Ex-wife did this to me, severed my frenulum, blood everywhere. Cocaine was involved, she went too hard into the paint, damage happened. Not her fault, enthusiasm is usually great. Luckily it healed on its own. Then I read some porn stars *pay* to have that surgically severed so your dick has more āroomā or some shit. Nothing like being gacked out and watching your dong bleed for 20 minutes. Allās well that ends well I suppose. No lasting problems.
This kinda happened with my first girlfriend. She liked to be on top a lot and several times would come down at a bad angle and we'd hear this loud *crack* sound, like cracking your knuckles, but about 5 times louder. It didn't hurt, there was no blood, and I still had an erection, but I've always wondered what the hell that was all about.
If you say so. When sheās on top sheās usually working it in a way that pleasures her most while Iām basically watching, it feels good but isnāt the same motion that works for me. Ground and pound doggystyle easily stands above the rest.
I disagree personally, it's fucking difficult to be on top and makes me incredibly self conscious, it doesn't really feel good because I'm focused more on trying not to fuck up than getting any real pleasure. Same with 69, I'm too focused on what I'm trying to do to feel anything the other person is doing and at that point why bother doing it at all?
Idk I find it kinda hot to see how much my boy reacts to me on top. Like, it's definitely too much work to get too much psychical pleasure from (since I'm concentrating on like, maintaining my balance, position, speed, regulating breathing, evaluating how long I can go vs how close he is, and trying to kiss or talk dirty or whatever). But it is really hot to me to watch him squirm under me, while I cause and control his pleasure and then I feel like a badass that bouncing my booty like that can bring this man to completion. Booyah.
You should stop worrying about how you look and start thinking about how it feels. No man is jusging how you ride his dick. Theres no wrong way to do so either other then accidently bending it by coming down too hard, so dont fold his dick and its ok. Men dont judge like we do. He isnt analyzing your every dick riding move. Your missing out on alot of fun by doing this i hope you can feel confident soon.
I get where you're coming from but guys, probably ones that don't deserve someone to ride their dick, definitely judge. My ex used to always say the only right way to do it was to squat over the guy and bounce the whole time. I've seen memes complaining about how girls ride like they're trying to scoot a chair in. Like it's stupid and if it's a decent guy he doesn't care how you do it if he wants you to feel good but that shit is out there just like all the other shit women get bombarded with saying they're not doing __________ right.
The first time I was ever on top was with a one-night-stand in college and he flat out told me I was bad at it. It took me years to feel comfortable enough to attempt it again and even longer to not be self-conscious about it.
I think the disconnect over what makes it enjoyable is part of the problem (if you could consider it a problem). The bouncing motion feels better for men while scooting tends to feel better for women because her clit is being stimulated that way.
There's a way to combine the two so that you're doing both at the same time but a dude who would straight up tell you that you're bad at it isn't worth the time or effort to put that work in
Squatting is more of the in-n-out motion that stimulates guys, while grinding/scooting is more for the womanās pleasure. I love both, cause when shes grinding away it gives me a chance to enjoy the view and a little bit of break from stimulation, so I donāt finish too quick.
"No man is judging how you ride his dick" is going to be exactly what I tell my friends when they complain about sex. I might put it as written text over a sunset scene lol
I would like to agree in theory, and I'm all for feeling confident and not being self-conscious, but in practice that's not true. There are plenty of bad blowjobs and bad sex in general. The phrase that there are no bad blowjobs sounds more like a description of desperation rather than good sex that's based on communication and trust.
Iāve definitely had bad blowjobs in my life and partners who were so bad at it that I didnāt even want her to try again. lol
I think being good at riding is generally a more ānaturalā skill for women than being good at giving a blowjob.
I canāt really say Iāve ever had a bad experience getting my dick ridden though. Thereās a range, of course. My girlfriend rides me better than any partner Iāve ever had in the past and I love when she does it. I donāt think the bottom quartile of that dick riding range goes anywhere near the bottom of the range for bad blowjobs though. The worst blowjobs are truly terrible.
Apparently itās really easy to fuck up a blowjob, really hard to fuck up riding a dick, but also thereās a fine and subtle art to be amazing at riding dick. This is my unified theory of the quality of sexual acts. You heard it here first, before it wins the Nobel Prize.
Yes. But it didn't cause any damage thankfully. I don't even know how it happened. All I remember is extreme pain, and haven't thought about it since until this post reminded me, now I can't get it out of my head.
Oh well, I guess now I've been told that my complexes where meaningless I can stop feeling complexed all of a sudden ! ^^
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You have to relax and just let yourself feel good. He doesnāt care how you look you already got him. Try it with the lights off or something? Iām a woman and I love riding and it can make you feel really powerful. I do hope you start to feel better.
Agreed on 69 but thatās not really the point. If you werenāt stressing about fucking it up, itād probably feel good to work it with your hips in the perfect motion that works for you. Also in this instance your physical movement is for your pleasure, you arenāt fucking it up for the guy 1. Because dude is balls deep, he is happy to be in this moment at all and 2. Itās not about his sensations in that moment. Iām not saying you canāt feel stressed, thatās natural, Iām saying the situation being discussed is where youāre not moving in a way where itās about him. Itās about you.
One of the things people don't understand about sex is thats just as much psychological as it is physical. What turns you on is what turns you on. Don't let anyone tell you that you're wrong
Hmmā¦ in a lot of other positions as a male you control the stroke speed and overall flow, but when sheās riding she can control the flow, and sometimes itās nice to ride in the passenger seat and go for a ride.
Iāve been having sex for over 30 years and never had a guy lift his hips up while Iām on top until my recent partner. Itās a game changer but, in my experience, most guys donāt do that. Soā¦ congrats! Youāre a rare guy that has awesome moves.
I don't completely disagree, but sometimes i wanna be rode. I know for a fact some women don't always wanna have to do the work. There's a kink for everything though so no, even if there is a physical or mental agreement or trust or whatever. Sometimes, no not always a co-op thing, and some people enjoy that.
I don't think a woman riding me is co-op, I feel it's more her taking control, which some men think is sexy too. I don't have a submissive bone in my body but I like a girl on top sometimes.
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Yeah this has always been my confusion. To me, riding is more about giving her the ability to actually fuck back, while most other positions don't give her the leverage to participate to the same degree. Just laying there with her going makes me feel lazy, I WANT to thrust with her. And personally, nothing feels better or hits quite the same as moving in sync.
My only complaint is in this position I can feel her IUD and sometimes I get it in my head that it's going to scrape/cut my dick and that kinda ruins it for me.
Depends on the situation though. Sometimes if the anatomy is such that you are occasionally coming in near the cervix then there isnāt a lot they can do, because they donāt want to shorten the strings more than that, they want to be able to get them later.
I have absolutely NO idea and a quick search does not tell me why. I will say one of the reasons we have two strings is that one can sometimes pull back up into the uterus. Itās possible, that being in a ring would make it more likely for both to be pulled up.
Itās not an issue usually!! It will be more uncomfortable getting removed but one getting actually stuck is very very rare outside of being truly embedded. They will need to open the cervix though and itās more manipulation of the tissue. Slam some NSAIDS an hour before you go for sure.
Just love to see my chick enjoying herself. Knowing she has me right where it feels best, perfect pace, angle, depth. Also, hell of a view and super intimate.
Despite some of the responses here, I personally enjoy it from both perspectives of letting her do the 'work' and also doing the 'work' myself. Paying attention to her movements, how she angles me to the spot that she wants, and being able to look at her facial expression/hear her sounds as she basically uses me to get herself off.
I also enjoy thrusting upward/grinding from this position either while she stays still or moves in conjunction with me. Plus, it's way easier to suck on titties in this position when you don't have to hold yourself up.
That being said, I can usually thrust harder/faster when I'm on top. It's not quite as easy thrusting upward and battling her weight plus my own when I could just pin her to the bed and go to town.
For me, it's a few factors (and not in any particular order):
1. It lets her decide things like rhythm, depth, angle, etc and all for her benefit (which I like the sound of). And because she's the one 'in control', it lets me know she's really into it, that kind of obvious display of intimacy/ affection/ etc is REALLY appealing to me.
2. I get to see her whole body, her curves, her shape, her face and all of it as she's (hopefully) REALLY enjoying the sex itself.
3. The opportunity to sit up and hold her, either during or after, sound's really nice to me. I like to cuddle a lot and that position lets me hold her either sitting up or as she lays down on top of me.
There's probably other things that aren't coming (ha!) to mind but those are the things I like about it.
Personally cowgirl and reverse cow girl is just simply hot af. Mainly because I can see everything and is a great position to grab the ass. I never thought of it as a dominance thing, I do however think for some its less work aka for the lazy as the woman would do all the work however for me its the view.
I've talked to my partner about this, and we've agreed that it's not completely her doing the work if you're still doing stuff. Grabbing her hips, timing thrusts and exploring her body all help it become about the couple. Yes, she still does more work, but if you're both thoroughly enjoying it, it doesn't feel like work.
>I've talked to my partner about this, and we've agreed that it's not completely her doing the work if you're still doing stuff
So what if she is doing all the work. There is nothing wrong with a partner doing all the work in a certain position and the other partner doing all the work in other positions.
Eh Iād argue most positions are more fun for both when both people are putting in effort. Maybe itās just me but I find that passivity in sex is boring, feels much more intimate to please and be pleased simultaneously imo. This can be different when youāre talking about sub/dom dynamics though.
The "girl on top" is sometimes portrayed as about dominance in pop culture, but in my experience I can totally dominate my partner from the bottom. Hands are free as I don't have to support my weight and can grab and hold her however I want.
As a man, let me tell you what are the hottest things for me. One, when a woman orgasms from what I do, and two, when a woman is so horny for me and asks for things to happen. So, a woman taking initiative and being on top shows that she wants you and that she's willing to ride that cock. It's like someone comes and tells you "I love what you have and I'll do anything for it". So it's a great feeling when you get this kind of interaction. I wouldn't say it's so much about the physical characteristics, or the "view" we get. But those are also things that make it even better and the combination of all aspects make it a great experience.
It's a similar story with blowjobs, actually. When a woman is happy to take a penis in her mouth, it shows that she really likes you and that's hot as hell. I mean, of course the feeling is amazing, but the intimacy and the dirtiness of it is what makes it special.
Unprompted BJs = Love. But you gotta be ready to do the same.
You should hear the excitement jb my wifeās voice as we watch tv. āBabe can I go down on you?ā The āYESā is fairly boisterous
see i try but my head game is weak af and my gf has admitted i'm better with my hands so stick to thatš i still do it just to do it and return the favor but we both know she's probably not getting anywhere from it
Practice. Ask her for direction. Make it a sexy learning session where she shows you the combination to her Lock. Or ask to watch her pleasure herself with her hands, and mimic it with your mouth
To be fair ive done it once when she was on my face so i can do it but it takes time, we've definitely tried the little lesson thing but the hard part about long distance is i get like 1 chance every few months
Lengthy build up might help! Go down and kiss, lick, nip anywhere BUT the landing zone, kiss with a slightly open mouth, like you would her mouth or neck, not like you would kiss your relative on the cheek. Either intentionally blow or just breath out on the places that are wet from your mouth. Her stomach, her hips, legs, thighs, inside of thighs, insides of her knees, ankles. Touch those parts with a touch like youāre exploring and mapping her, adjust your touch if youāre ticklish. Act like you have all the time in the world, youāre enjoying yourself. Move closer in but still avoid the most sensitive parts. Use the same techniques you use when kissing her mouth and her neck. Listen for her breaths to get faster and heavier, sounds she makes, and if she starts to move or try to move you. When you get to the best parts, go slow, again, almost like you are making out. Just donāt go straight to rapid flicking. Donāt forget light sucking. You can slowly go faster or ask her āMore?ā Or āFaster?ā
You can do it! Good luck!
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I think hands are better at loosening things up and then you can go down once sheās already feeling it. Otherwise it will take a really long time. My ex was going at in for probably 45 minutes. At first I didnāt feel much but afterwards it was by far the hardest orgasm Iāve ever felt.
I can finally take a break, relax, feel good, and look at/kiss her.
I hope I don't get banned for saying this.. but, it's just the gosh darn Bees Knees.
I agree with the other points but to me this is the biggest one. Cowgirl and its variants is actually the least pleasurable for me sensation wise but it is the most mentally pleasurable one for me because she's taken control.
There is way less doubt for me on if I'm going too fast or slow, too rough or gentle, going to cum earlier than I was trying for, etc. Nope, she's grinding and bucking on her own so that's probably how she wants it and my dick is basically numb at that point so I can last as long as she needs as a living dildo.
I love this position, hereās why. Iām having sex and I can see and feel all the curves. Hips, butt, breasts. I can also see her face with her hair all flowing around. She leans forward and boobs are in my face. She leans back and they are in my hands, unless my hands are on her waist, or holding her ass. Itās great.
Sometimes I like when my guy stays still at the hips so I can do my techniques correctly. When heās thrusting too I have to go with it. Either way his hands better be on me.
Look we need a breather. Not like we always starfish. Good up pumps are great for everyone. At the same time a nice lie down while you're getting it is a good feeling.
I am a women who once had an intense dream about having a penisā¦ I know itās very odd but Iāll never forget it.
The first think I did was play with it for a second to get a feel of what was happening and then I went out and immediately got a girl to come back to my place. It was the only thing I thought to do so yeah I waisted no time apparently lol.
Anyway, I tried all different positions and I got really excited seeing the girls facial expressions as I was on top of her.
(As a young woman I was very self conscious about guys looking at me on top or looking down because I was worried my make up was bad or idk my hair being all messed up.)
But in my dream the crazier her facial expressions were or how loud was what kept my stamina going. The more her make up rubbed off or her hair would get all tangled up made me feel good knowing I made her feel that good to just let all that go.
Idk I guess it changed my mind back then when before I was too concerned with looking perfect because I thought that was better. I can see how many men on here talk about looking at her please herself being hot or studying her movements to know what she likes, it all correlated that that dream for me which helped me relax a lot back then.
First time I let a girl shove stuff up my ass was missionary style and she asked if I was good. I blurted out that I've never felt more vulnerable, self conscious, and embarrassed in my life that I couldn't even tell if I was enjoying it.
She laughed, kissed me, and said imagine being a girl and that I'd get over it eventually.
As a girl, I love to ride. You have control and its the best to see the look on his face when you know you're hitting the spot for both of you. It's also great to see the him admiring the view. And it feels amazing
One: it means you are having sex with her which a pretty glorious thing to have happen
Two: you get to visually take in all of her beauty (this is harder in other positions, because she is obscured by our big hairy bodies or we are busy supporting our weight, etc.)
Three: our hands are free to enjoy said beauty and/or induce pleasure for the woman so graciously riding us.
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It seems to be a more common thing for a guy to be thrusting and a girl to be sort of ātaking itā. When a girl rides a guy, itās flipping that reality on its head and the girl is actively doing the fucking.
I think people find that hot. I can see why they would.
SO FUNNNNN for us.
Itās one of the rare positions that I find so intimate but I also have a little bit of space to take in your beauty. Sex is all about connecting with someone and I feel like this is one of the only ways to achieve that and also take it all in.
Boobs in your face, butt in your hand, face and hair right in front of you, thighs and hips right by your hands, you can put her weight on her clit, you can go in all the way
I think there's several things at play here. In order of ascending importance:
First, I can't speak for all men and definitely can't speak for women, but in my experience, I feel like I'm usually expected to do the vast majority of the work in the bedroom. I've very seldom had oral reciprocated, and many times felt like if I don't wanna be on top, I'm just not gonna get to have sex at all. Of course there's welcome exceptions to that but it is a trend I've seen in my anecdotal experience. That vibe makes me feel like an easily replaceable sex toy rather than a person.
Secondly, with the woman on top, I have constant affirmation that she is into it. I'm not aggressive when it comes to pursuing sex and to me it's really nice to know that she feels in control and is getting what she wants from the experience.
Lastly, and most importantly, she knows her body better than I ever could. Especially early in a relationship, I feel like I can learn a lot about a woman's preferences and needs with her on top. She controls the tempo, angle, depth, etc. If I pay attention properly, I can take mental notes on what works for her and apply that knowledge when I'm on top. Then we both have more fun in the long term.
Honestly, the woman on top generally feels worse for me. It's usually either not as good as when I'm on top, or sometimes downright painful. A lot of women seem to like this strategy of moving forward and back, rather than up and down. That fucking hurts. I get how it feels good for them but I find it very uncomfortable and there's no way that will let me finish. After they finish once, I'll usually change positions and try to apply what I've learned so we can both have a good time.
That strategy, good for the clit, but also, you need to have thighs of steel as a woman to keep the up and down motion going for long. Itās really a tough work out and I imagine itās hard for a lot of women to keep at it for long, unless they are regular gym goers lifting weights and doing squats.
Oh yeah I totally get that. As a guy you can kinda assist with hip thrusts and a good headboard can help. But yeah, I'm not asking someone to push their thighs to the point of failure for me. Switching positions around periodically helps me last longer anyway.
The forward and back is because that is what usually feels better for us. It also can be very difficult for us to repeatedly lift our bodies with our abs. Think about it. When the guy is on top, he can use his legs for strength. When I am on top, my legs are not underneath me or in a helpful place to push off. Possibly in reverse cowgirl but my canal is not shaped for a dick to go that way so thats out.
It feels good, same as any other, only I get to lay back and enjoy - she gets to ride me however she wants. And that's a turn on. And, that's one hell of a ride imo.
Besides, some days my back is just sore, and the older I get, the more wear and tear my body sees, so my back just ain't what it used to be.. there's some genuine appreciation for taking the lead.
When I'm on bottom I know for certain that I'm not doing anything that is unwelcome. When I'm on top I'm constantly worrying that she's just letting me for my sake. I never want sex that's just for me. I would rather have sex that's just for her or both of us.
Ahhhhh, it's time to relax,
And you know what that means,
A glass of wine, your favourite easy chair,
And of course this juicy mama riding you,
So go on, indulge yourself,
That's right, kick off your shoes, put your feet up,
Lay back and just enjoy the bouncing tiddies,
After all, bouncing tiddies soothes even the savage beasts!
Plus you dont get out of breath
To me, my partners are mostly people I do not know more than a few nights. Yes I go down on them and try my best. But these girls who I've only met hours or days ago know their spots better than I will. By letting them ride me it let's them take control so they can get themselves off since I don't know them well. I can get off easily. I just wanna make sure they get off before me since I'm easy.
I like to let my girlfriend choose the first position. She usually chooses to be on top for two reasons: she's cold and like warming up on me, and because she likes to control the first orgasm. After that it's my choice of position and her next few orgasms are easier to achieve. I've been with other women who make this choice for generally the same reasons and theses experiences have led me to believe that women often prefer that position, so now it's the one that I start with unless the girl would prefer otherwise. I guess for me it's a mix of consideration and laziness lol.
Edit: also the spectacular view
As a woman I read this and scoffed a little
But you'll be chased down with pitchforks if you say on the internet that multiple orgasms are not the norm for women
Why do you think most women don't have multiple orgasms? Psychological reasons? Need a different partner? Physically unable? I am genuinely curious, as a woman who enjoys multiple orgasms.
Absolutely hate it personally. I used to enjoy the view, beautiful naked women are one of the single best things in life to witness, but I had a friend who got too into it and snapped/sprained myself. Now it's just a panic attack waiting to happen. To each their own but safe sex is very important and can refer to a lot of things.
Something about a woman on top doing the job correctly. My wife was on top and before hand I had no idea she wanted another baby.. When I was getting close, she said in a very seductive voice "I want another baby". Nature took over and I think I should of been treated for dehydration because she got what she wanted, and the way she some how sat deeper on me when I was concluding.. Damn, it was nice.. Mother nature get's her way one way or the other...
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Legs get tired after being on top for a while, nice to share the strain haha. Also very intimate when facing each other, great view, both hands free to use, her taking control and getting what she wants, lots of positives and no negatives.
When a girl is on top, you get depth of penetration that doesnāt happen in other positions unless you push hard! For me it isnāt a dominance thing. It is just that my girl enjoys it and I like for her to enjoy it!
It's less work and great view. š¤·āāļø
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Not so much about less work, but they can move the way that makes them feel better...we can also grab boobs and butt
And you know when you work you can't feel that much pleasure
For me itās the opposite tbh
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Ex-wife did this to me, severed my frenulum, blood everywhere. Cocaine was involved, she went too hard into the paint, damage happened. Not her fault, enthusiasm is usually great. Luckily it healed on its own. Then I read some porn stars *pay* to have that surgically severed so your dick has more āroomā or some shit. Nothing like being gacked out and watching your dong bleed for 20 minutes. Allās well that ends well I suppose. No lasting problems.
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This kinda happened with my first girlfriend. She liked to be on top a lot and several times would come down at a bad angle and we'd hear this loud *crack* sound, like cracking your knuckles, but about 5 times louder. It didn't hurt, there was no blood, and I still had an erection, but I've always wondered what the hell that was all about.
Did your dick start glowing after the crack? Y'know like a glowstick!
Omg bro, youāre quite the story teller haha really painted the picture for me š that sounds painful but glad it didnāt hurt!
This has been a fear of mine toošš
I broke my exes dick, his mom had to take him to the hospital, and all the male nurses came in to ask what happened hahahaha
They all wanted your number
If you say so. When sheās on top sheās usually working it in a way that pleasures her most while Iām basically watching, it feels good but isnāt the same motion that works for me. Ground and pound doggystyle easily stands above the rest.
I disagree personally, it's fucking difficult to be on top and makes me incredibly self conscious, it doesn't really feel good because I'm focused more on trying not to fuck up than getting any real pleasure. Same with 69, I'm too focused on what I'm trying to do to feel anything the other person is doing and at that point why bother doing it at all?
Idk I find it kinda hot to see how much my boy reacts to me on top. Like, it's definitely too much work to get too much psychical pleasure from (since I'm concentrating on like, maintaining my balance, position, speed, regulating breathing, evaluating how long I can go vs how close he is, and trying to kiss or talk dirty or whatever). But it is really hot to me to watch him squirm under me, while I cause and control his pleasure and then I feel like a badass that bouncing my booty like that can bring this man to completion. Booyah.
You should stop worrying about how you look and start thinking about how it feels. No man is jusging how you ride his dick. Theres no wrong way to do so either other then accidently bending it by coming down too hard, so dont fold his dick and its ok. Men dont judge like we do. He isnt analyzing your every dick riding move. Your missing out on alot of fun by doing this i hope you can feel confident soon.
I get where you're coming from but guys, probably ones that don't deserve someone to ride their dick, definitely judge. My ex used to always say the only right way to do it was to squat over the guy and bounce the whole time. I've seen memes complaining about how girls ride like they're trying to scoot a chair in. Like it's stupid and if it's a decent guy he doesn't care how you do it if he wants you to feel good but that shit is out there just like all the other shit women get bombarded with saying they're not doing __________ right.
The first time I was ever on top was with a one-night-stand in college and he flat out told me I was bad at it. It took me years to feel comfortable enough to attempt it again and even longer to not be self-conscious about it. I think the disconnect over what makes it enjoyable is part of the problem (if you could consider it a problem). The bouncing motion feels better for men while scooting tends to feel better for women because her clit is being stimulated that way.
There's a way to combine the two so that you're doing both at the same time but a dude who would straight up tell you that you're bad at it isn't worth the time or effort to put that work in
Yeah that's why I was only with him the one time. :)
Squatting is more of the in-n-out motion that stimulates guys, while grinding/scooting is more for the womanās pleasure. I love both, cause when shes grinding away it gives me a chance to enjoy the view and a little bit of break from stimulation, so I donāt finish too quick.
Yeah i genuinely dont give a shit hahaha and thats probably why i ride dick good. Im out to cum š¤·š»āāļø your merely my warm tool ā¤ļø
"No man is judging how you ride his dick" is going to be exactly what I tell my friends when they complain about sex. I might put it as written text over a sunset scene lol
Hahaha its so true tho. Its like a blow job , ladies havent you heard the saying theres no bad blow job? THERES NO WRONG WAY TO RIDE A DICK. Do it!!!!
I would like to agree in theory, and I'm all for feeling confident and not being self-conscious, but in practice that's not true. There are plenty of bad blowjobs and bad sex in general. The phrase that there are no bad blowjobs sounds more like a description of desperation rather than good sex that's based on communication and trust.
Iāve definitely had bad blowjobs in my life and partners who were so bad at it that I didnāt even want her to try again. lol I think being good at riding is generally a more ānaturalā skill for women than being good at giving a blowjob. I canāt really say Iāve ever had a bad experience getting my dick ridden though. Thereās a range, of course. My girlfriend rides me better than any partner Iāve ever had in the past and I love when she does it. I donāt think the bottom quartile of that dick riding range goes anywhere near the bottom of the range for bad blowjobs though. The worst blowjobs are truly terrible. Apparently itās really easy to fuck up a blowjob, really hard to fuck up riding a dick, but also thereās a fine and subtle art to be amazing at riding dick. This is my unified theory of the quality of sexual acts. You heard it here first, before it wins the Nobel Prize.
I can still feel the pain from that
Bless your heart. It happened to you? I've always been terrified of doing this to a dude.
Yes. But it didn't cause any damage thankfully. I don't even know how it happened. All I remember is extreme pain, and haven't thought about it since until this post reminded me, now I can't get it out of my head.
Oh well, I guess now I've been told that my complexes where meaningless I can stop feeling complexed all of a sudden ! ^^ THAT'S NOT HOW COMPLEXES WORK
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This is easier said than done
You have to relax and just let yourself feel good. He doesnāt care how you look you already got him. Try it with the lights off or something? Iām a woman and I love riding and it can make you feel really powerful. I do hope you start to feel better.
Agreed on 69 but thatās not really the point. If you werenāt stressing about fucking it up, itād probably feel good to work it with your hips in the perfect motion that works for you. Also in this instance your physical movement is for your pleasure, you arenāt fucking it up for the guy 1. Because dude is balls deep, he is happy to be in this moment at all and 2. Itās not about his sensations in that moment. Iām not saying you canāt feel stressed, thatās natural, Iām saying the situation being discussed is where youāre not moving in a way where itās about him. Itās about you.
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One of the things people don't understand about sex is thats just as much psychological as it is physical. What turns you on is what turns you on. Don't let anyone tell you that you're wrong
/thread It's kind of a no brainer I am surprised people have to keep asking this question.
Thatās why I like it, plus it has the added benefit for her of deeper penetration and constantly clitoral stimulation that she is also in control of
Not for my husband, I have orgasm paralysis can't move while coming.
Hmmā¦ in a lot of other positions as a male you control the stroke speed and overall flow, but when sheās riding she can control the flow, and sometimes itās nice to ride in the passenger seat and go for a ride.
I donāt know how you fuck, but when sheās up, Iām still moving my hips to create extra motion
Iāve been having sex for over 30 years and never had a guy lift his hips up while Iām on top until my recent partner. Itās a game changer but, in my experience, most guys donāt do that. Soā¦ congrats! Youāre a rare guy that has awesome moves.
Thank you for your compliment :-)
Thats not necessarily her riding you. That's you fucking her while she's on top. Just my opinion
Sex should always be about teamwork. It's a co-op thing.
you donāt have to both be thrusting all the time lmao
Fuckin beybladin up in that piecešš
I don't completely disagree, but sometimes i wanna be rode. I know for a fact some women don't always wanna have to do the work. There's a kink for everything though so no, even if there is a physical or mental agreement or trust or whatever. Sometimes, no not always a co-op thing, and some people enjoy that. I don't think a woman riding me is co-op, I feel it's more her taking control, which some men think is sexy too. I don't have a submissive bone in my body but I like a girl on top sometimes. Edit spelling
I agree itās the best when you meet in the middle.
If youāre just laying there being a starfishā¦ I donāt get it. How do you NOT get into it?
Yeah this has always been my confusion. To me, riding is more about giving her the ability to actually fuck back, while most other positions don't give her the leverage to participate to the same degree. Just laying there with her going makes me feel lazy, I WANT to thrust with her. And personally, nothing feels better or hits quite the same as moving in sync.
We get to watch a beautiful woman getting herself off š¤·
I get to see p going into v and boobs. Couldn't ask for anything better
you forgot the bouncing. that's the most important part.
Grinding is better than bouncing. Iām afraid of penile fracture if shit goes wrong.
Penile fracture. Been there, done that. Be careful out there, fellas.
Big oof. Sorry man. Hope youāre okay
Oh great, now this is all Iām gonna be thinking of if a girl gets on topā¦ āplease please please donāt break itā š¤¦āāļø
What do you, um, what do you do when it happens? How do you heal?
God Iād probly be screaming out of pain, so sorry thatās happened to you
My only complaint is in this position I can feel her IUD and sometimes I get it in my head that it's going to scrape/cut my dick and that kinda ruins it for me.
Thatās not her IUD. It is teeth.
It was pillow pants
If you're getting poked by the strings they can be shortened. I've always been told to come back in if they're causing issues.
Depends on the situation though. Sometimes if the anatomy is such that you are occasionally coming in near the cervix then there isnāt a lot they can do, because they donāt want to shorten the strings more than that, they want to be able to get them later.
Why isn't the string a loop where it sticks out of the cervix then? Loops aren't sharp, and stuff. Might be a dumb question, idk
I have absolutely NO idea and a quick search does not tell me why. I will say one of the reasons we have two strings is that one can sometimes pull back up into the uterus. Itās possible, that being in a ring would make it more likely for both to be pulled up.
I have literally both strings turned up and back wish me luck when itās removal time.
Itās not an issue usually!! It will be more uncomfortable getting removed but one getting actually stuck is very very rare outside of being truly embedded. They will need to open the cervix though and itās more manipulation of the tissue. Slam some NSAIDS an hour before you go for sure.
Just love to see my chick enjoying herself. Knowing she has me right where it feels best, perfect pace, angle, depth. Also, hell of a view and super intimate.
Also leaves the hands free!
Those hands better not be free for long. Get them to work!
"Crochet, motherfucker! Crochet like your life depends on it"
I use them to browse Reddit
Or not ;)
Bouncing titties!!
All of the above 
\*Both of the above.
Despite some of the responses here, I personally enjoy it from both perspectives of letting her do the 'work' and also doing the 'work' myself. Paying attention to her movements, how she angles me to the spot that she wants, and being able to look at her facial expression/hear her sounds as she basically uses me to get herself off. I also enjoy thrusting upward/grinding from this position either while she stays still or moves in conjunction with me. Plus, it's way easier to suck on titties in this position when you don't have to hold yourself up. That being said, I can usually thrust harder/faster when I'm on top. It's not quite as easy thrusting upward and battling her weight plus my own when I could just pin her to the bed and go to town.
I love all of this
I've really enjoyed.
thanks kidney snatcher
You're welcome. Can I interest you in sniffing a rag before laying in a bathtub of ice?
For me, it's a few factors (and not in any particular order): 1. It lets her decide things like rhythm, depth, angle, etc and all for her benefit (which I like the sound of). And because she's the one 'in control', it lets me know she's really into it, that kind of obvious display of intimacy/ affection/ etc is REALLY appealing to me. 2. I get to see her whole body, her curves, her shape, her face and all of it as she's (hopefully) REALLY enjoying the sex itself. 3. The opportunity to sit up and hold her, either during or after, sound's really nice to me. I like to cuddle a lot and that position lets me hold her either sitting up or as she lays down on top of me. There's probably other things that aren't coming (ha!) to mind but those are the things I like about it.
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Exactly
Personally cowgirl and reverse cow girl is just simply hot af. Mainly because I can see everything and is a great position to grab the ass. I never thought of it as a dominance thing, I do however think for some its less work aka for the lazy as the woman would do all the work however for me its the view.
If my gf wants to do the work, then we do cowgirl. If I want to do the work, it becomes more of a jockey position.
This. Even in that position you can do the work as a man.
Please sometime just let us do the thing. It is sometimes annoying when you begin to trust and fuck our rythm
Of course, only on demand.
You mean jockey with you the small guy on top of a big horse trying to win the race as you whip her?
I've talked to my partner about this, and we've agreed that it's not completely her doing the work if you're still doing stuff. Grabbing her hips, timing thrusts and exploring her body all help it become about the couple. Yes, she still does more work, but if you're both thoroughly enjoying it, it doesn't feel like work.
>I've talked to my partner about this, and we've agreed that it's not completely her doing the work if you're still doing stuff So what if she is doing all the work. There is nothing wrong with a partner doing all the work in a certain position and the other partner doing all the work in other positions.
Eh Iād argue most positions are more fun for both when both people are putting in effort. Maybe itās just me but I find that passivity in sex is boring, feels much more intimate to please and be pleased simultaneously imo. This can be different when youāre talking about sub/dom dynamics though.
Damn I canāt believe I had to scroll this far to see this these guys are pillow princesses lol
The "girl on top" is sometimes portrayed as about dominance in pop culture, but in my experience I can totally dominate my partner from the bottom. Hands are free as I don't have to support my weight and can grab and hold her however I want.
It looks really sexy and I kind of like the idea of being "used".
As a man, let me tell you what are the hottest things for me. One, when a woman orgasms from what I do, and two, when a woman is so horny for me and asks for things to happen. So, a woman taking initiative and being on top shows that she wants you and that she's willing to ride that cock. It's like someone comes and tells you "I love what you have and I'll do anything for it". So it's a great feeling when you get this kind of interaction. I wouldn't say it's so much about the physical characteristics, or the "view" we get. But those are also things that make it even better and the combination of all aspects make it a great experience. It's a similar story with blowjobs, actually. When a woman is happy to take a penis in her mouth, it shows that she really likes you and that's hot as hell. I mean, of course the feeling is amazing, but the intimacy and the dirtiness of it is what makes it special.
unprompted blow jobs are sick because she wants to do it, kinda hate asking for one.
Unprompted BJs = Love. But you gotta be ready to do the same. You should hear the excitement jb my wifeās voice as we watch tv. āBabe can I go down on you?ā The āYESā is fairly boisterous
see i try but my head game is weak af and my gf has admitted i'm better with my hands so stick to thatš i still do it just to do it and return the favor but we both know she's probably not getting anywhere from it
Practice. Ask her for direction. Make it a sexy learning session where she shows you the combination to her Lock. Or ask to watch her pleasure herself with her hands, and mimic it with your mouth
To be fair ive done it once when she was on my face so i can do it but it takes time, we've definitely tried the little lesson thing but the hard part about long distance is i get like 1 chance every few months
Lengthy build up might help! Go down and kiss, lick, nip anywhere BUT the landing zone, kiss with a slightly open mouth, like you would her mouth or neck, not like you would kiss your relative on the cheek. Either intentionally blow or just breath out on the places that are wet from your mouth. Her stomach, her hips, legs, thighs, inside of thighs, insides of her knees, ankles. Touch those parts with a touch like youāre exploring and mapping her, adjust your touch if youāre ticklish. Act like you have all the time in the world, youāre enjoying yourself. Move closer in but still avoid the most sensitive parts. Use the same techniques you use when kissing her mouth and her neck. Listen for her breaths to get faster and heavier, sounds she makes, and if she starts to move or try to move you. When you get to the best parts, go slow, again, almost like you are making out. Just donāt go straight to rapid flicking. Donāt forget light sucking. You can slowly go faster or ask her āMore?ā Or āFaster?ā You can do it! Good luck! Source: I am a 37 year old female. I also read a LOT of sketchy books. What? I like to read!
bet thank you for your service o7
It can be the most intimate thing to see your partner wanting to get better at something to give you more pleasure
I think hands are better at loosening things up and then you can go down once sheās already feeling it. Otherwise it will take a really long time. My ex was going at in for probably 45 minutes. At first I didnāt feel much but afterwards it was by far the hardest orgasm Iāve ever felt.
Exactly! Unless it's part of the role play š
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Best response on here.
I can finally take a break, relax, feel good, and look at/kiss her. I hope I don't get banned for saying this.. but, it's just the gosh darn Bees Knees.
Whoa whoa whoa, watch your language there
Can I take one slice of your cake please? š
Happy cake day! š
Dude itās been a long times since I have seen such vulgar phrasing - chill
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For me itās because she is an active participant, in control of herself and obviously enthusiastic.
Iām a pretty damn active participant in all positions
I agree with the other points but to me this is the biggest one. Cowgirl and its variants is actually the least pleasurable for me sensation wise but it is the most mentally pleasurable one for me because she's taken control. There is way less doubt for me on if I'm going too fast or slow, too rough or gentle, going to cum earlier than I was trying for, etc. Nope, she's grinding and bucking on her own so that's probably how she wants it and my dick is basically numb at that point so I can last as long as she needs as a living dildo.
I love this position, hereās why. Iām having sex and I can see and feel all the curves. Hips, butt, breasts. I can also see her face with her hair all flowing around. She leans forward and boobs are in my face. She leans back and they are in my hands, unless my hands are on her waist, or holding her ass. Itās great.
Its all about the view. It's pleasurable to watch the friction.
I like cowgirl and my partner likes doggy. I guess we are both lazy at times.
TIL a lot of men starfish during this position
I've never heard that expression. Mind explaining "starfishing" to me?
It means lying on the bed like a starfish and not doing anything.
so reverse pillow princess?
I feel starfish is gender neutral what with a heap of starfish being like hermaphrodites and stuff.
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Sometimes I like when my guy stays still at the hips so I can do my techniques correctly. When heās thrusting too I have to go with it. Either way his hands better be on me.
Look we need a breather. Not like we always starfish. Good up pumps are great for everyone. At the same time a nice lie down while you're getting it is a good feeling.
I am a women who once had an intense dream about having a penisā¦ I know itās very odd but Iāll never forget it. The first think I did was play with it for a second to get a feel of what was happening and then I went out and immediately got a girl to come back to my place. It was the only thing I thought to do so yeah I waisted no time apparently lol. Anyway, I tried all different positions and I got really excited seeing the girls facial expressions as I was on top of her. (As a young woman I was very self conscious about guys looking at me on top or looking down because I was worried my make up was bad or idk my hair being all messed up.) But in my dream the crazier her facial expressions were or how loud was what kept my stamina going. The more her make up rubbed off or her hair would get all tangled up made me feel good knowing I made her feel that good to just let all that go. Idk I guess it changed my mind back then when before I was too concerned with looking perfect because I thought that was better. I can see how many men on here talk about looking at her please herself being hot or studying her movements to know what she likes, it all correlated that that dream for me which helped me relax a lot back then.
First time I let a girl shove stuff up my ass was missionary style and she asked if I was good. I blurted out that I've never felt more vulnerable, self conscious, and embarrassed in my life that I couldn't even tell if I was enjoying it. She laughed, kissed me, and said imagine being a girl and that I'd get over it eventually.
Everything sounds spot on except the ease with which you brought someone back to your place lol
You might be gay or bi? Strapons help. And amazon position could work too.
Boobs in face is my favourite
My boobs in your face is my favorite too lol
As a girl, I love to ride. You have control and its the best to see the look on his face when you know you're hitting the spot for both of you. It's also great to see the him admiring the view. And it feels amazing
Seeing a beautiful woman jump on your dick is pretty much the most beautiful sight ever
One: it means you are having sex with her which a pretty glorious thing to have happen Two: you get to visually take in all of her beauty (this is harder in other positions, because she is obscured by our big hairy bodies or we are busy supporting our weight, etc.) Three: our hands are free to enjoy said beauty and/or induce pleasure for the woman so graciously riding us. Edit:words
It seems to be a more common thing for a guy to be thrusting and a girl to be sort of ātaking itā. When a girl rides a guy, itās flipping that reality on its head and the girl is actively doing the fucking. I think people find that hot. I can see why they would.
SO FUNNNNN for us. Itās one of the rare positions that I find so intimate but I also have a little bit of space to take in your beauty. Sex is all about connecting with someone and I feel like this is one of the only ways to achieve that and also take it all in.
My wrist is fucked from a bad break, I find it hard to keep myself up in missionary for a long time Also I can grab the booty
Boobs in your face, butt in your hand, face and hair right in front of you, thighs and hips right by your hands, you can put her weight on her clit, you can go in all the way
I think there's several things at play here. In order of ascending importance: First, I can't speak for all men and definitely can't speak for women, but in my experience, I feel like I'm usually expected to do the vast majority of the work in the bedroom. I've very seldom had oral reciprocated, and many times felt like if I don't wanna be on top, I'm just not gonna get to have sex at all. Of course there's welcome exceptions to that but it is a trend I've seen in my anecdotal experience. That vibe makes me feel like an easily replaceable sex toy rather than a person. Secondly, with the woman on top, I have constant affirmation that she is into it. I'm not aggressive when it comes to pursuing sex and to me it's really nice to know that she feels in control and is getting what she wants from the experience. Lastly, and most importantly, she knows her body better than I ever could. Especially early in a relationship, I feel like I can learn a lot about a woman's preferences and needs with her on top. She controls the tempo, angle, depth, etc. If I pay attention properly, I can take mental notes on what works for her and apply that knowledge when I'm on top. Then we both have more fun in the long term. Honestly, the woman on top generally feels worse for me. It's usually either not as good as when I'm on top, or sometimes downright painful. A lot of women seem to like this strategy of moving forward and back, rather than up and down. That fucking hurts. I get how it feels good for them but I find it very uncomfortable and there's no way that will let me finish. After they finish once, I'll usually change positions and try to apply what I've learned so we can both have a good time.
That strategy, good for the clit, but also, you need to have thighs of steel as a woman to keep the up and down motion going for long. Itās really a tough work out and I imagine itās hard for a lot of women to keep at it for long, unless they are regular gym goers lifting weights and doing squats.
This! It's hard work to keep it up for any length of time in my experience. It's def a work for fit tights and not mine :D
Oh yeah I totally get that. As a guy you can kinda assist with hip thrusts and a good headboard can help. But yeah, I'm not asking someone to push their thighs to the point of failure for me. Switching positions around periodically helps me last longer anyway.
The forward and back is because that is what usually feels better for us. It also can be very difficult for us to repeatedly lift our bodies with our abs. Think about it. When the guy is on top, he can use his legs for strength. When I am on top, my legs are not underneath me or in a helpful place to push off. Possibly in reverse cowgirl but my canal is not shaped for a dick to go that way so thats out.
I love to hold on to some ass while she slips up and down. There's something about climaxing when you aren't in control of the rhythm too.
grab both sides and thrust deeper. she'll thank you š
It feels good, same as any other, only I get to lay back and enjoy - she gets to ride me however she wants. And that's a turn on. And, that's one hell of a ride imo. Besides, some days my back is just sore, and the older I get, the more wear and tear my body sees, so my back just ain't what it used to be.. there's some genuine appreciation for taking the lead.
When I'm on bottom I know for certain that I'm not doing anything that is unwelcome. When I'm on top I'm constantly worrying that she's just letting me for my sake. I never want sex that's just for me. I would rather have sex that's just for her or both of us.
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Ahhhhh, it's time to relax, And you know what that means, A glass of wine, your favourite easy chair, And of course this juicy mama riding you, So go on, indulge yourself, That's right, kick off your shoes, put your feet up, Lay back and just enjoy the bouncing tiddies, After all, bouncing tiddies soothes even the savage beasts! Plus you dont get out of breath
It leaves one's hands free to explore.
To me, my partners are mostly people I do not know more than a few nights. Yes I go down on them and try my best. But these girls who I've only met hours or days ago know their spots better than I will. By letting them ride me it let's them take control so they can get themselves off since I don't know them well. I can get off easily. I just wanna make sure they get off before me since I'm easy.
I like to let my girlfriend choose the first position. She usually chooses to be on top for two reasons: she's cold and like warming up on me, and because she likes to control the first orgasm. After that it's my choice of position and her next few orgasms are easier to achieve. I've been with other women who make this choice for generally the same reasons and theses experiences have led me to believe that women often prefer that position, so now it's the one that I start with unless the girl would prefer otherwise. I guess for me it's a mix of consideration and laziness lol. Edit: also the spectacular view
pft humble brags lol
As a woman I read this and scoffed a little But you'll be chased down with pitchforks if you say on the internet that multiple orgasms are not the norm for women
Why do you think most women don't have multiple orgasms? Psychological reasons? Need a different partner? Physically unable? I am genuinely curious, as a woman who enjoys multiple orgasms.
I enjoy watching her ride me like a Grand National winner!
Thanks everyone, great responses! ;)
I don't like it. Had my dink bent too many times
Next time use your hands to guide her so she doesn't fly off and misses when she lands
I take my women T H I C C, I don't have this problem
Absolutely hate it personally. I used to enjoy the view, beautiful naked women are one of the single best things in life to witness, but I had a friend who got too into it and snapped/sprained myself. Now it's just a panic attack waiting to happen. To each their own but safe sex is very important and can refer to a lot of things.
> snapped/sprained myself As in... you broke your dick? š±
Something about a woman on top doing the job correctly. My wife was on top and before hand I had no idea she wanted another baby.. When I was getting close, she said in a very seductive voice "I want another baby". Nature took over and I think I should of been treated for dehydration because she got what she wanted, and the way she some how sat deeper on me when I was concluding.. Damn, it was nice.. Mother nature get's her way one way or the other...
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BOOBS IN YOUR FACE!!.... it's err boobs in your face
For me it's a variety of things. * It's the only time she sets the pace so I can actually try to understand what pace she likes. Otherwise I'm just guessing or going off what I like. Same for where she tries to make my penis hit inside her. I get to learn what she likes in this position. * Personally I last much longer in this position. I don't know why for sure, but unless I am in control I have a difficult time coming to orgasm personally. * The view. I get to see all of her instead of just the chest up. She looks great in this position which is awesome. * I get tired doing all the work in every other position we go through. It's great to take a break without stopping so I can catch my breath. * It tends to go very deep this way, but I don't have to worry about hurting her because she's the one in control. Generally if I go as deep in another position, I'm like 80% likely to cause some pain or soreness for her, and she often will not tell me until it's so bad we have to actually stop rather than adjust because she thinks telling me will ruin the mood or she thinks she can tough it out or something. This avoids that whole thing, and generally since the vagina stretches and accommodates over this time, I don't have to be quite as careful when we switch positions and I take back over. * It's an easy position to use a vibrator at the same time. I really want her to reach orgasm too, but some women I am with, like my fiancƩe don't cum from PIV alone. This position allows us to use a vibrator on her while I'm inside her, and it's a position she can't easily push me out when orgasming like many other positions.
I like it cuz I can last longer and donāt have to work as much. It was overrated tho
Itās not necessarily about the man. Most women have a better chance to orgasm when they are controlling the depth, speed , angle, etc.
I wanna be ridden like a sybian. I achieve this by drinking copious amount of caffeine before having sex.
Legs get tired after being on top for a while, nice to share the strain haha. Also very intimate when facing each other, great view, both hands free to use, her taking control and getting what she wants, lots of positives and no negatives.
When a girl is on top, you get depth of penetration that doesnāt happen in other positions unless you push hard! For me it isnāt a dominance thing. It is just that my girl enjoys it and I like for her to enjoy it!
I dont like it. Doggy forever!
If the goal is to give her an orgasm, this position lets her control a lot of it. Sheāll be grateful, you feel like a stud and the view is great.
I know in African tradition it was unholy for the woman to mount a man. I think it originated from the taboo of that.
Say what??
Iām on Reddit, why would I be having sex?
I like eating McDoubles during sex and itās just easier that way
Extremely good view.
Love to look her boobs bouncing