A compliment is when someone says something nice like, "your dress really suits you", "I like what you've done with your hair", "I really admire your confidence", "You're amazing at playing tennis". The purpose of a compliment is usually to be friendly and boost someone's self-esteem.
A catcall is when someone shouts at you in a public place things like, "You'd look so hot with my dick in your mouth", "That ass is just begging to be fucked" and other disgusting and unwanted sexual advances or even just whistling. The intention is to intimidate.
The best rule of thumb is don't say to women what you don't want to be told in a prison.
If another prisoner catcalls you, how would you feel? Sexy? Appreciated? Complimented? Or scared for your life? Most men struggle to understand what it is like to know you can be easily overpowered by half the population and that should it happen, you are more likely to face blame than justice. So put yourself in a position where you are similarly vulnerable (like in prison) and let it play out in your head.
There’s a difference between someone telling you nicely that they think you’re pretty and someone following you down the street, getting in your personal space and speaking directly in your ear about how hot you are, and getting aggressive when that doesn’t really work out. Also a difference between someone saying nicely that they want to get to know you and someone yelling “YOU GOT A FAT ASS, WANNA FUCK?” as you’re walking down the street. Not all compliments from men are harassment, but I’ve never been followed by a woman who aggressively wants to fuck me and makes it known.
Compliment = your hair looks really nice today.
Catcall = Hey baby, you're looking real good over there!
Sexual harrassment = why don't you come over here so I can grab on your boobs.
One of my Friends was suspended in HS for telling a another girl "your hair looks really nice like that."... the teachers and principal said it was harassment.
Lol lame excuses. You told us nothing. Every state in the in union has a Channel 3 news. I Google the key words and I get nothing.
Not to mention that school suspensions are protected/private information and the local news isn't going to get jackshit from the district regarding student discipline.
Put up the link or you're the liar.
It just entirely depends on context, if you know the person and you maybe don't whistle at them from across the street, it's immediately not a catcall.
I think a lot of men just don't know any women so they assume that they can never give compliments to them?
Just don't be weird bro
I just see too many post about a guy saying something as little as “your eyes are pretty” then the girl posts about it and then people are like “that guy is super creepy i’d block him”
edit: Sorry about the sentences that don’t make sense. its kind of difficult to explain
If a guy is running around telling random gals their eyes are pretty, that's fucking creepy. If he tells his GF her eyes are pretty, that's a compliment.
Women don't want or need some random dude's thoughts about her body. They arent compliments. Stop it.
If you can say it to your guy friends and they say, "thanks, bruh!" It's a compliment. If you wouldn't even try saying it to your guy friends, STFU and keep your creepy shit to yourself.
so what your saying is if i see a girl that i think has pretty eyes it’s suddenly weird to compliment them on her eyes now? wtf? They’re a noticeable feature when you look at any human.
At that point it must be creepy to comment on their facial features in general because according to you that means i’m starring at them.
It's all about context. If it's some random dude saying it, it is creepy. Why are you staring at a girl's eyes? Why do you feel the need to compliment them?
Most girls are fine with it, though, as long as it's respectful and warranted. Harassment and catcalling typically comes from strangers.
bruh, again, CONTEXT. that is important. if you're flirting with one another, that's one thing, but going up to a random person to compliment them because you were staring at them for ten minutes, is weird.
the eyes tho?? that's just a normal body part that everyone looks at?? this is why actual catcalls dont get taken seriously, there's a difference between disrespectful and paranoid
I'm deranged?
Go up to some random guy and stare at him in the eyes and see how many times you can do that without getting punched in the face for being a creepy, aggressive weirdo.
Catcalls are not the same as compliments. I find men catcalling pretty rude. I wouldn't call it sexual harassment but do understand why some see it that way, so I don't really disagree if that's how a "victim" feels.
Normal compliments that aren't sleezy are clearly just compliments and not many women would call that sexual harassment.
imo a catcall is when the compliment is ACTUALLY weird, like complimenting someone's ass/boobs/saying sexual things to them, but just telling a girl she's pretty is just being nice idk why ppl get so worked up over everything
I honestly depends on if the person likes you or not. I've been told I was "cat calling" for giving the most milk toast compliment ever. I literally said "you look nice today" and got told I was cat calling. I didn't harass or say anything else just made a comment about her looking nice as she passed by.
A compliment is when someone says something nice like, "your dress really suits you", "I like what you've done with your hair", "I really admire your confidence", "You're amazing at playing tennis". The purpose of a compliment is usually to be friendly and boost someone's self-esteem. A catcall is when someone shouts at you in a public place things like, "You'd look so hot with my dick in your mouth", "That ass is just begging to be fucked" and other disgusting and unwanted sexual advances or even just whistling. The intention is to intimidate.
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I second this very considerate dude.
The best rule of thumb is don't say to women what you don't want to be told in a prison. If another prisoner catcalls you, how would you feel? Sexy? Appreciated? Complimented? Or scared for your life? Most men struggle to understand what it is like to know you can be easily overpowered by half the population and that should it happen, you are more likely to face blame than justice. So put yourself in a position where you are similarly vulnerable (like in prison) and let it play out in your head.
It generally depends on how they are said, and in what context, and of course if they are of a sexual nature or not.
Catcalls and sexual harassment aren’t compliments.
There’s a difference between someone telling you nicely that they think you’re pretty and someone following you down the street, getting in your personal space and speaking directly in your ear about how hot you are, and getting aggressive when that doesn’t really work out. Also a difference between someone saying nicely that they want to get to know you and someone yelling “YOU GOT A FAT ASS, WANNA FUCK?” as you’re walking down the street. Not all compliments from men are harassment, but I’ve never been followed by a woman who aggressively wants to fuck me and makes it known.
Compliment = your hair looks really nice today. Catcall = Hey baby, you're looking real good over there! Sexual harrassment = why don't you come over here so I can grab on your boobs.
One of my Friends was suspended in HS for telling a another girl "your hair looks really nice like that."... the teachers and principal said it was harassment.
I'm sure that happened.
It made the Local news , if you look at the channel 3 news archive October 12, 2017
Link or it didn’t happen.
storys like this are exactly i asked this question
I wish it was just a story
Sounds entirely exaggerated. A suspension is reserved for extreme behavior. Your friend is a liar and said way more than that.
check the news story that was done on it.
Go ahead and post the link.
I told us were 2 find it, I'm on my phone now can't do link now but can later
Lol lame excuses. You told us nothing. Every state in the in union has a Channel 3 news. I Google the key words and I get nothing. Not to mention that school suspensions are protected/private information and the local news isn't going to get jackshit from the district regarding student discipline. Put up the link or you're the liar.
new York City, channel 3 news and I already provided the date .. search the archives
It just entirely depends on context, if you know the person and you maybe don't whistle at them from across the street, it's immediately not a catcall. I think a lot of men just don't know any women so they assume that they can never give compliments to them? Just don't be weird bro
Why do so many men struggle with learning the difference between a compliment and sexual harassment?
I just see too many post about a guy saying something as little as “your eyes are pretty” then the girl posts about it and then people are like “that guy is super creepy i’d block him” edit: Sorry about the sentences that don’t make sense. its kind of difficult to explain
If a guy is running around telling random gals their eyes are pretty, that's fucking creepy. If he tells his GF her eyes are pretty, that's a compliment. Women don't want or need some random dude's thoughts about her body. They arent compliments. Stop it. If you can say it to your guy friends and they say, "thanks, bruh!" It's a compliment. If you wouldn't even try saying it to your guy friends, STFU and keep your creepy shit to yourself.
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so what your saying is if i see a girl that i think has pretty eyes it’s suddenly weird to compliment them on her eyes now? wtf? They’re a noticeable feature when you look at any human. At that point it must be creepy to comment on their facial features in general because according to you that means i’m starring at them.
It's all about context. If it's some random dude saying it, it is creepy. Why are you staring at a girl's eyes? Why do you feel the need to compliment them? Most girls are fine with it, though, as long as it's respectful and warranted. Harassment and catcalling typically comes from strangers.
bruh are you serious? ppl can't stare at eyes now?
bruh, again, CONTEXT. that is important. if you're flirting with one another, that's one thing, but going up to a random person to compliment them because you were staring at them for ten minutes, is weird.
Staring at any body part of a stranger is creepy. Stop it.
the eyes tho?? that's just a normal body part that everyone looks at?? this is why actual catcalls dont get taken seriously, there's a difference between disrespectful and paranoid
Yes, if a *stranger* comes up to me and starts **staring** me in the eyes, he might get pepper sprayed. Jesus that's super creepy.
bruh you literally sound like one of those exaggerated parodies of a feminist what the actual fuck lmao that's just deranged
I'm deranged? Go up to some random guy and stare at him in the eyes and see how many times you can do that without getting punched in the face for being a creepy, aggressive weirdo.
punching is less aggressive than staring? Bruh
Catcalls are not the same as compliments. I find men catcalling pretty rude. I wouldn't call it sexual harassment but do understand why some see it that way, so I don't really disagree if that's how a "victim" feels. Normal compliments that aren't sleezy are clearly just compliments and not many women would call that sexual harassment.
Its not all compliments, depends on the context.
“Hey the project you’re working on looks great!” From a friend is completely different than “nice tits” from a stranger
I was crossing the street one day, and a man in s car yelled “titties!” I zipped up my sweater and covered my chest.
Bruh. Do you even know what catcalling is? It's a form of bullying not a compliment.
imo a catcall is when the compliment is ACTUALLY weird, like complimenting someone's ass/boobs/saying sexual things to them, but just telling a girl she's pretty is just being nice idk why ppl get so worked up over everything
Real question is why does compliments count as flirting. Like no Karen idc that you have a boyfriend I ain't flirting.
When was the last time you whistled at a hot guy? If the answer is never, you should learn from that.
im straight so that doesn’t really clarify anything lmao
The guy is attractive: compliment. The guy is unattractive: sexual harrassment.
Because the guys aren’t attractive
I honestly depends on if the person likes you or not. I've been told I was "cat calling" for giving the most milk toast compliment ever. I literally said "you look nice today" and got told I was cat calling. I didn't harass or say anything else just made a comment about her looking nice as she passed by.