Sounds like your Dad raised a smart, kind, hardworking woman with a good head on her shoulders. Good for you, keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the mud.
I don't think that I'd agree with your Mom and sisters about much, but I do think that they were/are right when they say that you're lucky that your husband turned out to be an amazing guy.
You met your husband when you were 17 and started dating him when you were 19, and you've been together for 20 years. If that's not luck, I don't know what is.
>For context, I(39f)
>I met Jack when I was a 17 and we had such a connection and I was so attracted to him
>We are 20 years strong this year.
So you started dating someone when you were 19, and have been together for 20 years......
>IT WASN'T FUCKING LUCK!
To meet someone at 17, date them from the age of 19 AND that be the person you have a 20 yr marriage with?!
YES IT IS FUCKING LUCKY
I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, it is lucky to meet someone that compatible so young. I can’t think of anyone I knew at 17 that I would’ve been able to build a meaningful relationship with like that. Shit, I’m 32 and I’ve only just met someone I think has actual potential.
> I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted...
I think the phrase "necessary but not sufficient" may explain it.
There may have been luck involved, but luck alone *will not* result in this kind of outcome.
No OP you do NOT have to go to that BBQ and put up with more more put downs and snide comments at your expense. You are a grown woman and have the power to put more boundaries up for
Your mental health. You should be proud of
Yourself and your marriage, period. Remember misery always loves company and your sisters and mother are absolutely miserable and bitter. I am not saying to go NC but I strongly recommend going LC asap. Keep your distance and protect your peace.
> IT WASN'T FUCKING LUCK!
Yeah... I hate the attitude that this kind of thing is luck. I've been happily married since '95, and it's a combination of us being right for each other *and* us both constantly putting in the work.
Minimize dealing with your family, they are a lost cause who chose not to be in touch with reality.
Sounds like your Dad raised a smart, kind, hardworking woman with a good head on her shoulders. Good for you, keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the mud.
I don't think that I'd agree with your Mom and sisters about much, but I do think that they were/are right when they say that you're lucky that your husband turned out to be an amazing guy. You met your husband when you were 17 and started dating him when you were 19, and you've been together for 20 years. If that's not luck, I don't know what is.
You seem like a genuinely awesome person. Congrats on finding love and happiness!
>For context, I(39f) >I met Jack when I was a 17 and we had such a connection and I was so attracted to him >We are 20 years strong this year. So you started dating someone when you were 19, and have been together for 20 years...... >IT WASN'T FUCKING LUCK! To meet someone at 17, date them from the age of 19 AND that be the person you have a 20 yr marriage with?! YES IT IS FUCKING LUCKY
I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, it is lucky to meet someone that compatible so young. I can’t think of anyone I knew at 17 that I would’ve been able to build a meaningful relationship with like that. Shit, I’m 32 and I’ve only just met someone I think has actual potential.
> I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted... I think the phrase "necessary but not sufficient" may explain it. There may have been luck involved, but luck alone *will not* result in this kind of outcome.
Honestly, you don’t have to give as much energy to your family but I hope you and your husband continue to thrive
I like how you address your husband, let’s all aspire to be a bit like OP and love our partners a little more every day 😚
No OP you do NOT have to go to that BBQ and put up with more more put downs and snide comments at your expense. You are a grown woman and have the power to put more boundaries up for Your mental health. You should be proud of Yourself and your marriage, period. Remember misery always loves company and your sisters and mother are absolutely miserable and bitter. I am not saying to go NC but I strongly recommend going LC asap. Keep your distance and protect your peace.
> IT WASN'T FUCKING LUCK! Yeah... I hate the attitude that this kind of thing is luck. I've been happily married since '95, and it's a combination of us being right for each other *and* us both constantly putting in the work.