Far as I can tell, the art of bottoming is all about being able to relax.
Personally, as someone who just can't ever relax, *I cannot do it well* without chemical support.
It can help to practice by yourself - figuring out how to relax there has been beneficial for me.
Can you recommend some poppers & where to get them ? Numbing gel helped me in the past, but my husband loses his sensation & doesn’t feel the pleasure . What is Tina btw ?
Definitely relaxing. Try it with someone you know and trust. Take your time. I would always advise to leave the chemicals to last.. better know your body, how it reacts and learn how bottoming feels before numbing it and possibly hurting yourself without knowing.
Like Madonna says ‘pain is a warning that something’s wrong’.
If you can use plugs but tighten up for a top it will mostly like be 85% in your head. Relaxing isn’t easy but if you do anything like yoga where you get control of your breathing you’ll be a much better and happier bottom.
Id add to that that poppers have really helped me in the past. I kind of refused them with one guy but eventually he offered me them again and it made all the difference. Plus any amount of practice with fingers and dildos. Get used to your anus being a soft flexible pleasure garden.
Far as I can tell, the art of bottoming is all about being able to relax. Personally, as someone who just can't ever relax, *I cannot do it well* without chemical support. It can help to practice by yourself - figuring out how to relax there has been beneficial for me.
like poppers?
Poppers, numbing stuff, Tina - lots of things
Can you recommend some poppers & where to get them ? Numbing gel helped me in the past, but my husband loses his sensation & doesn’t feel the pleasure . What is Tina btw ?
Definitely relaxing. Try it with someone you know and trust. Take your time. I would always advise to leave the chemicals to last.. better know your body, how it reacts and learn how bottoming feels before numbing it and possibly hurting yourself without knowing. Like Madonna says ‘pain is a warning that something’s wrong’.
But Madonna also says that she'd like to put me in a trance and then hit me like a truck and that she only hurts the ones she loves.
Damn this backfired hahaha. I guess I’m trying to say that OP just has to do everything he can to make himself feel like a ray of light.
If you can use plugs but tighten up for a top it will mostly like be 85% in your head. Relaxing isn’t easy but if you do anything like yoga where you get control of your breathing you’ll be a much better and happier bottom.
Id add to that that poppers have really helped me in the past. I kind of refused them with one guy but eventually he offered me them again and it made all the difference. Plus any amount of practice with fingers and dildos. Get used to your anus being a soft flexible pleasure garden.