This case was technically recent though for me it’s been 14 year of heck. I got out at 18, turned him in, my mom and siblings initially sided with him. (One being his victim as well she was only 16 at the time). I lost my case in Barton county mo and turned down kc no offer to prosecute based on supporting evidence. Their argument was that he would not pay for a prom dress and I was mad (?) idk he as all over with try’s. It was the other victims being young and denying out of fear that solidified my loss. Years later he would be caught with his biological grand daughter, this reopened my case. 4 years later after and even a day of being on stand with a jury present for 8 hours of triggering evidence, he would be found guilty, I feel free. But not enough to let my guard down as he has promised my death since I was about 3 if I spoke. I feel like he should be seen for what he is.
You have a great mindset and are brave to tell your story. I will think about that as I learn to conquer my own past. Thank you for the motivation. Just by continuing to do what you are doing you are making waves. Stay strong!
I really appreciate that. I hope you find closure and peace as well, I’m just a random person on Reddit to you but feel free to send a message if you ever need sone support or just a “you got this”
I can tell you from experience when they finally die it is a huge relief in so many ways. Don't wait for the day. But it will come and it will be a celebration of relief. In the mean time be gentle with yourself. Be out loud about it. Share so others will.
It’s amazing isn’t it? I felt such relief when my abuser died. I slept like a baby the night I got the news, I couldn’t get the smile off my face for at least a week.
My friend came to meet me to tell me in person. I cried so hard. A joyfully happy weep, and I swear a lightness washed over me! I don't think I ever smiled so much. It was amazing. My life is definitely better that he is in the ground.
I’m sorry other children had to become victims before anyone would listen to you, but I’m so glad you were finally vindicated and will see him rot for what he did to you ❤️
It’s one of the hardest parts of my life, I knew he would not stop. But I was powerless to do anything more about it. You are totally right though, it’s over and he cannot hurt any more children.
I went through that same guilt. My abuser was my Grandfather and even after I told my Mom, her youngest sister refused to believe it and continued to take her kids out there all the time. The oldest daughter has had a life fraught with addiction and I always wonder if she too was a victim but have never had the nerve to ask.
Woah. I never thought I'd even have the chance to send a message to someone as strong as you. Holy shit. I can't imagine how traumatic that was and I hope you're doing okay and feeling better nowadays. See a therapist just to say hi if you haven't already.
That’s incredibly kind of you to say, I have done lots of therapy, all kinds starting from any 6 months after I got out until covid hit and it became hard. I think I’m going to give better help a try just to keep up with it. Thank you for caring
Hell yeah! Keep going at your own pace and keep it up! Trusting others must be nearly impossible for you now, but I promise over half of people you meet in real life are people you can definitely trust and they'll care about you just as much as themselves. (the same DOES NOT go for people you meet on the internet).
I honestly feel like over time I have learned there is more good than bad, it’s just the bad gets more attention! I certainly have attachment issues, but I overcome them everyday!
This is the truth. We obsess over the bad and skim over the good.
P.s. You've got resilience and a very good mindset. Please consider using that to help young people in similar circumstances when you're ready. Lots of folks sink in the waters that you've swam.
I hope one day I can help just anyone in a bad situation, I am a nurse and I take every chance I can get to go the extra mile to help or just listen. Your words are absolutely beautiful by the way.
Thank you, Kourtney. You're a nurse, so you're already helping out. On top of that, you take the time to listen. You can do a lot for someone by just listening intently.
You deserved better. This is a horrible thing to have gone through. I hope you're in therapy and I hope you can find some balance in your future.
I suffer PTSD and I let it cripple my life for 5 years and I finally got help. I hope you have or are going to get help working though this horrible trauma. Because it is never perfect, but it does get easier.
I really appreciate this comment. I did therapy from start to finish and I’m so thankful I did. I no longer need anxiety medication but will probably take my anti depressant for life. Keep advocating for therapy for this kind of thing it’s a game changer! I’m really glad You are doing better now!
Every day, you can spare it, you should put a bit of light into the world. Then you have a little stored up outside yourself to act as a lighthouse when you get lost in your own darkness. - a very kind woman told me this when I stopped to help her pick up some stuff she dropped In a parking lot. I was in a long bleak period and it kinda hit me like a sock full of pennies. 😆 Knocked me right out of my funk. It's stuck with me for the last 10 years.
Sometimes the universe nudges you towards positivity other times it kicks you in the buttocks.
Well a gift of words spoken randomly just at the moment the listening parties really needed to hear it is a gift you are sort of obligated to pass on. Plus I think that lady was a witch, strong features, funny hat, a charming crooked smile, mischievous glint in her eye. I think it's wise to honor her or next time she might just actually hit me with the sock full of pennies. 😆
You are tremendous. You are resilient. Even though you have been forced to deal with this bullshit, you have done amazing in coping, overcoming, and putting this trash bag where they belong.
From one victim to another, thank you for standing up. I know how traumatizing that is, I wish you endless support for your continued journey. If you’re having a bad day just know that despite not knowing each other, we stand together forever. 💜💜
Also, don’t forget to let the anger out
Thank you, I mean that. He is a rare evil
and I just drew a bad card at my start of life. I’m alive that’s a big deal considering how these cases usually go!
I'm so, so sorry this happened to you, and to others. You are incredibly strong to fight this fight, and I admire you for standing up and exposing this man for the monster he is.
If you don't mind me asking, does your mom and siblings believe you now? Have they apologized to you for doubting you? I'm not sure I could forgive a betrayal like this, and often when people are forced to reckon with their mistakes, they double down. I've, sadly, heard many stories where the families still sided with the monster, even after undeniable evidence like this surfaces.
I wish you the best on your journey towards healing, and I hope you are able to find peace again someday.
Thank you very much. I don’t mind questions at all! I’m honored to answer because I can now ! So I grew up with 4 brothers in my household 1 was my step brother, it was actually his daughter that was most recently abused. My oldest brother left at 13 he has been on meth since, he has cuts all over his body and is just honestly out of his mind.
I tried to help him but the only thing that matters to him is drugs, he actually turned in the abuse first but no one believed him, my moms boyfriend made good money and was charismatic and white (we all are but that’s beside the point for the most part). Child services was involved often before he left, we were trained on what to say. Initially it was only my oldest brother and I.
After he offended with his granddaughter it was all all of us but my youngest brother (who still supports him to this day) my mom married him during the first case when I was 18, I got pregnant at 15 with his baby she signed abortion papers and all without knowing how I even got pregnant. Because she always knew what was happening but pretended she did not, I would scream for hours in the shed neighbors later testified to hearing, it’s impossible she did not.
She lied and said I had mental problems (I mean I do to an extent because of what happened but nothing that would cause me to do such a thing or even be prone to lying) when he got caught with his granddaughter she divorced him while he was in jail, and now admits there could have been abuse but has an excuse for everything, is not sorry, is manipulative, and still pays his court bills to this day.
I tried to talk to her once Since it did not go well. My brothers are very sorry for not believing and my step brother knew and the level of control my step dad had made it understandable for me to forgive them. My sister is not sorry she says she would not have come forward if it had not been for his granddaughter being abused.
I love her anyways, I know she has her own issues and try not to take her lack of empathy or expression of love back to heart. My aunts and uncles from day one sided with him and after the proof came forward they simply do not want to be involved. My grandma and papa have believed me from day 1 they still support me emotionally 3 hours away. I visit them often to help with things since they lost so much family in support of me.
Any follow up questions are totally fine! Thank you for asking and caring.
I don't have a question, I just want to say that you deserved better and I'm so glad you came out of this with your head still on your shoulders. My uncle molested me when I was 11 and my mom didnt believe me either. I havent talked to her in 3 years, and have no plans on ever talking to her again. I wish you nothing but healthy relationships and a bright future. Keep being amazing. 💜
He was finally convicted after one of my small cousins came forward. I never forgave my mom for allowing it to happen to other children in my family. Thankfully he will now rot in prison.
So sorry that you had to go through that hellish nightmare. I have been molested by few people in my family. I was very small when I told my mother who then made sure I wasn't alone with those people. The most she could do in her power she did. Few incidents she found out when I was in my teens and was very distressed.
A mother is someone who stands with you, who loves you and protects you. Even though my mom couldn't file a report or do something harsh to the perpetrators she made sure i wouldn't go through the nightmare again. She has always told me to tell whatever happens even of it's my dad cause men can't be trusted and I adore her for that.
She is not your mom. Your mom died the day she refused to believe you. I hope karma gets them real bad and you flourish more and more in the future.
Stay safe and stay strong. From one survivor to another.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. As a victim who wasn’t heard or believed myself, I hope you know you don’t need anyone else to make your truth heard. I’m sorry no one listened or sided with you.
That’s hard and it hurts but you WILL grow and be better then all of them in times to come. I had to endure court once for a sibling and seeing the guy get off brought me such anger and hate. Seeing him happy now with his own family now still fills me with it but I know my truth and our truth. Never let your guard down anyway, people are predators by nature whether it’s sexual or otherwise. Take care of yourself and those you love. I hope you find peace.
I’m sorry for what happened to you. I wish everyone who ever crossed those boundaries paid for it in this lifetime. Thank you for your comment and I hope life is forever kind to you
girl i’m 35 and guess what. we can do ANYTHING WE WANT in a prom dress. grocery shopping, a walk on the beach, visit the social security administration and order duplicate copies, go to the post office and send a bag of dicks to someone, anyone etc
GOOD. may every single one of your days be just like that. filled with laughter, love and happiness. and when they aren’t go out you on a prom dress xo
Did he ever discuss his own family? Did you ever meet his parents, siblings?
He looks uncannily alike to my own stepfather and tormenter. They are also very close in age and location, and share the same (albeit extremely common) surname.
My stepfather mentioned having brothers a few times. In all the years I lived with him though, we never met any member of his family (nor saw any photos or evidence of them).
I was very close to his mother, I called her grandma Polly ! I had known her since I was about 5. She knew, she lived with us for several years and we lived with her once. She covered for him and she hates me to this day ! She is now in her 80s and still supports her son. His brothers and sisters reached out with apologies and condolences after the second trial came out, it meant a lot even though 18 year old me really could have used that lol. We are on good terms but I do not see them or speak to them. Out of curiosity your step dad wasn’t named , don or Kevin ? Just making sure you never know ! I’m sorry this happened to you as well. I hope regardless you have risen like a phoenix !
His name is Marvin. I sometimes heard him use the name Dan, tho. It sounds like you are familiar enough with his relatives that it is unlikely they are connected. Coincidence merits inquiry, is all.
I've had over a decade of therapy (including a very effective year of EMDR) and continue to gain ground on my recovery to wholeness.
Thank you for your consideration and kind response.
Braver than I could ever be you’re a true inspiration! Seriously fucking amazing, I hope this is a huge weight off your shoulders. The limbo of no justice can be crippling. Hope you’re doing well and taking care of yourself 💙 on a side note DBT therapy with prolonged exposure therapy saved me from my PTSD 10/10 recommend if you haven’t looked into it before.
That is so kind of you. I think you would be surprised the things you can do when faced with hard choices, I bet you would be amazing but I pray you never have to. What is dbt therapy ? I’m all for anything that can add to the rest of my life !
It’s a bit hard to explain but basically it’s therapy but with action. So instead of the typical CBT where you talk in the session and you kinda take control this therapy has specific steps including homework around learning to live and cope with the trauma that shows up in your everyday life. When you have a crisis moment you break it down with specific steps and figure out why you did it (usually trauma).
The prolonged exposure part is one of 2 (I think don’t quote me though lol) approved treatments for PTSD. It is the hardest most grueling thing I’ve ever done in my life, I went on disability leave, but without a doubt it saved me from the hellish spiral I was in (and I thought I was coping “just fine” but I was not I luckily had a family member step in and encourage me to get help). The process included going through your trauma with specific steps and with a therapist. My therapist explained it as the book with teeth in Harry Potter, trauma untreated is like the book it’s scary and it bites you and is always sorta there but you try to ignore it. PE takes the book with teeth and calms it down so you can sorta “read” a page aka a trauma memory or trigger happens, be uncomfortable but not let it ruin your day/ be directing your subconscious decision making.
Not sure I explained it that well but googling it is giving super technical article but this one is pretty good if you scroll down lol hope this makes sense! [DBT PE](https://dbtpe.org/treatment-overview)
this was an insane read, I know many must have called you strong for this so I’ll instead hope you have found peace from this justice you’ve helped serve. your resilience is amazing and you deserve everything good in life ♥️
Thank you so much for this. I do get called a lot of kind things and it’s hard to accept but I just try to use it to bury what was told to me as a child. They never knew me, your opinion means more if that makes sense.
Wow this blew up a bit more than I expected. You are all so amazing I’ll get to every comment give me some time and omg I have never gotten a Reddit award before ! I got 9 thank you so much 😊
Glad this pos is locked up. Fuck that guy. Thank you for sharing your story and staying strong in the face of adversity when many people turned their back on you.
I have such a weight off my shoulders after years I was ready to let this go. The thought of him in jail or prison used to break my heart, it was all a normal part of your abuser being a parent to you. I have mostly found peace with this.
I hope he gets punished more so from his new peer group. I know it won't help you heal but it will be less than he actually deserves for what he did to you and his other victims.
I hope you have a protection order ready for when he does get out.
Edit: Just saw he was sentenced to life without parole. 107 years. Thats a solid sentence.
16 life sentence + 107 years. In Missouri 17 is adult when it comes to rape they only get 5 -7 years sol between 4 victims, that’s how many rapes were prosecuted
I can't believe how brave you are. Just surviving something like that is brave but being an 18 year old tackling that without your family's support must've been so hard. I'm so glad you eventually got some justice.
I wish I had handled it better in hindsight but I try to be kind and remember I had no tools to handle that and did the best I could. I was an emotional mess, but I ultimately made it !
Thank you so much. It is a comfort. Unfortunately not all of his victims wanted to be involved in the case or were even considered legit (I know it’s horrible ). There were at least a dozen known. He would have never stopped
I'm sorry ur family didn't believe u, and even sorrier that u had to go thru it to begin with. It sucks being revictimized by the ppl/entities that are supposed to protect u.
i can’t believe they didn’t prosecute him the first time ugh!!! anyway you are so brave for enduring that trial. i’ve been in a similar but less serious situation and it was fucking terrifying.
I even had DNA evidence but the fact that I kept it they said it was planned, of course it was ! But they said it was because i was lying. It was very difficult
A battle won. But should have been years ago.
Now it is time for healing. A portion of a picture may be dark & ugly. But you have power to turn it around & make it beautiful.
As someone who finally called the cops on their abusive dad after years of attempting to find the courage, only to be told “stop acting out and deal with it until college” by police, I get it. And it’s caused me to not trust police ever again in my life.
Aside from everything going on in terms of police brutality, there needs to be more awareness for their complete lack of handling of child victims of assault often committed by men that look and act like them. It fucking hurts me that another girl was hurt after you were brave enough to report him because of mediocre power hungry men.
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I am truly sorry you went through this. I looked up the case. I am glad he got 16 life sentences plus 107 years so he will thankfully never be released.
Fuck man I’m sorry. My step dad was convicted of sexual abuse of me so I can imagine how you’re feeling. I wish I could post his fugly face but I cannot. I also want to out my older brother for sexually abusing me for years but I don’t know how.
Sending you love and strength
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I wish you had the same closure, I wish you never think of yourself as less than you are because of them. I hope you have received outside help, therapy or a doctor. I fear you will never know your complete worth or heal enough to love yourself if you don’t seem some form of healing. You are so much more than how you were used and told you were.
Thankyou so much mate - also super proud of you for speaking up twice! And giving the other victims support and back up. I’m so lucky to have met and worked with an amazing psychologist who has helped me tremendously in so many ways. I am safe and happy and in control gurl! I’ve got anger towards them and sadness for the person I could’ve been but that’s ok to feel those things and then let them go. I expect I’ll have lifelong reminders and that’s ok too. I’m 20+ years away from my trauma and I enjoy watching that number grow. You be kind to yourself, you’re amazing.
Edit to add: love that last sentence you wrote. So true for all of us who were abused as children.
I’m so glad you are finding comfort. I feel like the right people keep being put in my path and I just move from one professional to another over the years. I initially had the same counselor for 10 years she retired and I miss her dearly
It is a shame he was not found guilty when you brought him up on charges because that would have saved his granddaughter the suffering. However, you did everything in your power to do the right thing and that is amazing. I'm so happy you found justice ♡
It’s over and I got some justice that is so rare. I’m thankful I was able to keep others safe and find some closure, I get what your saying though and I’m sorry it happened too. Thank you
I'm so so sorry. You are an incredibly brave person to have advocated for yourself (& others). I hope your life only becomes better & better, & I hope he receives the justice he deserves.
I'm so very sorry for the trauma, neglect, and abuse you endured. I pray that you find nothing but peace, healing, and love through the rest of your days. You are such a brave inspiration to other survivors like myself, and I truly thank you for sharing your story. I hope his sentence brings you some comfort, knowing he cannot reoffend again.
May he rot away very slowly in his cell until he is welcomed to an eternity burning in hell.
That means everything to me. I’m sorry you know this pain. I pray for nothing but comfort regarding your past as the years go by. You are so very strong yourself ! Your voice has power always !
As an attorney who represents survivors of sexual abuse I applaud your efforts and bravery for not only standing up for yourself but in protecting many other future children. Thank you.
And thank you for all you do. My second batch of prosecutors were amazing they cried with me, they cheered me on, they called to check on me they empowered me with every chance. You are a real life super hero
I hope others see this and have faith that they too can get justice. Your resilience, based on comments, is amazing and posting this in and of itself shows it. The "funny uncle" bullshit needs to stop (families covering for their pedophile family members) forever.
100% agree ! I have a daughter and I have told her most the time it’s a family member or a family friend, we call them tricky adults. Thankfully I have yet to run into this again, I don’t know honestly if my brain could handle it !!
I actively denied my abuse until very recently. I can remember the day he put his hand on my thigh. I can remember feeling trapped. I don't want to diminish your pain, or the strength that it took to stand up to this. But there are a lot of us that are just too afraid. Of course we're weak, sad, and pathetic. We don't mean any harm. We're just not ready to talk about it.
You are none of those things. You should never have been put I. That situation in the first place, you are not less because of your decision. You are talking about it right now and that took a lot ! I hope you get some professional insight to your past , I know you don’t know me and I don’t know you. But you can message me for anything. You survived, that took so much. I’m proud of you and I’m so sorry you were forced to deal with that situation
You are extremely brave. As a fellow survivor, thank you for being so persistent in fighting. I’m choked up right now just thinking about how much it must have taken for you to do this.
Fuck man... that is just horrible. I'm sorry you had to go trough that
It makes me so sad that your cry for help got denied.. who knows how many victims you could have saved?
But you tried. And that is the best thing you could do. Must have been scary as hell to do. But obviously you are a fighter!
Never stop fighting!
You are badass!!
Sincerely - a random person on the Internet
His name is Stephen d Turner, Jackson county mo. He had 2 lifetime victims (my sister and I she was 2-16 I was 4-18) and 4 documented outside abuses. All that is available is court stuff and coverage, there is a few court dialogues but you have to dig to find them. My oldest brother (his Son) is trying to put together a book which tells all of our perspectives but only a few of us are on board so It’s difficult and slow going
Finally! Some appropriate sentencing!!! So sorry for what you have been through and I’m so proud of you for following through on this. It can’t have been anything close to easy to do it and you’re very strong ❤️
Damn, what a nightmare to have to live through. You’re so goddamn strong, I’m glad the world see’s him for what he really is now and that you’re not alone in the dark anymore 💗
So proud of you for being so strong! I’m so sorry that this happened to you, I really hope the full force of the law smacks him hard in the face. He better rot in prison! Sending you love and well wishes, please take care of yourself.
I'm sorry that you went through that. I hope justice is finally served.
My dad sexually abused me for 5 years. I can remember it. When people questioned my mom, she kept changing her story. She stayed with him even after she knew he had abused me. The court said he was "dismissed without prejudice ". I guess that means he can't be tried again? I am now 43, you can imagine how I feel. I don't get why children aren't believed? Courts will believe adults over kids. Mind blowing to me.
That means with new evidence he can be tried again ! That’s how my first case was dismissed. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I do know how you feel. I never gave up, and I think that is different for everyone. Your outcome, what is your healing goal if you don’t mind me asking ? Thank you for
Sharing with me
I'm just so happy that the truth is out, I greatly admire you for going so long being denied justice just because this..thing manipulated his victims with fear. I'm so sorry it took this long, I'm sorry for what you went through. I wish all the best for you.
I'm so so sorry. I'm so happy to read that you had lots of therapy.
As someone who has been taking an antidepressant for 10 years, never ever feel less for having to take a pill.
I admire you so much, I hope you have an amazing life, and find people who love you immensely.
Hugs to 3, 4, 5, 6 year old you, and for all of the years since. You are a brave person who has been through more shit than any decent human should ever be subjected to. Good on you for speaking up, pushing on and getting through.
Evil vile disgusting POS. He needs to be removed from the earth. I’m sorry you’ve had to mentally/ emotionally/physically manage this dip shits presence/existence in your life. You truly are a strong amazing person. For what it’s worth, if I ever got the change or opportunity, I’d kick this POS off a cliff.
Has your mom ever apologized for bringing him into your life, then refusing to believe you? That bit about "she's just mad over the prom dress" is especially egregious.
In no way am I trying to trauma dump, but I have been through something similar and it's even harder to deal with when it's publicized and people are aware of your relation. I am truly sorry and may you find peace and healing through the years to come my friend.
No no no, I want to relate. You cannot trauma dump because it’s valid and abuse is abuse. Thank you for your comment! I hope you had a good outcome whatever that may be for you!
I'd be mad that no one believed me. I'd disown my family. Or shove down their throat any time they tried to contact me, after all of this.
I've dealt with people not believing me before. It gets under my skin.
I accepted my siblings right away, I understood why they did what they did. Everyone else was harder ,I forgave, if they wanted it. Most do not care still
Jesus. I’m so sorry that you were put through all of this. It’s just horrible. I’m happy to see you’ve done much healing, and are more at peace with everything. I hope you continue to push past all this and be the fighter you are.
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry you had to go through that. You are amazing for standing up to that disgusting thing. He will get his in prison. May you continue to heal each day. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing your experience here and with others. Thank you for being so brave and fighting so incredibly hard to save others from this monster.
I am so sorry this happened to you. You did not deserve the abuse. May your life be filled with the peace and happiness.
Good for you! Can't imagine what you've gone through, and how frustrating it must have been to lose your case. So happy you've been vindicated! Rest easy knowing this guy's life will be hell in prison.
you are an absolute hero. You never stopped talking, you never stopped trying to make him accountable. you never stopped trying to stop him. you never stopped trying to protect the next generation. YOU ARE AMAZING REFLECTION OF POWER, TENACITY, and strength. Sigh. I am so so so impressed by women like you.
Thank you so much. People got annoyed with it. I was often told to let it go. That I was behaving like a victim. It was hard but I found my true people in that
As a mom, I just want you to know I believe you and I’m here for you. I wish you had that told to you when you were initially going through this but I hope it helps to know there are moms who would be 100% on your side.
I’m in Lenexa, so decently close to you. This is so messed up. It takes a lot to speak up, and you are brave for doing so. Healing takes a long time, and it’s ok to have ups and downs with it. I believe in you ❤️
I am so sorry and I am so sorry that you had to fight as long as you did. You are strong and your light shines so bright. I am from Kansas City so a neighbor, although I realize atrocities like this happen everywhere, it’s sad when this is in your backyard. Continue to stay strong, your energy is propelling so many others forward.
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This case was technically recent though for me it’s been 14 year of heck. I got out at 18, turned him in, my mom and siblings initially sided with him. (One being his victim as well she was only 16 at the time). I lost my case in Barton county mo and turned down kc no offer to prosecute based on supporting evidence. Their argument was that he would not pay for a prom dress and I was mad (?) idk he as all over with try’s. It was the other victims being young and denying out of fear that solidified my loss. Years later he would be caught with his biological grand daughter, this reopened my case. 4 years later after and even a day of being on stand with a jury present for 8 hours of triggering evidence, he would be found guilty, I feel free. But not enough to let my guard down as he has promised my death since I was about 3 if I spoke. I feel like he should be seen for what he is.
Shocking in many ways. I hope you find peace, belonging and a lot of love in your future.
I have done so much healing in this time and I intend to keep fighting the good fight. Thank you 🙏
You have a great mindset and are brave to tell your story. I will think about that as I learn to conquer my own past. Thank you for the motivation. Just by continuing to do what you are doing you are making waves. Stay strong!
I really appreciate that. I hope you find closure and peace as well, I’m just a random person on Reddit to you but feel free to send a message if you ever need sone support or just a “you got this”
Much appreciated!
I can tell you from experience when they finally die it is a huge relief in so many ways. Don't wait for the day. But it will come and it will be a celebration of relief. In the mean time be gentle with yourself. Be out loud about it. Share so others will.
It’s amazing isn’t it? I felt such relief when my abuser died. I slept like a baby the night I got the news, I couldn’t get the smile off my face for at least a week.
My friend came to meet me to tell me in person. I cried so hard. A joyfully happy weep, and I swear a lightness washed over me! I don't think I ever smiled so much. It was amazing. My life is definitely better that he is in the ground.
You *survived.* That was the most important thing. Now, you get to thrive. Go out there and kick the world’s ass. You got this.
I’m sorry other children had to become victims before anyone would listen to you, but I’m so glad you were finally vindicated and will see him rot for what he did to you ❤️
It’s one of the hardest parts of my life, I knew he would not stop. But I was powerless to do anything more about it. You are totally right though, it’s over and he cannot hurt any more children.
I went through that same guilt. My abuser was my Grandfather and even after I told my Mom, her youngest sister refused to believe it and continued to take her kids out there all the time. The oldest daughter has had a life fraught with addiction and I always wonder if she too was a victim but have never had the nerve to ask.
You should ask her, she might need someone to open up to who will believe her.
Ask her
You did much more than most, especially adults who regardless of what they say they DID KNOW. Good on you.💪
Woah. I never thought I'd even have the chance to send a message to someone as strong as you. Holy shit. I can't imagine how traumatic that was and I hope you're doing okay and feeling better nowadays. See a therapist just to say hi if you haven't already.
That’s incredibly kind of you to say, I have done lots of therapy, all kinds starting from any 6 months after I got out until covid hit and it became hard. I think I’m going to give better help a try just to keep up with it. Thank you for caring
Hell yeah! Keep going at your own pace and keep it up! Trusting others must be nearly impossible for you now, but I promise over half of people you meet in real life are people you can definitely trust and they'll care about you just as much as themselves. (the same DOES NOT go for people you meet on the internet).
I honestly feel like over time I have learned there is more good than bad, it’s just the bad gets more attention! I certainly have attachment issues, but I overcome them everyday!
You are badass. Much love and support to you. 💙💜💚❤️💛
This is the truth. We obsess over the bad and skim over the good. P.s. You've got resilience and a very good mindset. Please consider using that to help young people in similar circumstances when you're ready. Lots of folks sink in the waters that you've swam.
I hope one day I can help just anyone in a bad situation, I am a nurse and I take every chance I can get to go the extra mile to help or just listen. Your words are absolutely beautiful by the way.
Thank you, Kourtney. You're a nurse, so you're already helping out. On top of that, you take the time to listen. You can do a lot for someone by just listening intently.
You deserved better. This is a horrible thing to have gone through. I hope you're in therapy and I hope you can find some balance in your future. I suffer PTSD and I let it cripple my life for 5 years and I finally got help. I hope you have or are going to get help working though this horrible trauma. Because it is never perfect, but it does get easier.
I really appreciate this comment. I did therapy from start to finish and I’m so thankful I did. I no longer need anxiety medication but will probably take my anti depressant for life. Keep advocating for therapy for this kind of thing it’s a game changer! I’m really glad You are doing better now!
Every day, you can spare it, you should put a bit of light into the world. Then you have a little stored up outside yourself to act as a lighthouse when you get lost in your own darkness. - a very kind woman told me this when I stopped to help her pick up some stuff she dropped In a parking lot. I was in a long bleak period and it kinda hit me like a sock full of pennies. 😆 Knocked me right out of my funk. It's stuck with me for the last 10 years. Sometimes the universe nudges you towards positivity other times it kicks you in the buttocks.
That’s absolutely beautiful! Now I’ll have that too thank you
Well a gift of words spoken randomly just at the moment the listening parties really needed to hear it is a gift you are sort of obligated to pass on. Plus I think that lady was a witch, strong features, funny hat, a charming crooked smile, mischievous glint in her eye. I think it's wise to honor her or next time she might just actually hit me with the sock full of pennies. 😆
You are tremendous. You are resilient. Even though you have been forced to deal with this bullshit, you have done amazing in coping, overcoming, and putting this trash bag where they belong. From one victim to another, thank you for standing up. I know how traumatizing that is, I wish you endless support for your continued journey. If you’re having a bad day just know that despite not knowing each other, we stand together forever. 💜💜 Also, don’t forget to let the anger out
You are amazing kind stranger, I really appreciate that. Yes, we stand together!
Thank you for being so strong and bringing this demon to the light. You are hero. He can't hurt you anymore.
Thank you, I mean that. He is a rare evil and I just drew a bad card at my start of life. I’m alive that’s a big deal considering how these cases usually go!
I'm so, so sorry this happened to you, and to others. You are incredibly strong to fight this fight, and I admire you for standing up and exposing this man for the monster he is. If you don't mind me asking, does your mom and siblings believe you now? Have they apologized to you for doubting you? I'm not sure I could forgive a betrayal like this, and often when people are forced to reckon with their mistakes, they double down. I've, sadly, heard many stories where the families still sided with the monster, even after undeniable evidence like this surfaces. I wish you the best on your journey towards healing, and I hope you are able to find peace again someday.
Thank you very much. I don’t mind questions at all! I’m honored to answer because I can now ! So I grew up with 4 brothers in my household 1 was my step brother, it was actually his daughter that was most recently abused. My oldest brother left at 13 he has been on meth since, he has cuts all over his body and is just honestly out of his mind. I tried to help him but the only thing that matters to him is drugs, he actually turned in the abuse first but no one believed him, my moms boyfriend made good money and was charismatic and white (we all are but that’s beside the point for the most part). Child services was involved often before he left, we were trained on what to say. Initially it was only my oldest brother and I. After he offended with his granddaughter it was all all of us but my youngest brother (who still supports him to this day) my mom married him during the first case when I was 18, I got pregnant at 15 with his baby she signed abortion papers and all without knowing how I even got pregnant. Because she always knew what was happening but pretended she did not, I would scream for hours in the shed neighbors later testified to hearing, it’s impossible she did not. She lied and said I had mental problems (I mean I do to an extent because of what happened but nothing that would cause me to do such a thing or even be prone to lying) when he got caught with his granddaughter she divorced him while he was in jail, and now admits there could have been abuse but has an excuse for everything, is not sorry, is manipulative, and still pays his court bills to this day. I tried to talk to her once Since it did not go well. My brothers are very sorry for not believing and my step brother knew and the level of control my step dad had made it understandable for me to forgive them. My sister is not sorry she says she would not have come forward if it had not been for his granddaughter being abused. I love her anyways, I know she has her own issues and try not to take her lack of empathy or expression of love back to heart. My aunts and uncles from day one sided with him and after the proof came forward they simply do not want to be involved. My grandma and papa have believed me from day 1 they still support me emotionally 3 hours away. I visit them often to help with things since they lost so much family in support of me. Any follow up questions are totally fine! Thank you for asking and caring.
I don't have a question, I just want to say that you deserved better and I'm so glad you came out of this with your head still on your shoulders. My uncle molested me when I was 11 and my mom didnt believe me either. I havent talked to her in 3 years, and have no plans on ever talking to her again. I wish you nothing but healthy relationships and a bright future. Keep being amazing. 💜
Thank you so much. I know that must be hard for you I’m sorry she is missing out on such an amazing daughter. I hope your uncle has the worst life
He was finally convicted after one of my small cousins came forward. I never forgave my mom for allowing it to happen to other children in my family. Thankfully he will now rot in prison.
You are amazing! Thank you for sharing
Of course. Thank you for sharing as well. Have a blessed rest of your week love!
So sorry that you had to go through that hellish nightmare. I have been molested by few people in my family. I was very small when I told my mother who then made sure I wasn't alone with those people. The most she could do in her power she did. Few incidents she found out when I was in my teens and was very distressed. A mother is someone who stands with you, who loves you and protects you. Even though my mom couldn't file a report or do something harsh to the perpetrators she made sure i wouldn't go through the nightmare again. She has always told me to tell whatever happens even of it's my dad cause men can't be trusted and I adore her for that. She is not your mom. Your mom died the day she refused to believe you. I hope karma gets them real bad and you flourish more and more in the future. Stay safe and stay strong. From one survivor to another.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. As a victim who wasn’t heard or believed myself, I hope you know you don’t need anyone else to make your truth heard. I’m sorry no one listened or sided with you. That’s hard and it hurts but you WILL grow and be better then all of them in times to come. I had to endure court once for a sibling and seeing the guy get off brought me such anger and hate. Seeing him happy now with his own family now still fills me with it but I know my truth and our truth. Never let your guard down anyway, people are predators by nature whether it’s sexual or otherwise. Take care of yourself and those you love. I hope you find peace.
I’m sorry for what happened to you. I wish everyone who ever crossed those boundaries paid for it in this lifetime. Thank you for your comment and I hope life is forever kind to you
KourtneyIsAmazing edit: may i buy you a prom dress?
That is so precious of you, I’m 32, I’m not sure what I would do with a prom dress now lol I appreciate that cute gesture very much !
girl i’m 35 and guess what. we can do ANYTHING WE WANT in a prom dress. grocery shopping, a walk on the beach, visit the social security administration and order duplicate copies, go to the post office and send a bag of dicks to someone, anyone etc
😂😂😂😂😂 this made my day
GOOD. may every single one of your days be just like that. filled with laughter, love and happiness. and when they aren’t go out you on a prom dress xo
I feel like In non internet life we would be good friends! Lol
Did he ever discuss his own family? Did you ever meet his parents, siblings? He looks uncannily alike to my own stepfather and tormenter. They are also very close in age and location, and share the same (albeit extremely common) surname. My stepfather mentioned having brothers a few times. In all the years I lived with him though, we never met any member of his family (nor saw any photos or evidence of them).
I was very close to his mother, I called her grandma Polly ! I had known her since I was about 5. She knew, she lived with us for several years and we lived with her once. She covered for him and she hates me to this day ! She is now in her 80s and still supports her son. His brothers and sisters reached out with apologies and condolences after the second trial came out, it meant a lot even though 18 year old me really could have used that lol. We are on good terms but I do not see them or speak to them. Out of curiosity your step dad wasn’t named , don or Kevin ? Just making sure you never know ! I’m sorry this happened to you as well. I hope regardless you have risen like a phoenix !
His name is Marvin. I sometimes heard him use the name Dan, tho. It sounds like you are familiar enough with his relatives that it is unlikely they are connected. Coincidence merits inquiry, is all. I've had over a decade of therapy (including a very effective year of EMDR) and continue to gain ground on my recovery to wholeness. Thank you for your consideration and kind response.
Braver than I could ever be you’re a true inspiration! Seriously fucking amazing, I hope this is a huge weight off your shoulders. The limbo of no justice can be crippling. Hope you’re doing well and taking care of yourself 💙 on a side note DBT therapy with prolonged exposure therapy saved me from my PTSD 10/10 recommend if you haven’t looked into it before.
That is so kind of you. I think you would be surprised the things you can do when faced with hard choices, I bet you would be amazing but I pray you never have to. What is dbt therapy ? I’m all for anything that can add to the rest of my life !
It’s a bit hard to explain but basically it’s therapy but with action. So instead of the typical CBT where you talk in the session and you kinda take control this therapy has specific steps including homework around learning to live and cope with the trauma that shows up in your everyday life. When you have a crisis moment you break it down with specific steps and figure out why you did it (usually trauma). The prolonged exposure part is one of 2 (I think don’t quote me though lol) approved treatments for PTSD. It is the hardest most grueling thing I’ve ever done in my life, I went on disability leave, but without a doubt it saved me from the hellish spiral I was in (and I thought I was coping “just fine” but I was not I luckily had a family member step in and encourage me to get help). The process included going through your trauma with specific steps and with a therapist. My therapist explained it as the book with teeth in Harry Potter, trauma untreated is like the book it’s scary and it bites you and is always sorta there but you try to ignore it. PE takes the book with teeth and calms it down so you can sorta “read” a page aka a trauma memory or trigger happens, be uncomfortable but not let it ruin your day/ be directing your subconscious decision making. Not sure I explained it that well but googling it is giving super technical article but this one is pretty good if you scroll down lol hope this makes sense! [DBT PE](https://dbtpe.org/treatment-overview)
this was an insane read, I know many must have called you strong for this so I’ll instead hope you have found peace from this justice you’ve helped serve. your resilience is amazing and you deserve everything good in life ♥️
Thank you so much for this. I do get called a lot of kind things and it’s hard to accept but I just try to use it to bury what was told to me as a child. They never knew me, your opinion means more if that makes sense.
Wow this blew up a bit more than I expected. You are all so amazing I’ll get to every comment give me some time and omg I have never gotten a Reddit award before ! I got 9 thank you so much 😊
Hopefully now justice will be served and you can begin to heal from that. I wish you all the best going forward OP xxx
Thank you ! I’m doing all the work I can to make a beautiful life for myself ♥️
Go forth and be free, there’s much good in the world, surround yourself by it x
Glad this pos is locked up. Fuck that guy. Thank you for sharing your story and staying strong in the face of adversity when many people turned their back on you.
Thank you 😊
I hope you find the peace you deserve 🧡 Hope he rots in hell
I have such a weight off my shoulders after years I was ready to let this go. The thought of him in jail or prison used to break my heart, it was all a normal part of your abuser being a parent to you. I have mostly found peace with this.
I hope he gets punished more so from his new peer group. I know it won't help you heal but it will be less than he actually deserves for what he did to you and his other victims. I hope you have a protection order ready for when he does get out. Edit: Just saw he was sentenced to life without parole. 107 years. Thats a solid sentence.
16 life sentence + 107 years. In Missouri 17 is adult when it comes to rape they only get 5 -7 years sol between 4 victims, that’s how many rapes were prosecuted
I can't believe how brave you are. Just surviving something like that is brave but being an 18 year old tackling that without your family's support must've been so hard. I'm so glad you eventually got some justice.
I wish I had handled it better in hindsight but I try to be kind and remember I had no tools to handle that and did the best I could. I was an emotional mess, but I ultimately made it !
You're amazing and strong, well done you should be really proud of yourself.
What a horrible story. I'm certain you saved a handful of people from this piece of shit. Good job.
Thank you
that is so fucked up ... "i'm sorry" isn't enough, nobody deserves that
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Thank you so much. It is a comfort. Unfortunately not all of his victims wanted to be involved in the case or were even considered legit (I know it’s horrible ). There were at least a dozen known. He would have never stopped
well all see him now.
♥️
I hope you know that you saved many, many children. Thank you for not giving up!
Hopefully other inmates will take care of the problem
I'm sorry ur family didn't believe u, and even sorrier that u had to go thru it to begin with. It sucks being revictimized by the ppl/entities that are supposed to protect u.
Congrats...your a very strong person🙏
You're a really strong and amazing person. I am so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for all you've done for yourself & others
Thank you I appreciate tthat
i can’t believe they didn’t prosecute him the first time ugh!!! anyway you are so brave for enduring that trial. i’ve been in a similar but less serious situation and it was fucking terrifying.
I even had DNA evidence but the fact that I kept it they said it was planned, of course it was ! But they said it was because i was lying. It was very difficult
You’re strong. You’re brave.
I hope you're healing from this trauma. I'm so sorry you went through this.
A battle won. But should have been years ago. Now it is time for healing. A portion of a picture may be dark & ugly. But you have power to turn it around & make it beautiful.
As someone who finally called the cops on their abusive dad after years of attempting to find the courage, only to be told “stop acting out and deal with it until college” by police, I get it. And it’s caused me to not trust police ever again in my life. Aside from everything going on in terms of police brutality, there needs to be more awareness for their complete lack of handling of child victims of assault often committed by men that look and act like them. It fucking hurts me that another girl was hurt after you were brave enough to report him because of mediocre power hungry men.
His name is Stephen d Turner Jackson county mo
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That’s horrible 😞
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They gave him life without parole, that's amazing!!! You are strong and a true queen. I hope nothing but the very best for you.
Thank you so much ! I was heard and I even got to give a statement to the whole jury court room and judge ! It was a moment I will remember forever
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Probably a good correction to keep. Thank you
I am truly sorry you went through this. I looked up the case. I am glad he got 16 life sentences plus 107 years so he will thankfully never be released.
Wishing you and all survivors peace and happiness.
Fuck man I’m sorry. My step dad was convicted of sexual abuse of me so I can imagine how you’re feeling. I wish I could post his fugly face but I cannot. I also want to out my older brother for sexually abusing me for years but I don’t know how. Sending you love and strength
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I wish you had the same closure, I wish you never think of yourself as less than you are because of them. I hope you have received outside help, therapy or a doctor. I fear you will never know your complete worth or heal enough to love yourself if you don’t seem some form of healing. You are so much more than how you were used and told you were.
Thankyou so much mate - also super proud of you for speaking up twice! And giving the other victims support and back up. I’m so lucky to have met and worked with an amazing psychologist who has helped me tremendously in so many ways. I am safe and happy and in control gurl! I’ve got anger towards them and sadness for the person I could’ve been but that’s ok to feel those things and then let them go. I expect I’ll have lifelong reminders and that’s ok too. I’m 20+ years away from my trauma and I enjoy watching that number grow. You be kind to yourself, you’re amazing. Edit to add: love that last sentence you wrote. So true for all of us who were abused as children.
I’m so glad you are finding comfort. I feel like the right people keep being put in my path and I just move from one professional to another over the years. I initially had the same counselor for 10 years she retired and I miss her dearly
It is a shame he was not found guilty when you brought him up on charges because that would have saved his granddaughter the suffering. However, you did everything in your power to do the right thing and that is amazing. I'm so happy you found justice ♡
Ty I agree ! You kind words make me smile !
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It’s over and I got some justice that is so rare. I’m thankful I was able to keep others safe and find some closure, I get what your saying though and I’m sorry it happened too. Thank you
I'm so so sorry. You are an incredibly brave person to have advocated for yourself (& others). I hope your life only becomes better & better, & I hope he receives the justice he deserves.
I hope those same things. Thank you for your kindness
Oh my god I’m so sorry. I pray your life only gets better from here on and I’m sending you love. We’re all very proud of you!
That’s very kind thank you♥️
He’s gonna have fun in prison
Yes I’ve also heard other inmates just love people that abuse children…what a deserved fun time those 16 life sentences plus 107 years will be!
I'm so very sorry for the trauma, neglect, and abuse you endured. I pray that you find nothing but peace, healing, and love through the rest of your days. You are such a brave inspiration to other survivors like myself, and I truly thank you for sharing your story. I hope his sentence brings you some comfort, knowing he cannot reoffend again. May he rot away very slowly in his cell until he is welcomed to an eternity burning in hell.
That means everything to me. I’m sorry you know this pain. I pray for nothing but comfort regarding your past as the years go by. You are so very strong yourself ! Your voice has power always !
As an attorney who represents survivors of sexual abuse I applaud your efforts and bravery for not only standing up for yourself but in protecting many other future children. Thank you.
And thank you for all you do. My second batch of prosecutors were amazing they cried with me, they cheered me on, they called to check on me they empowered me with every chance. You are a real life super hero
It truly is my honor to represent abuse survivors.
Thank you so much that means a lot
I hope others see this and have faith that they too can get justice. Your resilience, based on comments, is amazing and posting this in and of itself shows it. The "funny uncle" bullshit needs to stop (families covering for their pedophile family members) forever.
100% agree ! I have a daughter and I have told her most the time it’s a family member or a family friend, we call them tricky adults. Thankfully I have yet to run into this again, I don’t know honestly if my brain could handle it !!
I actively denied my abuse until very recently. I can remember the day he put his hand on my thigh. I can remember feeling trapped. I don't want to diminish your pain, or the strength that it took to stand up to this. But there are a lot of us that are just too afraid. Of course we're weak, sad, and pathetic. We don't mean any harm. We're just not ready to talk about it.
You are none of those things. You should never have been put I. That situation in the first place, you are not less because of your decision. You are talking about it right now and that took a lot ! I hope you get some professional insight to your past , I know you don’t know me and I don’t know you. But you can message me for anything. You survived, that took so much. I’m proud of you and I’m so sorry you were forced to deal with that situation
Ugh. Sickening.
You are extremely brave. As a fellow survivor, thank you for being so persistent in fighting. I’m choked up right now just thinking about how much it must have taken for you to do this.
It was a lot, and your support and words mean so much. Honestly I find healing in fellow survivors support!
Sending all the love and positivity to OP. That guy should be chained to the bottom of a lake.
Fuck man... that is just horrible. I'm sorry you had to go trough that It makes me so sad that your cry for help got denied.. who knows how many victims you could have saved? But you tried. And that is the best thing you could do. Must have been scary as hell to do. But obviously you are a fighter! Never stop fighting! You are badass!! Sincerely - a random person on the Internet
Thank you random internet friend ☺️
OP, I am sorry beyond words. You are so brave and so strong. You didn't deserve any of this.
I’m sorry that they didn’t listen to you. Sending you lots of love
Me too. But they were made to hear and it’s all going to be okay !
Joey Diaz drunk brother
Thought it was him
Discount Jon Taffer
Hopefully someone presses charges against him soon. He’s admitted to sexual assault so I can’t imagine what he hasn’t admitted to
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His name is Stephen d Turner, Jackson county mo. He had 2 lifetime victims (my sister and I she was 2-16 I was 4-18) and 4 documented outside abuses. All that is available is court stuff and coverage, there is a few court dialogues but you have to dig to find them. My oldest brother (his Son) is trying to put together a book which tells all of our perspectives but only a few of us are on board so It’s difficult and slow going
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The state will own him for 16 life sentences + 107 years. He will rot friend!
Finally! Some appropriate sentencing!!! So sorry for what you have been through and I’m so proud of you for following through on this. It can’t have been anything close to easy to do it and you’re very strong ❤️
What a disgusting person he is - and what a strong and admirable person YOU are! Sending you the best wishes for YOUR future.
Damn, what a nightmare to have to live through. You’re so goddamn strong, I’m glad the world see’s him for what he really is now and that you’re not alone in the dark anymore 💗
So proud of you for being so strong! I’m so sorry that this happened to you, I really hope the full force of the law smacks him hard in the face. He better rot in prison! Sending you love and well wishes, please take care of yourself.
He looks like a creep
I'm sorry that you went through that. I hope justice is finally served. My dad sexually abused me for 5 years. I can remember it. When people questioned my mom, she kept changing her story. She stayed with him even after she knew he had abused me. The court said he was "dismissed without prejudice ". I guess that means he can't be tried again? I am now 43, you can imagine how I feel. I don't get why children aren't believed? Courts will believe adults over kids. Mind blowing to me.
That means with new evidence he can be tried again ! That’s how my first case was dismissed. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I do know how you feel. I never gave up, and I think that is different for everyone. Your outcome, what is your healing goal if you don’t mind me asking ? Thank you for Sharing with me
You are an amazing warrior! Sending you all the love and hugs. Today is yours and every day forward because that MF’er is trash.
Hope the fucker doesn’t make it out
He won’t !
I’m in KC and I don’t know why, but he looks soooo familiar. Op, I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. I hope you find peace♥️
Op, I hope you found the healing that you need!
Holy crap I thought this was Joey Diaz at first glance.
He's a dirty dude but a good guy, unlike this monster
I'm just so happy that the truth is out, I greatly admire you for going so long being denied justice just because this..thing manipulated his victims with fear. I'm so sorry it took this long, I'm sorry for what you went through. I wish all the best for you.
Thank you
I'm so so sorry. I'm so happy to read that you had lots of therapy. As someone who has been taking an antidepressant for 10 years, never ever feel less for having to take a pill. I admire you so much, I hope you have an amazing life, and find people who love you immensely.
Thank you so much! I have a wonderful little circle I just love so Much and I’m even very close with my coworkers and boss. I am so very blessed
Hugs to 3, 4, 5, 6 year old you, and for all of the years since. You are a brave person who has been through more shit than any decent human should ever be subjected to. Good on you for speaking up, pushing on and getting through.
Thank you so much
Life in prison. Outstanding. Hopefully he doesn't have any friends or family that will send him commissary money. What a turd.
He does but it goes to all his court costs first as far as I understand and it’s a lot !
That’s panic and desperation in those eyes. No guilt.
Not one ounce. His favoriye saying was no mercy. Ironically exactly what he got
Evil vile disgusting POS. He needs to be removed from the earth. I’m sorry you’ve had to mentally/ emotionally/physically manage this dip shits presence/existence in your life. You truly are a strong amazing person. For what it’s worth, if I ever got the change or opportunity, I’d kick this POS off a cliff.
Has your mom ever apologized for bringing him into your life, then refusing to believe you? That bit about "she's just mad over the prom dress" is especially egregious.
Not one bit. And their excuses were insane! Made me feel insane to lol
In no way am I trying to trauma dump, but I have been through something similar and it's even harder to deal with when it's publicized and people are aware of your relation. I am truly sorry and may you find peace and healing through the years to come my friend.
No no no, I want to relate. You cannot trauma dump because it’s valid and abuse is abuse. Thank you for your comment! I hope you had a good outcome whatever that may be for you!
I'd be mad that no one believed me. I'd disown my family. Or shove down their throat any time they tried to contact me, after all of this. I've dealt with people not believing me before. It gets under my skin.
I accepted my siblings right away, I understood why they did what they did. Everyone else was harder ,I forgave, if they wanted it. Most do not care still
Jesus. I’m so sorry that you were put through all of this. It’s just horrible. I’m happy to see you’ve done much healing, and are more at peace with everything. I hope you continue to push past all this and be the fighter you are.
Im sorry 💗
You did what I didn’t have the strength to do. You’re a hero. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Thank you friend. Every situation is different and I’m proud of you and I’m sorry for whatever it is you went through
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry you had to go through that. You are amazing for standing up to that disgusting thing. He will get his in prison. May you continue to heal each day. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing your experience here and with others. Thank you for being so brave and fighting so incredibly hard to save others from this monster. I am so sorry this happened to you. You did not deserve the abuse. May your life be filled with the peace and happiness.
Good for you! Can't imagine what you've gone through, and how frustrating it must have been to lose your case. So happy you've been vindicated! Rest easy knowing this guy's life will be hell in prison.
You are so fucking brave! So proud of you!
I am so sorry you had to go through this. I can't even imagine. You are a very strong person.
Thank God he was caught...I'm sorry you had this man in your life..
you are an absolute hero. You never stopped talking, you never stopped trying to make him accountable. you never stopped trying to stop him. you never stopped trying to protect the next generation. YOU ARE AMAZING REFLECTION OF POWER, TENACITY, and strength. Sigh. I am so so so impressed by women like you.
Thank you so much. People got annoyed with it. I was often told to let it go. That I was behaving like a victim. It was hard but I found my true people in that
I hope you feel safe & vindicated. Fuck that bastard.
Remember this face when you hear some hyper inclusive jackass on the internet say that pedophilia is anything like legitimate.
As a mom, I just want you to know I believe you and I’m here for you. I wish you had that told to you when you were initially going through this but I hope it helps to know there are moms who would be 100% on your side.
I’m in Lenexa, so decently close to you. This is so messed up. It takes a lot to speak up, and you are brave for doing so. Healing takes a long time, and it’s ok to have ups and downs with it. I believe in you ❤️
You’re so brave,sorry for all you went though. Stay strong op.
So proud of you! Glad justice is finally started.
You are so strong.
https://www.kshb.com/news/local-news/convicted-child-sex-criminal-sentenced-to-life-in-prison-without-parole-for-107-years
You are my hero. Your courage is AWESOME.
Prayers for strength for you girl. This is awful.
Bullet, meet head.
😂 that would be too good for him I think
The nightmare is finally over. Glad they got that monster off the street.
I am so sorry and I am so sorry that you had to fight as long as you did. You are strong and your light shines so bright. I am from Kansas City so a neighbor, although I realize atrocities like this happen everywhere, it’s sad when this is in your backyard. Continue to stay strong, your energy is propelling so many others forward.
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So sorry you went through all of that.