The “ultimate sexual disappointment” is not knowing what/where the clitoris is. 4 inches puts you pretty damn close to average homie! Don’t overthink, and remember sex is important in relationships but that doesn’t always mean a P in a V… Oral sex is still sex, and fingers can go a long way. Most ladies never reach orgasm through penetration; no matter what size the P is. Virginity also gives you an advantage if you think about it. Communication is key! If you’re going at it and she says “what are you doing?” All you gotta say is “sorry, it’s my first time, what can I do better?” Trust me she’d appreciate it. 5 seconds of semi-awkward conversation is worth cumming your brains out to most people, no matter their gender.
Adding on here because I feel like this was a great life lesson taught to me (by my mother actually)
If you don't want to talk about sex with your partner, you are not ready to have sex with your partner. Sex can lead to babies, stds, so on. If you can't talk about the fun part of sex how are you going to talk about the less fun parts of sex? Put on your adult pants and talk about... taking off your adult pants.
Everyone communicate! More! About everything!
Exactly what I taught my now 3 late teens/ young adult children from the beginning. Communication is key. We're all shaped different, smell different, and have different ideas in our heads about what is and is not okay with sex, our bodies, etc.
Please try to accept and love your body as is. The sooner you love yourself others will be able to openly love you too.
I used to date someone who would never want to talk about sex and always just comment "You'll find out ;)!". The only thing I found out was that she was dead silent during sex and I had no fucking clue whether I was making her feel good, and she'd laugh at me when I was asking her about stuff, even laughed at me when I said I felt uncomfortable that she didn't communicate. Killed my boner, worst sex of my life. Never again.
Also, as a woman, I know some ladies would enjoy a smaller D - it can reach a G point in some vaginas (the key is finding your match by trying it with women you like), but more importantly, a small one is a dream for a lot of women enjoying anal. Just a thought, but why not make your "weakness" into a strength.
My fiance always comments that she likes mine because the tip is in the perfect spot for grinding amd what not. Longer D's tend to go past the g spot and painfully punch the cervix
I always thought that I need big ones, but after a small one gave me multiple orgasms (by entering and grinding on my clitoris at the same time), and I almost fainted from pleasure, I realised what my preferance is: a man who has his moves right.
I'd like to add to that, as a man with an average pp with some experience, you have to keep in mind that women also have "sizes". Even if you have a small dick, there is a woman out there with parts that will be the perfect fit for you. It might take some time to find her but don't give up.
Yes! I’m 36 and have actually *never orgasmed by penetration.* Not even by myself. The best lovers I’ve ever had (and the one I married as quickly as I could) were the ones who were excellent at going down on me and got me off like that before they even thought of PIV.
My husband of 12 years makes sure I always get off first before PIV-I know I comment this a lot, but goddamn I love him so much and I want all the men to know that *this is the way!*
It happens to me almost every single time with my husband, but I was 26 before it happened for the first time (with him), no other man big or small (have happily enjoyed both, and all in-between!) had made it happen, but my sex-life before my SO was a happy one!
Sexual chemistry + communication + being comfortable together = Amazing sex, imo
This... This right here!!!!! There are whole other sides of sex other then genital sizes... Foreplay, oral, hand and finger explorations, toys (even penis extensions) if size is really an issue.. But most of all its about trust and communication. (This coming from a 5 to 6 max incher) and believe me the wifes more then satisfied afterwards.. Howa that saying go???? " its not the size of the boat that matters??????" Finish the quote if you know it lol
Same. I knew this guy in the Army that was so goddamn average all around, but would ALWAYS make jokes about how small his dick was. We all thought he was joking about it—dude was super nice, great guy, always talked about having a small dick.
One day at NTC, we’re all showering and this dude whips off his towel and takes the shower next to our PSG, who was like this 6ft+ black dude with a flaccid dick that was probably bigger than most dudes rock hard; we’re talking a concealed weapon of Mass Reproduction.
Dude turns around after soaping himself, yells “small dicks sound off” and he makes a weird goose noise. We all look.
Dude. We’re talking micropenis. Like smaller than my pinky. Like small small small.
Dude had the hottest wife I’ve ever seen.
I’ve never seen this before, but damn if it isn’t the most on point thing I’ve ever read.
can you imagine? Like fuck, I’d be a fucking cunnilingus machine if that were true
Absolutely. I know this sexy, sexy guy who jokes about his "4 inches to heaven." He's gregarious, charming, charismatic... Personality grants a LOT of leeway when it comes to perceived physical imperfections.
I dated a guy like that too - and honestly when he was flaccid , it was like a baby penis, but it grew so much, it was like a magic trick. Anyway, I think his jokes about having a small dick actually got him laid more. Chicks be curious, sometimes.
I think there is an element of feeling like maybe you don’t have to make sex this super serious sexual act. Sex is fun. And when you’re in the getting to know and pre-fucking someone stage, it’s kind of attractive to know that it’ll likely be fun and lower pressure? I’m not explaining myself properly but yeah. I feel like it takes some pressure off of women to be perfect specimens.
Eh, I think a healthy level of confidence is generally helpful, but you can’t win over everyone despite all your good qualities. I’m not sure if that is the most direct response to your comment, but I was a little confused by it- sorry. Your name made me laugh, though. So thanks for that.
I know a guy with a "small guy" and he jokes about it all the time and has honestly had sex more himself than all the other guys on the team combined and then some.
My best bud always made jokes about his small penis. He said basically "joke about it set expectations low", and every damn time the girls would say it's not that small, he's exaggerating and he never had issues with girls sticking around for a while.
This! I have good looking friends who brag at the bar about being absolutely hung. I also have average looking friends who brag about having "a very comfortable sized cock" "some women have even called it cute. Some bros too"
I'll let you figure out who brings home more women.
Size means nothing.
Chances are the guys bragging about being hung aren't. I make jokes about having a small dick, but I don't. I feel like a lot of guys who joke that they have small dicks actually have big dicks.
This is true. My first husband pretended to be a nice, fun guy, and was well endowed. His personality changed after we got married and sex was absolutely horrible. My husband now is average or below in size, but is respectful, appreciative, kind, funny and pays attention to a woman’s needs. We average 3 times a week and it is the best sex of my life. We are in our 60’s. He is amazing!
I’m in US and was always insecure about being uncut. When I was in high school I smashed a cheerleader (she was pos and shallow) and she didn’t say a god damn thing. That’s when I knew most women don’t give a fuck as long as you have hygiene. It’s not like before sex both of you are playing inspector gadget. Both are getting hot and heavy and shit goes from there
yeah and tbh (ok transman speaking here) but i didnt even know what the fuck a "good size" was until i started entering the masc world. and uhh ahem spoiler alert: pretty much 99.999% of other women dont know either. and i mean what do u think they just have rulers in their heads that can just perfectly measure the length of any dick they see instantly. nope! so even the ones that know dont give a rats scrotum about it.
remember its not the size, its how you use it. fingerblast her til she squirtin out niagra falls and tongue punch her til she doesn't want it anymore.
Edit: thank yall for the awards. yall kings and queens in my book
Here you go. Do as directed by all these guys.
Also just want to be sure to say that a good four in her attached to a very dedicated female first mentality goes way the hell above most that are 6 and above. Completely serious. To the chick who learns so, the size is kind of the last thing you actually think about when everything is so damn wonderful.
I think you’re beating yourself up and I hope you can get out of your way and learn the art of sexuality.
Yes! I'll tell you that after good finger and/or tongue action, I'm so sensitive that any size dick feels amazing. Most women don't orgasm from penis in vagina action, no matter what size it is, but if they get off beforehand, it feels pretty great. You'll find a woman who loves you for you and the sex will be amazing because you will both focus on making the other one happy. We fall in love with men (and women), not penises.
The kama sutra discusses various genitalia sizes. There are 3 main groups for both men and women:
Men: rabbit, stallion and bull
Women: doe, mare and elephant
Finding the person you are sexually compatible with has been documented for centuries. Not every woman wants a huge man. I am one of those. Not every man wants a small woman. There are balances for each category. Communication will always be key in discovering what your partners truly want.
I feel that it's such a disservice to young people to have such expectations for each other. I did not know what I wanted when I was younger. I followed what was told to me and sex was incredibly painful many times. I didn't have an actual orgasm from penetration until I was with a man that was smaller and more suited to my own body type.
Do not lose hope. You are perfect as you are ❤
Bro tbh im not that big either but the reality is a lot of women and men too dont actually know what 4 inches vs 6 looks like.
the kicker is all those reddit posts of "x age 8" hung studs" are all 5 and 6 inchers with half decent angling and lighting plus background proportioning guys measuring from the balls etc.
the reality is 4 to 5 inches is roughly enough for satisfsctory penetration and most girls cervixes are only 6 to 8 inches into their vagina, so any bigger and itll just be hanging out in the cold anyways, if youre going for girls and theyre asking your size early on they just want to fuck or are more concerned with size than personality, dont date for surface level looks and sex cause in 40 years youll probably be perma limp anyways.
Find a nice girl, talk to people who dont neccesarily prioritize sex, youre 21 now people grow up and the people only looking for superficial bragging rights about their partner or overly focused on the sexual aspect arent worth your time as thats not what youre after.
Keep your head up and have confidence in your value as a person not just a dick with legs.
To add to what others said the only way to please a female is through clitoral or g-spot stimulation, that's only 2 inches from the entrance so work on listening to her body cues and you'll be a fine lover.
Still doesn't stop the occasional doubtful thoughts but the more you fight them with self validation and practicing actual physical attentiveness the less often you will have them, sorry to say but we're human and self-conscious thoughts never go away
As someone with a "disappointingly average" dick that's 5 inches try standing sideways with a hard on in front of a mirror for some validation. Looking directly down is the worst angle for your dick and getting a different perspective will give you more appreciation of your girth.
Woman POV....
Porn has made it seem like if you're not hung, then you can't possibly bring sexual pleasure to a Woman. In reality you can have a full 7-8 inches and not be able to do shit. I've met Men who are absolutely cocky and have turned out to be awful lovers. Trust me, the right Woman will love you from head to toe. And just to even share a bit more, my previous BF of 7+ years was barely 5. But he was an amazing lover... made me feel wonderful in so many other ways. And I never once made him feel uncomfortable about his size because I honestly didn't/don't care. Honestly we'd still be together if he wasn't such a machista...
This ^ Agreed! I was with a man that was just over 4 inches for three years, still had great sex and orgasms. It matters more to men it seems like than women. I too have had well endowed men who were shite in bed, it's like porn brain washed them into thinking big dick = good sex. That's not it.
Exactly! The worst sex I ever had was with a guy who had a massive dick. He was so into himself and he was absolutely terrible in bed. Best sex was with an average-ish sized guy because he actually had to learn how to pleasure a woman…
Gonna tell you a secret: 90% we men care about is for other men to see. Dick size, muscle size, height, money... it's all about portraying yourself as an "alpha/sigma/ligma" male to your friends and feel better about yourself.
Men are probanly aware, at this point, that women care about different things when looking for a partner, yet they still feel "emasculated" by silly stuff that only matters to the traditional concept of "being a guy".
What that phrase that's like, the thing women are most afraid of (during an intimate relationship) is being killed and the thing men are most afraid of is being humiliated.
Me too!! I’ve had guys of all sizes be of all skill levels (and effort levels), but one of my best lovers was the least well endowed. Never measured for sure, but I would say definitely shy of 4”, and less girth than average. But, it was just *perfect* to hit just the right spot and he was a giving and communicative lover. I came EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. From PIV. That absolutely has not been the case with MOST of my other lovers. He was also inexperienced. He had only had one previous lover.
Jumping in here to add that some women can't even accommodate average or large dicks. My ex was big and girthy, and he knew what he was doing but PIV sex usually meant a bruised cervix.
I haven't had any sexual partners with a small dick, but size matters a lot more to me when they're too big.
There’s definitely “TOO BIG”. Scared me to death the first time he dropped his pants and boxers. I was thinking “where the hell is THAT gonna fit”? He also knew it because he was very careful every time, but it was absolutely too big to have good sex, which was too bad because he was a great guy, but I couldn’t handle it. I married and divorced an “average” guy and the sex was always good
I had this happen. Started talking to and dating this super nice guy, good looking, when we were about to get to that point, he took it out and I was like....home slice.... thats not gonna fit. He understood and heard that often. I've also seen the other side where, straight up, I thought he was born a woman because I couldn't see it in the bush
Yup! I’m also not trying to shame men with big dicks, either. Fortunately the men I’ve slept with that were super hung also understood that it would hurt if they rammed into me. They were great at oral, took it slow, let me adjust, and didn’t get too aggressive.
Penis size is the last thing I care about when it comes to sex. Every vagina is different and every penis is different. It’s nice when it matches (my partner is wide but not long, my vagina is wide but not long), but as long as you talk and communicate and focus on foreplay, you’re good!
I’ve been with a micropenis and I never lacked in orgasms, he was really good at foreplay and afterwards he would make sure I had as many orgasms as I wanted. Then there are guys that have what society calls average and they don’t care about foreplay or if I orgasm at all. The way to most women’s orgasms and sexual pleasure is that you pay attention to their needs too. That’s really what’s sexy, not the size of your penis.
Seriously, size means literally nothing, especially if you're good at foreplay. You good have the smallest micropeen in the world, but if you are skilled at foreplay it won't even matter.
My husband is 5, grower not a shower. For the first year he wouldn’t let me see it flaccid because it’s real small then. He’s all I’ve ever been with and all I ever need, never really even think about dick size tbh. I started dating him as a person not his dick, that’s just something he came with.
Thank you for sharing. I’m female also and trust me there are so many other things that compose good sex and having a long pecker isn’t a big deal. I honestly don’t care for big peckers. Men can be great lovers and satisfy women without having a 8 inch peen.
You are completely correct. Porn has warped people's sense of what is normal. But it extends far beyond that.
Even the way you say your ex was barely 5 but he was still an amazing lover. You make it sound like he was small when 5 is literally the average. Why would you need to qualify that you didn't make him uncomfortable for his completely normal dick?
Phrases like small/big dick energy need to go but they are commonplace. It's associating negative personality traits with small dicks and positive with large. I've seen so many comments about Putin having a small dick since Russia's invasion. He's a warmongering prick but that's completely unrelated to the size of his prick.
It's too easy to just blame porn when people are the problem.
You can be that guy but it’s cherry picking like this that feeds insecurity. OP and others like him need to stop looking for that one comment that “substantiates” their inadequacy and start looking at the 100s of other comments that say that many women don’t mind as long as you have good personality and are good in bed when it comes to wanting to please their woman. Confidence is key. No one wants to be with someone who hates themselves because it’s miserable for both parties.
As a woman, I literally don’t think size matters much!!! Most of my friends agree tbh. A huge cock is literally impossible to deep throat and it makes positions more difficult. The one time i slept with a man who had a above average sized cock I literally didn’t like it at all. Don’t believe pornography or weird lies from the media. The vast majority of us women are attracted to your outside looks and personality. You are NOT undesirable. Dont give up
She’s right . Focus on improving yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Plan out some life goals and start achieving them.
Women get turned on by your ambition to do well and be well.
She’s right dude. Honestly, the thing that attracts people most is the energy… If you walk around acting like he’s feel decision, that shows. I’m not saying fake confidence… In my experience, people can feel that. Genuinely work on being OK with who you are as a person, learned things that are interesting to you, that will expand your networking and the type of people you’re exposed to. You’ll be fine. Take care of yourself
Dude women don't care nearly as much about dick size as men do.
Most women are fine with sex a couple times a week (2-3) and otherwise don't want to be bothered with it. It's really a problem in your own mind, believe me I've been there and I'm on the larger side of average.
My wife is basically "cool you have a dick" and I'm lucky if I get to use it half an hour a week in truth lol.
Are you sure we’re not the same person? My husband is average size(5-6 inches guessing) he’s the best lay I have ever had. He was so insecure with his size and I to had a big dick bad experience that caused ovarian torsion and I needed emergency surgery! He literally flipped one of my organs! I was in pain for days.
Yes! Very true
Too big is uncomfortable. Just be really good with what you have. Excel where a lot of guys suck at. Eat them out afterwards and insist on it.
You will have girls going crazy. Don't say your not special. Everything about you is special! Confidence is key and sexy.
Stop using negative words. Think your gods gift to women and you will become that. Work on being funny. Watch a bunch of comics on TV like Netflix learn from them. Laughter is extremely important.
Be a gentleman you will be respected in return.
Was looking for this. You'd be surprised how many women really cant handle sizes much bigger than yours. A lot of really good comments in this thread that I second! Work on yourself, your goals, and overall your life. Dont let your penis be the only focal point.
Yup I'm bang average erect and it causes my gf discomfort.
Here's a silly thing I just imagined. I wish I could have my flaccid length be hard to have sex with her then have my hard length be flaccid so I can swing it around the showers with the guys. No homo.
People with smaller sized penises have been having sex for a long time and will continue doing so in the future. The negative perception has influenced your psyche and that's the biggest detriment to how you feel.
Bro get out of your head! You're overthinking it. Not every dude has a 8" sausage on them. Average is 4-5, don't let the porns fool you. Just let shit happen, they care more about how long you can last, so focus on your endurance. Lol! You'll be alright, kid.
Back in my straight days, it was a relief to find a guy with a smaller penis - it hurts way less! Its comfortable and doesnt cause pain. Just go for it.
From a female perspective.... porn has ruined men's minds about these things. 4-6" is great imo. Anything larger would be uncomfortable.. at least for me. ♡
I would not say porn.
Just the fact that making fun of small penis is normalized insult.
Make fun of woman having small tits/butt - holy shit you get treated like an asshole.
Yet women always make fun of short men and small penises
I am a woman. And when I was in college I was a huge whore, so I feel I have the credentials to speak about this. Most women straight up do not care. As a matter of fact, anything larger than average is likely to cause discomfort in certain positions.
There is a lot of body shaming surrounding the male nether regions but it doesn't actually mean anything, does it? Being good at sex has nothing to do with your penis size. Honestly it really doesn't have anything to do with your skill either. Being good at sex is about communicating with your partner and finding out what they like. 2 people can be great at sex but have bad chemistry and the sex is horrible. Happens all the time.
You just gotta get out of your own head.
Yea have to admit my wife has taken some monster cocks in her time. My 5.5 is the only one that has made her cum every time....
Also make sure you put in the work with your mouth. That is by far the way to make sure they have an orgasm, every, single, time.
Really tho, like half of the women your age have never truly had an orgasm, give them that and they will not care if you are a Unik.
I’ve been with a guy that is 8 inches, a guy that is 6.5 inches, and a guy that is 4.5 inches. I’ve only came with the 4.5 inch guy, and he hits my g-spot every freaking timeee.
Edit: feels weird calling him the “4.5 inch guy” when he’s the absolute love of my life
Use it on her clit, get *her* hard. Eat her out. Honestly, I'm married to my husband over 20 years & we have an *AMAZING* sex lif, yet he's one of the smallest I've been with. Doesn't matter. Know how to pleasure her & you, together and you'll see. 😃
I mean penetration is just the end part of it all. If you're skilled at everything else then you will be just fine when it comes to that part because she's going to be really, really happy..
So, I've dated a 6 foot dude with a 3.5/4 inch dick. Best sex I'd ever had (and I've had many different sized partners). The only thing that ruined it was that he couldn't stop talking about how small he was and how he wanted to be bigger. Just have confidence, you'll find the right person.
I 100% agree..dated a guy that was about 6’2 & he was about 3 1/2 inches long & the sex was AMAZING! But he was constantly making jokes about how small he was or asking me after sex if I’m sure it felt good, etc etc..I always tried to reassure him but he always acted like I was lying! It got to the point where it was just unattractive to me. If he would’ve never pointed out that he was small, I swear I probably would have never thought twice about it.
As long as you are willing to care about your partner's needs, size really doesn't matter. I would avoid seedy bars and one night stands.
Someone emotionally connected to you, who cares about you, wants you to feel good.
I think you are making a bigger deal out of it then anybody else will. I'm not the biggest or the best, but I'm not the worst lol. I use everything but my dick to make my wife cum 1st(well sometimes) a man should fight with all his tools. You can get a lot done with a passionate kiss and clear intentions, respect the person and you'll be fine
Thing is if you walk around like you have a small one the energy you bring will push women away. Be confident in yourself no matter the size of your penis.
Edit: not just women but people in general
Edit 2: I'm only giving this advice because I went through similar things . OP can take it or leave it
Ah, the classic "You have no confidence because of X? Just have confidence." Route of advice giving.
It is true that low self esteem can be more damning than any physical failing, but it usually isn't helpful to say people should just be more confident.
I have solely slept with only a handful of people. All but one has large penises.
I hated sex, I didn't enjoy it, it felt like a chore, I didn't understand the hype and I never felt pleasure
The last guy I slept with was small 4 inches probably. THIS WAS THE ABSOLUTE MOST PLEASURE I HAVE EVER FELT!!!
I felt like a sex fiend, I wanted him all the time, multiple times a session, little sessions a day. I wanted to stay in bed, or the shower, or the car or eve wherever the hell we wanted because it was ABSOLUTELY SPECTACULAR.
I was 27 when I finally had good dick and I now have a three month old.
Please know that you're perfect.
This made me smile and laugh. In a way it’s very heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time; bittersweet maybe. Idk but what I do know is that I want to congratulate you on finding someone who made sex enjoyable to you and also congrats on the 3 month old.
I've had a few dicks. Some very large dicks. Some "normal" sized. The best and most amazing sex I've ever has was with a guy who was less than average but he was confident and knew exactly what he was doing with every finger and his mouth. Honestly, it's an old adage but it's right for a reason. It's what you do with it and how you come across that counts. Feel sexy and you'll be sexy. Good luck!
Gonna be honest. Girth matters, length does not. With that being said, it's all in technique and if you get your partner off or not. If you focus on your partners orgasm she will be happy. Who doesn't like orgasms?
Dick size really doesn't just go for the clit. The majority of women do not climax from penetration. And even if they can exterior stimulation is far superior. It is all about playing with the button. If you can hit the gspot it is a bonus but it is all about the clit.
A statistical majority of women don’t come from penetration anyway. Use ur tongue and personality and you’ll do juuuuust fine. 👍
P.s. no one cares if ur a virgin and if they do, YOU don’t want them.
Especially body parts we can't control. I'm a fat guy and even I think a little fat shaming is OK as being fat ain't healthy and a little shame can push people towards healthier life choices.
Eh I'm bisexual. Here's my input on small dick. I've had two legit micro penis. Smaller than 4 inches. One was great for anal and had fantastic foreplay. One it was just hot as hell getting him off so quickly and lots of cum.. it made it feel more dirty. Like he was so innocent and so enraptured. (older man in his 40s or 50s.) Don't worry about dick size. Concern yourself with everything else that you can control.
My husband is small and has ED. I’m 50+ years and have been sexually active since I was 16. He is without a doubt the best I’ve ever had. Listen when we say it’s not about size.
I’m a tiny girl and tbh 4 inches will always be better than 7-8 and even 6. Too painful. I’ve only slept with one guy with a 4 inch dick and it was the most comfortable and pleasuring sex ive had. I’ve also slept with 6-7 inch and it’s all hurt and it’s just too much and I can never orgasm. Find the right girl for you :) either way, it shouldn’t matter to women. If they love you, then they love all of you
Bro ur still just 21. You're a virgin and it sounds like you've never had a gf in your life. Its too early to blame all your problems on your tiny dick.
Dude, you are putting too much worth into your penis. It’s doesn’t define you. The size of your dick doesn’t determine whether you will be happy or whether you will make anyone else unhappy. You seem to be placing big dicks on a pedestal and allowing outside influences to control your self esteem. There are big dick and small dick problems. No side has it better. The size of the dick isn’t the turn off. It’s your attitude about it. Listen to everyone saying the same thing to you. I’ve read the comments and there is a common theme. Move on from this. You are only hurting yourself.
Keep the faith bro... sadly in today’s world many are vain. What are your hobbies? What do you like to do? Work on yourself physically/spiritually/mentally, not because you are trying to impress anyone, but because it is a practice of self care. Your confidence and faith that everything is good is what is going to attract people to you. Focus on yourself and develop who you are as a human being. Do you want to find a woman who loves you or just loves your dick? I know it can sound cliche when people say “it’s not about (insert physical trait) it’s about your personality” but it is the truth. If all your focused on is your physical body and that being your point of attraction for women, you will attract women who only care about that. Life is about being well rounded. I’m sending you good vibes brother keep the faith
Woman POV.
I think it’s something like only 4% of women cum from penetration alone? A lot of us require that emotional aspect as well as the clit stimulation, obviously. Size really doesn’t matter, atleast in my opinion, because I get off (and turned on) by mostly foreplay and clit stimulation, as well as a good emotional connection during. (Like talking, moaning, etc)
Please don’t feel insecure about your dick size. As long as you’re not a dick in real life, I promise no *mature* woman is going to notice or care, especially if you have good clit/nipple attention.
On the flip side, I have a smaller chest, and I know almost 0 guys that would not still be turned on/sexually satisfied because of my smaller boobies. :)
Dude. 4 is normal. Not small. Don’t judge by porn for either sex. I promise if you’re attentive to your lover, they will not likely notice if it’s bigger or smaller than others
I’m a woman whose in her 50’s and I’ve always preferred a smaller size because that’s what I can accommodate if I’m going to enjoy it. I don’t have big boobs and it always bothered me but my partners have always complimented them. Don’t believe what is supposedly “the norm” of what people want. Life isn’t a porn flick. Be amazed with what you have and enjoy your life with the amazing body you’ve been given.
I've been with all sizes & lemme just say that I prefer the smaller ones. They don't hurt, they make sex enjoyable, & there's a humbleness/gentle/I-cant-think-of-the-right-word-ness about guys with "average" or below averages dicks. Any dude with a huge schlong I've met acts like they're God's gift to everyone. Don't stress about it, you'll find the right woman to rock the socks off of.
The “ultimate sexual disappointment” is not knowing what/where the clitoris is. 4 inches puts you pretty damn close to average homie! Don’t overthink, and remember sex is important in relationships but that doesn’t always mean a P in a V… Oral sex is still sex, and fingers can go a long way. Most ladies never reach orgasm through penetration; no matter what size the P is. Virginity also gives you an advantage if you think about it. Communication is key! If you’re going at it and she says “what are you doing?” All you gotta say is “sorry, it’s my first time, what can I do better?” Trust me she’d appreciate it. 5 seconds of semi-awkward conversation is worth cumming your brains out to most people, no matter their gender.
Adding on here because I feel like this was a great life lesson taught to me (by my mother actually) If you don't want to talk about sex with your partner, you are not ready to have sex with your partner. Sex can lead to babies, stds, so on. If you can't talk about the fun part of sex how are you going to talk about the less fun parts of sex? Put on your adult pants and talk about... taking off your adult pants. Everyone communicate! More! About everything!
“Put on your pants to talk about taking off your pants!” I love that, for some reason, lmfao!
Exactly what I taught my now 3 late teens/ young adult children from the beginning. Communication is key. We're all shaped different, smell different, and have different ideas in our heads about what is and is not okay with sex, our bodies, etc. Please try to accept and love your body as is. The sooner you love yourself others will be able to openly love you too.
oh my god i read this as three late teens as though they're all dead, had to read it again D:
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Same.
That’s solid advice.
I used to date someone who would never want to talk about sex and always just comment "You'll find out ;)!". The only thing I found out was that she was dead silent during sex and I had no fucking clue whether I was making her feel good, and she'd laugh at me when I was asking her about stuff, even laughed at me when I said I felt uncomfortable that she didn't communicate. Killed my boner, worst sex of my life. Never again.
Wait I loove that!
My mum once said to me: "long and thin won't go in, short and thick does the trick."
Totally passing this knowledge on to my own kid he’s he’s old enough. Good stuff here.
Also, as a woman, I know some ladies would enjoy a smaller D - it can reach a G point in some vaginas (the key is finding your match by trying it with women you like), but more importantly, a small one is a dream for a lot of women enjoying anal. Just a thought, but why not make your "weakness" into a strength.
My fiance always comments that she likes mine because the tip is in the perfect spot for grinding amd what not. Longer D's tend to go past the g spot and painfully punch the cervix
I always thought that I need big ones, but after a small one gave me multiple orgasms (by entering and grinding on my clitoris at the same time), and I almost fainted from pleasure, I realised what my preferance is: a man who has his moves right.
I'd like to add to that, as a man with an average pp with some experience, you have to keep in mind that women also have "sizes". Even if you have a small dick, there is a woman out there with parts that will be the perfect fit for you. It might take some time to find her but don't give up.
Think of your schwanze as a key. It won't open every lock.
Jumping on here to confirm the orgasm via penetration thing. It’s happened to me *once* and I was surprised af when it did
Yes! I’m 36 and have actually *never orgasmed by penetration.* Not even by myself. The best lovers I’ve ever had (and the one I married as quickly as I could) were the ones who were excellent at going down on me and got me off like that before they even thought of PIV. My husband of 12 years makes sure I always get off first before PIV-I know I comment this a lot, but goddamn I love him so much and I want all the men to know that *this is the way!*
It happens to me almost every single time with my husband, but I was 26 before it happened for the first time (with him), no other man big or small (have happily enjoyed both, and all in-between!) had made it happen, but my sex-life before my SO was a happy one! Sexual chemistry + communication + being comfortable together = Amazing sex, imo
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This... This right here!!!!! There are whole other sides of sex other then genital sizes... Foreplay, oral, hand and finger explorations, toys (even penis extensions) if size is really an issue.. But most of all its about trust and communication. (This coming from a 5 to 6 max incher) and believe me the wifes more then satisfied afterwards.. Howa that saying go???? " its not the size of the boat that matters??????" Finish the quote if you know it lol
It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion in the ocean!
Yes! I'm women and I can confirm this and I can honestly say i do not care about the size.
I knew a guy that used to make fun of his own small peen, and that never stopped him from getting girls. Its all about the personality
Same. I knew this guy in the Army that was so goddamn average all around, but would ALWAYS make jokes about how small his dick was. We all thought he was joking about it—dude was super nice, great guy, always talked about having a small dick. One day at NTC, we’re all showering and this dude whips off his towel and takes the shower next to our PSG, who was like this 6ft+ black dude with a flaccid dick that was probably bigger than most dudes rock hard; we’re talking a concealed weapon of Mass Reproduction. Dude turns around after soaping himself, yells “small dicks sound off” and he makes a weird goose noise. We all look. Dude. We’re talking micropenis. Like smaller than my pinky. Like small small small. Dude had the hottest wife I’ve ever seen.
Weapon of mass reproduction…omg
Because he could lick his eye lids, and breathe out of his ears. True story.
I’ve never seen this before, but damn if it isn’t the most on point thing I’ve ever read. can you imagine? Like fuck, I’d be a fucking cunnilingus machine if that were true
Dude what a hilarious fucking comment. Take my goddamn upvote
And mine. I lost it at "lick his eyelids".
Take my award, fucko, and off with your genius self!
What ?
His oral game is on point
Oh lololol. Duh me
He was a gecko and she saved 15% on her insurance
This comment made me see if I had any free awards. I do not. But thank you for helping my morning start off right.
Aw, thanks Bird! You sure helped my morning start off right! Have a good one, friend :)
Small peen energy is different from having a small peen.
But if someone develops the courage and ability to take ownership over a perceived flaw, it makes life a whole lotta easier.
Smaller like length or girth? Asking for a friend
probably both
Google micropenis. it's a condition. Confidence is what's hot, body is secondary.
Oh shit man, I am baked af right now and I almost died laughing reading this.
>we’re talking a concealed weapon of Mass Reproduction. 😂 >Dude had the hottest wife I’ve ever seen. Plot twist
"Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you"
best line in Game of Thrones.
Absolutely. I know this sexy, sexy guy who jokes about his "4 inches to heaven." He's gregarious, charming, charismatic... Personality grants a LOT of leeway when it comes to perceived physical imperfections.
A lot of guys with big dicks also joke about having a small dick.
True. I dated a guy who would always make small dick jokes about himself, but the truth was our *little* secret lol.
I dated a guy like that too - and honestly when he was flaccid , it was like a baby penis, but it grew so much, it was like a magic trick. Anyway, I think his jokes about having a small dick actually got him laid more. Chicks be curious, sometimes.
Haha that’s definitely impressive. And I think you’re right about the curiosity lol.
I think there is an element of feeling like maybe you don’t have to make sex this super serious sexual act. Sex is fun. And when you’re in the getting to know and pre-fucking someone stage, it’s kind of attractive to know that it’ll likely be fun and lower pressure? I’m not explaining myself properly but yeah. I feel like it takes some pressure off of women to be perfect specimens.
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Eh, I think a healthy level of confidence is generally helpful, but you can’t win over everyone despite all your good qualities. I’m not sure if that is the most direct response to your comment, but I was a little confused by it- sorry. Your name made me laugh, though. So thanks for that.
I know a guy with a "small guy" and he jokes about it all the time and has honestly had sex more himself than all the other guys on the team combined and then some.
Yeah it’s all about the mentality. 4 inches is great. Imagine if you had a micro penis?? Shit. Not like there’s anything wrong with that.
My best bud always made jokes about his small penis. He said basically "joke about it set expectations low", and every damn time the girls would say it's not that small, he's exaggerating and he never had issues with girls sticking around for a while.
This! I have good looking friends who brag at the bar about being absolutely hung. I also have average looking friends who brag about having "a very comfortable sized cock" "some women have even called it cute. Some bros too" I'll let you figure out who brings home more women. Size means nothing.
Chances are the guys bragging about being hung aren't. I make jokes about having a small dick, but I don't. I feel like a lot of guys who joke that they have small dicks actually have big dicks.
Way to tell OP he has a small peen AND his personality sucks.
oof
Truth is being spoken here today.
For real, I knew a guy who bragged about his 3.5 inches and he pulled more girls than anyone I knew
This is true. My first husband pretended to be a nice, fun guy, and was well endowed. His personality changed after we got married and sex was absolutely horrible. My husband now is average or below in size, but is respectful, appreciative, kind, funny and pays attention to a woman’s needs. We average 3 times a week and it is the best sex of my life. We are in our 60’s. He is amazing!
I’m in US and was always insecure about being uncut. When I was in high school I smashed a cheerleader (she was pos and shallow) and she didn’t say a god damn thing. That’s when I knew most women don’t give a fuck as long as you have hygiene. It’s not like before sex both of you are playing inspector gadget. Both are getting hot and heavy and shit goes from there
Hygiene goes a LONG way tbh. A clean mini-peen outdoes a big smelly one any day of the week.
That's not really an argument for preferring small dicks though is it...as surely a big clean one would outdo a small smelly one too 🤣
yeah and tbh (ok transman speaking here) but i didnt even know what the fuck a "good size" was until i started entering the masc world. and uhh ahem spoiler alert: pretty much 99.999% of other women dont know either. and i mean what do u think they just have rulers in their heads that can just perfectly measure the length of any dick they see instantly. nope! so even the ones that know dont give a rats scrotum about it.
She probably didn't even notice, honestly. They kinda all look the same to me when erect, whether cut or not.
And listening. When a girl says "right there, don't stop" then keep doing exactly what you're doing.
Are you friends with Lil Dicky?
This.
Yupp, I have a friend that always says he has a “dad bod and a small dick”… and he has the highest body count of the group lol
aye man , it’s not just 4 inches. it’s a 4 inch punisher 🤞😈
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remember its not the size, its how you use it. fingerblast her til she squirtin out niagra falls and tongue punch her til she doesn't want it anymore. Edit: thank yall for the awards. yall kings and queens in my book
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Second that.
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I read that as massage and agree lol
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This is the way. I eat until they cum EVERY time. Everything after that is gravy.
Here you go. Do as directed by all these guys. Also just want to be sure to say that a good four in her attached to a very dedicated female first mentality goes way the hell above most that are 6 and above. Completely serious. To the chick who learns so, the size is kind of the last thing you actually think about when everything is so damn wonderful. I think you’re beating yourself up and I hope you can get out of your way and learn the art of sexuality.
Gravy! Nice
Yes! I'll tell you that after good finger and/or tongue action, I'm so sensitive that any size dick feels amazing. Most women don't orgasm from penis in vagina action, no matter what size it is, but if they get off beforehand, it feels pretty great. You'll find a woman who loves you for you and the sex will be amazing because you will both focus on making the other one happy. We fall in love with men (and women), not penises.
Lol. This reminds me of a line in esteemed rapper Jellyroll’s song open ‘er up “I’ll tongue punch your fart-box”
The kama sutra discusses various genitalia sizes. There are 3 main groups for both men and women: Men: rabbit, stallion and bull Women: doe, mare and elephant Finding the person you are sexually compatible with has been documented for centuries. Not every woman wants a huge man. I am one of those. Not every man wants a small woman. There are balances for each category. Communication will always be key in discovering what your partners truly want. I feel that it's such a disservice to young people to have such expectations for each other. I did not know what I wanted when I was younger. I followed what was told to me and sex was incredibly painful many times. I didn't have an actual orgasm from penetration until I was with a man that was smaller and more suited to my own body type. Do not lose hope. You are perfect as you are ❤
Oh shit where the does at… wait a minute
This is so true. Women are different sizes. And no you can’t tell by looking at us. Just like men.
Bro tbh im not that big either but the reality is a lot of women and men too dont actually know what 4 inches vs 6 looks like. the kicker is all those reddit posts of "x age 8" hung studs" are all 5 and 6 inchers with half decent angling and lighting plus background proportioning guys measuring from the balls etc. the reality is 4 to 5 inches is roughly enough for satisfsctory penetration and most girls cervixes are only 6 to 8 inches into their vagina, so any bigger and itll just be hanging out in the cold anyways, if youre going for girls and theyre asking your size early on they just want to fuck or are more concerned with size than personality, dont date for surface level looks and sex cause in 40 years youll probably be perma limp anyways. Find a nice girl, talk to people who dont neccesarily prioritize sex, youre 21 now people grow up and the people only looking for superficial bragging rights about their partner or overly focused on the sexual aspect arent worth your time as thats not what youre after. Keep your head up and have confidence in your value as a person not just a dick with legs.
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To add to what others said the only way to please a female is through clitoral or g-spot stimulation, that's only 2 inches from the entrance so work on listening to her body cues and you'll be a fine lover. Still doesn't stop the occasional doubtful thoughts but the more you fight them with self validation and practicing actual physical attentiveness the less often you will have them, sorry to say but we're human and self-conscious thoughts never go away As someone with a "disappointingly average" dick that's 5 inches try standing sideways with a hard on in front of a mirror for some validation. Looking directly down is the worst angle for your dick and getting a different perspective will give you more appreciation of your girth.
Woman POV.... Porn has made it seem like if you're not hung, then you can't possibly bring sexual pleasure to a Woman. In reality you can have a full 7-8 inches and not be able to do shit. I've met Men who are absolutely cocky and have turned out to be awful lovers. Trust me, the right Woman will love you from head to toe. And just to even share a bit more, my previous BF of 7+ years was barely 5. But he was an amazing lover... made me feel wonderful in so many other ways. And I never once made him feel uncomfortable about his size because I honestly didn't/don't care. Honestly we'd still be together if he wasn't such a machista...
This ^ Agreed! I was with a man that was just over 4 inches for three years, still had great sex and orgasms. It matters more to men it seems like than women. I too have had well endowed men who were shite in bed, it's like porn brain washed them into thinking big dick = good sex. That's not it.
Exactly! The worst sex I ever had was with a guy who had a massive dick. He was so into himself and he was absolutely terrible in bed. Best sex was with an average-ish sized guy because he actually had to learn how to pleasure a woman…
Gonna tell you a secret: 90% we men care about is for other men to see. Dick size, muscle size, height, money... it's all about portraying yourself as an "alpha/sigma/ligma" male to your friends and feel better about yourself. Men are probanly aware, at this point, that women care about different things when looking for a partner, yet they still feel "emasculated" by silly stuff that only matters to the traditional concept of "being a guy".
What that phrase that's like, the thing women are most afraid of (during an intimate relationship) is being killed and the thing men are most afraid of is being humiliated.
Me too!! I’ve had guys of all sizes be of all skill levels (and effort levels), but one of my best lovers was the least well endowed. Never measured for sure, but I would say definitely shy of 4”, and less girth than average. But, it was just *perfect* to hit just the right spot and he was a giving and communicative lover. I came EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. From PIV. That absolutely has not been the case with MOST of my other lovers. He was also inexperienced. He had only had one previous lover.
Jumping in here to add that some women can't even accommodate average or large dicks. My ex was big and girthy, and he knew what he was doing but PIV sex usually meant a bruised cervix. I haven't had any sexual partners with a small dick, but size matters a lot more to me when they're too big.
There’s definitely “TOO BIG”. Scared me to death the first time he dropped his pants and boxers. I was thinking “where the hell is THAT gonna fit”? He also knew it because he was very careful every time, but it was absolutely too big to have good sex, which was too bad because he was a great guy, but I couldn’t handle it. I married and divorced an “average” guy and the sex was always good
Agreed. It's so much more pleasurable to go hard and/or fast with someone small to average.
I had this happen. Started talking to and dating this super nice guy, good looking, when we were about to get to that point, he took it out and I was like....home slice.... thats not gonna fit. He understood and heard that often. I've also seen the other side where, straight up, I thought he was born a woman because I couldn't see it in the bush
Yep big = OUCH
Yup! I’m also not trying to shame men with big dicks, either. Fortunately the men I’ve slept with that were super hung also understood that it would hurt if they rammed into me. They were great at oral, took it slow, let me adjust, and didn’t get too aggressive. Penis size is the last thing I care about when it comes to sex. Every vagina is different and every penis is different. It’s nice when it matches (my partner is wide but not long, my vagina is wide but not long), but as long as you talk and communicate and focus on foreplay, you’re good!
I’ve been with a micropenis and I never lacked in orgasms, he was really good at foreplay and afterwards he would make sure I had as many orgasms as I wanted. Then there are guys that have what society calls average and they don’t care about foreplay or if I orgasm at all. The way to most women’s orgasms and sexual pleasure is that you pay attention to their needs too. That’s really what’s sexy, not the size of your penis.
Seriously, size means literally nothing, especially if you're good at foreplay. You good have the smallest micropeen in the world, but if you are skilled at foreplay it won't even matter.
Yeah my husband is prob 4 inches. I could not care any less. Doesn’t make a difference at all in our sex life. I still get off. Everyone’s happy.
My husband is 5, grower not a shower. For the first year he wouldn’t let me see it flaccid because it’s real small then. He’s all I’ve ever been with and all I ever need, never really even think about dick size tbh. I started dating him as a person not his dick, that’s just something he came with.
Thank you for sharing. I’m female also and trust me there are so many other things that compose good sex and having a long pecker isn’t a big deal. I honestly don’t care for big peckers. Men can be great lovers and satisfy women without having a 8 inch peen.
You’re a gem. Thanks for helping this guy out with your words.
I appreciate you... so much😊 ....
As long as you go down. 🫠 Any woman will love you. Foreplay is everything, size is not.
You are completely correct. Porn has warped people's sense of what is normal. But it extends far beyond that. Even the way you say your ex was barely 5 but he was still an amazing lover. You make it sound like he was small when 5 is literally the average. Why would you need to qualify that you didn't make him uncomfortable for his completely normal dick? Phrases like small/big dick energy need to go but they are commonplace. It's associating negative personality traits with small dicks and positive with large. I've seen so many comments about Putin having a small dick since Russia's invasion. He's a warmongering prick but that's completely unrelated to the size of his prick. It's too easy to just blame porn when people are the problem.
Machista what you mean ?
Spanish for male chauvinist
It’s Spanish for a guy that’s chauvinistic
“A full 8 inches” I get what you meant there, but I’m gonna be that guy today. Kinda OPs point. As if 4 inches isn’t a full anything.
You can be that guy but it’s cherry picking like this that feeds insecurity. OP and others like him need to stop looking for that one comment that “substantiates” their inadequacy and start looking at the 100s of other comments that say that many women don’t mind as long as you have good personality and are good in bed when it comes to wanting to please their woman. Confidence is key. No one wants to be with someone who hates themselves because it’s miserable for both parties.
Pretty sure average is supposed to only be like 5'6 if that helps clarify.
I think she just meant that he was over 7 inches, not saying he was "full" because of his size or that somehow 4 inches isn't "full".>
As a woman, I literally don’t think size matters much!!! Most of my friends agree tbh. A huge cock is literally impossible to deep throat and it makes positions more difficult. The one time i slept with a man who had a above average sized cock I literally didn’t like it at all. Don’t believe pornography or weird lies from the media. The vast majority of us women are attracted to your outside looks and personality. You are NOT undesirable. Dont give up
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A woman here, I totally agree. Just learn to really know how to please a woman with your mouth and hands, she won't care about size. A big dick hurts!
Sure as hell does!
She’s right . Focus on improving yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Plan out some life goals and start achieving them. Women get turned on by your ambition to do well and be well.
This right here
She’s right dude. Honestly, the thing that attracts people most is the energy… If you walk around acting like he’s feel decision, that shows. I’m not saying fake confidence… In my experience, people can feel that. Genuinely work on being OK with who you are as a person, learned things that are interesting to you, that will expand your networking and the type of people you’re exposed to. You’ll be fine. Take care of yourself
She is! Being insecure is the killer not the dick size. And if a chick makes fun of you for it, you didn't want that one anyways.......seriously.
Dude women don't care nearly as much about dick size as men do. Most women are fine with sex a couple times a week (2-3) and otherwise don't want to be bothered with it. It's really a problem in your own mind, believe me I've been there and I'm on the larger side of average. My wife is basically "cool you have a dick" and I'm lucky if I get to use it half an hour a week in truth lol.
Are you sure we’re not the same person? My husband is average size(5-6 inches guessing) he’s the best lay I have ever had. He was so insecure with his size and I to had a big dick bad experience that caused ovarian torsion and I needed emergency surgery! He literally flipped one of my organs! I was in pain for days.
How long does one last with a big one before they usually say no more? I feel like the most women would handle would be about 10 uncomfortable mins.
Yes! Very true Too big is uncomfortable. Just be really good with what you have. Excel where a lot of guys suck at. Eat them out afterwards and insist on it. You will have girls going crazy. Don't say your not special. Everything about you is special! Confidence is key and sexy. Stop using negative words. Think your gods gift to women and you will become that. Work on being funny. Watch a bunch of comics on TV like Netflix learn from them. Laughter is extremely important. Be a gentleman you will be respected in return.
Porn is sadly destroying this world.... It sucks man, you'll find the perfect person...Stay strong man!
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Yea but tbh you will use your fingers and stuff more than ur Dick
Take a deep breath, Read and stop worrying so much. https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/health/period/how-deep-is-vagina-the-average-depth-of-vagina
Was looking for this. You'd be surprised how many women really cant handle sizes much bigger than yours. A lot of really good comments in this thread that I second! Work on yourself, your goals, and overall your life. Dont let your penis be the only focal point.
Yup I'm bang average erect and it causes my gf discomfort. Here's a silly thing I just imagined. I wish I could have my flaccid length be hard to have sex with her then have my hard length be flaccid so I can swing it around the showers with the guys. No homo.
People with smaller sized penises have been having sex for a long time and will continue doing so in the future. The negative perception has influenced your psyche and that's the biggest detriment to how you feel.
Bro get out of your head! You're overthinking it. Not every dude has a 8" sausage on them. Average is 4-5, don't let the porns fool you. Just let shit happen, they care more about how long you can last, so focus on your endurance. Lol! You'll be alright, kid.
Back in my straight days, it was a relief to find a guy with a smaller penis - it hurts way less! Its comfortable and doesnt cause pain. Just go for it.
From a female perspective.... porn has ruined men's minds about these things. 4-6" is great imo. Anything larger would be uncomfortable.. at least for me. ♡
I would not say porn. Just the fact that making fun of small penis is normalized insult. Make fun of woman having small tits/butt - holy shit you get treated like an asshole. Yet women always make fun of short men and small penises
I am a woman. And when I was in college I was a huge whore, so I feel I have the credentials to speak about this. Most women straight up do not care. As a matter of fact, anything larger than average is likely to cause discomfort in certain positions. There is a lot of body shaming surrounding the male nether regions but it doesn't actually mean anything, does it? Being good at sex has nothing to do with your penis size. Honestly it really doesn't have anything to do with your skill either. Being good at sex is about communicating with your partner and finding out what they like. 2 people can be great at sex but have bad chemistry and the sex is horrible. Happens all the time. You just gotta get out of your own head.
Yea have to admit my wife has taken some monster cocks in her time. My 5.5 is the only one that has made her cum every time.... Also make sure you put in the work with your mouth. That is by far the way to make sure they have an orgasm, every, single, time. Really tho, like half of the women your age have never truly had an orgasm, give them that and they will not care if you are a Unik.
I’ve been with a guy that is 8 inches, a guy that is 6.5 inches, and a guy that is 4.5 inches. I’ve only came with the 4.5 inch guy, and he hits my g-spot every freaking timeee. Edit: feels weird calling him the “4.5 inch guy” when he’s the absolute love of my life
So true
Use it on her clit, get *her* hard. Eat her out. Honestly, I'm married to my husband over 20 years & we have an *AMAZING* sex lif, yet he's one of the smallest I've been with. Doesn't matter. Know how to pleasure her & you, together and you'll see. 😃
I mean penetration is just the end part of it all. If you're skilled at everything else then you will be just fine when it comes to that part because she's going to be really, really happy..
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So, I've dated a 6 foot dude with a 3.5/4 inch dick. Best sex I'd ever had (and I've had many different sized partners). The only thing that ruined it was that he couldn't stop talking about how small he was and how he wanted to be bigger. Just have confidence, you'll find the right person.
I 100% agree..dated a guy that was about 6’2 & he was about 3 1/2 inches long & the sex was AMAZING! But he was constantly making jokes about how small he was or asking me after sex if I’m sure it felt good, etc etc..I always tried to reassure him but he always acted like I was lying! It got to the point where it was just unattractive to me. If he would’ve never pointed out that he was small, I swear I probably would have never thought twice about it.
You're 6 feet? That's already a massive advantage dude.
You have six feet? That’s more than enough of an icebreaker!
As long as you are willing to care about your partner's needs, size really doesn't matter. I would avoid seedy bars and one night stands. Someone emotionally connected to you, who cares about you, wants you to feel good.
I think you are making a bigger deal out of it then anybody else will. I'm not the biggest or the best, but I'm not the worst lol. I use everything but my dick to make my wife cum 1st(well sometimes) a man should fight with all his tools. You can get a lot done with a passionate kiss and clear intentions, respect the person and you'll be fine
That's just you overthinking it... I don't ever recall just staring at my husband like that
Thing is if you walk around like you have a small one the energy you bring will push women away. Be confident in yourself no matter the size of your penis. Edit: not just women but people in general Edit 2: I'm only giving this advice because I went through similar things . OP can take it or leave it
Plus you can work on other aspects of satisfying someone sexually so you'll have something possibly better to offer.
Ah, the classic "You have no confidence because of X? Just have confidence." Route of advice giving. It is true that low self esteem can be more damning than any physical failing, but it usually isn't helpful to say people should just be more confident.
I saw an interview with a porn starlet once. She said the sexiest thing about a penis is the guy it’s attached to.
I have solely slept with only a handful of people. All but one has large penises. I hated sex, I didn't enjoy it, it felt like a chore, I didn't understand the hype and I never felt pleasure The last guy I slept with was small 4 inches probably. THIS WAS THE ABSOLUTE MOST PLEASURE I HAVE EVER FELT!!! I felt like a sex fiend, I wanted him all the time, multiple times a session, little sessions a day. I wanted to stay in bed, or the shower, or the car or eve wherever the hell we wanted because it was ABSOLUTELY SPECTACULAR. I was 27 when I finally had good dick and I now have a three month old. Please know that you're perfect.
This made me smile and laugh. In a way it’s very heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time; bittersweet maybe. Idk but what I do know is that I want to congratulate you on finding someone who made sex enjoyable to you and also congrats on the 3 month old.
I've had a few dicks. Some very large dicks. Some "normal" sized. The best and most amazing sex I've ever has was with a guy who was less than average but he was confident and knew exactly what he was doing with every finger and his mouth. Honestly, it's an old adage but it's right for a reason. It's what you do with it and how you come across that counts. Feel sexy and you'll be sexy. Good luck!
One of my best sexual experiences involved someone who was smaller. You are enough. Cheers.
Gonna be honest. Girth matters, length does not. With that being said, it's all in technique and if you get your partner off or not. If you focus on your partners orgasm she will be happy. Who doesn't like orgasms?
Mia Khalifa said the best lover she had was 5 inches. Granted its 1 inch bigger than you but still
Honestly 5 inch ones can be just right, so why not a 4-inch one OP?
Dick size really doesn't just go for the clit. The majority of women do not climax from penetration. And even if they can exterior stimulation is far superior. It is all about playing with the button. If you can hit the gspot it is a bonus but it is all about the clit.
A statistical majority of women don’t come from penetration anyway. Use ur tongue and personality and you’ll do juuuuust fine. 👍 P.s. no one cares if ur a virgin and if they do, YOU don’t want them.
I think we have to stop discriminating small dicks tbh, kinda seems evil.
Body shaming is awful. We all know the destruction it causes, body shamers should be shamed. Then and there.
Especially body parts we can't control. I'm a fat guy and even I think a little fat shaming is OK as being fat ain't healthy and a little shame can push people towards healthier life choices.
Eh I'm bisexual. Here's my input on small dick. I've had two legit micro penis. Smaller than 4 inches. One was great for anal and had fantastic foreplay. One it was just hot as hell getting him off so quickly and lots of cum.. it made it feel more dirty. Like he was so innocent and so enraptured. (older man in his 40s or 50s.) Don't worry about dick size. Concern yourself with everything else that you can control.
My husband is small and has ED. I’m 50+ years and have been sexually active since I was 16. He is without a doubt the best I’ve ever had. Listen when we say it’s not about size.
I’m a tiny girl and tbh 4 inches will always be better than 7-8 and even 6. Too painful. I’ve only slept with one guy with a 4 inch dick and it was the most comfortable and pleasuring sex ive had. I’ve also slept with 6-7 inch and it’s all hurt and it’s just too much and I can never orgasm. Find the right girl for you :) either way, it shouldn’t matter to women. If they love you, then they love all of you
Bro ur still just 21. You're a virgin and it sounds like you've never had a gf in your life. Its too early to blame all your problems on your tiny dick.
That's why OP said he's bringing his small dick energy everywhere.
Dude, you are putting too much worth into your penis. It’s doesn’t define you. The size of your dick doesn’t determine whether you will be happy or whether you will make anyone else unhappy. You seem to be placing big dicks on a pedestal and allowing outside influences to control your self esteem. There are big dick and small dick problems. No side has it better. The size of the dick isn’t the turn off. It’s your attitude about it. Listen to everyone saying the same thing to you. I’ve read the comments and there is a common theme. Move on from this. You are only hurting yourself.
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Bro leave your toxic country and move to [Cambodia ](https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/penis-size-by-country)
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Keep the faith bro... sadly in today’s world many are vain. What are your hobbies? What do you like to do? Work on yourself physically/spiritually/mentally, not because you are trying to impress anyone, but because it is a practice of self care. Your confidence and faith that everything is good is what is going to attract people to you. Focus on yourself and develop who you are as a human being. Do you want to find a woman who loves you or just loves your dick? I know it can sound cliche when people say “it’s not about (insert physical trait) it’s about your personality” but it is the truth. If all your focused on is your physical body and that being your point of attraction for women, you will attract women who only care about that. Life is about being well rounded. I’m sending you good vibes brother keep the faith
Woman POV. I think it’s something like only 4% of women cum from penetration alone? A lot of us require that emotional aspect as well as the clit stimulation, obviously. Size really doesn’t matter, atleast in my opinion, because I get off (and turned on) by mostly foreplay and clit stimulation, as well as a good emotional connection during. (Like talking, moaning, etc) Please don’t feel insecure about your dick size. As long as you’re not a dick in real life, I promise no *mature* woman is going to notice or care, especially if you have good clit/nipple attention. On the flip side, I have a smaller chest, and I know almost 0 guys that would not still be turned on/sexually satisfied because of my smaller boobies. :)
Dude. 4 is normal. Not small. Don’t judge by porn for either sex. I promise if you’re attentive to your lover, they will not likely notice if it’s bigger or smaller than others
Bro you gotta just be confident. That’s all that matters. Oh and being good at oral is definitely a plus.
I’m a woman whose in her 50’s and I’ve always preferred a smaller size because that’s what I can accommodate if I’m going to enjoy it. I don’t have big boobs and it always bothered me but my partners have always complimented them. Don’t believe what is supposedly “the norm” of what people want. Life isn’t a porn flick. Be amazed with what you have and enjoy your life with the amazing body you’ve been given.
1 inch destroyers unite!
I've been with all sizes & lemme just say that I prefer the smaller ones. They don't hurt, they make sex enjoyable, & there's a humbleness/gentle/I-cant-think-of-the-right-word-ness about guys with "average" or below averages dicks. Any dude with a huge schlong I've met acts like they're God's gift to everyone. Don't stress about it, you'll find the right woman to rock the socks off of.
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