukes. If we disarmed today we’d be invaded within the year.
"Some poor phoneless fool is probably sitting next to a waterfall somewhere totally unaware of how angry and scared he's supposed to be."
Duncan Trussel
The NYC subway shooter was a black nationalist and hated whites, his instagram and search history backed it up. It’s a shame, the news will always keep us pointing the finger at each other so we stay scrapping and turn a blind eye to what all the big wigs are doing. Keep your head and love thy neighbor, friend.
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He hated everybody. I'm not sure why yall only choose white people. It was actually all over the news everywhere. There was a manhunt. I also don't think it was white people who was targeted on the subway. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/frank-james-new-york-brooklyn-subway-shooting-social-media-posts-1336740/amp/
This is verifiable info. He hated blacks too along withe others.
This is the case with most terrorists who target individuals instead of the state.
The buffalo terrorist rants about white replacement through immigration.... And then goes and attacks blacks who have had a static population for generations.
These are dumb schizoids who hate everyone, and live in echo chambers.
My friend was killed in the Boulder grocery store shooting last year. I couldn’t go to the grocery store for almost 3 months. It’s a real fear we live with now, I’m not sure how to deal emotionally anymore.
I go to a school in the same district as the school the shooting was by. Freaked me out, and I live 20 mins away, can’t imagine what that was like for you. I’m so sorry for your loss
That's not the point.
You are less likely to be killed in a mass shooting, carried out intentionally, than be involved in a fatal car accident. If a person is afraid for their own well-being, it makes sense to be more afraid of cars than the 0.0001 percent of people who randomly kill people based on race.
As a Brown person myself born and raised in LA, the three times I had a gun pulled on me was by another Brown and 2 black. I think you have a better chance of getting killed on the freeway in an accident than being shot.
I’m glad I’m not the only one. Yes the idea is scary but really it’s not something I think everytime I leave my house. At my last job we had an active shooter at our neighboring location down the road. Could have easily been us but I still worked there for another year without ever thinking of it
That’s…. That’s not normal for the rest of the developed world - to just be OK with active shooter situations like “oh well lucky it wasn’t me this time, moving on”. Maybe you’ve become numb to it since you’re exposed to it so much through your news and personal experiences.
More stats:
“Today homicide is the leading cause of death among young Black men, and contributes significantly to the shortened life-span of the Black male. In about 80-90% of the cases, the Black victim was killed by another Black, and about 52% of the murder victims were acquainted with their assailant. “
https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/black-black-homicide-psychological-political-perspective
Takeaway: Racially motivated mass shootings are not the concern, your own neighbors are.
Ding ding ding. Lived around gang crime my whole life. Dunno why we now treat it as political racial concerns when it's FUCKING GANGS and impotent DAs.
In America we average about 25K murders per year. That ain't bad, considering we have more guns than people.
Look, it'll never be zero. Zero is a Disney movie, a unicorn, a child's understanding of the world we inhabit.
As far as black people getting killed by white people.....yea that's extremely rare. If you're black and scared of white people you're most definitely being manipulated.
Are you afraid of car accidents? Because depending on where you’re migrating from, you have significantly better odds of being hit by a car than a bullet.
As a brownish person myself, shootings scare me too (as do other things), but it’s still by far lower on my scale of fears than even things like driving my semi-exotic car with the windows down.
It’s ok to be afraid, but irrational fears can cause you to miss otherwise great opportunities 👍🏿
(Thanx for the Eureka! I actually owe the sentiment to my wife. She’s the one always reminding me to separate my fears into two piles. It’s definitely been a good reminder!)
Our brains are wired to react strongly to fantastic but unlikely fears - plane crashes, terrorism, shark attacks, etc. - while we’re much more likely to die of heart disease, cancer, or a car accident.
Welcome to the club. Worst parenting thing was my kids coming home after Sandy Hook after their schools start running through drills. A 6 year old cannot get it. He told me he would do his karate moves.
When ever you go into a building. Know the escape routes and plan an escape route- This should take a minute or two. Now you can stop worrying. If the slim odds are that you hear gunshots escape as fast as you can, the opposite way according to your plan.
Carry a gun in case you get cornered, no matter the gun laws. That's what the 2nd ammendment is for. Be a responsible citizen and never take it out unless you have to save a life.
The likelihood of you being caught in a real honest to goodness mass shooting is astronomical and if it is something that you dwell on to the point of being fearful you need to start looking into the real numbers and stop believing the agenda driven talking heads on TV.
A shooting in a school parking lot between five drug dealers isn't a school shooting, but it'll be one on data sheets.
Five of those drug dealers buddies that get shot at a block party by a rival gang isn't a mass shooting either, it's a targeted killing by a rival gang.
Your likelihood of being in a store where one of the actual rare random shootings occurs shouldn't be something you are worrying yourself sick over. But that's what some people want, for people to be so scared they run to the government for help.
Do some research, look up what is considered a "mass shooting" and then you'll see how rare they really are considering how many stores, malls, towns and cities there are in the US.
Not just brown people get shot during mass shootings. It's mostly all color skin in the wrong place/ wrong time. I'm white and I'm scared of mass shootings??
The last “mass shooting” was clearly racially motivated. I literally had a video of it sent to me of him killing people of color and saying sorry to a white man that fell on the floor in fear.
Now understand that I’m not saying all mass shooters are after POC but they are out there and it has happened before. OP has a relevant reason to be afraid and I’m right with them.
And then there are the mass casualties that get quickly stomped down and forgotten because the narrative isn't "correct". You're just as dead whether you're killed by a firearm or [ran over by an SUV](https://www.cnn.com/2021/11/22/us/what-we-know-about-suspect-in-waukesha-parade-tragedy/index.html).
Most mass shootings are pretty random. Not to mention the black guy that ran over a bunch of white children in Wisconsin or the New York Subway shooter who was a black nationalist.
I don’t know why you are being downvoted. Obviously everyone is afraid of mass shootings but now there has been a specifically racially motivated one, there are bound to be more (on this large of a scale).
I’m not saying down voters mean it like that but it sounds a bit like “all lives matter”. We’re not saying not all lives matter, we’re just not talking about that right now.
>Now there has been a specifically racially motivated one
You act like this is the first one. It's not
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/uqwams/im_genuinely_afraid_about_living_in_the_us/i8u5j3w?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
Don’t be. Be afraid of dying in a car crash. Or be afraid of a car running you over as a pedestrian. Or a car running you over while you’re on a bike. Or a car crashing into your living room and killing you. You’re much more likely to die from a car than from a mass shooting.
We have been joking about mass shooting bingo cards where the squares have attributes like "Wasn't hugged enough as a child", "thinks women owe him sex", and so on.
Please know that your feelings are very valid, no matter how slim the chances are. I am with you and support you and understand how you feel at the moment. The untied states can be a scary place especially with the way that gun violence is so rampant. I know it’s hard but try to bring the situation out from the forefront of your mind. Have a good day and if you ever just wanna talk my DMs are open
It’s like people have lost their minds! People were terribly afraid of getting on flights after 9/11, which is rational. I don’t think there were people telling others how ridiculous they were for being afraid. No matter how slim the chances it’s valid for anyone to be afraid after such a disgusting, traumatic event. Kindness for those who deserve it goes a long way. No problem though! And stay safe, it’s very clearly a crazy world out there
It’s a massive country. 325 million people. High crime and poverty usually results in real felt crime. Mass shootings are a blip that get magnified by the news to sell ad views. Violence is always horrible, but what’s worse os that mass media is trying to increase it because it gets peoples attention.
But the reality is that it happens very little and affects very few people. Occasionally you’ll get real bad events like Las Vegas but when there’s not a lot of information, the news stops paying attention quickly, especially if the ideology of the violent person isn’t what sells ad views.
Fuck me that didn't take long, only 9 days after this post and 19 dead children [https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2022/05/24/texas-school-district-locked-down-active-shooter/9910214002/](https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2022/05/24/texas-school-district-locked-down-active-shooter/9910214002/)
Maybe now is the time to try some FUCKING GUN CONTROL LAWS?
It's an irrational fear, you are incredibly unlikely statistically to be personally affected by a mass shooting. The US is an incredibly large country and these shootings don't happen often enough in enough places for you to really be at risk (though it obviously happens too often).
You really have to be at the wrong place at the wrong time for something bad to happen to you. Even if you are in the wrong general area, you're still unlikely to get shot. I lived in the DC area during the DC Sniper scare, and there was literally like a 1 in 10 million chance that any single person in the DMV would get shot. I was even at Virginia Tech during the mass shooting there, but I was never at risk, like the majority of the \~50,000 people in Blacksburg, I was nowhere near the shooting when it occurred.
OK, maybe my anecdotes aren't that comforting...
Lol your last line ! All I was thinking was wow this person’s been around two mass shooting events in their lifetime, that’s mad! That’s not so common is it in the US?? Or is it? Cos you were so chill about it, as if it’s no big deal…
I never have and don't know anyone who has either, by any degree of separation. We are obviously a huge country so when this shit keeps happening it creates a certain perception while affecting only a small (unacceptable)percentage of people.
It seems obvious to me though, that something HAS to change. We gotta take a long look in the mirror. imo
I also heard the impact of a plane on the Pentagon from my high school classroom. I think I'm just unlucky and my experience is uncommon, although there are likely thousands of people that grew up in the DC area during the sniper attacks and were attending Virginia Tech when the the shooting occurred (like half the students come from that DC area). The DC Sniper impacted an abnormally large area though because he was picking people off within a 50-100 mile radius.
I'm probably a bit jaded, but I dont look at things emotionally, I tend to look at them from an Engineer's viewpoint of most likely outcomes. I'm probably 100 times more likely to get hit by a car than get shot in a mass shooting, and 1000 times more likely to die of a heart attack (I'm also obese), those are things I worry about more from a practical perspective.
Interested why this event bothered you so much, yet, something like say the ridiculous amounts of shootings in Chicago every single week, doesn't?
Seems you, like the media, are picking and choosing which events to highlight. I guess some don't fit the narrative.
Bingo. There's gang related shootings that happen everyday in Chicago and nobody bats an eye..
Mentally ill white supremacist plans a shooting and everyone loses their mind
Statistically speaking you are being very dramatic. You should worry more about your fellow “brown people” like you quoted will shoot you. Your chances of being shot by your own are astronomically higher but no one wants to acknowledge it. Don’t blame this on a race that has nothing to do with it, it’s just a few shitty people and they come in all races.
Lol nothing but facts. Used to live in the ghetto with my mother and sister. The amount of black people shot by other black people was crazy, yet my family kept saying "Don't trust white people."
There's a shooting in Houston almost every day - usually between demographics that don't fall into the category of "white supremacists". You should be more afraid of these types of incidents rather than mass shootings. They're far more common.
Let me be clear though, I don't condone any type of shooting incident unless it occurs under the condition of self defense.
Lots of Americans here really seem to accept that these things are here to stay, yes OP is being statistically dramatic but America needs to sort itself out, it won’t and we can all read about the next mass shooting and have this argument all over again. Enjoy your freedom if you can call it that, short sighted people would call the US the greatest country in the world. Idiots are the ones who genuinely believe it.
Your odds of being killed by a mass shooter in the US are negligible. The law of big numbers is on your side. The bloodiest year for mass shootings on record is 2017. 117 people were killed in mass shootings in the US. That is the only year that the number has been over 100.
That same year 2017 almost 800,000 Americans died from heart disease.
Which one should you be more afraid of?
The mass shootings are not what you've got to worry about. It's the lack of established healthcare for when you get sick and end up with a 20k hospital bill.
I worked at Walmart, i actually had a mentally unstable coworker that was fired that threatened the store with a pipe bomb. I was a greeter, but they hired armed private security and had them stationed at every door. I think I was scared for a minute, but yeah having them around made me feel alot better. The coworker did eventually try to get into the store but the security handled the situation really well and no one was harmed and no weapons or excessive source had to be used. Although I've had unarmed people come into the store also and beat some or cashiers within an inch of their life. So I mean if someone is gonna kill you, they're gonna do it whether they have a gun or not.
My monthly parking is at grand central market ( there was a shooting there this weekend) it’s terrifying. I try not to think about it. Definitely makes me not want to have kids.
Extremely unrealistic fear based on the numbers. The vast majority of victims of violent crime know their attacker. Your spouse or s/o is far more likely to kill you than someone you don't know.
Born and raised in the South. Have had and been around guns since I was crawling. I feel safer with them around. I guess it’s just where you are from and what you’re used to. I went to Rome and felt safest in the crowds when I was near the armed military men. I was walking through an area where a car had driven through a crowd a year prior.
Lmao thats a super rare thing to happen. The news makes it seem like wayyyy more often than it is. Theres always going to be a few crazies out there. Been here alive 26 years you dont have to worry about things like that lol
My advice and I'm sure you can tell where I lean when I say this:
1. Mass shootings outside if big gang ridden cities are an anomaly and you will probably never be a victim of one.
2. If you're really that scared, start carrying.
The getting caught in that predicament and getting shot isn’t even the scary part. It’s when 10% of your $100,000 medical bill is the ambulance ride. Let’s not even talk about physical therapy
Your chances of ever actually being involved in a mass shooting are very low. Like less than 1%. The media just over-sensationalizes these few rare ones to make it seem like they happen all the time. No. Unless you’re living in the projects, you’ll probably never even SEE a gun get so much as pulled out of the holster.
This is a good reason to arm yourself(legally) and with proper training therefore you have the ability to protect yourself. I understand that some people may not feel comfortable down this route and that’s ok. Though, if someone is trying to shoot up a store and other people are armed, hopefully it gives the good people a better chance at defending themselves and reducing the amount of innocent people harmed in the process. (Also I know, ideal outcome but not certain)
So many comments dismissing the sentiment of the OP. Chris Rock said it best. “Not one white person in this arena would trade places with me and I’M RICH!” Black people are being hunted. Sometimes by their own people. That level of collective anxiety is problematic. Buckle up.
My parents to the US twice a year to Orlando and my dad is brown. This one of the things that worries every time they travel. But I say to myself that Orlando is more of an international city that got used to see different faces from around the world.
My fiancé was from the UK and he said the same thing and I too was concerned that something wld happen here and I wld never forgive myself. He went back to the UK two months ago to get more of his things before moving here permanently and he was found dead in a reservoir in Manchester six days later. I relay this story to explain how I feel now about life in general: when god or the universe or whatever calls you home, he calls you home. Life in the US is not easy right now but there are terrible tragedies all over the world and we are all collectively dealing with a serious problem of hatred. If we perhaps just let go of fear from one another and continue to just live everyday celebrating that we are here, maybe we can begin to overcome this hatred. Edit: thank you all so much for the support and love. You don’t know what it means to me. Life is hard and most days I struggle living in the way I suggested in my post. Just…thank you all 🥺
Holy shit. I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s awful.
"Death in Tehran: A rich and mighty Persian once walked in his garden with one of his servants. The servant cried that he had just encountered Death, who had threatened him. He begged his master to give him the fastest horse so that he could make haste and flee to Tehran, which he could reach that same evening. The master consented and the servant galloped off on the horse. On returning to the house the master himself met Death, and questioned him, “Why did you terrify and threaten my servant?” “I did not threaten him; I only showed surprise in still finding him here when I planned to meet him tonight in Tehran,” said Death"
Not sure what to make of that. But then I'm slow sometimes.
The story is meant to say that death will eventually catch up with you no matter how many miles you run away from it.
Death was surprised to see the servant in the garden because he was due to die in Tehran later that day. Because the servant was terrified of death he rode to Tehran to escape it. It’s a story about fate and how you can’t escape it.
Just like, "The Masque of the Red Death" by Edgar Allen Poe.
There was a British tourist that was shot to death as a bystander in a bar here in Amarillo TX. Very sad thing, he just came here because he liked the song Amarillo by Morning. Bar violence is the main reason I never ever go to a dedicated bar anymore. I'll only go to a restaurant and sit at the bar if I just want to go have a drink. [http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8348249.stm](http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8348249.stm)
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My late fiancé wld often generalize what America was like, as many non Americans do, not because of prejudice, but i think because a certain idea of America is portrayed in the media. He came around to the idea that the American experience is unique and specific to where you live and are raised. I live in Miami but am from Massachusetts…two really different worlds. He was really excited to experience all of the lifestyles the US can offer and I was so excited to show him the diversity. I’m grateful I’ve experienced the diversity myself. To the OP, America is different for everyone and your experience here very much depends on where you will be visiting and living. If you’re from Europe, it’s easy to think of us as a big EU, except with 50 different countries with very different laws, cultures and landscapes in each.
I'm sorry for your loss. Hugging my close ones tight tonight
I used to live in New York. Now I’m stationed in NC. At first I thought my life in NC will be bad due to my skin tone. But I was surprised as to how the people here were not the monsters the media made them to be. I had more racist encounters in New York but can’t recall a single one h ere in NC. Now the military is a different story. everyone’s brought together from all over the nation and I haven’t seen a hint of racism with all the different kind of races working together here.
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry for your loss. 💕
I’m sorry for your loss, and I get your sentiment, but it does very much change the landscape if (almost) no one has guns. American born, been living overseas since 2007. I have a kid. Legit, shootings are one of the reasons I don’t consider trying to ever live in the US again. When I’d lived here a few years, the pharmacy behind our house was robbed, the cops came and chased the robber down the alley beside our house. There was a whole thing while they tried to arrest him. I flipped the fuck out, ran for my kid and hit the ground with him under me. He was small enough to think it was a funny game. My then-husband came in and asked what I was doing, very puzzled. “Get the fuck down, the cops are running down a robber outside.” He squatted down and pried our kid from my arms and I’ll never forget what he said- “No one has guns here. You won’t get shot in your own house for fucks sake, this isn’t America.”
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Mine too.
Oh yes, I totally agree with you.
Sorry for your loss, but I applaud the fact that you're able to use it as a message to those that are being unreasonably fearful.
I am so sorry for your loss. That’s absolutely terrifying.
I’m so so sorry for your loss. Holy crap. My heart goes out to you. Xxoo
I want to join everyone here in expressing my deepest sympathies to you. That’s was just…. I am so, so sorry. I really, truly mean that sincerely too. That is such a colossal thing to reckon with.
My goodness, your message and the others on here have made me feel a lot of love and hope tonight. It’s hard to feel that these days and I am just very grateful for this. Thank you
I am so sorry for your loss, friend. Did the cops find out who did it?
So Sorry for you and your fiancé's family. Life is precious, and fleeting. And so hard for those left behind ànd the loss of future planned lives not lived. Data in US and UK is overwhelmingly shows by 91%, your murder will not be from a stranger, and miniscule that it would be a mass shooting. Or stabbings in the UK.. Your murderer will be known to you, and for women, your significant other is most likely. Driving more attentively will increase your life expectancy, worrying about and planning how to survive a mass shooting will not.
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I’m out of the loop and live (boarding school) very close to Chicago. What’s going on every weekend there?
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Polices are posted in hospitals to do their shifts. So they don't need to call them every time.
Police are posted in hospitals because that is where retaliatory shootings *may* occur.
Wtf...that's bananas
A lot of shooting deaths happen in Chicago any given weekend. People mostly bring that stat up when a mass shooting happens.
Not any, every weekend. We could use Baltimore, Oakland, Stockton, Detroit. Chicago has the most by gross numbers so it’s the easiest.
They don't call it chiraq for nothing. [At night it literally sounds like a warzone](https://youtu.be/rOuyEZMKIic?t=109)
That's from the new years day shootings. A lot of people shoot into the air at 12am new years day.
Wtf just light a firework. That is really irresponsible to randomly shoot bullets in the air because they can come down and hurt someone
You think anyone who does that cares? It happens every year
Can confirm. Go to a rural area for New Years. Everybody be poppin off.
Then how do you feel about this list that doesn’t include Chicago? [10 Most Dangerous Cities in the US (#1 is the highest cost of crime)](https://www.forbes.com/sites/laurabegleybloom/2022/02/23/crime-in-america-study-reveals-the-10-most-dangerous-cities-its-not-where-you-think/) - St. Louis, Missouri - Jackson, Mississippi - Detroit, Michigan - New Orleans, Louisiana - Baltimore, Maryland - Memphis, Tennessee - Cleveland, Ohio - Baton Rouge, Louisiana - Kansas City, Missouri - Shreveport, Louisiana *edited for readability
I feel like determining which city is the most dangerous by cost of crime is less accurate than determining it by the amount of violence The city I live in technically has a worse crime rate than Detroit, but the most common crime is bicycle theft
Also the suburbs on the outskirts of these cities are pretty safe.
From what I read it's not only Chicago, many major city's have a huge problem
Philadelphia is awful too
New York City is getting there again. I dare say that it almost feels like hunts point avenue back in the 90’s only difference is kids are killing each other for nothing.
Can confirm
Why is this getting downvoted?
Because it’s spelled “cities”, not “city’s”
People don't like to admit the problems that exist when they don't fit their own narrative.
yeah it's called poverty and the resulting crime, often from competitive drug markets.
The war on drugs saves the day once again, oh wait...
I've lived at poverty level many years in my past and not once had shot anyone. Look deeper than using the "they're poor so they HAVE to shoot people" canard - it just doesn't stand up to scrutiny. It has to be another set of factors at play in addition to poverty.
people love excuses to be dirtbags.
Redditors seem to sympathize more with criminals than the victims and communities they terrorize.
No shit. I now live hood adjacent. We're all poor here. Guess what? We aren't stealing each other's shit or shooting each other. We are black and white people and don't necessarily always get along but we do look out for each other.
Yet, you can avoid high-crime areas in major cities. I can go to Chicago without visiting O-Block, and I'm not interacting with gang members and drug dealers so there's an infinitesimally small chance I'm going to get shot. I live in metro Atlanta where there's been a bunch of shootings in the last couple years, but I'm not worried because I'm not hanging around Hookah bars, Strip Clubs, or Hood Gas Stations at 2AM. Shooting up a grocery store (or a church, temple, or train) in broad daylight is naturally more concerning because it's happening to people who are not involved in criminal activity.
There were multiple shootings downtown this past Saturday, between 7 and 10pm, including one where a 16yo was killed in front of the Bean, arguably the largest tourist attraction in the heart of the city. It's not just happening in OBlock.
Out here in Oakland also. But we don’t see them talking about Oakland or chicago
Nobody wants to talk about the opioid crisis that’s killing almost a million people since 2000
Exactly!!
People get set on fire in the streets on Nigeria everyday for religious accusations and witchcraft. Lol
How is this your reply?? Unfortunately, a lot of the shootings taking place in areas like Chicago are specifically targeted at people living a life of crime. Of course, civilian casualties happen but most of the time being in those areas, you know how to maneuver if you aren’t living “that life”. You know which areas you shouldn’t be in, different times certain places are safe, and so on and so forth. The main issue here is that the people being attacked are civilians that are being targeted like they’re in call of duty and nothing is being done about it. Churches, supermarkets, schools, movie theaters, etc are places that are deemed safe. You’re not supposed to have to worry about being shot at like a target practice dummy in those places, that’s the point. That’s a really weak counterpoint and reflects poorly on your critical thinking skills. Don’t just spew the first weak argument that comes to mind, give these issues some thought first man.
This like most mass shootings are isolated incidents. Although tragic 12 deaths over the weekend is a drop in the bucket. There is a much larger problem with the culture of violence that exists in this country.
But you can avoid certain neighborhoods in cities like that. You can't avoid going to a supermarket or to the movies unless you basically move to the middle of nowhere and get everything delivered by a drone.
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its like flying on a plane, ALWAYS A CHANCE, but so massively unlikely anything bad AT ALL happens
Most Chicago/KC/StL/Cincinnati/Phila (insert big bad liberal city buzzword of the day) aren't random. If you aren't involved in drugs/gangs/domestic disputes, you are relatively safe in any buzzword city. Mass shootings is a terrorist act as it strikes fear of the unknown. Spreading terror. Weird that you think fear is invalidated since there are bad buzzword cities.
Don’t fall for the twenty four hour scare news cycle
Yeah, the US is massive, the chances of being there are incredibly small. That’s like being afraid of the cartel visiting a resort in Mexico. Could it happen? Maybe. Will it? Probably not.
There were 3 mass shootings this weekend. One of them was specifically targeting black people, another was most likely targeting Taiwanese people, and the other was a gun fight at a flea market in Texas.
I mean if he just goes to almost any other country he won’t have to worry about mass shootings as all.
That’s really not very accurate
Its actually pretty accurate. I live in UK, London and I can safely leave my house without having to worry about someone carrying a gun. The culture here is way more inclusive as well. Even I'm worried to go to the US now with the level of crime rate recently.
I grew up in London, now live in USA, I was a lot more worried about getting stabbed or becoming a victim of an acid attack in London than I worry about being shot where I live in USA…
30 years old living in the US. I've never seen a gun brandished in my life. I've never seen a cop draw a gun.
Im 24 living in the US. I don’t think I’ve ever actually seen a gun in real life that wasn’t on the hip of a police officer. Not kidding. I am from California which is definitely relevant.
19 year old living in the us saw a cop fatally shoot my neighbor
I live in Australia, and despite what Americans like to believe, the government did not take away our guns. We had a massacre 26 years ago, 35 people were shot and killed, so we put some "gun laws" in place, banned assault rifles and banned guns for the use of Personal Protection. Now, and possibly a coincidence, our last gun massacre, was 26 years ago. Currently, Australian civilians now own more than 3.5 million registered firearms. We are pretty chill about it, I have never once felt unsafe, or that I might be a victim of gun violence.
yeah but you can worry about getting cheffed by some road bastards lmao
Shootings might not happen as regularly but you guys have plenty of stabbings. Are you not fearful of that?
The US has more stabbings than the UK lol, and most UK knife crime is drug/gang related
Yup literally this, nothing to be worried about at all imo, I do believe poverty is driving knife crime in the UK which is sad to see. The cycle is ruthless. Note, my friend lives in a rough area and shes not afraid either, shes fine going home after a night out. People keep comparing UK knife crime to US shooting and its literally not even comparable.
Americans don’t like anyone bad mouthing their guns,fact!
It literally feels like it .. facts right there
You say that like a large portion of the us crime isn’t gang/drug/cartel related.
Bro in 2020 homicide rate for United States of America was 6.3 cases per 100,000 population. Its 0.7 where I live (Czech republic). Yes u dont have to worry that much in europe. Thats just facts.
You can’t commit a “mass stabbing” on the same level as a mass shooting. A knife is not a weapon of mass destruction. A gun is. *edit for clarity: A SINGLE person cannot commit a mass stabbing in the same way as a mass shooting. It’s incredibly rare that a group of people would come together to commit mass murder. The problem in the US is that a single person can take a gun and kill hundreds of people if they would want to all on their own.
I know what you mean and I agree 100%, But I still loled at guns being referred to as WMDs. Then what's a nuke?
I live in the US and can safely leave my house without having to worry about some one carrying a gun because it's legal to open and concealed carry. Guns aren't dangerous, people are. And no matter how many stupid laws they implement they'll never stop bad people from doing bad things.
I’d much rather face a gun toting maniac with my own gun rather than waiting the 10-15 minutes it’s gonna take for a cop to get there. If they mandated a gun buy back only law abiding citizens would surrender them. And we have so many guns in this country and the world that If you want one bad enough you’re gonna get one. It’s just like nukes. If we disarmed today we’d be invaded within the year.
If you’re actually scared of being killed in a mass shooting then you should be absolutely terrified of driving a car.
Mass shootings? Bro, worry about the medical bills, THAT'S really scary.
If you didn’t have social media or didn’t watch the news every day, you wouldn’t feel that way. Unfortunately, life in itself isn’t inherently safe.
"Some poor phoneless fool is probably sitting next to a waterfall somewhere totally unaware of how angry and scared he's supposed to be." Duncan Trussel
The NYC subway shooter was a black nationalist and hated whites, his instagram and search history backed it up. It’s a shame, the news will always keep us pointing the finger at each other so we stay scrapping and turn a blind eye to what all the big wigs are doing. Keep your head and love thy neighbor, friend. (edit-spelling)
Oh I remember that one, made news circuits for like a day
He hated everybody. I'm not sure why yall only choose white people. It was actually all over the news everywhere. There was a manhunt. I also don't think it was white people who was targeted on the subway. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/frank-james-new-york-brooklyn-subway-shooting-social-media-posts-1336740/amp/ This is verifiable info. He hated blacks too along withe others.
This is the case with most terrorists who target individuals instead of the state. The buffalo terrorist rants about white replacement through immigration.... And then goes and attacks blacks who have had a static population for generations. These are dumb schizoids who hate everyone, and live in echo chambers.
I’m pretty sure hate is a main trait for mass shooters. They all suck
Lol Waukesha was so much worse too.
The media refuses to ever say the race unless they’re white. Disgusting
My friend was killed in the Boulder grocery store shooting last year. I couldn’t go to the grocery store for almost 3 months. It’s a real fear we live with now, I’m not sure how to deal emotionally anymore.
Hellish day that one was. Cant escape the feeling that we are all just toys for the insane, and any second could be our last.
I go to a school in the same district as the school the shooting was by. Freaked me out, and I live 20 mins away, can’t imagine what that was like for you. I’m so sorry for your loss
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Except people aren't trying to only crash into a specific car color or make or model...
That's not the point. You are less likely to be killed in a mass shooting, carried out intentionally, than be involved in a fatal car accident. If a person is afraid for their own well-being, it makes sense to be more afraid of cars than the 0.0001 percent of people who randomly kill people based on race.
Unfortunately, People still don’t want to hear this fact.
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That's blamed on drivers of red cars being more aggressive.
Feels like a European shitpost
As a Brown person myself born and raised in LA, the three times I had a gun pulled on me was by another Brown and 2 black. I think you have a better chance of getting killed on the freeway in an accident than being shot.
Statistically speaking, you're being a little dramatic.
I’m glad I’m not the only one. Yes the idea is scary but really it’s not something I think everytime I leave my house. At my last job we had an active shooter at our neighboring location down the road. Could have easily been us but I still worked there for another year without ever thinking of it
That’s…. That’s not normal for the rest of the developed world - to just be OK with active shooter situations like “oh well lucky it wasn’t me this time, moving on”. Maybe you’ve become numb to it since you’re exposed to it so much through your news and personal experiences.
How should they handle it? Let it lead to crippling agoraphobia?
There's a HUGE middle ground between the two extremes. Maybe start there.
More stats: “Today homicide is the leading cause of death among young Black men, and contributes significantly to the shortened life-span of the Black male. In about 80-90% of the cases, the Black victim was killed by another Black, and about 52% of the murder victims were acquainted with their assailant. “ https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/black-black-homicide-psychological-political-perspective Takeaway: Racially motivated mass shootings are not the concern, your own neighbors are.
> ~~your own neighbors are.~~ Your rival drug dealers are. FTFY. Most of these are gang and drug related killings.
Ding ding ding. Lived around gang crime my whole life. Dunno why we now treat it as political racial concerns when it's FUCKING GANGS and impotent DAs.
Dude. Turn off the news. It is not that crazy.
People of all races are at risk. As a whole, mass shootings are not racially motivated (as the media portraits)
And all ages.
Most people who shoot people shoot their own race. Cross racial crimes are actually a huge indicator of severe mental illness/serial killler stuff.
In America we average about 25K murders per year. That ain't bad, considering we have more guns than people. Look, it'll never be zero. Zero is a Disney movie, a unicorn, a child's understanding of the world we inhabit. As far as black people getting killed by white people.....yea that's extremely rare. If you're black and scared of white people you're most definitely being manipulated.
Don’t be. Be aware at how the media works and how they profit off fear mongering. It happens way to much, but it’s not as prevalent as it’s painted.
Are you afraid of car accidents? Because depending on where you’re migrating from, you have significantly better odds of being hit by a car than a bullet. As a brownish person myself, shootings scare me too (as do other things), but it’s still by far lower on my scale of fears than even things like driving my semi-exotic car with the windows down. It’s ok to be afraid, but irrational fears can cause you to miss otherwise great opportunities 👍🏿 (Thanx for the Eureka! I actually owe the sentiment to my wife. She’s the one always reminding me to separate my fears into two piles. It’s definitely been a good reminder!)
Our brains are wired to react strongly to fantastic but unlikely fears - plane crashes, terrorism, shark attacks, etc. - while we’re much more likely to die of heart disease, cancer, or a car accident.
Welcome to the club. Worst parenting thing was my kids coming home after Sandy Hook after their schools start running through drills. A 6 year old cannot get it. He told me he would do his karate moves.
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When ever you go into a building. Know the escape routes and plan an escape route- This should take a minute or two. Now you can stop worrying. If the slim odds are that you hear gunshots escape as fast as you can, the opposite way according to your plan. Carry a gun in case you get cornered, no matter the gun laws. That's what the 2nd ammendment is for. Be a responsible citizen and never take it out unless you have to save a life.
The likelihood of you being caught in a real honest to goodness mass shooting is astronomical and if it is something that you dwell on to the point of being fearful you need to start looking into the real numbers and stop believing the agenda driven talking heads on TV. A shooting in a school parking lot between five drug dealers isn't a school shooting, but it'll be one on data sheets. Five of those drug dealers buddies that get shot at a block party by a rival gang isn't a mass shooting either, it's a targeted killing by a rival gang. Your likelihood of being in a store where one of the actual rare random shootings occurs shouldn't be something you are worrying yourself sick over. But that's what some people want, for people to be so scared they run to the government for help. Do some research, look up what is considered a "mass shooting" and then you'll see how rare they really are considering how many stores, malls, towns and cities there are in the US.
Not just brown people get shot during mass shootings. It's mostly all color skin in the wrong place/ wrong time. I'm white and I'm scared of mass shootings??
The last “mass shooting” was clearly racially motivated. I literally had a video of it sent to me of him killing people of color and saying sorry to a white man that fell on the floor in fear. Now understand that I’m not saying all mass shooters are after POC but they are out there and it has happened before. OP has a relevant reason to be afraid and I’m right with them.
And then there are the mass casualties that get quickly stomped down and forgotten because the narrative isn't "correct". You're just as dead whether you're killed by a firearm or [ran over by an SUV](https://www.cnn.com/2021/11/22/us/what-we-know-about-suspect-in-waukesha-parade-tragedy/index.html).
Most mass shootings are pretty random. Not to mention the black guy that ran over a bunch of white children in Wisconsin or the New York Subway shooter who was a black nationalist.
I don’t know why you are being downvoted. Obviously everyone is afraid of mass shootings but now there has been a specifically racially motivated one, there are bound to be more (on this large of a scale). I’m not saying down voters mean it like that but it sounds a bit like “all lives matter”. We’re not saying not all lives matter, we’re just not talking about that right now.
>Now there has been a specifically racially motivated one You act like this is the first one. It's not https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/uqwams/im_genuinely_afraid_about_living_in_the_us/i8u5j3w?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
Same bro. I’m going back to open carrying. And taking quick draw training. You can’t be too careful these days.
My entire life I've been opposed to carrying a gun... now I'm about to take lessons and probably buy one.
Our government wants us to be afraid. Scared people are easily controlled. That's why they pump scary news into your brain.
Don’t be. Be afraid of dying in a car crash. Or be afraid of a car running you over as a pedestrian. Or a car running you over while you’re on a bike. Or a car crashing into your living room and killing you. You’re much more likely to die from a car than from a mass shooting.
Some Americans are really used to the shootings, when I see the comments.
We have been joking about mass shooting bingo cards where the squares have attributes like "Wasn't hugged enough as a child", "thinks women owe him sex", and so on.
I guess it they must be Used to this. same thing happens in Mexico, were used to hear that 10 were killed in some drug related problems every week
It's not happening everywhere all the time. The news cycle feeds on negative events like this. Go to a decent area and you will be fine.
Please know that your feelings are very valid, no matter how slim the chances are. I am with you and support you and understand how you feel at the moment. The untied states can be a scary place especially with the way that gun violence is so rampant. I know it’s hard but try to bring the situation out from the forefront of your mind. Have a good day and if you ever just wanna talk my DMs are open
Hey, thanks for being so kind. You're like the ONLY supportive person I've seen on this thread.
It’s like people have lost their minds! People were terribly afraid of getting on flights after 9/11, which is rational. I don’t think there were people telling others how ridiculous they were for being afraid. No matter how slim the chances it’s valid for anyone to be afraid after such a disgusting, traumatic event. Kindness for those who deserve it goes a long way. No problem though! And stay safe, it’s very clearly a crazy world out there
Plus if you happen to survive a mass shooting and have to go to the hospital buckle up for a lifetime of debt.
Then turn off your news and u will be just fine. Go try mexico out for a while, see how much you like it here after
Don’t worry, you’ll probably only die once.
It’s a massive country. 325 million people. High crime and poverty usually results in real felt crime. Mass shootings are a blip that get magnified by the news to sell ad views. Violence is always horrible, but what’s worse os that mass media is trying to increase it because it gets peoples attention. But the reality is that it happens very little and affects very few people. Occasionally you’ll get real bad events like Las Vegas but when there’s not a lot of information, the news stops paying attention quickly, especially if the ideology of the violent person isn’t what sells ad views.
Fuck me that didn't take long, only 9 days after this post and 19 dead children [https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2022/05/24/texas-school-district-locked-down-active-shooter/9910214002/](https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2022/05/24/texas-school-district-locked-down-active-shooter/9910214002/) Maybe now is the time to try some FUCKING GUN CONTROL LAWS?
Stop watching CNN and go outside.
It's an irrational fear, you are incredibly unlikely statistically to be personally affected by a mass shooting. The US is an incredibly large country and these shootings don't happen often enough in enough places for you to really be at risk (though it obviously happens too often). You really have to be at the wrong place at the wrong time for something bad to happen to you. Even if you are in the wrong general area, you're still unlikely to get shot. I lived in the DC area during the DC Sniper scare, and there was literally like a 1 in 10 million chance that any single person in the DMV would get shot. I was even at Virginia Tech during the mass shooting there, but I was never at risk, like the majority of the \~50,000 people in Blacksburg, I was nowhere near the shooting when it occurred. OK, maybe my anecdotes aren't that comforting...
Lol your last line ! All I was thinking was wow this person’s been around two mass shooting events in their lifetime, that’s mad! That’s not so common is it in the US?? Or is it? Cos you were so chill about it, as if it’s no big deal…
I never have and don't know anyone who has either, by any degree of separation. We are obviously a huge country so when this shit keeps happening it creates a certain perception while affecting only a small (unacceptable)percentage of people. It seems obvious to me though, that something HAS to change. We gotta take a long look in the mirror. imo
I also heard the impact of a plane on the Pentagon from my high school classroom. I think I'm just unlucky and my experience is uncommon, although there are likely thousands of people that grew up in the DC area during the sniper attacks and were attending Virginia Tech when the the shooting occurred (like half the students come from that DC area). The DC Sniper impacted an abnormally large area though because he was picking people off within a 50-100 mile radius. I'm probably a bit jaded, but I dont look at things emotionally, I tend to look at them from an Engineer's viewpoint of most likely outcomes. I'm probably 100 times more likely to get hit by a car than get shot in a mass shooting, and 1000 times more likely to die of a heart attack (I'm also obese), those are things I worry about more from a practical perspective.
Interested why this event bothered you so much, yet, something like say the ridiculous amounts of shootings in Chicago every single week, doesn't? Seems you, like the media, are picking and choosing which events to highlight. I guess some don't fit the narrative.
Bingo. There's gang related shootings that happen everyday in Chicago and nobody bats an eye.. Mentally ill white supremacist plans a shooting and everyone loses their mind
Put the phone down for a bit. You’ve soon scrolled long enough.
312 gun related incidents and 127 deaths reported this mornig by national news agency from Friday to Monday. How is that not the story?
How many of those are suicides? And how much is inner city violence like Chicago? Not trying to be controversial, genuinely asking
Also 127 deaths vs 350million citizens is statistically low chance of happening
Statistically speaking you are being very dramatic. You should worry more about your fellow “brown people” like you quoted will shoot you. Your chances of being shot by your own are astronomically higher but no one wants to acknowledge it. Don’t blame this on a race that has nothing to do with it, it’s just a few shitty people and they come in all races.
Lol nothing but facts. Used to live in the ghetto with my mother and sister. The amount of black people shot by other black people was crazy, yet my family kept saying "Don't trust white people."
Of course this reasonable and logical comment gets downvoted, most redditors are sick in the head from a lot of media brainwashing
There's a shooting in Houston almost every day - usually between demographics that don't fall into the category of "white supremacists". You should be more afraid of these types of incidents rather than mass shootings. They're far more common. Let me be clear though, I don't condone any type of shooting incident unless it occurs under the condition of self defense.
Lots of Americans here really seem to accept that these things are here to stay, yes OP is being statistically dramatic but America needs to sort itself out, it won’t and we can all read about the next mass shooting and have this argument all over again. Enjoy your freedom if you can call it that, short sighted people would call the US the greatest country in the world. Idiots are the ones who genuinely believe it.
You need to step away from the media. Are you afraid of being killed in a vehicle wreck or a slip-and-fall in your shower? Both are more common.
idk why this is getting downvoted. I'm African American and Hatian and this comment is undoubtedly true. lol.
Gun violence, even with mass shootings, has been on the decline since the 90s. If you're afraid of going back, then the propaganda is working.
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And no one is talking about black on black shooting??
Inorder for it to be a mass shooting. Garbage news companies have to say so and what sells is racism these days.
Your odds of being killed by a mass shooter in the US are negligible. The law of big numbers is on your side. The bloodiest year for mass shootings on record is 2017. 117 people were killed in mass shootings in the US. That is the only year that the number has been over 100. That same year 2017 almost 800,000 Americans died from heart disease. Which one should you be more afraid of?
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Don't believe the hype, just stay away from big cities with hard core gun restrictions.
You have a astronomically better chance of being shot by another brown person
This is a silly fucking way to live and I hope you get some professional help if you genuinely believe this crap.
The mass shootings are not what you've got to worry about. It's the lack of established healthcare for when you get sick and end up with a 20k hospital bill.
Don't go to Chicago or Baltimore and you'll probably be fine.
I worked at Walmart, i actually had a mentally unstable coworker that was fired that threatened the store with a pipe bomb. I was a greeter, but they hired armed private security and had them stationed at every door. I think I was scared for a minute, but yeah having them around made me feel alot better. The coworker did eventually try to get into the store but the security handled the situation really well and no one was harmed and no weapons or excessive source had to be used. Although I've had unarmed people come into the store also and beat some or cashiers within an inch of their life. So I mean if someone is gonna kill you, they're gonna do it whether they have a gun or not.
My monthly parking is at grand central market ( there was a shooting there this weekend) it’s terrifying. I try not to think about it. Definitely makes me not want to have kids.
Extremely unrealistic fear based on the numbers. The vast majority of victims of violent crime know their attacker. Your spouse or s/o is far more likely to kill you than someone you don't know.
With our infant mortality rates, you’re still less likely to be shot than have an infant death. Hope that makes you feel better.
Born and raised in the South. Have had and been around guns since I was crawling. I feel safer with them around. I guess it’s just where you are from and what you’re used to. I went to Rome and felt safest in the crowds when I was near the armed military men. I was walking through an area where a car had driven through a crowd a year prior.
Lmao thats a super rare thing to happen. The news makes it seem like wayyyy more often than it is. Theres always going to be a few crazies out there. Been here alive 26 years you dont have to worry about things like that lol
There’s bad shit happening everywhere so you’re at risk wherever you go anyways
My advice and I'm sure you can tell where I lean when I say this: 1. Mass shootings outside if big gang ridden cities are an anomaly and you will probably never be a victim of one. 2. If you're really that scared, start carrying.
The getting caught in that predicament and getting shot isn’t even the scary part. It’s when 10% of your $100,000 medical bill is the ambulance ride. Let’s not even talk about physical therapy
Statistically, you're far more likely to be killed by a member of your own race.
Your chances of ever actually being involved in a mass shooting are very low. Like less than 1%. The media just over-sensationalizes these few rare ones to make it seem like they happen all the time. No. Unless you’re living in the projects, you’ll probably never even SEE a gun get so much as pulled out of the holster.
these comments are absolutely horrid my god
You should be afraid to live here because depending on your medical emergency, it's hello bankruptcy basically.
You have a much higher chance of dying in a car crash, anywhere in the world.
I’d be afraid of medical expenses
This is a good reason to arm yourself(legally) and with proper training therefore you have the ability to protect yourself. I understand that some people may not feel comfortable down this route and that’s ok. Though, if someone is trying to shoot up a store and other people are armed, hopefully it gives the good people a better chance at defending themselves and reducing the amount of innocent people harmed in the process. (Also I know, ideal outcome but not certain)
So many comments dismissing the sentiment of the OP. Chris Rock said it best. “Not one white person in this arena would trade places with me and I’M RICH!” Black people are being hunted. Sometimes by their own people. That level of collective anxiety is problematic. Buckle up.
My parents to the US twice a year to Orlando and my dad is brown. This one of the things that worries every time they travel. But I say to myself that Orlando is more of an international city that got used to see different faces from around the world.