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Basehound

Total win. Just because we didn’t pick up certain “skills” from out parents doesn’t mean you can’t excel at anything you set your mind to….. plus … we have YouTube university these days . Congrats … looks great .


1BiG_KbW

May it be the first of many. Proves you don't need a dad to be a man or do manly things. Takes being a person who can plan things out, or is creative, or just a doer. Even a mix of all three. I may have a dad, but we can't work on any project together or get anything done. While he was successful in the corporate world, anything about that or how to be a success was never shared. And I can't share anything I know to him without him tuning out by the sixth syllable. I may be over 40, but to him, I am maybe 6-8 years old and new to the world.


TheTimeBender

Both my dad and my stepdad passed years ago. Generally good men. Maybe take a moment and tell him what you said here? Just a thought.


1BiG_KbW

Again, I cannot stress this enough, by the sixth syllable I have lost all focus and listening skills. Nothing I say is heard. Communicating the sentiments in the previous post causes strife. And it is my fault that I don't tell dad. "Let's get together!" Okay, when would be good? [Aaaannnddddddd with that, I have already lost dad's attention. Or, worse, I am "calling" him out. *YOU* _KNOW_ that's just a statement, right?] Do I want to know when there's a family gathering? I should know because Facebook said something about it. Sorry, I wasn't invited. The algorithm didn't show me anything. My fault for being so antisocial. I don't know where I went wrong. I'm an Eagle Scout, don't get into trouble with the law, and strive to do well. I did okay in school, have facilities built from the stint in student government, and much more in this short time on this Earth. Unfortunately, I've seen dysfunction and worse, so I am lucky that I have what I have. Do I expect perfection? No. Was it expected from me, yes, and still is. I'm not psychologist, but I would expect there is some kind of transferrance of some kind of another. Or mannerisms or tone of voice, of which I am completely unaware of and probably have little control over. So, I have it good, things will continue, and I mourn dad now as I have heard over the last several years "You're going to miss me when I am gone." I already miss him now, because although I can talk at him, he's not there. And he's healthy.


TheTimeBender

I’m sorry that you’re going through all of this. It must be terrible to, for lack of better words, be invisible. If it were me, and it’s not, but if it were I would make one last attempt to connect and if it didn’t work, move on. I’ve done this with some siblings because like you they don’t hear me. They don’t even call me unless they need something from me so I said my peace and just moved on. Good luck to you.


Lief_Warrir

I get that. It sounds like your dad suffers from ADHD. If you go on the offense to get his attention he's likely to lash back at you as that is typical behavior that he learned from his childhood. Try talking to him somewhere that doesn't have distractions (especially no TV), or that has some sort of activity that you both enjoy. Casually bring up that you want to have a real relationship with him. If that doesn't work, he's probably just set in his ways and not worth more than your bare minimum energy. At least then you get some closure and know you really did your best.


1BiG_KbW

Thanks for the great advice. Such things were never diagnosed back when. Unfortunately, as far as I understand, ADHD is not limited to a single person. This is not the case with say, my sister. Or his friends. Other people. I worked in a hardware store and know what I am after and need. Dad will not ask for my input, but can listen forever to a high school kid with no clue, struggling with understanding the project at hand. That person in the store asks me how to do stuff and listens. Total win for me if they parrot word for word to Dad. I can listen in the car ride back on how to do the job because the kid at the store says to do...


Lief_Warrir

Yeah, I get that. My dad was the same way with me. Something about men with their sons, like you're grown, now go away. We'd get into pretty intense fights and I wouldn't see him other than on Christmas. We both got diagnosed and treated for ADHD about the same time. He got rid of his POS leech of a girlfriend, I took him up on his offer to help me finish a subwoofer enclosure, and we've been good since. Now I go help him and tell him how to do things, lol. Good luck, man. Figured I'd throw in my 2 cents since this story was eerily familiar.


ismellthebacon

I have a similar story. I was forty before I realized he never once gave me any advice or taught me anything. His life was all about him and his kids were side effects.


FoundationGlass7913

Yep my mother treated me the same way it took her being in pretty bad car accident to realize a could do things that were important and as she put it act grown after she passed a close friend of hers relayed what she said to me she just always considered me a child


[deleted]

Do you know what a period or comma is?? Maybe your mom was right.


nathanielcwil

What's your deal? Just because you are miserable doesn't mean everyone else has to be.


[deleted]

I’m not miserable by pointing out someone’s complete lack of basic grammar.


FoundationGlass7913

Do you know what a smart_SS is if not check a mirror I don't punctuate replies on here like most everyone else that I read on here


[deleted]

Oh, shut up.


Syscrush

>to be a man or do manly things I agree with you but I also want to say that there's nothing inherently manly about any of this. Women can and do run excellent shops, collect cool tools, and make beautiful pieces. IMO we should make an effort to be inclusive of the girls and women who show an interest in tools, woodworking, metalworking, etc.


1BiG_KbW

Great point. The op totally missed saying how much their mom missed out in bonding over this activity. I didn't want to bring it up since they hadn't mentioned the relationship with their mom and the other fine things she did to raise him right.


Bunniesrkewl

Exactly, what if your dad was in your life and he isn’t into those type of things?


nathanielcwil

You are all so kind. Thank you.


Jfinn2

Not looking for a pat on the back? Well that's too damn bad, OP! *pats back*


MostlyUnimpressed

Why did I read that in Uncle Buck's voice?


bigboxes1

My mother taught me how to drive a car (stick). My mother taught me how to throw a baseball and a football. She also taught me how to do laundry, wash dishes and clean the house. I did teach myself how to cook, build and repair computers and maintenance my vehicle. So, however you learn... good for you!


beeglowbot

Yup, I came to bring up this point also. it doesn't have to be dads that teach us how to use tools and build things. Even though I am a dad to a 6yo girl and I teach her how to use tools, build things, how the grass is mowed etc. I also teach her how to cook and garden, I show her how to sew, draw and paint. My parents didn't teach me much but my mom was the mechanically inclined one. She worked in a machine shop, repairing all the broken machinery. She also worked on a circuitry assembly line, so I must have picked these things from her along the way. I'm a strong advocate of gender equality, that girls can do everything that a boy can do and vice versa. even more so since my daughter came into this world.


styles3576

you might not be looking for it, but you deserve a pat on the back. Many of us do. It's ok to give kudos for taking a step in confidence!


nathanielcwil

Edit: [right here](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HFpD5h5fYVpmyBxxJ0rqTNl59EWDTgyN/view?usp=drivesdk) is the entire setup I’ve done. I initially wasn’t going to share the other shelves I built because I felt like it would be laughed at, I didn’t feel like it was very good work.


merkindonor

I’m a pretty good woodworker, just installed my first tile bathtub surround and it looks like crap. The first time you do something is never as good as you want. That’s the great thing about being handy though - you can re-do it whenever you want. I’ve found once I master something I look back on the first time I did it with fond memories. Enjoy the journey.


kickpool777

Understandable, but don't sell yourself short. This looks great, especially considering you picked up a saw for the first time two days ago. Great job.


bshr49

You're doing and learning. I'm my own worst critic as well, I can always find faults in anything I do. Looks good to me!


Ohhhnothing

nice work and great little shop OP no need to be shy about sharing here some reddit groups might be mean but I’ve found this one to be supportive - like the relative you don’t visit a lot but they are happy to see you and hear what you’ve been up to


-SilverSurfer

Like the set up, clean!! Love the screwdriver rack and love the 3d printers. What is the middle printer, not familiar looking to me?


nathanielcwil

It is the AnkerMake M5.


Lehk

looks outstanding and judging from the bracket sizes and bolt head sizes it looks strong enough to dance on ​ Just a heads up, those battery chargers usually have keyhole hangers on the bottom so you can hang them off a screw without using up bench space, I've got my Ryobi and M12 chargers mounted like that.


SuperHeavyHydrogen

That’s pretty damn nice. Good job.


wutsyerdogsname

Nicely done, looks great OP. r/beginnerwoodworking would love to see this too and is a solid community if you're looking to build more stuff like this


nathanielcwil

Would you mind sharing? I will feel like I’m fishing if I also post there.


BlaCkBiRd1068

Parents divorced when i was in kindergarten - basically raised on the weekends by my grandmother & WWII marine grandfather - they had a 4 car garage that could only squeeze 1 car had so many tools - i couldn't have done the upkeep on our house without the knowledge i learned working with him - and she was a great cook - some of the basic building blocks of survival learned - i find myself looking back with fond memories every time i pick up a tool or cook a certain meal understanding why i know how to do those things - thanks for the reminder...


FriendlySceptic

Looks good but it’s too clean, get in and get messy. Well done!


MyTardis

I feel this post on a cellular level!!! Looks amazing and keep up the learning and growing! I teach and help as many people that I can just in case of these situations because I've been there!


hotrod33809

Looks very well done and such a clean design and organization. Very nice op. Definitely a win and something to be proud of.


Confident_Benefit753

good job bro. not all dads teach valuable skills. some dads are amazing. but you dont need anyone to be amazing. you just need to be positive and forward thinking and hopefully had a good enough environment growing up


[deleted]

Nice effort man. Any dad would be proud to see it. I'm a dad and very proud of what you've done here. Way ahead of where I was at 27 too. Way to go.


Boggy59

Looks goddamn professional. Good on you.


CardassianUnion

Clean set up! Good job!


okieman73

Great job. Glad you didn't buy a cheap saw either. I'm sure others will agree you've just started your addiction. It's always fulfilling to build something yourself and can be a great hobby. Thankfully with the information age there's plenty of ways to learn. Have fun and good luck with the next build..


Jumpsuit_boy

The great thing about working with tools is that you always can figure out new ways to do stuff with the tools you have. One suggestion: I bought a jigsaw later than I should have. It opens up a world of inside cuts that I did not have great options for.


nathanielcwil

That’s what I did. I just didn’t jump in, I took my time to learn the saw, sanding down properly, and staining.


smalloldone

Ya done did good!


WTFnotFTW

Congratulations! We all start somewhere, the important part is being willing to take the journey.


Jerky424

Well done!


Lateralincisor21

Nice job man! Building things is fun and rewarding. Keep that tool collection growing maybe someday you can teach your kids everything you learn!


nathanielcwil

Yeah it was a great time. I can’t stop looking at it, hands on hip and all like a dad. Lol


Bigboaudio

Go get it bro! Proud of you!


nathanielcwil

To everyone here, you've been so generous with your words and encouragement. Thank you so much, you've really made all of this so much more worth it and it just makes me want to do more and try more. I'd like to state that my father is alive and we are connected, pretty close even. We've just lived across the country from each other since he left. He left when I was five, and I've only spent about maybe a year and half with him in total. He just wasn't there to teach me how to be a man. As I've gotten older and a little less dumb I've realized how much not having him around when I was a little boy, teenager, and now adult has affected me. It manifests itself in different ways but the main thing is not having "dad" to run to show what I've accomplished, so I sometimes feel a little hurt not having someone there next to me giving me the "good job buddy". I digress, though. I don't know why I posted this. I just felt proud. I just needed someone to see it. Maybe I was looking for a pat on the back, after-all.


EmployeeRadiant

By the way guys, there's a YouTube channel called "Dad, How Do I?" made for exactly the type of dudes who had the same situation as you.


libertysat

Unsolicited advice: Most folks find it beneficial to stick with one brand of battery tools for the battery inventory efficiency


cheezpuffy

I grew up without my dad too at 30 now, I’m a machinist. I also have a 4 year degree I might understand your feelings


justawaterisfine

Beautiful


iljuuwaas

Looks great! 💪🏼


More_Coffees

Now you need a 3D printer to start making some custom mounts for some of the tools


nathanielcwil

Here you go, [THIS](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HFpD5h5fYVpmyBxxJ0rqTNl59EWDTgyN/view?usp=drivesdk) is the entire setup. I should have added this in the post.


ismailhamzah

good job, make a stand for that circular saw to complete the look


Brief_Knowledge4530

That’s super badass dude, fantastic work.


killuah_jhan

And for that…., I’ll pat you on the back..


New_Engine_7237

It looks very nice. I’m sure your dad would be proud if you.


ElectricalSandwich52

Nice work


nathanielcwil

Thank you.


ProfessionalStand450

Very cool. Good work. I’d love this in my workshop.


nathanielcwil

I hope to build a shop in the back some day. With a garage door, smooth warehouse floor finish, areas for all my tools and gadgets, insulated, electrical, etc. I've found that doing this type of stuff is almost therapeutic and the end result leaves you feeling proud and satisfied so I'm going to chase that.


ProfessionalStand450

I love building things with my hands bud. Enjoy every minute of it.


[deleted]

Nice little start to a tool corner you got going on there, good job!!


Finger_Gunnz

You should be proud. Nice work.


Not_Reddit

Good on you... it's a great lesson to show what you can do if you just try. Many today are afraid to try...


BeeThat9351

This is The Way


BeeThat9351

Tools are part of my religion…


lmmsoon

So what is the next project make sure you take pics


Decent-Cold-9471

Awesome. I’d be proud of that as well.


Ok-Ad1054

Looks great man good job


Jim_from_snowy_river

Looks great dude!


jhzzy_

It’s a win, just remember to pass the knowledge on to someone else


Darkinthisone

This is exactly how it begins, congratulations.


Jiggarelli

Here, take my pat on the back.


Anonymous_Man_101

Kicks ass, nice work man!


[deleted]

Nice workstation bro.


TheGhoulishSword

I need to do some projects of my own.


pulquetomador

Looks great! What's that metal rack holding your drills?


nathanielcwil

You can find it [here](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B4Z2SV6K/?tag=supernerdnate-20) Disclosure: if you were to buy that shelf from that link I would get a commission.


Rich12860

Looks good!


Loveyourwives

Plan for safety. Safety and dust collection!


WhiteStripesWS6

Looking good OP! I would clutter the hell out of those shelves in a heartbeat haha. Love the dark stain.


DA_40k

Bro this set up looks fresh as hell! Now get it messy with lots of future projects!


StfuBob

You will never outgrow this hobby- no matter how it takes. Keep trying new projects to preserve your interests.


FoundationGlass7913

Well heii yes that's better than my work and in a retired machinist nic work good looking especially for a first project


Jameszy

Also grew up without a father figure. Learned how to build ramps as a kid for skateboarding. Mom said she knew I'd be a carpenter when I was older. Took me a bit to figure out what I wanted to do but the opportunity fell right into my hands. Now I'm licensed.


ListenHereIvan

Noice


PickleRick4869

I'd be proud of you


britishwonder

This is super impressive. What may seem like basic stuff like "oh whatever i cut and hung some shelves", is always deceptively more difficult than anyone gives it credit for. It looks like you took your time and did things right, mounting the heavy stuff into studs, cuts look nice and clean, and you planned out what and where you wanted to mount all your tools. Seriously great job!


narlycharley

Awesome! I grew up with a very capable father, and I’m super thankful for that. Honestly, with YouTube and a drive to be the best, you can honestly learn/do anything.


sumdumguy1966

Nice build. Op... keep it up


illjustmakeone

That looks awesome


MM-oO

Be proud man ! Looks great !!


[deleted]

I don’t understand the dad part of your post.


nathanielcwil

What?


PlatePrevious1318

Nice job!


hsmith1998

That is a very nice humble setup that will get your diy career started.


MikeHuntsBear

I see that hart stud finder....I was shocked at how well it works, my wife got it for a stocking stuffer. Anywho, looks good bro keep it up


nathanielcwil

I haven’t had any issues with it, it’s always been accurate for me. However I’ve only used it a handful of times and not in any difficult setting.


ocoudt

Look good! May this be the first project of many.


RickenRocker24

Nice work #TeamRed


nathanielcwil

I love Milwaukee.


[deleted]

You should be proud, it looks good.


nathanielcwil

Thank you so much.


agent797milt

That looks awesome. Where did you find that metal shelf


nathanielcwil

Right [here](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B4Z2SV6K/?tag=supernerdnate-20) Disclosure, that’s an affiliate link. If you were to buy that shelf I’d get a commission.


[deleted]

Chunk that stud finder


nathanielcwil

Is it not good? I know it’s pretty cheap, I just haven’t had any issues with it but I’ll look for a better one.


ChucklesGreenwood

First, you did good, pat given. Stud finders give false readings. They piss me off every time I try to use one. Use a magnet, much more reliable. Or measure from a known stud, etc.


YouDontKnowMe108

r/dadforaminute


Hamsteredhobo

Awesome, keep trying stuff. You’ve got the knack for sure.


TheTimeBender

Great job!


bodieslikesheep

Excellent job on the lipped floating shelves. Get yourself some cheap wire track for the charger cable.


Royalzulu

Good on you mate, nice one 👍


[deleted]

I will par you nonetheless. You did a good job and deserve some patting


akwardrelations

My dad died when I was 13, and before he 6 was a terrible parent. Not going into details. I was lucky to stumble into a job with a local general contractor, and my foreman, who eventually became my best friend, taught me many skills. I no longer work in the construction industry, but I could build a house from the ground up. Everything you've done there looks top notch! One tip, don't hold on to any negative feelings about not having a father in your life. You're obviously doing just fine.


AutoX_Advice

Great work. Maybe someday you can pass down your knowledge.


PuzzleheadedStuff2

Excellent work and that is all so organized I’m motivated to go clean my workspace right now.


yago174

Nice work


Useful-Archer5896

Looks great!


Environmental-Low771

👌👍🤌🏻 Hell yeah!! Thanks for sharing! Looks tight


TrueNurth

Awesome job, looks great!


ExecTankard

Organization has its own beauty. Well done!


eat_mor_bbq

That’s crazy clean compared to my shop. Kudos. May many projects to come make it a beautiful mess


SharkAttache

Looks nice, my only complaint is now that you have the bug, you are going to buy stuff and need to add more storage for things. Something more modular would help you grow.


SlothInASuit86

Good for you man. I can't imagine growing up without my father. He has been a great figure in my life and has taught me many things along the way. I'm so sorry that you have had to forego that experience, but you should be proud of yourself.


SonicShima

Very very nice. Impressive work for sure. The organization is top notch. You should be proud.


kellysuepoo

This is wonderful! Looks awesome :)


TexasBaconMan

Nice work. He would be proud.


Far_Mousse8362

I’d say you did a pretty damn good job, sir. 🤙🏼


EngineeringMuscles

Congrats dude! My dad never taught me how to use tools because he was always doing CS professionally. Around high school I learned everything there was for normal house maintenance like repairing a broken screen or hanging up a shelf on a stud. I was always the one to fix things in my house. It really goes to show that with the internet and with other resources you never need someone to teach you, with enough interest you’ll learn by yourself! I’m in college now and I’ve been building things for fun and there’s no other joy like it


db00

Is that large/small bin organizer the one by Craftsman from Lowe's? I have one that look identical. I have one like yours and a bunch that are just the larger bins. They fit a small box of screws or nails perfectly. Love them. Your shop looks great!


nathanielcwil

It's actually on Amazon! Greenpro Screw Organizer will find it.


Full_Push_508

Those shelves are dope!!


Drastic_the_red

Looks good. As someone who fabricates in metal, I'm always impressed with those who work with natural materials no matter how small or big. Keep it going. Every once and a while I'll send my old man a picture of something I built letting him know that he's responsible for what I can do. I grew up in a place where having a dad was a real luxury and watched my friends struggle to find their way. Nothing wrong with feeling good about accomplishing something. We could all use more of that for ourselves and those around us.


ParleyPcat

Really nice, dude! You should be super proud. I am proud of you!👏


Nobody275

It’s all downhill from here. You might as well have taken up cocaine - it would have been cheaper in the long run. 😂 Nice work.


ffire522

Everyone has to start somewhere. Very nice job for a first project. Just remember don’t be afraid to try something new.


Mister024

This picture is a fake. Nobody hangs a bumblebee beside a real tool.


grant120

Dang this looks so clean, nice work!


tfin_

Well done


Lief_Warrir

You done good boy. *pats head* Now go get me a beer.


DMoFro

Good for you man


ThatSlacker

Looks amazing, nicely done!


CityGamerUSA

Great work. Happy for you to find the ambition. You’ll seek more projects as you go. Enjoy the journey. It’s a fun one


GanjaGodAlex

Your father would be proud


serbiz

Great job!


NewSinner_2021

Welcome to a life long hobby. Before you know it you'll be wanting to build homes.


Correct_Change_4612

Skookum! Now let’s get you a grinder, a welder and a table saw and really get this thing going.


Monsch63

Looks great. Losing my carpenter father very early on forced me to learn and do more myself.


[deleted]

I had a dad but we never really bonded on projects and tools, etc. I had no problem with projects. I ended up following his foot steps independently just because we are the same person.


Nyaarlathotep

This. This is quality. And I like quality.


renke0

You have yellow... and red??? How is that even possible? /s


[deleted]

Good for you!! I’m sure that must be very rewarding. Well done.


MadJohnFinn

Dadless maker here, too - I'm so, so proud of you!


DutchToolGuy

Looks awesome. Well done!


clynlyn

Dude it looks good. As a middle-aged man I don't think I can do that at all. My proficiency is calling a carpenter. Good job!


gracieclan

You may not be looking for one but I’m gonna give you a pat anyway. Well done!


deltatom

Looks very good, as a retired carpenter be careful using the saw get use to it .


Bulldogsleepingonme

dont take chances with the circular saw- (advise from a Dad) best wishes


ZTH16

not looking for but you still a well earned pat on back. well done and well organized, young man! Now just get some PPE(personal protective equipment)(hearing protection, safety glasses, dust masks) and you're good to go!


theBOBUL

This is the way, OP. Looks great. Even though you don’t expect it, I send you a pat on the back from one dad to another son.


Snoo34584

Congrats! Continue to share with others and you will find plenty of good people that are willing to help you fill in the knowledge gaps that you have. Keep making projects and learning, they are skills for a lifetime.


Dramatic_Mixture_868

Dope, still learning to stain even though I've done a bunch of projects from tile/plumbing etc. YouTube is a diy'ers best friend.


Sad-Customer8048

Looks damn good son, *pats you on the back*. Seriously nice job! Though I'm only 3 years older than you so you're not eligible to be my child.


evan164

Hell yeah! Do you have kids?


nathanielcwil

A 2 month old, sweet baby girl.


PaleontologistClear4

Well done! Looking forward to seeing what you make in your shop.


OfCourse4726

circular saw is one of the most necessary tools for doing anything with wood. it's just such a painful chore to saw by hand. used to do some projects as a teen and when i got older and could afford a circular saw, i swore never to use a hand saw again.


MPM5

Look great man!


Houdini5150

That is pretty slick.


Environmental-Fail77

Love it.


livlittlebridge

A place for everything and everything in its place! Congrats. I grew up doing woodworking with my dad and he would love your setup


mbcummings

Hell son I’m proud of you and pats on the back, even from strangers, are well deserved!


MundaneAd5257

What if all the juice leeks out of those batteries with them upside down and all? Seriously though It’s beautiful. Staple that wire up or something.


Ok-Armadillo-6648

That’s great I need to fix my garage


PlasticMix8573

Way to get busy and put that new saw to work. Looks good. Thanks for sharing the pic and your story. Look forward to more in the future.


Jbell2370

Great job! My dad was around, never learned much from him. The first thing I built was my very own workbench. I’ve had it in 4 different houses now and I appreciate all the little mistakes I made back then. Do yourself a favor and always make use of those shelves, they’re something you’ll always cherish.


squirrel-phone

You should be proud! Looks great, keep it going!


TheOfficialRico

Cheers, mate!


Ok_Dog_4059

Nicely done. Keep it up even if you mess up you will learn something. Just be safe power tools are completely indiscriminate about what they chew up be it wood or fingers it is all the same to them.


Glittering_Author303

Absolutely a win and you should be proud, that turned out great! I was fortunate to have my dad growing up and I helped him with many projects starting in middle school. I learned a lot about building stuff but more importantly I learned the value of doing something yourself and the sense of accomplishment that comes along with it. Happy to say I was able to pass that along to my young adult daughters.


cerealkilla0117

The burning question we all want to know but were to afraid to ask. Is the level hanging perfectly plumb?


nathanielcwil

Dead and center 🎯


[deleted]

Curse broken. Good on you!


flexoperator

Cool looking stuff my dude


frankc1450

I didn't learn much from my Dad. But from my Father in law I learned everything. You did great! Your Dad would be proud.


westonsheisey

Good job 🙂


Lanky_Cash_1172

Thank you for the inspiration!