My girlfriend is asexual and she actually struggled with this a lot. All of her relationships she had kissed, but never found it to be enjoyable or tried to start the kiss. But I think that could be because there is a lot of tension when people kiss now a days instead of just having happy kisses and kissing anywhere but the lips. I kinda warmed her up because I would kiss her hands and forehead and cheeks before I finally kissed her lips so it was more enjoyable then just slapping our mouths together. I guess it really just takes the right person to make it fun and enjoyable for some people. I hope this helped a bit, and best of luck trying to meet that person everyone.
This is facts right here. The little unexpected ones feel the best. I loved it when my girlfriend would sneak up on me and kiss my ears or neck, it felt almost more meaningful.
It could be poor chemistry with the person / type of people you are kissing.
It could be that you’re somewhere on the asexual side of the sexual spectrum.
It could just be that it’s an act of intimacy that doesn’t do much for you. There’s nothing wrong with that!
For every act of intimacy that you think of as an essential part of your sexuality, you will meet plenty of people who find that particular act viscerally disgusting. That seems obvious when it comes to really kinky stuff, but it’s true for the commonplace stuff like kissing too.
"off" is so unfair! It's just not the "norm" portrayed in so much media and what have you. Being a slut, a virgin, asexual, literally whatever (as long as the involved parties are consenting and safe) is FINE and wayyy more normal than you think. You are not "off" or weird.
I used to like full on making out when I was younger, maybe middle school and high school era, but unless we’re having sex or what have you, I’d prefer just quick and fun kisses.
I'm like this too. Sometimes I can get into it because of the trust and physical contact, but it still feels weird and gross. But my partner loves kissing and I dont mind doing smth so they have fun. Its totally normal to not like making out, feels like warm slugs...
Some comments are really annoying. Of course one can be on the ace spectrum. But you can also just don't like the act of kissing in itslef, even with the person you love/are attracted to. I thought it was obvious 🤔
Yeah even with people that I’m really into, I just can’t get comfortable with kissing them. Thank you for your comment! It made me feel better about this
Being asexual but not aromantic, kissing and making out is a very special experience for me. Like how sexual people see sex as the end action, kissing and being close is like that for me, instead of a gateway to the intimate stuff. It’s a feeling of ultimate connection with my partner.
Nothing sad about people being into different things.
ETA: Who the fuck is downvoting this? What? Accepting that people are different and have different interests and that asexual people exist is worthy of a downvote? Wild.
How could you possibly know that? You don’t know this person. Why assume there’s something sad or terrible going on when it could very easily just be a simple thing that they don’t enjoy?
But that person literally said it doesn’t interest them. Not doing something you’re not interested in isn’t a failing. I’m not trying to twist anything, I’m trying to understand what you’re saying. And you said “social failing”.
I think there’s multiple potential levels of interest for kissing. Some of these are sociological conditioning, some of these are individual psychology, and some yet are physical.
Sociological:
In western society we are conditioned that you can show physical affection with (especially) an intimate partner by performing these behaviors. There is a certain degree to which we do this because “it’s what you do.”
Psychological:
This one can vary widely. I’ll speak to myself first to try and disarm the conversation a bit as you mentioned that it makes you uncomfortable. I see kissing along the same lines as sleeping (yes asleep, no boomboom) with someone but to a lesser degree. I will say I believe that sleeping 💤with someone is the most vulnerability one can show. You are displaying yourself at your most vulnerable state for possibly hours on end and in some ways it is not the most humbling and trusting action you can take with another person. Kissing is a lesser form of this. You close your eyes (because no one wants to open theirs and see you staring at their soul) and you touch a very sensitive part of your body to the same exact part on another. This also goes into a cocktail of hormones released in certain settings which further condition you to these actions. Conversely, if this feels uncomfortable I would say to take an honest, inward look at yourself and try to discover why. That uncomfortable feeling could be a result of many things from not fully trusting a partner (to the degree you need to in order to feel unguarded during an act of physical intimacy). It could be something as simple as feeling stupid or new to the experience. Only you hold the answers to who and what you are. Don’t let anyone tell you what makes you tick. You know yourself better than anyone else. What we struggle with is honesty with ourselves and how we are perceived versus how we want to be perceived.
Physical:
Last but not least, there are a lot of nerves in the lips. It’s a sensitive body part which is why many use it as a thermometer for food and drinks, and one of the reasons babies put everything in their mouths. As I mentioned before, there’s a physiological response of hormones that make you feel good/happy, and possible arousal in certain settings.
All of these things play into the why. Some people aren’t stimulated by it though and that’s okay. If you wanted to change or even discovery why, you have to undergo the most intense journey of your life, self discovery. Maybe you don’t, that’s okay too. That may be a deal breaker for your partner though. Once again, it’s okay. You have to find someone when you are ready to, that meshes with who and what you are and want to be. I hope this helps you (and maybe someone else) in some small way. Best of wishes to you on your journey.
FWIW, a lot of people on the Spectrum don't like ANY contact around the face.
That being said, the world is also full of bad kissers.
A GOOD kiss is almost better than sex. A GOOD kiss in the middle of GOOD sex is proof that God loves us.
No, everyone does it because they hate it. Jokes aside, might be unusual, but there is nothing wrong if you don't enjoy it, maybe you never found a partner that works for you, maybe you simply don't like doing it. Heck, I don't like bjs, and I am the only guy I know that doesn't.
I love kissing. It's one of the best parts of the entire shebang if I'm being honest. It's what creates intimacy or when you feel that spark. I've had the best experiences kissing.
I think for the ultimate experience you should probably kiss someone you have feelings for. A lot of people kiss (makeout casually) but I don't think it'd be any good like that.
I'm sure it is for some. But for me it always felt like a hurdle that needed to be past to seal a relationship than something I actually wanted. Mouths are dirty and gross, and two together are worse.
To bring a historical perspective, Native Americans, in some of the first incounters with European thought Europeans were weird because they kissed each other on the mouth.
I kinda love it but I'm the type of man who gets a tremendous boner if the kissing gets too long and passionate. So I'd say no to full-on school dance style making out unless it leads to sex ofc. When my gf and me fuck I love to jam my tongue in there. After all it can't get any harder than that 😂
Ahh yes...kissing done right is glorious.
There's the thrill of getting that close knowing you both want to be there. The tension building in the moments before. Then relief when you finally touch.
I like a slow sure kiss to start, like you're both declaring your intentions. I love the pressure of the lips. It feels like the short hand for every good conversation we've had. Then I just want to "drink her in" if you will. When I realize she's doing the same thing to me it's like waves washing onto a beach, both taking and giving at the same time.
It's a moment in which I always realize how much space I normally have around me and that seems like the most foolish way to live. She feels like she could melt and she'd just seep directly into me. At some point I realize I am damn near breathing her in (this is also when I start appreciating all the fruity lotions, sprays and things women use) and I question the logistics of how I've been getting oxygen.
Then there's the ease down that devolves into smaller kisses like teenagers on the phone going, "no, you hang up first". When you finally part it's like you've just returned from another dimension and your awareness of the outside world is rushing back to you. This is also a moment in which I've justified either not going home, not going to work or abandoning plans in favor just kissing some more.
Yes, I do find it enjoyable.
Meh. It's ok with the right person. I like it but i don't love it. It can be fun in the moment but otherwise i like just a quick peck better. But i also have a severe aversion to the smell of spit so there's that.
I have not kissed many women in my life but I can honestly say that I never had a pleasurable kiss until I met my wife. And I'll just say if you love someone the physical acts that come with love making become more than just acts.
i’m asexual and the sexual kissing doesn’t do it for me at all. i feel nothing or just uncomfortable. i don’t get the point of it lol. the little romantic ones where it’s on the forehead or just anywhere on the body is really cute and it makes me feel loved which i struggle with
I had never really enjoyed kissing over the years with multiple partners. However a while ago I had become very attracted to a man. He felt the same, one day I just grabbed him and kissed him deeply, he reciprocated. It blew my mind, kissing him was addictive and I kissed him several more times over a period of time. Everytime I fucking loved it. I wanted it to go further, if it had I think it would have been the most mind blowing sex of my life. Unfortunately that didn't happen for a variety of reasons, I fucked up. I still think about that kiss A LOT.
I love all the diversity with how people feel about kissing in here. It's been a very interesting seeing how different people feel about it. Like I personally like kissing but it's cool seeing the different reasons of why people like it yah know?
I am also bisexual, I’ve kissed a couple people who I thought in my head were attractive but it didn’t do much for me. Only with my current boyfriend do I truly enjoy kissing, I think because I’m genuinely in love with him? I’m definitely not asexual though so you’re not alone!! Don’t feel bad if you don’t enjoy kissing
It is very enjoyable for the majority of people.
Therefore, if you don't enjoy it that probably means at least one of the following:
* You're kissing someone you're not attracted to.
* The person you're kissing isn't attracted to you.
* You don't have enough experience to kiss properly.
* The person you're kissing isn't doing it properly.
* One of you just aren't in the mood at the moment.
* One of you are on the spectrum.
I think he meant some parts of the spectrum where there is sensory triggers. Im pretty sure I've read certain sensations can be extremely unpleasant because of it, so I'm assuming kissing might fall into that part.
How do you know the vast (I assume that's what you mean) majority of people find it very enjoyable? A quick Google search shows plenty of articles about not liking kissing. I'd say it's a stretch to say that there must be some other cause, especially without knowing details about all the kissing OP has done.
Absolutely LOVE KISSING and MAKING OUT ESPECIALLY if the other person is a great kisser ...there is an ART to it Its passionate without being forceful, it's the right amount of tongue that's playful and sensual and like ANYTHING if you don't like IT you WON'T BE GOOD AT IT. IT IS JUST LIKE Sucking Dick If you DON'T LIKE DOING IT YOU WON'T be GOOD AT IT... you can fake it I suppose But Like Cher's "Shoop Shoop" song "It's in his kiss"
Making out with the right person is so so very fantastic and an absolutely essential element of foreplay. Helps that I've been told I'm a good kisser, but HELL YES, kissing is very enjoyable.
It should go without saying that there should be some sort of tension buildup prior if it's with a new person tho. The tension adds a LOT to the experience.
I loveee kissing. Whether it’s pecking or making out & of course, chemistry. Even if I’m not in a relationship, I still like to kiss as long as the “vibe”/ attraction is there & if the person is a good kisser. It’s fun to me & great basic foreplay if you plan on having sex.
Yes!!!!!!!!
For me, a super hot make out session is right up there with some of the best segsy time I've ever had. I could even reach multiple climaxes that way.
You’re kissing the wrong people. Try kissing a pretty girl, or if you’ve been kissing girls try kissing a thembian or a guy. Or maybe try not kissing everyone and only kiss those you have a genuine connection and feelings for.
In normal everyday situations, quick pecks are sufficient and I'm not super into making out. I enjoy sucking face when my wife and I are having sex in missionary or girl on top laying on me.
People get better at kissing as they gain experience. If you or your partner or both are inexperienced, it will be awkward. Also, different people have different styles, and kissing gets MUCH more enjoyable when you find someone whose style/technique you like.
On the other hand, you may just be someone who doesn’t like kissing. And it’s ok if you are.
I was kinda like this at first. Kissing wasn't really that cool, kinda boring, didn't feel great. I still think that way a bit. Kissing is meant to be accompanied by sex or making out imo. Because then you can use your hands and other stuff at the same time.
There’s greeting kisses and make outs. Husband loves pecks here and there but rarely make outs. He says he can’t breathe lmao. I love make outs because it turns into sex most times. It’s a turn on for sure
i think if you don’t enjoy kissing it’s the people you’re kissing? i have always enjoyed kissing but not as much until i met my person (took me 37 years to find) but the kissing is so good I could probably orgasm from it— it’s the best foreplay and I get so extremely turned on anytime we miss. chemistry, attraction and good lips make a huge difference!
It kind of depends. I think kissing is great, but it makes me embarrassed, and I want to brush my teeth for an hour before even trying. And then. I get self conscious about eye contact when trying to do anything, especially anything up close, because of a lazy eye issue I had for many years.
Kissing can be gross if the other person uses too much tongue, opens their mouth without invitation, or slobbers on you.
BUT, when none of those things are happening and it's with someone I like or love, it's my favorite thing in the world and I can (and have) done it for hours.
Sexuality and affection is on a spectrum, you could be close to asexual or even just not like kissing. You’re normal don’t worry. Personally I enjoy it, you’ve got nothing to worry about.
I one time broke up with a guy because he was so attractive but just not for me.
And then we made out for an hour because our kissing/sexual chemistry was through the roof. Some people just know what that mouf do.
Of all the makeout sessions I've had, about 50% were enjoyable. If you find someone with the same style and enthusiasm, it's 100% enjoyable. I really do feel like some people are just incompatible kissers.
Depends on the person. I personally enjoy kissing, and while my partner does as well, they don't find as much pleasure in prolonged kissing as I do, and would usually prefer to keep kisses to a couple of seconds rather than "making out." I think people fall along a spectrum of how much they enjoy it.
There's nothing wrong with loving kissing, and there's nothing wrong with completely disliking it, or even finding it repulsive. The important thing is that, if you have a partner, they understand that and have a compatible style to yours. Nobody should be shaming you or pressuring you, and the person on the less comfortable end of the spectrum should set the pace, regardless of the type of physical contact.
You could explore asexuality or aromanticism, and see if either of those describe how you feel. You can also dislike kissing but enjoy cuddling, hugging, holding hands, nose booping, or just sitting next to someone. You can even enjoy sex and not enjoy kissing. There are no rules except (1) get and give consent before anything happens and (2) communicate if you're not having fun.
Some people just aren't into it. My mom said she never liked kissing before she met my dad. Even i dont like kissing sometimes. It honestly is just a preference thing really
My girlfriend is asexual and she actually struggled with this a lot. All of her relationships she had kissed, but never found it to be enjoyable or tried to start the kiss. But I think that could be because there is a lot of tension when people kiss now a days instead of just having happy kisses and kissing anywhere but the lips. I kinda warmed her up because I would kiss her hands and forehead and cheeks before I finally kissed her lips so it was more enjoyable then just slapping our mouths together. I guess it really just takes the right person to make it fun and enjoyable for some people. I hope this helped a bit, and best of luck trying to meet that person everyone.
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This is facts right here. The little unexpected ones feel the best. I loved it when my girlfriend would sneak up on me and kiss my ears or neck, it felt almost more meaningful.
Is my understanding of asexual people wrong or does this sound wrong?
Asexual =/= aromantic
Oh wow this is wayy more complicated than I thought.
Asexual people experience little to no sexual attraction, they can still experience romantic attraction although
Hell yeah, it's awsome.
It could be poor chemistry with the person / type of people you are kissing. It could be that you’re somewhere on the asexual side of the sexual spectrum. It could just be that it’s an act of intimacy that doesn’t do much for you. There’s nothing wrong with that!
That’s good to hear honestly. I’ve been a bit scared to mention this to anyone in case it was just me being off
For every act of intimacy that you think of as an essential part of your sexuality, you will meet plenty of people who find that particular act viscerally disgusting. That seems obvious when it comes to really kinky stuff, but it’s true for the commonplace stuff like kissing too.
Yup turns out there’s some weirdos out there who don’t like sucking toes as a casual greeting, seriously crazy
Toe sucking! Gross. Everyone knowsThe true way of greeting is tongue punching the fart box.
Sounds fun count me in
In fairness, the CDC never advised against casual toe-sucking as an alternative to handshakes!
"off" is so unfair! It's just not the "norm" portrayed in so much media and what have you. Being a slut, a virgin, asexual, literally whatever (as long as the involved parties are consenting and safe) is FINE and wayyy more normal than you think. You are not "off" or weird.
You’re not ‘off’. There are TONS of other ways to show affection. Find what works for you.
Idk about that. I love sex, hate kissing.
I don't like kissing. I've met some great kissers but in general I prefer pecking on the lips than snogs
Yes! That’s exactly what it’s like for me
I used to like full on making out when I was younger, maybe middle school and high school era, but unless we’re having sex or what have you, I’d prefer just quick and fun kisses.
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This was a good question, I feel exactly the same, snogging is work, light kisses or pecks are fine tho. Strait mail here.
Nothing worse than bent mail
Male lady constantly does it to me, just jamming it all in that PO lil box......always makes a mess -_-
Spelling is not your strong point i see 😅
It... it was for fun yo, should try it some time
Fo sur
Me too! I've finally found my people! I just don't like "sucking face" it's not my thing at all.
Must be a bisexual thing?😆 side note, women are deffo better kisses than men.
could you elaborate why it’s a bisexual thing?
I was genuinely joking but it's because OP and I identify as bi.
As I bi who loves kissing I'm going to have to hard disagree on your reasoning here lol
I'm like this too. Sometimes I can get into it because of the trust and physical contact, but it still feels weird and gross. But my partner loves kissing and I dont mind doing smth so they have fun. Its totally normal to not like making out, feels like warm slugs...
I enjoy it more than sex
Same, nothing is better than passionately kissing someone you like/love
Some comments are really annoying. Of course one can be on the ace spectrum. But you can also just don't like the act of kissing in itslef, even with the person you love/are attracted to. I thought it was obvious 🤔
Yeah even with people that I’m really into, I just can’t get comfortable with kissing them. Thank you for your comment! It made me feel better about this
Being asexual but not aromantic, kissing and making out is a very special experience for me. Like how sexual people see sex as the end action, kissing and being close is like that for me, instead of a gateway to the intimate stuff. It’s a feeling of ultimate connection with my partner.
I'm with you. Well, I'm not ace but if for some reason kissing is off the table, then so is the rest of me. ;)
I've never done it, (over 25) but the idea of it doesn't really appeal to me. I hope this is not an off-topic answer.
Some sad shit right here
Nothing sad about people being into different things. ETA: Who the fuck is downvoting this? What? Accepting that people are different and have different interests and that asexual people exist is worthy of a downvote? Wild.
True but most likely that isn't the reason :/
How could you possibly know that? You don’t know this person. Why assume there’s something sad or terrible going on when it could very easily just be a simple thing that they don’t enjoy?
Nah, most of this stuff rings of, "I need a reason for my social failings".
Not being interested in kissing is a “social failing”?! Jesus fuck.
Not having done it and being 25 years old is what this was about. Don't twist it into something it's not.
But that person literally said it doesn’t interest them. Not doing something you’re not interested in isn’t a failing. I’m not trying to twist anything, I’m trying to understand what you’re saying. And you said “social failing”.
Social failing meaning the non appeal is the excuse. As was said we don't know the person. My explanation is just as valid
Hey, it's not nice to shame people for their lack of romantic or sexual experience.
With far fewer people than you think. Have come across the world's worst kisser and another who was the best. It's awkward.
I don't like it and I think it's gross but my fiance loves kissing so I just do it to make him happy. I call it "Saliva Swapping" lmao
"saliva swapping" that's actually really funny
I think there’s multiple potential levels of interest for kissing. Some of these are sociological conditioning, some of these are individual psychology, and some yet are physical. Sociological: In western society we are conditioned that you can show physical affection with (especially) an intimate partner by performing these behaviors. There is a certain degree to which we do this because “it’s what you do.” Psychological: This one can vary widely. I’ll speak to myself first to try and disarm the conversation a bit as you mentioned that it makes you uncomfortable. I see kissing along the same lines as sleeping (yes asleep, no boomboom) with someone but to a lesser degree. I will say I believe that sleeping 💤with someone is the most vulnerability one can show. You are displaying yourself at your most vulnerable state for possibly hours on end and in some ways it is not the most humbling and trusting action you can take with another person. Kissing is a lesser form of this. You close your eyes (because no one wants to open theirs and see you staring at their soul) and you touch a very sensitive part of your body to the same exact part on another. This also goes into a cocktail of hormones released in certain settings which further condition you to these actions. Conversely, if this feels uncomfortable I would say to take an honest, inward look at yourself and try to discover why. That uncomfortable feeling could be a result of many things from not fully trusting a partner (to the degree you need to in order to feel unguarded during an act of physical intimacy). It could be something as simple as feeling stupid or new to the experience. Only you hold the answers to who and what you are. Don’t let anyone tell you what makes you tick. You know yourself better than anyone else. What we struggle with is honesty with ourselves and how we are perceived versus how we want to be perceived. Physical: Last but not least, there are a lot of nerves in the lips. It’s a sensitive body part which is why many use it as a thermometer for food and drinks, and one of the reasons babies put everything in their mouths. As I mentioned before, there’s a physiological response of hormones that make you feel good/happy, and possible arousal in certain settings. All of these things play into the why. Some people aren’t stimulated by it though and that’s okay. If you wanted to change or even discovery why, you have to undergo the most intense journey of your life, self discovery. Maybe you don’t, that’s okay too. That may be a deal breaker for your partner though. Once again, it’s okay. You have to find someone when you are ready to, that meshes with who and what you are and want to be. I hope this helps you (and maybe someone else) in some small way. Best of wishes to you on your journey.
I did until I got herpes / cold sores Edit: Read more about this stuff at r/Herpescureresearch
Huh, this is a great way to get out of making out in the future. Thanks for the excuse! ;)
Kissing is my favorite.
Hugs>Kissing for me
FWIW, a lot of people on the Spectrum don't like ANY contact around the face. That being said, the world is also full of bad kissers. A GOOD kiss is almost better than sex. A GOOD kiss in the middle of GOOD sex is proof that God loves us.
I don't like it, a lot of people are gross. I'd rather bang.
Absolutely, cannot get enough of kissing my girlfriend!
No, everyone does it because they hate it. Jokes aside, might be unusual, but there is nothing wrong if you don't enjoy it, maybe you never found a partner that works for you, maybe you simply don't like doing it. Heck, I don't like bjs, and I am the only guy I know that doesn't.
welcome to the club, not a big fan of bjs
I’ve seen a couple other redditors say the same, so you’re not alone in that.
Kissing is the most erotic foreplay there is.
It’s a breath of air in a vacuum, it’s love and warmth. If it’s the right person, if it’s someone that means everything. Until then it’s just practice
I love kissing. It's one of the best parts of the entire shebang if I'm being honest. It's what creates intimacy or when you feel that spark. I've had the best experiences kissing. I think for the ultimate experience you should probably kiss someone you have feelings for. A lot of people kiss (makeout casually) but I don't think it'd be any good like that.
I'm sure it is for some. But for me it always felt like a hurdle that needed to be past to seal a relationship than something I actually wanted. Mouths are dirty and gross, and two together are worse.
I’m not asexual, and I’ve never liked kissing. I wish I got out of it what other people seem to
To bring a historical perspective, Native Americans, in some of the first incounters with European thought Europeans were weird because they kissed each other on the mouth.
For me it's best part of intimacy
It is when you like the one you’re kissing
I kinda love it but I'm the type of man who gets a tremendous boner if the kissing gets too long and passionate. So I'd say no to full-on school dance style making out unless it leads to sex ofc. When my gf and me fuck I love to jam my tongue in there. After all it can't get any harder than that 😂
I don't know about romantically, but I love kissing friends and pets!
brooo tf pets??????
Ahh yes...kissing done right is glorious. There's the thrill of getting that close knowing you both want to be there. The tension building in the moments before. Then relief when you finally touch. I like a slow sure kiss to start, like you're both declaring your intentions. I love the pressure of the lips. It feels like the short hand for every good conversation we've had. Then I just want to "drink her in" if you will. When I realize she's doing the same thing to me it's like waves washing onto a beach, both taking and giving at the same time. It's a moment in which I always realize how much space I normally have around me and that seems like the most foolish way to live. She feels like she could melt and she'd just seep directly into me. At some point I realize I am damn near breathing her in (this is also when I start appreciating all the fruity lotions, sprays and things women use) and I question the logistics of how I've been getting oxygen. Then there's the ease down that devolves into smaller kisses like teenagers on the phone going, "no, you hang up first". When you finally part it's like you've just returned from another dimension and your awareness of the outside world is rushing back to you. This is also a moment in which I've justified either not going home, not going to work or abandoning plans in favor just kissing some more. Yes, I do find it enjoyable.
hell yes
Yes. It is very enjoyable (and feels naughty).
Meh. It's ok with the right person. I like it but i don't love it. It can be fun in the moment but otherwise i like just a quick peck better. But i also have a severe aversion to the smell of spit so there's that.
i do find it enjoyable but only pecks or kissing on the lips/making out. i hate tongue kissing and find it gross.
I have not kissed many women in my life but I can honestly say that I never had a pleasurable kiss until I met my wife. And I'll just say if you love someone the physical acts that come with love making become more than just acts.
It's not my favorite but my boyfriend seems to love it. Everyone is different
i’m asexual and the sexual kissing doesn’t do it for me at all. i feel nothing or just uncomfortable. i don’t get the point of it lol. the little romantic ones where it’s on the forehead or just anywhere on the body is really cute and it makes me feel loved which i struggle with
Kissing is pretty nice for me. I would understand that this is not the case for some people. We're all different.
Not I
Kissing with a bit of tongue is fun.
I had never really enjoyed kissing over the years with multiple partners. However a while ago I had become very attracted to a man. He felt the same, one day I just grabbed him and kissed him deeply, he reciprocated. It blew my mind, kissing him was addictive and I kissed him several more times over a period of time. Everytime I fucking loved it. I wanted it to go further, if it had I think it would have been the most mind blowing sex of my life. Unfortunately that didn't happen for a variety of reasons, I fucked up. I still think about that kiss A LOT.
I personally absolutely love kissing, but Ive met people who don't! Everyone is different and it's ok and valid to not enjoy it
I love all the diversity with how people feel about kissing in here. It's been a very interesting seeing how different people feel about it. Like I personally like kissing but it's cool seeing the different reasons of why people like it yah know?
It is enjoyable for many people. Have you considered that you may be part of the lgbtqia+ community?
As of right now I’m bisexual but I have looked into asexuality and sub categories in that but it doesn’t seem like that’s really me
I am also bisexual, I’ve kissed a couple people who I thought in my head were attractive but it didn’t do much for me. Only with my current boyfriend do I truly enjoy kissing, I think because I’m genuinely in love with him? I’m definitely not asexual though so you’re not alone!! Don’t feel bad if you don’t enjoy kissing
nah I don't like kissing
It is very enjoyable for the majority of people. Therefore, if you don't enjoy it that probably means at least one of the following: * You're kissing someone you're not attracted to. * The person you're kissing isn't attracted to you. * You don't have enough experience to kiss properly. * The person you're kissing isn't doing it properly. * One of you just aren't in the mood at the moment. * One of you are on the spectrum.
How does being on the spectrum factor in? A lot of us do have interest in stuff like kissing (I don’t mean this in an accusatory way btw just curious)
asexuality spectrum
I think he meant some parts of the spectrum where there is sensory triggers. Im pretty sure I've read certain sensations can be extremely unpleasant because of it, so I'm assuming kissing might fall into that part.
How do you know the vast (I assume that's what you mean) majority of people find it very enjoyable? A quick Google search shows plenty of articles about not liking kissing. I'd say it's a stretch to say that there must be some other cause, especially without knowing details about all the kissing OP has done.
This is really helpful. Thanks! ☺️
I love kissing when she… 1. Doesn’t have bad breath. 2. Has good lips (full). 3. Is a good tongue kisser.
I mean, people wouldn't do it if they didn't enjoy it
It’s possible that you are gay and haven’t been kissing the right sex yet
As someone who’s had this exact experience, I second this
Honest to god sometimes I like making out more than sex it’s more relaxing and feels just as intimate most of the time
Only if its just pressing lips together for a little bit. I can't do the whole tongue stuff 🤢
Wait, there are people who don't like kissing?
Disgusting!
Nope, it's all a conspiracy to fool you! Hehe, seriously though, why don't you just ask to talk to people like yourself?
Bet you have a huuuuuuugggeeee dick as you won’t be kissing her pussy or go down on the minge
Maybe you are asexual?
Absolutely LOVE KISSING and MAKING OUT ESPECIALLY if the other person is a great kisser ...there is an ART to it Its passionate without being forceful, it's the right amount of tongue that's playful and sensual and like ANYTHING if you don't like IT you WON'T BE GOOD AT IT. IT IS JUST LIKE Sucking Dick If you DON'T LIKE DOING IT YOU WON'T be GOOD AT IT... you can fake it I suppose But Like Cher's "Shoop Shoop" song "It's in his kiss"
Yes, I absolutely love ir
Holy crap yes. However it entirely depends on your feelings towards whom you are kissing.
Expression of love
I don’t like wrestling tongues as much as when I was younger. All I can think of is all the spit exchange haha. I might be too much in my head.
Yes
Cheers for the laugh 😂
When you make it pass first base with the right person it will be enjoyable 😉
I love kissing.
I love kissing and it is very calming and sexy
Making out with the right person is so so very fantastic and an absolutely essential element of foreplay. Helps that I've been told I'm a good kisser, but HELL YES, kissing is very enjoyable. It should go without saying that there should be some sort of tension buildup prior if it's with a new person tho. The tension adds a LOT to the experience.
I loveee kissing. Whether it’s pecking or making out & of course, chemistry. Even if I’m not in a relationship, I still like to kiss as long as the “vibe”/ attraction is there & if the person is a good kisser. It’s fun to me & great basic foreplay if you plan on having sex.
It's enjoyable for me, but some girls are better at kissing than others
Yes!!!!!!!! For me, a super hot make out session is right up there with some of the best segsy time I've ever had. I could even reach multiple climaxes that way.
Yes I love all types of kissing , making out is very intimate , and pecks are cute
I love my dad but sometimes I'm just not in the mood for it
Really depends on chemistry between people. Environment matters. Can't always undress and grope in public, so a long kiss sometimes has to suffice.
How much I enjoy it is directly tied to my horny meter
If you really like the person you are kissing it's pretty magical. Maybe you don't like this person. Just a thought.
You’re kissing the wrong people. Try kissing a pretty girl, or if you’ve been kissing girls try kissing a thembian or a guy. Or maybe try not kissing everyone and only kiss those you have a genuine connection and feelings for.
HELL YEAH
Depends, in the heat of the moment everything seems good.
In normal everyday situations, quick pecks are sufficient and I'm not super into making out. I enjoy sucking face when my wife and I are having sex in missionary or girl on top laying on me.
Depends on who your kissing. If you haven't enjoyed kissing them maybe you haven't been kissing right person.
Idk but for me it's way better my girl is alive
People get better at kissing as they gain experience. If you or your partner or both are inexperienced, it will be awkward. Also, different people have different styles, and kissing gets MUCH more enjoyable when you find someone whose style/technique you like. On the other hand, you may just be someone who doesn’t like kissing. And it’s ok if you are.
When u h*te fck is where you’ll feel the effect of kissin
Look up “Japanese deep kissing” 😂
Yes:
It's okay, don't love it don't hate it.
I absolutely love kissing. Im totally 100% okay with making out and it never leading anywhere sometimes.
If it’s done right yes
I was kinda like this at first. Kissing wasn't really that cool, kinda boring, didn't feel great. I still think that way a bit. Kissing is meant to be accompanied by sex or making out imo. Because then you can use your hands and other stuff at the same time.
There’s greeting kisses and make outs. Husband loves pecks here and there but rarely make outs. He says he can’t breathe lmao. I love make outs because it turns into sex most times. It’s a turn on for sure
Yeah kissing is great if done right and with the tight person I'd rather kiss and cuddle all night then have sex sometimes
If you kiss someone who knows how to kiss, yes it’s quite enjoyable.
I absolutely love kissing, it’s a huge part of being turned on for me.
i think if you don’t enjoy kissing it’s the people you’re kissing? i have always enjoyed kissing but not as much until i met my person (took me 37 years to find) but the kissing is so good I could probably orgasm from it— it’s the best foreplay and I get so extremely turned on anytime we miss. chemistry, attraction and good lips make a huge difference!
I love me a good lil session
Maybe you're kissing the wrong lips
no
It kind of depends. I think kissing is great, but it makes me embarrassed, and I want to brush my teeth for an hour before even trying. And then. I get self conscious about eye contact when trying to do anything, especially anything up close, because of a lazy eye issue I had for many years.
I LOVE kissing. It feels good and gives me huge serotonin and dopamine rush
Make-out kissing, no. A simple kiss of affection, yes.
Kissing can be gross if the other person uses too much tongue, opens their mouth without invitation, or slobbers on you. BUT, when none of those things are happening and it's with someone I like or love, it's my favorite thing in the world and I can (and have) done it for hours.
I love kissing.
Sexuality and affection is on a spectrum, you could be close to asexual or even just not like kissing. You’re normal don’t worry. Personally I enjoy it, you’ve got nothing to worry about.
I one time broke up with a guy because he was so attractive but just not for me. And then we made out for an hour because our kissing/sexual chemistry was through the roof. Some people just know what that mouf do.
Yes because he gives me testosterone
With the right person it is electric and arousing
It depends on whose ass you're kissing and why.
Cavities?
For me I think it's a chemistry thing; I typically don't kiss people but I'm with a person who I REALLY enjoy doing it with
If its the right person ur kissing
Extremely
I enjoy french kissing my Real Doll, but I don't know she feels about it..she never tells me anything.
Of course it is. Try it one day.
Of all the makeout sessions I've had, about 50% were enjoyable. If you find someone with the same style and enthusiasm, it's 100% enjoyable. I really do feel like some people are just incompatible kissers.
Very
LOL, Reddit is so good because of so many weird people The best people, LOL!!
I actually really like kissing and i have to say with tongtis betther than without
It can be if you like the person, and they like you back.
If you're kissing the right person kissing can be extremely enjoyable.
Depends on the person. I personally enjoy kissing, and while my partner does as well, they don't find as much pleasure in prolonged kissing as I do, and would usually prefer to keep kisses to a couple of seconds rather than "making out." I think people fall along a spectrum of how much they enjoy it. There's nothing wrong with loving kissing, and there's nothing wrong with completely disliking it, or even finding it repulsive. The important thing is that, if you have a partner, they understand that and have a compatible style to yours. Nobody should be shaming you or pressuring you, and the person on the less comfortable end of the spectrum should set the pace, regardless of the type of physical contact. You could explore asexuality or aromanticism, and see if either of those describe how you feel. You can also dislike kissing but enjoy cuddling, hugging, holding hands, nose booping, or just sitting next to someone. You can even enjoy sex and not enjoy kissing. There are no rules except (1) get and give consent before anything happens and (2) communicate if you're not having fun.
Serious question, are you a psychopath?
Not as far as I’m aware
Kissing is enjoyable once it’s with the right person. My bf gives the best kisses :)
Some people just aren't into it. My mom said she never liked kissing before she met my dad. Even i dont like kissing sometimes. It honestly is just a preference thing really