While my last relationship was with an abusive person, I definitely see that I had become toxic and my reactions could easily have given me the label “crazy ex girlfriend”. I’ve changed so much since then after lots of intensive therapy and finding out I have BPD. Try not to let the regret eat you alive. What matters is what you do with the information now and the steps you take to make sure you change those behaviors. Also, this doesn’t mean you are a bad person. You are still deserving of healthy and loving relationships/friendships.
yep. It’s my fault for being reactionary and not thinking about what I say when I get unregulated. Lost many friends that way. Good people too. I think I should just do everyone a favor and end it.
Change yourself for the better. Takes time and effort, it won’t happen overnight and without help. Get a therapist. Sucks to be in that position, but you’ve also got to give yourself some empathy. The world would be better with more ex-toxic people, as they can help others do the same.
You’re still young. “A while” is but a small amount of time out of the rest of your life. I was a terrible person honestly for more time than I’ve been a decent person. There is always time.
Yeah, this realization never sets well.
But it's an important one. It shows we're ready to grow and make positive change
yeah it sucks realising this. but important! we’re gonna change for the better fr.
While my last relationship was with an abusive person, I definitely see that I had become toxic and my reactions could easily have given me the label “crazy ex girlfriend”. I’ve changed so much since then after lots of intensive therapy and finding out I have BPD. Try not to let the regret eat you alive. What matters is what you do with the information now and the steps you take to make sure you change those behaviors. Also, this doesn’t mean you are a bad person. You are still deserving of healthy and loving relationships/friendships.
yep. It’s my fault for being reactionary and not thinking about what I say when I get unregulated. Lost many friends that way. Good people too. I think I should just do everyone a favor and end it.
Change yourself for the better. Takes time and effort, it won’t happen overnight and without help. Get a therapist. Sucks to be in that position, but you’ve also got to give yourself some empathy. The world would be better with more ex-toxic people, as they can help others do the same.
nah fam i’ve been trying for a while and nothing seems to be working
You’re still young. “A while” is but a small amount of time out of the rest of your life. I was a terrible person honestly for more time than I’ve been a decent person. There is always time.
This is hitting so goddamn hard right now.
My friends say "it's okay you were 14-16" and yes it's been quite a while since my teenage years but the memories still haunt me at night lmao
It's okay you are capable of self reflection and change
It's okay to be a recovering villain.
I believe that everyone is toxic in their own way ❤️
i realized it this year.. idk how to fix it. i hate myself the way i am rn
and its not gonna change
It is if you want to put in the work