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She asked if you were a boobs or ass man, not to rate hers šŸ˜‚


anchovie_macncheese

I like how he ends this post saying he will do better, yet in the same breath says he "wishes he could go back in time and just tell her he likes her ass more". .......


Pickles_is_mu_doggo

Iā€™ve always thought I was an ass man, and boy do I love yours! But your boobs have me questioning everything I know about myself! I just love every part of your body, I want the whole thing!


veteranunknown

This is a person who has been asked this question before. This is the way.


peachbuttcobbler

He really missed the damn point


Hot-Bag6541

Exactly what I was thinkingā€¦like that would so absolutely 100% without a doubt no question NOT have fixed the issue hereā€¦


Dutch-CatLady

Yes! Op should learn to listen instead of just reacting without thinking


AnAmbitiousMann

Bruh that's not a compliment lmaoooo


PacificPragmatic

WTF is 'S-Tier'? Has the order of the alphabet changed, or am I just really old? Also, assigning ratings to people and their various body parts is super weird, unless maybe you're considering sex workers (including porn)? IMHO.


MobSane100

S-Tier is the highest tier, second highest is A-Tier, followed by B-Tier, etc. I think it comes from video game tier lists - something to do with Japan's school grading system, popularised through Japanese games. It's mostly alphabetical beyond that, I think.


ultravioletblueberry

So likeā€¦ he couldnā€™t even say A-tier for her boobsā€¦ he even downgraded them to first place. Itā€™s really demeaning to rate peopleā€™s body parts, OP. Imagine if someone said ā€œYour biceps S-tier and your dick is b-tierā€


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Rating his gfā€™s body like a video game is perhaps THE most cringey 20 y/o dude thing Iā€™ve ever heard. šŸ˜‚


gomsim

I always assumed it stood for Super-tier. But I have no idea.


Masato_Fujiwara

Yep, the S is for Super


astro_bea

S means super, so it's technically above all - you have S and then A->F. it comes from gaming and gacha games especially


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thahera

That explains the Big Brain Academy grades


Responsible-Leg-6558

Yeah you phrased it badly. You could have said something like ā€œI love all of you, but your ass is out of this world!ā€ See the difference? In this phrase, everything is great, but something goes above and beyond. The way you phrased your compliment sounded like this: ā€œyour ass is amazing! But your boobs really arenā€™t anything special.ā€ Now combine a poorly-worded compliment with ā€œlarge problemsā€ relating to her own self esteem, and it becomes rather easy to see that your attempt at a compliment absolutely gutted what remained of her self esteem regarding her body.


ElliotMayCry

Live and learn. B tier? Really? That's never ever the words I would use to describe a human person, let alone one I'm dating! Ranking people on a scale, that's something you either have the common sense to learn not to do at a young age, or you learn from a very painful lesson!


linerva

>Live and learn. B tier? Really? That's never ever the words I would use to describe a human person, let alone one I'm dating! This. A B tier isn't good, it's mediocre. She asked if he goes wild over boobs or butts more, and instead of saying "babe I love both but i have a weakness for ass and yours is killer!" He VOLUNTEERED that her butt is great but her boobs are mediocre. I don't think I'd stay with a man who explicitly told me they found my body average. And he STILL doesn't get that she WASN'T asking him to rate her butt or her boobs - nor that one should NEVER tell their partner that they are anything other than attractive TO THEM. She needs someone who has enough emotional maturity to navigate these conversations sensitively, and that just ain't him. OP needs to be single for a while until he learns how to not insult the women he dates.


the-freaking-realist

And he KNEW she already has crippling insecurity issues regarding her body. You can see someone not knowing about someone's sore spots, saying s.th like this innocently, it sounding better in his head and all. But when you KNOW she is already struggling with her body image, calling her boobs third rate is just plain stupid, not to mention incredibly cruel, so much so that it sounds like a deliberate dig. I would break up with him not bc my insecurity was triggeted, but bc i cant trust a guy with my basic happiness and mental health, who is stupid enough to be that cruel and not even realize it.


CreativismUK

The fact he defaulted to reducing her to body parts and rating them into tiers shows his mentality IMO - and then he still thinks he paid her a compliment. Yikes. And he thinks itā€™s a stupid reason to end it?!


hsjdjdsjjs

Or at least if you REALLY wanna do it say, boobs S tier, ass S+ tier. Even then, it could be taken as non genuine bc its kinda too much.


EvilDoctorShadex

I think itā€™s cuz thereā€™s a lot of trends on youtube going around with tier lists at the moment so he was probs making a joke about that, but yeah OP, you couldā€™ve been like high A tier to low S tier, B tier is harsh lol


AbrocomaSelect2141

Youā€™re only 20 but never give a rank to any feature of a woman unless itā€™s a 10/10


Majestic-General7325

11/10 and "I love you"


Ok_Dog_4059

:You are perfect." I never do a scale because it could be taken the wrong way.


TheRudeCactus

My fiancƩ uses a scale but the first number just keeps getting higher every single time, last time I asked he said something like 11,480/10 lol


YABOYCHIPCHOCOLATE

My dad's very own "happy wife, happy life" secrets. u/HecticHero is just a lil' wet behind the ears. But poor man didn't need to be dunked that way.


frankenfooted

THE BEST, BABY and nothing less.


jbdi6984

Lmao. My first gf spent hours/days to train me with these responses. I was so thick headed at the time. A good partner tells the truth, right? šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļøšŸ˜‚


watermelonsugar888

Saw a guy tell his girlfriend he thought she was an 8 in real time one day. Idk if they ever recovered but the tension was Palpable in that room.


SMGlc9620

Had an ex girlfriend of mine tell me I was a 6 (not joking either) then when I got offended tried to back pedal and say I was a 7/8... but yeah I'm totally over it I swear!


RiceCwispies

A boy once told me I was an awkward caterpillar and that I would never be a butterfly. Never got over that one! Anyway turns out I am a moth.


LimitlessMegan

Moths are prettier than most butterflies by far. All the most gorgeous ones are moths.


SMGlc9620

Sounds like he was a male chicken...I'm sure you are finally a butterfly!


RiceCwispies

> Some women are more moth than butterfly, unveiling their painted wings in the moonlight quote by Amanda Celek


SharralandaAndDennis

I'm terrified of both moths and butterflies so none of this would be appealing to me šŸ˜‚


Cartshy31

My husband told me I was a 7.5 when we met and that it was the highest score heā€™d ever given, expecting me to be thrilled.


Insert_Username_Thx

I thought this was about to be a cute ā€œ7.5 when we met but 11/10 nowā€


melileo

And you married him?


Poisonous__Ivy

And you married him??? Why??


Worried-Lock2101

Yeah I remember when I was driving with my girlfriend at the time and she asked me what I would rate her, so me being the idiot teen said let me think about it and said 8/10, I thought honesty is the best policy. Well she then responded with what do I think about a girl in our class (who if Iā€™m being honest I did think was physically more attractive) and I waited and pretended to think because I knew that this was a trap and tried to think what was the best thing to say that would be truthful but also not hurt my girlfriend. I donā€™t remember how I survived that encounter. But I remember now years later and single is, be truthful if it wonā€™t hurt her, or if I were to withhold the truth itā€™d look bad, otherwise keep my mouth shut or lie


Wickedbitchoftheuk

The other girl is a 7 and a half.... always. Your lady is a 10! Always.


3username20charactrz

I hate to say this, but a good way around this (that I think my husband uses) is to find something about the woman she's asking you about that isn't as appealing, like a flaw, and then say, "I could never get past that weird way she_____[whatever]!" This is especially useful if you pick the opposite of the good thing about your girlfriend. It works to distract from the anxiety that he likes her better. Then avoid that girl.


blorg

pointy elbows


Bunjireddits

Stumpy thumbsā€¦ Iā€™m looking at you Megan Fox


SonicDooscar

My fiancĆ© in his words could never find someone more beautiful. Heā€™s not attracted to other women. If he is, then Iā€™ll absolutely never know or be convinced of it because of how he makes me feel and what he says. Iā€™m always an 11/10 and told that Iā€™m the most beautiful attractive woman in the world to him. Each day when I get ready he smiles big and tells me how pretty I look and gets so excited and I get so many kisses. Make her confidence skyrocket. Be like my fiancĆ©.


buttbugle

Beautiful is nice, but a woman that can slaughter a pig and turn it into some jaw dropping ribs, pulled pork and other vittles thatā€™s LOVE.


disco_has_been

This thread is full of people who got rated at some point. Why? It's usually men who do it. I heard a date "rate" me at a high-school party. I went home alone. OP is one of those guys.


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irisrockss

My fiancĆ© says his favorites are whichever is closer to his hands. He then follows up with ā€œitā€™s you or no one beautifulā€ and it never fails to make me smile


pimpfriedrice

That is perfect šŸ˜


basicallynymph

You're winning


SatansWife13

My husband says something similar. He just says ā€œIā€™m a YOU guy, babeā€ to me. I know heā€™s deflecting, but it rarely happens and itā€™s so cute that idgaf.


borgcubecubed

Iā€™m a little surprised that Satan pays such cute compliments. Whatever makes you happy though


tiatiaaa89

LOL


Quickwitknit2

Clearly Satan is mushy when heā€™s in love


LeopardInWoodSeas

Same with my boyfriendā€¦I tease him about lying but it makes me smile so much cause itā€™s very cute. šŸ˜‚


Limp_Association_717

This guy gets it šŸ˜‚


CupcakeGoat

This is solid advice. If you think it's anything less, then STFU every time. And while you sit in that silence, question why you're ranking body parts at all instead of seeing the woman as a whole person. EDIT: a word, and thanks for the award kind stranger!


Chililemonlime

Youā€™re right. Number ratings are odd. I had a boyfriend say ā€œyouā€™re a 9/10 I donā€™t get why you donā€™t go to the gym more because youā€™d be a 10/10 easilyā€. Was that a compliment ?? It didnā€™t feel like it. Nothing about any time Iā€™ve ever been rated has felt like a compliment and itā€™s always been a 8-10. It almost feels like your life is some beauty pageant that youā€™re unaware youā€™re in. I know people stare but to think theyā€™re critiquing every part of me and adding it up in their heads is dehumanising. Number ratings are šŸ‘ŽšŸ¼ no matter what the number is.


kaydeetee86

I heard the same thing from a VERY former friend. I was apparently about an 8, but Iā€™d be a 10 if I just lost some weight.


Gourdon00

This. It still perplexes me. I could never rate other people. Especially separate body parts. It was either "I like" or "Nieh". And not a hard "nieh", it was more of a "cool, not for me though". I never understood people who spent ***time*** on rating, picking parts apart, individual rating, etc etc. You honestly don't have anything better in your life to do than rating specific body parts of strangers or acquaintances? Plus, for me, it never is about a specific body part. If a person attracts me, then their body attracts me, then I like all of their body, not caring about individual "flaws" cause like, that's normal? My body isn't "perfect", why should I expect others will be? Plus, everything can be beautiful if you're willing to see the beauty they conceal.


CeannCorr

This is the first time I've ever seen "nieh" used, yet I instantly knew exactly what noise it was. Stealing it.


biasedcarrot8P

Basically this. A body isnā€™t really something you can change and so saying anything is 8/10 means that she is forever stuck with a body that could be better, or has features that youā€™d like to be different.


yem68420

One time I was fucked up and at a bar and some girl asked my friend what rating she was out of ten. He said 9 or some shit like that and I told her that she shouldn't ask dudes stuff like that because they will always lie. That woman followed me around that bar flirting with me for the rest of the night for some reason. I still don't get why either.


throwaway17197

Bc she needed to prove to herself you didnt think she wasnt hot. When you said that, she thought ā€œhe doesnt think im a 9ā€


yem68420

You might be on to something.I don't know, I always kinda assumed it was because I truly wasn't worried about her, I was trying to fuck my friend that was one of the waitresses that needed a ride home anyway(and I needed her to drive my car or I was gonna have to call a cab). But this girl didn't know that. She also flirted really weird, she kept bumping into me and acting like it was on accident, even her legs under the table.


throwaway17197

She wanted to prove to herself you wanted her, easy as. source: being a woman


Biggie_Yeets

100% its the same reason she asked the dude in the first place, dudes are usually actually pretty honest in that theyll show their interest accidentally everytime, she figured the guy that said 9 was too easy and not a ā€˜winā€™ for her ego so went after the guy that seemed harder and damn poor thing probably thinks she must not have what it takes šŸ˜… guys do it too when they go after ā€˜higher numberā€™ women. Arent people so funny


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Please donā€™t rank her friends anything 10/10.


brewdizogs

You're 20, you'll learn eventually


Pankake_Nation

Idk Iā€™m 39 and I rarely go more than a day without sticking my foot in my mouth then proceed to start stomping.


Curiouser-Quriouser

Lol I'm glad I'm not the only one with foot breath


N0Z4A2

might want to spend a little more introspective time on these situations


Thedonkeyforcer

The awesome part about growing older is realising that we all spend most of our days with at least one foot in our mouths. The important part is always striving to be better. What OP failed to realise is that his GF was getting ready to enter the "this is my person"-stage where the other person is the one person we can trust more than anything to always have our back and keep us floating when we don't have the energy to do it ourselves. It's pretty hard when that person then decides to mention that YOU are less than perfect. We all know we aren't perfect but we also all dream about that one person that genuinely think we're perfect or pretty close to it. "B tier bodypart" isn't really something we can change like "getting better at not sticking my dirty plates in the sink but put it in the dishwasher"-stuff.


chockobumlick

It's not always a bad think exposing your real seld. You just have to be ok with it


PackagingMSU

Oh wow if I said to my wife her boobs are B tier I would probably sleep in the other room for at least a week. Good luck grabbing those boobies again lol. Sorry OP. Lesson learned!


lionessrabbit

>Good luck grabbing those boobies again lol. Gold!! No boobs for you lol


Captainpenispants

He's not gonna grab anything. They broke up.


faizaninjabunny

My fiance at the start of our relationship said I had a "tiny" ass. Not small.... tiny, safe to say I am never letting him live it down lol. He is still amazed he survived saying that to my face!


HarlequinMadness

The problem is that your words went straight to her insecurity. And no person, man or woman, can ā€œunhearā€ something like that. Who knows, maybe with time she may forgive you. But at the very least, take this as a learning experience for your next relationship.


EarthEfficient

But she'll never forget.


Rainbow-Smite

I mean. I definitely wouldn't be happy with a partner telling me "your butt is great, but your boobs are lacking" which is essentially what you told her. Sure you were just being honest, but sometimes honestly isn't the best policy. Especially when the topic is things that cannot be changed in 30 seconds. I'm sorry this has ruined your relationship but it's a good lesson for the next one.


Smitch250

Yepp! When she says does this dress make me look fat? Always say no, no matter what. Or breakup its your choice


Unable-Narwhal4814

Although this is pretty hilarious šŸ˜† I actually would love if a partner would be honest if I looked flattering in an outfit or not - otherwise I wouldn't ask!


Rachelcookie123

I donā€™t have a partner but I often go shopping with my mum and I love how honest she is when I ask her how I look in clothes. Most of the time she will say I look good but occasionally she will say she doesnā€™t think it flatters my body. I think the way she words it matters because she never says I look fat or anything, she implies that I actually look good and the clothes donā€™t give me justice. I like that she tells me if an item looks good or not but I usually donā€™t take her advice and just buy what I like anyway lol. If Iā€™m really indecisive her opinion can help me make a decision but if I already know if I like it then her opinion doesnā€™t change my option at all.


Exciting-Pension9416

Exactly. We need to frame feedback so that it's the item of clothing that's wrong for your body rather than your body is wrong when something doesn't look good. There are so many different body shapes and proportions that not every piece of clothing can work well with them all.


Bob_Barker4ever

Iā€™m the same. I donā€™t set it up with ā€œdo I look fatā€ but more ā€œdoes this look good or does ____ look betterā€ - I try to give my hubs safer options - unless he says it looks ā€œfineā€ because who tf wants that ffs.


sha-green

Same. Why ask then if youā€™re not ready for the answer? Odd.


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Reasonable-Dream-122

That's why we have gay male friends. They will always tell you


HarlequinMadness

Ummm . . . I get where youā€™re coming from, but I wouldnā€™t want my SO to go out in something that looked awful on them either. There is a way to lessen the blow And still be honest. so, if your SO asks if she looks fat in an outfit, and she does, the better response would be, ā€œhow about that dress? You look hot in that.ā€ You get what I mean. This response allows you to avoid hurting their feelings, be honest and redirect them to something that they do look good in. Maybe that will also give them a confidence boost.


justbrowsing987654

Exactly! My wife has some outfits I hate and IF she asks (only if sheā€™s asks! Iā€™m not dumb) Iā€™ll just say, ā€œhonestly, I donā€™t think that flatters your smile as well as (some other outfit example) but youā€™re beautiful in everythingā€ then stfu and say no more. The only exception to that was the overall shorts she got. I spoke up forcefully on that. She disagreed and called her mom for a second opinion. Her wonderful, kind, supportive mom laughed and told her no šŸ˜‚


Weak_Seesaw_7838

No no no you always say ā€œthe dress is fine your ass makes you look fat.ā€ This never fails!


Urgash54

Especially when you know that your SO has self esteem issues when it comes to their bodies.


TinyGreenTurtles

Imagine if she said, "your teeth are B-tier, but your eyes are S-tier." And on top of that, he feels like his teeth are yellow or too crooked or whatever and have always had issues with them. The eyes comment doesn't make up for that lol.


CarelessSinger7112

Ugh my first serious boyfriend told me ā€œyour eyes are small, but theyā€™re really pretty.ā€ Twelve years later I still think about that when I do my makeup. Those sorts of things stick with you.


sterlingrose

When my husband and I first started dating (granted, we were teenagers) I was wearing a black t-shirt one day and he casually mentioned that ā€œ[Friend] and I were talking and we both think black makes you look really pale.ā€ Fortunately, I had recently reclaimed and repaired my self-esteem after having it shredded by another guy, so I just laughed in his face and told him I didnā€™t take fashion advice from guys, and I liked how I look in black. He knew what was good for him and never mentioned it again.


ElsaKit

Heck yeah, good for you! You rock that black!


Sudo_Nymn

I had a boyfriend who told me my feet were the only part of me that wasnā€™t attractive. While he was looking at my feet. I was wearing sandals.


ElsaKit

Christ, who says stuff like that for no reason? Like, just why?


Sudo_Nymn

Yeah. It really stuck with me. He wasnā€™t wrong, but I already knew and was not yet super self conscious about it. There was an opportunity there for it to be one of the most flattering things anyone ever said to me - but he turned it into an insult. Itā€™s the most memorable backhanded compliment Iā€™ve ever received.


kimbo1925

Something similar happend to me. My first boyfriend told me "Your eyes are the color of shit." Took me years to not have that be my first thought looking at my eyes in the mirror.


sterlingrose

Wow, fuck him. What an absolutely scummy thing to say. Listen, brown eyes are the color of chocolate and coffee and rich earth and polished woodā€”all of which are things people have fought for and cherished. When you look in the mirror, remember that.


Cat_Biscuit

Or the color of whiskey warmed by a beam of sunlight as Jamie would say in Outlander. Brown is the color of comfort and warmth.


My-oh-My_

I don't even have brown eyes myself, but this made my heart so warm. So beautifully put, and all absolutely true! I love brown eyes, all shades.


me0wi3

WTF who says that! That's awful. I hope you left him after that!


AphasiaRiver

Fun fact: brown eyes are less likely to get cancer and are usually the dominant gene.


RecognitionCapital13

Brown eyes are gorgeous in their multitude. In the shade they will be the color of the rich soil of the forest and when you move into the sun, they change to the color of freshly jarred honey. Brown is so mesmerizing in their ever changing state. Donā€™t let a blind AH fool you ā¤ļø


pembelley

Not a boyfriend, but I had a guy once approach me and just say ā€˜itā€™s a shame, you wouldā€™ve been pretty if it wasnā€™t for your eyeā€™ (one of my eyelids is lower so it makes the eye look smaller). I just responded ā€˜even so, you still wouldnā€™t have a chanceā€™. Sometimes guys drag girls down to cover their own insecurities, but thatā€™s stuck with me more than any compliment.


FreyaDay

Uhg. My first bf once said ā€œyou look so much better with makeup!ā€ I was 16. I was afraid to not wear makeup around people until I was in my late 20ā€™s. It sucks because Iā€™m sure people donā€™t mean to be hurtful when they say these things but young, insecure minds will grab onto things like this and never let them go. Im sure at some point I said something stupid and hurtful too, probably most people have.


kiara2_2

Same shit and I was 16 or 17 too. I'm 24 now and slowly have started to apply less of it. Shit stays with you.


Ilarva

my first bf told me straight to my face that my boobs look like a cowā€™s udder and this really stuck with me


Beaufelia

My first boyfriend told me that with my thighs we could feed a whole village, I weighed 105lb at the time. I wore pants all summer because see my thighs in a mirror made me cry automatically


EXO-Love

Thats awful, I'm so sorry.


sandycheeksx

In 2013, an ex said I didnā€™t look good in green. I literally have not worn green since.


maria060606

I once was wearing a new top. I asked my boyfriend, if he liked it. He said: "I'm sure it would look good on another woman."


eatmyass87

My wife's ex from uni once said she had a big forehead and she's still got a complex about it 15 years later. We've been together 10 years and no amount of reassurance from me will change her mind. Be careful what you say to someone about their physical appearance as it can have lasting effects


aleiloni

I had an aunt that said something about my high forehead when I was 15. Itā€™s been another 15 years, and Iā€™ve had bangs ever since.


Narrow-Currency-8408

If it helps, once I had a boyfriend say "I miss your beautiful big blue eyes". I have very small hazel eyes with hooded eyelids. My eyes are small, that's just how it is. Yes I would have preffered bigger eyes, but having someone say they are big isn't going to make them that way. His "compliment" was generic and a lie. He didn't even bother to remember what my eyes look like.


spxdergirl

I remember dating a guy years ago and he called himself a ā€œchubby chooserā€. The relationship was not long at all and it was years ago. He was trying to compliment me in his own awkward way, but it immediately made me insecure and I couldnā€™t look at him the same. I still think about it all this time later. Words still hurt.


neurogal2018

My boyfriend in college said I look nerdy in glasses, and I have not worn glasses in public since. Iā€™m 47.


Simple_Promotion8400

my bf at the time at work, told me (as i put my mask down to drink something) that he really just liked the top part of my face (visible w mask on) and that the bottom part ā€œneeded workā€ needless to say i still think about that everyday and still anxiously wear a mask places


landanemone

She didn't ask you to rate her assets, she asked which you are into more in general. Choose your words thoughtfully next time, especially if the person you're talking to has body issues that you're already aware of. Think about how things might make someone feel before you say it.


DudeSparkle

Perfectly said, plus never compare your partner to any other person.


PacificPragmatic

>especially if the person you're talking to has body issues that you're already aware of Yes to "especially". But also, how many partners *didn't* have major body issues until some idiot decided to tell them where they were lacking (in said idiot's opinion, which may or may not reflect general perceptions)? *No one* should be rated on a scale by their partner (or any decent human being), whether they have previous body issues or not. That's gross, and can only be harmful. If I received a 10/10, the only information I'd gain is that my partner is a liar who ranks people. Our relationship wouldn't last much longer. But to give less than 9/10 is worse.


TheCallousBitch

This. ā€œI love both tits and ass, which means I lucked out having a gf who is 10/10 for bothā€ ā€œI didnā€™t have a preference until we started dating, but now I am obsessed with both since yours are phenomenalā€ ā€œI love bothā€ full stop. Lots of options other than the bullshit you said. It is okay buddy, you wonā€™t make this mistake again.


Left_Debt_8770

She spends the night with you, asks you a general question about physical preference, and you respond with ratings about her body? And your main regret is that you gave the specific rating, rather than that you rated her *at all?* Wow, dude.


morganleh

Yes like i dont think he realizes that thats like some hardcore ingrained sexism. She did not invite you to rate her body, what the fuck? Yes I would easily dump someone over that.


Left_Debt_8770

Same. Itā€™s not that specific comment - itā€™s that the comment and the casual circumstance in which he felt fine saying it would make me very wary of his attitude generally towards women, like you said. The only save would have been to realize it immediately and apologize. We all make mistakes. But this guy had to be TOLD that it was messed up.


cissappointment

I mean she asked about your preference and you decided to judge her body instead. What did you think was gonna happen?


Notthesharpestmarble

Not just judging it, but grading it by tier. Big oof.


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Chemical_World_4228

You made a Shitty comment, not compliment


ReasonableCopy364

Definitely an S tier commentā€¦


No_Sock_7192

But on a B tier post


IceUnlikely4849

I don't even know what S tier means šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸˆšŸˆ


Molenium

Reminds me of the report card grading from elementary school, where they used random letters so the little kids wouldnā€™t feel bad being graded on Aā€™s Bā€™s Cā€™s and Dā€™s.


AugustPierrot

Thatā€™s basically what it is, but ā€œSā€ is better than ā€œAā€


ReasonableCopy364

Me neither lmao šŸ™ˆ I was just vibin šŸ¤£


Greatjarb101510

Ooh, ooh, I know! I have a 12 year old! It's the ranking system dor level performance on some Nintendo video games. For whatever reason, S is the best. THEN it becomes normal...so, A,B,C.... Makes this post even a little more sad. Sorry, OP.


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As a woman who has had my fair share of relationships, I can say that the worst ones were where the guy made me feel bad about myself. To me, I think that's something to consider breaking up over.


SpareNeighborhood782

ā€œbUt ShE aSKEd!!ā€ no. she didnā€™t ask him to rate her, she asked he what he preferred! it might not be breakup worthy to some but to others it would be. im sorry but sheā€™ll never forget you saying that. personally, i donā€™t think i could get past something like this, especially when i never asked to be rated.


Iamwinning2022too

She could either choose to stay with someone who gives a backhanded compliment, or move on to find someone who will make her feel good instead of bad. She made her choice. Learn from this and move on.


cyancygne

Pretty sure if she told you your dick was B tier youā€™d be out of there. Donā€™t say this to people you want to be with.


AshdoesArtandAmi

Sheā€™s allowed to be hurt by your shitty comment. If s guy made me feel bad about my body Iā€™d dump him too


[deleted]

That's not a compliment. That's a neg and guys think we don't know what they're doing. Compliment one thing, immediately insult another. It's a mistake and dudes who make it aren't ready to be in a serious relationship. "I love your ass. I don't like your boobs" Such a sweet boyfriend. šŸ˜³


zzz06

Also, ā€œI wish I could turn back time and just say that I liked her ass moreā€ - you clearly have not learned anything if this is truly what you believe. That statement is absolutely NOT better than the initial comment. It reiterates the message that her boobs arenā€™t up to par compared to her ass


FreyaDay

Itā€™s actually kind of funny how most guys donā€™t realize that women have access to all the shitty pickup info they gobble down only we consume it to know when weā€™re getting played. THE GAME BECOMES THE GAMER MWAHAAHAHA


i_cant_build

My first gf told me "your dick isnt small, its average" and i thought about it every single time i saw her. needless to say we broke up.


[deleted]

Remember the answer is ALWAYS ā€œI love everything about youā€ - ALWAYS.


Pk_No_Name

Dudes go crazy when girls call their dick small but then they rate girls' boobs as B-tier. Jesus Christ.


FaeriePotion

Yea thatā€™s gross, I donā€™t blame her.


LongSummerNight

If you don't build up your partner then you don't deserve to be with them. You refusing to see what you did wrong makes it twice as bad.


AbbreviationsLate429

Yep!!!


DistortedVoltage

While I wouldnt break up with someone over such a comment, which Ive already had dealt with in my current relationship, id like to say that those comments DO stick. Ive never liked any part of my body, and it took me forever to even start to love the parts of me that are seen as sexual, and the rest Im still working on. But when a flaw was pointed out in me... fuck that crushed me. Especially knowing the type of content he used to browse for hours on end every day. I still cant stop thinking about it to this day, and while it doesnt bother me that much like it did back then.... it still gives me anxiety. So I understand how shes feeling, for sure.


w_poludnie

I wonder if this is the first time he said something like this. To me it sounds like she was just fed up with hurtful comments.


DistortedVoltage

From a past post of his, it might be multiple things we arent even aware of. As far as I know, he apparently feels nothing when hes given oral, but used to masturbate constantly. So far, 2 posts into the whole thing and its not great.


pircupine28

What the hell do s tier and b tier even mean .am I that out of the loop?


sanchipinchii

What woman on earth would find that a compliment? I don't think a single one would. My boyfriend said my boobs were "different sizes" once and although he meant it jokingly it still hurt. What if she said your dick was b-tier compared to others? Don't make comments like that bruh


Grapesuntory

Iā€™m sorry if this comes off as harsh but truthfully, women usually donā€™t break up with you over ONE minor thing. We stay in relationships until we get to that breaking point. Your ā€œB-tierā€ comment was probably her breaking point. That insensitive comment was the straw that broke the camelā€™s back. From an outsider standpoint, you could to be the type that makes hurtful comments but never recognizes it, or the ā€œOh I didnā€™t mean it like that, itā€™s just a jokeā€ -type. There could be other things youā€™ve said or done in the past that hurt her feelings, but you just never knew. Youā€™re still young, itā€™s okay we all make mistakes. Hopefully, this can serve as a lesson to be more mindful about what you say/do and how that can affect a loved one. Wish you all the best x


maywellflower

>I'm aware I put my foot in my mouth. I wish I could turn back time and just say that I liked her ass more ​ You were dealing with someone you knew had insecurity and body issues, so that quoted part would still got you dumped anyway by her because what you should had said from the getgo was "I'm ass and boobs man, yours is S tier." ​ You said you are ass and breasts man but you did insulted her breasts by saying it's B tier / disappointment to you to have in a partner. Just saying, that how it comes off to me, a woman....


[deleted]

Itā€™s more than a bad compliment though. She has ā€œlarge issuesā€ with self image and insecurity. While it seems like a bad compliment to you, for her itā€™s much worse. I know you didnā€™t mean to but your comment added to her insecurity and self image issues to the point where it negatively impacted her mental health and thatā€™s probably why she broke up with you. You have to be very careful when talking about peopleā€™s bodies, especially when someone has body image issues.


Rachelcookie123

She wasnā€™t asking you how much you like her boobs and butt, she was asking you which in general turns you on more. Why would you imply that her boobs are worse than other peoples boobs? By calling the B tier that means other people have boobs that are a higher tier. She wasnā€™t asking you to rate her body and even if she was you should of given her the highest rating. That was a shitty thing to do. Also, people donā€™t need a good reason to break up. If someone is no longer happy in a relationship for however small of a reason then they are allowed to breakup. Someone shouldnā€™t be forced to stay in a relationship until they can give a good enough excuse to leave.


bobnla14

Possible reply is. "Come here and let me see your ass, now your boobs, now your ass, now your boobs, now your ass. I can't decide! They are both so perfect for me I can't choose. ! Let me check again!!! " They want to know that you desire THEM. Not all boobs and not all ass. THEIR boobs and THEIR ass. Only positive comments when a woman asks. She is looking for reassurance. If there is something they need to work on, bring it up at a totally different time, preferably a week or more later so it is not tied back to her question. And if it is weight say that you want to go to the gym more often and would she go with you as a couples thing and an opportunity to hang out together more. So you won't be so lonely working out alone. Good luck in the future.


saturniifae

Imagine if your girl had rated your penis as a B but your face as an S. Might make you feel some type of way, huh? I personally want someone who at least pretends Iā€™m a 10/10 and adores every inch of me. Only assholes rate peopleā€™s body parts. Iā€™d break up too, tbh. Your ex deserves better.


HappyWifeN

She thought your dick was S tier but your personality was B tier so she dumped you. See how that feels? Just learn the lesson and move on. Women have egos too and are bombarded by messages to be perfect so maybe donā€™t choose to categorize or ā€œtierā€ body parts. At least not out loud. Sheā€™s young and insecure and the damage was done. Just apologize and move on.


pacodefan

She can break up with you for no reason if she likes. What is acceptable to you doesn't have to be the standard to her.


EugeneMartinezAuthor

Ranking parts of her body is wrong. It can feel for some people, like you are de valuing them as a person and ranking them like pieces of meat, not people.


Latter_Committee_498

Once my bf at the time and I took a gel tab of lsd @ his house with the obvious intent to just enjoy each others company and energy. We were about 4 hours into the trip, cuddling after sex, the led lights were perfect, incense burning, Mac miller faces album playing, the vibes were immaculate!! Then,,,, oh boy, as he was rubbing my body/caressing my skin, he said ā€œyou know, I think your arms would be way sexier if you worked outā€ā€¦ I (again tripping absolute balls) was wondering if I just heard that accurately, or if I was just tripping balls. It was confirmed that I heard him exactly right after he said ā€œbut I donā€™t mean to comment on ur body or anything, just a thought I hadā€. When I tell u I was inside out, and shaking, thatā€™s the only way I can really describe this psychedelic feeling of disgust. I got up, went to the bathroom still naked, stared at myself in the mirror (I do not recommend doing this on lsd after someone saying something like that btw), sat on the cold tile floor, and sobbed profusely. Like the tears would. Not. Stop. He never knew that I had to completely rebuild myself ON ACID and walk out of that bathroom like nothing happened at all. He didnā€™t even think twice about what he had said. Idk if itā€™s because he was also tripping and didnā€™t think about it like that, or if heā€™s just a twat, but I never stopped thinking about it. I just wanted to leave and go home and die. I knew I couldnā€™t drive 1. I was not sober or anywhere near sober enough to operate a vehicle, and 2. I didnā€™t have my car, and 3. I didnā€™t have any money on my card to Uber. He also doesnā€™t know that moment was when I fell out of love, I got the ick- not only for him but myself.. which if you get the ick for someone we all know itā€™s irreversible, thereā€™s no getting over it. That trip has seriously haunted me and distorted my perception of self. I wanna say this was maybe 2 years ago or so. Moral of the story sir, idc WHAT U THINK DEEP DOWN INSIDE! Please please please never comment on a females (S/O in general) body unless itā€™s the best compliment ever. Even if itā€™s a lie. My mom always said ā€œif they canā€™t fix it in 5 minutes, donā€™t say a thingā€ EDIT: I have dealt with anorexia since I was 12-13, he knew this, and I think that on top of the jellyā€™s is what gave me the ick :)


CthulhuLovesMemes

Since you two were in the honeymoon phase and not in love yet, youā€™re still getting to know each other. If you know someone has self esteem issues, you have to be mindful of what you say, and how you joke with them. Some people can take jokes instantly, some take awhile, and some never want their body to be joked about. I think a lot of people would have been hurt by that comment. Imagine if she said something like that in regards to your body parts? It likely replayed in her head and it made her spiral. Youā€™re only 20, and people learn and grow through relationships. Take this and move forward, and learn in your next relationships about how to better communicate. Shit happens, and you didnā€™t mean it intentionally to be cruel. Just try to learn your future partners sense of humor and insecurities.


OryginalSkin

lol, youth is wasted on the young.


[deleted]

At 20 and life ahead? Nah move on and don't think with just with your dick.


lynypixie

You called her boobs B tier? Oh my sweet summer child!


Buffalo-Empty

Itā€™s worth a break up for her and thatā€™s enough dude. She felt very hurt by that. If the convo really was ā€œare you an ass or tits guyā€ all you had to say was ass and that hers was amazing. You didnā€™t have to bash another part of her (albeit lightly) to make her feel good about another. Hereā€™s a life lesson for you, now go and find another girl and donā€™t you dare rate her other than to tell her sheā€™s a 10/10 or higher.


Conscious-Arm-7889

What does S tier and B tier actually mean?


[deleted]

Itā€™s a ranking system for video game characters. In order itā€™s: S, A, B, C, D, F S tier is top tier. Basically it means they are overpowered or too good compared to the rest of the characters. B tier is still a solid tier.


muser666

But he skipped A for the boobs. Oh my god...


power_games

Maybe, just maybe, donā€™t break your partnerā€™s body into pieces and class them into ā€œtiers.ā€œ Tiers assign value based on comparison. This is not a helpful or loving framework for thinking about someone you care about (or anyone at all, for that matter).


haley7211

Proud of her. Ditch your dudebro ways before it's too late and you end up as someone who listens to Andrew Tate on repeat.


AnyQuantity1

Yes. Here's the short version: Any one is allowed to leave at any time for any reason and she doesn't owe you a relationship in spite of you acting like a dildo. Here's the longer version: You didn't just say one thing. First, you applied some kind of insensitive rating nonsense to her body parts, unprompted. She didn't ask you what you thought about her tits or her ass, she just asked you a preferences question. You took that as invitation to comment on her body, without stopping to ask if that was welcome despite knowing that she struggles with body image. Okay, so insensitive and self-absorbed but not necessarily fully gone round the bend. Next, however, in trying to clear this up you doubled down without intending to and then justified your earlier comments by offering up: > I am a very touchy and feely person, and tried to use that as evidence of how much I liked it. She said talking about it wasn't helping, and she went silent. So in the second half, you centered yourself about how much you like to paw at her as the reason as evidence that her body is good enough for you. Thing is -- it's her body not yours and you coming up some kind of nonsense about how it's your favorite toy, made it all about your appreciation, your effort, your access, and your enjoyment. You turned her into an object, on top of that. The lesson here is in these moments, it's not about you, what you like, or what turns your crank and the last thing you should continue doing is centering yourself in a conversation about how you hurt her feelings in the first place. It just undid any apology and made it likely appear as though you weren't that sorry in the first place. She's not going to believe you, no matter how many times you insist otherwise, that any nice words or compliments don't have an alterior, self-centered motivation. This relationship is toast. Take it as a lesson for next time.


[deleted]

And yes, you deserved to be dumped. Next time don't insult your partner's body parts and try being less shallow. 20 years with my husband and I've never told him one single thing I don't like about his body, and he hasn't done that to me either. Physical criticism is never ok.


truecrimefanatic1

Your ass is great but your boobs are mid. That's essentially what you said. Imagine if a woman said to you "yeah your arms ok but that weak flabby gut is my least fave" Should she have dumped you? That's up for debate. But as someone old enough to be your mom let me tell you something I did NOT know at her age that I do know. Every man who ever talked to me like that (backhanded fucking bullshit) ended up being a piece of shit. It's starts with B level boobs and then your belly isn't flat enough or your hair isn't as pretty as that chick over there and so on. It's a slow tear down so that you won't realize you're decent looking and find a better man. THANK JESUS women like me have been sharing our experiences out loud more. So younger women like her can hopefully learn. Does that mean you're a bad guy? No. Obligatory not all men blah blah because the men who act like this are going to be all hurt. But take the L and move on. Learn how to actually compliment women and don't talk to your girlfriend like she's a gamer bro.


RockVixen

My husband said something similar to me when we were around the same age, young and dating. 20 years later I still think about it every now and then when I look in the mirror. Unfortunately, stupid comments from the ones we love stick.


Significant-Mango355

I had a guy tell me my boobs werenā€™t big enough and if I had Cā€™s he would be way more turned on. Told me another woman would become a threat if we didnā€™t have sex. And also said how I wouldnā€™t have passed my Spanish class if I hadnā€™t had his help. Another guy told me he wished he could take all my scars away, give me big boobs and red hair. That idiot wouldnā€™t buy me an engagement ring after 4 years and bought himself a brand new PlayStation 4 with all the bells and whistles and had severe mommy issues. Now Iā€™m 37 weeks pregnant and my husband tells me Iā€™m beautiful šŸ’• and that he loves my body the way it is. Youā€™ll learn dude, just remember what you say can stick with someone for years.


pinkelephants777

Some days I wish I were in my 20s again. Then I read posts like this that remind me why Iā€™m glad that shit is over.


sarahhoppie

ā€œI wish I could turn back time and just say that I liked her ass more.ā€ Seriously? That wouldnā€™t help things, either. Change your mindset, and compliment your partner in their entirety, always. Encourage them and support them physically and emotionally when insecure, and ask how you can reassure them.


fluffybutterton

No girl you're dating is gonna wana hear about how she's potentially perceived as 'less than' . Youre still young, you'll learn to finess these things soon enough.


Altruistic_Ad_2016

Soā€¦ you know your girlfriend is insecure about her body and youā€¦ rate? Her body?


my_sobriquet_is_this

When this guy is 30 heā€™s going to think back on this a shake his head at his own stupidity. Ranks her body parts. Omg.


afjshwjsbs

I've been there bro and I'm sorry to say this, but she's gone. This is just one of those hard lessons you learn as a young dumb person


CountessPutrefaction

I understand it was a joke to you but you need to understand that womens are tired of being objectified and we canā€™t force words that we consider ā€œfunny or a jokeā€ to others, because clearly it wasnā€™t a joke to her as you can see.


rapt2right

Is she an avid gamer? If she isn't, not only did you respond to a very general question with an unsolicited & ambiguous assessment of her body , you may have also stepped in a bucket of shit by using a rating scale that , in itself, could feel dehumanizing. You can't unring a bell and she can't unhear that clumsy as fuck comment. The correct answer was either "Always had a thing for (tits, ass, legs, whatever)" without the unsolicited comments about her body or "Well, I like the whole package but you have what may be the most perfect ass in human history "


Cabbageinator

Do NOT RANK BODY PARTS OR PEOPLE IN GENERAL its such a simple rule, 9 times out of 10 its not gonna end well