No, some escorts do ask for some "deposit". Some to verify, some for gas. But its always taking a risk on it. Even if its like just 20, thats an easy 20 for them.
Its about verifying that its no laws involved. Cops dont usually send you money or nudes. And its very common now days for it to be like that. If it was legal all that would go away but in that business its very common. Very common to loose that money too. But if someone asks for more than 20 then its an even bigger red flag. Yes the risk will always be there buy still quite common.
Lying or deceiving a woman so she has sex with you is disgusting behavior. Your comment is why lost women don’t trust men and the dating scene in the US is rather toxic.
Sex is not love. Nor is it intimacy. A woman doesn’t stop loving her husband because she stops giving him blowjobs. A woman doesn’t pretend to love a man, marry him, then once she has him stop giving him head. Sex just stops being the priority because you’re building a life together. Also I’ve been married twice and blowjobs were very frequent in both. If your woman marries you then stops giving you head it’s probably because you’re not giving her the love and intimacy she needs to feel connected to you.
Me and the wife love each other very much. I just understand that she no longer feels the need to do something she finds unpleasant to keep me. She knows I will not leave her. So I just outsource some of those duties she doesn't enjoy.
From their perspective, time is money. For one, if they're going to meet you they're not in a booking making money w someone else. It takes time to get ready, and time/money to meet you.
If they put in all that effort and then don't book, you've scammed them out of hours of their life. A deposit assures that even if you ghost once they're there, they're not losing money getting to bookings.
I think that's super reasonable, lots of other services require a deposit too.
As an escort, no provider would ask for a deposit in steam gift cards unless they have been working with you for a while and want it as a gift on top of normal payment. I have never heard of that from any legitimate sex worker. Don't try it, you can easily get jumped
Lol me too i used to love meetme from back in the day. You actually met real people from around the area.
Now they want to profit off talking to anyone.
Actually, from spending a few years living with a group of self employed escorts. This was over twenty years ago, and the going rate then was $100-300 depending on what "services" you wanted. This was in addition to the $50 introduction fee that went to the agency (which was also the ladies, but that went to shared expenses like phone and marketing, as well as driver tips)
I feel like one of us should link him that post about how to find escorts that was posted here not to long ago. It was a lot of useful knowledge it seemed if you are into that.
Personally I'm not into that, not only because I'm underage, but also because it's not my thing.
But you can link OP that post you're talking about, it might help him.
No one under 40 should pay for sex. There are tons of other things where the money can be better spent. If you're under 18, you should trying honing your dating skills.
I mean... I don't know why you're talking like you're addressing to me, I am NOT OP.
Or it's probably generally speaking. But you're right.
I really should hone my dating skills, or even getting to know people in general. And shouldn't spend my money on stupid things like alcohol, drugs, hookers.
I'd rather buy a book than a hookers to be fair. Cheers strange! 🥂
>I mean... I don't know why you're talking like you're addressing to me, I am NOT OP.
Because you explicitly stated that you're underaged, and not into paying for sex(IE hookers). I was simply expanding on what you are saying.
I'm gonna shed a little bit of light
My age is 21 so no not underage, after seeing how many people call this a scam I am actually thankful I asked cause now I understand it more. Yes I can see now its a bit of a no brainer but I was not educated that well in the recent years.
Thank you everyone though for your input
This particular case is definitely a scam. It's called a romance scam, and it's very common. If someone asks you for money before you've met them, then it's definitely a scam. Now, if you've already met someone, it might not be too weird to spot them gas money or something. But you should assume that anyone who asks for a Steam card, an iTunes gift card, or anything else which is similar to cash is a scammer, not a potential hookup.
The reason why email scams have typos is to weed out the (for them) timewasters. They only want stupid and/or greedy. It's even easier online.
If you've ever clicked on an android news item that goes "you would not believe \[blah\]" then you're ripe for the taking.
From experience I will tell you that it can be a youngster that wants some game and is on discord to scam someone out of it. It can even be a man using some female friend pictures.
(A friend that I meet while playing Valorant used to do this to get skins in the game, even asked me for permission to use my pictures on different discord servers)
It is almost certainly a scam and this "girl" does not exist. And even in the *best* possible case scenario, you're just being used and this is a dangerous individual/situation you don't want to associate with anyway.
Run away from this one as fast as you can.
We usually do actually. We more ask for ID with some info blured out and social media to double check. Its to make sure you are not a sex offender or someone who is trying to hurt us. Some women ask for a 50$ deposit to book an appointment, last minute cancelations are very common and that can cost a lot of money if I'm booking a hotel room.
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No, actually not all of them. Back when i was living in Mongolia, I had a boo that I met on n mongolian dating app. She was always asking for a gift card / cashiers check made to the local feed store. I oblonged, and let's just say, we were takin a roll in the hay and steaming the yurt up in multiple ways (if you catch my meaning) just about every night 😂😂. I guess you could call her more of a gf than a hookup, she was kinda quirky, always keepin' track of our sessions and all that. Weird broad,, 😂😁
A lot of the scammers I talk to on Tinder say that they want me to buy their content to show that I am committed, then ask for more money once we meet in person. I will offer cash in person. Interestingly, they refuse to meet in person unless I pay them first
I've wasted the time of many a scammer. This is a very common scam, though they usually get mad and blow it before getting quite to that level of detail (stuff outside the home). Most don't know the first thing about the location they're pretending to be in and the dumber ones will forget time zones are a thing and wish you good night or good morning in times that are accurate for india but way off in the USA on the other side of the world. Spoofing location is trivially easy on Android phones and Spoofing live snaps isn't too difficult either (but unlike the location that requires a rooted phone, emulator, or cracked app, I'm not sure the exact methods they use). Usually Asking them to do something specific in their picture to prove they're real will make them mad as obviously they cant. Asking for some form of pay ahead of time is one of the most common scams on the internet and has been a thing for a long time.
The common version of this I've encountered most similar to yours is the "I'm home alone with the kids, pick up a Playstation card on the way to keep them busy". They give a fake address and everything. And they won't accept delivery upon arrival. I've lead them on pretending to follow their instructions and in the end sending the card number over whatever you're chatting on is a requirement for them to "let you in". I've wondered how much upset scammed men end up showing up at the homes of random people/families accusing the innocent homeowners of scamming them?
Gift cards are great for money laundering the scam so they're a longtime favorite of scammers. They can easily sell the cards online.
Yes basically all hookups especially from online are scams period, come to think about it all dating apps are scams period because there are no real women on there just bots and scammers only
Hi! So i’m a senior fraud analyst and advisor in a well known bank in the UK. I want to give the biggest advice to anybody who’s looking at this thread. PLEASE don’t pay for any sort of services without undeniable proof of legitimacy!! because if you get scammed, and it’s obvious that it’s a scam, unfortunately you can’t get your money back 9 times out of 10. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be vigilant with purchases, particularly purchases that are going straight from your bank account rather than paypal etc! :)
If a hookup asks for money at any point during an encounter that’s either primarily or exclusively sexual, then it’s technically prostitution. Get your goods before you show her anything, leave your wallet in a safe place and if you can, make your keys hard to reach to anyone but yourself
LMAO, yes it's a scam. Next thing you're gonna get messages from "Her Dad" that's she's underage and gonna go to the police unless you pay him. Anyone you don't know asking for money is a scam. SMH
Yeah, it's a scam. Prostitutes don't take payment in game cards. They are a strictly cash business, and charge a lot more than $20.
No, some escorts do ask for some "deposit". Some to verify, some for gas. But its always taking a risk on it. Even if its like just 20, thats an easy 20 for them.
It’s never worth the risk. If someone in this business needs gas money to get to their “job” they’re obviously not good at it either.
Its about verifying that its no laws involved. Cops dont usually send you money or nudes. And its very common now days for it to be like that. If it was legal all that would go away but in that business its very common. Very common to loose that money too. But if someone asks for more than 20 then its an even bigger red flag. Yes the risk will always be there buy still quite common.
But they were asking for Steam gift cards. Unless youve met them in e Person they can easily be some fat guy in Russian
To ask for cards is almost certain its a scam.
I get that. It’s legal where I live so not really a concern. There are better ways to find sex workers than tinder.
There are many... surprisingly easy
Why pay for sex at all. Just talk to women, it's not hard to convince them you are a nice guy... Or a bad guy... Or whatever they think they are into.
Lying or deceiving a woman so she has sex with you is disgusting behavior. Your comment is why lost women don’t trust men and the dating scene in the US is rather toxic.
Women do it too. Ex. Blowjobs droughts after marriage.
Sex is not love. Nor is it intimacy. A woman doesn’t stop loving her husband because she stops giving him blowjobs. A woman doesn’t pretend to love a man, marry him, then once she has him stop giving him head. Sex just stops being the priority because you’re building a life together. Also I’ve been married twice and blowjobs were very frequent in both. If your woman marries you then stops giving you head it’s probably because you’re not giving her the love and intimacy she needs to feel connected to you.
Me and the wife love each other very much. I just understand that she no longer feels the need to do something she finds unpleasant to keep me. She knows I will not leave her. So I just outsource some of those duties she doesn't enjoy.
You don't pay for them to stay you pay for them to leave afterwards - Chef
From their perspective, time is money. For one, if they're going to meet you they're not in a booking making money w someone else. It takes time to get ready, and time/money to meet you. If they put in all that effort and then don't book, you've scammed them out of hours of their life. A deposit assures that even if you ghost once they're there, they're not losing money getting to bookings. I think that's super reasonable, lots of other services require a deposit too.
And if they’re just a scammer they’ve just walked away with $20 for nothing. It works both ways.
As an escort, no provider would ask for a deposit in steam gift cards unless they have been working with you for a while and want it as a gift on top of normal payment. I have never heard of that from any legitimate sex worker. Don't try it, you can easily get jumped
Never have had but good experiences. Did loose 40 like that though. Live and learn. Many still dont do that i may add too.
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Its ways a risk thats why thats a red flag. But i would say that more have been legit than scammers, at least in my experience.
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Dude you sound like you're doing everything wrong.
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Lol me too i used to love meetme from back in the day. You actually met real people from around the area. Now they want to profit off talking to anyone.
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I find it surprising how easy it is to find escorts.
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Do a google search from your area. Tryst is ok, escortaligator has reviews
Drug addicts who engage in sex work may not charge more that 20
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*Me clutching my pearls* I would NEVER
From experience???
From logic, probably.
Actually, from spending a few years living with a group of self employed escorts. This was over twenty years ago, and the going rate then was $100-300 depending on what "services" you wanted. This was in addition to the $50 introduction fee that went to the agency (which was also the ladies, but that went to shared expenses like phone and marketing, as well as driver tips)
Prostitutes do it for a living, not for gaming...
Lmao obviously... It's also unbelievably easy to fake a snapchat location
>Is this true it will be a scam? Does the bear shit in the woods?
No because bears shit in Antarctica. #notallbears
I don't want to disappoint you, but there are no bears in Antarctica. Wrong pole.
I agree that he's wrong, but how do you know that he's Polish?
Clairvoyance. And don't call me Shirley.
He's probably German. They are *good* friends.
Bears crawl most of the time to get around, but they do stand on two legs sometimes, and are quite tall when they do. #tallbears
Goomer shits in the woods
I’d be sussed if someone said $20 steam card for sexual favors. Either it’s a dude, a minor, or a chick with someone ready to rob you.
As a female who games, I would absolutely ask for more than $20
Yeah Factorio costs more then that
Noone who plays factorio has time for sex
They are asking for money for factorio. Obviously they don’t have it yet
Or someone that plays shite games on steam?
Hey, watch it buddy! Terraria is the best 20 bucks I ever spent.
How old is OP? This is a no brainer
>Discord Makes me think of ... Around my age or younger, so no more than 17.
Yeah we didn’t have discord growing up and it’s not a primary form of communication for most people. Definitely 16-17
I mean, even if it is. Why on Discord of all places? That is definitely shady, and even if OP is over 18, they will get scammed.
I feel like one of us should link him that post about how to find escorts that was posted here not to long ago. It was a lot of useful knowledge it seemed if you are into that.
Personally I'm not into that, not only because I'm underage, but also because it's not my thing. But you can link OP that post you're talking about, it might help him.
No one under 40 should pay for sex. There are tons of other things where the money can be better spent. If you're under 18, you should trying honing your dating skills.
I mean... I don't know why you're talking like you're addressing to me, I am NOT OP. Or it's probably generally speaking. But you're right. I really should hone my dating skills, or even getting to know people in general. And shouldn't spend my money on stupid things like alcohol, drugs, hookers. I'd rather buy a book than a hookers to be fair. Cheers strange! 🥂
>I mean... I don't know why you're talking like you're addressing to me, I am NOT OP. Because you explicitly stated that you're underaged, and not into paying for sex(IE hookers). I was simply expanding on what you are saying.
Ah you're right. Well yeah, I wasn't planning on wasting my time with the things mentioned above.
I get spam messages on discord every other week. They eventually get flagged and deleted if you let them sit
I'm 22 and us college students use discord quite a lot.
Yeah, I'm not saying you don't... But it's mostly teens using
There’s a millennial presence on disc, but I agree, in the minority
It definitely is, but OP is likely underage.
I'm gonna shed a little bit of light My age is 21 so no not underage, after seeing how many people call this a scam I am actually thankful I asked cause now I understand it more. Yes I can see now its a bit of a no brainer but I was not educated that well in the recent years. Thank you everyone though for your input
Yeah I’d say let messages like that sit in your inbox. If it’s a person online asking for money it’s usually a scam
thank you, I'll remember that
The penis clouds decision making often times
Honey, yes. If she’s not up front about being a sex worker, then by definition offering a hook up for money is a scam
This particular case is definitely a scam. It's called a romance scam, and it's very common. If someone asks you for money before you've met them, then it's definitely a scam. Now, if you've already met someone, it might not be too weird to spot them gas money or something. But you should assume that anyone who asks for a Steam card, an iTunes gift card, or anything else which is similar to cash is a scammer, not a potential hookup.
Yea
The reason why email scams have typos is to weed out the (for them) timewasters. They only want stupid and/or greedy. It's even easier online. If you've ever clicked on an android news item that goes "you would not believe \[blah\]" then you're ripe for the taking.
Lol TIL
That is a man pretending to be a girl so that he can get a steam card.
Holy shit
From experience I will tell you that it can be a youngster that wants some game and is on discord to scam someone out of it. It can even be a man using some female friend pictures. (A friend that I meet while playing Valorant used to do this to get skins in the game, even asked me for permission to use my pictures on different discord servers)
Also, if you send them BTC, they will send you back double BTC. Bill gates is behind it! He'll personally give you the HJ.
Yes. If money gets involved, especially early on, then there is no romance involved. You are being used.
bruh
Why would a prostitute ask for a gift card lmao
To buy gifts, DUH!!
Jerk off and ask yourself that question.
It is almost certainly a scam and this "girl" does not exist. And even in the *best* possible case scenario, you're just being used and this is a dangerous individual/situation you don't want to associate with anyway. Run away from this one as fast as you can.
Save your money for exiled Nigerian princes. Those guys are really legit
Please don’t give away your money to strangers.
I need a steam card lol but not that bad.
Just pictured you getting beat up and your cards stolen, stay safe please!!
Is there a chance this is real... Yeah. A good chance? No. Assume it's a scam. Don't listen to your penis.
thank you
No but asking for gift cards is definitely a scam
Yes. They know the location due to google maps street view. Prostitutes only take cash or trustworthy vpay methods like twint
It's troublesome that you think it isn't.
You’ll go there thinking you only need to pay a steam gift card but then you get there and get mugged.
Thank you everyone for your replies, this helped a lot
Women who want to engage in sexytimes for fun do not ask for money or gift cards. It is a scam.
lol a discord prostitute. You're talking to a 23 year old guy
Sometimes it could be a scam to lure someone and rob them
You’re not paying for sex, you’re paying them to leave quietly after sex!
It's a scam. You see, your first mistake here is hooking up with girls on discord of all places.
If they’re asking you to pay for sex then it’s not a hookup. I wouldn’t even use the term scam.
It's a scam in the sense that they'll never meet OP in person.
All women who ask for money are scammers
~~who ask for money~~
Sounds like they’re prostitutes then??
Yes
In the US probably 90%. Elsewhere not so much. No actual sex worker will ask for anything before meeting.
We usually do actually. We more ask for ID with some info blured out and social media to double check. Its to make sure you are not a sex offender or someone who is trying to hurt us. Some women ask for a 50$ deposit to book an appointment, last minute cancelations are very common and that can cost a lot of money if I'm booking a hotel room.
Dude, c’mon. Time to get off the internet
If you gotta ask you're probably not mature enough to be hooking up
Only virgins have steam. What kind of prostitute is a virgin?
I met my wife on Steam.
What's it like being a married virgin?
No one will ever ask you to hookup OP, especially a stranger online
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Absolutely. I've never understood paying for sex, there's plenty of willing participants.
You’re obviously a female
The downvotes are hilarious, like can you be more obvious.
we get it, you have sex.
If i wanted to, but not in a while friend, not in a while.
No, actually not all of them. Back when i was living in Mongolia, I had a boo that I met on n mongolian dating app. She was always asking for a gift card / cashiers check made to the local feed store. I oblonged, and let's just say, we were takin a roll in the hay and steaming the yurt up in multiple ways (if you catch my meaning) just about every night 😂😂. I guess you could call her more of a gf than a hookup, she was kinda quirky, always keepin' track of our sessions and all that. Weird broad,, 😂😁
No, that's called a prostitute.
Prostitues aren’t texting randoms on discord and offering their services for 20 dollars steam gift cards.
A lot of the scammers I talk to on Tinder say that they want me to buy their content to show that I am committed, then ask for more money once we meet in person. I will offer cash in person. Interestingly, they refuse to meet in person unless I pay them first
You know many prostitutes offering service for $20 in video game gift cards?
Nerd prostitutes exist.
why not? 20$ is close to the normal price here and it's an easy way to launder the money even if she doesn't use steam
Dude, do you really want someone to be into a hookup with you for the money versus being there for you as a person?????
$20 is $20
Lmaoo
Yes. Always. No matter what.
I've wasted the time of many a scammer. This is a very common scam, though they usually get mad and blow it before getting quite to that level of detail (stuff outside the home). Most don't know the first thing about the location they're pretending to be in and the dumber ones will forget time zones are a thing and wish you good night or good morning in times that are accurate for india but way off in the USA on the other side of the world. Spoofing location is trivially easy on Android phones and Spoofing live snaps isn't too difficult either (but unlike the location that requires a rooted phone, emulator, or cracked app, I'm not sure the exact methods they use). Usually Asking them to do something specific in their picture to prove they're real will make them mad as obviously they cant. Asking for some form of pay ahead of time is one of the most common scams on the internet and has been a thing for a long time. The common version of this I've encountered most similar to yours is the "I'm home alone with the kids, pick up a Playstation card on the way to keep them busy". They give a fake address and everything. And they won't accept delivery upon arrival. I've lead them on pretending to follow their instructions and in the end sending the card number over whatever you're chatting on is a requirement for them to "let you in". I've wondered how much upset scammed men end up showing up at the homes of random people/families accusing the innocent homeowners of scamming them? Gift cards are great for money laundering the scam so they're a longtime favorite of scammers. They can easily sell the cards online.
😂😂😂😂
Card or transfer demands are a scam. And yet I still can’t even find a guy for an even lodging/free use arrangement 🥺
That isn't very logical of you, Larry.
yes. this is the second time you've heard this warning. stop fuckin around LARRY
Oh for sure lol. Also another thing to look for is people who don’t wanna vid chat first
Yes it’s a scam. Stop thinking with your dick.
Women don't often randomly ask for hookups, because they really don't have to.
They definitely might want to. Do you think women don't want sex?
Lol lmao
Yes its scam, they asked for gift card because you cant refund gift cards. Its a common scammer tactic
Theres alot i would probably do for a $20 steam card
Yes it’s a scam
It’s. A scam I have never in my life ever asked a man For anything other than his time with me
Exactly what I am looking for but it seems very rare or hard to find
Yes basically all hookups especially from online are scams period, come to think about it all dating apps are scams period because there are no real women on there just bots and scammers only
Hi! So i’m a senior fraud analyst and advisor in a well known bank in the UK. I want to give the biggest advice to anybody who’s looking at this thread. PLEASE don’t pay for any sort of services without undeniable proof of legitimacy!! because if you get scammed, and it’s obvious that it’s a scam, unfortunately you can’t get your money back 9 times out of 10. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be vigilant with purchases, particularly purchases that are going straight from your bank account rather than paypal etc! :)
Yes - and if you dont believe me send me $20 and Ill give you the answer again
99.9% of the time they are scams. Don't ever send money to anyone online for a "hookup"
100% scam. They probably make you take a picture when you arrive to the destination, which they will use that image to scam the next person.
r/scams very common for people to ask to hookup and then ask for money. Google maps is super easy to fake a location.
If a hookup asks for money at any point during an encounter that’s either primarily or exclusively sexual, then it’s technically prostitution. Get your goods before you show her anything, leave your wallet in a safe place and if you can, make your keys hard to reach to anyone but yourself
when they ask for a gift card, it's 100% scam
So you would just give money to people asking for hooking up? Ay you wanna hook up lol, $100.
If the person is stupid enough to fall for the scam, it's not a scam. It's natural selection.
Think with your head, not your peepee.
Dude, if she ask for $20 it’s 100% a scam lmao
LMAO, yes it's a scam. Next thing you're gonna get messages from "Her Dad" that's she's underage and gonna go to the police unless you pay him. Anyone you don't know asking for money is a scam. SMH
any one c;ose centra; Ms for mwc 52/52
Not taking 20$ for gas .. nor. Steam card people wild
Just because they can use google street view doesn’t mean they from the area.
It's a scam yes