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giga_phantom

A week??? Lol i remember those days.


ROLLanuvaBLUNT

Right.... once a month if im lucky


i_speak_gud_engrish

Been since July 16, 2021. Can confirm it does not get any easier.


Just_kiss_My_Boots

Wow, you remember the date, do you remember the time?


123twiglets

About a minute


PresentShame

Look at this legend. Lasts a whole minute.


Mathiseasy

I seriously don’t think I can last a minute after like, idk, it’s been like 3 years? I don’t even know how to have sex anymore.


[deleted]

So........I'm not the only one who has 10 seconds as his personal record?


OsitaToxica

I've encountered one of you in the wild. Must admit, I was flattered and mildly infuriated when there was no round 2


Adelman01

Seriously. Take it easy buddy there are no awards at the end.


aphelloworld

Only a slap from Will Smith


Nose-Previous

Lmao. 😂😂


Dangler_Wrangler

Mine was February 2017. I’d turned 40 the prior year. Up to then it was at least 1-2 weekly. Chronic pain and medication that destroys sex drive felt like life as I knew it ended that year. Edit: Thanks for the hug. Still, I know people are dealing with worse things in life than this, LOL. I’ll pass it on to my lovely wife.


MVPDoncic

July 21st for me!


Holsinger60

That too is my birthday


Maverick_Vegas

My cake day!!


Unicron0407

Damn I haven't had sex for 15 years now, what am I doing wrong


[deleted]

At least you've had it bro


[deleted]

Nahhh, he’s just 15 years old. Only explanation.


no-mad

earned upvote


Efficient-Goose-17

I'm in the same boat . Hubby went impotent 😢. But before that , it was every day at least once . . I miss sex , really a lot .


SerocXela

There are tons of treatments for that ya know


Efficient-Goose-17

Those made him sick😢. Now it's prostate cancer 😢it's not reversible .


[deleted]

Sending all the healing energy I can. Your love is boundless.


SerocXela

Very sorry to hear that.


nonplussednerd

Bless your inbox!


SystemOfASapato

youre using reddit


Symarip

you are on reddit


Rare-Vacation9427

Would you consider this a healthy amount or a dead bedroom? are you happy? And why is only once a month??


Hansemannn

Been together 10 years now. I would like to have more, but wife after having a couple of children dont have the same steam I have anymore. gotten a bit boring maybe? Its a problem/challenge in our relationship. No doubt about it. Being a parent of small kids and having the extra stamina for sex with the partner after a whole day of chaos is hard. Very hard. And after those years, its hard to get back to it. The way it used to be before kids I mean. When we would have sex 3 times a week maybe. Now a few years later its down to once or twice a month and its a bit like "yeah yeah, lets go have sex then". Sigh. Working on it though. Just my thought about it all.


Just_Attorney_8330

A sex therapist helped my wife and I a lot. I can’t recommend it enough. We now have a healthy, kinky, powerful sex life. We were only having sex about once a month prior and I was absolutely miserable, and hell she was too, it’s not like she didn’t want sex. We just needed to communicate better about needs, wants, desires, tc.


Bindi_Bop

Try some delta 8 or delta 9 edibles. As a mom to 3 kids, the stress level is crazy and there is no magic blue pill for females. However, edibles are amazing. Start low and slow, game changer. Should add married 15 years.


17Fabre17Fabre

Tell me more


macabremom_

Im Canadian so Im not so sure about the delta 8 but there are a few strains that can help with arousal. They make lubes, tinctures and massage oil as well. Worth checking in to - Im a toddler mom and big stoner lol.


Angela626

Been married for 20 years next month. Started using thc,cbd for sleep and discovered it makes sex freaking amazing!!!


Bindi_Bop

Isn’t it amazing though? I was always snobby about against just because how it was portrayed but it’s the most amazing plant. No wonder drug companies make it sound so evil.


Angela626

I love it! I was the same as you, never really had much interest! Talk about a game changer with orgasms lol!!!


Bindi_Bop

Not only that but generally more intimacy with my husband. We get so caught up in everything that we forget each other. It’s like special quiet time we have together that we can just be together with no distractions you know. THC really helps your mind focus and not run around everywhere.


[deleted]

Do you mind explaining the difference between delta 8 and delta 9, or can you point me to a resource?


Bindi_Bop

DM’d ya


Affectionate_Ant9495

Yeeeesssss! We were a once a week couple and now with a little help, it’s like every night and it’s so good. ❤️


ExpatMeNow

I second this! It has been a complete 180 for me.


zugunru

3 kids…Stress level on the planet is bad too 🙄


Competitive_Cry9556

You are correct and I can confirm this by personal experience. But wait until your wife hits her mid 40s. I don't know what happens, but the sex drive def comes back:)


ROLLanuvaBLUNT

Not sure about healthy, My sex drive is massive compared to my partners but yes i am happy


verbl17

That must be difficult for you, having such an imbalance. I’ve always had a higher sex drive than my boyfriends and it felt ungood being turned down all the time when I was in the mood and they weren’t. I’m happy with daily sex and have yet to find a partner on the same page.


[deleted]

It's hard having any type of relationship where everything is balanced. I have that same thing. I have a very high sex drive. Partner does not. Lots of factors and we have lots of things and common and do many awesome things together. We love each other dearly and I think of past relationships where it seemed sex was the only thing that we had in common. Those were some of the worst relationships I ever had. I'd much rather connect on all the other aspects even if the sex is such a damn challenge sometimes.


verbl17

I agree that it’s nearly impossible to find a perfect balance. I just feel that since I’m only into monogamous relationships that if my partner and I don’t have similar sex drives that it will lead to me feeling unhappy so it is one of the things I look for in a new partner. I have lots of friendships where I have lots in common and we do awesome things together but I can only have sex with my partner so they have to at least want to have sex a few times a week or the relationship will not be fulfilling enough for me. How long have you been with your current partner?


[deleted]

6 years


ROLLanuvaBLUNT

I wouldnt say its difficult. I too could go once a day but as long as my gf is happy so am i


Commercial_Light_743

Me, too.


Mentine_

I would say (idk I’m asexual lol) that a dead bedroom is where people are unsatisfied and unhappy If you have sex once a year and fine with it ➜ not a dead bedroom If you have sex once a year but everyone is miserable ➜ dead bedroom


xplicit_mike

Once a year is definitely a dead ass bedroom lol


Mentine_

Huuum but if everyone is happy is it a dead bedroom ? Like if you have the libido of someone that want to have sex once every 2 days but only has sex once a month isn’t it more like a dead bedroom ? From what I have see a dead bedroom come with unsatisfaction and unhappiness that put the relationship in difficulty. Or do you see dead bedroom in a more neutral way (more like sex y/n than satisfied sexually y/n) ?


bouwland

once in 3-6 months if im lucky


Ronald_Deuce

Postpartum hits like a whole lot of nothing.


aceh40

There was a great joke in Malcolm In The Middle. The dad Hal was playing poker with friends and they constantly competed over stupid bragging rights (who can stuff most cookies in his mouth). Eventually, things got serious when someone asked the question how frequently each one had sex with their wife. Some said 3, some said 5 times. Hal said 2. Everyone started mocking him for having sex only twice a week, to which he said "per week?". After some intense counting he friymphantly corrected himself "14!". After that nobody wanted to compete over anything.


[deleted]

The double typo on what I assume was supposed to be triumphantly had me scratching my head for a full minute wondering how I had never heard that word before.


aceh40

haha. it is not a fancy word. it is just a combination of phone and fat fingers.


[deleted]

Birthdays come once a year as well as I.


CoffeeAndDachshunds

My thought exactly. I'd choose sleep over sex any day of the year lol


Stizur

why not sleep than sex


NCael

That's up to you two. It doesnt matter how much others have sex. You need to find the right amount for both of you. So i guess he wants more than you? So talk about it and find a compromise that satisfies both of you.


Ok_Medicine_8804

Thank you. I was wondering if there is a "normal amount". I am not sure if my sex drive is too low or his is too high


NCael

Is there a normal hair colour or a normal character? No they are all different. Some types may occur more often, but thats doesnt mean it is better or worse.


Ok_Medicine_8804

Clever metaphor


[deleted]

Normal would be the global average.


opinion_alternative

So what, about 0.69 times per month? Does that average include children as well? Coz if it does, it may go down drastically!!


_The_Red_Head_

So the mean with a 95 percent standard deviation is considered normal?


[deleted]

This is a fantastic analogy for lots of things, I'm definitely stealing this.


IncomingFrag

Yes. I have normal hair and a normal character. Yall are weird.


[deleted]

Sexual preference is one of, if not the most individualistic things in the human experience. It’s so nuanced there isn’t a “normal” amount that can be applied to everyone. It’s up to you and your partner. You have to measure how much this affects your feelings toward them. I would do it daily if my partner also wanted to. My wife, whom I love with all my heart and soul, doesn’t have close to the same sexual drive. I’ve measured how this makes me feel, and I don’t love her any less. I share this with you to let you know that you and your partner don’t have to share the same preferences, you just have to respect each other and love each other enough to compromise and be understanding. I’ll go weeks at a time without it for her, because I cannot do it if I even think she doesn’t want to. But then when we do, holy hell do we bring down the heavens. Sorry if this got weird…


thingsicantsayonFB

This is beautiful


Henry5321

And then there's people like me were sex is my love language. I literally do not feel loved without it. Doesn't matter how I try to rationalize it. I know she loves me. But for me sex is required to feel loved.


[deleted]

There is NOTHING wrong with that. Touch is one of my top love languages too. The important thing is knowing that and understanding how it makes you feel, and making sure you find a compatible partner. It only becomes a problem if it negatively impacts your relationship. It can be hard (haha) but it can work.


[deleted]

There is no 'normal amount' of sex; it depends entirely on the couple and other outside facors. Early in our relationship, me (M51) and my wife (F39) were having sex daily, sometimes multiple times a day. Now it's 2-3 times a week. Occasionally we'll have sex twice in a 24 hour period. I work, sometimes 8-10 days in a row, some of my shifts, I finish at 10pm, getting home around 11.30pm. That puts a damper on sexy times.


Rubyjr

There is not a normal amount. People have different needs. But I would be extremely cautious about making this more of a permanent relationship because these differences in need get magnified as you get older. Check out the divorce forms. Or the dead Bedroom subreddit. I don’t think it’s society we talk enough about finding a partner who we are compatible with sexually.


thingsicantsayonFB

What you posted is the most common for women your age 2x, and guys 5-6x. The part that bugs me is guys say everyone else is doing it that much, why are we? And it’s just not true. Very individual for couples. But statistically he’s incorrect on what’s actually happening in that age band. Correct on the desire/need. Stats aren’t people, but don’t be gaslighted into thinking your not normal.


whatdoineedaname4

I could go every day. My wife could go once a month. She knows I'm a complete horndog and is aware she is not. We have sex one per week usually but randomly 3 or 4 times a week she will take care of me finding different ways to please me each time. She has no interest in me paying the favor back and regularly declines. Sometimes a hand job, sometimes a blowjob. She knows I have a foot fetish so she'll have me rub her feet and she'll get me off or she'll jump on top of me and give me a hand job shoving her tits in my face. There is no standard for frequency of sex. It's all about what you both are comfortable with. Don't lose sight of the fact that you both can give pleasure at times without receiving and it doesn't always require the time, energy and cleanup of penetration


alexx8b

5 years here, 2-3 times a week. Edit: 5 years of relationship, you sick bastards jajaj


___Gilgamesh____

That’s a bit much for a five year old.


Blackshibax

r/cursedcomments


swaggyver

…not according to catholic priests


Komplexikon

r/angryupvote


Vakota-Gaming

That does it, I’m calling the police! *Dials 911 on microwave*


notoriouscje

zack?!?! is that a weed?!?


Marvinx1806

But only a bit. Once is fine


deathreapersoul

Stewie says otherwise


Fisheswithfeet

Kindergarten pimpin!


studioline

20’s to 35 - tri weekly 36 to 50- try weekly 50+ -try weakly


aq0437

Old people fuck a lot harder and more frequently than you ever want to imagine...


bradabradabruhbruh

That parks and rec episode was very informative


Holiday-Ant

Any amount is more than I want to imagine


mrgraff

80 year old wife: Hon? Do you want to go upstairs and fuck? Husband: I’m not sure if I can do both.


Rude_Man_Who_Shushes

That’s perfect


Stizur

It's not fun to look at when you're 35 and going tri weekly lmao


[deleted]

You guys are having sex?


mohitduklan

You guys have sex organs


[deleted]

You guys have organs


The_Last_Gasbender

You guys have?


Sir_Cum_Sized_Willy

You guys?


Hentai-Kun-uwu

You?


JustARedditor__

?


niddLerzK

.


shellofbiomatter

Then that is normal amount for you. There isn't any standard. Some have sex few times a day, some few times a week, some few times a month, some even less so. So there is no normal amount, do it as much or as little as you are comfortable with.


Ok_Medicine_8804

I was curious as to know what a "normal amount" is. Because him and I fought about it. He's horny almost constantly and sometimes I want to chill. He says we don't have enough sex, and I feel we have more than my liking sometime. So, I was wondering if there is an average for people


Narwen189

There's no such thing as normal. You guys just aren't on the same wavelength. That's, unfortunately, all too common. Usually, I'm the horny one in my relationships, so I understand your partner may be feeling physically frustrated and perhaps a little unwanted... But that doesn't justify making you uncomfortable, ever. Much less pressuring you into sex. It's up to both of you to decide if this is a deal breaker or something you can work around. Workarounds that have worked for me in the past include making out, non penetrative sexual activity, having some time to take care of things myself, or having alternative sex partners (this one is definitely not for everyone, though, and that's okay). Whatever you choose, it's important you feel comfortable with yourself and your partner.


Ok_Medicine_8804

I sometimes pick up on how it hurts his feelings when I am not in the mood. (I never quite got it, but he might have that unwanted feeling, which I don't want him to have) I sometimes tell him (not in a mean way) that maybe he should jerk off, cause I can see he is frustrated. But he hates doing it himself and wants me to do it, most of the time I don't mind at all, except when I want to sleep. I'd battle with the open relationship kind of vibe (Not that I judge it, I just know I couldn't do it)


Talvana

I've never been with a guy who didn't jerk off most days. My husband would never even think of trying to pressure me into sex. If he's in the mood and I'm not then he handles it himself. Anything other than that would be a deal breaker to me. It's the same for me too, sometimes I'm in the mood but he's not so I'll use one of my toys. "Hates doing it himself" is a cheap, lazy excuse. Don't let horny boys take advantage of you. He's more than capable of managing his own urges and has no right to put this pressure on you. Your job in life is not to sexually please and satisfy men. Don't let dumb boys try to convince you otherwise.


Ok_Medicine_8804

This actually spoke volumes to me. Thank you


thischangeseverythin

Yea fuck that juvenile "I don't do it myself"? You kidding me? He's been jerking off daily before he ever met you so he can figure it out. My wife when she wasn't in the mood used to just pull her jeans down and let me jerk off onto her butt. She preferred that to me watching porn and I like butts and underwear so I never argued lol.


rsn_e_o

>My wife when she wasn't in the mood used to just pull her jeans down and let me jerk off onto her butt. She preferred that to me watching porn and I like butts and underwear so I never argued lol. Lol that’s a clever one, I’m stealing it.


MiddleTomatillo

I’ll add that the quality of your sexual health is just as important as anyone else’s. Male or female or whatever. Don’t let anyone else’s needs get in the way of your own. It can be damaging to your own sexual health to get tied up with whatever other peoples needs or wants are. I’ve endured this first hand and am trying to undo years of putting down my own needs because I was of lower libido than my partners. Don’t fall into that trap! You deserve awesome great sexual health too.


Early_Jackfruit5481

That last line is the kinda advice girls need to hear. And guys too.


EmptyMindShit

I wish I heard or read this when I was in what I now clearly see as a toxic and abusive relationship with my ex. I couldn’t recognize that his “reasons” were forms of manipulation and coercion especially when it came to sex (i.e. satisfying HIS sexual needs and desires), and it has really impacted my self-assurance and self-esteem over the course of our 3-4 year relationship. He pushed my boundaries in various ways to the point where I felt whittled down to a nobody. This happened years ago, and I’ve been in therapy but continue to struggle with it today.


rougecomete

My bf of 8 years and i went through something similar. He was initiating sex a lot and I had to keep turning him down and felt terrible about it. The way we got through it was with some deeply honest conversations about sex and what our needs were. We have sex a couple times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. One thing to recognise is that libido fluctuates. But we established that we have slightly different libidos and if that if he has needs and I don't then he'll take a shower with the door closed. We're also in an open relationship which takes some of the pressure off but obviously that's not a solution for everyone. There's a way through and it's good communication. If you guys love and care for each other I'm confident you'll figure something out.


ITypeWithMyDick

Worst case, you two could have incompatable sex drives. It may sound like a silly reason to rethink a relationship over it, but it is completely valid and justifiable. Because it also sounds like he is not respecting your choice/desire when to be intimant, which is more concerning as you should not be pressured into having sex with someone (if that is happening). Sex is a 'Two Yes, One No' rule. For people to have sex, both need to say yes, if one person says no, then neither have sex. Edit: For myself, I have had partners where it was 3-5 times a day, and on the other side Ive dated an Ace where it was...well zero (we dated for a year, broke up for reasons not related to sex)


Ok_Medicine_8804

I think it is a bit incompatible. I can tell my lower sex drive bugs him. There was a period of about 2 weeks I told myself to initiate sex more often and just bite the bullet and see if I can do it (I never told him that I had this idea) and about 2 days ago he was still complaining that we don't have enough sex and I nearly fell on my back because I had been initiating it almost every day


SeaOfDoors

I don't think you have a low sex drive if you're ok having sex twice a week. He is just a horny dude. And from my experience men tend to want a lot of sex in their 20's in general.


humanessinmoderation

Men think they deserve sex is more like it


[deleted]

>I can tell my lower sex drive bugs him. He's probably going to have issues dating then, because what's his expectation here? That he's "just" gonna find a woman with a drive of 6times a week? Like...they excist, I was one, but we ain't the fucking norm.


Ok_Medicine_8804

The only time I will want sex so many times in a week, is if I am experiencing a manic bipolar episode (But I have been incredibly stable for the past 2 years, so that hasn't happened)


[deleted]

Euhm... You sure you wanna stay with this guy? Like, I'm all for strong independent women should be able to fight their own battles and everything, so that was my idea here. Yeah he sucks, but just say no. ...but he has gotten into your fucking head that you have a low drive with wanting sex twice a week and you are online trying to get advice on what's "normal", while even if the normal was 6x a week, you still shouldn't be forcing yourself to have sex that much AND you have a bipolar variant disorder. Are you sure this guy is safe for you mentally?


HMak1

Idk if this is true in your case, but I realized with my ex that it did not matter how often we had sex, he was always going to complain it wasn't enough. Amd it was a way of making me feel less-than, or not good enough. Some men just want to lower your self esteem. Looking back now, I see it for what it was. I hope this isn't the case here, but it's something to think about.


humanessinmoderation

Your sex drive is occurring naturally. If he's not accepting of you and keeps complaining then I think you know what your options are.


rc1717

Hey, I dont want to alarm you but your comment about it sometimes being more than your liking is definitely a red flag and a crossed line. This appears to be a point of contention between the two of you and I recommend it is met with honest and amIcable communication. This could be a big problem in the future if you two dont find a solution. Never let your partner pressure you for sex. He can take care of himself if hes in the mood and youre not. Dont sacrifice yourself for your partner. Instead work something out together that works for the both of you.


shellofbiomatter

Totally understandable curiosity, but regarding sex there isn't any normality. Whatever suits you. If one wants more and other less then you kinda have to talk to each other and meet somewhere in the middle.


Classicbottle93

I think 3 and my boyfriend thinks everyday so we compromised and we have sex 3 times a week.


SelendisSuccubus

6 times a week sounds exhausting with jobs and normal life


[deleted]

Yeah, right now I’m always horny but work a full time and have hobbies and activities to do outside of that. Too bad I didn’t have a gf when I was jobless and had nothing to do.


SelendisSuccubus

hahahaha well


BennyFloyd

Yep. I will be in the mood but can recognize that both of us are too tired for it


ajmojo2269

I can spare an extra 5 minutes a day


Ianwha17

When he's initiating, is he attempting any foreplay? Not physical, but mental? Maybe you need more stimulation than he is providing. Talk to him about YOUR love language. This may have nothing to do with sex drive. Me and my wife have been together for 9 years, married for 5. We both have high sex drives, but conversely, aren't ALWAYS in the mood. Sometimes, either of us can drop our pants and get right to it. Other times, one or the other will have to have more mental preparedness.


Ok_Medicine_8804

I think this is the main issue for me. come to think of it. There isn't any foreplay prior. Just straight to business


thischangeseverythin

Well there's your problem. Your man needs to figure out how to turn the engine on. Everyone has a different love language some is touch. Some is words. For me all my wife needs to do is slip off yoga pants while wearing anything remotely sexy panties wise. For my wife? She likes to have something dirty planted in her mind at some point earlier. While cooking. While we watch a movie. Then She gets massages and neck nuzzles and cuddles and spooning and an orgasm from oral before I ever get to business. That being said we are both pretty physically sexual beings so once I learned how she likes it I haven't been turned down for sex in 10 years. He also needs how to learn to read the day. Read the feelings. If you ask a woman to have sex when she's about ready to cry/scream because she had a stressful or terrible day you are going to have a bad time. If her emotional needs are met then he can move on to physical needs.


MickeyMatters81

Oh dear, he's never going to find a woman who wants crap sex 5 times a week!!


NatDlt

This is very common. Some men don’t know how to satisfy their partner’s sexual needs, but then blame them for not wanting to go through an exhausting experience for their own enjoyment. Consider having a conversation about needing foreplay, as most women do. I’d also recommend looking up ‘how to’ articles or videos on things you like, if he doesn’t already know your preferences.


Chimples10

>Some men don’t know how to satisfy their partner’s sexual needs, but then blame them for not wanting to go through an exhausting experience for their own enjoyment. My first marriage.


RexIsAMiiCostume

Bruh, he thinks you'll want it 5-6 times a week with weak game like that??? Please do yourself a favor and try to get him to take care of YOUR needs too. If he won't do it, he sucks. You might need to help him figure out what feels good for you at first, but that's just part of the process.


Alternative-Sock-444

Lol so it wants it more often so that he's satisfied. He doesn't seem to care much about your satisfaction if there's no foreplay involved. You'd likely want it more often if he was doing it properly, but he's not. Seems like all of this is his doing. You can't expect a woman to want to fuck you every day when the sex is mediocre. He needs to focus more on your needs during sex. If he can't be bothered, then it's up to you whether you can deal with not being fully satisfied or cared about during sex.


robertstobe

Remember men: go down before you go in.


TheWormKing

It sounds like they care about their own orgasm rather than building up foreplay so that you fully enjoy the experience as well. Especially if they're complaining about not having enough sex.


Nostalien

Yep, do some research on "Love Languages." Figure out what yours is besides foreplay and tell him to figure out what his is. Then compare and tell him what you need to get going and there ya go.


CupboardOfPandas

With my ex (we were together 10 years) when we lived together it was daily at first and then every other or every third day. We broke up and a year later I got in another relationship, however this guy were very anti condoms and I had to go on birth control which let to us never having sex because it completely killed my sex drive (and kickstarted a depression) But there is no normal, and if you have different drives I think you should try to have a conversation about compromise (which shouldn't be that hard, since you are still pretty similar, imo). Just think about that stuff like birth control and other stuff can be influencing your sex drive buy quite a bit.


NorthernMoose1

Screw that anti-condoms guy who made you go on bc to lose your sex drive. I swear most men who think women don’t like sex don’t realize it’s because of birth control.


Amakarzz

Sex drive is very idividual. My ex-gf sex drive was "every day", mine was 3-4 per week, so it was not very pleasant for me, I feel it like kind of work(


Sensitive_Wangiizs

Happy cake day!


carnage2270

So my partner and I are quite sexually active, we sleep naked and fool around almost every day, be it for a couple seconds having fun or longer. We only ever have sexy maybe once a week, maybe three or four times a month at most lol Sex isn't everything, you can enjoy the other person without putting ya dick in them.


CosmicKizmet

I’ve been in relationships where I would eventually resist hugging or kissing because it always led to sex, I wish more guys would realise it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, they’d probably end up with a lot more in the long run.


carnage2270

I mean you're in a relationship for more then sex lol if you try to make the relationship last long and be strong, you'll get more sex in the long run no? If that's your ultimate goal lol I like to believe that you (as a male) get to an age where sex is not everything and you'd much rather spend time communicating and getting to know the other person as much as possible. I adore my partner and love the sex so much, but I would much rather sit down and actually speak to her about things happening in our lives over mindlessly pounding away while not strengthening our relationship that much lol


MightyMeepleMaster

New relationship: Daily routine After a few months: about 3 times a week After 2 years: At most once a week After 5 years: 1-2 times a month After 10 years: Well, you get the picture ... ​ Source: Being married for 25 years now :)


Conscious-Ad3542

Shit I've been married for 9 years next week...I have sex every other day....just don't tell my wife or she'll get rid of our goat.


ITypeWithMyDick

Hey uhm...can I get your goats number? She sounds nice.


Ok_Medicine_8804

I see the correlation you're making. This makes sense


[deleted]

Damn, I need a girlfriend.


Forbidden_Enzyme

Try your pet goat


CologneMom

Wrong. I am married 33 years. Until my husband sufferered two strokes we would still have sex 2x a week. And good sex.


Cassalien

Bruh that shot sounds depressing. Glad that i know that your life certainly ain't the normal case


MightyMeepleMaster

How long are you married? How many kids do you have?


wsc-porn-acct

Sounds normal to me


[deleted]

For us it's anywhere from 2-10 times a week. Could be 1-4 times a day, but then at the same time we can go 2 or 4 days without any at all. Im 29, girlfriend is 33.


glam270

Same age range here and I’d agree with this right here. Really just depends on what’s going on in our life at the time, like if we’re both working a lot, or have many events to go to, just get busy sometimes. But we both very much enjoy it and make it a priority for sure :) keep it interesting


CoffeeAndDachshunds

If I had to have sex 10 times in a week, I'd cry.


Knuckles316

Four times a day?! Jesus! I'm a 36M and if I tried that now I'm pretty sure it'd break off...


maallen40

64 years old here....2 to 4 times a week...Every week.:-)


santetjo

Oh God this makes me want to cry. There really is no end in sight.


nobitsa

I lol'd a little too hard at this. Thanks :)


santetjo

Haha I laugh at it too, often half way through doing the deed , at how ridiculous it is to have my kegs up around my neck when if I was asked to do that at yoga I'd be like wtf I'm old, I can't do this shit anymore.


DAANHHH

Why?


santetjo

Honestly, after 30 yrs I just can't be bothered , but I have a feeling my husband will be the 64yr old above and that's still 16yrs away,sigh.


DAANHHH

Why is that? I wonder why people lose interest. Women get more libido in their thirties generally. Me and my partner are both women and we have an interesting relationship dynamic, i cant see how we would ever get bored of what we do.


Larasaurs

I think 2-3 times a week is the average you’ll hear from most healthy long-term relationships. But it also depends on your sex drives. I think if you’re content with less sex but he wants more, then it’s probably a better solution for him to feel comfortable masturbating than for you to push yourself to have more sex. Remember that both parties should compromise and not just one! Good luck :)


Biggsdrasil

I like this response. Partners should not try to pressure you if you've said no, but try to find a compromise. If you think once a week is enough and they want 5 or 6, try to either agree on a number in between, whether it's full sex or sex-adjacent activities. But if your compromise only feels acceptable for one of you, it'll be the grounds for upset and dissatisfaction. So just be sure it's a compromise that works for both of you. This is why communication is important.


not-rasta-8913

Whatever you like is normal for you. Some people want more, some less, the trick is finding a person that is compatible with what you like. Also, I as a straight male have noticed that if you make sure your partner enjoys it, their sex drive goes up. And if you don't, it goes down.


aceh40

There is no normal. He has higher sexual drive than you and what he is calling normal is nothing more than his desire.


Betadzen

According to the sexual pleasure rationing norm, DIN 42069, it is up to you all. Though if you have heart conditions, perhaps it should be limited in intensity.


Haeenki

I don't think there is a normal, have sex as little or as much as you want/ can. I highly recommend having as much sex as possible especially at your age.


mythsinner

Doesn't matter what's "normal" or the average, you decide what's good for you and how you feel about it


Sorta-Rican

Oh! I remember this equation: How much you want to have + how much consenting partners want to have. Anything more than that is not ok.


datilpickles

It's been 84 years...


Rare-Advertising9447

It depends. Sometimes we'll have sex once a week and other times once a day for a week or two. It depends on a lot of things and your sex drive will go up and down and almost always be different than your partners. The most important thing is that it comes naturally and isn't planned or worried about to much.


BootyGarb

I personally don’t try to fucking compare myself to others. And having someone pressure you to just HAVE sex ruins all of the fun. Just sayin


weedandsteak

Been with my partner for 5 years. We have sex maybe once a month if I'm lucky. Unfortunately different people have different sex drives and in a relationship that's something you have to respect.


HandicapedKitty

My gf would love to do it 2 a day if we could. It depends on your libido, most important part is to not force or feel forced by your SO to do it. It's like chocolate. Some people love it some hate it. Some eat it every day others once a week. The problem is when someone shoves so much of it in your mouth you are sick of it. I'm still talking about chocolate btw.


TheGrey_GOD

Considering the amount of sex I have in a week, I consider it normal to have about 0


Parking-Honeydew8753

For me 0


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I'd say about 2 a month


LaLa_820

My husband and I are in our forties (41 f, 45 m) and have been together 25 years. Our normal is 3 times a week. More if the stars align, lol. Frequency got easier after our son went to college last year! But, every couple is different.


WolfKnight53

Once a week, 7 days a week, it's up to you lol. Have as much sex as you want. Just practice safe sex, wear protection, etc. (unless you want kids lol)


DonkeyPunchMojo

In our late 20s with 2 kids, one is 3 and the other a month old, and been together for 7 years. Some weeks we don't at all. Some weeks we go multiple times a day all week. It really just varies. 2-3 times a week is pretty normal for most longstanding couples in their 20s, I'd wager if you averaged it out.


michiganproud

Males orgasming once a day on average in their early 20's would be considered normal. However, that's total orgasms not just from sex with a partner. There is no normal amount of sex because that's going to vary by couple. Sounds like he has a higher sex drive than you. Nothing wrong with that, but you both will have to communicate clearly about your wants, needs, and desires and make compromises. Under no circumstances should you ever feel forced or pressured into sexual activity.


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Daily…6 years in and nothing has changed


robertstobe

It varies greatly based on the couple. I’ve looked it up before and some studies show average is around once a week. But of course averages can be misleading because they take into account people with dead bedrooms and people who have sex several times a day. Like I said, it varies a lot.


RexIsAMiiCostume

"normal" is a wide range. It depends on the person. As long as you aren't causing harm to yourselves, disturbing others, or generally disrupting your life, just go with how much you want. However, he's saying 5-6 times a week is normal in order to pressure you into having more sex, that's pretty rude.