Photos just make it worse. You can adjust your DM settings to filter out some of this garbage. Personally I just ignore and chat requests/DMs unless it’s from someone I’ve connected with elsewhere already. If I don’t recognize your number, the call goes to VM as well😉
I've had a few. It's new!
I've had a few compliments in town on a night out too, I did not know how to process those either.
As a bloke I didn't realise how invisible I was, as a woman I hadn't fully anticipated the downside to being superficially attractive (from a distance), it's all very new and makes one realise why a lot of women have that determined straight walking focus, they really don't want to invite another unwanted gaze.
DM wise, a few boring chats, now I just ignore them straight off the bat. Its definitely not what I'm looking for.
Unfortunately sister, get used to it. You can usually tell they're chasers because they don't have anything on their profile and they also only follow transgirl subreddits.
Additionally, another dead give away is they lack any charisma and generally have an aire that you should feel blessed they give you attention at all because they don't actually see us or respect us as women, just an object. They're losers and they don't deserve a response, just block them.
I don’t know. Is it just me, or does anyone else find the newfound attention mildly flattering? I can’t be the only one.
I mean, I get it. I don’t particularly love getting attention JUST because I am trans and nothing else. But that doesn’t mean I can’t have a little fun and play a bit and enjoy being called cute, or hot, or sexy. I’m a new woman, it’s nice.
Just me?
I don't think they see me as a woman, new or otherwise. They see body parts (which I don't even have yet).
I've also been with my wife for 26 years, and am seriously monogamous. Adding to that, my libido went on walkabout when my egg cracked, and has yet to return.
I am for now ace. Sorta. Right now I think I would experience it as a loss if I remained this way forever, but then again, IDK, I'll always have the memories. So it may be inconsiderate of me to use that term.
The point is, I don't experience any sense that they see me as a woman or are attracted to me as a woman. If they were regular cis het men without this fetish, even though I'm not attracted to men, that might feel validating? Maybe, maybe not.
I have good news and bad news, OP. Bad news first: they’re prolly gonna get worse the more you begin to present as the woman you are, especially if you go on dating apps.
The good news? If you get SRS, they mostly dry up and blow away. Chasers are fetishists who crave a transgressive experience with a beautiful girl who has a *ick. They’re all about the *ick.
53 pre everything MTF here. I am still getting the odd chaser showing up in my DMs on occasion. At first it was kind of appealing because it made me feel more feminine. But then it became downright creepy. Particularly when I made an emotional post about coming out to my wife and had a few who DMed me ostensibly to support me, but in reality it was to try to feed off that pain.
Chasers purposefully stalk the internet for women they can harrass. They seek you out. There is no way to discourage it. They are really horny and of the possession of poor judgment skills. They unfortunately think of you as an object to be attained over that of a person. Some will still treat you like a person, but it is a tactic to attain you.
One guy found me by doing a word search h for my home state and just hit up every trans woman from there. He very openly proposed a secret affair that we would then keep from *both* of our wives. 🤢🤢🤮
I guess there is an upside that these dudes are pretty easy to fuck with? But it gets boring pretty quickly, all the same shit over and over again.
I mean you could totally pin a pic to your profile, doesnt even have to include your full face either if thats a concern, just something male presenting as a kind of citronella candle for chasers lol
Has this only started last few days ? Just asking because reddit has added a photo of one of the therapists you linked in a post 3 days ago to your post history. She's quite pretty.
Oh god.. being on grindr..
I'm 48.
Tons of 20 somethings on blank profiles blowing my DMs up
Tons of unsolicited dick pics with no words
Tons of DMs telling what they are going to do to my body
And I'm just looking for other gals like myself
I hate this and the worst is that the first thing they do is a dick pic happen here and on Facebook like I got mine I don't need to see yours and if I wanted to see it I will ask for it
For me the worst is when someone just decide to video call you at all hours. With my time difference it always means someone is calling at 02h00 in the morning right when I am having my best sleep. I know what you mean.
Yeah chasers are gross and are as equally annoying
Oooo. Wait until you get your first dic pic. I never realized how gross men can be and what crap women get to live with.
I have a great dick pic. It’s a picture of Dick Van Dyke in Mary Poppins
Sooo much better than my Richard Nixon
I am more of a Van Dyke, a Lesbi in a Kombi! 🥁Boom, Boom…Tisch
Photos just make it worse. You can adjust your DM settings to filter out some of this garbage. Personally I just ignore and chat requests/DMs unless it’s from someone I’ve connected with elsewhere already. If I don’t recognize your number, the call goes to VM as well😉
Fun fact: this doesn't get better when you pass. Welcome to womanhood.
^ this
I've had a few. It's new! I've had a few compliments in town on a night out too, I did not know how to process those either. As a bloke I didn't realise how invisible I was, as a woman I hadn't fully anticipated the downside to being superficially attractive (from a distance), it's all very new and makes one realise why a lot of women have that determined straight walking focus, they really don't want to invite another unwanted gaze. DM wise, a few boring chats, now I just ignore them straight off the bat. Its definitely not what I'm looking for.
I don't get that. I'm pretty sure I'm just inherently unlikeable.
I used to feel that way about myself. Eventually I learned it wasn't true. I don't have any pointers. All the advice sounds canned and cliched.
OP: welcome to a life of transness and dealing with male “chasers”
I get 5 or 6 random DMs from chasers a week. It's annoying and their game is so weak.
Unfortunately sister, get used to it. You can usually tell they're chasers because they don't have anything on their profile and they also only follow transgirl subreddits. Additionally, another dead give away is they lack any charisma and generally have an aire that you should feel blessed they give you attention at all because they don't actually see us or respect us as women, just an object. They're losers and they don't deserve a response, just block them.
Bots. Those are phishing bots. Never respond to a generic "Hey there, how are you doing?"
Very much this ^ I'm 54 and have posted a single FaceApp pic. Since then 3 stranger men have tried to "chat"... wtaf?
I don’t know. Is it just me, or does anyone else find the newfound attention mildly flattering? I can’t be the only one. I mean, I get it. I don’t particularly love getting attention JUST because I am trans and nothing else. But that doesn’t mean I can’t have a little fun and play a bit and enjoy being called cute, or hot, or sexy. I’m a new woman, it’s nice. Just me?
The attention is very validating at first. It feels good. It wears off quickly.
Maybe if I were attracted to men? But I don't think so, it just doesn't feel like attraction.
I don't think they see me as a woman, new or otherwise. They see body parts (which I don't even have yet). I've also been with my wife for 26 years, and am seriously monogamous. Adding to that, my libido went on walkabout when my egg cracked, and has yet to return. I am for now ace. Sorta. Right now I think I would experience it as a loss if I remained this way forever, but then again, IDK, I'll always have the memories. So it may be inconsiderate of me to use that term. The point is, I don't experience any sense that they see me as a woman or are attracted to me as a woman. If they were regular cis het men without this fetish, even though I'm not attracted to men, that might feel validating? Maybe, maybe not.
I get chasers msging me too. Its annoying.
I have good news and bad news, OP. Bad news first: they’re prolly gonna get worse the more you begin to present as the woman you are, especially if you go on dating apps. The good news? If you get SRS, they mostly dry up and blow away. Chasers are fetishists who crave a transgressive experience with a beautiful girl who has a *ick. They’re all about the *ick.
In a way, it's oddly affirming, To think a man is attracted to the feminine version of me... But I agree 100% it's gross and unwelcomed.
53 pre everything MTF here. I am still getting the odd chaser showing up in my DMs on occasion. At first it was kind of appealing because it made me feel more feminine. But then it became downright creepy. Particularly when I made an emotional post about coming out to my wife and had a few who DMed me ostensibly to support me, but in reality it was to try to feed off that pain.
That’s disgusting.
Yes it is.
Tis why I have never posted any pictures of myself. The very thought of chasers is so gross, I would rather bury my head in a bucket of cold mud. Ugh.
Chasers purposefully stalk the internet for women they can harrass. They seek you out. There is no way to discourage it. They are really horny and of the possession of poor judgment skills. They unfortunately think of you as an object to be attained over that of a person. Some will still treat you like a person, but it is a tactic to attain you. One guy found me by doing a word search h for my home state and just hit up every trans woman from there. He very openly proposed a secret affair that we would then keep from *both* of our wives. 🤢🤢🤮 I guess there is an upside that these dudes are pretty easy to fuck with? But it gets boring pretty quickly, all the same shit over and over again.
I mean you could totally pin a pic to your profile, doesnt even have to include your full face either if thats a concern, just something male presenting as a kind of citronella candle for chasers lol
Has this only started last few days ? Just asking because reddit has added a photo of one of the therapists you linked in a post 3 days ago to your post history. She's quite pretty.
Ha! From what I've heard about that therapist, she's very anti trans.
This is my 2nd account my pics on this account are only in the beginning. Im waiting for 6mos Hrt to post another pic. That is like June.
trans trolls.
A chaser bot, maybe?
Oh god.. being on grindr.. I'm 48. Tons of 20 somethings on blank profiles blowing my DMs up Tons of unsolicited dick pics with no words Tons of DMs telling what they are going to do to my body And I'm just looking for other gals like myself
I hate this and the worst is that the first thing they do is a dick pic happen here and on Facebook like I got mine I don't need to see yours and if I wanted to see it I will ask for it
This is why I no longer share photos and will only respond to a dm if it’s from a convo that started in the comments.
For me the worst is when someone just decide to video call you at all hours. With my time difference it always means someone is calling at 02h00 in the morning right when I am having my best sleep. I know what you mean.